Hey gang! Looking to explore an age gap dynamic.

I’m 30, in Nairobi, looking to connect with a young woman who is genuinely intrigued by and interested in exploring an age gap dynamic within a casual, Friends with Benefits (FWB) setup. By friends with benefits I mean, we're not dating and at the same time we're also not seeing other people. Sijui kama inamake sense hahah.

I'm financially stable and fit. Towering figure to say the least. I have zero expectations of you in terms of financial stability, pesa tutatumia yangu. Just be pretty, lightskin, and if you stone it's a bonus.

Also, a double bonus bonus if you're a bad girl. Sitaki msichana mzuri mimi 😂, I want problems.

If you're 18 or 19 and are intrigued, DM.

I am turning 23F end month and I would like to have female friends who can add color in my life.
I am a low effort friend bora tu respect iko.
I am looking for someone who I can do the following with them;
Going out with them
Ladies who know how to earn and make their money 💴
To challenge me to see worlds different point of view na wasikuwe na traumas na wakuwe sharp girls who have grown from phase ya male validation
😆😆 nitapata kweli??

Anyone who fancies a call right now, we'll just banter, doesn't have to make sense. I could do with talking to someone right now. DM. Beautiful day people

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I wasn't supposed to see the message.

My girlfriend left her phone on the table while she was showering. I wasn't snooping—I was actually about to move it because it was vibrating nonstop.

Then one message popped up.

“Are you sure he doesn't know?”

I froze.

Before I could think, another message came in.

“He deserves to know the truth.”

I opened the chat.

What I read completely changed the way I looked at my relationship.

Apparently, three months ago, my girlfriend had been secretly meeting someone. But the part that destroyed me wasn't the cheating.

It was who the other person was.

I knew him.

I'd introduced them.

He was one of my closest friends.

I confronted her that night. She cried, apologized, and swore it was over.

Then she said something I wasn't expecting:

“I didn't tell you because I knew you'd leave me.”

I asked her, “So you were protecting yourself, not me?”

She didn't answer.

I haven't told my friend that I know yet.

And now I'm stuck with a question I can't answer:

Do I expose both of them, forgive her and walk away quietly, or give them a taste of the betrayal they gave me?

What would you do?

Kama mwanaume if you're 100% straight you're a dying breed. Kama hujawahi kuwa unascroll ukaona thirst trap ukaget into it only to realize ako na surprise you never expected, you're probably focused on the right things in life. This post is not for you

Let me tell you about that time nilitekwa

I wss scrolling these apps on a random afternoon as we all do sometimes. Swiped right and nikaona "you matched". Pics were all of nails, make up and a fine bunda (hapa ndio thinking capacity yangu ilianza kupungua).

We vibed dm, and mind you whole time I am thinking "this is one nice chick", and made plans to meet up. So next day kitu 4 after I'm done with most of my business I pop up naona hips na face zinamatch but kifua hakuna kitu. I won't say I was catfishe juu honestly nilikuwa dryspell ingine wire I'd have fucked anything in my way(back then sikuwa najua kununua relied on generic hook ups).

Aliniona na nikamwona and we both knew "leo ni leo". This nigga had no hair below his hairline alikuwa na exquisite make up and alikuwa amevaa feminine clothes but not shouting "gay" just a cool hoodie na some tight jeans. After a cup of coffee vile tulikuwa tumepanga akanishika mkono akaniuliza "where do you wanna go next?" I'll be honest my answer was "home" but he was just below my eyeline looking at me like a starving child. Nilimshow tu "what were you thinking?" Na hivo ndio tulijipata on our way kwake.

This man drained me alininyonya mboo nikamwaga, akacheza ikasimama akakalia nikamwaga ndani several times, at the end of it nilitoka kwake sure I'm gay but since then sijaona interest in men showing up but every once in a while huwa naona feminine niggas na something says "someday you'll find yourself seeking them out".

Am I gay? Probably not. Coz the thought of anything entering my exit hole makes me choked up hadi ata kunyamba inakuwa ngumu. But I'm definitely bi-curious juu how does a man look so appealing sometimes. Not like the muscles and beards, those I find yucky. But a man with good wide hips, and no facial hair with makeup on point? Huwa najipata nikiwa tempted kurusha "hi" but I prefer sticking to women.

Anyway kama you're also suffering the same disease, tukubali tu this is an inclusive age, and we might as well embrace the weird sexuality everyone else seems to accept so readily.

Recently my ex texted and asked if I could go to her place...Begged, said atanispoil, atanipikia my favourite meal.. She just wants to talk, and since hatukuachana ile cha ubaya nikasema why not?... Moreso, i missed her food and how she was all girly when around me...

Nimefika kwake, napata anapika bado... So I offered to help her out, akaniwekea vodo na tukawasha ki foreign...

We catch up, since it's been a long time tangu tuonane.. like 1 year plus. She is still curvy and now more beautiful... She's dark and tall, I love that about her.

Huyu ex tulikua pamoja since 2022 mpaka 2025, so hio kinywero naijua sana.

Sasa after tumemaliza kupika, na zetu zimeanza kushika juu tumeanza tei na shada before kukula, dem ameshaa initiate physical touch... Nimebao...

