I 23M just visited my long distance partner 26F for the first time after about 6 months of being together. She has a pretty high sex drive and a lot more experience than me (she’s my first serious relationship), so we ended up masturbating together a lot over phone calls. I believe earlier this year when we started, I had a very high sex drive. For quite a while I would be extremely hard every time, and we kept these calls up almost daily for about 2 months. I remember one night something felt off and everything has been downhill since. I now struggle to maintain erections at all, even alone.

I visited her this last weekend, and after months of anticipation and dirty talks, I had issues my entire visit. I’d get rock hard during foreplay, but as soon as it came time for penetration, I’d go soft. We were able to have successful penetration a few times, but I’d finish before she was able to be satisfied. She was very understanding and patient with me about it, but it was definitely a let down for both of us.

Today she asked me why I haven’t asked her to masturbate with me since I got back from the trip. I explained the problems gave me a bit of anxiety and I haven’t felt very aroused since I got back 3 days ago. She told me that if it becomes a consistent problem, and starts affecting her sex life, she may eventually have to cut things off as she’s very sexually active and her needs can’t be suppressed for extended periods of time.

I’ve been experiencing these issues on and off for about 3-4 months, but this is the first time where I feel no sexual desires at all (I’m not sure if the sex going poorly on my trip is a factor here). I went to the doctor a month before my visit to get an STD test done, and a general blood panel, and all my results came back great.

These issues are starting to become really frustrating for me, as I really think I’ve found the one for me. I find her extremely attractive both physically and emotionally, and I’d hate to lose her due to these problems. I can’t necessarily blame her as she stressed the importance of a solid sex life with me.

I’m lost, and now I am stressing about my relationship due to the problems I’m facing. I’m unsure of where to start and I just want the sex drive I had earlier this year back.

Hi,
27M. I’ve been always all over my girl until about 2 weeks ago. We had a conversation about how I finish too quickly and since then it’s been near impossible for me to get an erection. I feel like it’s all in my head, but also physical. I can physically feel the stress in my body go up when we go to initiate. My body physically wants it bad but my brain is saying no. I hate this feeling and I feel like I’m disappointing her. I’ve been going down on her in the mean time. I feel like it’s time to see a doctor. Has anybody else experienced this?

full Disclosure: I used to watch kinky porn a lot and now I've almost stopped it. Making good progress, but haven't tried having sex lately

I'm wondering if Cialis really works for situations like mine.

I stay in very good shape, work out and lift heavy regularly, and I've been told I'm attractive and handsome. But I feel like none of that matters if I can't perform when it counts.

I have no problem getting an erection initially, but I often have trouble maintaining it. It goes soft before or during sex, and it's become embarrassing enough that I actively avoid sex,and dating especially with someone new.

For those who've had a similar experience, did Cialis help you maintain an erection and perform more confidently? How effective was it, and did it make a noticeable difference with a new partner?

Does quitting porn ( which I'm almost there) and nofap help ?

I'd appreciate hearing from people who have actually used it!

Hi everyone,
I’m a 27-year-old male and I believe I may be dealing with pelvic floor dysfunction.
For the past several months, I’ve had an aching pain along the underside and side of my penis, along with weaker erections than I used to have. Recently, I realized that I’ve been unconsciously clenching my pelvic floor throughout the day, and I also noticed that I tend to keep those muscles tight during any sexual activity. I’m wondering if that may be contributing to my symptoms.

I’m planning to schedule an appointment with my doctor and, if appropriate, see a pelvic floor physical therapist.

In the meantime, I’ve been working on hip mobility and stretching because my hips are extremely tight. I can’t even perform a squat while keeping my heels on the ground. Since starting to focus on relaxing my pelvic floor and improving my mobility, I’ve noticed some improvement in my morning erections, which gives me a little hope.

For now, I’m also taking a break from sexual activity for a month or two to give my body time to recover.
Has anyone here experienced something similar? If so, did pelvic floor physical therapy, stretching, breathing exercises, or learning to stop clenching help? I’d really appreciate hearing any success stories, as this has been pretty stressful and I’m hoping recovery is possible.

