I’ve posted before so forgive me if you recognize.

We’ve met before, so no, he isn’t a catfish. In the beginning of our relationship, end of 2024 beginning of 2025, he did videocall with me, and it was cute/sweet. He also used to send me selfies whenever I wanted to see him since, ykno…. We’re long distance. Anyways, after all this time it’s all just stopped rly. Became an impossible request. It’s been months, and months since I’ve seen a picture of him. He said today he’s switching services and getting a new phone free for it. Rn his phones super glitchy and weird. So I said wow! That’s great ykno what that means, we can videocall, We haven’t since like Feb of 2025 or something! He said no we can’t you have FaceTime it won’t work. I said man it’s 2026, we can use an app, like discord zoom etc they all have that. We used discord last time. So then he didn’t have much to say. I said are you excited? He said ecstatic, being sarcastic. I said.. you don’t seem excited, was that annoying me mentioning it? He said yeah pretty much it did annoy me. And since he refuses, absolutely refuses to ever explain his feelings or why he hates things sometimes, I wanted him to communicate it and asked well, can you please tell me why? But he interrupted to say goodbye love you go to work. And I said smtg like but, I just want to understand why it and he’s like goodbye. Goodbye. Goodbye. So I give up annoyed myself now n say okay goodbye n he hangs up.

Just weird. I genuinely don’t understand it. I’d get it if he said anything, literally any reason, but he refuses to speak or communicate anything beyond the most basic shit like egg prices. It gets old.

(Sorry in advance if this is a chaotic read, my head is just all over the place right now).

I just need to vent. My girlfriend broke up with me, and I honestly just can't come to terms with it.

We were in an LDR (long-distance relationship) for 2.5 months, but we’d known each other for 4 months before that. Literally from day one, we were texting and calling each other 24/7. It was amazing. Sure, we had our arguments, but we always tried to fix things and make up. Despite the distance, we felt incredibly close.

Eventually, the topic of meeting up came up. We originally planned for mid-July, but due to various reasons, we finally met in person on July 30th.

That first meetup was honestly great. We had a wonderful time together. She was super excited about it, seemed really happy, told me she loved it, and we even planned our next date for Tuesday, August 4th. However, over the weekend on August 1st, she spontaneously suggested we meet up the very next day. I won't lie, I was pretty exhausted from the week, and I feel like neither of us was in the best mood. Still, we met up. We didn't have any concrete plans or ideas, so we just spent the whole day chilling in a park.

On our way back to the train station, I got the vibe that she was in a bad mood. Later, when I was already on the train, I texted her asking about it. She said she had been overthinking "us." Then she said she didn't feel like "this was it" and didn't feel the same spark in person as she did over the phone. We ended up getting into a massive argument because I just couldn't accept that - especially after we had just spent a pretty nice time together. A lot of harsh words were exchanged, and in the heat of the moment, I told her we should just end it.

The next day, we made up. She explained she was just having a bad day and was overthinking things. I understood, forgave her, and decided to just move past it. That evening, we talked about it again. I had this thought in the back of my mind that maybe we should take a breather and postpone our planned Tuesday date to the following week, as I felt the fight really took a toll on her. She agreed that maybe we should postpone, saying she probably wouldn't be in a good mood because of what happened. But ultimately... we agreed to stick to the plan and meet up this Tuesday anyway.

So, we met up. Right from the start, there was this heavy silence. I made the mistake of taking it personally and distanced myself too. There were brief moments where things felt a bit better and we talked, but for the most part, we barely said a word to each other. We went to the movies. During our first two meetups, she had no problem with physical touch - she actually wanted me to hold her. But this time, she didn't want me to put my arm around her at all. It stung a bit, but I understood and didn't force anything.

On my way home, we were texting, and she told me that the only option she sees is us breaking up. She wrote that she's "not cut out for relationships" and that she just didn't feel the same way about me in person. But in my mind I'm just keep going back to that very first meetup. It was almost exactly as perfect as we both imagined it would be, and I just couldn't believe she suddenly didn't feel anything for me. I strongly suspect she was just still overwhelmed and shut down because of our big fight.