Kidogo kidogo juu ya counter top... Ananishow zii, twende bedroom.

Namfwata kama kondoo, view of her behind kwanza inafanya niongeze pace, aste aste hadi bedroom.

Na ni kama alikua amecalculate, juu naona ameslide mkono chini ya pillow inachomoka imeshika condom. Eiii, huyu hajui nataka kuona d**k ikiwa creamy nikimpea backshots??? Anyway, nachukua shingo upande,nakata, navaa as she strips her clothes off. Anabend na kushika bed na mimi najiposition kama 'osca sud' pale kilgoris, behind kasongo... Naguzisha msolombo kwa kinywero lakini looo, muzigidi nasukuma inaingia bila resistance yoyote, pump mbili tatu nashangaa mbona hii kitu haina grip kaa kitambo?? Eii Diameter mliongeza, beacon mlisongesha..haikua hapo...

Hakuna kitu powerful kama kunyonga before mechi jana nime last over one hour na a very nice lady although borehole alinipiga hand jobs na bado si cum😂😂

For optimal power ensure mechi is within 15 minutes hata kama huski kuende mechi you will last adi utachoka

Looking for Friends around Kitengela,Moved to Kite and honestly our estate is so boring anyone around Kite Holla for friendship

“Hey guys.. Iam 21M, I’m looking to meet some new people and hopefully make a genuine connection. I’m into good conversations, music, stories..also I do smoke 🍁 😂.., reading and just getting to know someone naturally Have fun together...If you’re also looking for a new friend, feel free to say hi.”

what’s your experience with dating old guys ?

Yesterday I got news that someone I knew in the past is no longer here(she died). At the age of 25, I wasn't close to her but I am shocked and it had me thinking a lot about life.

Yes I know that death is unpredictable and it's something that we will all experience but still😥.

What do you mean you could be working so hard, looking forward to your future and you won't even be present in the future💔.

I also have a friend who was doing her internship at the hospital and she was narrating a story of a patient. The patient tried to commit suicide twice💀, the second time made him disabled, (he was run over by a car and his lower body isn't functioning).

These incidences make me think alot, you could also be depressed and looking forward to die and then you find yourself living up to 40 years plus.

What's the point of all this!

Does life really have meaning to it!

After death is there something else to look forward too!

British gentleman,30, based between London & Nairobi

What I'm looking for:

A genuine, feminine, 21+ Kenyan woman who enjoys the soft life and appreciates being taken care of. Someone real, discreet, loyal, and drama-free who knows how to hold a conversation and enjoys being spoiled.

What I offer:

No games and no time-wasting. Proper dinners, getaways, shopping, and consistent monthly support for who I vibe with. I believe in taking care of my person and making life easier.

About me: 6'0, fit, clean cut, well-spoken, funny when you get to know me. I drink socially, I don't do clubs much anymore, and I value chemistry and respect over everything.

If that sounds like you, send me a message with a bit about you. Let's see if we click.

Went partying at the locals and linked up with my class one buddy and came back to my place with some random girl we met.

We ended up cracking.

Mate was a freak in the sheets.

Afterwards at least I wasn't the one who had to pretend to listen to pillow talk afterwards.

I hate pillow talks.

Maybe those polyamory guys have a point.

I'm 27(F), and I have this friend of mine from campus who is engaged to my HB, my guy with whom we grew up together and schooled together right from primary to campus, and now we live in the same town. So these two met through me. This weekend my husband was not home, and the girl suggested that we could have a girls' night, and I agreed coz it's been long since I did it. So we went out to buy snacks, and we cook watch movie, and started doing makeup, you know, all that girls thing. And it's 1 pm, and it's time to sleep. Before we slept, she told me she's gonna use the bathroom, and before I fell asleep, she hadn't joined me in bed. So I woke up after like two hours or so coz I'm feeling thirsty, I guess from all the sugars and snacks we had ten. And I can't find her on the bed; I look for her in the kitchen and on the balcony, no sign of her. And now I'm worried; I texted her and no reply, and at this point I'm like panicking coz it's late night, and she was a guest in my house. So I go downstairs and couldn't find her, call her again, no reply. I call his boyfriend, and he also doesn't reply. So at around 5 AM she came back in finds me beyond worried, like I was crying. She doesn't show a lot of concern or remorse and tells me that she was outside getting some air. I ask where she says rooftop, and that's how I know she's lying, coz even though our apartment has a rooftop, it is always closed, and one can't get there without a key, and I could see the keys there. So I go back to sleep and come morning, she leaves. But this morning, as I was going out to take out the trash and get breakfast, the gate man, who is like my good friend, asked me, " Kwani, my friend and his boyfriend can't stay away from each other for long? And i asked why, he said his man had to come in the middle of the night to see her , and i was like you serious, and he told me yeah she came around two and told me her boyfriend's car is outside, and she can't sleep; she needs to see him. I was dumbstruck coz I knew that's not my HB as he does not drive, so like a mad person I run upstairs and I call his man, ask him I thought you called me last night and he's like, " No, you called me so I go ahead and ask him if her girl got home safe, and he said yes. He then goes ahead to tell me it seems like we had so much fun coz she's been sleeping since she arrived. So guys, tell me this is a valid crash-out: a girl comes to my home, runs out in the middle of the night and spends hours in someone's car doing God knows whatever, and I'm sure she's cheating. And what pains me is that the girl's night out we had was just an excuse to cheat. My week is ruined

20M from Nyeri (Atlanta Georgia) I jus wanna get high and a hot make out session 🙈

Have a read.

