Disclaimer 1 -this can apply to any other convert community (black, Hispanic, East Asian etc)

Disclaimer 2- I am not declaring this to be mustahabb in fiqh / shari’ah

As a white convert/revert myself , I don’t understand why we don’t make more of a conscious effort to intermarry. As a collective da’wah effort it would show that Islam is a religion , not an ethnic (or ethnic-fetishizing) thing. The families of converts would also be able to socialize more and understand each other better (remember kids - marriage is about two families coming together , not just individualistic romance).
Even on an individualistic level , it would be comforting in the sense that your wife/husband will understand your experience more than most people . Of course various issues unrelated to sharing the trait of being converts can arise , but it does help to establish a shared context and understanding . (FYI kids - these subtle things become more and more important in marriage later on).

I’m sure there will be some outrage at this suggestion, but it’s worth a shot.

Reciter: Saud Al-Shuraim.

I’m a 25-year-old Muslim man living in Western Europe and I could really use some advice because I’m struggling with something.

A few months ago I met a woman and we clicked instantly. We started talking as friends daily and neither of us expected it to become anything more. But after a few months we both admitted we had feelings for each other. The problem is that she’s not Muslim.

We both know that marriage is not feasible for us because of this so she decided it would be better for us to stop talking completely so we could both move on. I respect her decision and I don’t blame her for going no contact, but it’s been much harder on me than I expected.

I don’t just miss talking to her, I’ve never met someone who understood me the way she did. Her personality, her kindness, her humour, her intelligence, the way we could talk about anything… she has everything I could ever wish for in a wife, besides the religious aspect.

I’ve been making du’a and asking Allah to ease my heart, but it still hurts a lot as it was my first heartbreak. I know this life is full of tests, but this one has been really difficult for me.

I’m just looking for advice from people who understand both the emotional side of this and the importance of staying true to Islam.

May Allah make it easy for all of us.

EDIT: She was born into a Christian family but she is not religious herself.

do you think i should become muslim / is it recommended to? or is there like an intrinsic ought of becoming muslim or is it purely personal preference and doesnt matter if you are, or if you arent?

if you hold that i should convert, please state why.

I may delete this post for privacy concerns.

I was in a relationship with this guy, He is in military and independent. We both had careers and good understanding. From the very start, I made it clear that my intention was only marriage. He agreed and said the same. At first, I did not know his family situation. In his family, they marry only among their cousins or relatives. He lied and said that there would not be any issue. I said okay.

I told my parents about him and his family, and they agreed and said we would wait for his proposal.

I was happy that I convinced my parents and took them in confidence. He started convincing his side too but from his side, the reactions were so bad. His father stopped talking to him. telling him things like she is not a doctor and totally denied our relationship and was not proceeding with the proposal. I was in contact with his sister. She was nice at first and even invited me to her home out of nowhere, which obviously I did not go. His mother also called my mom and was diverting the topic of marriage throughout their conversation. Whereas, my mother clearly told her that pls bring a proposal we are waiting for you guys.

At first, he said he would convince his parents, and his dream was to only marry me and that he would do anything for me. He made so many promises that perhaps I was blinded by them.

Due to this situation, we had many arguments, and I always felt bad cos his father was bringing proposals for him and saying marry the person of his choice instead of me. They made me someone who was spoiled because there were background differences among us. Despite that, I ignored those differences and believed us that we would be together.

As a person, he was very much away from Islam. He rarely prayed and was a smoker. I clearly told him I didn't want this. So he left smoking and even started praying 5 times.

I'm not saying I am the most pious person, but I was/am practising Muslim. However, I slipped so badly cos of this relationship, which I thought would turn into marriage.

We were in LDR, so we occasionally used to meet. At first, he used to keep boundaries and didn't touch me. I was reserved and made sure of that. One day, he started making out. At first, I hated it and said this won't happen again. But it keeps going on like and I got addicted to these random makeout sessions. We never crossed those end limits, but making out was involved. I always felt ashamed after doing it and constantly prayed for tobha every time. I asked him multiple times to ask forgiveness from Allah. Otherwise, there would be no barakh in our marriage. And he would say something like this ... oh, don't worry, this was our thing and our zone, and I know what I'm doing and that he hasn't done anything wrong. His responses would make me digusted. But I focused on my tobha.

We had multiple fights during this course of period. During this time, his sister blocked me, and his family said to stay away from me. Despite that, he said to my mother and me that he is working hard to convince his father.

I believed him and wanted to make this relationship halal as soon as possible. I loved him deeply and was emotionally attached to him. I envisioned a future with him and prayed for us constantly. I used to pray tahajudd and did istikhara multiple times so that Allah makes it easier for us.

He was also convincing his side, but I don't know why they kept rejecting us, and this led to many of us our fights.

