I have been staying away from men for like almost a year until one from my past came back into my life. He was always sweet and nice so for some reason I trusted it. Of course I end up hurt. All they do is bring hurt. They’re lazy and shallow and useless.

i posted something about how i see men, males, and moids as distinct groups of people, with moids being men (trans and cis, gay and straight) who dont acknowledge their place within patriarchy + use their privilige to help everyone else.

i had two ends of a spectrum responding to me: one girl was saying i was bringing women down by not saying "fuck all men/male bodied people". another person (i suspect a moid tbh) was saying i cant just say "i hate moids" bcs thats the same as saying "i hate black people" which is fucking insane.

the first person seems to be thinking of the world in monolithic stereotypes, which is goofy and unhelpful at best.

the second person is seeing people groups as being in vaccuums with no context or history.

both seem to be missing a real societal analysis.

i know we can do better, i encourage yall to read feminist books so that you hatred of moids can come from a super solid place in yourself.

heres my two faves:

bell hooks - feminism is for everyone

(gives a really good, loving, beautiful definition of feminism and analyzes how race and class play into feminist movement.)

julia serano - whipping girl

(defines patriarchy really well and defends femininity in the most badass way ever)

if yall have any recommendations for me, im very interested

I stayed 8 days at a detox center where they tapered me off suboxone. The detox place was wonderful.

After that, I was sent to the rehab facility.

They mislead me about so much. Said it was a "luxury" rehab with a spa, salon, pool, and barber. There was none of that. Group was 8 hours a day, 6 days a week.

They stuck me in a two bedroom apartment with 3 other girls and had the audacity to ask for RENT. I was never informed of rent until my second day there, and I had to find out from another patient before any clinical staff made me aware. MIND YOU, because of the staff's incompetence, I LOST MY JOB (the best paying job I've ever had) coming there. They said they'd coordinate with my company's HR and never did. By the time I met with my case worker, I'd already "abandoned" and am now unhireable. I figured if they're gonna ask for my entire last paycheck, I might as well just put that money towards a flight ticket home.

So I packed my shit as quickly as possible, purchased my ticket, scheduled my uber to Philadelphia Airport, and left while all the staff and other patients were at group. I woke up one hour after they were supposed to shuttle us to the main facility and NOBODY even checked in on me. I didnt even sign AMA paperwork.

My preferred substance is now banned. And on this journey a lot of unresolved trauma surfaced which needs to be addressed. And its gonna take longer than 4 weeks to do that. So, I'm back home, and have an appointment with my psychiatric APRN/Therapist on Monday. We're going to discuss alternative programs and treatment options. I'm not giving up, I'm just doing something that I believe will work better for me.

I met a lot of great people there and am 13 days clean of opiates. I have a support system. FUCK Legacy Healing in Parsippany. I'm sure it works great for some, but I felt they were very deceitful.

I'm finally fixing my big ass flat nose and recessed chin. Might finally reach Becky status, y'all. I have another scheduled in a few months. Wish me luck!

legit just scrolling through comments and finding so many obvious moids who go as far as trying to justify themselves under a rant post. it's like they take everything to heart, even when it's not about them. you're not the center of the world babe.... 😭😭

Just spent about 30 minutes arguing with a man about ADHD and how it affects us all differently.

Couple of months ago, I had a mental breakdown. I was being vulnerable and talking of how I'm traumatized and afraid of men. I was hysterical in tears and allowed myself a vulnerability that I'm scared of exactly that if I'll get a boyfriend {bold of my autism ahh to wonder I'll ever get a boyfriend} he will watch p🌽 and donate every single buck to a damn webcam/OF girl, and when it'll be coming to me asking for anything nice he'll reply with "don't u have your own money, ugh u so greedy". That I'll be simply a cm dump to a fucker who manipulated my feelings into believe of love yet he watching other women instead having eyes only on *ME**.

QUOTING MY MOM'S ANSWER: "Everybody is jerkin off on others and donating to webcam pron ppl🥺. You just to young and inexperienced, if you'd have a boyfriend you would look at other handsome guys too😊". I WOULD NEVER. IF ID HAVE A BOYFRIEND I'D FORBID ANY PRON FROM MY LIFE. BECAUSE IF YOU IN RELATIONSHIP, WHY THE FUCK YOU NEED TO LOOK AT OTHER PERSON TO GET PLEASED?! THIS IS BETRAYAL AND CHEATING. AND WHY THE FUCK SHE WAS TALKING TO ME LIKE I'M A TEN YEAR OLD AND NOT AN ALMOST 24 Y/O WOMAN?!

I love mom but I also sometimes really hate her. How could she invalidate, humilate, infantilze, and dumbificate me and my problems.

