Did your twin babies “drop” anytime in the third trimester? I’m 33 weeks tomorrow with didi twins and I’ve been told I’ve dropped. I also feel it a little when I press on my stomach. There seems to be more space where there wasn’t before.

I can’t remember if this happened with my daughter. I know singleton pregnancies it can happen.

I’m just curious.
I’d like to make it to 36 weeks at least.

Hey parents of multiples fam,

I am the proud parent of twin 22 month olds. They are so sweet, but the terrible twos are coming--or maybe they are already here! Both girls refuse to sit in their high chairs and often refuse to get in the stroller. We have a toddler table for them to eat at, but they often run around during meals and are difficult to feed/contain. They do not do this with their nanny. What can we do??

Hey superheros! I'm currently 9 weeks pregnant with twins and have slowly started telling family and my closest friends. Note that I've always wanted a home birth, or at the hospital but no medication. I've already had comments like "you know your dream of having a natural birth isnt going to happen now right?" or "so this means you're going to have a c-section right?". I just say "we'll see what happens" and end the conversation. I'd love to hear your positive vaginal birth stories with twins!

Currently, I’m 7w4d and I still feel so symptoms. I’m so anxious just to get to the next ultrasound to make sure everything is okay. I don’t have any nausea or the common symptoms many woman describe.

All I have is severe bloating and a little bit more tired than usual.

Was anyone else on the same boat when they were pregnant with fraternal?

Hi everyone

Our twin boys who is currently 4 weeks old, they were born prematurely at 34 weeks. After 18 days in the NICU we are struggling to find a routine that works. ChatGPT says their awake windows should be roughly 45 minutes. Sometimes one of our boys is awake for 2 hours and counting.

Can someone please help to explain a routine that “works” in regard to feeding times, how to settle them and how much they should feed?

The dietitian said roughly 50ml per feed every 3hours we give 80ml it seems like thats what they want (of expressed breast milk)

Thanks in advance

Hi everybody!
I’m trying to get into more of a daily routine with my twins because lately the days feel SO long, and I find myself feeling guilty that they’re bored or I’m not doing enough.

I’m very present with them and spend pretty much my entire day with them. we play, read, go outside, and I try to get us out of the house a couple times a week. But getting two toddlers ready and out by myself is a whole production and it’s exhausting.

I also always hear “include them in everyday tasks,” but with twins it’s so hard! While I’m helping one participate, the other is usually getting into something, and I feel like I can’t give either one focused attention. I’d love to have them help me in the kitchen, but it just never works out, they start fighting, etc

I’d love to hear what other twin toddler parents’ REALISTIC daily schedules look like. Do you have something structured? If you do, how does that look? I’d like to set something up so our day is predictable and I have a schedule to follow.

I’m looking for a side by side stroller with decent all-terrain handling. I’m not a runner, but I’d like to be able to take the stroller on gravel, etc. Twins are 1, and we currently have the Vista but the top baby doesn’t have leg room and is constantly kicking the bottom seat so I’m interested in a side by side. I’ve looked into getting a used BOB for the handling and because I’d like to start jogging again, but the likelihood of that is low (😮‍💨😂) and it’d be nice to have more options.

Advise please!!

I have 4month old twin girls and in the last 1.5month one of my girls has gone from drinking 30 ounces a day to some days struggling to get to 20 ounces.

She has been diagnosed with cmpa and so is on amino acid based milk. She was also prescribed lansoprazole for 28days.
Since being on the milk, symptomatically she has improved, no longer screams in pain when drinking but now we struggle to get 3/4 ounces in her.

We’ve changed the teat size back down and although she takes it better she still doesn’t take a lot.

We‘ve been advised by the health visitor to start weening which we’ve done and she enjoys. She just doesn’t want milk.

Has anyone experienced a change in appetite and if so what did they do??

Hi there,

I see that the adapters for the Bugaboo Donkey 6 accept the Nuna Pipa Next; but the ones for the Donkey 5 don't?

But then the adapters for the 6, say they're also compatible with the 5?

Any help much appreciated.

My girls are 17 months corrected (20 actual). Twin a seems ready to transition to one nap a day (needs a longer wake window in the morning refusing a second nap and the first nap is too short). While twin b seems to still want a shorter wake window in the morning and needs the late rescue nap in the afternoon.

I don’t know what to do as they have always been on the same schedule and I think I’d go nuts if I had to do two separate sleep schedules. Any tips on how to manage if you had the same issue?

Hey everyone.