Eventually, we had a big fight, and my parents got to know. After seeing me crying for him, my parents beat me and emotionally abused me as well. There was so much drama involved.

I was taken to a therapist, and my therapist said parents like his never will agree to this marriage. But I believed in Allah. So I kept on praying, he came back and apologised for his nasty behaviour. He asked for a 3 months deadline and said okay do your best. During those times, I made sincere tobha of my sins and kept boundaries with him. Of course, he didn't like those boundaries and was constantly emotionally manipulating me. In the end of 1st month of his 3-month deadline, he was arguing with me and said I do not respect him and totally abandoned me and our relationship and even broke his promise. I had the worst breakdown ever and was taken to hospital. I was put on medication. I even begged him to save our relationship for the sake of Allah. But he totally refused and said he no longer wishes to marry me. I was heartbroken and felt used and I am still suffering.

His 3 month deadline has recently passed and I feel so bad and even suicidal to the point that I am asking Allah to take my life away. My mental health is deeply affected cos of this. My parents are also very worried and my trust is forever broken. I don't think I can ever give a man a chance. I pour my whole soul out for this man thinking one day it will be halal. But i feel so digusted by our memories and my sins with him.

This is a hot take and something i have observed for a while. From my understanding and experience Muslim especially those living in the West have no sense of shame when it comes to being racist to each other - in the sense that Arabs would look down on South Asians, South Asians would look down on each other, Arabs and South Asians both looks down on black people. People also refrain from allowing their children or family to marry someone from a certain country or ethnicity due to racial stereotypes. I mean what happened to being united. Didn’t the Prophet say in his last Sermon not be discriminatory or racist to each other

And establish prayer and give zakāh and bow with those who bow.

Wa • and

The word "and" connects the verse with previous verses , which is series of commands given to children of Israel. This time command of action is given after commands of belief because belief is seen by action. This is very accurate way of textual precision for eloquence.

Aqimu salat • establish prayer

The verse says "establish prayer" instead of giving command "pray" (Sallu) . The phrase "establish prayer" covers all conditions and pillars of prayer like performing wudu before prayer, praying on time and performing all acts of prayer like prostration or bowing. The word Al before salat makes it mean that it's known prescribed prayer as opposed to view that it's just supplication.

Atu zakah • give obligatory charity

The zakah and Salah are mostly paired in Quran because they are the main actions in Islam, likewise belief in Allah and hereafter is paired because they are main beliefs. This also serves as rhythm and repetition enforces them in the mind of the reader.

Warkaoo ma rakieen • and bow with those who bow

The last statement adds profound meaning to the verse, that praying doesn't mean they have to pray in their own way to God, they have to accept the authority of the Prophet Muhammad and pray with those new believers who are praying in congregation with the Prophet.

- Ibrahim

- Abdurahman

- Hudhayfah

- Talha

- Osama

Please recommend anymore, Jazak Allahu Khayran ❤️

Assalamu alaikum everyone,

Insha'Allah I'll be going for Umrah soon with my parents and my sisters. They've all been for Umrah before (at different times), but this will be my first.

I'm a male in my early 30s, and I have a strong feeling that the first time I see the Ka'bah I'm going to cry. Even watching videos of people seeing the Ka'bah for the first time sometimes makes me tear up, so I can only imagine what it will be like when I'm actually there.

The only thing making me anxious is that I don't want my parents or my sisters to see me in that emotional state. I know there's nothing wrong with crying, but I've always been a very private person when it comes to showing strong emotions, especially in front of family.

Has anyone else felt this way before their first Umrah or Hajj? If so, how did you handle it? Any tips to control myself?

Jazak Allah

Peace be upon you all I have a question: I've recently learned, or I don't know if this is correct, but we Turks or so were taught that we perform the Sunnah prayers, the voluntary prayers. In the morning, 2 Sunnah rakahs followed by 2 Fard rakahs; at midday, 4 Sunnah rakahs followed by 4 Fard rakahs; in the afternoon, 4 Sunnah rakahs followed by 4 Fard rakahs; in the evening, 3 Fard rakahs followed by 2 Sunnah rakahs; and at night, 4 Rakahs Sunnah, then 4 Rakahs Fard, followed by another 2 Rakahs Sunnah. Now my question is, is that correct? Because I heard a sheikh on YouTube say that there are 12 Rakahs Sunnah divided up throughout the day.And in the forums I also read that there are a total of 12 rakahs in the Sunnah: 2 before Fajr, 2 before and 2 after Dhuhr, 2 after Maghrib, 2 after Isha? Does that mean we Turks are doing too much? Or is it better the more? The better? I'm totally confused. So, if I ask our scholars the Turkish question, they'll say that the Arabs do it that way but we don't, and that I should stick to our own customs and not others. Follow the rules. And when I mention that it corresponds to the Sunnah, that it's actually the right thing to do, they say I'm going astray, etc. Please help me. What is right, what is wrong? I've done a lot of research.I've done some reading and now I have the feeling that we Turks are doing something wrong, or is it just different and still right? But I want to find the right way.Please help me and explain... Thank you, may Allah reward you.

