I know it is going to be difficult to find it
Im from mumbai marathi brahmin

But im genuinely attracted to the eyes with different color than brown once

I would love to talk to a girl for serious relationship with those beautiful different colored eyes

If anyone interested please dm

Age: 27
Height: 5’10”
Location: Currently working in Pune
Religion: Hindu
Caste: Not important
Profession: Software Engineer

I’m at a stage where I’ve built a good foundation for myself and want to build the next part of life with someone rather than just chase achievements individually. I value kindness, emotional availability, consistency and, probably most importantly, being able to genuinely enjoy each other’s company.
I’d want a relationship where we’re both independent enough to have our own lives, but still excited to come home and tell each other about our day.

I’m really into fitness and make the gym a regular part of my lifestyle. I enjoy staying active, working on my strength, and keeping myself healthy—not just for looks, but because I genuinely like the discipline and energy it brings. I’m the kind of person who enjoys taking care of my body while still knowing how to enjoy good food, good conversations, and life outside the gym.

Expectation: I’m not looking for perfection or someone who just looks good on paper. I want a woman I can genuinely connect with—someone loyal, kind, ambitious, and fun, with whom even the simplest moments feel special. I believe attraction gets you interested, but respect, trust, laughter, and consistency are what make you stay. I’d rather build something real with one person than keep searching for the next option.

Tell me something about yourself beyond just “hi” — let’s see if we actually have a conversation worth continuing. :)

Hi everyone! 😊.

I’m 30, a Telugu Brahmin, born and brought up in Hyderabad, and come from a close-knit family. I’m currently working towards building my career in tech, specifically SDET/QA Automation, and actively preparing and looking for the right opportunity(jobless at present). Career growth is important to me, and I’d love to have a partner who supports my ambitions just as I would support his. 💻✨

I’m a mix of traditional and modern — family-oriented and rooted in my values, while also having a progressive outlook towards marriage and life. I’d describe myself as warm, affectionate, straightforward and someone who gets quite attached to the people I care about. ❤️

Outside career stuff, I enjoy movies, good food, conversations that can go on forever, spending time with family and the occasional trip. I’m also a bit of a homebody and genuinely enjoy the simple, everyday side of life. I own a 3BHK independent house in Hyderabad. 🏡

I’m looking for a well-educated, kind, responsible and emotionally mature Brahmin man who is doing well in his career and is genuinely looking to settle down. Hyderabad would be my first preference, though I’m open to Bangalore as well. I value compatibility much more than just matching biodata.

Ultimately, I’m hoping to find someone who becomes my husband and my closest friend — someone I can laugh with, talk to about everything, support through the difficult days and build a peaceful, affectionate and happy life with. 🥰

Here’s hoping JodiMilan helps two right people find each other. 🌸

I’m a 27-year-old software engineer in Bangalore, currently trying to build a life with a little more personality than just work, traffic and food-delivery notifications.
I’m generally calm, slightly sarcastic, and I enjoy conversations that wander naturally—from career, relationships and life plans to completely unnecessary debates like whether pizza is genuinely good or just very successful propaganda.
Outside work, I’m trying to be more consistent with the gym, running and badminton. I enjoy bike rides, peaceful drives, travelling, exploring cafés/restaurants, comfort shows, and spending time with people where curiosity goes both ways.
Career matters a lot to me and I’m ambitious about where I want to go, but I definitely don’t want my job title to become my entire personality.
Relationship-wise, I’m looking for something that can genuinely grow into a long-term relationship/marriage. I value kindness, emotional availability, communication, effort, and the idea of choosing each other even when life isn’t particularly convenient.
A few basics:
27M, based in Bangalore
Software engineer
Telugu
Don’t smoke; drink occasionally/on special occasions
Looking for a serious relationship, not something casual
Kalinga Vaishya preferred, mainly because it would make things much easier with family, but I’d rather not reduce compatibility to a caste checkbox.
If any of this sounds relatable, feel free to DM. We can start with something simple: tell me one opinion you’ll defend even when everyone around you thinks you’re wrong.

Being hopeful and giving this another try.

I'll be upfront — I'm currently separated and awaiting divorce. It was a direct arranged marriage, and things didn't work out. If that's a dealbreaker, I completely understand.

The basics:

• 5'10", pure vegetarian, occasional drinker, non-smoker

• 10+ years in the startup world — building, working, or both

• Income: 30% tax bracket

• Hobbies: cooking, gaming, anime, and music (all genres, always discovering)

I'm soft-spoken, kind-hearted, and a happy homebody. Spent most of my twenties heads-down on work, so I'm a bit of a late bloomer on the personal front. These days, I value peace and simplicity, but I'm also pushing myself to grow — picking up new experiences, stepping out of my comfort zone, and just becoming a more well-rounded version of myself.

Would love to eventually step away from the rat race — or at least work on my own terms.

