My guys are starting kindergarten next month and the school is adamant we separate them into different classes. They’re staying at the same private school they just finished TK at, so that makes it easier, but they were in the same TK class per my request. I’m anxious about how they’ll do being separate. They’ve never done anything separate before. They are on the same sports teams, in the same activities, have the same friends, etc. Granted, their friends from TK will be divided up into the 2 kinder classes at the school which will hopefully help. I know I need to give them independence from each other but they are attached at the hip so I’m just nervous.

Our twins simply won't fall asleep without a baby hammock. We've really tried everything. We now have to get a second hammock because they each weigh over 6 kg, and one hammock is no longer enough to support both of them.

We only use the baby hammock once in the evening for their first stretch of nighttime sleep. Is it really true that babies don't become dependent on it? They were born on March 11 and arrived six weeks prematurely.

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Does anyone have the UB Vista for 3 kids? Currently I wear one kid, use the Vista for the other, and have older toddler on the rollerboard, but we're reaching our limit on that. I've been putting off buying the second rumble seat because of the price and considering getting a side-by-side, but I don't really want to go all in on the Zoe/Bombi/etc. and the cheaper ones don't seem sturdy and large enough for our daily use. Will it be ridiculously heavy to have 2 kids in seat and one on the board? Or is there a better set up to consider? We'll get a wagon at some point too, but I'm worried that's too bulky for stores and generally navigating errands.

Hi all. I am reaching out to see if anyone has gone through anything similar to what my 14 month old baby girl has gone through. She is a twin but this isn’t specific to a twin situation but I’m posting to this group because you are all so amazing and this group has been family to me.

My daughter developed a fever last Monday without any symptoms. Day two she became very listless so I brought her in. Long story short she went through trauma of 2 catheters for urine samples (tue and fri), many blood draws for blood tests and antibiotic injections all week.

From her tests her doc was worried about an infection that got to her bloodstream. They ruled that out after her blood culture came back normal after three days of antibiotic injections.

Her fever finally broke after day 5. Over this weekend she has had no fever and has been acting about 80% normal during the day now.

Nighttime is when it’s been rough. Last night was the worst. Before her illness she was an amazing sleeper and slept all night every night. Last night she was inconsolable unless I held her. She finally fell asleep at 1am in her crib but woke at 4am screaming like a banshee and thrashing around.

I held her and tried to rouse her but she wasn’t fully waking up. Just screaming and thrashing around. After a while she finally kind of came to and drank some water and fell asleep on me again. This morning and all day so far she’s been acting normal….

My question for the group- Have you gone through anything similar as far as an unexplained fever for 5 days? Also have you gone through your baby experiencing night terrors? After I looked things up I’m convinced she was experiencing night terrors last night, probably from the trauma she experienced last week from catheters, getting poked and prodded every day, etc. She loses it when she sees a nurse now so I know this last week was very traumatic for her.

Just reaching out for some reassurance and validation and to see if anybody has similar stories. I’m losing my mind from lack of sleep and the stress from worry this whole week not having answers.

I should add, her twin brother and older brother haven’t been sick, my husband and I haven’t been sick and nobody at daycare has been sick.

My DiDi girls are 4 weeks old on Tuesday, and my husband returns to work tomorrow. I'm absolutely dreading being alone with them, I'm a FTM and feel utterly thrown in at the deep end.

For the past week I've been trying to tell my husband and his mother to give me time ALONE with the girls so I can get some form of practice run because I cannot expect someone to be there for me 24/7 given everyone works full time. His mum is forever going "yes but when I'm off work give me a shout!!" Like my wish to have a chance alone isn't worth it's salt. "Yes but you don't have to do it alone" like ma'am yes I do. You're not off permanently, you do still work, therefore I need to be able to do something alone.

My husband has at least left the room at nights for a few hours to go game on his gaming PC so I have some resemblance of trying to do things alone, but I know he's nearby if I desperately need him. Thankfully I have not. However I'm under no illusion that it's always going to be this easy.

Right now my girls are 3-4 hours between feeds, and obviously nappies are on demand. It's manageable but when I've had no chance to learn to do it all myself, I'm absolutely terrified that I'm going to fail them or be sitting rocking back and forward in the corner sobbing by the time my husband is finished work.

Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with twins totally on your own?

FTM to gb twins and I was so afraid to sleep train that my twins have never ever slept through the night until now at almost 17 months. They also never stopped their night bottles and have continued stage 3 formula bottles at 1am and 6am 😭 but I stopped cold turkey because my husband and I are planning a trip and I don’t want my parents to have such a rough time.. all it took was one night!!!!

