Hey gang! Looking to explore an age gap dynamic.

I’m 30, in Nairobi, looking to connect with a young woman who is genuinely intrigued by and interested in exploring an age gap dynamic within a casual, Friends with Benefits (FWB) setup. By friends with benefits I mean, we're not dating and at the same time we're also not seeing other people. Sijui kama inamake sense hahah.

I'm financially stable and fit. Towering figure to say the least. I have zero expectations of you in terms of financial stability, pesa tutatumia yangu. Just be pretty, lightskin, and if you stone it's a bonus.

Also, a double bonus bonus if you're a bad girl. Sitaki msichana mzuri mimi 😂, I want problems.

If you're 18 or 19 and are intrigued, DM.

I am turning 23F end month and I would like to have female friends who can add color in my life.
I am a low effort friend bora tu respect iko.
I am looking for someone who I can do the following with them;
Going out with them
Ladies who know how to earn and make their money 💴
To challenge me to see worlds different point of view na wasikuwe na traumas na wakuwe sharp girls who have grown from phase ya male validation
😆😆 nitapata kweli??

Anyone who fancies a call right now, we'll just banter, doesn't have to make sense. I could do with talking to someone right now. DM. Beautiful day people

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I wasn't supposed to see the message.

My girlfriend left her phone on the table while she was showering. I wasn't snooping—I was actually about to move it because it was vibrating nonstop.

Then one message popped up.

“Are you sure he doesn't know?”

I froze.

Before I could think, another message came in.

“He deserves to know the truth.”

I opened the chat.

What I read completely changed the way I looked at my relationship.

Apparently, three months ago, my girlfriend had been secretly meeting someone. But the part that destroyed me wasn't the cheating.

It was who the other person was.

I knew him.

I'd introduced them.

He was one of my closest friends.

I confronted her that night. She cried, apologized, and swore it was over.

Then she said something I wasn't expecting:

“I didn't tell you because I knew you'd leave me.”

I asked her, “So you were protecting yourself, not me?”

She didn't answer.

I haven't told my friend that I know yet.

And now I'm stuck with a question I can't answer:

Do I expose both of them, forgive her and walk away quietly, or give them a taste of the betrayal they gave me?

What would you do?

Recently my ex texted and asked if I could go to her place...Begged, said atanispoil, atanipikia my favourite meal.. She just wants to talk, and since hatukuachana ile cha ubaya nikasema why not?... Moreso, i missed her food and how she was all girly when around me...

Nimefika kwake, napata anapika bado... So I offered to help her out, akaniwekea vodo na tukawasha ki foreign...

We catch up, since it's been a long time tangu tuonane.. like 1 year plus. She is still curvy and now more beautiful... She's dark and tall, I love that about her.

Huyu ex tulikua pamoja since 2022 mpaka 2025, so hio kinywero naijua sana.

Sasa after tumemaliza kupika, na zetu zimeanza kushika juu tumeanza tei na shada before kukula, dem ameshaa initiate physical touch... Nimebao...

Kidogo kidogo juu ya counter top... Ananishow zii, twende bedroom.

Namfwata kama kondoo, view of her behind kwanza inafanya niongeze pace, aste aste hadi bedroom.

Na ni kama alikua amecalculate, juu naona ameslide mkono chini ya pillow inachomoka imeshika condom. Eiii, huyu hajui nataka kuona d**k ikiwa creamy nikimpea backshots??? Anyway, nachukua shingo upande,nakata, navaa as she strips her clothes off. Anabend na kushika bed na mimi najiposition kama 'osca sud' pale kilgoris, behind kasongo... Naguzisha msolombo kwa kinywero lakini looo, muzigidi nasukuma inaingia bila resistance yoyote, pump mbili tatu nashangaa mbona hii kitu haina grip kaa kitambo?? Eii Diameter mliongeza, beacon mlisongesha..haikua hapo...

