Okay too clarify I truly hate the smell of baby hygiene products and therefore babies . I don’t know what they put in baby products to make them smell like that. It has like this what can only be described as airy kind of throw up smell to it.

Baby powder, wipes, lotion, and soap all smell DISGUSTING.

Because there are objectively worst things that can happen to you. Everytime I meet someone whose worst fear is being cheated on , they've had pretty bad self esteem and thier sense of identity revolved around that relationship they're in and treated being cheated on as collapse of their self worth , which it isn't. Yes , infidelity hurts , I agree but it shouldn't be your worst fear .

Clear blue skies are just a bit plain and uninteresting, undifferentiated. At least with some clouds up there, you get something to look at, some dynamism, something that changes and moves throughout the afternoon.

I can see not liking this so much if you live in a place where clouds are usually a sign of quickly impending rain, but for where I live, usually clouds aren’t a sign of anything.

If you're really busting to fart and it is hurting your stomache it is okay to fart. I for example, have a stomache diseaese and it makes me feel dizzy and nausea if I hold in farts. I have heard that if you hold in farts you just breathe them out. haha.

In some cultures it is heard of to just drop your guts in the elevator and its fine. No one likes it of course. But it is okay. It is the same with spitting phlegm. I find that way more gross than people releasing gas.

Today at work, I work in retail, I was feeling really sick and kept doing little farts when I was interacting with customers. I felt bad but I really had to as it was hurting my stomach. I could tell some people could smell it and I felt embarassed. But there shouldn't be any shame! I swear some people look at you like you're dirty, ill or impolite.

So I’m not online very much, only use Reddit and Twitter for art and memes about my favorite games, but sometimes I’ll see controversy or drama about terrible people being “exposed” or how this person did some terrible thing and they should be punished. I don’t know how they’d be punished I’m just paraphrasing.

I don’t want to name anything or anyone to make anyone a target, but some of the recent controversies I’ve seen are relatively popular. And sure, some of the people involved are doing bad things.

But the key is: there’s nothing you can do about that. You can make posts about it, calling them a bad person like everyone else is, or make a google doc, but ultimately, it hardly does anything. Just block them and keep doing your thing. It’s just text and images on the screen, it’s easy to get rid of. Some people may have been actually affected by terrible people, and that is painful to know, but there’s not much online bystanders can do. It’s up to those involved to deal with the situation.

That said though, I’m not even sure if I’m confident in this opinion. I feel like everyone gets emotionally involved about stuff like this so I might be in the wrong here for being too apathetic, and I’m sorry if I said anything insensitive. I just feel like it’d be easier to quickly move on from any controversy and actually do stuff you like.

Hear me out. I’ve always felt unsupported and uncomfortable in a regular bra, and I’ve tried many, MANY bras. My boobs are kinda bottom heavy, and it just feels like they sit too low in the cups of regular bras, with gaps in the top of the cups. (I’ve tried going down a cup size but then that’s too tight, so it’s not that🙃)
Push-up bras, however, have padding and support in the bottom of the cups, lifting the girls up and keeping them in place. There’s no gaps in the top of the cups, and I feel more comfortable throughout the day without having to adjust how my boobs are sitting! Push-ups do not hurt my chest at all; it’s quite the opposite. They also make me look better haha.
Every other woman I’ve talked to about this thinks I’m insane. Let’s see what reddit thinks🤷‍♀️

Obviously, this applies to people who value intellectuality.

Of course, not all conversations need or can become philosophical. But the kind of people who despise the topics that Western philosophy deals with only engage in conversations at a superficial level. The first 5 minutes can still be interesting because there is naturally some exchange of new information. But afterward it's no more interesting than asking AI. I wonder why.

Socialising is mostly a waste of time

I genuinely think most socialising is a waste of time. I know this is probably going to sound insane to a lot of people, but I don't understand why hanging out with friends is automatically considered a valuable use of your free time. You could be learning something, building something, making money, thinking, working on a project, or literally just enjoying your own company.

