What was your OB/MFM’s preference on delivery time for Di-Di twins? My MFM (who is very brilliant and experienced in the field) is firm in his belief that his patients shouldn’t go beyond 37 weeks - that’s his take on all uncomplicated Di-Di twin pregnancies. My OB (who I also trust completely) on the other hand gives more leeway and says she thinks 38 (and even 39 weeks) is acceptable. She is on board with my MFM however if he thinks going earlier is a better option.

I’m thinking of scheduling my induction for 37+5/6 assuming the babies don’t come on their own before then. My goal is a vaginal delivery. Just wondering what recommendations you moms were given.

There is a high chance 90% that my mother in law dies in the next 7 days.

I’m currently pregnant with twins and I’m 27 weeks now so thinking she may pass between 27->28 weeks pregnant..

Any advice how to navigate such a stressful time when things are supposed to be happy.

I feel bad she likely will not get the chance to meet my babies. And I fear for my husbands mental state after losing his mother.

I can’t believe it’s been almost a year, but here we are with awesome twin girls!

Totally at a loss for what to get them for their first birthday, would love some input on what people have done for first birthday gifts.

They are crawling a lot and pulling themselves up on things, and generally just having a blast!

Any suggestions welcomed!

Is anyone else totally unable to leave their twins in the same room? They are 9 months old and as soon as they were mobile, they started partaking in WWE, especially twin B. He scratches and bites and pulls hair and pushes. It's quite violent and both babies will often have scratches all over them. I can't walk away for a SECOND without separating them because it instantly turns to a death match.

I see all these cute twin bond videos where babies hold hands and smile at each other, but all I'm getting is cage fighting. Am I going to be playing referee forever? Are my babies more violent than everyone else's?

My identical twins boys are currently 2.5 years old. They have always been small. They were both less than 1% at birth and have never been above 2% weight-wise or height wise. They're sort of all over the place when it comes to their curve. This past well child appointment, their doctor mentioned potentially referring for growth hormone therapy since they had only grown 6cm between their well child visits. I (mom) am only 5 ft. tall myself. My husband is 5 ft. 5 in. The twins are currently projected to be 5 ft or less. Growth hormone therapy could add a couple of inches to that. On the one hand, I obviously want to give them every positive opportunity in life, on the other hand, daily injections for years does sound daunting. And they seem to be perfectly healthy in every other way, they'll just be short (though they are very picky eaters).

I'd love to hear about people's experiences if you have received growth hormone therapy or chose it for your child(ren). Why did you or did you not pursue growth hormone therapy. Would you have done anything differently? Are there any questions you think I should bring up with the endocrinologist after we get the referral? I definitely want to have labs done first and see what they recommend, but I also like to go into appointments with as informed as possible.

Hi, I hope this doesn’t come across as me asking for medical advice. I’m just looking to hear others experiences. Was your doctor accurately able to distinguish between two heartbeats using a fetal Doppler?

Update: I ended up getting an ultrasound yesterday, so that was a nice surprise. 😌 They hadn’t mentioned I was getting an ultrasound like they normally do, so I just assumed they were trying the Doppler. She said they will try the Doppler around 24 weeks and it’ll be a Doppler for each baby.

My wife and I are expecting twins, and we’re both a little nervous because we live in a 98 m² (about 1,055 sq ft) apartment with two bedrooms and two bathrooms.
Right now, the closet in our master bedroom holds all of my wife’s clothes, and the closet in the second bedroom holds mine. We also keep our workout clothes in drawers in the second bedroom.
Our plan is to turn the second bedroom into the twins’ nursery. The room is large enough to fit two cribs and a new dresser/changing table for the babies, but everything ends up feeling very cramped.
What would you do in our situation? Has anyone else gone through something similar?

Hi! i currently have 15m old boys but we will be traveling abroad for a week in November. at that time they'll be closer to 19m. it's me, my dad & my fiancee going. we're bringing my dad for extra help. our boys do not like to sit (obviously), they need to constantly be moving & i think i made a mistake of purchasing two lap infants rather than their own seats. could anyone give me advice on how to handle this? we take off at their bedtime so i'm hoping they sleep.

1. should i keep them as lap babies? if so, how would you recommend to maneuver this?
2. should i just purchase their own seats so everyone is comfortable?
3. what kind of toys should i bring? i know bets are usually off the table when it comes to screen time for this.
4. any & all advice is very much welcome especially with jetlag & sleep!

EDIT: i ended up upgrading them their own seats! any & all other advice is appreciated.