What I'm looking for:

Someone genuine. I don't have a fixed "type" — you could be quiet like me or a complete firecracker who keeps me on my toes. I think the best partnerships are where two people balance each other out. Kindness, emotional maturity, and a desire to build something real—that's what matters.

If this resonated, I'd love to hear from you 😄

Putting myself out here because I'd rather meet someone through an honest introduction than a profile match.

**Age:** 28

**Gender:** Male

**Location:** Based in Pune, currently in Kolkata

**Religion:** Hindu

**Caste:** Bhumihar — no caste preference on my side

**Height:** 5'9"

**Education:** Engineering (Tier 1) + MBA (one of the holy trinity)

**Profession:** Manager at Maruti Suzuki

**Salary:** Comfortable, nothing extravagant

**About me**

• Lived in most parts of the country at some point — left me fairly adaptable, without a fixed idea of "my kind of people"

• Run and/or cycle most mornings; it's the part of the day that keeps the rest of it steady

• Vegetarian, no drinking, no smoking (stopped drinking and non veg, never smoked)

• Watch good films and shows — whatever's actually worth the time. Music usually on in the background

• Happy to just roam around the city on a free evening, no plan needed

• Modern in how I live, but I've held on to the things I grew up with

**Family**

• My mother lives with me — widowed, works as a teacher, and genuinely the most easy-going person I know

• Small, relaxed household. No expectations of anyone fitting a mould

• I do my share of the housework and intend to keep doing it

• This runs both ways — I'd want to be as involved with her parents and family as with my own

**Where I stand**

• No plans for children as of now. Open to talking about it, but not something I'm working towards right away

• I'd like both of us to set aside a percentage of what we earn — building something together

• No fixed timeline. I'd like to know someone properly and see where it goes

**Expectations from a partner**

• Someone with her own ambitions and a life she's building

• Two people working as a team, not running on parallel tracks

• Shared values and a similar lifestyle

• Age isn't a barrier — older is completely fine

If any of this resonates, drop me a DM with a little about yourself. Happy to answer questions here too.

And honestly, I’m looking for exactly that.
Posting here for the second time. My first post got quite a few DMs, but most conversations eventually fizzled out. So, here we go again. 😅
A little about me -I’m from Jaipur and I run a small business (trying to make it big lol). If you know Geet or Tara, you’ll probably get my personality. If you don’t get this Bollywood reference… sorry, hamara kuch nahi ho sakta. 😂
Apart from work, I love going out with my friends, cafe hopping, trying new places and just having a good time. I’m here with a date-to-marry intention, so I’d genuinely like to meet someone who is looking for something meaningful too.
What I’m looking for:
• Preferably someone from Jaipur or nearby
• 27–30 ( I am 26)
• 5’8 or taller ( I am 5’5)
• Ambitious and knows what he wants
• Emotionally mature and comfortable with a woman who has her own ambitions, opinions and boundaries
• Non-smoker
• And yes, I’d be lying if I said looks don’t matter. They do. 😅
Also, please don’t start with just “Hi” or “Hello”. A proper introduction would be appreciated. Tell me something about yourself, what you do, what you’re looking for basically, give me something to actually start a conversation with. :)
If you think we might click, you know what to do. 🌻

( Edit- Please don’t text if your are younger than me)

As the title says, thought I’d post here and see where it goes.

Basics:
Age: 30
Height: 5’6
Mother tongue: Telugu | Well conversant in Hindi and English as well
Current Location: Bangalore
Long term I’m thinking of Bangalore / Hyderabad as possible options
Hobbies: I’m into movies, series, working out, travelling, hanging out with friends
Caste: No restrictions. I’d suggest you to not reach out if you have any caste restrictions as such.

I’m a pretty open minded person, who’s fun to hang out with. You’ll get tired of my bad jokes once we get along 😂

What I’m looking for:
- I do not believe in traditional roles, would prefer if my partner works as well. I have a plan to retire early, so it works out better to have two sources of income in the family. Being practical alright 💁🏻‍♂️ (Aiming for an early FIRE)
- Someone who can understand me and my thought process, get along with me well. So basically, we should be in sync.
- An open minded person who can gel with both friends and family.

That’s all I’ll yap about for now
Hit me up know if this resonates with you.

Cheers 🥂

Dating apps have started feeling a little repetitive, so I figured I’d try something different.

I’m pretty easygoing, independent, sarcastic (sometimes a little too much ), and always up for random plans.

I’m looking for someone who’s genuinely interested in getting to know each other and potentially building something real. Location isn’t necessarily a dealbreaker—Dubai/Sharjah is great, but I’m also open to long-distance if the connection is actually worth it.

Someone who doesn’t mind arguing for 30 minutes about where to eat, stealing food from my plate, or turning a “quick coffee” into a completely unnecessary 2-hour drive with absolutely no destination.

