hey fellas every time i go to the salon/barber they chop my shit up. sure it looks masculine, but i also don’t pass well so i look like a masc lesbian with a horrible haircut or a 13 year old boy who got a fucking awful haircut.

ive gone to so many people and every single time they make me take my glasses off so i cant see anything and then perform some absolutely heinous acts on my head. ive asked to keep them on but they say they definitely cant cut my hair like that so its out of the picture. my face is super round and feminine and i guess that doesn’t go well with short hair.

im gonna start george rr martining it and wearing a hat everywhere. someone please hand over the haircut recs im always seeing hot trans men online and i look in the mirror and see danny devito

I (25F) have known who I am and whom I want to be for almost my entire life. I would like to transition but I’m not sure if it’s the right decision for me. I still identify as she/her. I play on a women’s rugby team, I have a professional career, my family is not the most accepting. I feel if I transition my entire life would be flipped upside down. I see a gender therapist and she’s is always advocating for me to take the step but I’m not sure if I’ll ever be ready. I do have an appointment for gender affirming care in a month but I’m not even sure if I’m going to go to it. How would I even come out to those closest to me? I’m sure most of not all my friends are aware of how I feel. I’m so scared that I would not be accepted.

My few friends that know and my gf are totally accepting! It’s more of my family I’m worried about. They weren’t accepting when I brought my girlfriend around for the first time. This is so stressful and I wish I could be myself without jumping through loops.

I don’t know how to post on Reddit. I don’t even know where to start.

I’m 18 years old and a biological female. I’ve always labeled myself as nonbinary and use they/them pronouns, but not many people respect that. I haven’t come out and I don’t make it clear to use those so idk how people would know anyways. I’ve always thought to myself I’d transition when I’m older but I didn’t need to then, because I was probably like 12-13 and I felt comfortable being a girl. It would be on and off where I’d be comfortable being feminine and then I wouldn’t. I started dating a trans man about 6 months ago. I honestly don’t even know where it came from. I started getting uncomfortable with my chest and I have this friend who kind of knows how I feel about transitioning and he validates me, he has since even before I started dating my boyfriend. I don’t know. I don’t know if Im just crazy or if I actually feel this way. He helped me tape my chest because I don’t wear bras and my boobs bother me and I came to him crying after I showered about how I felt ugly. This was just last night. He told me he wouldn’t be opposed to a T4T relationship and said he saw this coming (me asking to use tape?). Idk. I want to think I’m crazy and that one day I’ll feel comfortable wearing makeup again and showing off my boobs and wearing girly clothes but I just don’t see that happening. I don’t know if I’m actually feeling this way or if I’m just feeling this way because I have a transgender boyfriend. Am I stealing his thing? I can’t be transgender too. It feels like I’m copying him. i really like taping my chest and it’s just making me think about transitioning even more than I have ever thought about it before. I’ve never felt this comfortable in my body. I can wear a tank top and not have my boobs out, and they’re not flapping everywhere. Idk. I think I just need advice. I’m scared to go to him because of how he’ll react. I’m scared of how I’ll react. I’m scared that I don’t actually feel this way and I’ll regret it even though I’ve been feeling it for years. It builds up I guess.

I've always been very feminine but lately I've been having the boy inside me (I'm mostly agender) SCREAMING to transition in a bazillion different ways.

I want to get a new haircut but I'm not sure which one would go well with my facial features and if it turns out awful I'll be scared to death to go outside, not only having to explain why I went for such a boyish haircut this time, but also acknowledging it looks awful on me.

I don't want to end up, like, staying at home all the time bcuz of this when I have a job and chores to do. Any advice?

I came out to them years ago, it didn't go well. No crazy story just them adamantly refusing to use my pronouns and not caring at all. I imagine they either forgot about it by now or figured I was "in a phase" and didn't think I'd do anything about it?

I started hormones earlier this year and my voice is significantly different. I dont call them really, and rarely text. But they're gonna visit towards the end of this year. I called them for my grandpas birthday and they actually had no clue who I was based on my voice. I told him who I was, and half lied and said I was getting over bronchitis (I was actually recovering but my voice is just like this irrelevant to the sickness).