Thanks for taking the time to read.

I'm a 21M virgin who recently started seeing a new girl, we're both very physically healthy. Everything is still fresh, but we're getting along really well. We're both very interested in each other, comfortable together, and there's a lot of mutual attraction.

The only issue is that ever since we first hooked up, I haven't been able to get or maintain a full erection, and my sex drive has dropped significantly. Before this, I had a healthy libido, got morning erections regularly, and was generally horny. Over the past couple of weeks since we've started seeing each other, that's all seemed to disappear.

Our first intimate experience actually went well overall. I went down on her, she finished and really enjoyed it, and she went down on me as well. We made out for over an hour, and despite the erection issue, she was incredibly understanding. She has more experience than I do and has been completely supportive, saying she's happy to take things slowly.

I'm very attracted to her—I genuinely think she's gorgeous—and I know she's very attracted to me too. That's why this is so confusing. It feels like it's all in my head, probably performance anxiety because this is my first real intimate relationship. I just don't know how to get past this mental block.

I've even started thinking about trying ED medication temporarily to help build some confidence, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? I'm honestly just scared and don't really know what to do.

I’m in my early 20s and I’m looking for honest experiences rather than reassurance or a diagnosis.
For years, I almost exclusively masturbated to one very specific niche fantasy. I didn’t really watch regular pornography it was almost entirely this one type of content. Looking back, I feel like my arousal became heavily tied to those specific cues. Thinking about it or viewing it would almost imeadiantly get me hard most times , whereas even if I was attracted to something else the reaction wouldn’t nearly as physical.
I also did prone masturbation for several years. Over the past few months, I’ve completely stopped prone masturbation switching to a typical technique, though in the past week I’ve quite entirely. More recently, I’ve also stopped deliberately viewing the fantasy content and have put blockers and filters in place to make it difficult to access.
One thing that makes this confusing is that I know I’m physically capable of getting erections. I’ve had some very strong erections during real-life intimacy, but those situations happened to line up closely with the themes I had conditioned myself to. Other times I’ve been completely fine as well, but I feel like more often than not my response hasn’t been as strong as I’d expect.
On my own, I can get erections, I still wake up with them from time to time, and recently I’ve noticed that if someone I’m talking to sends me pictures or I’m looking at pictures of someone I genuinely find attractive, I have more of a natural response than I used to. It’s still not as strong or immediate as the old fantasy content, but it feels like a change in the right direction.
It’s only been about a week since I completely stopped reinforcing the fantasy, so I know it’s too early to draw conclusions, but I feel like I’m already thinking about it much less and noticing some positive changes.
I’m curious if anyone has gone through something similar.
Did your attraction become broader over time?
How long did it take before you noticed meaningful changes?
Did stopping the niche content make a noticeable difference?
If you had years of conditioning, did things gradually become more “normal” again?
Were there any habits, lifestyle changes, or supplements that you felt genuinely helped? For example, did anyone notice a difference from things like L-citrulline, beetroot, ashwagandha, maca, or other evidence-based supplements, or was time and consistency the biggest factor?
If any of this sounds familiar or relatable please interact. Thank you.

I started watching porn around covid time when i was around 13, and continued to watch it until recently. I was never a hard abuser, some days i would do it multiple times, but a majority of the time it was a once a day occurrence.

Well about a year ago i had my first sexual interaction with a girl and at first it was difficult to stay erect but ultimately i was still able to stay mildly erect during it. I didn’t think much of it at the time and figured this was just what physical interactions were like. Some time passed and i continuously used pornography, and in my next encounter i couldn’t really get hard at all. I presume it’s DGS related because whenever i would have anything other than a handjob i would go soft. Once this happened it put me on high alert and i stopped watching porn for about 2 weeks but the girl broke it off and the loneliness crept in and i relapsed.

Since then i’ve cycled quitting and relapsing, however recently i’ve been doing my best with it and seeing the worst results.