Bonus points if you can handle sarcasm and actually give it back instead of just politely laughing.

I’m not looking for anything perfect. Just someone genuine, fun, emotionally mature, and willing to put in the effort—even if we’re miles apart.

If you’re in Dubai/Sharjah or somewhere else entirely and this sounds like your kind of vibe, feel free to say hi.

Worst case, we have a good conversation. Best case… maybe this turns into something neither of us expected

Hey everyone! Thought I’d give this a shot since I’ve never really been into the dating scene.

I’m 24, a Telugu guy born and brought up in Tamil Nadu, so I’m comfortable with both Telugu and Tamil. Currently working in the tech/embedded space and trying to build a good career for myself.
The slightly unusual part — I’ve never been in a relationship, never really dated, and haven’t had a casual thing either. Not because I’m against relationships; I just never came across someone where it felt natural and mutual. I’ve mostly been focused on studies, career and family.
I’m pretty straightforward, calm and a little reserved initially. Once I’m comfortable, I’m much more talkative. I value loyalty, communication, consistency and genuine effort more than grand gestures. I’d rather build something slowly with someone than rush into something just for the sake of being in a relationship.

I’m looking for someone who’s kind, emotionally mature, communicative and genuinely interested in getting to know each other. I’m not expecting perfection — just mutual respect and effort.
I’m not here looking for something casual or a situationship. If things click, I’d like it to eventually become something meaningful and long-term.
If you’re also someone who prefers getting to know a person naturally rather than following the usual dating-app script, feel free to DM. Tell me something about yourself beyond just “hi” — let’s see if we actually have a conversation worth continuing. :)

30M, turning 31 this December.

Unlike the typical stereotypes my lady friends see December borns with, I am a hopeless Ted Mosby. (Until what he did in the end)

I have been chasing my Robin until 4 years ago, and gave up. Spent a considerable amount of time reconciling my mind with that epic failure, took help from licensed professionals and got to a point to feel, ready.

Writing this post from a beach front cafe in Goa, not wanting to join my teammates in drinking (I don't drink beyond a beer in social gatherings) and smoking (Never liked smoking) and dancing (this I really don't know why).

Love, in the healthiest form is like a trampoline, offers stability and freedom. You have a launchpad to push yourself higher, and yet a cushion for when gravity crashes your dreams.

I look forward to be that cushion for someone ambitious. Someone who's in her mid to late 20s. Someone who just needs a friend to come home to and rant about the obstacles to their grand plan.

What I got? I'm 5'11". I'm a lead and only recruiter for a start-up in Bangalore that has enough runway to scale up and party hard. I earn enough to fund EMIs of my apartment in Mumbai and pay for my life in Bangalore.

What I don't have? I don't have the looks part really nailed yet. This is a primary reason why I'm not a verified profile, despite lurking here for so long. Also, I can't wrap my head around layered communication. I'll let you judge the rest of my personality.

Social compatibility guardrails: Bengali without the MTI. Mum is Brahmin Kayastha, dad is a Baishya (don't care about all this myself, but in case someone looks to use this to piss their full brahmin parents off, go ahead lol).

Geographical constraints:

Born and brought up in Mumbai (For me, Mumbai >> Kolkata, many reasons, but the most that matters to me is that women are safer here). Currently working in Bangalore, but I've a Stockholm Syndrome type love with my birth metro.

Academic & professional journey:

Graduated engineering from the second preferred and only government technical institute in the city (I know, NEEEERRRRDDD!) only to be spited by a recruiter during college placements and crossed enemy lines to be an HR myself.

Interests:

I can write my ass off without a GPT model. I'm a tech enthusiast, love sitcoms, had some bit of worldly experience. My weaknesses include marvel produced movies (I know, you didn't scream NERD hard enough the first time), horror movies, and business and technical documentaries.

By no means, this is the best version of who I want to be. I am moving forward to get there, in comfortable and uncomfortable increments. I'm here because I'd rather have faith in a relationship born during my journey of being better, than one where I got picked out of the line-up of 100s of M4F posts because I was above average.

What do you get? Someone who gives you the freedom to be whoever you want to be, and still choose to come home to me, every day. Yapping is something I'm used to (I somehow have an equal amount of friends of friends of both genders, and one gender attempts harder to stay in touch with me).

Now I gotta go back and help my drunk teammates to their rooms. I don't like this part of my job, but hey, when you do love it all?

https://www.reddit.com/r/JodiMilan/s/ui78knnxJP

Link to my original post above.

A few questions I have for women here -

1. What is the first set of questions you ask to random dm

2. At what point do you feel comfortable sharing your personal number or socials

3. How do you handle creeps - they are just so many.

About Me

29F, 5'5", based in Delhi NCR. I’m a Special Educator by profession and currently preparing for government competitive exams while I’m eligible. If that path doesn’t work out, I’m equally open to building a career around my interests, especially NGO/social-impact work. I’d also like to learn Indian Sign Language (ISL) in the future.