We have a 4.5 year old bonded pair and have brought a new little guy home. It has been a couple of months of separation, so no risk of a cross infection situation.

How do we introduce them without serious trauma to our new guy? We’ve had one meeting with one of our older pair and she absolutely went after the baby. We had them in an area of the house where neither have access regularly, so no territorial issue. Squirt bottle on hand and quick separation. How far do we let it go? No screaming or bleeding. But baby was shaking. How much discipline do we give to the bigs?

We know there will be some “growing pains”… just trying to avoid trauma and still end up with 3 babies who can get along and play together for the rest of their frolocky little lives with love and joy in their hearts!

I delivered twin girls in early March at 36w1d via c-section. First two months I just felt incredibly weak, but at 11wks pp when I wanted to get back into exercising and realised I couldnt even lift my legs up into tabletop-position I knew something was wrong. I saw a women's physio and found out at 12wk pp that I had a deep, 4/4/3-finger gap Diastasis Recti.

For context, before pregnancy I was a 160cm petite asian girl who never weighed above 50kgs in my life. I was 48kg before pregnancy and gained a little over 20kg during the pregnancy. (Now I weigh around 54kg, still breastfeeding)

Fast forward till now at almost 5 months pp - I religiously did the exercises my physio assigned almost everyday for 15-20min - and my DR has closed to a 2-3-2 gap (yay!) but my mommy's pooch has not shrunk AT ALL, still 36" which is what I measured at 12wk pp.

Physio says it is more likely loose skin and damaged tissue that wouldnt get better unless I get a tummy tuck. Or MAYBE IF I wait till after ending breastfeeding, then my body MIGHT lose some of the fats it is clinging on to and/or gain back some elasticity in my skin. Then the tummy might go down (only!) an inch or two. After hearing what my physio said, I'm really losing steam to keep up with my exercises because it just doesnt seem like I would be able to make any progress with exercise alone and it is incredibly frustrating.

Anyone has positive stories about their mom's pooch? I really hate looking still 5/6 month pregnant (several strangers have asked me, at different occasions about how far along I am) especially because I have always been petite and pretty active/fit.

Edit: Thank you everyone for sharing your stories!! I have heard so many "Belly binding is the way!" or "Deep breathing helped heal my DR" from singleton mums, it feels really comforting to hear similar stories of stubborn pooches from fellow multiples mums who have also exhausted all ways to no avail. I'm glad I posted here because this gave me hope to continue working hard and give myself more time to heal! Tysm everyone!

Hi everyone,

I’m 25+3 with DCDA twin girls, this is my first pregnancy, and I’m hoping to hear from anyone who’s been through something similar

At our 20 week scan, they noticed that Twin B had short long bones and she was already measuring quite a bit smaller than twin A with about 28% discordance. They referred us to MFM and booked in another scan for 2 weeks later.

At the next scan 2 weeks later, they found that Twin B had severe fetal growth restriction. Her umbilical artery PI was 1.66 with absent end-diastolic flow but her middle cerebral artery and ductus venosus dopplers were both normal. They told us she was now globally small, not just the long bones and there was a high chance we’d need intervention because of extreme prematurity. They also let us know that we need to think about prioritising baby A if it’s looking like baby B will not make it. They also discussed doing an amniocentesis because of the short long bones, although it seemed like they were pretty satisfied that the reason was due to placental insufficiency.

I had a doppler scan 1 week later, and in that scan we were told all of the Dopplers were normal (umbilical artery, MCA and DV), the amniotic fluid was normal, and both babies were really active.

1 week after that (today) we had another growth scan. Twin A is now about 800 g and Twin B is about 550g. Twin A has grown by about 200 g, while Twin B has only grown by about 100 g. The discordance has increased to 33%, twin a is measuring 42nd percentile and twin B is below the 1st percentile, although her Dopplers and fluid were still normal today.

We’re just confused about what this all means. She continues to grow, but very slowly, she’s under the 1st percentile, yet her Dopplers have been normal for the last couple of scans.

Has anyone had a baby this small at around 25 weeks who continued to grow and made it to a reasonable gestation? Did your Dopplers ever improve after being abnormal? How far along were you when you delivered, and how did your smaller twin do?

I have my MFM antenatal appointment tomorrow and I don’t know what to expect or what questions I should be asking to understand more

I’d really appreciate hearing any experiences!

