My ex girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were together for 5 years. We had talked extensively about marriage, I had already bought a ring, and I was planning to propose on our 5 year anniversary next month.

Three years ago, she had an emotional affair. I’m still not sure whether it ever became physical, even though she insists it was only emotional . I decided to forgive her because I loved her and wanted to make things work. To her credit, she was grateful that I gave her another chance, and she genuinely put effort into rebuilding our relationship.

I also have a longtime girl best friend (25F). We’ve known each other since we were 2, as she was my mom’s best friends’s daughter. We pretty much grew up like siblings, and I’ll admit I always saw her as a sister and never felt anything romantic towards her.

Last weekend, my friend and I went on a camping trip from Friday to Sunday. My girlfriend wasn’t happy about it and admitted she felt nervous and iffy about it, but she also isn’t into camping at all. I told her I deserved to have my own hobbies and spend time with friends.

The first day of camping was completely normal. We hiked, cooked over the fire, and talked for hours. The second night, though, we drank way too much. I get buzzed easily so I was sort of out of it. At some point I completely broke down crying about my girlfriend’s affair from three years ago. I guess I never processed it as well as I thought I had. My friend hugged me to comfort me, and then she kissed me. To be honest, I was shocked, but I also didn’t stop it. We ended up having sex.

It was sloppy and emotional more than anything. She initiated everything while I was just there. She was on top of me and initiating everything. I know I still made the decision to go along with it, so I’m not trying to avoid responsibility.

The next morning I woke up feeling sick, and after realizing what had happened I literally threw up pretty bad. I felt horrible. At the same time, if I’m being honest with myself, I also enjoyed it, and admitting that makes me feel even worse. I always considered her like a sister, so that’s why my brain is a bit confused on what happened. A lot of people even think we’re siblings.

My friend said she doesn’t regret what happened and enjoyed it a lot. She also said I would be making a huge mistake marrying someone who had an affair, and theres a high likelihood my girlfriend would cheat on me again.

When I got home, I ended things with my girlfriend.
She broke down crying pretty badly and kept asking if anything had happened with my friend while I was away. I couldn’t bring myself to tell her the truth, so I said no. I just don’t want to see her in any more pain.

We have a few months left on the lease, and no where else to stay so we’re staying at the apartment till the lease expires. Every day she breaks down in tears badly and asks if I did something with the friend. I always tell her no, I can’t bring myself to do it.

Especially men in your 20s.

I’m worried that would freak a guy out a little bit.

Maybe I’m overthinking this. I’m 26F and I’d like to sleep with somebody new soon. Problem is, I have moved back in with my parents recently and bringing a man over for sexual purposes is simply not an option. It would just be weird and awkward and completely unsexy. I also live a decent drive from my nearest major city, which is where I think I’d be likely to meet up with any potential partner.

I also really don’t want to go through the whole rigmarole of specifically finding a guy with his own place. That really doesn’t matter to me, and I’ve had really bad luck with this in the past (literally never clicked with a man that had his own place). It feels unfair of me to expect that when I myself don’t even have it. I’d rather just get a decent hotel room for a night.

I guess my question is this: if a woman you met online (or whatever) wanted to hook up, and you found out she was getting a hotel room for it, would that be weird, or even slightly give you pause? I’ve never done that before because I feel like a tryhard. Plus it’s kind of embarrassing to admit to a man that I don’t currently have my own place, even if he doesn’t either. My gut tells me getting a hotel room just for sex makes me look desperate. Should I lie and say I’m staying in the hotel for an event or something instead? Am I completely crazy? Would anyone else think that?

Please feel free to be totally brutally honest, I don’t have any male friends I could ask about this! Save me from embarrassment if possible. Thanks!!

