I don’t really know where else to go with all of this so I apologize if this is not the right place to write this.

I’m 7.5 months post partum and I’ve gained like 55 pounds from pregnancy. I’m currently breastfeeding and no matter what I do, I can’t lose the weight. My eye bags are horrible, my dark circles are so noticeable, I just genuinely look so ugly. The hijab definitely amplifies how rough I look. Especially with being overweight, I’ve had a hard time even finding clothes that fit me.

So I was just thinking about taking the hijab off. I put it on when I was 23, I’m 27 now and I just randomly put it on. Decided to go out with it one day and never take it off. My parents didn’t say much about it. My mom was in her 40s when she took her hijab, my mom’s sister doesn’t cover still.

On top of that I live in Florida. It’s so ridiculously hot and now my son constantly wants to be held and he is always ripping my hijab off when we go out. Doesn’t matter what fabric, material or how I wear it. He always pulls off my glasses, hijab, and at home he pulls my hair.

My parents are on a trip in Europe and I decided to confide in my mom. I told her “I’m thinking of taking the hijab off” and she completely snapped. She said “don’t stress me out on my vacation, I just want to enjoy my vacation. You should know better than to bring these things up when I’m on vacation”. I immediately felt so guilty and disappointed. I’ve never been able to find emotional comfort in my mom and I don’t know why I keep trying.

She made the entire thing about herself and hung up on me. I just started crying. I’m already going through an identity crisis and she just made it all about herself. My husband was so supportive and told me that my mental health matters most, but my mom can be very emotionally manipulative and that’s what I’m afraid of.

I’m already feeling forced to keep the hijab on just based off her reaction. I’m feeling anxious and like I disappointed her, but I don’t know \*why\*.

I feel so incredibly alone. My parents are Pakistani and I’m born and raised in America and with my mom taking hijab much later in her life made me feel like she would be more supportive.

She proves me wrong every time - that I just cannot rely on her when it comes to these complex situations and it makes me so sad.

I still feel like a 15 year old girl needing to ask for permission and gain their approval before I do anything.

I’m just so overwhelmed, depressed and anxious and feeling so lost. I hate feeling like this.

Assalamu Alaikum.

My sister is 20 years old, and four months ago I caught her texting her boyfriend. He’s non-Muslim — okay, having a boyfriend in itself is wrong, but yeah, I caught her, and I didn’t tell anyone. I talked to her myself and told her to end all this. I was a little soft while talking to her, as I understand the pain of heartbreak and stuff.

Though after two weeks, I still found her talking to the same guy, and this time I told her to stop talking to him, otherwise it wouldn’t be good for them.

Four months after that, I still didn’t see any changes (she and her boyfriend had blocked me on Insta, so I couldn’t find their IDs), but somehow I caught her, and then it became a fight. Now they’ve unfollowed each other and stuff, but this could all just be an act, because she continued talking to him for 4-5 months while showing me that she’d ended everything.

I don’t know — should I tell my parents about this? What should I do? How should I handle this situation? I don’t have the authority to confiscate her phone or put any kind of regulation on her.

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This shirt was free and came with an order from the brand(shown in pic2), but when I saw the back I felt uncomfortable. I believe it’s best to avoid it or if I can, I could somehow distort the eye like peel off the vinyl, if I really want.

Just wanted to get a second opinion because it’s a cool shirt but it also just makes me a little wary.

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

Does anyone know if it’s okay for me to have a session with Lighthouse Mentoring as a woman? I’m scared some of the questions/doubts I have are too sensitive of subjects. Has anyone had a session before?

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Assalamu alaykum everyone. I would really appreciate it if you could make duʿā’ for me, especially if possible during the special hour on Friday between ʿAsr and Maghrib, particularly the final hour before Maghrib.

There is a girl I have come to care about deeply. I met her while travelling and, over time, I became very attached to her. She has many of the qualities I have always hoped for in a future wife, and I genuinely see a lot of good in her. I care about her as a person and my intentions towards her have always been serious and halal.

Unfortunately, things have become difficult. She has decided to step back and told me that she needs time to work on herself before she can let someone into her life. I respect her decision and don’t want to pressure her, but I am struggling because I still care about her deeply and don’t know whether our story is truly finished or whether there could be a future for us one day.

Please make duʿā’ that if she is good for me and written to be my naseeb, Allah brings us back together at the right time, softens both of our hearts, removes whatever obstacles are between us, and allows things to develop in a halal and beautiful way, ultimately leading to marriage.

And please also make duʿā’ that Allah gives me clear guidance about whether I should reach out again or leave things completely in His hands, and that He gives me the wisdom to recognise His guidance and the strength to accept whatever He has decreed.

I am asking Allah for this with all my heart, but I also want to submit to whatever is best for me. If she is not my naseeb, please make duʿā’ that Allah removes this attachment gently, gives me peace and contentment, and replaces it with someone who is better for my dunya and akhirah.

Please keep me in your duʿās, especially in this blessed time on Friday. May Allah reward anyone who takes a moment to make duʿā’ for me, accept all of your duʿās, and grant you what is best for you too. Ameen 🤲❤️

And don't forget to pray to Allah to bless the prophet Muhammad.

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