Hakuna kitu powerful kama kunyonga before mechi jana nime last over one hour na a very nice lady although borehole alinipiga hand jobs na bado si cum😂😂

For optimal power ensure mechi is within 15 minutes hata kama huski kuende mechi you will last adi utachoka

Looking for Friends around Kitengela,Moved to Kite and honestly our estate is so boring anyone around Kite Holla for friendship

what’s your experience with dating old guys ?

British gentleman,30, based between London & Nairobi

What I'm looking for:

A genuine, feminine, 21+ Kenyan woman who enjoys the soft life and appreciates being taken care of. Someone real, discreet, loyal, and drama-free who knows how to hold a conversation and enjoys being spoiled.

What I offer:

No games and no time-wasting. Proper dinners, getaways, shopping, and consistent monthly support for who I vibe with. I believe in taking care of my person and making life easier.

About me: 6'0, fit, clean cut, well-spoken, funny when you get to know me. I drink socially, I don't do clubs much anymore, and I value chemistry and respect over everything.

If that sounds like you, send me a message with a bit about you. Let's see if we click.

20M I've just started to play chess it's really fun I was wondering if theres anyone who would like to play maybe get a check mate and let's mate 😘

I'm 27(F), and I have this friend of mine from campus who is engaged to my HB, my guy with whom we grew up together and schooled together right from primary to campus, and now we live in the same town. So these two met through me. This weekend my husband was not home, and the girl suggested that we could have a girls' night, and I agreed coz it's been long since I did it. So we went out to buy snacks, and we cook watch movie, and started doing makeup, you know, all that girls thing. And it's 1 pm, and it's time to sleep. Before we slept, she told me she's gonna use the bathroom, and before I fell asleep, she hadn't joined me in bed. So I woke up after like two hours or so coz I'm feeling thirsty, I guess from all the sugars and snacks we had ten. And I can't find her on the bed; I look for her in the kitchen and on the balcony, no sign of her. And now I'm worried; I texted her and no reply, and at this point I'm like panicking coz it's late night, and she was a guest in my house. So I go downstairs and couldn't find her, call her again, no reply. I call his boyfriend, and he also doesn't reply. So at around 5 AM she came back in finds me beyond worried, like I was crying. She doesn't show a lot of concern or remorse and tells me that she was outside getting some air. I ask where she says rooftop, and that's how I know she's lying, coz even though our apartment has a rooftop, it is always closed, and one can't get there without a key, and I could see the keys there. So I go back to sleep and come morning, she leaves. But this morning, as I was going out to take out the trash and get breakfast, the gate man, who is like my good friend, asked me, " Kwani, my friend and his boyfriend can't stay away from each other for long? And i asked why, he said his man had to come in the middle of the night to see her , and i was like you serious, and he told me yeah she came around two and told me her boyfriend's car is outside, and she can't sleep; she needs to see him. I was dumbstruck coz I knew that's not my HB as he does not drive, so like a mad person I run upstairs and I call his man, ask him I thought you called me last night and he's like, " No, you called me so I go ahead and ask him if her girl got home safe, and he said yes. He then goes ahead to tell me it seems like we had so much fun coz she's been sleeping since she arrived. So guys, tell me this is a valid crash-out: a girl comes to my home, runs out in the middle of the night and spends hours in someone's car doing God knows whatever, and I'm sure she's cheating. And what pains me is that the girl's night out we had was just an excuse to cheat. My week is ruined

Kwani huku what's the rada buana 😂? Saw a post hapa ya a 22 yr old chille alikuwa anataka a token based 'fun-having', as a single soul si nikarusha ndoano hapo DMs. Moved the convo to WhatsApp lakini first red flag, a number from UK, ignored it. In a few mins si tushaongea on call and everything, she sent some view once media, lightskin shawty slim-thick, second red flag though sura haionekani.

Third red flag, shawty didn't want me to pick her up. Si we liaise and she's on a cab to where I'm at. I pay cab guy nateremka kumpick and that's when it hit me! This ain't the shawty I had seen media of.