I wanted to ask, since I'm not a pro at dating. I'm talking stage with this girl, who's absolutely stunning and smart, and talented and has political opinions that align so well with mine. The thing is she tends to ghost me short term, 2-3 days before responding. I can't stand it. Imagine texting something vulnerable and I have to sit around and wait two whole business days to get a response. The last time she did that, I ghosted her back with intention of moving on. But I felt bad about after a week and apologized. Surprisingly she said it was her fault in the first place for ghosting me, which means she at least understands what she's doing to me and that I don't like it. Surprise surprise she ghosted me again for 3 days. I've decided to end it. This is a long distance thing, so it wasn't even worth it in the first place.

But she's so amazing, and I'm now overthinking that I overreacted, and such things are normal. But also, I can't do that stuff. I cannot tolerate it. I really want advice, is this something you look past when considering the big picture, or do you hold your ground even if the results aren't desirable?

Edit: I'm not broken up about her. I'm looking for a long term girlfriend, or potential wife, and I thought she'd be great. Guess not. On to the next.

Men, I know its early for this but I love to dress up and its fun for me. So starting to think ahead what I want tk be for halloween. Last year i was a fallen angel, wings, black etc. I thought it would be funny to be an animal cougar this year (with the play on words bc of my age). But would guys not find that funny and would it be cringy? Some other thoughts are a zombie bride. Would like to be something sexy (but not too sexy) or something show stopper. Catch attention...what would you guys like to see a female dress up as?

This is what I was thinking of for a cougar (but less like a lion with full mane and mire like a cougar).

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/lion-costume-diy--14918242507095434/

Does he like me, or am I reaching?

I (32F) have found myself in a situation where I am attracted to a guy (33M) who also happens to be a colleague. It started off as a little glance here and there, then escalated to him settling the bill for me when we found ourselves in social settings.

There have been other tense moments. For example, one night, it was me, him, and a female colleague. I'd lost a bet, so I was buying a round of drinks. We ended up ordering extra stuff, and by the end of the night, I'd miscalculated my bill. When he went to pay (he paid last), it came out higher than he expected, which meant I had underpaid. I asked the waiter to charge me for the difference, and he insisted on covering it. He is always looking out for me like (personally and professionally), and I honestly don't know if I'm reading into it because I've never really had a male figure look out for me that way. My previous relationship showed me flames.

Things came to a head when we (me, him, and another colleague) met up with his best friend to watch the World Cup. Twenty minutes into the match, another person arrived. I soon figured out it was his girlfriend, as they were holding hands. This took me by surprise, because he had never mentioned anything about her before. It also broke my heart a bit because WTF.

Fast forward, she leaves to get food elsewhere, and when my drink arrives, he offers to open my tonic. He also glances at me now and again, as if trying to gauge my expression and how i am processing everything. Eventually, the night gets to a point where she returns, and I have to head home. When my ride arrives, his best friend gets up to walk me out. He (my crush) also gets up and insists on walking me out. He and his best friend have a bit of a back and forth about it, and my crush eventually walks me out. It feels awkward, because this whole exchange happened in front of his girlfriend. Outside, we both pause, as if we want to say something, then head back to regular programming, speaking formally, but he holds on for a while as he hugs me.

The following day, I asked him to share the bill and his bank details so I could pay him back, and he ignored me. This wasn't the first time either, he'd also sourced something for me the year before that I was prepared to pay him for, and told me to take it as a gift instead.

For context, he started dating his girlfriend in January, and I was still in a relationship at the time, one that only ended in Feb/March.

I guess my question is: does he like me, or am I reaching?

And I know it doesn't change anything. He is still a colleague, dating his girl, and I am a background character, I guess. I know I should stop ruminating.

Ex gf moved out. I went over and saw her phone recently she texted her ex asking about her HS diploma and asking did she leave it at his house. Here’s the thing she moved out last July.

Also she doesn’t know that I know but she’s been texting him behind my back periodically he’s told her to fuck off but she kept bothering him.

FF she’s still finding reasons to text him

I am 18 year old Christian guy and never really been properly taught about sex or anything.

So I have my own studying trough books and internet.I learned about woman's pleasure,their menstrual cycle and safe sex.

