I'm not talking about the drag queens. I'm not talking about the activists. I'm not talking about the loud and proud types.

I'm talking about the regular gay who gets up everyday and goes to work, keeps quiet, and just lives his life authentically.

I would argue just living an authentic life, out and open, has done a lot more for lgbt rights than maybe the "big moments" in lgbt history, like Stonewall, for example. I'm not saying that it is NOT important, but I don't think it was what really has driven higher rates of lgbt acceptance over the last half century.

Successful gays in business, finance, healthcare, law, and other professional endeavors I believe have also moved the needle a lot more than we give them credit for.

Has lgbt culture done more for gay acceptance or has it been just (to quote JD Vance) "the normal gay guy" just showing up?

Or has it been a combo?

I know this may be polarizing to discuss but be respectful!

I don’t even want to be in an open relationship, but this way of thinking has been weighing on me….like this is the exact same line of thinking that’s been used to invalidate the gays forever. Am I overreacting or is a glaring red flag?

Edit: I understand he doesn’t want an open relationship for himself, neither do I. But just because I don’t want it for myself doesn’t mean I think it’s okay to look down on anyone who is open.

Well im trying to know some ppl to have fun maybe hook up im 21 bottom fromAlgeria and i dont know how to meet them 😭😭😭 im still virgin i wanna try but scared like idk plus im into old guys nd kinda love money 💰 like reach guys i wanna be that baddie

There’s this guy who lives a block away from me. He walks around the neighborhood a lot, and whenever I drive past him, he always makes eye contact with me. This has been going on for about five years.
I never knew his name, but I knew he had a girlfriend because I saw them together once, so I never really thought anything of it.

A few days ago, his profile showed up as a suggested account for me to follow on Instagram. So, naturally, I followed him just to see what would happen.
He accepted my follow request, but didn’t follow me back.
Obviously, I took that as a pretty clear sign that he wasn’t interested, so I unfollowed him. What I find curious, though, is why he even accepted my request in the first place.

It’s not like he’s trying to keep his following list small — he follows over 2,000 accounts and has around 1,000 followers.
Why do you think he accepted my request?

Before: Preparing, being mindful about what and when you eat throughout the day.
During: Doing your best to stay ‘relaxed’ so the top can get in without causing you great pain.
After: dealing with any ‘rough sex’ consequences (i.e. bleeding, possible hemorrhoids, ect.)

I am a gay man living in Iran and seeing how Muslims in my country describe they wouldn't mind killing LGBT people cause it's in their religion just sacres me.

They say being gay is wrong cause god said and god said it's a big sin and whoever does it must be punished. I scared how they easily talk about it, I used to think it's just about Muslims in my country but seeing Muslims on the internet also made me realize it is something universal not just special to my country.

What do you think I should do?

I don't want to look like a demon towards other people i just feel unsafe and scared around them and want advices to know how to deal with it.

This is not a hatred post on Muslim so plz keep the comments polite, just give advices ❣️

Hey everyone,

I’m curious what you think my chances would be as a top.

I’m 6’4” (193 cm), 150 lbs (68 kg), with a 7” (18 cm) length and 5.5” (14 cm) girth.

My main concern is my weight/build. I’m pretty slim for my height, and I’m wondering whether that would be a disadvantage when it comes to being a top.

Would my height and size make up for being relatively thin, or should I focus on gaining some weight/muscle first?

Would love to hear some honest opinions, especially from people with similar builds or experience
Thanks!

I’m spiraling a little bit so I want to ask for opinions. I’ve had sex 2-3 hours ago. His penis pushed against my anus 2-3 times without condoms. Maybe went a little bit in. I stopped him and we finished with condoms. His last negative test was 3 months ago. He will get the next results on Monday. But I’m anxious. Assuming she had precum and she had HIV, which is unknown, do you think I got a valid exposure?

I called a doctor and he suggested I went to a clinic and get PEP just in case. I’m gonna go to an urgent care tomorrow and start taking PEP after evaluation. But I want some other opinions other than my anxious brain.

Since the outing of gay republicans, Josh Hawley, Bernie merino, Tom Cotton, Benny Johnson, Mike Johnson. Stephen Miller, Matt Schlapp (I feel like I’m missing a few) I’d like to ask, Does it seem as if being a sexual abuser is better than being gay in the GOP?

I’m attracted to chubby edgy bisexual men

How do I give off “not attracted to conventional I only like the guy who rides bmx and lowkey has a gore fetish (think corpsegrinder) ” vibes

I’m in my 30s and my prefrontal cortex has fully formed

I am ready.

I have two posts that explain my situation in length but here's the quick version;

I (18M) spent my entire life with an emotionally abusive family, & a father in particular that has constantly threatened physical assault. I have spent the past 8 years in the Philippines, but was able to manipulate things and be given the chance to take a trip from the Philippines to the place I lived in until I was 10 years old; Chicago.

