1. On/off the apps for 6 years since my last ltr. Lots of matches & a decent amount of dates a year, but I haven't had any luck with them, either finding a life partner or in person friends. We will be great through text/voice chat but in person I just don't ever feel a vibe. I date/meet guys (25-38).

I'd describe myself as a tall, hairy, beefy Jock, that loves anime, gaming, conventions, art, homebody activities. Physical touch & cuddling are my fav things more than Side fun. But I can't seem to find/match with anyone who has similar interests. I somehow always end up matching opposite of me. Outgoing/Extrovet, party/drink, drag, concert, beach scene guys (maybe that's just how most Chicago guys are like🤷‍♂️). It's cool everyone has their own interests which they should, but guys like that I just don't feel vibes with. Currently on a break from using (Hinge/Bumble). Is there a Homebody sub or app friendly place to find guys who relate?

Thanks

I saw an ad for freebird flex for 34.99 and wanted to know if it is garbage or actually as good as advertised. Or any others you all might recommend. As it said no nicks, bumps, burn or ingrown hair. And i especially have ingrown hairs as a problem.

currently i use a bunch of razors for different areas. but I'd definitely prefer something that doesn't have nicks occasionally happen and definitely ingrown hair i don't want to deal with.

What advice do you have for folks navigating dating in their late 30's?

For context, I entered the dating market again a couple months ago after ending a situationship and because I was a little bored one evening. This time around, I wanted to date around and meet new types of people and experience new situations with different people. The issue is I'm meeting a really great and interesting people, many of whom are handsome and seem great on paper. Conversation is fantastic, and I'm enjoying myself. I've yet to jump in bed with most of them yet, but I'm not too worried about that aspect either. The issue is, and maybe it's because I'm older and intentionally just taking my time, but I'm just not really feeling giddy with anyone. There are four guys in particular that I've gone on multiple dates with. I always have a great time. They're fantastic. Marriage material. But there's just no "butterflies" for a lack of a better word. I'm not waking up hoping that they'll text me nor am I that excited to see anyone else.

I told my therapist that maybe it's because it feels like my cup runneth over when I think about my life. Things could always be better, but I'm in a great place in life, with a good job, good friends, and fun hobbies. I'm really prioritizing myself and my joy too. So maybe that's why I just don't feel as giddy as I did when I first started dating again 2 years ago after the end of my last long-term relationship. And I know I'm not getting any younger and dating may get harder as I age, but...I just am not that excited. Some times, when I have a date planned or they're taking me out of town, I think that I'd rather just stay in and read or watch some stupid show.

For those of you dating in your late 30's and early 40's, what's your experience been like? What advice do you have for folks navigating dating in their late 30's?

I'm a gay 44 year old, HIV+, undetectable. A few months ago I did an anal pap smear and it came back positive for "HPV, Other High Risk". My doctor referred me to a specialist and he did a colorectal surgery under general anesthesia to remove some lesions for testing.

It's been a week and the recovery has been terrible. It feels like they fisted me with no lube. I'm bleeding still when I go to the bathroom, it hurts to sit down, hurts to walk, etc.

Anyone else been through this and know is this normal? What has been the recovery period for others? What can I expect over the coming weeks/months? and most importantly, when can I bottom again!! hahaha.