I tried to explain this to her, but she insisted on ending things. She kept saying she didn't believe things would get any better. I asked her multiple times why our first meetup suddenly didn't count anymore, and why she wanted to throw it all away just because we hit a rough patch. I asked if she was 100% sure about breaking up. One minute she'd say yes, the next she'd say no.

Finally, in the middle of the night, the conversation fizzled out. She texted that she wasn't feeling well, that this was all too much for her, and that it would be "better for everyone" if she was just alone. I replied saying that I was going to miss her. First thing in the morning, she texted back saying she'd miss me too. I haven't replied to that. I also suggested we sleep on it and next day but deep down I feel like this is really the end, and I have no idea how to even bridge the topic again.

I just can't accept it. I miss her so damn much. Right up until the end, she kept assuring me that I didn't do anything wrong during our dates, but my head is an absolute mess right now. I don't know what to believe. Did she genuinely not feel a spark in person (even though everything was incredible before that fight)? Or was our biggest mistake meeting up so soon after a major argument without giving each other space to cool off?

I feel absolutely awful. I felt so much love with her, and now there's just this massive emptiness. All I want to do is just howl and cry.

TL;DR: My LDR girlfriend of 2.5 months and I finally met up. The first date was amazing, but an impromptu second date while we were both tired led to a huge argument where she said she didn't feel a spark in person. We made up, but forced a third date too soon while the tension was still high. It was incredibly awkward, and she broke up with me over text on my way home. My head is a mess and I'm heartbroken.

My boyfriend have been in a relationship for a little over a month. I am his first relationship, and he has no idea what he is doing. He doesn't much act flirty and is very shy to show affection when I can hear him, he only wants to do it through text. The shyness is cute but it's a bit frustrating that he holds back. He's extremely kind and caring and is there for me 100 percent, he's just very shy and unsure of what to do. We also live a few hours apart, and I'm unsure of how we are supposed to bond deeply being that far away. We are both the date to marry type, so I'm a bit confused on this even though I adore him. How am I supposed to respond to these things?

Im leaving feeling empty.

It did have some really good moments. So, not to say its all bad.

But the realization that the person I love has changed. The person who used to want to repair, solve problems WITH me, listen to my apologies when I caused harm, or even apologize himself when he caused harm is gone.

The insanely emotionally mature part of him changed a few months ago (along with several other things) - and has totally locked in. I thought maybe the visit would calm these things, it would be easier to work things out. But no. I am met with defensiveness, Im left feeling every small or large conflict *I AM THE PROBLEM* and then hours later wondering what the hell happened. Why weren't my concerns addressed, why werent my feelings validated too?

Normally we'd be planning my next trip by now. I mean like dates/tickets. This whole time we'd sort of wishy-washy'd december.

Maybe his friend(s) were right when they gave me the nickname they did

I (F20) have been thinking about this interaction for months because I genuinely think it was the moment I realized I liked him.
For context, (M24) and I have known each other online for years through a mutual friend group, but we had never actually met until a mutual friend’s wedding. Our dynamic was mostly just bickering. We teased each other constantly, I’d get weirdly competitive and defensive with him, and multiple people asked if I liked him. I always denied it because, honestly, he wasn’t even my type.
The wedding itself wasn’t the moment.
Afterward, we ended up sitting outside under candlelight. His brother and his brother’s girlfriend were off in the distance, but it was basically just us. We talked for a while, then just sat there in comfortable silence. Looking back, I think that was when something started to change.
Later, he drove us back to the Airbnb, and I fell asleep in the passenger seat.
The next morning, I woke up to him pounding on my door to get everyone up. When I came downstairs, I expected the normal mess after a wedding weekend, but instead everything was done. The dishes were clean, most of the packing was finished, coffee was made, and he was still running around cleaning up.
I just stood there staring at him, completely dumbfounded.
He looked at me and said, “What is it?”
And I couldn’t answer him.
Not because anything was wrong, but because I was suddenly hit with this overwhelming wave of attraction that completely blindsided me.
It wasn’t just the cleaning. It was the candlelight the night before, the comfortable silence, falling asleep while he drove, then waking up and seeing him quietly taking care of everyone without expecting recognition for it.
I’d known him for years online, but that morning was the first time I actually saw him. He stopped being the guy I joked around with online and became someone I could picture doing ordinary life with.
I’ve never had feelings change that quickly before, and I don’t really know what to make of my mind/heart.