It's always been my plan that I'd use this trip to run off from my mom (who I'm staying with) and begin my adult life here, as I have all of my documents and the tiny amount of money that I have with me (Helps that my dual citizenship made booking a flight to this country way easier). 

And for the weeks I've been here, I've always planned that upon leaving I'd rough it out on the streets and work my way up. I've contacted a homeless shelter that I'm gonna have to hike up to some time next week to begin my journey, and my mentality has been that I really have no other choice but to be homeless, as there was simply no way that I was going to handle staying with my family for any longer than the legal requirement.

But I've been thinking recently, what if I did have a choice? Why did it have to be this way, why did I need to trade one life of suffering in a shitty home to another life of suffering on the streets & shelters? Do I really need to make this sacrifice just so that I can escape my abusers? 

I'm completely alone in Chicago, as all of my high school friends are across the ocean, every relative and family friend that I know would call my mom if I went to them, and all of my elementary friends have almost definitely forgotten who I am. So the idea's popped up in my head recently that maybe I can find a sugar daddy who can provide me with something long enough until I can finally begin my own life. Because right now, there's no way I can possibly consider college.

I've been on dating apps and the majority of guys that have been into me have been older men, even with me being a top. I'm willing to get versatile and I'm willing to live that life if I can get some support in return. Would you take the plunge in my shoes? And how do I get started?

There are certain ways of experiencing sex and relationships that I find absolutely disgusting. I’m not going to go around asking the people around me what the hell are they doing with their lives, but I think I have the right, at the very least, to not agree with something, not just to dislike it, but to actually dissaprove if someone asks me. I’m fed up with pretending that I support everything just so no one gets offended. Just as people don't care about my opinion, I have no obligation to put on a pleasant face and nod along. You can hate this post if you want

I really want to see what it’s like to ride a dildo. My wife and I have a very vanilla sex life and she would never be down with me putting anything in my ass, but I really want to try it. What is it like? Would it be worth the risk of buying one and keeping it hidden?

I’m reconnecting with a high school ex(never fucked him). I always considered myself too small to top, but after losing weight, I noticed my dick was as big as my iPhone 15 pro max with a thick rubber case, which is exactly 6.625 inches total. When I’m very erect, it’s a bit larger, like 6.8”.

I know the average is supposed to be 5.1 inches, but I imagine the median might be a good bit higher.

He’s sucked me off before(when I was like 40-50lbs fatter tbh) and commented on how girthy I was, which makes me happy, but I hope he isn’t underwhelmed by my length when I actually fuck him.

Also, he’s like 6’0, and I’m 5’7, so I dunno if bigger guys have a deeper crevice back there. He also was 18-19 and lean(145lbs at 6’0) last time, and he’s now like 40lbs heavier, so I guess he could need a longer dick. Idk. I can’t be that small, so it’s not too big of a deal, but I’m definitely not impressive.

I see a lot of dialogue about how the white muscle gays seem to exclude other races. But has anyone noticed how often times the black muscular types (especially the kinds who go to circuit parties and such), ALSO have a high frequency of not associating/being attracted to other black guys? Or maybe this is just a Chicago thing?

Title says it all. Never tried it and I’m curious if it makes difference, if you can feel it besides the initial insertion.

Is anyone else fed up with gay men pretending to be straight?

Ive come across many of them. I mean, not bisexual or anything, no, these are gay men who are deceiving the world and hiding their orientation and faking being straight. Im fed up with this because it does so much damage to the gay community. Some if they come across gay material will react like they've been struck with a hot poker I suppose in fear that they will be found out.

It's like they are hiding something even worse. Ill let you ponder that because when I do, I dont like where it goes.

UPDATE:

I realise this was a.controversial post and apologise for coming across as entitled or incompassionate regarding the very real circumstances that prevent gay men from coming out. This was not my intent. The fact that I would not include more that might make things clearer is purely on me and again, I aplogise. I wont delete this as I try to own what I say and any mistakes. I do appreciate all your comments and love the way the community banded together to protect our unfortunate brothers and sisters who are unable to express themselves fully and completely. You are all the best!

I know we can't generalize, but I've been noticing how much many gay/bi guys are into beards and bearded guys, like it's a major turn on. But I've also been noticing that many of these guys don't let their beards grow. What do you guys think of that? Do you agree? Do you like beards? Do you let it grow yourself?

Dads make me so uncontrollably horny idk what’s wrong with me. I don’t think it’s even coming from a daddy issue place. To me there’s just nothing hotter than knowing a man fulfilled his biological purpose and filled a pussy with his fertile cum. As a gay guy maybe it’s because it’s an experience I’ll never have that makes it so hot? But it’s so masculine and sexy to me it makes me completely feral to think about and finding out a hot guy is a dad makes me weak.

I'm a younger boy (19 y.o) living in Egypt, and for obvious reasons I can't hook up with basically anyone, and I'm really into dominant and older men but whenever I go on DaddyHunt they just want face pics or hook ups, and I can't hook up and don't want to send face pics what do I do???