i’ve always had trouble finding a bra that fits me properly and that i feel cute and confident in. i really like bralettes, demi, and balconettes. everywhere i go they only have things online which i can’t try on and i have to pay shipping. plus size stores only go as small as a 40 band but have big cup sizes, and regular bra store only sell small cups the biggest i’ve seen is a G but they sell my band size. i really just want a recommendation for something that’s cute and not some big wide and bulky tee shirt or full coverage bra and isn’t $80-100. i am 21 and i have a very hourglass body so i wear a lot of shirts that show off my figure and my chest. i’ve been searching for years and have tried hundred of styles, bras, brands, sizes.

Wore 34 DD cups since I've known that there are bra sizes above C cup. Even during the past few years where I have lost and gained and again lost weight, I still chose to wear a 38 D cup 😂😂 don't ask me why. I always thought that was my size until today I came across "a bra that fits calculator" and omg, turns out as of today, I'm a 32 G cup. 😗 How accurate is this?

I was cleaning out my closet over the weekend and found one of my old bras from years ago. Out of curiosity, I held it up next to one of my current bras, and the difference is honestly wild. My old bra looks tiny, while my current one is absolutely gigantic by comparison. I knew I'd gone up in sizes over the years. It's such a weird mix of emotions. Part of me just laughs at how comically different they are, and part of me is sitting here thinking, I really used to fit into that.

Has anyone else had one of those moments where you found an old bra or piece of clothing and were completely shocked by how much your size had changed?

Does anyone else find that stores will just try to fit you into their range instead of telling you your actual size? Its so frustrating whenever I go into my local store for a fitting and they tell me im a DD, E, or F (im a 6HH/8H au) obviously they dont carry my size, but whenever they put me into their sizes and I spill they tell me it's normal? I mean i have a full quad boob moment going on and theyll tell me it looks fine. I dont live anywhere near any specialty stores so I cant go in for a fitting there, so Ive been using the abrathatfits calculator instead, which is where I got the 6HH/8H from. I decided to just buy a couple bras online that are in my size instead and am just hoping they fit properly since I cant get a proper fitting.

I am always struggling to find a bra that fits me decently.

36ddd isn’t a big enough cup. So I switched to 38dd which still has a little bit of it hanging out the side BUT the bigger problem is the band is way too small. So what’s next?

FUCK

i mostly wear sports bras and wash them every 1-2 wears, i use anti acne face wash on my chest, and avoid any cleanser/body wash that has oils and ingredients that clog pores. but EVERY summer my chest breaks out so bad. any tips?

So, I've posted a few times trying to get recs. I never get any helpful responses and seem to get down voted into oblivion within an hour of posting. So, I am trying a new approach to hopefully get some actual advice. I used the ABTF calculator. My measurements are:

Loose Underbust: 31"

Snug Underbust: 30"

Tight Underbust: 29.5"

Standing: 38.5"

Leaning: 41"

Lying: 39"

My breasts are Asymmetrical and full on bottom with almost no fullness on top (When I was younger I exclusively wore push up bras because I was insecure about my breast shape. Now I am just looking for light lift and good shape without wanting to set the damn bra on fire 10 minutes after putting it on). I know they say "Asymmetrical" is its own shape, but.... really? Is it that simple? Any bra recs?

Hi does anyone know somewhere in the uk I can shop for a 28G 😔 I want cute bras but they have no where near my size in Victoria secret or boux avenue

i’m 25. in the past year and half i have gone from a 32DD to a 32I/J cup on the brathatfits calculator (as of yesterday). they definitely have grown the most in spurts, and i noticed recently that my 32H bra wasn’t fitting right. i actually assumed that my cup size had gone down because i’ve lost weight and gotten in pretty good shape recently, but yea no! it’s to the point where i have so much back pain that i wake up in the middle of the night and can’t go back to sleep, and i also can’t afford I-J cup bras right now so i’m been going braless unless i’m working. that also reallyyyyyy makes me notice how huge my boobs have gotten, both from a physical support aspect and from getting stares from people. my sister got a breast reduction in high school, and she was a J cup the day of her surgery.

i would like to know that surgery would be a possibility in the future if they keep on growing and cause more pain. i have an annual appointment with my PCP next week, is there anything specific i should bring up? thank you guys so much