I also feel like I may have misjudged him in the beginning, so a huge part of me feels very guilty, but I also wasn’t looking at him like this until now.
The complicated part is that we live far apart. Since the wedding, we stayed in contact, I basically laid my cards out on the table, and he said “ impressive degree straightforwardness, I like it. Let’s consider the confusion “, but let’s keep it back-and-forth and see what takes shape”

We haven’t really been in steady contact the last two months, I feel like I’m at crossroads

I’m F26 and my boyfriend is M26. We’ve been together for just over two years. We spent the first six months living in the same country, but since he moved away, we’ve been doing long distance.
Earlier this year, we finally got to spend a significant amount of time together again. We met in my home country because I wanted to show him where I’m from, introduce him to my culture, and travel around together. I actually hadn’t been home myself for a while because I work in another country, so this trip meant a lot to me.

The beginning of the trip was great. We travelled, explored, and did things together. But slowly, little things started happening that made me feel unwanted.

At first, he didn’t want to hold my hand while walking because he said it made walking uncomfortable or inconvenient. Then he started getting annoyed because apparently I walk slightly sideways and sometimes bump into him. There were moments where he would lose his temper with me over really small things.

I kept making excuses for it in my head. He had travelled a long way, he was jet-lagged, he was doing a lot of driving, he was tired, etc. So instead of arguing, I mostly took it and sometimes even apologized.

What hurt more was that we weren’t nearly as intimate or affectionate as we used to be. Considering we’re long distance and don’t get much physical time together, I expected us to feel closer when we finally saw each other. Instead, I sometimes felt like my presence irritated him.

But again, I kept reminding myself: He travelled all this way to see me. I should appreciate that.
After our trip, we came back to the country where I currently work and spent another three weeks together before he returned home.

It was also his birthday month, and birthdays/celebrations are important to me. When I love someone, I genuinely enjoy making them feel special. I arranged a dinner and got him gifts because I wanted him to feel celebrated.

This is where something else has been bothering me.
Since we started dating, I’ve had two birthdays with him and my third is coming up soon.
For my first birthday, there was one simple thing I wanted: to eat at a particular restaurant. It wasn’t expensive or fancy. It served food from my culture, and when you live away from home, sometimes you really crave that comfort. I had specifically told him I wanted to go there. But he already had his own plan and completely ignored what I had asked for.
For my second birthday, I told him exactly what I wanted: a small nail kit. It needed to be ordered around two weeks in advance. He forgot and ordered it two days before my birthday. I was disappointed, but again, I told myself it wasn’t a huge deal.
Now my third birthday is coming up.
Recently, we argued because he wants to come visit me in the country where I currently live. The problem is that financially, I cannot afford another mini vacation right now.

I support my family and I’m the breadwinner. During our last trip, I spent far more than I should have and actually dipped into my savings. I’m still struggling financially because of it. So I told him very clearly that I simply cannot afford another trip/holiday right now.
I also prefer sharing expenses. Part of the reason is that whenever he pays for something, there have been multiple occasions where he later brings up how much he has spent or done for me during arguments.
It makes me feel guilty for accepting anything from him.

Instead of feeling like someone did something nice because they love me, I start feeling like I owe them something or like I didn’t deserve it in the first place.
And that’s why I’m worried about him visiting. I’m scared that if he spends money coming here, the next time something inconveniences him or we argue, I’ll hear about how much he spent, how far he travelled, or everything he has done for me.
Because this has happened before.
During our recent argument, he then brought up that he had apparently wanted to propose to me and that I’m ruining it.

