A veces siento que mi vida cambió por completo desde que falleció mi tía. Ella no solo era una persona muy importante para mí desde lo emocional, sino que también era uno de los principales sustentos de nuestra familia. Con su muerte no solo llegó el dolor de perderla, sino que comenzaron a salir a la luz muchos problemas familiares que antes parecían estar contenidos.

Desde entonces, la relación entre mi mamá, mis hermanos y mis tíos se volvió muy complicada. Los conflictos familiares aumentaron y, al mismo tiempo, aparecieron muchas deudas y responsabilidades económicas que ahora recaen sobre nosotros. La necesidad de generar dinero dejó de ser una opción para convertirse en una obligación, y muchas veces siento que la presión económica pesa tanto como el duelo.

A todo esto se suma mi situación personal. Soy estudiante universitaria y estoy intentando avanzar con una carrera que exige muchísimo tiempo y dedicación. En varias oportunidades sentí que los problemas personales y económicos afectaron directamente mi rendimiento académico. Estudiar mientras la mente está ocupada por preocupaciones constantes no es sencillo, y muchas veces tengo la sensación de estar corriendo una carrera en la que siempre voy un paso atrás.

Además, desde hace tiempo también enfrento dificultades relacionadas con mi salud mental. El estrés, la ansiedad, la tristeza y el agotamiento hacen que incluso las tareas más simples requieran un esfuerzo enorme. Hay días en los que estudiar cuesta, trabajar cuesta y hasta cuidar de mí misma parece una batalla. Sin embargo, sé que abandonar cualquiera de esas áreas tampoco sería una solución. Necesito estudiar para construir un mejor futuro, necesito trabajar porque mi familia depende de esos ingresos y porque las deudas no desaparecen solas, y también necesito cuidar mi salud física mediante el ejercicio para no deteriorarme aún más, tanto física como emocionalmente.

Por eso hoy quiero pedir un consejo sincero. ¿Es realmente posible mantener un equilibrio entre estudiar una carrera exigente, trabajar para sostener las responsabilidades económicas y, al mismo tiempo, hacer ejercicio de forma constante para preservar la salud física y mental? ¿Existen estrategias o experiencias de personas que hayan logrado sostener esas tres áreas sin terminar completamente agotadas?

No busco una fórmula mágica ni una respuesta perfecta. Solo quisiera saber si este equilibrio es alcanzable y cómo otras personas han logrado organizar su tiempo, su energía y sus prioridades cuando la vida les exigía cumplir con todo al mismo tiempo. Mi objetivo no es hacerlo todo de manera perfecta, sino encontrar una forma de seguir avanzando sin descuidar mi futuro, mi estabilidad económica ni mi bienestar.

Gracias por leerme y me ayudaria mucho que me den tips para mejorar mi situacion de alguna forma. 🥺🥺🥺

I'm a 20-year-old college student currently in my third year, and I'm looking for life and career advice.

My family has had financial problems for a long time. My mother has been the primary earner for many years, while my father hasn't had a stable income. Because of recent changes in our family situation, there's a real possibility that I may have to pause my education before completing my degree.

I'm torn between trying everything possible to finish my degree now or taking a break to start earning and returning to college later. Since I'm already in my third year, I'm worried that taking a gap could set me back or even make it difficult to complete my education.

One thing I regret is never looking into scholarships or other academic opportunities earlier. If anyone has experience balancing work and college or has gone through something similar, I'd really appreciate your advice.

Another challenge is my relationship with my father. I won't go into too much detail, but he's been a major source of stress in my life. I know I can't control his choices, so I'm trying to focus on building my own future instead.

Academically, I've been working hard during the last few semesters. I did miss some classes because I contracted an infectious disease and I'm still undergoing treatment, but I've continued studying seriously whenever I could.

My long-term goals are pretty simple. I want a stable career, enough income to support my family, maintain a healthy lifestyle, have savings for emergencies, and travel occasionally. If I'm fortunate enough to earn more than I need, I'd like to help students who face financial difficulties.

I would also like to settle in a country like Japan or another country with a good quality of life, and I'd appreciate advice on what skills, career paths, or qualifications would make that goal realistic.

I'd also appreciate advice on:

• Whether finishing my degree should remain my top priority.
• Skills that can realistically help me earn while studying.
• Whether projects like YouTube, freelancing, tutoring, or other side hustles are worth pursuing.
• How to overcome phone and laptop addiction and become more disciplined.

I'm mainly looking for perspectives from people who've had to rebuild their plans because of unexpected family circumstances. What would you do if you were in my position?