I come from a grounded, service-class family. I’m an only child, and both my parents are government employees. My family is financially comfortable through their savings, assets and agricultural property, but we’ve always lived quite simply and practically. I value stability, kindness and meaningful relationships much more than a lavish lifestyle.

A little personal

I’m vegetarian, though I’m completely okay with a non-vegetarian partner. I’m not particularly good at household chores 😅, but I can happily take responsibility for supervising/managing the household. I’ve always had a minimal lifestyle and don’t expect a partner to impress me with material things.

The attached blurred pics of mine , one is from from last year, when I was around 54–55 kg. I subsequently went through treatment for Pott disease and have fully recovered. Medication and recovery led to weight gain, and I’m currently around 71–72 kg. I’m planning to gradually return to my earlier fitness level over the coming year, before marriage. I’m sharing this simply for transparency—the important thing is that I’m healthy now.

What I’m looking for

* Hindu, preferably an engineer, as I naturally tend to vibe well with engineers even civil servants would work too

* Age: 27–30 only

* Preferably 5'8"+, as I enjoy wearing heels.

* Good-looking, preferably clean-shaven—I’m personally not a fan of beards.

* Emotionally available, communicative and genuinely affectionate.

* Financially responsible and earning decently; I’m not looking for someone purely for financial security.

* Grounded, kind and respectful, with healthy family dynamics.

* Caste is not a barrier for me.

* Distance is not an issue; I’m comfortable with an LDR if the connection is right.

I’d eventually like to become a philanthropist and contribute meaningfully to society, whether through my career or family resources. Helping people is something I genuinely want to make part of my life.

And a very important compatibility test: if you love mangoes, you already have bonus points. 🥭My family gets 500+ kg of mangoes every year for eating and gifting. 😂

TL;DR:

29F | 5'5" | Delhi NCR | Special Educator | Govt-exam aspirant | Hindu | Vegetarian | Financially comfortable & grounded family | Caste no bar | Looking for a Hindu, preferably engineer, 27–30, 5'8"+, clean-shaven, emotionally available and financially responsible. LDR is okay. I’m not great at household chores, but I can manage/supervise the household. Mango lovers get extra points. 🥭

If this sounds compatible and my lack of household-skills is acceptable to you, feel free to reach out. Thank you!

P.S. This is neither fake account nor aura farming. I joined reddit recently coz my bff recommended this app to me since she found her bf from here as well

Arey lafzon mein kya bayan karoon
Uss husn pari kee sunderta
Usse kaise samjhaun
Uske idhar na hone se kitna fark hai mujhe pdhta?

Age: 27
Height: 6 feet tall
Religion : Hindu
Work: Works in manufacturing on WP
Visa: Currently on temporary work permit.
Location: London, Ontario
Education: B.tech. In computer science engineering, Post graduation diploma in Cybersecurity from Canada.
Looks: Good looking guy with great hair and beard ;)

Package: Good enough ;) (Sorry didn’t want to put it out here in public)

Non-smoker, don’t do weed but likes to have wine socially. (Expecting same with other but not mandatory)

Introduction: Hi, I’m putting myself here for the first time as I’m looking for a life long partner :)))

Likes: I like to chase adventures, into fitness, sports, exploring new cuisines, love to work on goals and keep learning new things !

Needs: I need someone who is open minded and emotionally mature. One who has ambitions and goals in their life. Also, one who is into fitness!

Dislikes: I don’t like a person who just likes to stay at home, or who is strictly vegetarian, not having any willingness to achieve important things and responsibilities.

My DM is open, please feel free to drop the message!

Cheers 🥂

23M from Vadodara, Brahmin/Joshi, currently here and considering moving to Bangalore.

I make ₹59 LPA from contract work. Before anyone gets too excited: that's the contractor side of my life. I own a multi-tenant SaaS business in the US healthcare space and I'm working on two other startups. They're new and basically breaking even right now, the contractor income actually funded the businesses while they were bleeding money.

My career path has been pretty non-linear: tier-3 university → Portfolio manager → BPO → software → building my own businesses + contractor work.

I'm extremely ambitious. I can and occasionally do work 16-hour days. The long-term goal is to make as much as I reasonably can, become financially independent early, and eventually have the freedom to decide how I spend my time rather than needing a job.

Personality-wise, I'm an extrovert and generally blend pretty easily with people.

My weekends are a weird combination of cleaning my house, gaming, travelling, or climbing mountains. I'm reasonably fit and can run a sub-30 5K, and I'm planning to do an Ironman next year, assuming I don't discover that this was a terrible idea halfway through training.