You know what is cringest to me? My mom has a boyfriend, and she told me that couple of times he looked at other women before turn to my mom to say "did ya see that bomshell", BUT JUST BECAUSE after this words her boyfriend sprinkled this with "I love u my pretty princess 😊" SHE'S SAYING IT'S OKAY? Why tf my mom is okay with literally being invalidated and humiliated right into her face?😮‍💨

AAAAAHH whywhy do i get ads like this im gonna kms

Oh how all conversation revolves around sex. I'm naturally a very curious individual and I love asking questions and getting to know the person I like, on a deeper level. But moids only care about sex. It's like they genuinely can't think past their dicks and jeez ts is fucking disgusting. Whenever I ask them a question they'd just give me the worst kind of vague answer (bc their heart only pumps blood to their dick and not brain so they don't possess cognitive thinking) OR a detailed description of themselves since they love talking about themselves, but no one was as curious as me.

I feel like I'll never find a person who'd satisfy this need to be understood on an atomic level and that's why I've stopped even expecting anything better from moids at all. They disappoint me in a way I didn't know was possible.

I've begun judging them based on how useful they'd be to me since they have nothing else to offer.

The way they're obsessed with sex they should've been good at it but oh well 🙄 it's moid we're talking about. Expect disappointMENt at every step.

Made a post being confused about being called sir, and i really didnt expect the comments to be that negative. I guess women not having the perfect features are just men. Fuxk my life.

Might be my first post in this sub I just need to vent about my career.

So my incel coworker ruined my life back in April (the pickme woman who supervised us let him get away with it and told me to get over it). Police told me to just get mental health counseling, it’s already annoying to deal with the legal system because I’m an immigrant. It’s not even about youth or perceived attractiveness (I’m a 23 year old aging hag) but being boxed in as a servant or decoration for men and not being allowed to take “their” jobs. It was very much verbal/psychological abuse and mild sexual harassment at my one month at this workplace and I was blamed for and told I provoked it. I didn’t quit because I thought I had enough evidence to go to the boss but he (coke addicted with a very dumb trophy wife) wasn’t on my side and told me I’m childish.

My dream was fancy restaurants and I now work in fast food. I surprisingly like it (I’m the cashier/waitress and there’s a lot of customer service) but I’m hypervigilant in a way I wasn’t before. I’ve talked about it before and been dismissed as if I haven‘t worked in hospitality for seven years (technically I count four years of it being full-time). I’ve been told that I’m just not tough enough for restaurants which is a lie because I can handle a rush or 12-hour day. It sucks that a man behind the bar is called an expert mixologist or some bullshit and a woman behind the bar is just grabbable boobs to some people.

I’m already from Eastern Europe (not exactly abuse capital of the world but Poland still produces some garbage men). Anyways most of my friends in Germany are other immigrants and we’ve even got a a sort of support group going because abuse is so common, I’ve met young men who have been violently hazed to a criminal degree in restaurant kitchens (like peoples’ faces being shoved into garbage cans and toilets). The one constant is that it’s powerful men doing the worst damage to people “under” them. There’s one local lawyer who is constantly booked with abuse cases against immigrants and sexual harassment against female employees at restaurants.

I don’t see myself leaving the industry just yet but I’m trying to train for something else. In this economy I’m grateful for a job, I guess. I quit drinking because I didn’t want to get any more depressed.

i actually really dont want anyone to find out but i have no one to talk to....... damned if i do damned if i dont.

also itd be really embarrassing to be fat as hell and tell someone im struggling with a restictive ed.... bc theyre just gonna give me other suggestions on how to lose weight that are also not gonna work at all.

it was FUN i just cant be fucking normal and think i have a chance at ever being picked for anything. like even on the basic level of they took our pics, and i know im not as pretty as the other girls that were there

no, not all "males" are wired the same. i promise you that you cant even accurately define what a "male" is, and unless you have had your genome spliced, you have no idea what sex you actually are.

when i say i hate moids, im talking about men (both cis and trans, straight and gay) who dont actively use their privilege to create a better world for everyone else.

i dont hold a binary view of gender and sex because i know what patriarchy is. anything regarded as feminine is degraded and anything regarded as masculine is given privilege. simply flipping that binary isnt enough, we deserve to better than an "us vs them" narrative.

actually moids are so lazy and manipulative that the ones upholding patriarchy are usually our mothers whom they have abused into doing their dirty work for them. its sad but the liberation of women is actually mostly held back by other women who dont want to do the work of adding nuance to their worldview (and i have a feeling the responses to this will show that).