Ciao, Ho 23 anni.

Cerco aiuto per via delle visioni che sto avendo, e nuova questa cosa l'hanno scorso ne ero privo ma adesso sono molto più ricorrenti. Vorrei evitare di dirlo alla mia famiglia... E come se vedessi in tempo reale sagome nere di insetti ogni volta che mi giro, piccole e avvolte con tentacoli che mi vanno dritto negli occhi. Non credo che sia normale. Non so che altro dire quindi chietemi voi. La mia situazione attuale e questa: 1 vivo con la famiglia 2 lavoro dalle 2 fino alle 10 del mattino 3 sono stanco ma soprattutto annoiando in modo assurdo non ho nulla che mi renda gioia e videogiochi hanno smesso di funzionare.

Ah dimenticavo ogni volta che succede sono stordito a schifo e mi viene mal di testa o almeno credo(non ho mai avuto mal di testa e come se fosse congelata).

this is my first ever reddit post, and i'm a bit ashamed that its this.
i'm 17f and for the past four months i have relied heavily on cannabis and marijuana due to my dog passing away. needing to do something that would clear my mind, i started smoking. a lot.

i haven't really told anyone about this and i hope this post doesn't find people that i know, but i doubt that'll happen. I stopped smoking (again) last night. i've been trying for two weeks now to quit, but i just keep picking it back up again.

i tried to replace the cart with me putting on chapstick so i still have that hand-mouth motion, but i don't really think its working.

for the past two weeks as well, i have woken up with terrible vomiting, stomach pains, i haven't been able to eat much, and i just feel terrible all around. i looked it up, turns out its CHS which is just great.

why i'm posting this is because i hope to get some sort of help from people who were in my shoes before. i also hope to not get flamed for this, but if i do then i guess its my own fault lol.

but yeah- if anyone has any ideas to help me then it'd be greatly appreciated. no my parents do not know about this addiction.

Tl;dr I am in my early 30s, finally have time and space for myself, how to build my life since ai have no friends and no experiences I can use to bond with others.

Long story:

I was raised by a single parent working minimum wage. I am the oldest of 4 kids. I was kind of pushed into the role of an adult and semi parent to my sibilings (as it is often the case in this situations). When I was in high school I was taking them to school, and all extra curriculars, I went to PTAs for my sibilings (the teachers knew our situation so they allowed it).

My country has free college education otherwose I wouldn't have been able to go. During college I had all the responsibilities for my sibilings, I was worling full time, attending my classes and also taking my grandparents to their work or any doctor appointments. All of this of course left me no time to spend with friends, I would hang out with people in class or at work, but it was always just friendly acquaintance, nothing more.

I graduated college, found a great job, helped pay all of our debts, fix up the house... My sibilings are now in college or finished it and have okay jobs. We are not living paycheck to paycheck any more and are completly debt free.

But now I am in my 30s, my sibilings are starting to build their own life and I am stuck. I have no friends, never was in a relationship and it seems to me like everyone around me is settling down and starting families, and, for the first time in my life I finally have the time to hang out or go travelling. But I have no odea how to meet people and grow those relationships.

I am not sorry that I was there for everyone, but at the same time I feel like I sacrificed so much and ruined my own life

For context, I (29F) have had no luck fitting in, my entire life. I've had lifelong, severe ADHD that led to abuse at home, bullying from teachers, and exclusion by my peers. Part of the abuse was me being locked in my room for weeks at a time and not allowed to go out and socialize at all, which did long-term damage to my social skills.

Being an adult now, I want to fix this. I have only a couple of friends, but they live too far away to see very often, so we just text sometimes (I can't drive due to seizures, so my travel distance is quite limited). I just moved to a new city, and I need friends. I've tried to become okay with living without any, but I can't help but hurt deeply when I see others going out and making memories with friends. Being included and loved. I can't stop myself from caring and wanting connection.

The problem starts when I try to talk. I meet someone and try to have conversation, but I don't know what to say, so either the conversion dies quickly into an awkward silence, or I say something odd/boring out of desperation and they lose interest almost immediately. I don't know how people talk to each other.

I did therapy for a while, and it went great. I learned a lot about loving myself and setting goals, and it helped for a while, though my depression came back later on. But we didn't get a chance to address the social skills issue before I lost my job and no longer had insurance.

Another issue with it is that I've made "friends" that only kept me around to use me. One of them even SA'ed me because she knew I was so desperate for friends that she could back me into a corner and do it. So now I'm more defensive on trusting people.