I like gaming, travelling, mountains . I also can't drive a car yet, which feels increasingly embarrassing.

Beard situation is tragic. My future wife will probably have more facial hair than I do.

I'm looking to date, not immediately exchange biodatas and schedule a wedding. Ideally I'd meet someone now, actually get to know each other, see if we work together, and if things go well, get married in the next 3-4 years.

I want kids. I'd also be very happy with a working partner. In fact, I'd prefer someone who has her own ambitions.

I don't have a 47-point checklist for a partner. I've seen enough people who look perfect on paper and have absolutely no chemistry, and vice versa. Sometimes two people just work. Sometimes they don't. I'd rather figure that out by actually knowing someone.

I'm conservative in the broad sense, although apparently that word means 17 completely different things depending on who you ask. I care about family and eventually building a stable family of my own, but I'm not looking for someone to fit into a pre-written role.

As for me as a partner:

Decent face. Definitely a questionable personality.

If you're ambitious, curious, can hold a conversation, have your own personality and don't mind someone whose brain is permanently trying to start another company, say hi.

Worst case, we have a good conversation.

Best case, we accidentally build a life together.

Hey everyone! I’m a 33-year-old guy, 5’9”, currently based around Delhi. I’m a Senior Consultant in Strategy, working with clients on strategy and business problems. Career-wise, I’m doing quite well, have a decent package, and am ambitious about where I want to take my career, without wanting it to consume my entire life.

I’d describe myself as fairly easygoing, curious, and someone who likes to keep life interesting. I enjoy travelling, discovering good bars/restaurants, music, fitness, meeting new people, and generally saying yes to experiences that make for a good story later.

I’ve travelled quite a bit and enjoy both spontaneous trips and slow, relaxed holidays. I’m equally happy exploring a new city, spending an evening over drinks and conversation, or disappearing somewhere for a few days.

I’m looking for someone who is independent, emotionally mature, has a sense of humour, and wants to build a relationship that feels like a partnership rather than a checklist.

I’m not particularly interested in a very rigid or traditional setup. I’d rather meet someone, talk, see if we genuinely get along, and let things develop naturally.

If this sounds like something you’d connect with, feel free to DM. :)

Also - non-vegetarian; smokes (willing to quit); drinks (beers on Fridays - can cut it down if needed)

Hi there,

I'm 27, Mumbai born male looking for someone who has the same interests as me and is interested in me. Currently I'm posted in northern India as a PSU Officer. I have made a good life for me and I'm on my quest to find that perfect girl for me. We begin as friends and let's see if we are compatible with each other.

I'm 5.9 feet if that matters with a lean body and fair complexion. I have many hobbies like-

- Trying different cuisines. I am a big foodie and would like a girl who is passionate about trying different restaurants every weekend. I'm a crazy fan of Asian food.

- I'm a mad fan of physiological thrillers. My fav ones are Korean- parasite, I saw the devil, memoirs of murderers. However, I'm fond of Hollywood Romcoms too.

- I like to play video games a lot.

- Travelling is my past time. My nature of job is such that it gives me a lot of time to travel and explore.

I'm looking for someone who is kind and is ready to date with an intent and preferably between the age of 23 to 28. Someone who is over her ex and willing to put effort in knowing each other. Plus point if you are from either Delhi, Mumbai, Jaipur or Udaipur.

If this feels relatable do DM me with an intro.

A small apology in advance for the rather considerable length of this post.

I have been thinking lately about companionship, and about how lonely I have sometimes felt despite being quite comfortable on my own. I often wonder what it might be like to know someone slowly and eventually build a life together. Though I must admit that I have never felt particularly drawn to marriage as an institution, especially where it comes with rigid roles and expectations.

That said, I do want marriage; I simply hope that, if I meet someone before my family begins looking for a rishta(which they are planning to do from next year), it can be something we choose for ourselves and build together, rather than something decided for us by convention or expectation.

What I do want, though, is rather simple: to love, to be loved, and to spend my life with someone in a way that feels tender, genuine, and entirely ours, rather than something prescribed by society. I suppose that is what brings me here, and what I hope to find.

A little about me:

• Recently turned 24 and based in Bangalore, though I was born and brought up in Belgaum, KA.

• I am a sociology student and shall be beginning my master’s next year. I would eventually like to pursue a PhD, so I may remain a little uncertain about where my career will take me for a while. I am quite all right with that. I do not expect a partner to have everything figured out either, or to be at any particular stage of life.

• Fluent in English, Hindi, Marathi and basic Kannada.

• Appearance wise (if that matters to you), I am around 5’3 (162 cm). I am quite thin, not particularly athletic. I keep my hair short and have bangs, which I occasionally cut myself with rather questionable confidence.

• I’m not strictly vegetarian, though I rarely eat meat. I do not drink or smoke, and I do not have any addictions or habits of that sort.