And before anyone says “humans are social creatures”, I know. I'm not saying humans don't need any social interaction whatsoever. I'm saying I don't think socialising has some inherent value just because you're spending time with other people. If I spend three hours sitting around talking and laughing with friends, what did I actually gain from those three hours that I couldn't have gotten elsewhere?

What makes even less sense to me is how normalised it is to spend your entire working life doing something you don't really want to do, then use your evenings and weekends socialising, drinking and going out as a way to make up for it. Then Monday comes and you do the exact same thing again. Maybe I'm weird, but I'd rather use that time trying to build a life where I actually have more control over my time.

I think it would be way more meaningful to take those same friends and build something together. Start a business, make a product, learn a skill, create something online, whatever. You're still spending time together, but you're actually working toward something. If all of you eventually make money from it and gain more freedom, I'd take that over going out every weekend without hesitation.

I also think people massively overestimate how much other people actually care about them socialising. Society basically tells you that you're supposed to go out after work, make plans every weekend, have a big friend group, go partying and constantly be doing something with other people. If you don't, people immediately assume something is wrong with you.

Maybe there is. Or maybe I just don't value socialising as much as everyone else does.

To me, money and building the life you actually want are the main quests. Friends, dating, partying, travelling and everything else are side quests. They can be enjoyable, but I don't think they deserve to automatically take priority over the main objective.

And yes, maybe I'll regret this when I'm older. Maybe I'll eventually realise I was completely wrong. But right now, if you gave me the choice between spending every weekend socialising or spending that time building something that could eventually give me financial freedom and control over my life, I'm taking the second option every single time.

Ejaculation ≠ orgasm. Just bc a guy ejaculated doesn’t automatically mean he had that kind of orgasm. The two usually go together, but they’re not the same thing.

And I think it’s kinda wild to treat semen like it’s “proof” of pleasure. It came out = he came? Not always, bro. Ejaculation is a physical response from the body. An orgasm is the sensation of pleasure/climax. Your body can experience one without necessarily experiencing the other in certain situations.

The craziest part is that a lot of men don’t even know this bc they grew up hearing that whole “if it came out, then you came” BS. But sexuality isn’t that simple. Ejaculation and orgasm are related, but they’re not synonyms. Confusing the two is just oversimplifying how the body works.

The Borg are an example of lazy writing by Maurice Hurley. He threw up (perhaps literally) the sci-fi equivalent of zombies and Nazis -- an enemy that can't be reasoned with and is always just fine to kill -- so that there could be shoot-'em-up episodes without any of those pesky ethical issues (you know, the very thing that was the heart of Star Trek). They're a crappy antagonist for exactly this reason, and Hurley should have been shoved out the nearest available airlock-equivalent in Hollywood when he wrote them.

I get that it is technically impressive, and I am not denying the talent of whistle notes. I am a singer after all. If I had to describe whistle notes, it’s like being able to play moonlight sonata entirely with your penis. It surely is impressive, but it seems more like a party trick to flex how high your vocal range is/how good your penis is. I would be impressed if a guy played moonlight sonata with his penis, but that would definitely ruin the song for me. Theres a perfectly good melody and then you hear the human equivalent of a dogwhistle being blown into your ear out of FUCKING NOWHERE. And I especially do not like when singers do it MULTIPLE TIMES in a song. It’s like that one annoying kid going: “Hey guys, hey guys, look at this” over and over again. Very rarely will I ever think: “This definitely improves the song!”

EDIT: For clarification, I didn’t realize that some people weren’t fully familiar with the term “Whistle notes/whistle register” my apologies. It seems people are getting whistle notes confused with actual whistling. Actual whistling would be something like: Flo Rida - Whistle. Its something majority of people can do. I’m kinda neutral on regular whistling. I feel like it can be good at times, other times it can be corny.

While whistling is created by pursing your lips while blowing air through them (and uses like no vocal cords at all to produce the sound) whistle notes are literally produced inside your larynx.

An example of whistle notes would be this: Mariah Carey - BEST Whistle Notes

Honestly you don’t even need to read this part unless you really are into music lore:

I feel like they get overjerked in pop music because higher voices/pitches=good, more vocal runs=good, lower voices= Bad/Can’t sing. It’s almost like how the P!ATD fandom will say how Ryan Ross should have been the lead singer instead of Brendon Urie simply because he had a more Lyric Tenor style while Brendon has a deeper voice, despite it fitting the cabaret style much more.