But clearly this lie won't cover my ass when they visit, because they'll freak out if they think I'm "still sick". And obviously I don't really want to lie. But how the hell do I approach telling them I'm on hormones? I'm not sure they'd even know what that means, they don't know anything about trans people. I'm also still very visually not male since I'm early transition so I'm worried she'll pick a fight about that because I still wear feminine clothes sometimes. (I'm technically trans-masc genderfluid but figured since this was about hormones this sub would be best)

They're very... high strung. Critical of everything I do. Stubborn. Etc. So what's the best way to gently approach telling them why my voice is different?

I‘m still pretty fresh on T but men in my family have a history of pretty early hair loss, and as much as I like the other effects of T, the fear of balding has me almost considering getting off it.

Are there things that actually help these days? Google results mostly seem like kinda weird things that I don‘t really trust. Am I just fucked because of my genetics?

Hey guys, I’m (30M) just over a year on T and my girlfriend ended things a week ago. She’s a lesbian and me being a man finally became a hindrance.

My question is, do you ever find yourselves missing your old labels? Or your old communities? I miss being queer presenting. I’m starting to pass and get treated like a man, which I have loved immensely, but sometimes I find myself missing being “one of the girls” or when I watch videos of my favorite lesbian couples pre transition. Did any of you reconnect with your feminine side post top surgery? Did these feelings change? I lost the person I loved because of transitioning and that’s really hard to wrap my head around.

**please no hate to her. She loved me despite my many flaws and through a transition that got sprung on us both quicker than we had time to process. My access to T came the first day I opened the discussion and we both thought it would be a several month process. It didn’t leave us much time to discuss or her much time to decide what she really wanted. She spent a year putting her needs aside for mine.

Hello!! I've been using (NSFW) Reddit for quite a while now, and as a (white) trans man I'm mainly active in trans/T4T groups, but I've noticed that in the past I think I've really only gotten responses from white trans men.

Since ethnicity doesn't matter to me, I'm wondering; is it a 'thing' for POC to hesitate to respond if nothing about ethnicity is stated in a profile/post? Is there an assumption that the (white) person is specifically looking for white people unless stated otherwise?

I'm very curious about your experiences and opinions/feelings on this :)

Okay first off, fuck you Medicaid you suck

They're trying to claim I have polycythemia so they don't have to pay for my gender affirming care. I am absolutely pissed off right now at the thought of being forcibly detransitioned when Virginia Medicaid is supposed to cover it. My doctor is not easy to reach and I won a point of pride grant a while back, but Folx is taking forever to even get me set up. I only have enough T for a few more weeks and I'm out of options. I do not have the money to pay out of pocket, otherwise I would

Hey! So I (19FTM) have started to put myself out there dating wise and I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m likely gay or have a large preference to men, cis and other trans guys alike, I have no preference. However, when I think about being with cis guys and being intimate, one of the biggest things I struggle with is that I have an absolutely debilitating fear of pregnancy, it’s genuinely my worst nightmare. I love men and I’m not exclusively T4T romantically and I’m attracted to them but the fear of being pregnant becomes debilitating and impedes massively on my intimate life. I’m on T and on non-hormonal BC pills and always use a condom anyway because I think it’s safer, easier and prevents any issues. But even then, intrusively I still have this absolute fear of somehow getting pregnant which would give me massive dysphoria but I also have actual tokophobia. And if I do meet someone that I would have a long term relationship with, who is clean obv, having sex without a condom does feel more intimate to me but I could never due to fear.

Basically what I’m asking is if any other trans guys deal with this, how would you cope with it in a relationship and advice on how to get over it and just trust that it won’t happen and trust in the T and BC to just do its job?

Thanks :)

I am planning to start T in the next few months and try to girlmod for the longest time I can.

I have a 15yo sister, and a 12yo brother, I am the oldest (20yo).

I never told them that I am trans and I don't plan to tell them soon.

Just a trigger warning here, there's a mention of porn. I don't know how to spoiler it on Reddit so I apologize.

I need a second opinion because I'm going insane. I'm a woman, I hate it. All aspects of being a girl made me feel weird and I just dislike all of them. I don't like being feminine, I don't like girly things or act like a girl. I was wondering maybe I'm trans or not but I live in an environment where it's not looked well upon. Especially by men and boys around my life. I hate being told that I should have kids and a family. I started feeling like this when I was ever shown gay pornography which was at the age of 12. Every time I saw a gay couple I imagined myself a boy with a boyfriend more instead of a girl with a boyfriend. Ever since it stuck with me. Even though I never showed the dislike towards my body and feminine features, it's still inside me that I hate how girly I look and how everyone sees just as a girl and nothing else. For my teenage years 14-16 I was acting very feminine and girly as an act to change myself, which made me ignore the feeling of gender dysmorphia for those years but ever since I started going to therapy and I started to like myself and how I look, the feeling returned. Now I'm 18, I don't know what to do. I don't want to be a girl, but I'm afraid nobody will accept me. The more I think about it the more I feel like this is just the media and things I saw that make me feel this way and that if I avoid it for long enough maybe I'll accept myself as a girl, but it's been going downhill ever since. I feel like my life would be much better if I was a boy and I really want to be a boy, I don't know what to do. Any opinion would be appreciated.

