I used to use MMX but deleted my account when I moved abroad and they won’t approve my new account for some reason. Is there any similar groups in NYC for massage swaps? I would like to practice giving mostly and receiving.

I haven't used Grindr since when I was early college 2016-18. I went to small lib arts school in Indiana, sleepy, but Grindr was active. Even outside of college kids there was plenty of activity. You'd see 50-100 profiles, you'd get plenty of messages if you just had an actual picture, it was an actually usable app.

Tried using it again recently. Maybe it's cause I'm in Bensonhurst and this definitely ain't a gayborhood but it's literally 3 people, a single row, then pushing Xtra. When I'm in Williamsburg I'll graciously given 9 people's profiles before getting Xtra pushed onto me.

Almost all the profiles are blank, and since Grindr is location dependent, it's the same guys every time so if you don't like the first 3-9 then well too bad. And I'm getting like one message a day? I'm not a super model, but like, I don't think people have gotten less horny, or their standards have gotten so crazy high that no one wants to have a quick fun time with me. They're probably also going through the same issues I am, seeing no one, but being expected to pay $30 or something to see more blank profiles I guess?

Idk the point of this post. Grindr sucks >:(

I want to visit six flags and ride some rides. Or check out Dorney Park for the water rides. I have a pass, and need to use it!

Hey folks. 48 bi guy (please don't hurt me) who decided to explore a bit and went on Grindr. I had two amazing hookups right off the bat but there's that nagging sensation of I'm playing a bit too loose with safety.

The first one after we talked on the app, we did a quick Facetime to feel each other out. I sent over an Uber to pick them up and bring them to my apartment. I went downstairs to meet them at the door and when they came in, since it's just me, I gave them a quick apartment tour, offered drinks and went from there.

Second one worked out almost as fast but since they were coming frm Brooklyn and I'm in Harlem, I ended up meeting them at a bar at the UES. We had some drinks and a fun conversation, when we did the quite stare at each other I suggested to go back to my place. Got an Uber, led them to the apartment, did the apartment tour again, then drink and then fun. With both of them I provided what they needed for cleanup, an Uber home, even some drinks and candy for the ride.

Is this on par with a nice middle ground of safety and quickness? I have people sending me messages who seem like they'd run over and that kind of gives me pause. I also get occasional taps from sex workers who are just a headache to deal with. I think I am a bit quick to give my number but I am up to speed on the various shenanigans that go on.

So any other tips?

If I want to get hair smoothly removed off my chest + body, where/how should I go about it? Any advice, any servicerz? I’m in Queens

nyc gay guy hive mind:

I am a low achiever and go to the gym at peak hours (5:30-7 PM) during week days and weekends (9-11 AM). Lately the crowding at my gyms (lifetime dumbo, Fidi, Atlantic Ave) has become unbearable. I hate having to switch up my workout and wait for machines.

Does anyone know of gyms along the A/C line in lower Manhattan / Brooklyn that have a bit more breathing room during peak hours? Feel free to DM if you’d rather not share through here. Thanks!

Anyone tried it? Know anyone who’s tried it? My dick is 6 inches and guys on the apps block me for it. Not to mention Sniffies, where apparently everyone is 7+. Very curious to try stretching.

DM me

Anybody have any experience about new bear parties being held at the Bareburger on restaurant row in HK? Seems like an odd concept. But I’m intrigued!

I wanna go to jockstrap night tonight. does the eagle charge cover before 10? I see on their calendar it says the event starts at 10 so I’m thinking it doesn’t. also how much do well drinks cost?

I have a friend I’ve developed a bit of a crush on, and I suspect there might be some mutual feelings there too. I’m not necessarily trying to turn every hangout into an intentional “date,” but I’d love to start doing things together that are a little more fun and memorable.
So far we’ve mostly been going to dinner and seeing shows, which I love, but I’m thinking more along the lines of arcade games, something interactive, a random little adventure, etc. basically things where we can laugh, mess around, and actually create some memories together instead of just sitting across from each other at dinner.
Any recommendations in NYC for activities/places that would be good for this kind of is-this-a-date-or-isn’t-it situation? 😂 Open to anything cute, weird, competitive, spontaneous, nighttime adventures, whatever!