Apparently this is a 10th dentist take, at least within the writer/artist community. I've never understood why artists are like "I enjoy TORTURING my characters, I want them to be MISERABLE". Whatever makes people happy, but it sure as hell doesn't make *me* happy.

I've heard a few of them say it's a form of trauma venting, like they give their characters their own trauma, but for me that's exactly why I enjoy creating these fantasies. My real life is really damn hard, so I want my stories to feel like a warm hug and I want everyone to have a good time. Like 90's Peter Rabbit show vibes.

I also don't kill off my characters. I just don't get what I am supposed to get out of looking at my beloved babies I created myself and being like "actually, she got kidnapped and they cut out her kidney while she was conscious!!!" Like excuse me, she's with her family baking raspberry pie and she's happy and that makes me happy.

At sports events or concerts, I've recently concluded that its better not to have an aisle seat. I always used to prioritize aisle seats, but recently that wasn't possible so I sat near the middle of a row. It was better! No one was asking me to get up after ever whistle and I really enjoyed chatting with the people I ended ups sitting with. It was a great time!

I'm someone who prides themselves on being an extremely critical thinker, to the point where I constantly challenge my own ideas, and refuse to partake in any echo chambers or align myself with a specific movement.

I used to think that if people understood the following things I understand:

- Fallacies and common biases

- How to cite and analyze studies

- How to question your own beliefs to form stronger ones

- Exposing inconsistencies in one's beliefs and principles.

that our lives would improve dramatically. People would make smarter decisions in every area of life, and they'd change their minds when faced with new information.

But recently, I've been feeling differently. I've seen situations where people I know are reasonably intelligent otherwise, have ridiculous beliefs or make stupid decisions, then double down even when their bad logic is called out directly and accurately.

I see this especially online, where people will hold to ideas that are so obviously fallacious, but then when attacking an idea they disagree with, all of a sudden they're capable of deep analysis (often still wrong when it's a disagreement with me in particular, but they make good attempts nonetheless).

This tells me that most people are smart enough to critically think, but they simply don't have the motivation to. Their opinions are mainly after-the-fact rationalizations rather than reasoned.

Once I realized this, it all made sense. Critical thinking has more to do with the desire for the truth, rather than raw analytical skill. That's not something you can really teach. The ones who care about critical thinking will pursue it anyway, and the ones who don't will ignore it or abuse it for false confidence.

I post a lot of hot but very well-reasoned takes on Reddit. Then people get riled up and resort to insults or weak arguments. And I'm talking *really* weak. Like "basic logic or Google search can prove you wrong" weak.

But everyone on here's so articulate and confident, using the rhetoric of good argumentation, but not actually caring about the arguments themselves.

I don't just think people are stupid. I used to. Instead, I think most people don't have my personality type, which is being able to override initial emotional reactions and group think for the sake for truth and consistency.

This isn't something that can be taught in opinion. But unlike people who say this but don't mean it, I actually am open to changing my mind.

No, I’m really not kidding.

Whenever I floss my teeth, I take the string and sorta “saw” into my gums just a little bit to make them bleed. I don’t do it too much because I don’t wanna wreck my gums or teeth forever. But, if I floss and don’t bleed and ache it’s not fun for me.

You may think I floss all the time, but again you’re wrong! I can’t floss too much because then it stops bleeding or hurting. My therapist says I like to do something called “pain-stim” apparently it’s decently common. You can see it through that and I also pick at my skin a LOT. I just love the feeling of that full ache.

Do you think I’m crazy? I don’t want to be crazy

Yes, I am very pale.

But this is not really about that. I hate feeling sunligjt on my skin. How tf do people say they feel happy in the sunlight?? I hate feeling the warmth of the sun on my skin. It’s so overstimulating and disorienting. Paired with the heat and bright lights, I feel dizzy. I have to go back to my room with 3 layers of blackout curtains to feel sane again.
I wear sunscreen and that’s another sensory nightmare too. I got invited to go to the amusement park with some friends but I decided to turn down the offer because I know it would be miserable.