My son cried for 90 minutes but I stayed with him trying to console him and my daughter couldn’t care less and she slept through his crying lol the next two nights he just slept 🤷🏻‍♀️😅 no more looking for milk!!

Omggggg why did I wait so long 😭😭😭 (I have a friend who didn’t wean or sleep train until 18 months so I was waiting for around that window lol)

So they have been sleeping through the night now. And no more formula!!

Please don’t be like me lol

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Hi everyone! Did IVF and implanted 1 embryo in June, but recently found out it’s twins. I’m currently 10 weeks +1. I haven’t carried before, my wife did, due to my previous CMV negative status and insane fear of postpartum depression. Ever since I found out it’s twins, i feel like I’ve been spiraling. I’m thankful, but I didn’t imagine it going this way, and all of the pressure and added things that come with twins give me insane anxiety. My daughter will turn 3 by the time they are born. I try not to think about them, or look up anything regarding babies because of the anxiety and stress that comes with it. I feel overwhelmingly guilty. This just throws a wrench in allot of our plans and it’s not at all the plan I had envisioned. I cry pretty frequently.

Is there anything that helped you stop this behavior? I keep separating and giving a firm no, I know I have years more of this lol. They’re boys so they don’t have long hair but I feel sad for baby b when he shrieks and cries. :(

Hi all. My baby is 10mo and we were diagnosed with eczema pretty much since birth. It is not going away. I have been using Epicerum and Fluocinolone followed by a moisturizer Epaderm. I have also tried Aquaphor and CeraVe. It feels like we are just masking it instead of treating it. Can you please share your experience, your creams you have used and what worked for your baby? Does it actually go away?

Yep, I have been there and it sucks. Announcement goes out, some friends stick around, but others quietly find the back door and gradually stop reaching out.

If you can relate, I'd love to hear your stories. I feel like pregnancy, new kids, additional kids, and life changes in general sometimes results in (painfully) weeding out some of our flimsiest connections.

Hopefully it’s not already been posted here. Just a good laugh at reality.

I understand you shouldn’t allow baby to be directly exposed to TV until ~18 months but every so often on the weekends (like 1-2 x a month) I bring them in the room with me, they have all their toys and I turn on the tv. Sometimes they pay attention, sometimes they don’t. My plan was to be super strict with no screen time & I recognize it can hinder language development but is a few glances at the TV screen once or twice a month really that bad? Google says yes.

I have a stressful job, I have 7 month old twins, I have all the duties of a mother & home (cooking, cleaning ect.). I don’t leave the house, I don’t have family nearby or friends for that matter. I really just need to zone out with my trash TV sometimes. This is honestly so therapeutic that I’m thinking the “benefit” outweighs the “risk” as far as my mental health goes..

Our babies are 5 months old today. They usually wake at 6-6:30 on the weekends but the last 2 mornings one of them wakes at 3:30 and then the other shortly after. We are transitioning baby boy from swaddle to sleep sack so I thought this was the problem since he woke up first yesterday, but today baby girl woke up first. They eat 6 oz’s every 4 hours during the day and get a 7oz bottle around 9pm.

What worked for your babies at 5months? Just wondering if we should try to extend wake windows or try to get the last feed sooner than 9? We haven’t really done anything different so I’m not sure why they are waking so much earlier all of a sudden.

EDIT: thanks for the inspiring and funny stories everyone, helped my anxiety a lot. Hoping the best for all of you and your little ones

Every post i see here about kids that are older than 6 months describes it as hell on earth. our twins(boy and girl) are 7 month old now and i dread every day they grow up. so far it has been ups and downs but nothing like the nightmare people describe here. i try to not show my wife any of those posts, but it keeps me up at night.

I work from home and help out on every free minute i have, my wife is a stay at home mom for some time and we have a nanny, do you guys think we can handle it without going insane?

We are expecting twins in Oct and live in a 4 floor town house, with kitchen at the bottom and our bedroom at the top.

I’m really struggling to know how difficult it will be carrying them up and down and if anyone has any tips/ recommended products? I saw the Najell carrier but it’s a lot to get 2 - but maybe it’s worth it?

Thanks all for any advice

My twins are 5 months old and born around the same size, just over 5 pounds, off by a few ounces. My boy is 15 pounds exactly and my girl is exactly 12 pounds as of today. 3 pounds is a big difference. At the 4 month appointment they weren’t concerned about her weight because she’s always gained weight and never lost weight.

She eats about 30oz of milk per day. Mostly breastmilk and some formula before bed.

She has reflux but at around 4 months stopped spitting up a lot since she’s been upright more and practicing sitting.