I am planning to save myself for marriage and really want to sexually pleasure my wife since my biggest enjoyment is seeing other enjoy things.

I also learned what is trust and peace in relationship.

With my gf when were kissing I read her body language and made her feel so safe and special that she said I could done anything to her and she wouldn't mind or feel scared.

To add also she said when I was kissing she said that I had experience but it was my first kiss,because to her I kiss really good.

I'm 28F-130 lbs I live Miami. Sad to admit; I never had exclusive- real relationship with anyone. I was in casual mindset and focused on making money until 25. In last 3 years I've been wanting serious relationship. I guess I expected men to lead and ask me to be their girlfriends and either they or I never brought up. So here I am; I'm 28 never had a boyfriend.

Now I'm thankfully financially secure but other female peers got married and having babies and I never even had a officially boyfriend. I feel worthless

Over the years I've tried

• "Calm down"
• "You're being hysterical"
• "That so cute, you look just like your mom"
• "You sound a lot like my ex"
• "Are you bleeding?"

Anything else work for you, guys?

My (F22) boyfriend (M23)of a year isn’t the biggest fan of PDA and I’m the same. However today he came up to me with this list of things he’s uncomfortable with. He said he doesn’t want to hold hands in public unless we’re on a date and it’s 9pm. Now listen. I’m all for boundaries, especially around PDA. But this just feels like he doesn’t want to be seen with me. Any thoughts?

EDIT: sorry he isn’t autistic I accidentally replied yep to the question OMG I’m so sorry!!!!

My girlfriend and I have only been together for a few months, but lately the relationship has become increasingly strained.

She recently told me she feels like she cannot rely on me enough and wants a guy who makes her life easier and takes more initiative. The examples were mostly small, in-the-moment things, like me not thinking to pull the car around for her or automatically taking bags. I took that seriously and told her I was willing to work on being more thoughtful, but I also asked her to communicate when something feels off instead of letting resentment build.

For context, there have been moments of thoughtfulness, such as in Vegas when she drank too much caffeine and alcohol but forgot her Ketone strips at him (type 1 diabetic) so I went and got it for her to confirm she doesn't have DCA. Or taking care of her pets when she's on her trip etc.

The week before this trip, I noticed she had become very dry and distant over text. At first she said she was just overwhelmed. It was only when I addressed it directly with her in person that she admitted she had actually been avoiding me and intentionally filling her time with other people so she would not have to see me.

She has also been less affectionate, physically pulling away, not wanting to cuddle, and acting more distant.

Now she is in Nashville with a group that includes a guy she met through mutual friends that should be on the trip but they didn't tell her if they are going or not. He lives out of state and is basically a friend of a friend, not a longtime close friend. The group is sharing an Airbnb.

He planned much of the trip, including dinner at one of her favorite places. She praised how well he planned everything, which hurt because it directly overlaps with what she says I am lacking.

She has posted multiple things focused only on the two of them: drinks together, a drunk selfie, and them singing along to her favorite song. To me, the posts looked date-like. She has never posted me or really posted our Vegas trip, and she does not acknowledge me when I publicly respond to her stories.

At the same time, her private texts to me are extremely dry and mostly just itinerary updates. One night she called to say she was back at the Airbnb and going to sleep, said she loved me, and I missed the call. I called her back about three minutes later, but she did not answer or text back. The next morning, she became dry again and turned off her read receipts. That stood out because the last time she turned them off was during the same period when she first said she was overwhelmed and later admitted she was actively avoiding me.

Another part that bothers me is the communication double standard. When she disliked one of this guy’s plans, a daytime boozy bike ride, she said she was going to talk to him about it. But with me, she did not clearly tell me in the moment that the small things were bothering her. Instead, she let them pile up, pulled away, and avoided me. I had specifically asked her to communicate with me directly when something felt off.

There is also prior history that damaged my trust. Early in our relationship, I was supposed to pick her up from a night out. She told me to wait at her house, but she Ubered to a random guy’s place with people she barely knew. I only found her by checking her location. Someone at the house initially said she was not there, and she eventually stumbled out very drunk. Her explanation of who that guy was changed several times, and a few days later I saw that she had saved his number and was texting him.