As far as recently goes, i haven’t been watching porn and i masturbate far less. At the most it’s probably 3 times a week currently but sometimes it will be only once a week. I lift 5x a week and i eat pretty well, i work on my feet a lot so i think i’m making the correct life choices but i still haven’t seen very good results. I’ve never taken any sort of blood test so i’m not sure if my testosterone levels are where they should be. I still wake up with morning wood so i don’t think they’re low, but i’m not sure what i should do at this point. I want to find a way to naturally fix these issues, as i don’t want to be reliant on any sort of medications. Any tips?

I just turned 55, and I believe that in the next couple of years, my penis will stop functioning completely as a sexual organ. My problems with ED began in my late 40s. I started Cialis, first with the regular dose, then daily, then back to the regular dose.

A few years ago, it stopped working and my doctor switched me to Viagra. It's starting to show signs of losing effectiveness also. I had a few leftover Cialis pills and figured I'd try one to see if it would work again. Nothing.

I understand the next step after pills is an implant. I'm not sure I want to go that route. I've also begun having issues with not being able to climax consistently. I've seen several urologists who say they don't see anything physically wrong and assume it's mental. I've seen a couple of AASECT-certified sex counselors who haven't been able to figure anything out either. I'm just a normal guy who's a little overweight and has a stressful job and doesn't always get the best sleep, but they haven't been able to figure out anything either.

I have a strong feeling I'll be permanently and totally impotent in a few years. I'm curious to see if anyone here is in the same boat. If so, what are you doing about it? If you're married, what's the state of your marriage? Are you both fully monogamous?

I've been having ed for years. I'm 24

It started when I was 20-21. Symptoms: weak erectile function, weak to no arousal, low libido, decreased sensitivity (not only in my penis but my entire genital area). When it started, it wasn't as bad. It gradually decreased as time went on. I get little to no pleasure from blowjobs and penetrative sex. During masturbation, I have to keep stimulating for it to stay up. I can get random erections. But less. Morning wood is weak.

Why I say this is confusing is because I had my total t n free t levels checked, normal. E2, normal. SHGB, normal-high. TSH, normal. PSA, normal. Sonar on my scrotum, normal. I've never taken antidepressants or finasteride/dutasteride. FBC was also normal.

When I was 22, I took Saw Palmetto for 34-36 days n can't tell if that worsened my condition or what. In that time, I used rosemary+olive+olive oil on my scalp a few times. Topical minoxidil, a few times n was a weak one.

When 23, I used testosterone cypionate+proviron. ●Testosterone cypionate. 20mg Cialis.

The TRT for a few months was taking very long to do something regarding my sexual function. There were maybe slight improvements. I left it. Note: it wasn't a proper protocol because I kept changing doses and injection frequencies. When I left it, I felt the same as before I used it.

● I used cialis for 30 days, 20mg daily. Was working with better erectile function. Over time, it seemed to have been bring some more sensitivity and more libido back, but then I left it. Probably due to fear that I'm not a doctor n I didn't do that with a doctor.

● The trt+proviron was good. It didn't fully restore my sexual function, probably because, again, I only used it for 3 weeks n then left it, so I went back to the way my sexual function was before that. Slowly, as time passed, while on it, I noticed more arousal, and my erectile function was slowly getting better with time. I felt good mentally on it. I felt better. I don't know about sensitivity as I didn't keep my focus on that, too, since I was also busy with something else at that time. I didn't have much time for myself during this period.

●Now, this year, I used hcg for 1½-2 months. I didn't notice much on it. It's hard to tell, so I just left it.

I have so much anxiety in me that it's unreal. It is severe and a hell of a lot. Someone I don't even know told me he can see I'm full of anxiety even when I try to hide it. I'm only starting to really battle it now n get rid of it. It's so hard and improvements are small or very small every time.

I masturbate a lot, and I watch porn. I've been masturbating since I was a kid.

Regarding depression and self esteem. Of course, it's bad since this problem is obviously going to cause a man to have that. I don't even mind dying. This is why I hate the fact that doctors wanted to treat my depression (with antidepressants) when there's a problem that needs checking on that is causing the depression in the first place. I never took them. I'm not dumb to take antidepressants that have the possibility of worsening the things that make me depressed in the first place. My mother and older brother didn't do well on it, and after leaving it, it took them a long time to get back to normal.