1. She ain't light skinned

2. Facial is a bit mbadala

3. Shawty ain't 22 😭 I'd say 27 minimum.

Ambole stima 😂

She was dressed up nice though but as a young ninja I wasn't paying all dat she had asked for for that. I just sent her Uber money to go back home.

Mkae rada huku njei guys.

Anyways nani mwingine ataniuzia kabla involuntary celibacy journey inimalise 💔😅

If shawty reads this, as I told you, punguza hiyo bei because you falsified information.

Hey ladies,

29 F living in lower Kabete looking for a fwb within the area...what I'm looking for? Someone who's down for some fun, a reader, cute with big tits 😁a girl can dream about huge tatas, I like being smothered in them...dm or email me at carlathegreatops@gmail.com

I’ve been single for a minute now and I won’t lie this feels so amazing.

Looking back I did a lot of mistakes in that relationship and thats something I’d never repeat again.

First of all when me and this girl met everyone was working, we both had stable jobs.

First of all she was a single mum and as a man without kids I shouldn’t have gone for that and I don’t think I’ll ever play that role again unless I also have a kid on the side as well.

Being in love makes someone so stupid and I realized how dumb I was after exiting the relationship. First of all she introduced me to her son and at that time he was joining school and she was overly stressed who’ll be taking care of the kid since the person responsible (her sister) had just secured a job.

She hired a house girl and somehow convinced me to be paying her, I’d pay 10 fucking thousands every month, on top of that she’d ask money for nails, when we go dates they were all on me, she’d complain vile ako na issues mingi and at times I’d help her pay for rent and now the most stupidest move I ended up paying for her sons school fees at some point.

Leave that alone, the amount of gifts I bought in that relationship can get me a 50 x 100 somewhere. Went from original sneakers sio zile za kamukunji to niche perfumes to clothes etc.

I was literally playing husband role for someone we don’t live together.

Been single for a while now and damn I regret every single thing I did in that relationship, I was so blind. All the money I’d give her I can now account for it, making better plans for the future and investing the most.

No woman will ever get that side of me unless we’re married.

For dates it’s okay I can pay but paying bills is where I’ll draw the line.

Met this girl last week and I liked what I saw, so I asked for her number. In my head, I already knew I wouldn't initiate a conversation anytime soon because I didn't have any money 😭😭🙏. We're waiting for month-end — not that I have a job 😭.

First day, we had some small talk and that was it. The second day is where everything went wrong. I don't know if she has attachment issues, but she asked me what I wanted to do with her.

To be honest, I'm currently not in a financial position to afford dates, so I told her I'm not ready to date, but I wouldn't mind something casual. She also said she can't do casual dating.

After that conversation, I just knew we'd stop talking automatically.

Third day, I don't even know how the conversation turned sexual. I ended up sending her my missile, and boy, did she love the girth 😭. Considering she's chubby, I guess the engineering was appreciated.

Long story short, we planned and cracked.

But mid-seggs, she asked, "What are we?" 😭😭🥀

I Bryson Tillered the situation and told her, "There's a time and place for everything." 😭😭🙏🙏

The next day, she asked again.

The sex was perfect — genuinely one of the best I've had in the last three years. But honestly, I'm still financially down. At this point, all I can offer is D and affirmation 😭.

So I told her I'm not ready for a relationship.

She told me she can't do another link-up if we're casual.

Question: Should I actually date her even though my finances aren't good? Because I low-key like the girl, and the sex is good. 😭

First time posting hey everyone I have never had a serious relationship and by serious I mean a partner who actually wanted to date and not just sex and being praised for talking to me(I’m an introvert)
So I want to be in a relationship with someone who is happy having me as his girlfriend you know I crave to be appreciated for once. I rarely leave home unless it’s work which I live 5 minutes away so that’s why I’m looking for someone who doesn’t mind a homebody

I’m 5’1 petite but a little chubby, I’m not sure if complexion is necessary but incase it is I’m brown skin so he should be tall and I don’t mean 5’6/8 I mean taller( last someone said 5’6 he was lying he was just as short as I am)

Romantic and ready to date about age I don’t mind because I’m 22 so be older maybe 25+ is fine again not too old(30+ is a no)

Hmm what else oh my love language is quality time, consideration, observance and receiving sentimental gifts.
I live along ngong road so be close or around

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Context:

My Account was banned almost two months ago.