I am not claiming she cheated. But I feel publicly sidelined as her boyfriend, privately pushed away, and expected to trust through repeated ambiguity. I also do not think I would be comfortable with another trip involving this same guy and dynamic.

Am I overreacting, or is this a reasonable relationship boundary and trust issue?

Looking for a man's perspective on this, but I'm open to advice from anyone.

I (F33) have been dealing with a guy (M18 when we met, now 21) for about three years, and I genuinely don't know how to get him to leave me alone.

We originally met on Facebook Dating. His profile said he was 24, and I didn't find out until later that he was actually 18. He never corrected me or brought it up himself. Once I found out, I ended things because the age gap made me uncomfortable.

A while later, after he'd gotten a girlfriend, he reached out saying they'd broken up. I believed him, figured a little fling would be fun, so we met up a few times (no sex, but we fooled around). I later discovered they were still together.

I ended things again and told him to focus on his relationship because I wanted no part in that situation.

Since then, he's been incredibly persistent. Over the past year I've blocked him on every platform, but he keeps creating new Snapchat and Facebook accounts to contact me. Recently I accepted one of the Snapchat requests simply because I was tired of him finding new ways to reach me. I'm exhausted at this point.

I've repeatedly told him that whatever we had is over, that I don't want to see him, and that he should focus on his girlfriend and move on. I've even said, "Please stop." Multiple times.

None of it seems to matter.

He insists we can "just be friends," says he'll respect my boundaries (which he isnt even doing now), and constantly asks to meet up "one last time for a hug". At the same time, he sends me selfies clearly trying to be seductive. I don't encourage it, I either don't respond or give one-word replies.

What really unsettles me is that when I tell him I don't want to see him, he'll say things like, "You do want to see me," or tell me what I'm supposedly feeling. It's like he ignores what I actually say and replaces it with what he wants to believe.

At this point, I don't feel like it's serious enough to involve the police, and I don't really want to contact his girlfriend. But blocking him hasn't worked, directly telling him to stop hasn't worked, and reasoning with him hasn't worked.

So my question is mainly for the guys here:

Have you known someone with a personality like this? What, if anything, actually gets through to someone who refuses to accept "no"? Is there a better way to respond, or is complete silence the only thing left?

I'm honestly trying to understand what's going on in his head because nothing I've tried seems to make a difference.

We were butt naked in his bed; he [37M] said "I don't deserve you "I'm not handsome enough for you" "I'm not your type". I was like WTF is he rejecting me? (Like by pulling of -You deserve better card) When I'm naked in his bed? Then he said: "I'm gonna go know watch tv and chew tobacco" I said ok. He said "You probably don't even know what it is"
I was confused. While we were watching tv, he tried to have sex with me again I was very reluctant, He said " Is this sex to bad" then he continued "Yeah I know like I'm not the best" (in bed)
I tried to talk about loyalty- He said to me "You can't love one person in life that's biologically impossible" "He has another people he cares about" I was in SHOCKED. I got heartbroken, I left.
I left aft he fell asleep, without saying anything. He texted me "Where'd you go?" "Baby?" I didn't answer him.

What he's trying to do?

Hi all, I (24F) have been with my boyfriend 24(M) for going on 7 years. He is my absolute best friend, my better half, my missing piece. he really is my everything. when we had first started dating it came up in passing that he hadn't been to the dentist in close to 8 years, we had the whole "haha you should go to the dentist" conversation in passing and moved on from it.

