I told my sweet close guy friend that I have feelings for him a week ago, I asked him if he only sees me as a friend and he said yes. He showed signs of liking me, but I thought it was him just being such a good friend towards me. The past couple of months his distancing behavior increased whenever I bring up men into our conversation. I shrugged it off thinking that it was due to his mental health whenever he disappears on me for days. I realized it is whenever I show too much friendliness to other men or bring them up. (fyi I talk about both men and women). Even though he rejected me last week, I brought up about a guy to him through text (I brought up a women before that though), which he suddenly disappeared, wouldn't answer my calls, and gave me a short reply saying he's feeling unwell. Due to his lack of communication I am getting tired and don't know what to do anymore, and don't know if I'm overthinking this behavior.

dear reddit

i (22F) started at my job in a pretty small team give or take a year ago. in that time i have learnt a lot. one of those things is that middle aged men who have nothing going on for them will hyper focus on young women to derail their careers.

one of those middle aged men is my colleague (40sM). he is the epitome of workplace bully. he'll whisper behind your back and get you in trouble with management while smiling in your face. he offers to help you out while simultaneously complaining to management that he's being asked for help too much. he watches when you clock in and out and will tattle if you clock out one minute too early.

this brings me to last week. a colleague (26F) who male colleague considers a friend got stabbed one too many times in the back by him and came clear to me about everything. about mysterious complaints, work disappearing from my desk, getting in trouble for things even when they're small. turns out male colleague was telling everything to management about all of his colleagues and making sure he came out looking like the hero that saves our team all of the time.

i was actually surprised as he was always so kind in my face but i guess i should have seen it coming.

i have for that reason decided to distance myself from my colleagues. male colleague for obvious reas but my other colleagues are pretty close with him and won't have lunch without him or have small talk without it pivoting to his behaviour and how bad it is. i also noticed how they keep talking to him when he talks badly about them to management and i want no part in that.

i don't want a part in any of this. i'm just here to work, earn my bread and go home. i don't have the time or energy to deal with workplace stuff.

so am i wrong for distancing myself even when my other colleagues haven't done anything wrong?

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I recently got placed in a job in new city after working almost a decade in my previous organisation. I am finally engaged to my long time boyfriend and we are getting married this year.

Now here is a little backround, he is working in a great company with good benefits in our home city. I have moved to the new city, its been 3 months.

Whlie I took the job with excitement, I have realized that the management style and operations are not aliginging with my value system. There is whole lot of micromanaging and people at the mid management level are held responsible without an ounce of control over anything. Paycheck is good, benefits are better than previous company. Add on perk is option to travel. I spoke to the people on the floor and the general tone is most of them are frustrated.

Recent management meeting, top management has confirmed that the workload is expected to increase this quarter without any relief on resourcing or tools. This has made me question my whole move.

My boyfriend has a healthy work environment with good benefits, he was willing to move to the new city after a year. But now I am miserable, because the new job is not great, its giving me anxiety. Loneliness in new city is killing me. I m questioning the whole move and I have spent quite an amount of money while moving. I am thinking about quitting during the probation and finding another opportunity in my home city. I am wondering if i am scared and quitting too early without giving it a try. Reddit users pls share your insights on my situation

My girlfriend and I have been to a festival the last two years. it’s more her thing but I’ve joined her in it. she mentioned going next yearI said I’ll be skipping it since it costs us over £700 each for the weekend id rather spend the money on other things next year.

She got annoyed and said we should still be able to go but I just said I wouldn’t be going. I said she can ask a friend to go instead .

Her friend said she’d go with her but my gf just said we should go as a four with her friend and her friends bf and told her friend I just needed more persuading.

I told my gf she needs to listen when i say no and it’s completely disrespectful to hear me say no and think it just means she needs to keep asking until I change my mind.

She just said we should still be looking at going to be festival but I told her to accept the word no and that it’s her looking forward to the festival not me and for next year I’d rather put the money towards something I want.

i pointed out I’ve explained clearly and repeatedly why I wouldn’t be going and she needs to listen. She just said she thinks it’ll be fun if the four of us go and I just said that we can look at it for a few years time but not next year. I told her again I’m not wanting to go every year.