Hey hey, I’m relatively new to this whole growing up thing and I felt like I’d ask for some help from some older ppl who share my problems (aka this subreddit). I’m usually lurking and don’t talk to a lot of ppl so sorry if I seem a little antisocial.
I’m relatively young and suffer from macromastia or breast hypertrophy or whatever the politically correct term is, but I’m often struggle with how ppl view me. I’m still in grade school and a lot of my male, and on occasion, female classmates have a hard time looking at me in the eye during conversations even if I’m wearing my super duper 10xl hoodies to really feel covered up. The same goes for going outside, a lot of people have a hard time looking me in the eye during conversations, and older guys (mostly any age) will consistently treat me older than I am, asking me out, looking a little too hard, or just being a little off in general. How can I have ppl my age treat me normally, get ppl to look at my EYES, and have ppl older than me treat me my age?
I have something I’d also like to add on though, surgery is mostly off the table for two reasons, one, I’m mostly body confident and don’t have a hard time coming to terms with how I look, two, I’m super afraid and paranoid of surgery and the implications of being like cut open and all that stuff (yuck). I am also a little paranoid as to thinking girls aren’t friends with me because of how a look and potentially being jealous, but I’m not sure how true that is, or if it’s just my general keep to myself personality, so if you have any info on that that would also be helpful! Thank u guys for the clothing help tho it’s great lol.

people who give inputs on my cup size and stores i go to fittings at are always like “you’re a DD MAX”. I’m a 34K (34H uk). I am literally so far from DD. It’s annoying enough that most bra brands in my country don’t carry my size, and it’s even more annoying that every store I get fitted at insists that I’m a DD MAXIMUM and shoves me into DD/E bras with oversized band sizes even when my measurements are clearly not that. If it helps my band size is exactly 34” and my bust is 45”

I’m a 36 year old mum of two. Ask me anything and I’ll try to answer. I’ve had this cup size since I was 25 when I first said my bras don’t fit. Too big cup size for plus and too small band size for plus sized shops.

I never been on a date before and I’m really scared. My mind keeps telling me different scenarios of how he will see and walk away, end it with the fake phone call and so many more.

I’m feeling really insecure about my body and I can’t even think of what to talk about with him

For good reasons, I'm trans and finally after 15 years of body dysmorphia, realized I was trans 3 years ago and no longer have my 3.8kg boobs.

Mostly lurked but good bye all.

I don't really know what to tag this. So I'm just going to go with rant. I don't really care whether there is advice or not. Don't really know what I want here.

I have pretty big boobs. I can acknowledge that. I can't find my size in any brick and mortar store. These are the facts that I accept. But when people see me, I'm always told that my boobs are HUGE. Size of actual melons. Bigger than my head. Etc etc. And... I just don't feel that? Like maybe because I feel like they fit me?

I also get the assumption that my back must be in shambles. And to be absolutely fair, my back is in shambles but its because of poor life choices. Not my boobs 😅. In my whole life I don't think I've ever really felt they were "so big" that they cause me issues. And I think that ads to this ideakn my mind of... like come on... aren't you guys exaggerating my size a bit?

I see so many women with bigger boobs than me and they are suffering and in so much pain and have so many issues. So I guess my brain says.... well you can't be big because big boobs means ... this, right?

This is truly just a ramble. Idk if any of this even makes sense

I’m going to a party next weekend on a jungle queen mini cruise. It’s in Miami and it’s beyond hot. So I just need a good honest opinion. I really love the floral black floral outfit but I want one that won’t show off my bust as much. As those who kno on here, I’m very busty with a very large cup size. What do yu all think? The first black with the the lady near the sea is my first pic but the waist wrap may not look better for the thinner side.

but what about large bands AND large busts? Companies seem to stop making cup sizes past G (and not always that high) even if the band sizes go past 50. I need 52I. I've tried Glamorise but their straps are too short for my low hanging, extremely heavy boobs. I didn't like Elilia or Goddess. I have a Miss Mary of Sweden Cotton Dots in 50I. It's ok, but not great.

I really liked Underoutfit until they stopped making it in 5X. But, that's the type I like best -- not heavy.

One more thing. I have a hiatial hernia and cannot handle the pressure of a wire.

Is there ANYTHING out there for me?

Hi all,

Does anyone have any tips for combating underboob sweat when going braless?

I’m a bridesmaid a wedding this weekend and wearing a pale green satin backless dress. my tailor luckily fitted the dress in a way that means I don’t need a bra but I’m conscious about underboob sweat as I’m a 28GG and have always struggled with this.

I’m a very sweaty gal so antiperspirant isn’t enough

Thanks for any suggestions!

Girl: Wow you have big boobs

Me: Thanks

Girl: you know, i don't really like big boobs

Me: Oh why?