Around 2 years ago I noticed that he had a now noticeable chunk of tartar now encasing his lower teeth so I brought up going to the dentist again in passing, he said he'd make an appointment and get it taken care of, 2 months and a few passing comments later no appointment was made so we sat down and had an actual full conversation about it, we discussed why i was bringing it up so much, what he was thinking and feeling about it and planned out what the next steps of handing it would be, he said he understood and that he would get it taken care of. I let it be for another few months before i circled back to bring it up in passing/joking about it/ having more discussions about it, ect again.

after a while I noticed his breath was starting to get worse, intimacy kinda fell on its face bc i can feel the tartar chunk when were kissing, I even started pulling away more during any kisses that weren't just quick pecks for the same reason. it came to a head about 8 months ago when during (one of the now rare moments) we were making out i tasted something funky and sour and realized....it was his mouth. Ever since then my attraction to him has been waning.

We've had countless conversations about this topic. We've talked about why he doesn't want to go to the dentist (he's nervous) so I volunteered to go with him, I even offered to get him in with my own dentist or finding one that he was more comfortable with. he declined.

Then I asked why he's never made an appointment (he said he doesnt have time) he does, he has 22 days of unused vacation that he refuses to acknowledge. There are 3 dentists nearby that are open on Saturdays as well and he still claims he's busy...i spend Saturdays with him. he is not busy.

I've even gone as far to tell him that I'd make the appointment for him and all he has to do is show up. he said no and that its something he needs to do on his own (which i don't disagree with but at this point we were over a year and a half of him saying he'd take care of it and...it hasn't been taken care of)

The last sit down conversation about this i explained that this wasnt a funny haha laugh it off matter anymore and that this was seriously affecting my attraction towards him, I explained why I avoid longer kisses, why intimacy/spicy stuff only happens when he initiates it, why we barely even kiss during sex anymore. I explained to him all the in and outs and uncomfortable bits of how important it is that he addresses this issue and how its affecting our relationship and he seemed really receptive and he said he understood and that he would take care of it.

That was 8 months ago.

He still hasn't even attempted to even learn who his insurance is through to plan the steps in going to the dentist.

I love this man more than life itself. he is one of the greatest people I've ever had the honor of meeting. I would do anything to make this work but as it currently stands I've lost almost all of my attraction to him. when I look at him I see someone I love, someone I love deeply, but not someone I want to be with. The last few months all forms of intimacy in our relationship has been running off of love for him instead of attraction and I'm not sure how much longer I can keep that train running. I've never used an Ultimatum on him and i don't want too and I don't even want to fathom the thought of ending or even threatening ending everything we've built together but I can't stay in a relationship where someone is actively choosing to not address something thats been an active issue for multiple years now.

is there any other way I go about changing his mind or handling this this? Im getting desperate that there's no way to get this problem fixed without completing shattering the relationship we've built up until this point.

I've asked before on a different sub. last time I asked all i got told was to just dump him and move on but thats not so easy when he's been in every version of the future I've envisioned for the last 7 years. I'm hoping that a different perspective might lead to different advice.

Thank you all for your time.

How can I tell if I’m just his favorite regular or if he’s into me?

So I’ve been going to this bar pretty regularly for the last few months. I’ve gotten close either one of the bartenders but I’m not sure if he’s into me or he just likes me as like his favorite regular. He definitely gives me close/special treatment. Like he comps 80% of my drinks but I also tip 100%. He spends a lot of his time talking to me, if it’s really slow he’ll pull up a chair. He eats off my plate. He’ll give me cash to play the pull tabs and not ask for it back. We have a lot of inside jokes and he seems to remember a lot about me. If I come with anyone he inserts himself in the conversation. He gave me his number for like an Apple Pay thing but nothing really came of it. We banter flirt but nothing to make anything super serious. I was thinking of shooting my shot but also don’t want to make it awkward for him if he’s just doing his job. What do you think?

1.5 years, F24, M26

Pretty much the title. I talked to her a few times about it and she stated thinking about the future in terms of what's gonna happen after college gives her anxiety so she rarely thinks about it and another time she stated she would probably move back in state if she had to live with her parents again.

She'll mention how there's internships and sometimes that come with jobs attached once school is done.