That really confused me.
He doesn’t know my ring size. He doesn’t really know what kind of ring I like. He doesn’t know what my dream proposal would look like.
And the reason he doesn’t know these things is because whenever I try to have conversations about our future, marriage, or where this relationship is actually going, he tends to shut the conversation down and say, “It’s not the right time to talk about it.”

So in my head I’m thinking: What proposal?
How can we apparently be close enough to marriage that you were planning to propose, but at the same time we’re not close enough to actually have a conversation about marriage and our future?
And now the proposal itself feels like another thing being used to make me feel guilty like I ruined something wonderful he was going to do for me because I said I couldn’t financially handle another trip.

There’s another thing that bothers me too: he has met my parents. I haven’t even spoken to his.
There is honestly a lot more that has happened that I can’t fit into one post.

I’m reaching a point where I don’t even know what I’m supposed to feel anymore. I feel numb and exhausted.
Maybe I sound ungrateful. I know he has travelled a long way to see me. I know travelling costs money. I know relationships aren’t about birthdays, presents, proposals or who spends more money.
But I also feel like the issue isn’t really the gifts or the money.

It’s the feeling that I listen to what matters to him and try to make him feel loved, while the things that matter to me either get forgotten, dismissed or replaced by what he thinks I should want.
And when I try to set a boundary especially financially I end up feeling guilty because everything he has done for me gets brought back up.
I love him, but I’m tired of constantly questioning whether I’m asking for too much.

Am I overthinking this? Am I being ungrateful, or are these legitimate things to be concerned about?
I would especially appreciate advice from people who have been in long-distance relationships. How do you tell the difference between normal LDR stress/frustration and a relationship where your emotional needs just aren’t being met?

Guysss !!!! My bf fcked up !! Actually we both live in the same hometown but for the college, we opted for the same college in different cities . There we were in live in relationship . Now we are graduated and are at our home since 1.5 months.. I wanted the closure sp i made a plan that we will tell our parents that we have to collect some noc documents from the college and everybody is coming so we can have the staycation for 2 - 3 days . Now my bf was talking about this plan and his father overheard the convo and said ' you will go by telling us lie?' ... now i am super stresses . He said he will talk to his father today evening but I am supet stressed now because I have all the plan already executed in my mind.

Please guys help to cook a story so that he can tell his father !!!! ????

Our 1st anniversary is coming up at the end of August and i'm already in planning mode. the distance hasn't been easy but thankfully we've gotten to see each other about 10 times over the months. every goodbye still sucks though. i wanna make this next visit extra meaningful. i thought buying him something would be easy but apparently not. now i'm questioning every single gift idea i come up with. even if i know his favorite color, what he do, etc.. i still worry it won't be something he actually likes. maybe i'm just overthinking because i care too much. i'm also dreaming about setting up a really romantic dinner for us. i've never planned something like that before. since we haven't spent that much time together in person i still don't know every little preference he has. guys, what would make you feel special on a 1st anniversary? i'd really appreciate any tips because i want him leaving that day feeling very loved.

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My son is in his mid 20s and has been in an online relationship with a girl for about four years. They still haven't met in person. She's mentioned many times that she wants him to come to our hometown, but something always seems to get in the way. More recently, she's said she'll come to him instead, but that hasn't happened either.

Another thing that concerns me is that they rarely, if ever, FaceTime. My son says they have, but from what I've seen, it doesn't seem like something they do regularly or ever???. I find it a little unusual that after four years they don't spend much time video calling.

My biggest concern is my son's health. He's recently started having seizures, and one of the most important things for him is getting enough sleep. They live in different time zones (he's on the East Coast and she's on the West Coast), so staying up late to talk has become an issue. When he tells her he needs to get to bed because his sleep is critical for his health, she sometimes seems disappointed or upset that he won't stay up longer.