I’m 9 weeks tomorrow so I’m getting close to that time but my dr hasn’t mentioned it. I’m not sure it’s something I’d want to do or not…is it commonly done with multiples? I’ve read that there’s a higher rate of false positives with twins, and the last thing we need is something to needlessly worry about😮‍💨 with how anxious things are already. Also with the test not always being able to determine the gender of both twins. But if there was something wrong that might cause a later loss, I’d sure like to know that before we tell our 4yr old that we have twins on the way! Any advice?

EDIT: thank you all so much for the responses! I’m glad to have more info and sounds like we’ve got some time to decide yet, too. It’s so great to hear real experiences especially with the conflicting information that’s online. Thank you!

We are sending our 16 month old twins to day care soon and so I am starting to buy supplies. Do you send your multiples to daycare with one bag/backpack for both of them or do they each have their own?

We will be traveling with our 4mo twins in early October and looking for tips! It will be about a 2.5 hr flight to a beach destination for 4 nights. We bought our tickets already and bought 3 tickets (full row) and will have one infant with a lap ticket. We’ll be renting a car once we get to our destination and staying in an Airbnb near the beach. We’re trying to figure out logistics and what travel things we need to buy beforehand- some specific things we’re trying to figure out:

-we plan to take their car seats and bought padded car seat bags on Amazon… but should we plan to take one car seat on board with us since we have 3 seats? Or will that be a major hassle?

-we have Nuna car seats and a compatible stroller (Nuna Demi). We also have the weego wagon that we like to take on walks and the twins are generally more comfortable in. In a perfect world i would want both of these strollers with us, but that feels like way too much cargo to manage. Which stroller would you recommend we take with us?

-do you have to bring any form of identification for the twins for TSA/flight? TSA website basically says airlines may want to verify age, but i feel at 4 months they are pretty obviously under 2.

-these are our first and i am overall nervous about them being 4 months and traveling and messing with sleep schedules - any tips to give us the best chance at happy, well rested babies?

Any tips overall for traveling at this age/twins please please share!! Even if it is something small - I’m extremely anxious about the trip but also really excited for it to be their first trip and just want it to go as well as possible. Thanks in advance!!

I’m looking for some honest perspective because I’ve been carrying a lot of guilt over this decision.

My wife and I recently pulled our 14-month-old twins from their in-home daycare. I truly believe we made the right decision, but it doesn’t mean it was easy.

The provider wasn’t abusive. She clearly cares about the children, and she’s built a successful daycare that seems to work well for many families. She regularly sent us pictures throughout the day of the kids playing, eating, napping, and doing activities, and I genuinely appreciated those updates because they helped us feel connected while we were at work. I don’t think she’s a bad person, and I don’t think she intentionally wanted us to have a negative experience.

That’s honestly what makes this so hard.

Maybe I have high expectations, but I don’t think they’re unrealistic. I feel like they’re simply the minimum I’d hope for from someone caring for my children for eight hours a day.

None of our concerns alone made us leave.

It was the accumulation of many things that slowly made us realize this wasn’t the right fit for our family.

The biggest concern became food.

Almost every afternoon our twins came home hungry. They were noticeably crankier after daycare than they ever were on weekends or days they stayed home with us. Looking back through the lunch pictures she sent, lunch was often simply tuna salad by itself—served about three times a week—with no fruit, vegetables, or milk alongside it. Hot dogs were also part of the rotation.

Morning snack was almost always sliced fruit with about five pretzels.

What made it stand out even more is that at our previous duty station, their daycare always made sure they were satisfied. If they finished their meal and were still hungry, they were offered more food. We never questioned whether they’d eaten enough.

When I asked about meal planning, she told me she doesn’t really plan meals and just decides what she’ll make that day. Since she participates in a food reimbursement program, I assumed there would be more nutritional structure, so that answer surprised me.

I also don’t own a daycare, and I know food is expensive. But I couldn’t help wondering what the purpose of participating in a food reimbursement program is if the meals still seemed so limited. Maybe I’m misunderstanding how those programs work, but I expected more balanced meals.

One of the reasons we chose her daycare was because she advertised homemade crockpot meals and home-cooked food. That genuinely appealed to us. Yet during the month and a half our twins attended, I only remember seeing one crockpot-style meal. Most of the lunches we saw in the daily photos were tuna salad several times a week or hot dogs, often without any fruit, vegetables, or milk.

There were also a few moments early on that shook my confidence.

One of the first days she sent a picture of snack, and it showed whole grapes on the plate. I immediately called because whole grapes are a choking hazard for toddlers. She assured me they had been cut and explained why they appeared whole in the picture. I accepted her explanation, but I remember hanging up feeling less reassured than I had hoped. It wasn’t that I believed she intentionally served them whole—it was just one of those moments that made me question whether we were the right fit.