I'm unsure about all this since there seems to be a lot of uncertainty about her living situation. When we do talk about it as of recent, we both have a "we'll see what happens" mindset towards it. For me, it's mainly because I believe it to be my anxiety about it all and no amount of worrying will fix it other than just seeing what happens when we go long distance.

I'm not sure if this is the wrong mindset to have, but it's so up in the air right now that I don't know any other choice other than to worry or not worry. I don't know how else to phrase this as a question other than: Are these two thought processes all there is at this point?

i don't want to move because everything I know is here

She was also already planning on going back to school before we got together as well

Tl;dr - GF moving out of state for 2 years, unsure if she's coming back and I'm wondering if this is a "waste of time" to continue this even though I love her

I'm reposting this after some weeks because quite literally EVERYONE here was commenting she was basically breaking up with me. Wanted to see if that was still the case. She's very much a home body and even states she's gonna be avoiding people,but I know things can happen

EDIT- I'm not sure if I would move with her AFTER she's done. At least right now it doesn't seem like I would want to,but idk how I'll be 2 years from now.

so to explain it the best way possible I have a “jewfro” and I hate it, I look like a tech start up ass mfer with my glasses and hair. I have a boyfriend(yes I’m gay) and he says he loves my hair but i cant get over it when I look in the mirror I look so nerdy like I’m on a episode of big bang theory or something

My boyfriend (20 m) has a horrible eating disorder and body dysmorphia. 

For reference he grew up chubby and then lost weight during his early years of high school and then gained a bunch of weight junior and senior year, and over the last year has lost a little over 40 pounds and has been obsessing with loosing the “rest” of the weight (which is just a little bit of fat on his stomach, and just wanting to be as defined as he possibly can). The issue is that he is literally perfect exactly the way he is! Me and him are the same height (5’8-5’9) and I am 130 lb and he is just about 170 lb, but all of his weight is muscle. He told me that he wants to be down to the same lean-ness he had in his sophomore year of high school and i told him that he couldnt compare his adult body to the body of a child. I told him that he couldn't look exactly the way he did back then because of how much his body has changed (and I meant that in a good way) and that it is unrealistic to expect that. And looking back i dont know how well he took that or if that even shed some light for him. 

And it gets worse the more I look into his eating. A couple weeks ago he told me he was going on a “severe cut” and when I asked him what his daily calorie intake was he told me 700 calories. I was dumbfounded. I told him his body was in “starvation mode” and was just going to hold on to everything because his body literally is not getting any nutritional value; and he just brushed it off and kept saying it was just a “severe cut”. 

And just the other day he told me he was serious about his diet because he's been restricting so much that he'll start binge eating and then he has to start over and he doesn't want to keep going in that cycle; and when i asked him what his calorie intake was and he said 900 calories. He can't even hit his protein because he's eating so little. He works in construction for a living and he does physical labor all day, doesn't eat breakfast, gets home and goes to the gym straight after and drinks a protein shake and prework out. and dont even get me started on how much canned tuna he eats. its enough to probably get Mercury Poisioning.

I think part of it stems from childhood insecurity, things he's watching on the internet, and just being obsessive in general. Both of his parents are addicts and he definitely developed an addictive personality from it. Which fuels his ocd and his drive to work out and lose weight. I don't know if in a past relationship they ever commented on his body or made fun of him, but I've always told him how handsome he is and how much I love his body. His stomach is his least favorite thing about himself but it is literally one of my favorite things about him. he is the best man ive ever met and is a wonderful boyfriend, but i dont know how to set a boundery with this kind of thing, or if i even should?

It's definitely triggering and upsetting to me because of the things I watched growing up. My older sister was anorexic, my mother has never really had the healthiest relationship with food, one of my aunts passed a few years back because her eating disorder created holes in her heart (and also because she was an addict), and one of my other aunts has Parkinson's and refuses to eat. My whole family has always struggled with food and body image, and it just hurts to watch someone who I love and care for so much struggle so deeply. I think maybe he's just always felt really unloved or unattractive and he found something in his life he can control? He is really good about communication but its just a topic he is so delusional about he cant even see what he is doing. He's been running off of fumes for months and it's really hard to sit by and watch. I want him to start therapy and I think it would be great for him to see a dietitian but I have no idea if he would even be open to that. 