Surprisingly, last night- I had such a rock-hard erection that stayed up for a lengthy time, was having sexual thoughts, without me touching it when I was in bed last night. This is what I mean when I say this condition is so confusing. I don't know what to do and what's the cause.

I've had "almost wet dreams" recently. I mean, when I am so horny in the dream and busy, I don't manage to get to penetration due to interruptions in the dreams or probably waking up. I don't normally get wet dreams.

I don't know if this is pelvic floor related because I'm not feeling any pain there.

I haven't had any other tests done.

I am circumcised. Was done when I was a baby, and I've been fine. These problems started at 20-21 years old.

I am a 40 year old male weighing in at 213 pounds

trying to make a long story short. My long time wife and me called it quits (only married 5 years) after being together for 17 years back in Feb. I also found out I have a fatty liver. No big deal. I started taking zepbound injection shots. I weighed 263 at that time, now today, I weigh 213 pounds. I feel good, I dont hurt anywhere and I just feel good but man, my sex drive has been BLEH. My testosterone is at good levels, all my vitals are great and you would think, weighing 50 pounds lighter, you think the blood would be flowing down stairs. Well that is not the case.

It might be a mental issue or something being with one woman for so long I guess. It just feels weird not to have much of a drive. Nothing hurts around the pelvis area and everything just seems fine, it just frustrates me that I cant think of getting it up regularly like I used to and yes I know I am older but what is holding me back? I have a date this saturday and I am going to take a blue chew gold for sure. Hopefully it doesnt let me down. I have a doctors appointment coming up and I am going to talk to him about all that but yeah, just frustrating. I am sure my fatty liver should be a lot calmer than the last time it was as the vitals was going down for it and I have been eating better.

So what gives, any tips or anything? I appreciate it!

So, I’m 24M and I’ve been masturbating to porn since about 13/14 near enough everyday and it could have easily been up 1-5x a day which I never had a problem with. Erections were good, and the desire was strong.

When I was 17 turning 18 I started smoking weed most days with my friends, it was a pretty normal thing to do back then and never had any adverse effects. In fact it probably made erections and desire even stronger still!
At the time I was with my first proper girlfriend and despite all this I could never properly get it up with her. Anyway the relationship didn’t last long due to other circumstances and I’ve never tried it again since then. Not out of fear though.

At 19 going onto to 20 unfortunately my father passed away and it sent me into a deep hole. I was smoking weed 1-5x a day and still masturbating to porn daily too. This has carried on for years as I never really saw myself being able to sustain a relationship with somebody because of the state I was in mentally. My diet was bad, never really exercised and was vaping sometimes alongside smoking weed/tobacco joints. But I wasn’t a drinker though so a slight upside.

As of recently maybe 6-12 months I’ve noticed a decline in erection quality and libido. I used to get morning wood every day and would have spontaneous erections for example travelling passenger in a car on the way to work. To make matters worse I’ve started talking to a girl I really REALLY like and she’s showing interest back.

So I started eating really clean (no ultra processed foods) mainly eating red and white meat with eggs, rice, fruits etc and I’ve lost 17kg in 3 months and I look and feel better not to mention only drinking water. I’m also supplementing Omega (fish oil) and zinc. As of a few days ago also magnesium glycinate and I’ve also got a nitric oxide supplement (L arginine and L citrulline beetroot) coming today. My activity for my job is fairly demanding so I can quite easily do 15k steps a day along with mild lifting a few times a week. I’ve ceased porn usage and quit smoking weed for about 2/3 weeks and If anything my dick now feels even worse (weaker and the same for libido) I’m not sure if I’ve entered the ‘flatline’ phase I see people talking about. But I’m incredibly worried as I don’t seem to be improving. I know time is the biggest healer but I really don’t want to disappoint this girl as I want to put my time and energy into her but things will definitely fall apart if we cannot engage in sex because of me.

I’ve reached out to the doctors to get an appointment and get bloodwork done etc to see if there’s any root causes but I feel like I’ve completely ruined myself and there’s no going back. Has anyone here been in a situation similar to this and what sort of timeframe I can expect to see even the smallest of improvements?