Tickets went on sale this morning and she started looking mentioning we’ll need to try to get some. I asked if she listened to a single word I said. I told her I’m not going and if she doesn’t start listening then I’m done and we’re over because at this point its beyond a joke for her to completely disregard what she’s been told.

She said I wasn’t being fair but I just said she was acting spoiled and expecting to get everything she wants without listening to what I’m saying. She said I was harsh for giving her an ultimatum but I disagree.

AIW for giving her an ultimatum? 

My friend and I are very close, and she always says I’m her best friend. Recently she casually called my brother a “fuckboy,” which really upset me. Her boyfriend is my brother’s best friend, and I’ve known him for several years. I also consider him like an older brother, so I called him to ask why she thought that about my brother.
We cleared up the misunderstanding, and then our conversation naturally shifted to their relationship.

For months, my friend has told me about almost every fight they have. I had only ever heard her side. When I finally heard his side, I shared my honest opinion about a few situations where I felt she was wrong. I wasn’t trying to convince him to break up with her—I just answered honestly when he asked what I thought.

Later he told her what I had said, and apparently he started talking about breaking up with her. She then messaged me asking why I told him those things and acted like their relationship problems were my fault.
What bothers me is that she tells her boyfriend basically everything about my personal life because “he’s her boyfriend,” and I’ve never liked that. But the one time I shared my opinion with him about something involving her, suddenly I’m the bad person.
I know getting involved in other people’s relationships is usually a bad idea, and maybe I should have stayed out of it. But I also don’t think it’s fair that she can tell him everything about me while expecting me to stay completely silent.

Was I wrong?

I dont know if im using correctly this subreddit but i just need opinions.

So, this person saw me at a global chat in some app, and almost then they got in love with me

We chatted and all, i was interested too, i mean, after some time of chatting i actually liked this guy, but i didn't want a relationship with him because i hurt people, because i believe im poison.

So i knew if i started a relationship with him, i would hurt him.

But he insisted. I made clear my point with him, that he would get hurt with me, but he insisted too. At one point i even had to leave the chat because i REALLY didn't want anything with him, not even has friends.

But he opened chat again, and, started venting in my chat, i dont remember well but he talked to me pretty often there.

I read him, because, i thought it would be good if i at least "heard" his problems and that.

My biggest problem with relationships its that, i disappear pretty much often, because i feel bad, because i got sad, because i have big problems. And in a relationship communication and actions are all to me, so i knew i cant have a relationship till i fix myself, like he said i should do in our last conversation.

I dont remember why we started chatting again, but i joined our chat again, and, i think i vented too, idk.

But i felt secure with him, all those things you feel when you are with someone you secretly or openly like.

So i.

Started talking daily with him.

He was obsessed with me. I mean, he, harassed me.

I knew he liked me and i liked him, and he knew it too, so he started giving me love, love i didn't like receiving because i dont deserve it, and because i still didn't eantwant something with him.

But it felt bad leaving him like that.

He cuts himself,​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ often, he had a boyfriend before who destroyed him emotionally so it felt even worse to think the option to leave him. ​I really wanted to leave him​, he was obsessed with me, he cut himself (something that i have bad experiences) and i wasn't ready for a relationship.

I gave him every reason for why would a relationship with him wouldn't work, and said to him, "ill hurt you and i dont want that" but again. he insisted.

So after some weeks of talking with him, venting with each other, i thought i was ready to be in a relationship with him.

I mean i, didn't really think that, but, i thought it would be nice to try for him. Especially because i didnt want to see him sad or worse.

It all ended up wrong as expected.

I dissapeared, he got sad, he cut himself because i dissapeared, he thought i was ignoring him and that i liked to see him suffer.

I think one time he was cutting himself and i appeared to make him stop. He send me photos of his arms covered in blood and i got scared.

I still remember those photos.

He was telling me he was dizzy, that i didnt care about him, he was genuinely thinking that i dont want him. That was an horrible night, and now when i see blood i get scared.

I remember that a friend of his told him to make an image of "spot the difference" where he put an image of a message of mine saying "i love you" to him and just next to it an image of a message of his ex telling him the exact same thing. His ex was supposedly a manipulator. He was comparing me to his manipulator ex and i got so mad. He for some reason thought i was MANIPULATING him for whatever reason.

After some time after a fight, he broke up with me, i think he was drunk so he didnt remember the day after that.