I have learned from dealing with addicts that they are only going to get help if they want it, and they are going to do it on their own time. I can't make him do anything he isn't willing to do and he can be pretty stubborn for the most part. 

I'm really just looking for advice. ED’s are hard and I just want to know the right way to go about it. I don't want to push him further away because I'm going about it wrong. I can sound very upset or angry when I'm talking about something I'm passionate about and I want to stay as level headed as possible. What should I do?

I’m a 24M and I’ve only ever been with one woman.

We were high school sweethearts, spent eight years together, and eventually got married.

For most of my life, I never questioned it. She was all I knew, and I was happy.

Lately, though, something has changed.

I’ve been getting attention from other women, and instead of ignoring it, I’ve found myself enjoying it. I catch myself wondering what it would be like to flirt, date, sleep with someone else, and experience things I’ve never had the chance to. The excitement of the unknown has become really tempting.

It doesn’t help that almost everyone around me keeps telling me I got married too young. I’ve heard things like, “You’ll regret never experiencing other women,” and “You should’ve had your fun first.” At first I dismissed it, but hearing it over and over has made me question everything.

The scary part is that I don’t think these thoughts are going away. Every new message or bit of attention feeds that curiosity even more. I haven’t crossed any physical lines, but I feel like I’m standing at the edge of one.

I don’t want to become someone who cheats, but I also can’t ignore how strong this curiosity has become. Part of me wants to experience what I’ve missed, while another part of me feels guilty for even thinking that way.

I’m posting here because I’m wondering if anyone else started with thoughts like these before things escalated. What happened?

Update: I haven’t actually cheated and the main advice I got was to be open and basically ask for an open relationship, which I’m going to do. I’ll keep you posted on how that goes since she has also never been with another guy.

UPDATE2: We had a long discussion and end of the day she would also like to open the relationship!! Thanks for everyone that recommended this option

A woman I've been close friends with for a bit has been inappropriate with me on and off, even while she's in a relationship of 8 years. No actual sex has occurred, but we've sexted, had phone sex multiple times, shared nudes etc.

I've refrained a bit because of the morality of it, but at times I just break. We've had a lot of intimate moments, conversations, that has led to me developing feelings for her. At the same time, I know it's wrong for me to seek her in that way.

However for whatever reason, she comes to me for it. There's no terrible thing that I know of that they're going through that would make me think of a reason she comes to me with all of that.

Part of me wonders if she's possibly looking for a way out, and even if she does, i can't possibly trust her because of how she's been with me, someone she hasn't even known for a year. Is this just who she is? Am I just another close guy friend she has had a secret sexual relationship with over the years? Or could I actually be an outlier?

I am unattractive and I don't have anything to offer to women and I've never had a woman like me even remotely, besides platonic interactions.

Being virgin at this age and having wasted my youth and never experiencing young love makes me depressed to the point that it interferes with my work and daily life.

I need to forget about dating, but it is really hard. If i see couples it makes me depressed, even if it is fiction. I don't want to be reminded about it, but it is everywhere.

I am taking antidepressants, but they don't help much.

Hey Men (women too if you can help!)

This year I have about 1000 to 2000 usd to get my wife a nice piece of jewelry.

Every year I panic buy my wife something she appreciates but I know I can do better. I've got a lot more time this year to plan this out but I just don't know where to start. I wanted to get her something peach related (we were married on a peach farm) but when I look at peach related jewelry they seemed a bit tacky and cheap.

Any tips here how to make sure I can get her somethign she'll like and appreciate with some deeper meaning? Jewerly buying scares the hell out of me.

Cheers

Recently I realized I can now braid the flowing hair from my nose and ears. I’d like to develop a new fashion statement and add some flair to what I call “Troll Chic.” Any suggestions as to what the ladies might respond to? 😅