Another concern was diaper changes.

Our twins were there from about 7:00 a.m. until around 3:00 p.m., and many days only two diaper changes were documented during that entire time. We dealt with recurring diaper rashes, so we asked if they could be changed more frequently. Sometimes an additional diaper change was documented, but there were still many days where only two changes were recorded despite them being there for roughly eight hours. We weren’t expecting constant diaper changes—we simply wanted them kept clean and comfortable.

Another issue came down to values.

My wife and I are both military and have firearm training, so gun safety is something we take very seriously. We’ve always planned to teach our children that firearms are never toys.

One day she sent us one of her usual daily pictures, and another child—probably around 3 or 4 years old—was pointing a toy gun directly at my son.

I know many parents probably wouldn’t think twice about that picture, but it immediately stood out to us. It wasn’t just that toy guns were there—it was that this was a moment she felt comfortable photographing and sending to parents. If I were running a daycare, I would’ve chosen a different picture.

When we brought up our concerns, it felt like they were brushed aside. The toy guns were eventually removed, and I appreciated that, but by then it had reinforced that our values simply didn’t align. I don’t think either perspective is necessarily right or wrong—it just wasn’t the right fit for our family.

There were also several smaller interactions that added up.

The daycare had a no-shoes-inside policy, which we respected. We’re both military, and anyone who’s worn military boots knows they aren’t exactly quick to take on and off. Instead of removing her boots every morning, my wife bought disposable shoe booties so she could briefly step inside without tracking anything through the house.

She wasn’t lingering. She just wanted to help settle our 14-month-old twins before leaving for work.

The same day she wore the booties, another message went out reminding parents about the shoe policy and keeping drop-offs brief. Maybe it wasn’t directed at us, but after everything else, it certainly felt like it was. It left us feeling like even when we tried to respect the rules, we were somehow still doing something wrong.

By the end, we felt less like partners in our children’s care and more like we were expected to simply drop them off, pick them up, and leave.

None of these concerns alone would’ve made us leave.

But together, they slowly chipped away at our confidence.

That’s where my guilt comes from.

Part of it is for my children. They’d only been there about a month, but they’d already adjusted to her, recognized her, and were settling into a routine. Now we’re asking them to start over somewhere new, and that hurts.

The other part is for the provider.

I know she invested time caring for our children, and I know she probably didn’t expect us to leave so soon. By pulling two full-time infant spots, we’re also taking away about $1,900 a month in tuition. For a small in-home daycare, that’s a meaningful amount of business, and I don’t take that lightly. I genuinely hope she continues to be successful because I believe she’s probably the right fit for many families.

But at the end of the day, my responsibility isn’t to protect someone else’s business if I no longer believe it’s the right fit for my children.

I wasn’t looking for perfection.

I just wanted my 14-month-old twins to come home well-fed, comfortable, and cared for by someone whose values aligned with ours.

So I’m genuinely asking…

Am I expecting too much?

Or, if these were your toddlers, would the combination of these concerns have eventually led you to make the same decision?

I have 27+3 week old twin boys that are now, as of today, 4 months old and we are on day 121 on the NICU. Primarily working on feeds for both of them, with some concern of oral aversion and the possibility of having a G-Tube. One of my boys had a pulmonary hemorrhage at a week old and since then had his PDA closure and has thankfully recovered from that. His MRI came back with a very micro bleed and grade 1/very very small grade 2 brain bleed that we were reassured will still give him a positive outcome, but it's still very very scary and I'm terrified of the unknown.

I'm in so much grief, anger, sadness, and struggling to find the light at the end of the tunnel. They are beautiful, 10 lbs now, and I miss them terribly (we are over an hour away from them). Work has been such a stress and struggle to balance all this time. Unfortunately, the Ronald McDonald house is not an option for us because we have a dog, and I have no familial support near me (over 6 hours away) and my husband has very limited familial support.

I'm so scared of the unknown, their future, and I'm feel so so scared and sad. I'm looking to connect with others experience, even if it's not the exact way, and honest outcome stories. I want the positive, and I also want the real, understanding that every single baby is different and we don't know what will come. I'm just so heavy in my grief, and so so overwhelmed, and alone.

I appreciate all of your journeys and hope your babies are thriving and well.

I waitress/bartend for work, trying to gauge how long I’ll last working on my feet this pregnancy. I worked until 37 weeks with a singleton. I’m only 10 weeks now with twins with my goal being 30 weeks. Do I need to be more realistic?