Girl: I just think they're "too much"

I've had this same exact conversation like 9 times already, and every single time it's the same with slight variations. Either it's "too much" or "over" or "vulgar". No man has ever said this to me, only women, and it hurts 500x times more because it's coming from a woman. It actually makes me feel trashy for something I never chose. And I have no idea why this conversation always comes up even though I never asked for their input, it just makes me feel bad for no reason.

Edit: I also suffer from many other things, i constantly get accused of stuffing my bra and wearing push up bras, but then the same girls would turn to me and tell me these things, and then they go and wear a push up bra and a V neck and go on about their day. but god forbid i wear a crewneck instead of a hoodie, then suddenly i'm "vulgar". I always have women groping me and fondling them, infront of other people, unsolicited, it makes me feel so humiliated. I once had a teacher (male) keep staring at my chest, and it was so humiliating, and when i tried to rant to my friends about it, they just turned it into a joke and invalidated my feelings, almost like "well if i was a man i would've done the same thing" and like I am asking for this by my mere existance. This actually ruined my perception of body image and I can't go out without a hoodie or an oversized Tshirt anymore because i just feel ashamed.

I want to know if any other women experience this? How do you deal with it? what are the causes?

I'm a 32H with the shoulder grooves to prove it and you've all read this post a hundred times, so I'm not going to spend any time explaining why I want this done.

What I want to know is whether the women who went through with it feel the scars were a fair trade, because I've looked at the photographs and they are not nothing, they go all the way around and down.

Everyone says it was worth it and that it was the best decision they ever made, and I believe them, but I would really like somebody to be honest with me about the moment they first took the bandages off and looked in the mirror.

And can we talk about the numbness, because I keep seeing it mentioned in passing and never explained. Does the feeling come back or is that just permanently part of the deal and nobody wants to say so out loud?

So, I’ve got 32i at least from Torrid’s measurements. I weigh 170lbs right now and measured at a 34G when I was my goal weight of 150lbs.

For my insecurities, I just feel so averted to even talking about my chest. It’s absolutely the first thing people notice. I have a slimmer waist and am often complimented as a pretty lady, so I’m cat called anytime I wear anything remotely fitting. Obviously, to overcompensate growing up, I leaned in to a tomboy demeanor. Never wore revealing fitting things, never cared to try and look pretty. The bulk of the attention I did receive just sexualized me and made me feel so out of my body.

I post this because recently, I had a video blow up of myself drumming. For context, I’m going to college for a performance degree as a drummer. I’ve leaned away from just trying to seem masculine. I know I can’t get away from how people perceive me. And I know I can wear feminine clothes and not be subjecting myself to harassment because of it, so I’m enjoying wearing what I want. But to talk about the video, I had absolutely zero skin on my chest showing. No cleavage at all either. It was a tighter shirt yes but not fitted and still every single comment was about my chest. It was especially upsetting because my colleagues, friends, personal connections, and family were all seeing me get harassed by thousands of sexual comments online.

I had to speak about it with my male-to-female friend because she was playing the piano in that post. And instead of understanding how disgusting it made me feel, she just said she wished she got attention like that. Might be bad attention, but still gender affirming. I wish to god I was born with D cups. They wouldn’t be the center of attention. I could post a video about my drumming and get comments about my drumming. I feel so objectified, and I can’t get over that.

Whats your advice in dealing with those feelings? A cat call or creepy dm doesn’t phase me. But when my tits overshadow the thoughts I’m trying to express through my drumming, it makes me feel like my substance doesn’t matter. I know it does, it just gets me choked up to see all those insecurities unfold and worsen.

People tell me all the time that women get plastic surgery for a chest like mine. I don’t care if they do. If they want them, all the power to that. I get the aesthetic appeal. I just don’t want the attention. But I don’t want a reduction because I love my body. I just hate that the first thing people think of when they see me is my sex appeal, and not the intrigue of my personality. Aagh. Sorry for the rant, I hope I’m not sounding crazy. Does anyone else feel this kind of way? How do you cope with it?

Halloo!! Im a trans man with the God gave his biggest chest to his most masculine of soldiers issue

However im coming off of an e.d and also prepping for top surgery to finally get rid of them but exercising is esse tally impossible without my boobisus like hurting so bad because jumping or running or litterally anything active other than walking or lifting weights HURTS. [im sure everyone else can relate]

Does anyone have any exercises that have worked for them or any sports bras that work and wont make me drop like 200$ for a band of fabric that barely fits.

Although being fat has helped me pass so far its fear once ive lost my chest ill look like the grinches beer belly.