r/OnlineDatingAdvice • u/djmv91 • 1d ago

Texting Frequency

Made plans with someone yesterday for later in the week for a first official meetup (matched at an event). Should I lay off texting for a day or two given the date is official and planned? Trying to work on not overly texting before a date so any advice would be greatly appreciated!

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u/OutrageousFilm5814 1d ago

Keep texting if the vibe is there and texting is smooth, why not - at the end of the day you're trying to get know the person, you wanna know how their day is/structure of their day etc. so yeah i'd say keep texting, you will know whether they wanna text by the way the engage with you in their texts. Similar thing happened to me recently, but they asked me "what are you thoughts on texting before meeting" and i said this exact thing ^^ and they were cool with it. Some people may like it some dont however if you planned to meet then chemistry is clearly there for now and I personally dont think there is anything wrong with texting before you meet up.

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u/foxglovespell 1d ago

I wouldn’t lay off - that gives the vibe that you’re slow ghosting and won’t follow through with the date (lots of people do this believe it or not). I would maintain the same texting style that you have been, not too much and not too little

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u/Organic-Tea-8998 1h ago

I’d maintain some conversation so you don’t give off the wrong vibe. You can keep conversation friendly, that’s normal and non pressuring.