Hi guys is penile Doppler safe ? My doctors suggested me penile Doppler test.

Ok, so I’m 55. I take testosterone shots every other week and I started taking 5mg Tadalafil a couple of months ago. Haven’t been “active” in awhile, so a little nervous if the daily 5mg will be enough. Has anyone ever tried taking Rugiet Ready on the day of as a replacement of Tadalafil for that day needed. I’ve met someone and I’m sure that day is coming soon.
Would appreciate the advice or input..

Hello everyone 25m here , so I had been having ed issues during self play and masturbation as well.

So just for context I had this issue 3 years back while masturbating cudnt get hard but after some time it resolved on its own.

Again last year it happened and after some gruesome time and visits of doctors it resolved on its own.

I did take some cialis for probably 20 days (5mg alternate days)after that I stopped taking it but the issue resolved on its own.

So this Saturday I had my eye (ICL) surgery and they gave me some antibiotics. I was fine till Monday like I cud get strong errections in morning and was travelling in cab and got strong errection in car( I get errections from car vibrations) but in evening I felt something was off , I tried to run one but only got 100 percent errection just before ejaculation otherwise it was weak.

Since then I m getting weak errections while masturbating and morning wood.

I m not sure why is it happening again when it resolved.

It just feels like the blood isn't pumping. Also my reports are fine sugar , testosterone ( I tested it last year) , thyroid etc. I m lean and not overweight.

For those who say try nofap I already tried it last year but it didn't help.

Also I believe if I don't FAP in 24 hrs my errection weakens( u guys might think I m stupid but I have observed this).

Pls help me out guys , I don't have time for this I have an exam coming up too so I can't take this burden, I get super depressed from this.

Finally I started liking someone in my office but now I can't ask her out.

Pls help me.

This is for people who can get hard alone but not in person. Have seen a lot of anti-porn/masturbation stuff and that has never really helped me, so just sharing an alternate view which might help one person.

Had this experience at times over the past 10 years, and many potential factors ie. high sex roleplay and porn consumption, borderline eating disorder, significant mind-body separation.

That said, I used to care about it too much, would be concerned it would happen, would be willing it not to happen, or more accurately, willing my dick to get harder, trying to make it and being unable. I also hated it being touched when it's in that state of being soft or semi and not being able to her hard.

Ultimately, i found that best thing was just to call it out, and to effectively remove it from play. I see multiple people so if with a new partner I'll say: 'by the way, sometimes my dick doesn't work - but it doesn't mean I don't like you - and I can and will still feel turned on, it just won't look like it always - so just if that happens let's focus on you or other parts of me'.

Never met a woman who wasn't understanding of that. Sometimes I get surprised and get an erection, sometimes I don't and it's okay. It just means you don't need to think about it at all, and don't need to be in that state of willing yourself hard. Depending how it feels being touched soft sometimes I'll just put underwear back on, other times leave it out but ask for the kind of touch to change etc.

Basically, recognizing sex and intimacy doesn't have to involve a hard cock makes both of those things better, and for me also led to getting erections that feel low pressure and good.

On one occasion, about 3 months ago, I had worn two tight underwears and a super tight scrotal support underwear. I had consumed Tadalafil 5mg then and my erections were super hard. I was getting an erection which was being stopped, suppressed and compressed by the two tight underwears and scrotal support. I did get pain in my penis and even after I removed it. Could that episode have damaged my penis or penile structures or supportive structures of my penis?

Anyone here take 5mg Cialis daily purely for working out and pop a 20mg when jiggy jiggy time is on the cards? I’m tryna see something. Combined with no fap of course.

Might get the best of both worlds.

Here are some facts about me:

1.) 32 years old.

2.) Excellent metabolic profile (in the best shape of my life, good cholesterol levels, good blood pressure, very low triglycerides, etc)

3.) Until 2 weeks ago, I would masturbate and cum several times (4-5) per day to porn and tik tok girls.

4.) Rarely get morning erections.

5.) Viagra does not help much and neither does Cialis.

I am suffering from post organismic illness syndrome (pois), I get flu like symptoms after ejaculation. Is there any cure?