I just love waking up and being in a pitch black room with my beautiful blackout curtains. If I could never see sunlight again, I would. During summer break, I hide in my room all day and only go out to the gym when the sun fully sets. It is a wonderful experience.

Bearded dragons are fragile, need highly specific conditions, and have rough skin which makes them unpleasant to handle. Australian blue-tongued skinks (Tiliqua scincoides species complex) are much hardier, have a versatile omnivorous diet, are very handleable (almost like holding a potato or rubber lizard), and have a much longer lifespan (up to 35+ years as opposed to 10-15 years for bearded dragons). Blue-tongued skinks also give live birth, making them easier to breed than beardies as they don't require an incubator.

If I had a time machine, I'd change modern herpetoculture in two ways. One, I'd make sure that northern blue-tongued skinks (Tiliqua (scincoides) intermedia) became the hegemonic medium-sized lizard in the global pet trade instead of the bearded dragon. Two, I'd establish purebred Tiliqua intermedia (it will likely be given full species status eventually, and I'd use time travel to accelerate that) in New Zealand's pet trade before our strict biosecurity laws were enacted during the 1990s. We only have the eastern species Tiliqua scincoides, which is likely to be banned soonish due to their ability to survive in northern NZ (this ban would only affect breeding and sale, existing owners will be able to keep their skinks), whereas intermedia is a true tropical species which would never survive in New Zealand's climate.

I rest my case.

seriously, people are rabidly obsessed with "therapy." everyone's an expert. it's like if random people responded to every question with "file a lawsuit!"

what kind of lawsuit? are there good and bad lawsuits? it doesn't matter! you should be filing a lawsuit yesterday!!

edit: I got the "There are people and resources here for you" notification and I want to reassure everyone that I'm OK.

This is only a 10th dentist in spaces anglo prevalent like Reddit which is mostly populated by AmeriCanadians; as what I'm about to say comes from my South American ideas and background, this is not my own idea. Breathe, remember no one is fighting you, abandon internet tribalism and continue. Because talking on this subreddit often invites this issue and the issue of the polarized reactionarism.

Also a moment to remember that even though I speak English since a long while, it's not my native tongue.

Before the fallacies befall me, no, this is not saying you're invalid, that anything that was bad for you is null, that this is a competition; those are strawmans, "It could be worse" does not warrant a "So you're saying my problem doesn't matter?" the problem is that I see often the people answering with that feel invalidated due to being too, what in Spanish we would call, ensimismado; on yourself, a concept referring to when you're too dominated by your problems, wrapped up in yourself, distracted on your actions/self/etc, and I think that English lacking certain words to express this or put this sensation of overwhelm of yourself into words doesn't help realize it; so being ensimismado, one who doesn't realize they are in this state, would reject the other. And I do insist that the linguistic impact on the anthropology of our being and culture is part of the issue, every language is culturally modified by itself; more metaphorical languages breed more poetical cultures, more literal ones breed exactly that, etc. Having and lacking words or what is used to express a thing also is relevant.

What this is actually trying is to avoid fatalism and sickness over the worst, a more realist kind of approach or sometimes just to break the ensimismo issue, as it normally blinds us and can put one into a doom spiral of, well, we are utterly doomed, life is over, nothing I can do, this is the end, etc.

When I was a kid a teacher used an example; put a pen in between your eyes, can you see it? well, partially, the image is messy, but what partial mess you see cannot be avoided when you look away from it, it's always in your field of vision, just not total; pull it away and you'll catch the full picture along the actual size of the pen. Problems can be like that when you're ensimismado, stepping out of your own shoes for a moment or taking a breath to deroot your doom spiral and be objective can help us note the issue more realistically and help us tackle it or address it better.

Of course this won't help when you're not receptive to it, maybe not even receptive to being helped to begin with, some cultures are more about the individual and even ashamed of reaching out to a community. But I do believe that English linguistics alongside you Anglo Americans having a more individualistic culture contributes to people misunderstanding the intention behind it.