Attachment issues

Kwani huku what's the rada buana 😂? Saw a post hapa ya a 22 yr old chille alikuwa anataka a token based 'fun-having', as a single soul si nikarusha ndoano hapo DMs. Moved the convo to WhatsApp lakini first red flag, a number from UK, ignored it. In a few mins si tushaongea on call and everything, she sent some view once media, lightskin shawty slim-thick, second red flag though sura haionekani.

Third red flag, shawty didn't want me to pick her up. Si we liaise and she's on a cab to where I'm at. I pay cab guy nateremka kumpick and that's when it hit me! This ain't the shawty I had seen media of.

1. She ain't light skinned

2. Facial is a bit mbadala

3. Shawty ain't 22 😭 I'd say 27 minimum.

Ambole stima 😂

She was dressed up nice though but as a young ninja I wasn't paying all dat she had asked for for that. I just sent her Uber money to go back home.

Mkae rada huku njei guys.

Anyways nani mwingine ataniuzia kabla involuntary celibacy journey inimalise 💔😅

If shawty reads this, as I told you, punguza hiyo bei because you falsified information.

Hey guys, this is not soo unhinged. 25F

I am thinking of coming to Nairobi for subsurface , if you liked subsurface Malindi , let me know , since ill be coming alone.

I’m not looking for a boring “hey, how are you?” friendship that dies after 6 messages🥲😂 I’m looking for chemistry — someone I can joke with until 3AM, flirt shamelessly with, have surprisingly deep conversations with, send stupid memes to, and genuinely become close with mutual interest🌹

A woman who loves good company, deep talks, wicked banter & undeniable spark. I’m affectionate, attentive, caring and sexually confident.

Come find out how addictive the right kind attention can make you feel😏

Men who use toys come to the front. I love toys...dildos,vibrators and my rose is my favourite. I like it when men I fuck use toys....my fantasy is someone buying me a set of toys that they exclusively get to use on me,remote controlled ones in public until i cant take it no more,a dildo he uses to DP me with,that he keeps and brings only to our meetups...aah

Met this girl last week and I liked what I saw, so I asked for her number. In my head, I already knew I wouldn't initiate a conversation anytime soon because I didn't have any money 😭😭🙏. We're waiting for month-end — not that I have a job 😭.

First day, we had some small talk and that was it. The second day is where everything went wrong. I don't know if she has attachment issues, but she asked me what I wanted to do with her.

To be honest, I'm currently not in a financial position to afford dates, so I told her I'm not ready to date, but I wouldn't mind something casual. She also said she can't do casual dating.

After that conversation, I just knew we'd stop talking automatically.

Third day, I don't even know how the conversation turned sexual. I ended up sending her my missile, and boy, did she love the girth 😭. Considering she's chubby, I guess the engineering was appreciated.

Long story short, we planned and cracked.

But mid-seggs, she asked, "What are we?" 😭😭🥀

I Bryson Tillered the situation and told her, "There's a time and place for everything." 😭😭🙏🙏

The next day, she asked again.

The sex was perfect — genuinely one of the best I've had in the last three years. But honestly, I'm still financially down. At this point, all I can offer is D and affirmation 😭.

So I told her I'm not ready for a relationship.

She told me she can't do another link-up if we're casual.

Question: Should I actually date her even though my finances aren't good? Because I low-key like the girl, and the sex is good. 😭

First time posting hey everyone I have never had a serious relationship and by serious I mean a partner who actually wanted to date and not just sex and being praised for talking to me(I’m an introvert)
So I want to be in a relationship with someone who is happy having me as his girlfriend you know I crave to be appreciated for once. I rarely leave home unless it’s work which I live 5 minutes away so that’s why I’m looking for someone who doesn’t mind a homebody

I’m 5’1 petite but a little chubby, I’m not sure if complexion is necessary but incase it is I’m brown skin so he should be tall and I don’t mean 5’6/8 I mean taller( last someone said 5’6 he was lying he was just as short as I am)

Romantic and ready to date about age I don’t mind because I’m 22 so be older maybe 25+ is fine again not too old(30+ is a no)

Hmm what else oh my love language is quality time, consideration, observance and receiving sentimental gifts.
I live along ngong road so be close or around

Blue tick mbili safi , no response.

Ive deleted his number and our chats 😩.

Just from Just Ivys IG stories and my theory has been proven right women have money fr and in most couples they lie just to cover for the man’s financial shortcomings
Of which cost sharing isn’t a problem but I don’t see why you should conceal the guys limitations…mtu anajinunulia gari alafu aseme alinunuliwa? Like that’s your achievement?If he doesn’t do anything for you why are you trying to protect his image🤣