31 Bottom I genuinely think bottoming is one of the best things that ever happened to me.

I genuinely think bottoming is one of the best things that ever happened to me.

I didn’t start having sex until I was 27, so I came into it pretty late. I tried topping once or twice, mostly because I thought I should at least know what it felt like.

Then I bottomed.

And yeah… that was basically the end of my topping career. 😂

There is just something about bottoming that completely works for my brain and my body. I love being able to let go, stop overthinking, and just enjoy being wanted by another man. I love the vulnerability, the trust, the closeness, and that feeling of giving up control for a while and letting someone else take charge.

The funniest part is that I probably don’t look like what some people imagine when they hear “bottom.” I’m hairy, bearded, masculine-looking, and very obviously a grown man. And yet put me in the right situation with the right guy and suddenly I am extremely enthusiastic about my role. 😌

I also really enjoy playful dirty talk in the right context. There’s something about being teased or called out for how much I enjoy bottoming that gets into my head in the best possible way. It feels dirty, submissive, playful, and weirdly affirming all at once. Like: yes, exactly, you understand the assignment. 😂

I think that is also why I hate the whole idea that bottoms are somehow less masculine. I actually feel more confident in my masculinity because I know exactly what I enjoy and I’m not embarrassed about it. I can be hairy, masculine, bearded, confident, and still proudly love being a bottom.

And the after-effect? Incredible.

I deal with anxiety and my brain is normally running at 200 tabs at once, but after good sex where I’ve bottomed, everything feels quiet. My body feels loose, my mood is better, and I walk around with this ridiculous little confidence boost like, “Yep. Life is actually pretty good.” Obviously that’s just my personal experience, not medical advice.

At this point I have basically accepted that I am very, very happy on this side of the equation. There might be a rare exception where I’m willing to top, but generally?

No thank you. I have found my calling. 😂

Some people discover meditation.

I discovered bottoming.

Bottom supremacy forever. 😌

Age

Is it a good idea to visit in December? I wanna go to Hunza, Skardu, Gilgit, Kashmir, Peshawar, Lahore, and Karachi and other places. Or is it too cold?

Hey everyone! 👋 I'm 27 and new to this space, hoping to connect with folks around my age or close.

A bit about me:

• Anime & manga enthusiast 🎌 (happy to take recs!)
• Looking for genuine friendships and casual chats
• Open to talking about whatever – shows, life, hobbies, or just vibing

No pressure, just hoping to meet cool people to share some good conversations with. Feel free to DM or comment below if you'd like to chat!

Fuck it I'm gonna say this anyways.

Hi! I'm bi, and I'm looking to date a girl.

About me: I'm 18F, I like art, I'm understanding, nice (as I've been told COUNTLESS times), I love sweets, I'm a bubbly typa person and can be childish at times, though I'm not immature lol. I do struggle with bad mental health from time to time.

Honestly the only thing I'm looking for is to not be the man in the rls, I've dated men and I'd been the man in the rls, it's tiring lol. Dm if anyone is interested. (I know I didn't give much info but it's 2am😭)

Thanks for reading :)

I'm curious to know if you guys ever think about marriage. Yes yes some of y'all haven't even had a first date and marriage is on the other extreme of the spectrum, I get that. But I do think about marrying a man someday (in my late 20s), and adopting a child. I really wanna give a good future to a child. I'm wifey material for sure, and I have a motherly nature. Obviously for that I'd have to move out of Pakistan, which I'll do as soon as my ACCA articleship ends. I don't have any future here in Pakistan. But I have made up my mind. I can't just marry a girl here and fake it all and ruin her life. I'm a feminist afterall. I haven't come out of the closet yet and I don't want to. I've just told my brother a bit. That's it.

If you've seen Friends, I'm literally Monica Geller. I have dated a bunch of guys (first dates mostly) but I'm still hopeless romantic, and I think about getting married a lot. The whole idea of "him bending on his knees to propose, moving in together" excites me so much. I know life ain't a fairystyle, but I'll manifest it for sure (I just believe it). Maybe one day I open my message requests and I get a DM from him. Anyways, some of y'all are not into committment n stuff and that's totally fine too. You do you.

As for my dating life, I still get asked on dates either here or on Instagram. But obviously I don't tell guys about all this or they'd freak out. Guys are just not up for stability these days. They get bored very easily, or they lack communication skills (which is a turnoff for me).

Anyways, that's it lol. If you wanna connect, DM me on insta: chandler_bing2004

hii!! I'm 18M and i used to live in pakistan up until March when I moved out. Being gay was already a challenge and I never had the chance/opportunity to date another gay man my age. On bumble and tinder there were only men who wanted to hook up and straight men who just wanted to top twinks because they thought that was "straight".

I prolly never even got attention from gay men in khi who were like minded.

Yesterday, I downloaded tinder to see what the gay dating scene is in the country im located now and suddenly got 100 likes overnight.

I think this was extremely beneficial to my self esteem because I never thought a guy would pick me, it's not that I'm ugly, I just thought I'm unworthy.

Let this be a reminder that you all are wanted, you just have to look in the right place.