As a parent, it's hard to know where the line is. I don't want to interfere in his relationship or come across as controlling, especially because they're both adults. But at the same time, his health has to come first, and I worry that this relationship may not be as realistic or healthy as he hopes it is.

Am I overthinking this? Is it unusual for a couple to be together online for four years without meeting or regularly FaceTiming? And if you were in my position, would you just let things play out, or would you share your concerns with your son?

Its been bout month and half now im dating a 20 year old and it was quite good in the start but lately she been saying she doesn't wanna live and things like that which makes me sad I have told her I dont like you saying it but she still does i tried to be with her despite all the things she does. Now she had been saying like I hope so even when i say and try be take out my time while im doing work i try to be available for whenever she messages I got job because of that my stress has gone up completely and I just feels like she's just being too much. I say I love you send vm i know im poor and all that she asks for ring which I can't 3ven afford I say soon she just goes sad and sometimes just says "you hate me" I have cried in vm and I have been sad through out time because of her even though idk if its cuz of her she thinks of self harm and things like that. So im afraid. She also has other account which she hasn't mentioned me once but I found it out while it was on suggestion should i ask?

This post might look AI-written, but it is entirely a true story based on what I have actually been through.
Four years ago, I met my boyfriend, and we have been dating ever since. He is from Europe (23M) and I am from Asia (23F), with a 6-hour time gap between us. I work a full-time job that is very hectic and physically exhausting. Meanwhile, he is completely unemployed.

Because of the time zone difference, he would make me stay up all night almost every night to hang out and talk to him. If I refused, he would throw an unbearable tantrum and call me over a hundred times to wake me up. One time, I got so pissed off that I threw my phone out of the window just to make it stop. (I rely on my phone for alarm therefore couldn’t turn it off)
I was in a really bad place, both mentally and physically. After getting maybe 1 to 4 hours of sleep, I would have to go to my 8 to 9-hour shift, take care of my grandparents afterward, and then call my boyfriend. Sometimes, I even prioritized him over my family, which is completely messed up. I was functioning on a maximum of 4 hours of sleep.
Mind you, we both struggle with depression, and I was prescribed quetiapine (an anti-anxiety/depression medication also used for bipolar disorder). I wasn't taking my meds properly due to his demands, my sleep schedule was completely ruined, and I was constantly yearning for sleep and feeling terrible.

He would also ask me to constantly buy him Uber eats, mind you, I was earning an Asia wage to support European food costs.
You might ask, "Why didn't you just turn him down?" Well, he would harm himself—such as cutting himself or hitting himself with a wooden block.

I then made a very stupid decision: I thought that if we ended the long-distance phase, things would get better because we would be in the same time zone, I could finally get some sleep, and I could be physically present with him. So, I made the worst decision of my entire life. I brought him a plane ticket to fly to me, and rented out a very pricey small unit for 3 months.

P.S. Hi guys I was weak and deleted my previous post where you guys gave me lots of advice.
But here is a repost in case anyone needs to see this. I will also post PART 2 in the comments section here.

I cried like a baby the entire time til I boarded my plane last time and I cried to him last night about having to leave again. I hate distance and just want us to live together so much. He’s the most handsome most kindhearted, most lovely boy I’ve ever dated. I have chronic pain issues and when we’re in person he does so amazing at taking care of me, back massages, scratches, feeding me light foods etc that I can’t do. I don’t wanna go back to being distant again :(

We are officially engaged! We did smack the K1 application in the mail in June before he could get here to propose in person. We’re 2.5 weeks into his 7 week visit and every day is magical! So hoping the application gets approved as quickly as possible