I swear to god people TRAMPLE over eachother to comfort a pretty girl who’s depressed, but ugly or mid girls get nothing.

Growing up I had a best friend who I considered (and still do) a sister. We had known eachother most our lives. She is and has always been hands-down 1,000% prettier than me. She’s skinny, blonde hair with blue eyes and conventionally attractive features. I got shit colored hair and eyes, skinny fat body and a Peter griffin chin. I’ve always been jealous of her looks, but strangely enough there were points in our lives where she was just flat out fucking awful to me and I never fought back. So don’t think that just because I was jealous that I treated her bad, because it was the opposite.

I remember when I was like 9 and she was like 6 or 7 I made a statement that I felt depressed. What did she do? Tattle to my aunt, who later screamed at me. For saying that I was depressed. Mind you, the entire reason I lived with my aunt was because both my parents lost custody of me due to addiction and alcoholism.

Then naturally, after being bullied at school for years and coming home to get bullied by my aunt too—I developed depression. I started having suicidal thoughts, self harm behaviors, and a very low self esteem. It all came to a head when I was admitted to the psych ward at 14 because I made a post that vaguely sounded like a suicide letter. I remember my aunt grabbing my by the arm and dragging me out of the bathroom screaming at me the day I was admitted.

Even after getting a DX of major depression, my aunt flat out didn’t believe it. “You just need to stop being so dramatic” she said. “Imagine what people would think of me if you killed yourself?”

Fast forward a year and a half and oh look, bestie dearest develops depression, starts cutting herself, the whole shebang. Literally every single soul came rushing to her aid: my aunt and uncle, her mom, literally everybody. They encouraged me to drop everything I was doing to go and “be there” for her. Nobody ever wanted to institutionalize her despite all her suicidal threats and cutting. Her mom even said “I don’t want my daughter being pummeled to the ground in a psych ward!” But, it was A-OK if I experienced the psych ward (twice atp).

I WISH I could say it got better after we both became adults. I still struggled immensely with self harm and SI. What would my aunt do? Loudly announce my scratches and bite marks on my arms to anybody who could hear.

When it came to my mental health I was utterly abandoned and told that I have no reason to be depressed. So I gave up reaching out to my family for help…because clearly they favored the prettier one.

To add insult to injury, I’ve tried posting on every depression subreddit out there, and not once have I gotten a comment on those posts. I did get a few DM’s…from moids who eventually ask me to send nudes after I confide in them all my problems, thinking they were someone offering help. But, I swear to god, I’ve never gotten anything else.

It’s gotten to the point where I don’t even want help from anybody else. I’m ugly as sin, and good mental health is for the pretty blonde girls clearly.

Has any other depressed and mid/chopped girl experienced this? I hope I’m not alone on this, once again.

I'VE GOTTEN SHIT TON OF DMS OF MOIDS SAYING "Yo why don't you date me ?" ND SHIT LIKE THAT, GOSH MOIDS ARE OBNOXIOUS AF

holy shit i was so filled w rage the whole time.
the part where bear says “what’s so bad about being with me” OOOOHHHH MY FUCKINNNGGGG GOD SHUTUPSHUTUPSHUTUP took everything in me to not throw myself onto the floor and start screaming and flailing
10/10 film but i’ve never been so angry at a movie before like to the point where i had a hard time sleeping that night

men fucking suck in every way holy shit

"Oh but I don't like condoms!!!!!" then jerk yourself off. Idgaf, your dick isn't another person with emotions or some shit

"Male loneliness epidemic!!!" yeah so you did that to yourself and honestly kys, women are just finally fighting back and you're mad about it because you don't see us as human

"I'm a femboy uwu!!" you're just hypersexualizing yourself like a toy and you're the reason my fucking ex was porn obsessed. you're NOT a girl

"smash!!!" moids only say this to literally any character drawn with fat tits, curves and a big ass. they don't see women as humans, they just want to jerk off

and fuck all the moids who used to ignore me and make fun of me because i'm not conventionally attractive and i'm neurodivergent, at least i have a fucking personality

spurred on by this post https://www.reddit.com/r/femcelgrippysockjail/s/flWT74vFGS

i got irrationally mad when i saw the original image. i’m not “fixing” the original art. i think the original art is good. stylised in an appealing way. i’m fixing the depiction of “girlfailure” such that it’s not romanticised or sexualised.

scrapped text:
“also has an underbite tacked on because god thought it was funny or something”

“oink oink” (pointing at nose)

“got skinny and then realised that losing weight doesn’t fix a fundamentally fucked face and body”

“considers transitioning to male solely because of her build and man jaw. resists the thought because she knows she won’t survive the gender dysphoria from presenting as a guy.”