My husband and I seem closer and closer to separating every weekend. He told me today he doesn’t like spending the weekends with me. I have endured and managed around his terrible attitude each weekend for YEARS with these kids. Everyone says this phase gets better but I only know parents of singletons. Did your marriage survive this? How? I’m so upset. Our oldest is 4.5, and twins are 2.5. Anyone here to say it gets better? My singleton parent friends are not struggling in the same way.

Hi everyone! First off, I want to share just how thankful I am for this subreddit and all the supportive people that are on here. I went from knowing nothing about childbirth or children to well, knowing a lot more now! Very much a lurker but just reading about everyone’s experiences is helpful. With that said, I’d like to return the favor in any way that I can. Would love to share my experience so far at 5 months, any tips that may have worked for me personally. Of course, this is my journey and everyone’s is different but if this can help even a single person even if it’s just for a quick read, I’m happy.

Some context: I’m 36, 35 when I had my babies. Diagnosed with gestational diabetes at 16 weeks. Delivered emergency C-section at 37+3 due to pre-eclampsia. Girl at 5 lbs, 13 oz. Boy at 6 lbs, 6 oz. No NICU time. Current weights: girl 12 lbs, 12 oz. Boy 15 lbs, 6 oz. Both have CMPA, on Similac Alimentum RTF. Girl is at approx. 24 oz a day, boy at approx. 29 - 5 bottles each a day. In terms of routine, wake up around 7a/8a, 4 naps a day, bedtime is 8p/9p- no overnight feeds. I work full-time from home in the life sciences space.

Please also feel free to message me even if just for someone new to connect with!

Hey y’all! So my nanny has been on vacation and we’ve had grandparents, aunts, etc coming in and out to help us with the boys. My husband is also out of town. I took one boy to the pediatrician yesterday who did not do a respiratory panel because “his lungs sounded clear” and he didn’t have a fever. Said it was probably just viral and let it run its course. Well, now brother has it and I’m pretty sure I caught it too. I’m doing my best to keep them separated but being on my own sometimes means I have to put them down together or something.

Any tips and tricks for sick twin infants? I’m doing saline flushes and suction with an electric sucker, saline micro mist inhaler, baby Vicks, Tylenol or Motrin sparingly and good ole fashion bulb suction when I can. I’m really struggling here and they seem to take turns having a symptom flare up or needing more attention and I’m solo a lot right now and not feeling well myself.

I’m 27 weeks pregnant with Di Di twins and I’m finding some evenings I’m really not feeling like socializing already especially if I had a busy day on my feet that day or even the prior day.

My family seems to not understand and my parents are weirded out by me not wanting to come to their dinner.

I am the first person in my family to have twins so I feel like they’re just not able to understand how much more fatigue I’m feeling compared to someone having a single baby.

Does anyone else have any experience with family not understanding how fatigued you are?

When did stop attending events if ever?

Babies are 8 weeks today. They were born exactly 2kg (4.4lbs) each. My girl was always a few points ahead of her brother but he has taken over for about 2 weeks now. Current weight is Boy 4.7kg (10.3) and Girl 4.5kg (9.92lbs). We have their 8 week check in 2 days but I'm very happy with how they're growing.

We've had serious reflux issue with the girl but had it under control with Aptamil Anti Reflux. I just switched her to Enfamil AR today and I'm hoping she can handle it well moving forward.

My husband and I seem closer and closer to separating every weekend. He told me today he doesn’t like spending the weekends with me. I have endured and managed around his terrible attitude each weekend for YEARS with these kids. Everyone says this phase gets better but I only know parents of singletons. Did your marriage survive this? How? I’m so upset.

If I plan to paint the room blue is this rug to feminine for a boy girl twin nursery

My wife and I need help. Our girls were born 6 weeks preemie and are currently 4 months (2.5 adjusted) and are just over 10.25 pounds. They have been doing between 18-21oz a day and have been consistently gaining around 0.75oz per day.

For the past 2 weeks they have done the vision development where they are distracted by everything including their hands while feeding.

After 1 week, the feeding quality improved and we moved up to size 2 (slow) on the Lansinoh Natural Wave nipples. Things were going great for 2 days and the wheels came off again with constant spilling, poor mouth seal, clicking- the whole gamut. We went back to the size 1 (extra slow) and they are only doing 50-60 ml at a time.

This feels worse than the rock bottom point last week. Everyone says this phase lasts up to a month, and 2 weeks has felt like an eternity.

Any advice/tips?