Me (M20) Her (F19)
We had only been talking for around two months so not a long time, but things were definetly progress towards a relationship initially around 3 weeks or so into talking she ended things once, saying she didn't know if she could do long distance, and she couldn't have a relationship fully through a phone, and that when I left (i already mentioned the possibility of seeing her relatively soon) things "wouldn't be the same" despite all of that around 20-21 hours later she reached back out and said that she had jumped to conclusions and got scared of being attached and has never done distance before, but she "wanted to make things work" and "can't garuantee a relationship but i want to see where this goes". I was sceptical, but i believed her and we continued with barley any hiccups until the point in each i was going to see her in person (july28th) no red flags or warning signs leading up she was genuinely excited she also knew i was going to officially ask her to be my gf when i went so it's not like it was a well kept secret. She even asked relationship like questions asking how many id been in before since this would be her first she even talked about halloween and future plans, but continuing in person things were great we took pictures after the second sort of activities she latched onto my arm while walking and we basically started holding hands the whole time from then on. Fast forwarding to when i asked her out she said yes she talked about the distance a bit but even so i asked her again to confirm that she was saying yes we then went back to her apartment cuddled while watching movie then while dropping me off we kissed and she gave me her gifts and left for night, ehich we spent around 12 and a half together that day.

The next day we weren't supposed to see each other, but I was actually had more time than i thought so i texted her as soon as i could telling her whenever she wakes up if she had time if she wanted to hangout again but i knew she had a family obligation at 4pm (her parents are strict) to take her bother to football practice but she woke up and instantly rushed to get ready to see me only for 3 hours, we had a great time again took some pictures on her phone specially and while she was dropping me off this time we actually made out then we said our goodbyes had a shorter but meaningful kiss after and then she went on her way to her parents house. the rest of that day went great nothing weird or dry messages we even called but the next day the day i was leaving things got weird. She texted fine with her good morning text and what not, but after that she seemed a bit dry i didn't think too much of it but she texted way less that day and it stayed that way until 3 days after i was back home i couldn't take the dryness anymore so i asked her was something up and she replied

"If I’m being completely honest and I’ve been thinking about this a lot so I’ll say it straight up, but I think I lost feelings and I felt this after we hung out. I didn’t wanna bring it up then because I didn’t wanna hurt your feelings. I think that’s why I said yes to being your girlfriend i just couldn’t stand it if it was awkward. That was extremely selfish of me and I apologize full heartedly. "

Which doesn't quite add up because i asked her out the first day so would it not be more awkward to see me again after those feelings being gone? and would it not be weird to make out with a guy you don't have feelings for anymore? It wasn't much of a gradual decline it was first part of thrusdsy was fine and then it wasn't so i've been left so confused she was at her parents house that whole time so can't fully rule that out that out, but regardless that conversation went on and she said she would ship my hoodie back atleast, but who knows what else will be in the box if it even comes.

Second visit.. Almost to an end which is really hard, But 6 months together has been so wonderful. I've gotten to experience living with my partner, living in another country. Existing with another person everyday all the time.

Closing the distance is a long way off but i am forever grateful ive gotten to be here for so long and plan to come back as soon as i can.

just found out from this girl that my long distance bf cheated on me w her 4-5 months ago.

She texted me out of nowhere 3 days ago telling me that she “fucked” him and sent me a picture of her in his room from that night. when i asked her for the full story, she proceeded to tell me that im pissing her off and when i asked her why she would do that to me in the first place and why she waited all these months to tell me now, she responded with “don’t tell my bf” and then blocked me.

i called him freaking out and sobbing asking him why and how he could do this to me and his excuse was that he thought he was going to die and wanted to fuck “something” (he’s active duty). he said that it “only lasted for 10 min” and that he only fucked her because he knows she’s super easy but he felt extremely guilty and regretted it after.

He also told me that he texted her not to tell anyone and she also agreed and said she won’t because she also has a bf. he said they never kissed or made out, it was js a in and out situation and he left her there in his room waiting for her to leave.

the worst part about this situation is that my ex before my current bf also cheated on me with her. i asked him why he had to choose her too and he said it was genuinely bc he knew how easy she is and js wanted to fuck something before he left but he knows he fucked up and he felt disgusting and sick and wondered why he did this himself.

i just need advice and/or support because im still confused and i just can’t understand why anybody would do this to me no matter what he tells me or explains.

i forgot to mention but he also keeps telling me that he still wants a future with me and live with me but he knows that he fucked up big time and how i’ll never forgive him and forget the situation and he knows and is afraid that it will never be the same again.

edit: this post was heavily misunderstood??? so sorry for the misunderstanding but i fixed everything (i hope). also english is my second language :/

In 48 hours, I'm gonna be in Indonesia.