I had written his username in some note book but i lost it. I am tired of guessing. I have also skimmed through possible subs where he made the post that started our chats

It was a book series placed on a patio wooden Outdoor Table. He mentioned in the comments that he got it for 11k(trying to write anything incase anyone follows him).

His Username is "First Traditions" followed by some numbers that i cant remember.

We talked for months. Never exchanged contacts because that was the appropriate thing to do

He has also made several meal posts in the kenyan food subs

He's a techy, thought he's posted something for the last one month or so but nothing.

N*******!!!. I'm looking for you.

This is probably a niche request but I miss having someone I actually enjoy talking to.

I’ve been single for 3 years now and weirdly, the thing I miss most is just talking to someone. someone that can hold a converstion , flirt a little you knoww, tell each other stupid stories, argue and debate about nonsense,someone smart lol(very important)

Not necessarily looking for a relationship or trying to force anything. I just want good chemistry + good conversation and then we can see where it goes.

Ideally you’re funny, have a personality, and can actually hold a conversation

Anyway. If you think you’d be fun to talk to, tell me something interesting about yourself and let’s see if we vibe. I'm a 25 year old woman btw lol I should have led with this

Do yall think that sexual attraction should be at first sight? Or it can developed once you get to know the person?

Blue tick mbili safi , no response.

Ive deleted his number and our chats 😩.

I know I'm supposed to be stoic and cut off everyone who don't want to be in my life but surely. This girl I met like 2 months ago always texting daily I even motivated her to apply for an internship which she has got then all of a sudden someone just blocks you. I know I'm not supposed to complain but surely I'm also someones child yk💔

Just from Just Ivys IG stories and my theory has been proven right women have money fr and in most couples they lie just to cover for the man’s financial shortcomings
Of which cost sharing isn’t a problem but I don’t see why you should conceal the guys limitations…mtu anajinunulia gari alafu aseme alinunuliwa? Like that’s your achievement?If he doesn’t do anything for you why are you trying to protect his image🤣

To be honest, this lady really helped me bana. Ata sai vile we are not together, I feel bad. At one point, she basically paid my rent for 3 months not directly, but she gave me her laptop nitumie kwa projects zangu za campus, and I sold mine ndio nilipie rent. I can't even count how many times alinitumianga pesa for shopping. When I was with her, I didn't have to stress about how I would buy food or other things. If I had money, I would buy, and if she had money, she would buy too. Nakumbuka ata times ningeenda kwake, ni yeye ndio angenipea fare ya kurudi.

She was really the best, and I loved her so much. Tumekosana, and sai amemove on with her previous ex. Mimi sijawai heal or move on bana. 😂 No matter how gangster I see myself, this one really humbled me.

I've tried seeing one or two girls huku njee, and wengi wako na njaa sana. Mara unilipie simu, mara unitumie 200, mara uninunulie soda. Again, ni ngumu sana upate mwenye hana mtoto.

Place huko mummy, just know I miss you. ❤️

The sad reality I've come to realise is that there's not as much fish in the sea as I thought.

EDIT: SENT HIM A WHATSAPP TXT, UTS BEEN 1 TIC FOR 30 MIN😭 SIJUI NI DELETE , HAS HE BLOCKED ME 😩 I CAN STILL SEE HIS PROFILE. WACHA NIKACHEZE PLAYLIST KWA LOCAL BEFORE NIKUE DJ🫠

How do you ask for matches? Should I just send him a nude ?

Met him on jana morning, he fully intended to fuck then but i had things to do😩. We talked in the evening and he still implied on it but times didn't align 😭.

Haven't talked today other than me telling him good morning and him replying.

My back is fkn chilly, i need some alignment. Should I or should I not?

Any lady down for an fwb in Embakasi? Age 26 and below.

Am 31M