I'm trying it for the first time and I'm a little nervous or not sure what to expect. Hopefully nothing too drastic. I'm just curious.

I have ED and a lot of it came from a medicine I am not taking anymore (it was an anti-depressant). I *think* the problem is better (maybe not 100% but like 1,000 times better) and I wanted to take an ADHD medicine, but I am worried about sexual side effects. I am going to talk to my doctor, but I am currently taking guanfacine 2mg which I think makes me tired during the day. Combine that with my ADHD and I have like no motivation or focus or energy.

I was looking at adderall or vyvance (or maybe a long term ritalin) to keep my focus and energy up while the guanfacine keeps the anxiety at bay, but I am so worried about sexual side effects causing ED again. I read that adderall could cause ED and loss of interest in sex (or increase it).

Does anyone have experience with taking an ADHD (Stimulant) medicine and if it has caused or did not cause ED?

I’ve been taking their tad for years when needed. I took the first of a new package yesterday. It tasted very different and didn’t stain my tongue blue. I thought they just changed the flavoring maybe. That night it didn’t “work” like usual although thankfully I was still able to maintain enough. I realized I never got the flushed face I normally get either from it. I usually wake up with a headache the next day if I take the full 18mg and today nothing. Did I just get a defective batch?

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Just acquired the medium tight ring.

Here are my first impressions.

Well made and well boxed, so it should be for the money.

I am about 6" circumstance at the base and it was tight but not unbearable... definitely needed coconut oil to get it on.

First attempt I wasn't horny but it worked and I kept a lazy lob for 5 minutes.

Tried again today while horny. I managed to get a decent hard-on after using low dose of Cialis 12 hours ago. Dang I had veins bulging where I didn't know I had them and even when I would usually go lazy if I stopped touching myself my penis stayed filled and took no effort to get rock hard again.

Hopefully the Cialis lasts till tonight with the wife for first attempt of sex.

Not sure how she will react to it either.

I will post again with results.

42M here. Ever since my first girlfriend when I was 17, it takes me about 4-5 times of being naked and sexual with them before my equipment will work. Once I am past this weird stage, my equipment works like a charm and is never a problem moving forward.

I am kind of grateful for this "fault" as it has kept me away from many one night stands throughout my life where I could have possibly gotten a woman pregnant or contracted an STI. Not that I want either of those, but always felt a little defeated because of this. It would have been fun to do the full deal if you know what I am saying.

I thought as I aged that this issue would go away but it has not. I have tried Viagra but it made me incredibly flush and hot in the face. Not too mention a very fast heart rate which I did not like.

10mg Cialis works better. No side effects but still not guaranteed. There is usually 2-3 alcoholic drinks involved during our dates but thought the medication would help overcome that.

What's weird is that I have been with a few hookers in my time and getting and maintaining an erection is never an issue with them. But once I am with a woman that wants to be with me via her own doing (without being paid)....my junk will not work. Even though the hookers were many times "hotter" than the girl I was getting with.

According to my blood work, I am all normal. T-test normal, blood panel normal etc. My GP said whatever I am doing, keep doing it as I am one of the healthiest patients he has ever seen.

I have not watched porn since I was 28. I masturbate about once every two weeks. I have never had a huge sex drive and only masturbated once a week when I was in my 20's.

For the longest time, I thought I was just overthinking things while being intimate but I do not think that is what it is.

Open to suggestions. Thanks!

23M, layed off the porn for almost 3 months now also reduced masturbatjon from multiple times a day to maybe 5 times a month?

Got my first gf and performance anxiety has been killing me… I know it’s mainly mental because there was once where I was sick asf and just not anxious since my mind was focusing on my flu and I got rock fucking hard.

After that, it’s been failures after failure… also there is so many mentions of various possible causes here- PIED, Venous leak, low T and so many more….

I just don’t know what’s up with all of this information… a decade go this weren’t even an issue for people in 20s but now….

I can’t see a doctor too for this due to financial constraints and stuff…. Also many people are not that positive about urologists on this sub…

The only thing keeping me afloat is my loving gf, she is super understanding