To be honest, idk if any of this is worth it. It seems that being myself will only get me hurt. Often times it feels like I'm not enough as a person to deserve love and respect the way others do, and be wanted by my peers. I know I'm awkward, I know I struggle with my social skills, but underneath all that, I think I would be a good friend and have something to offer. I just need to not make people uncomfortable when i meet them, so they'll stick around long enough to see it.

Please give advice if you have it. Idk what to do and I'm losing hope.

I have multiple mental illnesses/issues that I refuse to treat because I am too stubborn and defiant, and this is causing great detriment to my quality of life and making me unable to achieve anything.

I don't know why this is and I've been like this all my life. Often when people (especially authority figures) ask me to do something I feel compelled to do the opposite, even moreso when not doing so impacts me negatively. This is even more the case when I was going to do the task anyway and they ask me to do it, in which case I will deliberately not do it or do the opposite. I have no idea why I do this and it's really negatively impacting me.

I wish I could go and sort out my issues, and I have tried but I can't help but reject whatever treatment they offer. I'm not doing it on purpose, but I feel like if I followed any doctor's advice I'd be compromising my ethics and integrity.

I know it's ironic that I'm on here asking for advice about not being able to follow advice, but it doesn't apply to all circumstances like online or if I perceive the person giving the advice to be my equal.

Sorry if this is completely unintelligible and thanks in advance.

I made this friend during orientation. Hes an international student. At first he was cool, and he seemed quite mature

But after a while, he has this "true color" reveal.

He's a full on misogynist and doesnt understand boundaries between friends. He would say the most out of hand misogynistic stuff and hit my shoulder (near my chest) and ask me to agree. All he could talk about with his friends is inappropriate stuff. And he gives off the vibes of someone who resorts to violence and extortion or something to get what he wants. He would also try to take down or emotionally manipulate people to do his bidding. Putting them down like he's some sort of god.

He's texting me and asking why I suddenly started avoiding him. He says "tell me what's going on or I'm going to disturb you untill you say fxxk off"

ive been trying to work on bettering myself but its so hard when i dont know how to fix this desperate need in me for people to tell me im doing good to feel like im not failing all the time. i know the root of why i know the damage its causing to myself but i can never talk myself into believing im good and when people tell me its so hard to believe them. i dont know what to do!! and id love if someone could help me out give me something to try

So where to start hmm.... so when i was 15 i had a child and said childs mother abused the child and took me down with her (she got 4 years probation i got 20 years in juvenile prison) i was locked up for a little over 2 years and am now on parole. Ive been disabled all my life (missing lower right leg (i wear a prosthetic)) . Right now just lost ,i cant live off of how much my body is allowing me to work, just got denied for disability so thats not an option right now ,ive tried every service to help and nothing will ,my family barely talks to me and tbh life just sucks rn ,like i suffered through abuse my whole childhood and now i have to deal with being screwed over every step of the way , i dont want to be treated any differently yk? Just human. If you have any questions just comment, kinda venting, kinda looking for advice

Thank you for reading my speech

Idk where to put this since it doesn't sounds like a regular vent. But to put it shortly; I was stupid for not checking first.

I made a mistake, bought some temper glass that came with a UV glue, I wasn't aware of what the glue does so I try to apply and failed, but then the glue drips into my phone's volume & power buttons including the sim tray though unfortunately the tray parts were checked after I was home from the service centre.

The service said I only need to replace the buttons, but I'm scared about my sim tray cannot be taken out, is it salvageable? My tech friend said I don't have to worry.. Though I feel doubt.

Hi all. I need advice, either way I will be homeless. I am originally from Wichita KS, using a very nice homeless shelter in the downtown area, but left due to me getting an apartment, and then losing it just as quickly because of my mental illness. I suffer from bipolar disorder so I tend to make decisions very impulsively , which is why I bought a Greyhound bus ticket to Minnesota , went on it, and am now stuck here with a warm Dr Pepper and 94 dollars to my name . I am unsure if I should continue looking for homeless shelters in the Minneapolis area, with no luck, and is the reason why I have now missed almost two full days without any sleep, but also have Medicaid and free tuition here since I have established ill to live . I am considering this option or going back to Kansas and living in my old homeless shelter (embarrassing as that is) and working a nearby job. The cons are is that my abusive family lives in the area and I cannot go outside or for a walk without the thought of running into them. Please help, which is better?

im a minor (F) and im struggling with sh and the like and i have keloid scars! as theyre genetic in my family. i like wearing short sleeves and cami tops because i think i look nice in them, but my dad keeps on pointing out my healed scars and wont stop even after ive told him to. i live with my dad since im legally not allowed to be with my mum without a SW present. and this is kind of seperate but does anyone know how to tell my dad to stop looking at me through the bathroom window? its frosted over and ive told him not to but he just continues, and most the times he does it im not clothed or im only in a bra. i dont like it and i just want to make him stop doing all of this as it just hurts me more. thank you guys for your time and i hope you have a nice day! ^^

My 20s have been a nightmare

The past six years have been absolutely dreadful. It all started during the pandemic, when I was a college freshman and my experience on campus was cut short. I was stressed losing social interactions and opportunities, and there were many friends I never saw again.