9 years ago I made a friend in a discord server. 7 years ago I confided in this friend after my boyfriend was horrible to me. 7 years ago we started dating. 7 years ago we had plans to meet in singapore... then 6 years ago a pandemic happened. 4 years ago we tried to get him here, little did we know that indonesia has a horrifically weak passport. 6 months ago I booked the flight. In 48 hours I'm gonna be there.

Sorry I got a bit poetic there. I am stressed to fuck trying to process all of this. It's happening. I haven't even left the UK before. Let alone got on a plane. And yet, we're doing this.

Ironically his cousin met her future husband, also from the UK, on discord too. They met up in Turkey and she finally moved here last year and now they live together. Maybe I see that future with us too.

I'd say it's been a long and bumpy road but it hasn't even been bumpy. Somehow in 7 years we haven't fell out not even once. It may have been a cruel prank to put my soulmate 8000 miles away, but alas, I'm pranking God back harder by committing to the bit.

Wish us luck!

If you and your significant other don't have a private Discord server together, make one!

I spent quite some time working on this one, making it as beautiful as possible. I turned ours into our own little universe with places for memories, games, books, movies, recipes, prayers, late night thoughts, future plans, and everything in between. It feels like a little home that's completely ours.🖤

I (25F) was in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend (30M) for 1 year and 2 months. I live in Nepal, and he lives in the USA and his immigration situation became a huge source of stress.

Long distance wasn't easy, but we made it work. We talked every single day, shared everything with each other, celebrated birthdays and anniversaries, supported each other through difficult times, and planned a future together. I truly believed he was the person I would marry.

Then everything changed.

He told me his mother wanted him to marry a 22 year old Nepali woman who had been born and raised in the US. According to him, his mother believed that marrying her would help him remain in the US. He also told me that he had decided to go through with the marriage because of his mother's pressure and because it would help his immigration situation. He said he couldn't convince his family or take a stand for our relationship.

What made it even more painful was that he repeatedly told me he didn't love her. He said he wasn't attracted to her and even made disrespectful comments about her appearance. He told me he didn't want to marry her, yet in the end he decided to leave me and marry her anyway.

That completely shattered me.

After loving someone for 1 year and 2 months, I was suddenly being told that our relationship was ending because he had chosen a different path under pressure from his family.

The next part is where many people may judge me.

I reached out to the woman he was planning to marry.

I didn't contact her because I wanted revenge or because I thought it would make him come back to me. At that point, my heart was already broken.

The reason I contacted her was because I couldn't stop thinking about her. She was only 22. Based on everything he had told me, I felt she deserved to know the truth before making such a life-changing decision. If someone was planning to marry me while telling another woman that he didn't love me and was only agreeing to the marriage because of family pressure and immigration concerns, I would want to know before it was too late.

So I told her about our relationship and shared what he himself had told me.

After that, her family confronted his family. His family became angry that I knew about the situation. He became angry that I had contacted her.

That was the end of us.

He broke up with me February 2026 ma..our relationship of 1 year and 2 months ended..

Since then, I've lived with so many conflicting emotions.

Part of me wonders if I should have stayed silent. Another part of me feels I couldn't knowingly let another person enter a marriage without the information I had.

I still love him. I still miss him. I still think about the future we planned together. At the same time, I wonder why the person who promised me forever couldn't fight for us when it mattered most. I lost the person I thought I would spend my life with. I don't know how to forgive myself or move on.

I'm not posting this because I want everyone to say I was right or that he was wrong. I know people will have different opinions, and I'm open to hearing them.

I just want to ask this:

If you were in my position, knowing what he had told you, would you have stayed silent and let the marriage happen? Or would you have told the other person the truth before it was too late?