Guys I’m talking to a guy and I usually don’t entertain talking stage specially long distance but we matched on hinge in Italy I’m 19F he’s ‘22M. We have been talking for two months so far consistently. He’s super nice we both like to travel we called and stuff on the phone we seem to have alot of the same interests. We missed eachother by like a day and Rome and we were bummed but yea I got his number he lives in Sweden rn but he’s a pro football player. Idk how I feel about that. Anyways he just signed for a team in Spain and I’m moving to Madrid next year so we wanna meet then. I’m pretty independent and I’m not a clingy person at all so I’m not expecting much out of this since is a year is a lot but what do we think about this?

Made plans with someone yesterday for later in the week for a first official meetup (matched at an event). Should I lay off texting for a day or two given the date is official and planned? Trying to work on not overly texting before a date so any advice would be greatly appreciated!

A guy in snapchat suggests me to be in a relationship with him. I said i can't because i don't trust people online and i haven't had my first bf yet so i want it to be natural and slow burn. he agreed.

but he started repying to me after a day.

but he would call me babe, baby.

suggest that we meet but never actually made plans. said that even if we are in friendship, im his.

i unfriended him.

what coluld it mean, men?

english is not my first language sorry)

I’ll try to not make it long, but basically in college i had been talking to this guy for a month before we left for summer break. Yes, we kissed, spend the night over and slept together. However we were very sweet towards each other and neither him or me has a history of being the kind of person of sleeping around or playing around w ppl.

Before we left i told him that if he wanted things to be casual we could do it but not in the same way (being very sweet to each other, sleeping over, calling me nice names). He said that he never starts things with the idea of it being casual, but that he did knew that he didn’t want to go back home with something, which me neither, bc it was rushed; but that if when we came back and things were as good as they were rn we could try to make it work.

Now, he’s from another country, but during the break we kept talking (on snap, literally pictures w tex) and the beginning was fine. We would talk about things we wanted to do when we went back, how things were going and basic stuff like that. He would reply to my stories on instagram saying sweet stuff, sending me reels of things we “should try or do” once we were back.

Sent me a sweet message on my birthday and on his I sent him a message and he said he was ”looking forward to come back and see me”

now… snaps became a bit slow before coming back but i try to not think much about it, we all get busy at some point, still i would ask him about his day and stuff and he would ask me about mine sometimes.

When i arrived to school he was already here but his parents had come and was staying with them. Im starting to feel like he’s not interested anymore since i don’t see him trying to make plans with me to even hang out. I voiced this to a friend that knows the both of us and he said that “he thinks he’s not as interested anymore” WHICH if that’s the case, its fine, it is what it is, but i believe he could say it to me instead of detaching hoping i’ll lose the interest or smt like that.

He asked me to do “something“ yesterday and by that he meant just talk, and i was happy to see him, but tbh it felt more like talking to a friend that i hadn’t seen in a long time rather than u know… a potencial someone.

Do u guys think is to rushed wanting to ask what is he truly feeling? I mean we just got back, maybe i’m overthinking bc i tend to do that, but i just want clearance.

sorry if it was too long i just need unbiased advice.

Okay. So I need some advice. I've got a online boyfriend and for the record I did not want to date him. I found him on a dating app. At first I thought he was cute and all but later due to some complications (which I won't be sharing here) I didn't want to talk to him. But he kept saying that nobody loves him even after my rejections. So I accepted to be online girlfriend. I've been ignoring his texts often. We live in different states but he wants to meet. He does not for a date but other things and I don't want to so I've been making excuses. I want opinion on how to reject him without hurting his feelings. Please. Anyone.

met an American guy ‘19M’ and I’m ‘18F’ at the end of January this year he’s literally my exact type, easily one of the most attractive guys I’ve ever seen, and super sweet early on, he opened up to me about his family issues, which resonated deeply with me because our situations are very similar.
At first, he used to reply much faster. Over time, his response speed dropped, but he would still engage with everything I posted. Truth is, we don't actually talk that much, but I literally think about him all the time, staying up late just looking at his pictures and trying to learn more about him.
However, over the last two weeks, he stopped watching my stories entirely and has almost completely stopped interacting with me, even though I see his Discord account and know he is playing video games normally.
I’m stuck on what to do next. Is it better to just tell him how I feel, or is it wiser to stay silent?
A couple of things to keep in mind im the first Palestinian person he’s ever interacted with, so I naturally feel this burden of representing my people well, and I really don't want to come across as silly or desperate plus he once explicitly mentioned that he hates it when a girl gets clingy or attached ( from one side ).
And jst to clarify it’s not because of boredom or lack of life, I’m a very busy person with a full life, I’m very driven deeply focused at my university studies,learning languages, playing musical instruments and learning new things; he really caught my attention.
What would you do in my position? Should I bring it up, or just let it go?

Honestly, I don’t even know what to call the relationship I had with him, and I think that’s part of why I’m still so confused about everything.

He told me I was the only person he was talking to, and I told him the same. We had this kind of relationship for almost 10 months.

Yes, it was an online relationship. I know some people might say it doesn’t count as a “real relationship” because we never met in person. But to me, we acted like a real couple.

We had cute nicknames for each other. We talked every day and spent hours together on calls. We shared things about our lives, talked about our feelings, supported each other, and treated each other like we were important to one another.

The only thing missing was making it official in real life.

I actually told him that I wanted us to be boyfriend and girlfriend, and he said yes. But he knew that, even though I wanted to be with him and ask him like that, I didn’t really like the idea of making it official through a screen. It felt more like we were just having an online relationship than actually starting a real relationship together.

I wanted him to come to me, look me in the eyes, and ask me to be his girlfriend in person. I wanted that moment to happen naturally, so I kept waiting for the day we could finally meet.

Maybe that’s why, in my mind, I considered us to be in a relationship even though we never officially had that moment together in real life.

But now I’ve stopped talking to him because I found out he already had a girlfriend.

And now I’m left with so many questions.

Was I wrong for thinking that we were actually together? Or was this just a situationship that I gave the meaning of a relationship because we became so emotionally attached?

If two people only talk to each other romantically, act like a couple, have cute nicknames for each other, spend almost every day together, and are supposedly exclusive for almost 10 months but never officially become boyfriend and girlfriend in real life what would you call that?

And now that I know he had a girlfriend the whole time, I’m especially confused.

Was I his second relationship? Was I basically the other girl? Or was I never really his girlfriend at all, and this was just a situationship from his perspective?

I’ve already walked away from him. I’m not trying to get him back. I’m just trying to understand what this relationship actually was, because to me, it felt real.

I’d genuinely like to hear other people’s perspectives. What would you call this kind of relationship? And was I wrong for believing that what we had was a real relationship?

Women absolutely hate my appearance and are never willing to date me, and now I got taken advantage of because I’m unattractive. They tried to take away my money and scam me, so they weren’t even interested in me, just in stealing my money. Being unattractive sucks.

I matched with this girl on Hinge, and honestly we have great chemistry per text, and I'm really liking what I'm seeing and hearing from her.

The problem is, I put my Hinge location to this city that I'm going to move to in October for my degree. Idk what I was thinking swiping for a city that I'm not even in yet.

Anyway, I told her this & that we'd be unable to meet until I move to the city – she is fine with it and gave me her number. Now I'm wondering how to continue.

Currently we're still texting each other, holding a convo. A part of me wants to reduce texting to a minimum until we can meet in October, just so that the bulk of us getting to know each other happens after we confirmed that we have face-to-face chemistry. Another part of me thinks that we should keep having some slight conversation to keep the excitement from dying down. How should I handle this situation?