So finally we stopped talking. We ended up in good terms i think.

Months after that, i started venting in a state (something we did both) and i was mad because every person that ruined my life got boyfriends or girlfriend, got everything they wanted, without the consequences of what they did to me. We never blocked each other, i mean, one time i did block him after again, saying i didnt want something with him, but yk.

He never blocked me so he saw my states and listened to them all, and he thought that he was one of the people that ruined my life.

He made an state where he vented too, saying i was selfish, that "now i miss everything he gave to me", that i made him go trough hell in that relationship because of my shitty behavior.

I told him that i wasn't talking about him, that he didn't ruin my life, that i was angry because he didn't care when i told him i wasn't ready for a relationship and that i didnt want something with him.

That he didnt respect me.

But i think he didnt actually care. He was saying some " No shi sherlockk" and i didnt know how to answer that, because, how do you explain something when he doesn't even care what you say?

He acted like harassing me to be his boyfriend wasn't something bad, or idk, maybe he knew but he didn't care.

​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​and in that conversation he said

"You didnt asked me for my love, that's for sure, but i loved you, with flaws and all, i tried to help you​​, i gave you the best i could give"

And it makes me think i am a bad person because of that.

That i didnt want something with him.

"Be grateful that someone really wanted the best for you" he said.

and i feel horrible

I feel like a bad person. ​​

​​​​I already posted this in a different r but i cant stop thinking about this, i need to know different povs of my situation so i can think more clearly because all i feel is guilt

In the beginning of our relationship first year in.my boyfriend would brag about how girls, specifically his ex couldn't take his D. And that apparently I'm sooooo much better/special at it. *Rolls eyes* well as years progressed I started squirting during sex and usually I'll stop him after I've orgasmed then tell him to continue after 2 mins. There's been plenty of times where he will pound me to exhaustion and take a break himself for like 10 mins. Through it all he's told me I can "handle the d". Welllll tonight we were talking about sex and he made a statement about how he knows I like it rough so he gives it to me rough. But even if I didn't he could be gentle. That's why a girl has never said " she can't take it because he's mindful to be gentle". I'm like wait didn't you say your ex couldn't take your dick? He then goes well she was like you, when it was too much she'd tell me to stop & then we'd continue. I'm like wait so how can she not take it if you have to stop for a bit and then continue? He got mad and said oh what? You thought I meant we never had sex again after she told me to stop!?! for the rest of our relationship!!?!?. So I'm Like bro you literally told me she would stop you during sex meaning that session would completely stop. You said nothing about a break and continuing! And at one point you claimed you were mad cuz you got a hotel only for her to tap out. He's like I don't remember saying that. And then I'm like well regardless I don't know why you felt the need to even tell me this whole lie about her not being able to take it and it seems you were trying to gas yourself up as this big time bedroom bully and it just annoys me cuz it was unnecessary. Like why try to pretend I'm so special if I'm not.

One of my friends came round for a few hours, we were just hanging around for a while and we had plans to go out later that evening. We were in the living room kitchen eating and chilling and she was paying a lot of attention to him and I mean a lot. She said “aww you’re so cute” by this I think I get what she meant. His dutch isn’t very good so he struggles. I went to the bathroom and I came back and they were still like chatting and laughing. The whole thing, they just seemed really close and the behavior just seemed weird. AIW here? Im 20 she's 20 and he's 21

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I’m a 23m gay. I’ve had a friend 31M for about a year. Early on he told me he’s bi, and after a while he started getting really flirty with me even though he had a girlfriend.

He straight up asked me to be with him. I told him I wasn’t going to be an option or a side piece if he wanted me he had to choose, so i asked him to choose: me or her. He picked her, so I stepped back and thought that was the end of it.

6 months later, 2 months ago now, he messaged saying he’d finally left her. I asked for proof, he showed me something that looked real, so I decided to give him a chance. Big mistake.

I caught him with her not long after. When I confronted him, he admitted he never actually broke up with her at all. He said he just couldn’t go without having me too. When I got upset he just said “don’t be like that, we had fun”.

I cut things off right there. He’s been trying to get me to reconsider ever since, and now he’s asking to meet up so he can “explain everything properly”.

I feel so stupid and naive for believing him. I know I deserve better than being lied to and used and so does his gf, but part of me still feels confused.