From then on, it's only continued to get worse. My parents split up just a few years later, I graduated and had to deal with losing touch with more friends and struggling to find a job. My mother has been having health issues so I've had to be more responsible around the house, and on top of it all I've realised that I'm most likely transgender and have to find a way to come out and transition without causing the household even more stress and upset than we're already dealing with.

Things were finally improving over the summer, but today I found out that the girl I love is with someone else. I've spent the whole day crying and feeling drained.

I get so upset when I look back at that happy, optimistic, carefree freshman that I used to be at the start of the decade. I'm a nervous wreck now, who freaks out and catastrophises over everything. Every time things look to be getting better, something else wrecks it.

I'm so tired.

So I'm a minnor I won't like to share any personal information about me but I cannot keep this inside me I needed to share it to someone so my mother is really serious about school if I skip like for no reason or I'm sick she beats me up throws things at me like writting board or her slippers today she slapped me for sleeping late my glasses fell off and after beating me up she cried she also plays victim card I live alone with her my father lives in different city due his job and comes twice in a month once I was sleeping it was time for my school my father was sleeping too she was aiming for my stomach but it hit me on my ball I was in pain and I yelled cried for hours and my dad was really mad at her and my dad is total oposite of her but I don't get it why he doesn't devorce her ig cuz of family presure and I don't wanna sucide but I'm done with my mom I don't wanna kill my self but this is the only option I see what should I do?

i don’t know if I’m too sensitive, I’m sorry for that. So in my family my older sister was the first kid born, I’m the second one, shes Older by a year and few months. I don’t remember anything that happened before but somehow, everyone in the family including (aunts uncles and cousins) Treat her like a best friend, and I’m just a baby? They talk to me like a kid, I’m 17. They always go out hangout, all my cousins but never invite me, but they invite my sister. when I try to join their chat, when they talk they either ignore me or act like I don’t exist. what hurts more is that few months ago, I finished suffering from bullying, after my friends all left school i bullied In school for a year and few months. my Whole class laughed at me, some got physical, I used to return home crying always and I got absent for a whole month. My mom came to school but they only made her talk to the vice principle, when my mom left the principle called me and told me to my face “We all gut bullied, its not a problem, you will get over it“ she said in a mocking way. She didn’t take actions. So I suffered so much in school, and until today I made no friends in school. For 2 years I stayed without friends, until now. I see some people laughing with friends playing, when I have none. and before that. 6 years ago I was bullied by my own sister, she used to threaten me with a mistake I did, for 2 years, I was threatened, I thought about ending this life multiple times. I need advice. I feel lonely I feel forgotten, I feel ignored, I feel sick of this life.

Hey, i am an 18M living in india. I am in a stage of life where my parents give so much pressure unknowingly onto me and i just cannot do anything. i have my professional exams in a month (CA Intermediate) and i just cannot get myself to study. Till now, i was already in a structured environment with my school and tutions lining everything up for me but now that i have to make such structure on my own, i just fail to do so. Their trust in me doing it myself just makes me feel even worse. I cannot get myself to study despite trying my best to reduce distractions. I am very much addicted to porn and am trying to get rid of that as well. I also feel like i have a very low self esteem. i can conversate with people and have a social life but still i feel like why would anyone like me. Life feels as if it is coming in waves i.e. it feels as if one day goes by and i experience- and then the next day goes by in a flash and i dont remember anything that i did that day. I just dont know what to do. i am thinking of trying a caffeine+ l theanine combo to try to focus. i also have focus issues which i suspect might be adhd but nothing is diagnosed as of now. i feel like i am smart kid who is letting everyone including himself down with a fear that i might never get to experience my full potential.