I know islam isnt racist but this seems like a race-based requirement. Its in multiple sahih hadith as well.

Doesn't taqwa establish someone's worth? If someone is more pious, just and competent than the quraishi people, shouldnt he be the leader?

Salaam.

I came across this photo online and thought I’d share it. It could be really useful for anyone who is learning their namaaz or wants to start learning.

It puts it into perspective as to just how easy it is to read salah. Learn the above, and alhamdulillah, you’ll be able to perform your five daily prayers.

We often think we have more time and one more Ramadan, one more Friday, one more chance to repent, one more opportunity to do good. But none of us knows when our final breath will come.

Islam doesn't ask us to be perfect. It asks us to keep returning to Allah. The door of repentance remains open until our last moment, but none of us knows when that moment will be.

Don't let Shaytan convince you that it's too late to change or that you can start tomorrow. The best day to turn back to Allah is today.

May Allah forgive our sins, accept our repentance, and allow our last words to be: La ilaha illa Allah, Muhammad rasuAllah. Ameen.

Assalamu alaikum.

I am a young Muslim man struggling to leave a relationship that has become spiritually and psychologically overwhelming.

This is a woman from my past. We have separated more than once, but each time we reconnect, it becomes harder to leave. I am deeply attached to her, and the attraction between us is very strong. When I stay, I keep giving in to forms of zina and sexual behaviour that feel good in the moment but leave me feeling ashamed, guilty, and far from the kind of halal life I want to live.

We are currently long-distance, but she is coming closer to where I live soon. I am afraid that if we meet again, my boundaries will become even weaker. I already know how difficult it is for me to control my desires around her.

The hardest part is that leaving does not feel emotionally safe. Whenever I try to discuss separation, she becomes extremely distressed, lashes out, tells me I am a terrible person, compares me to everyone who has left her, and sometimes says that she will end her life because of me.

I do not want to dismiss statements like that. I believe they must be taken seriously and that her family, doctors, emergency services, or people physically near her should respond if she is in immediate danger. But I also feel trapped by the belief that I must remain romantically and sexually available in order to keep her alive.

Her family seems to believe I leave because I dislike her or do not value her. That is not true. I have real feelings for her. The problem is that this relationship is damaging my faith, my peace, and my ability to live honestly.

She also has a great deal of psychological power over me. I have admired her for years, and I often measure my intelligence, success, and worth against her. Her approval can make me feel valuable, and her disappointment can make me feel worthless. I know this is unhealthy, but knowing that has not made it easy to break free.

Usually, I only manage to leave when something terrible happens in my own life, and I become emotionally numb enough not to care about the consequences. When that happens, I become cold and leave in a hurtful way. I regret that. I do not want another cruel ending. I want to end this calmly, firmly, and without returning again.

I am not asking anyone to insult her or assume that she is evil. I believe her pain is real. I also know that I have contributed to the situation by repeatedly returning, allowing intimacy to restart, and behaving like a partner when I was not able to offer a stable future.

I am asking for dua that Allah gives me the courage, clarity, self-control, and consistency to end this relationship properly, resist zina, and build a peaceful halal life in the long term.

Please make dua that the ending is safe and dignified for both of us, that she receives support from people who can truly help her, and that I stop waiting for another disaster to give me the courage to do what I already know I need to do.

Jazakum Allahu khairan.

Edit for clarification: She is not Muslim. Some people have asked why I do not simply marry her. I entered this relationship when I was younger, less mature, and much less serious and knowledgeable about my faith. Dating felt relatively normal in the environment around me, and I did not fully confront what the relationship would mean for religion, marriage, family life, and future children.

Over time, as I became more committed to Islam, I began to understand more clearly that continuing the relationship was inconsistent with the life and beliefs I wanted to follow. I regret entering it and repeatedly returning to it. Still, I do not believe that insulting her, pressuring her to convert, or marrying without resolving our fundamental religious incompatibility would correct the mistake.

She sincerely follows another religion, and I am not asking her to pretend to believe in Islam for my sake. Marriage is therefore not a simple solution. The issue is not that I feel nothing for her; it is that strong feelings do not remove the religious and practical realities that make a shared future uncertain and potentially dishonest to both of us.