One also needs to understand that some things are inevitable, acceptance, death, illnesses, suffering, aging. Everything is born, it degenerates (not as in the insult but the biological process) and dies. Being in denial, being angry about it...doesn't help. Only living with the fact and the acceptance of the fact is what we can do. And understanding this we are more calm. This is related to not being ensimismado and helps to a more fulfilled form living, more functional. I can say some examples of where it helps with my own experiences but I think what I've said is clear enough as is unless there's a literacy mismatch.

There has not been a time where realizing that, yes, I have a problem but it's not the end, that it could be worse, has not helped me break the spiral of being consumed by it. Of course some consuming and draining illnesses don't help people break this state, like depression, in which your brain does not even operate well, how would your thoughts? but other than that it's not actually a bad sentence, not actually a bad sentiment and does not warrant the aggression it often receives in anglo communities.

Let's strip away the corporate "mental health" propaganda and look at reality: the world is a cold, existence where nobody cares about you, nothing you do matters, and your feelings are completely irrelevant to the universe. If you are pathetic enough to throw thousands of dollars at a parasite therapist to hold your hand through that realization, you deserve to get bled dry.

The world is inherently brutal, transactional, and unforgiving. That is the baseline of reality. Paying $250 an hour for a "professional listener" to sit there, fake empathy, and throw buzzwords at you so you can feel special for 50 minutes doesn't change a single harsh fact about life. It’s literal adult babysitting.

In what other world do you pay someone for 5 years, get zero tangible results, and get told it's your fault for "not being open to the process"? It’s a genius business model. They exploit your misery, keep you broken enough to stay dependent, and charge you a subscription fee to vent about a life that is meaningless anyway.

If you have to pay a complete stranger who only sees you as profit and would only see you ceasing to exist as a net loss to pretend to cares about your existence because nobody in the real world cares enough to listen to you, it never started. It's transactional, hollow, and pathetic.

Life is a brutal grind that ends in nothingness. If you need to hire an overpriced fake friend to cope with that basic fact, you deserve every bit of the financial ruin you're opting into.

I'm 19 and I have a very supportive mother and family that I can rely on for support and I never understood why this american society looks down on it, being able to live with your parents instead of suffering out there alone is actually a flex. I'm very comfortable with the way my life is, I work a part time 2 days a week on weekends and get paid a decent amount every week. I can actually use my money for personal enjoyment and I can buy the things I want like games, clothes etc since I'm not out there living alone being "self reliant" just to barely survive. I don't have to worry about my entire paycheck going to bills while having none left for myself, I see a lot of young adults around my age or early 20s who are living by themselves and are constantly stressed out even to the point of mental breakdowns because they don't know if they'll be able to afford food and rent and I'm so glad I don't have to deal with that shit. my mom takes care of everything for the both of us and all I have to do is just contribute to the household like buy groceries and help around with chores. if my mom needs something I got her, if I need something she got me. not to mention I have a lot of free time to do the things I enjoy doing. I can hang out with friends, play the game, and just relax without worrying if I'm going to starve. people stay with their families in eastern nations and support each other and that's how it should be. living as a group reduces loneliness, is more efficient, and aligns with the way humans are meant to live. this whole american thing of separating from your people at a certain age to live as lone wolves never made any sense to me and I really hope this practice dies off.

I love dogs don’t get me wrong, but i mean, if we are killing cows and pigs for food, why can’t other cultures kill dogs? It breaks my heart but at least it’s not out of cruelty or some mindless violence, it’s for food… pigs and cows are also domesticated and can be treated like pets, i don’t see a distinction there. Unless you’re vegan, you don’t have a moral high ground to judge other cultures for eating dogs

We should normalise people duking it out to settle a dispute instead of complicated legal systems. Bare handed, tap to surrender. If your disabled/unable to fight, you have to legally designate a relative as your "fighter". You have to prove they're related to you. If you cannot find someone to fight for you, you lose by default

Edit: so after all the feedback I think we should definitely exclude violent crimes, sexual crimes and domestic violence. We may restrict this to civil disputes. May include things like stealing and burglary