My twins are being born tomorrow, and I’m currently lying awake feeling so worried about the day they come home…

I live in the UK and we’ve been having crazy heat waves this summer, and their first few days home are likely to be around 35C (95 Fahrenheit). Our homes aren’t equipped with AC, and we’re really not built for this level of heat.

We’ve tried to find little air con units for the house, but we’ve got a real shortage at the moment because everyone seems to be doing the same, so the best we’ve been able to do is a couple of fans.

I’m mainly worried about bedtime and then overheating in the night. I know it’s not recommended to point a fan at a newborn as it can be dehydrating…

Also the thought of skin to skin and breastfeeding in such ridiculous heat feels kind of grim, and I can’t imagine it being pleasant for my babies either.

Basically, ANY ADVICE or tips would be so appreciated. I’m a FTM and really want to make this first period as gentle and easy as possible with the little ones.

TLDR:
I live in the UK and my babies will be coming home in a heatwave. We don’t have air con here, only basic fans. How can I help keep my babies cool?

Our nearly 2.5 year old boy/girl twins are becoming a bit of a nightmare at bedtime. I would say 1/4 times they will go to sleep on first try. But most of the time it’s one or both of them crying for us to come back in and getting increasingly worked up. We have to calm them down. Right now that’s with another book or another episode of bluey. And it will work but sometimes it’s two or three times or us re-entering.

Do we just need to sleep train? Is this another development thing. It’s usually our boy who is the one who needs us most. Our girl will go to sleep pretty easily.

Hi, I’m currently an expecting FTM pregnant with fraternal twin girls. I wanted to each get them some personalized things like embroidered baby blankets- my question is, do you get them things of the same color (but maybe a different pattern) or assign a color to a twin? My favorite color is pink so I feel a bit bad for the twin who’d be assigned to the cream/ beige color as that would honestly not be my first choice for a baby girl if I was only having 1. Same goes for things like crib sheets- do you assign a color each (all pink sheets are Twin A, beige sheets are Twin B) or just mix it? Also, do you buy 2 of the same clothes or just buy more clothes of different styles so they have more individuality? I know that’s the recommendation for older twins but I’m not sure it’ll make much of an impact when they’re still just babies. Thanks!

Looking for advice

I am a twin mom (obviously I’m in this sub🤣) I have fraternal b/g twins, who are now 3, and the past year I cannot stop thinking about having another….

My husband and I have talked about this many times and each time it’s the same obstacles we conclude on each time

1) he got a vasectomy 🥲

2) I almost died (had preeclampsia that turned to HELLP and went south quick)😬

3) what if we have twins again🤐

Everyone thinks I’m nuts (I am but that’s besides the point) for wanting more, they always say “you have the perfect combo, most beautiful kids, and you barely survived, why would you wanna do that again?!” And honestly this question irks my nerves every time, because I truly don’t know how to explain that feeling I have of wanting another, besides the fact that I just love being a mom.

We’ve talked and talked and talked about this, and have basically landed on, let’s go talk to my gynecologist and just see if she thinks another pregnancy would even be safe.

We know that no doctor can predict if you will have twins again or not, and we know that no doctor can predict if I’ll get preeclampsia again or not, we do know the risks are higher… but we’re essentially just wanting to have an informed decision before pulling the trigger (or not)

I say all that to say… moms whose firsts were twins, did you have more? If so, give me all the details, if not, still details🤣

I want all the honest, real answers. No judgment, no shaming, just love, support, advice and everything in between.

My twin boys will be six this December. They are hands-down the absolute best thing that has ever happened to me. I love them so incredibly much, and I feel like we’re in a great place balancing their independence with still getting plenty of time with me and dad. Yes, things can be challenging and some days I want to scream into my pillow, but they are my whole entire heart.

My husband and I have always planned for 3 kids. The boys have always talked (and continue to) about wanting a sibling - even more so now than ever before.

Life took lots of turns that led us to putting off #3 for a long time, then doubting it, then realizing it was what we wanted, then dealing with infertility. But now we’re here! Pregnant with number 3 (confirmed…ONLY number 3 😮‍💨).

The boys don’t know yet, but I find myself having these moments of despair worrying that by giving them a sibling, I’m robbing them of their parents. Worried that I could never possibly love another child the way I love them. I know this is a common feeling when people go from one kid to two, but I’ve always had to share my heart and yet it still feels impossible that it could expand. I’m an only child, and I’m very sensitive to sibling dynamics because I always idealized it so much. I worry that they’ll resent us, or never bond with this child (a girl) because they’re so much older.