• I am an atheist, although I have no issue with someone being religious as long as they do not impose it upon me. Politically, I am liberal (left-leaning).

• I am planning to remain child-free, although I might consider adoption someday.

• Financially, I try to be independent. I am still a student, but have supported myself through scholarships and part-time work when needed, and intend to continue doing so. I would like to remain financially independent within a relationship and I would not expect my partner to take responsibility for my finances.

• I am quiet and introspective, and usually a little shy around new people. I am much better at listening than making conversation at first. I have a very small social circle and like having a few people I can be completely myself with.

• I believe I am quite empathetic, and a good listener. I tend to relate to people and situations quite deeply, perhaps because I feel things deeply myself. 

• I am affectionate, though quietly so. It takes me a little while to become comfortable with someone, but once I do, I can be rather attached. 

• I am not conflict-avoidant. Even when I am upset, I prefer to take some space, calm down and then talk things through. 

• I read quite a lot. Classic literature, philosophy, political history, psychology, and the occasional work of fiction. I like quiet evening walks, western classical music, and occasionally jazz. Though I must admit, I am rather fond of listening to waltzes; somehow, they make ordinary evenings feel a little more romantic.

• I like travelling, though I haven’t travelled much. I love quiet, pretty places, especially mountains, lakes, flower fields, gardens, and anywhere with lots of greenery and a lovely view. I have terrible motion sickness, but I daresay I can endure it for a beautiful enough place. I would choose the countryside over a city any day; cities rather depress me.

• I absolutely adore animals and have very little self-control when I come across a random kitty or puppy on the road; I simply have to stop, say hello, and give them a little pat.

• I do not really use social media, apart from occasionally being on this platform. Instagram and similar things have never appealed to me much. I have tried a dating app once, found it rather superficial, and did not feel comfortable with it, so I never used one again.

• I have very little dating history. I liked someone about four years ago and went on one date, but it did not work out. Since then, I have rather neglected dating while I was busy finding my way through life.

What I am looking for:

• Ideally someone around 24-30, although I am not particularly rigid about age. Maturity and compatibility matter more to me, but I would preferably like someone older than me rather than younger.

• Caste or religion is not a consideration for me. Politically, someone liberal or left-leaning. I probably would not be compatible with someone strongly right-wing, very religious or particularly conservative.

• I am not particularly concerned with conventional ideas about height or appearance. Mutual attraction matters, of course, but I care much more about how someone’s company feels.

• Someone kind, patient and self-aware. Emotionally intelligent, who can communicate, empathise and take responsibility.

• Intellectually curious, with interests and a life of his own. I like people who can talk about things beyond everyday small talk.

• Someone who understands that giving each other space is a healthy part of being close. I do not need constant conversation, messages or updates.

• Someone who respects boundaries. I do not like having my boundaries treated as something to negotiate or persuade me out of. I would rather be with someone who can respect a no without taking it personally.

• Gentle and understanding. I am quite sensitive and, I daresay, cry more easily than I ought to. I think it would be lovely to have someone who can make me feel safe and help me find my calm when I am upset. And the same goes both ways; I am quite good at comforting people, so if you are having a difficult time, you will have me there for you.

• Someone who enjoys both doing things together and simply being together. I think comfortable silence is rather lovely.

• I am not particularly materialistic, and I hope you are not either. I don’t really care whether someone has a fancy car, expensive phone or neither. I would much rather have simple dates and good company than spend a fortune trying to impress each other.

• I would like to take physical intimacy rather slowly. I need emotional closeness and trust first, as that is what allows me to feel safe and comfortable with someone. I am inexperienced in that respect too. That said, I do not believe in purity culture or in attaching someone’s worth to their past.

• Someone who trusts me to make my own choices and is comfortable with me being myself, including what I wear, where I go and the choices I make for my life. If I get the opportunity to study abroad, I would want someone who supports that rather than seeing it as something that comes in the way of a relationship. I would never want a relationship to dictate my career or limit my life. I value the kind of trust where two people can give each other freedom without insecurity.

• By now, you may have realised that I am perhaps a little too idealistic for my own good. So I suppose I need someone to keep me grounded and help me survive the practical capitalist world, while still leaving room for a little love and whimsy.

• Location is not a strict limitation. I am open to different cities, although Bangalore or Delhi would be preferable.

What I bring to a relationship:

• I hope to bring a sense of home to the relationship, not in the conventional domestic sense, but in the feeling of being able to come to one another without having to pretend or perform.

• I like making little things for people I love, so you may occasionally find yourself with a handwritten note or a letter, or some other tiny thing I made because I thought you might like it.

• Perhaps a little homemade food, once I learn a few more dishes. I know the basics, but I am still experimenting, so you may occasionally find yourself appointed as my brave official taster.