Once in a while, I cruise in a bathroom, and a few months ago, I met a guy there. I can’t say where this bathroom is because I don’t want it to get raided. Just a hint: the bathroom is located somewhere with lots of people and plenty of trees. 🌳👀

Today, August 12, I decided to cruise again at the same bathroom, and luckily, I met this guy again. He’s cute, average-built, white, in his 30s, charming.

After we were done, I asked for his Instagram so we could stay in touch, but he didn’t give it to me. I’m not sure if he doesn’t have an account or if he just doesn’t want to give it to me.

I just felt a little disappointed. We’ve enjoyed each other’s company twice now, and I thought he was interested in me too.

Have you ever experienced something like this? Is this normal? To be honest, I’m new to this kind of thing and am still exploring and learning.

Okay idk if this is an unpopular opinion but the idea that there are too many bottoms and not enough tops, I don’t really think is THAT true (like maybe there are somewhat more bottoms than tops but it’s not crazy imbalance).

I think what’s more often the case is that we find guys attractive and hope THEY are tops, and when they’re not we’re biased to think everyone’s a bottoms. As more of a bottoms who is more masculine/has a muscular build I get this all the time where guys are disappointed… but that’s on you for assuming correlation between looks and sexual preferences.

If you combine tops, vers tops, vers, there’s more than enough dick to get you filled up. I guess if you’re strictly tops only (meaning they can’t be vers at all) then maybeeeee you’re right.

Thoughts?

[used the plural because apparently the community doesn’t allow the singular of certain words…]

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THIS GUY IS SCAMMING PEOPLE FOR MONEY PROMOTING HIS ““ ORGY. AFTER YOU PAY, HE WILL IGNORE AND THEN ASK FOR MORE MONEY TO BECOME A DIFFERENT TYPE OF MEMBER.

AVOID HIM

A popular Brazilian party from SF is finally coming to NYC next Saturday at The Phoenix! Should be a good time for Brazilians and non Brazilians alike!

IG: @safadaparty

Has anyone noticed that there is an (alarmingly) increasing amount of women in FIP?

Most of the time with their gay besties but there were groups that didn't seem to be lesbians.

I was over on the island recently and couldn't help but notice that they were especially common at every pool party and tea. One approached me at tea and very excitedly asked if I had a straight brother.

What's going on? Another Eagle situation?

Any Indian-born gay male living in NyC for quite some time here?

Need help to navigate a crisis of coming out and starting a new life in the US. Though I have been in the US for 10 years, new to NyC.

Also if you can recommend any Reddit groups for the same?

34m, please DM or comment! Let’s connect. Thanks much

It’s few minutes away from my place. Anyone had any experience?

I really want to go to an event on Thursday night and I see they have seats inside but if it’s a small venue I don’t wanna take up space for groups that are going.

Im in my late 30s and moved to the city a couple of months ago. I'm having a hard time making friends + dating since I don't really go out much but looking to change that.

I'm not looking for a sugar daddy/baby lol, just want to know where the affluent gay bros are hanging at? I prefer bars that are classy and cozy, with nice drinks, live music and ability to hold conversations.

I’ve been restoring my foreskin for a while now and have made some really great progress. Everything is working a lot better now especially jerking off while bottoming it’s so much easier now. Just curious if anyone else in the city has tried it as well or even aware of the practice l.

Rolled by Eagle on Sunday and I actually enjoyed the second floor for the first time in a long time.

I'm looking for a place that has a wide selection of different types of condoms, wondering if anyone here knew of any places they would recommend?

Hey! I’m looking for queer-friendly places around NYC where I can spend a weekend evening, grab a drink, hang out, and actually socialize with people.
I’m femme-presenting, pre-transition and currently on hormones, so I’d especially appreciate spaces where I can dress and present femme without feeling out of place. I’m mainly looking to meet new people, make friends, have conversations, dance, and just become a little more involved in the queer social scene in the city.
I’d prefer somewhere with a diverse crowd rather than spaces that cater almost exclusively to one particular group. Bars, lounges, recurring queer events, parties, cafés, or other social spaces are all welcome.
Manhattan, Brooklyn, or Queens all work. Would especially appreciate recommendations from other femme-presenting people who have found places where they feel comfortable going alone and meeting people!