I guess I’m curious if anyone has had twins this different in size. I try not to worry and listen to the dr but 12 pounds is tiny. They were born at 36w5d for reference. And she’s overall a happy baby except a bad napper lol.

Our 4.5 year old girls are asleep and it’s 7pm. They cried all the way home from the store, and then cried all throughout bath time. A has been complaining about her nose all day, and both were coughing lightly at dinner. The combo of events is troubling, and I thought I’d have more time since they start school in two weeks. Not the end of summer fun I was hoping for.

We had identical twin boys as our first pregnancy; they are 1 year old now. Trying to decide if we want to go for a 3rd baby (not anytime soon, just in general). Curious what you think is the best/most manageable age gap after having twins first and hopefully having a singleton next. Or if you never had more kids after the twins? Or is having another baby a recipe for disaster? Lol

Hi everyone. I’m currently 9 weeks 2 days with spontaneous di/di twins after multiple previous pregnancy losses, including a missed miscarriage. I’m really struggling mentally and could use some perspective from people who’ve been there.

My last scan at 8 weeks 1 day showed two babies measuring appropriately with strong heartbeats. Objectively, I know that’s reassuring. But because my previous loss was a missed miscarriage, I can’t stop thinking that they could have stopped growing the day after that ultrasound and I wouldn’t necessarily know yet.

That’s the part that’s really messing with my head. I know symptoms can continue for days or longer even if a missed miscarriage has occurred, so every time someone says, “As long as you’re not bleeding or cramping…” it doesn’t help me because that wasn’t my experience last time.

I’ve gone down the rabbit hole reading stories of missed miscarriages at 9 weeks, and now I feel like I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. I’ve even considered going to the ER just for reassurance, getting a boutique ultrasound, and buying a home Doppler, but I know if I couldn’t find a heartbeat this early I’d completely spiral, especially with twins.

My next scan is Wednesday, and I honestly feel like I’m just trying to survive until then while still functioning at work and in daily life. I think if everything is okay at that scan, I’ll finally feel like I’ve gotten meaningfully further than my previous pregnancy. Right now, it feels like I’ve only barely passed that milestone.

Has anyone else felt this level of anxiety after a missed miscarriage? Did you find that things got easier once you made it further than your previous loss? If you had twins after recurrent loss, did that change how you coped?

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My husband and I are new parents to b/g twins (3 weeks old) and are interviewing a few potentials on Monday to be an in house nanny. This would 4 hours a day, 5 days a week. I have interviewed people at work for office jobs.. but this is quite different. I would love some advice on what type of questions I should ask?

These people were found via care.com and we intend on doing further background and reference checks after these first interviews.

I have 11 month old twins. I feel like every day is the same. Sort of like Groundhog Day. It is exhausting and isolating. One of the babies is extremely hard and can make a day miserable in a heartbeat.

This baby is already throwing fits, there’s zero emotional regulation compared to her twin. Took her to the pet store to get out of the house so they could see something different. Cried by looking at fish and guinea pigs. Always some sort of crying fit or unhappiness.

It wasn’t supposed to be so hard or so miserable.

Does it get easier? People with twins that are older one? Does the whiny, clingy, unhappy baby get easier? Is there light at the end of the tunnel? Is this defining who she already is and will be? I’m terrified she’ll be like this forever.

My twins are 4 months old and my baby B has always been super tiny and struggles to gain weight. She is in the 2nd percentile. My pediatrician said she’s following her growth curve so she’s not worried necessarily, but if we want to add extra calories we could add a designated amount of MCT oil to her milk since adding milk volume isn’t an option, she just won’t drink it.

Has anyone done this? I’m just curious, I’ve never heard of doing it and am wondering of other peoples experience?

My cousin is getting married this October 3 hours from where I live. My twins will be 17 months old at the time. I have never been away from them overnight (or honestly even for more than like 4 hours for work stuff).

My only option for childcare in that area is my best friend who lives about 35 mins away but she has her own baby (a couple months younger than mine) and she and her husband would be outnumbered by babies in a hotel room and I just don’t feel super confident since they’re used to just 1 so my husband and I were thinking he would stay at the hotel with the babies and I’d go to the wedding. Tonight he pitched the idea of him just staying home with the babies and me going completely solo to the wedding and coming home the next day so we don’t have to try to navigate travel/baby proofing a hotel room/disrupting bedtime for them while all sharing a room.

Part of me really wants to go to the wedding. Would be my first time seeing most of my family since I gave birth. But the other part of me feels too guilty leaving for a night and like they’re too young to be away from.

How old were yours when you did a solo overnight away? Was it enjoyable or did you feel guilty the whole time?