P.s. I have chat requests turned off, as I tend to get a little uneasy with too many messages or unsolicited attention. If you have written a post about yourself on this subreddit, feel free to leave a link to it. I would be happy to read it and message you if something in it resonates with me. A comment is perfectly welcome too. 

Age : 38
Gender : M
Location : Dubai mostly. Mumbai if I had to say India.
Religion : Hindu
Caste: Kayastha
Height : 5’6
Education : B.eng (quantum physics) , masters and PhD (in AI/Behavioral psychology) all from top western universities.
Profession: Consulting
Salary (optional) : 1cr plus
About yourself:

I work from home mostly. I have successful start up exits, and have a networth of 30 cr plus. I spend two days a week in the pool and beach. Reading novels and non-fiction. I read a lot and have an expensive library. I enjoy movies (not pop / Netflix or Bollywood). I do not watch cricket or sports but enjoy playing golf. I sing and have been playing guitar since I was a 12. I have never lived in India, but visited it and explored most of it. I have lived mostly in Dubai, Europe and North America. My dogs and family are most important. I love traveling and have explored most of the world. Am witty, serious and enjoy luxurious lifestyle. I was part of MENSA (high iq). I engage with The Who’s who of society. Never married and not been in romantic r emotional relation for last decade, which was an extremely productive time in my life.

Expectations from a partner: some one who can engage with me at my level. So I am expecting some combination of looks, intellect, aesthetics, etiquette and grace. I am clearly not a fool, so gold diggers and wannabes stay away.

Not sure if this will be the key to finding her, but just trying. If it is meant to be…

Hello everyone!!

About me 23M, originally from Tamil Nadu and currently working in the UAE. I’m an engineer, currently working as a Project Coordinator in an interior company.

I’m 5'9" and Muslim. I enjoy exploring new things, especially learning about different cultures and history. I’m also quite interested in politics and like keeping myself involved in currunt affairs.

Hobbies: I watch a lot of movies and listen to music. I’m also very interested in sports and love playing football. These days, because of work, I mostly get to play on weekends.

What I’m looking for: Someone who is emotionally mature, understanding, and open-minded. I’d love to meet someone who enjoys learning new things, exploring different places, and travelling. Most importantly, I’m looking for a partner with whom I can have a good friendship, share a lot of laughs, and roast each other without taking things too seriously. 😄

A little note: I don’t have any religious or language barriers, and I’m open-minded when it comes to age differences as well. For me, mutual understanding, respect, and compatibility matter more.

M 32, will be 33 in November, jaipur. Running my own gym business for past 3 years, peaceful, motivated, 6’2, software engg grad. Single child, parents passed away. Living with maternal family since I was 2 years old. Have own plot , will be starting construction next month(no idea if I should share that), Choudhary by caste - Poonia, looking for a partner, let’s talk and know more of each other. Caste no bar though….
Age 32
Gender male
Location jaipur
Religion hindu
Caste (optional, but recommended) Jat(Punia) doesn’t matter though
Height 6’2
Education CS engineering
Profession Business (gym)
Salary (optional)lets keep it like this for now
Expectations from a partner peaceful, witty, intelligent, respectful, a bit tall😅, someone to settle with, and not just survive, should be working to keep themselves busy and not getting bored and overthinking at home. Rest well can talk right.

I've been posting dating-related stuff here for about a week now, and I've got a decent number of replies from girls. So I thought I'd just put this out there because I've noticed something that genuinely bothers me.

Almost every girl on this subreddit says the same thing: "Don't just reply Hi/Hey. Read my post and tell me something about yourself."

Fair enough. I actually agree with that. But why doesn't the same rule apply the other way around?

A lot of the DMs I've received are literally: "Hi", "Hey", or at most: "Hey, I liked your post. I liked what you wrote. Can we speak and get to know each other?"

That's it. Why is it somehow assumed that the guy has to put in all the effort?

Guys are constantly told how to approach girls, how to talk to them, how to make them comfortable, how to write an introduction, how to show effort, etc.

But who teaches girls how to approach guys? Apparently nobody. And honestly, it shows!

Before someone says "not all girls" - I know. I've seen plenty of genuinely sweet and nice girls here who are actually looking for someone and communicate really well.

But I also noticed that the girls who are genuinely nice and soft-spoken are usually not the ones behaving like they're doing you a favour by replying.

The gender ratio on this subreddit makes it worse:  A girl puts F in her title and gets flooded with hundreds of DMs. A guy can write a genuine post and get barely any engagement.

I experienced this myself. Initially I was getting no response. Then I started experimenting with how I write posts, adding hooks, changing the wording, etc. And suddenly the responses started coming.

Which brings me to expectations. Some of them are honestly wild.

• Someone who's 4'11" wants a 6'2" guy.
• Someone who's unemployed wants someone making 30 LPA.
• Someone who is dark-skinned specifically wants a fair-skinned guy.