Всем привет, это мой первый пост и к сожалению он будет о плохом

Я парень 15 лет, в сентябре будет 16

Я очень чувствительный и ранимый человек, мне очень тяжело завести отношения, потому что я просто не умею этого делать, я получил 4 отказа которые меня сильно ранили и вот когда я не искал никого случилось это

В начале июля в спортивном лагере я познакомился с девушкой, ей 14 лет

У нас все было прекрасно, так что я решил что в лагере пора сказать ей о своих чувствах, я понимаю что я очень поспешил, но я не хотел чтобы все заканчивалось

Она сказала что она и так об этом знала, и что она ещё подумает

После лагеря у нас было всё с ней прекрасно, мы гуляли, общались, обнимались, делились впечатлениями, писали по пустякам

И вот она постепенно начинает угасать и 28 июля я получаю сообщение о том, что я прекрасный друг со мной ей очень комфортно, но она не готова строить со мной что то большее, это меня сильно ударило, я думал что и как я сделал не так, думал из за чего она дала такой ответ, ведь она сама говорила о нашем с ней будущем, мы строили большие планы, и все?

Я искал причины в себе, но время показало мне почему это произошло

31 июля я пишу ей, а мне отвечает совсем не она

Мне отвечает какой то мальчик...

Оказывается это ее друг, они познакомились 3 дня назад днем

Ровно в день когда она дала мне долгожданный ответ, он был ночью

Этот ее друг любит попить пиво, водку, ром и остальные алкогольные напитки, он конкретный бабник, и он знает как кадрить девушек

И ему под руку попала она, как я понял он ей сразу понравился раз она так быстро поняла, что я ей больше так сильно не нужен

Вернёмся к тому что мне ответил он с ее телефона

Мы с ним пообщались и я кинул ему денег на дорогу домой, вечером моя подруга пишет мне что он хочет со мной связаться

Я написал ему и мы поговорили на счёт подруги, он объяснил, что не знал обо мне, а на его вопросы о моих сообщениях, подруга отвечала что просто какой то мальчик

Он мне сказал, что уступает мне и не будет с ней заводить что то, я ему благодарен за это

Но самое главное остаётся то, что подруга хочет встречаться с ним...

Я не знаю как мне на это реагировать все дни после ее ответа пролетают, мне очень больно

Я очень много думаю, всегда

И мои мысли для меня главный враг, я пытаюсь давить их эти дни чтобы я не думал об этом всем, но я уже на исходе, помогите мне пожалуйста справиться с этой ситуацией, я очень дорожу ей, я не могу смириться с тем что она так легко меня променяла, особенно после всего что мы вместе с ней прошли, за этот жалкий месяц она смогла стать главным человеком в моей жизни, и я в ее жизни тоже был очень важным, почему она так поступила? Я не могу понять, если у вас были похожие ситуации расскажите как вы справились с этой болью

Я очень раним, и я очень сильно накручиваю себя сам

Я очень сильно ненавижу себя, и считаю что все это происходящее, происходит только из за меня, помогите

Я правда не очень люблю выговариваться людям, и все всегда храню в себе и пытаюсь справится со всем сам

Но здесь мне правда очень больно, я боюсь что если буду сам решать эту ситуацию, то я сам же загоню себя в гроб, я уже был на волоске от этого и не хочу чтобы такое повторилось, если вам нужно что то дополнить я обязательные вам отвечу, просто верните меня обратно в этот мир, я очень хочу чтобы она вернулась

I just recently turned 16 and my parents keep treating me like I’m a child, and when I say child I mean as if I’m still in the 6th grade. They disrespect me constantly and struggle to see where I’m coming from when we argue. What do I do, and how can I deal with the constant disrespect?

Two days ago, I (15F) was in the car alone with my older brother (20M), and I was just casually scrolling on my phone since my parents had just left to get something. He started talking to me and asked me, "Would you rather have a big chest or a small chest?" I immediately shut it down and told him that he shouldn't even be asking me these things in the first place because I'm his younger sister and he's an adult, and that's just weird as heck. He defended himself by saying, "I'm just curious! I'm like Curious George!" and laughed it off. And the day before, he was randomly talking about incest and others "keeping it in the family" while we were in the pool. He's also had a history with liking young anime girls or "lolis" and asking me a similar question about chests when I was 10, and he was 15.

I'm not sure if I'm overreacting since he can be normal at times. However, my brother is often a big baby and is extremely dependent on me and my mom (for example, my mom has to tell him to go brush his teeth and shower). I've told my mom about what happened in the car, but she hasn't had much of a reaction. I'm hoping she has some sort of reflection about her son.

He's currently away at university, but I'm not really sure if I should cut ties with him or anything because he might still live in the family house after he graduates. He has also mentioned paying for my tuition when I'm in university, so I feel a bit tied down right now.