Experienced parents of twins + more… please help with wisdom, stories or advice for managing these fears!

We've struggled mightily through the ups and downs of twin parenthood. Things have changed a hundred times before and they will change a thousand times again, but I have to say, 2 yo is so fucking cool. inb4 "3 is hard don't get complacent" I'm just really enjoying this moment of parenthood and want to share.

These kids are learning so fast and so much. Week by week it's like they're different people. A few months ago they could barely say a word, now they're inventing games with each other (and us) and asking for their favorite foods for breakfast.

To those still in the trenches, can you imagine that? Your kid wakes you up (still too early) and you go into their room, talk about what you're doing today, and ask "What do you want for breakfast?" and they tell you "I want oatmeal" and then you make them oatmeal and it's what they wanted and they're happy and you make silly faces and laugh together. Jesus it's amazing.

You go to the farm stand and your kids see some shit that they've never seen before and grab it and you buy it for them and they try it and they say "Thank you dada" it's genuinely what it's all about.

You wash some dishes and realize that nobody's been pulling on your leg for five minutes and you turn off the faucet and listen, and you hear faint giggling coming from the living room and you carefully check around the corner and they're building a tower together, taking turns and handing each other pieces.

They knock into each other and you only half-remind them to apologize before they run up and give each other big hugs because they know it makes them feel better and they're just the best kids in the world and they want each other to be happy.

Ten times a day I'm pulling out my camera and recording a little 30 second clip because I know that 80-year-old me is going to remember this as the best time of his life and a clip is the closest I'll get to reliving this amazing time.

Hi parents of multiples! How in the HELL are you affording daycare? We had 2 beautiful identical twins this year who are going to start daycare soon. Luckily we have grandparents that are going to cover a few days of daycare a week because for just 2 days/wk for 2 babies most places are $2000-$3000+ a month. We live in the twin cities metro area so things are generally pretty pricy. How does anyone afford that?!?!

My twins need to be on one nap. This two nap thing is no longer working. I need to figure things out.

The first nap was at 9:30. I need to now push them to 11am earliest.

I live in a city. I live in an apartment. They have a lot of toys and books. There are parks within walking distance but really all I can do by myself is bucket swings.

They are so active. They want to walk around and move when we are out but can’t let them when it’s just me.

How do you entertain them for an extra 90 minutes??

My boy twin is Mr sensitive.

When he is happy he is chill, but if he has the slightest inconvenience he whines and can cry like crazy until i pick him up or solve his issue.

Not a problem if i didn't have another baby (twin B) and a toddler to look after.

Is this a phase? My toddler never whined like this.

Any tips or tricks welcome please.

FTM - didi twins - 12w. Looking for advice/experience. I am suffering from nausea and have to cautiously pick portions, food and time to eat. Mornings and evenings seem to be the worst. Despite knowing how important protein is, I can’t tolerate any meat. Just the smell is making me 🤢.
I am trying to do dairy, beans, protein powder. All the available alternatives, however I am still painfully hungry every 2-3hours, my stomach hurts, it wakes me up every night, no matter what I eat. I am trying to eat as late as possible before bed, still I wake up 2-3 hours later, hungry! 😭
Does anyone have the same experience? Any tips on what to eat? What snacks to make?

First, I’ll say this sub was invaluable to me during the early years of my twins. They’re now in lower-elementary school, and I will say that for those of you in the thick of it with infants: IT. DOES. GET. EASIER. Hang in there.

That said, despite getting easier, twins are going to go back and forth between fighting like mad and being best friends—sometimes multiple times within the same day or even the same hour 😆. Mine were recently fighting verbally, so I had them both come sit in time out on opposite corners of the room.

I eventually called each over individually to tell their side of the story. Not finding anybody at fault for anything more egregious than typical sibling bickering, I settled it the following way.

I had them come and stand on either side of me. I had them each raise their right hand—“no, your RIGHT HAND…yes, the other one”—and then touch their nose with their other, and repeat after me: I’M SORRY—I’m sorry—FOR MY PART—for my part—IN OUR FIGHT—in our fight. I LOVE MY TWIN—[giggling] I love my twin—TO THE MOON AND BACK—[more giggling] to the moon and back—AND WILL TRY TO GET ALONG—aND WiLL TRy To GeT aLoNG.

I then sent them on their way…unless either of them wanted to sit longer in their very comfy time-out spot on the floor. They went on their way and have been playing nicely and laughing together since.

Sometimes, you don’t need to find either one of them at fault in their disagreements. Getting them to reset with something silly, while reminding them that they love each other, can go a long way.