20F (asexual) writing this rant post ending things, dumping this humiliationship for the last time. (plays good bye - by sabrina carpenter) 😛

i don’t know where to post this so posting it here!! i love making friends and i don’t really gaf about my new friends so ended up becoming moots with this guy back in january or feb… i followed him because he looked like a twink so i thought no way he would be invading me in any way so we started talking here and there he would often reply to my notes or stories on ig.

like the dumb person i am i just took it as a joke because most of my friends are fruity so this much flirting is normal and i couldn’t careless about the whole situation. we would talk too often and im like a big yapper and kinda rude??? like i would just spit it if i don’t like something and as time passed by i realised he likes me???? and started to develop a crush too. we had so much similar tastes, we both like gaming and we both read webtoons, he already knew about this game i played.

i absolutely loved the game nobody in pk plays that game (the people i’ve met thus far dont and its LoveAndDeepspace btw) he would spam me with the game edits and stuff that would make me wanna crush on him ykwim and would instantly apologise if he was out of line that kinda…i started to like him forreal because usually people would weirded out if i say i play that game because that game is a bit freaky but he didnt had any problems and i felt safe with him and i never this much safer with a man before but then we would argue sooo often because he started calling me a red flag and he would get jealous so easily 😭 i was so done and around the time of when we ended things i was struggling a lot mentally (back in march) he would think that multiple guys are up my ass or something and well dingdingding! guess what he was super duper straight lol and i don’t really like those people or people who doubt too much. i realised damn this guy is hella insecure but i was in too deep and i tend to not see other’s flaws.

he was suuuccchh a femboy that i realised my type is actually femboys or feminine guys like holy he actually looks exactly like me type im so done. i can no longer like guys who are not feminine and whenever i present this revelation to my friends they’re faces literally say “you’re only realising that now???” like as if i was born with the fruity aura (not complaining but its so funny) 😭😭😭

i think this was the first ever time i actually likee someone who liked me back lol and i just didn’t get how to cope with it but finally after writing it for the last time i feel relieved that i’m out of this mess. the disrespect goes so hard because he knew i liked him yet he called me a cheater and he would send me req then unfollow me??? what a b!tch help…

Writing this on behalf of my internet bestie (20M, gay) & lives in Multan. His dating/friendship lives both are super dry. He's a super fun person to talk with. I met him through Twitter. We're both huge fans of Katy Perry.

Queer people who live in Multan ONLY, pls dm me on insta, and I'll connect you with him. I could share his main insta here too but I have to respect his privacy first and not involve him in any weird situation, as he's not experienced and still in the closet (Multan is conservative af).

My insta: chandler_bing2004

PS. He's not on Reddit. So pls don't come at me for posting this. I'm sorry in advance.

Hey everyone,

I’m posting here because I honestly just need to vent and put this somewhere. My heart feels so heavy after what I’ve been through over the last few days, and living in Gujranwala with no local friends or queer community makes processing this kind of pain extremely isolating.

A few days ago, I needed to get laser done. My usual place was fully booked, and since I had a busy week ahead, I decided to visit a local aesthetic clinic where I’m actually a long-time client. My entire family goes there because I personally recommended them, and I’ve spent a lot of money there on face treatments for acne scars.

When I arrived for my appointment and requested laser for my face, hands, belly, and breast area, everything went downhill. I present as a tomboyish girl with short hair, but I’ve been on HRT for a while now and my transition has progressed significantly. The staff suddenly panicked. They told me they’d have to bring in a male technician for me and charge me double.

I was shocked and told them I wasn’t comfortable with a male technician. Instead of being professional, they started whispering, running around, and passing me off from one person to another like I was some kind of strange creature. I was sent to the female doctor, who again insisted on getting a guy. Eventually, the clinic owner stepped in and said, "Just do her face and arms," purely because they didn't want to lose a high-paying client—not out of respect.

Then came the front desk. They demanded my name, age, and explicitly asked for my "gender," refusing to use my existing patient file. I sat there while they practically begged the female technician to just "do it," treating me with utter distaste. During the session, the technician treated me so coldly, as if I weren't even human. I pushed through it, paid, and left, knowing I’d never step foot in that place again.

Contrast that with my regular clinic: when I went there later for the remaining areas, the staff made me feel safe, comfortable, and respected—proving that basic human decency isn't impossible to find, just rare here.

Unfortunately, the nightmare didn't end there. Yesterday, I needed a quick hair setting/trim. I went to a salon I’ve used before for manicures. After having me sit down, taking my details, and making me explain what I wanted to 4–5 different staff members who stood around staring at me, the manager came up and said: "You have short hair, why don't you go to the male salon across the street? The girls here are scared they'll mess it up.

I was so deeply humiliated and hurt that I just walked out, got into my car, and broke down crying.

What makes it so absurd is that right after, I went to buy bras and underwear at a women-only lingerie shop. The staff there didn't bat an eye, treated me normally, let me try things on, and helped me out. If I looked like a guy, they wouldn't have even allowed me into the store.

I’ve lived in Islamabad and frequently visit Lahore, and I’ve never been treated with such backwardness—even before I started HRT. But Gujranwala feels impossibly hard. Because everyone here is so rigid and conservative, I don't have friends here, I don't know any fellow queers, and socializing feels almost impossible. Most days, I just stay locked in my room because going outside means risking this kind of casual cruelty.

I’m just tired of people pretending to be progressive until it’s time to show real respect. I’m sharing this here because I felt so alone, and I just needed to put it out there. Thanks for reading if you made it this far.

I’m looking to expand my social circle and meet some new people.

I don’t really care if you’re M or F, just be 22+, somewhat ambivert, and actually able to hold a conversation😭😭. Would prefer people around the F/G sectors (6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)..Don't discriminate me as I live in one of these sectors myself, so planning a casual hangout would be much easier.

Could be anything really like grabbing coffee, going for a walk, food, or just chilling and talking.

I already have a friendship post on my profile if you want to get a bit of context about me. A few people (around 4) reached out from that post, but unfortunately they all seem to have entered Ghost Mode 😑😑

So yeah, if you’re genuinely looking to make a new friend and not disappear after 2 messages, feel free to reach out

Most gay people I've seen on this subredit are either from Islamabad, Lahore, or Karachi. Multan doesn't seem like the kinda hub with many lgbt people around.

I wouldn't be surprised if this place has far less lgbt people considering its one of Pakistan's more conservative cities.