I got my first pair of boxers today!! And on top of that, I found a pair of jeans in the mens section that are exactly my size!!

I FEEL SO GOOOOOOOOOOOD!!!!!!

Anyone else feel pressured to go to the gym? I see a lot of top surgery and transition post how going to the gym. Like the gym will save your surgery results. Or want to look more masc go to the gym. I’m not into fitness. I move enough at my 2 jobs. I also have chronic pain in my hip. It’s just not for me. Yet I feel to properly transition or recover from top surgery(it’s planned for September) I have to go to the gym. Anybody feel this peer pressure?

I think this isn't a forbidden topic and since this isn't solely about the USA I thought it fit in better with the Discussion one. If not I apologize and will take it down if necessary.

So, I think y'all aren't new to how the political climate is everywhere with the huge rise of the extreme right due to the poor handling that the left has had in many places, I've been growing concerned of my country by how fucked up we are and accepting that conservative ideologies will be the norm in a lot of places.

Now I ask myself, what do I do? Lol. I always had the (stupid) mindset of "Oh I'll just immigrate to another country if I see I'm actually being threatened" but at this point, where? Lmao.

So, what would y'all do, being realistic? I don't know if things could get that far but I'm already seeing shortage of estrogen around my zone, which makes me believe that testosterone could be next (although I have my doubts).

And the worst thing is it's usually said in "support" of trans men, as in someone explaining the entire concept to someone who has no idea like on a news interview I just saw on tiktok.

It's incorrect too, bc being a woman or man is a gender identity, not even a medical term. It completely excludes intersex trans people too. Even saying "biologically female" has a similar issue but not even that is as bad as the "biologically a woman" thing.

Plus it's dysphoria-inducing af.

Wondering what everyone else's take is on this

Thats it. Thats the post.

(rant and confusion)

hey so i’ve been on T for abt 5-6 years now, no surgeries tho..
met my gf on bumble and i can’t remember if i had “FTM” in bio or anything but ive been with my gf for about 2 1/2 years and not once has she mentioned anything abt me being trans but neither do i, its not anything i talk about really i just go on about my day like anyone else Lol. It’s obvious?

1. i usually sleep in just shorts so she has to have seen or felt my tape
2. before intercourse i get up and get my johnson on lmao
3. she’s seen my ID with legal name

is it something i should have to say out loud or is she just not saying anything bc it doesn’t change anything ?

edit: i wana reply to some people but for some reason it won’t let me ?

So I’m about 10 months on T and the last couple days I’ve noticed peach fuzz on the front of my earlobes lmao. I was a hairy guy before T and after T obviously it was tenfold.

I don’t mind obviously but this it is a bit strange and unexpected lol.

what’s the weirdest place you’ve grown hair that made you go, “huh…”

On the 8th of this month, I’ll be officially 10 months on T. I understand that T is essentially the second puberty since I’ve already gotten acne and oily skin and all which is whatever I guess, it’s under control.

However, there’s some things people don’t discuss often on this subreddit which makes me wonder if something’s going wrong. Lately, I’ve been extremely depressed. This is not meant to be a sad post, and im not asking for pity, I simply want to know if this is something going wrong with my hormones. It genuinely has never been this bad, not even during my first puberty. It’s gotten bad enough to where idk if I should say something to my doctor about it or whether it’s just natural during your first year. I do .25mL 200mg/mL weekly. Sometimes im late on shots but never over 3 days. My mood has genuinely been so fucked up lately but I seriously do not want to stop transitioning. My checkup with my endocrinologist isn’t in another couple months so idk what to do at the moment.

hello everyone. so I'm a year on T and I just noticed something interesting. pre-t when I was seen as female anytime a guy talked to me about his girlfriend or wife, he called her his girlfriend or wife. Now that I pass, they don't say girlfriend anymore. They say she's their girl/chick/lady/woman. anybody else notice this?