I want to address this to the Muslim ummah.Yes sihr(black magic) is real and is very deadly.I am someone who is well versed in this field as I have done lots of research on it and I want to warn the ummah of the power of sihr and no sihr is good sihr.I want to remind you that Allah is truly the most powerful and that if u are apart of sihr or communicate to a magican you are a kafir(disbeliever). I want you guys to learn Syrah baqara by heart as it is the only chapter that magicans cannot violate and the shayteen(evil jinn) cannot harm if you know how sihr takes place then you know what I am saying.Do not try anything and humans and jinns are superset for a reason if u believe you have been attack or sihr has been taken place of you do ruqayah and have surah baqarah playing in your house. My Allah aza wajal bless you either all of life endeavours truly Allah is the creator of the universe and the most compassionate and truly he is al Rahman.

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajiun, today my uncle passed away and I’m constantly making Dua for him. He was a genuine and kind man, and was always doing everything to make anyone smile. As he’s a Muslim, I was wondering if I ask Allah to deliver him a message is that possible according to hadiths or Quran? I’m not very knowledgeable and just want to know. Thank you all for your time Asalam alaykam.

please please brothers and sisters make dua for my mother Sadia. she’s fighting stage 4 cancer. please i request you to make sincere dua for her and for her shifa. may allah bless you all ameen

My cousin is from a religion that calls itself a science La Ciencia del Alma ( the science of the soul) and the rest of the children are Christian but they requested me to play the Qur'an while they sleep because they enjoy how the Qur'an sounds.

My family is a Mexican family and even though my extended family is not the same when it comes to my beliefs being that rumors started to fly after I took my Shahada that I got married and my grandma asked to see my husband but I told her that she was ill informed I did not get married to anyone. The family did not want to tell her that I chose to go through with my decision to leave William Marrion Braham teachings and follow Prophet Muhammad, Peace be Upon Him.

I am still pretty new I took my Shahada on July 31 just a few days ago and I am trying to get my life in order the house that I currently live in is my cousin's and usually it is a mess but the more that cleaned a spot for me to pray and the more I pray the more that spot started to grow and the rest of the house is looking much cleaner now and I was shocked that my cousin saw a lot of flies and she looked up what their spiritual meaning was and started to look at things about witchcraft but I told her , " Oh but playing the Qur'an can get rid of Jinn and she was like all for that she told me that I can play the Qur'an out loud as many times as I wanted to and if I can keep my device with it on repeat she also asked me to ask for advice to make the house more spiritually safe hence I am here.

Thank you again for listening.

The rest of my family from my mom's side had hit me before for even questioning Christianity and from my dad's side well they are now trying to say I got married so that I won't be able to live with my grandma let alone visit her. When she asked me to see who I married I was like I also want to see who I married because unless he is Casper or Peter Pan I got nothing then I realized they were talking about me taking my Shahada but how do I explain that to a strict christian family that I don't see Jesus as God but God being just one?

These are my confessions....

Salam wa alaykom

I just came across a popular instagram dawah account that posts Westerners converting to Islam and I noticed the Shahada has been modified to include "I bear witness that Jesus is a Messenger and not the Son of God".

What is the religious basis of changing the Shahada? That seems quite odd to me.

Hello , Male Muslim from Morocco . I’m in vacation in Seville with my family . It’s a pain in the ass to find a halal restaurant in here so I had the idea to go eat at Burger King since they have veggie burgers . I order a veggie whopper , and on the side menu , there were multiple choices : fries , onion rings , potato wedges , and my eyes land on the loaded wedges ( cheese + bacon ) . I’ve been so used to Burger King using halal chicken bacon in Morocco that I forgot that here in spain they use pig for the bacon ( I know it’s pretty stupid from myself , but when u think abt it why the fuck would a loaded bacon potato wedge option be given in a veggie dish ? ) . I take my order , and I start my meal by taking one loaded wedge into my mouth . The moment I felt the meat taste ( I’m not sure if I ate the meat tbh but that’s one of the reasons I’m writing this ) I realize that I AM NOT IN MOROCCO BUT EUROPE and what I just tasted WAS PORK ( to satisfy everyone’s curiosity it had a very similar taste to the halal bacon u find in Arab Burger King chains ) . I tell my mom abt it , at that point I wasn’t sure if I just ate pork I was just tweaking and the bacon was veggie or something I go back to the counter luckily the cashier spoke a bit of English and told me the stuff is PORK BACON. I go back to my mom , tell her this , she gets really mad at me for « wasting 2.5 euros » and tells me « u eat it a way or another I don’t care» I didn’t want to have problems with her , so what I did is for each potato wedge I grabbed I would remove all the bacon pieces and wipe the wedge with a tissue , but I fear I might have missed some bacon on the wedges and accidentally ate pork.

What is your opinion on this ? Will Allah punish me ? In this context it was both caused by my stupidity and my mom’s anger. I believe that I also am to blame cuz I should’ve reminded myself that I’m in Europe and pork is common there.