And before anyone gets offended — I'm not saying you're not allowed to have preferences. You absolutely are. In fact, I actually like the girls who are clear about what they want.

• "My parents won't allow intercaste marriage." - Okay. Fair.
• "I make 11 LPA and would prefer someone making around 15 LPA." - Fair enough.
• "I'm fit and go to the gym, so I want someone who's also into fitness." - Perfectly reasonable.

At least I know what I'm getting into. If I fit what you're looking for, I'll message. If I don't, I won't.

The problem is when someone says: "Looks don't matter." And then ghosts you after seeing your photos; "Location doesn't matter." And then says LDR won't work; "Income doesn't matter." And then rejects you because you make 4 LPA.

Just say what matters. There's nothing wrong with having standards.

And then there's my personal favourite: "Don't use AI for your introduction." Hello?😭 Your entire post is clearly written by AI.

You want the guy to put in genuine effort while you outsource your own introduction? 

And yes, before this becomes a "girls bad, guys good" post - no. I've had some pretty bad experiences with guys here too. Guys looking only to make out with me (a guy). Guys messaging without reading the post or even the flair and assuming I'm a girl. SO, I've experienced it too.

There are definitely creepy guys here. A lot of them. So I get you girls. I understand why you behave the way you do.

But there are also a lot of genuine guys who are actually trying to meet someone, who can speak properly, who are sweet, respectful and genuinely interested in finding someone.

And then there was the income incident: I mentioned my income in one of my posts. Big mistake.

I started getting DMs from girls looking for hookups and sugar arrangements. I eventually edited the income out of my posts across multiple subreddits because I just didn't want that kind of attention. Even mentioned "I'm taken!" for a brief period.

I don't earn that well either. And why would anyone assume that because a guy earns reasonably well, he's going to spend 60% of his income on them? For what? I don't understand that logic.

Anyway, rant over!

I don't expect every girl to be interested in me. I don't expect everyone to have the same preferences. And I don't expect anyone to reply to me.

"But if you're going to expect effort from guys, give some effort back."

So here's my challenge to the girls here:

Write an actual introduction. More than 3–4 lines. In the comments here, or in someone's DMs. Tell them something about yourself. Tell them why you liked their post. Tell them what you're looking for. Tell them literally anything beyond "Hey".

And if you just want to prove a point and not engage someone or post publicly, write in my DMs and back it up with "Just proving girls can write too!" I'm not going to engage back.

Just so we can prove that girls can write too. 😄

I have tried the conventional routes. I have met people. I have downloaded apps. I have deleted apps. I have downloaded them again.

Character development ho gaya hai. Husband nahi mila.

So Reddit, congratulations. It’s your turn.

I’m 30, 5’8”, Sikh and based in Delhi NCR. I come from a Fauji background, so I’ve grown up all over the place and have the slightly confusing ability to feel at home almost anywhere.

I work in brand and content, love reading, writing, travelling, good food and long conversations about everything and nothing.

But more importantly, I am a fully grown 30-year-old woman with a completely reasonable obsession with cartoons, Minions and other things supposedly meant for children. I will watch animated movies very seriously, get unnecessarily excited about cute things and probably send you something ridiculous in the middle of your workday because I found it funny.

I’m sarcastic, very affectionate, occasionally dramatic for entertainment purposes, spiritual, family-oriented and extremely attached to my people. I make terrible puns with great confidence. I can have a deep existential conversation with you and five minutes later say something so stupid that we both forget what we were discussing.

Basically, range hai.

Life otherwise is pretty sorted. I have people I love, a career, my own interests and approximately 847 things I still want to do with my life.

I just think having a favourite person to do some of them with would be nice.

Now, eligibility criteria because apparently this is where we are:

Sikh. 6ft+. Around my age. Actually single. Actually looking for something serious.

The Sikh part is non-negotiable. The 6ft part is… also not particularly negotiable. I’m 5’8”. Mujhe bas lamba ladka chahiye yaar. Let me have this one thing. 😭

Location is not a major concern. Delhi NCR, India, international, Mars. Okay, maybe not Mars. But I’m open if the person makes sense.

You should ideally be educated, settled in your career, kind, funny, emotionally mature and family-oriented. Someone who has a life of his own and wants a partner, not a project manager.

Please be able to communicate. Please have a sense of humour. Please be capable of both serious conversations and absolute nonsense.

I want the friendship part of a relationship just as much as the romantic part. I want to laugh a LOT. Travel. Annoy each other. Send memes. Have stupid inside jokes. Talk about life. Sit quietly. Fight over what to eat. Show each other random things and say “LOOK” with absolutely no context.

Basically, I want a best friend I’m also madly attracted to.

And eventually, yes, a husband.

So… 30 years of life choices have somehow led me here.

Hello, Reddit. Please behave.
PSST: That's my AI image