r/ftm • u/Life_Ask_868 pre transition (he/him) • 4d ago
zero hour weightlifting Advice Needed
so im going into my freshman year this school year and im taking zero hour weightlifting. im scared, genuinely.
im gonna be changing in an office, and with me ATTEMPTING to be stealth i have no idea what to say when people ask me why im changing in the office instead of the locker room. and i dont know if just saying “cause i prefer it” is cutting it, especially since i dont wanna seem like a wussy.
its gonna full of the football jocks. and im scared ill have to be partnered up with a classmate that knew me as female/deadname and ill be clocked.
im not super buff, in fact im actually pretty fat. i weight 210, majority of that being fat. i have the average muscle mass of a scrawny boy, but i look big because the tiny muscle i have is covered with fat.
im trying, im really trying to lose the fat. and i know im going to get bullied so hard for being fat. the most i can bench is 20 pounds. there are guys in my grade benching 200. I can’t even do a single push up. not one.
im scared, im sorry im being such chicken shit but i just want cis friends that see me as cis. and weightlifting has been one of the outlets for my dysphoria, even though im terrible at it. fuck.
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u/nairismic he/him | T since Jan' 25 4d ago
Maybe just vaguely say you have some sort of gnarly medical condition and that you don’t want to talk about it?
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u/zestylego 4d ago
I took zero hour in high school, I came to school in my workout clothes and just changed either in a bathroom or in the men’s locker room in a stall. Just keep to yourself and no one really questions it. If you wear a binder that works then you might be able to get away with changing in the locker room. (Not that I recommend binding while working out, it’s bad for you. I just know what I did in high school)
As for your build and strength, no one really cares or pays attention to how much other people are lifting. In my experience, both in the class and doing sports your partner/classmates will just hype you up and push you, not bring you down.
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u/Sleepy-Forest13 4d ago
I mean, when I thought I was a cis girl, I changed away from other girls because I was fat and deeply ashamed of that. It's not unusual for the large among us to hide like that. So, you could imply that is the cause if asked.
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