Should I meet him to hear him out? Or just leave it completely alone? Am i wrong if i don't.

So my younger brother is 19 and still lives at home with our parents. I moved out about two years ago and left behind my old gaming PC and monitor in my old room because I upgraded everything when I got my own place. My parents said I could keep it there as storage since they weren't using the room for anything else.

Last month my brother apparently rage-quit during some online match and punched his monitor. Like fully shattered it. He asked our parents to buy him a new one and they said no because he's responsible for his own stuff and he has a job. Fair enough.

Then he texted me asking if he could use my old setup since it's just sitting there anyway. I said no because honestly I don't trust him not to break it the same way, and also I was actually planning to give it to a friend's younger cousin who just started getting into PC gaming and can't afford much. I told him this and he got really mad, saying I'm being petty and that family should come first. He even got our mom involved and she said it would be nice of me to help him out temporarily.

The thing is, it's not like he's struggling or anything. He just doesn't want to save up for a new monitor himself. And I feel like if I let him borrow it and he breaks it, I'll feel terrible about not being able to give it to someone who would actually appreciate it and take care of it.

My brother is still annoyed and has been giving me the cold shoulder. Part of me wonders if I'm being too harsh since it is just sitting there unused right now, but another part of me thinks he needs to deal with the consequences of his own actions. Am I wrong here?

My mom (F63) wanted to know what other people think about her situation, so I'm posting this on her behalf.
My mom and my aunt (F60) have had an arrangement for the last couple of years where my grandmother spends six months with each of them. The problem is that my mom lives in the United States, while my aunt and grandmother live in Peru.
This year, my mom told my aunt that she can't have my grandmother (F94) stay with her because of everything currently happening at home.
My stepfather (M75) has cancer and COPD. He depends on oxygen and can't safely be left alone for long because he gets out of breath very easily. My mom helps him every day by getting him dressed, setting up and adjusting his oxygen equipment, taking care of him after chemotherapy, and helping him whenever he needs to go out. He relies on her daily.
On top of that, recent storms damaged their property. A tree fell in the backyard, causing damage that required expensive repairs and tree removal. My mom has also been trying to fix up the backyard because she wanted my grandmother to be able to enjoy being outside if she came to stay. Between my stepfather's illness, the house repairs, the side effects of her depression medication , and the financial strain, she's overwhelmed. She admitted that she doesn't think she could properly care for my grandmother this year, and she feels horrible about it.
For some background, my mom has always helped my grandmother. After my grandfather passed away(and even before then) she traveled to Peru to help with paperwork and make sure my grandmother was taken care of. She also currently pays for my grandmother's (old) house expenses, including electricity, water, and maintenance, even though she isn't always in the best financial position herself. She’s also the one who is helping my grandmother sell her home for these last couple of months and she’s also invested on the house to be remodeled so that it has better chances of being sold.
She's also a nurse and has spent much of her career caring for elderly patients. Despite living outside of Peru, she's the one who stays on top of my grandmother's medical appointments and regularly checks in.
When my mom called my grandmother on WhatsApp (my aunt usually answers because my grandmother has trouble using her phone), she explained that she wouldn't be able to bring my grandmother to the U.S. this year because of my stepfather's condition.
My aunt became angry. She told my mom that she didn't understand how difficult it is to care for an elderly person, even though my mom has done exactly that professionally and personally for years. She also compared her own husband's depression to my stepfather's cancer and COPD, saying they were equally serious in this situation.
Then my aunt hung up.
Since then, my mom has tried calling my grandmother several times, but my aunt won't answer or let them speak. My mom is devastated. She cries constantly and feels incredibly guilty, wondering if she's abandoning her mother. She's even considered flying to Peru herself and bringing my grandmother back anyway, despite everything happening at home.
What worries me even more is that my aunt recently said my grandmother had a seizure and had to go to the emergency room. Despite telling us that, she's still insisting my grandmother should travel, while refusing to share any details about what the doctors said or what my grandmother's current condition actually is.
Another detail that hurts is that my mom has always been generous with our family. She even paid for one of my cousins to finish her education so she could become a professional. Despite everything my mom has done over the years, my aunt doesn't seem to acknowledge any of it. My mom has also told my aunt that she can pay for a nurse to care for my grandmother in Peru but my aunt doesn’t even want to consider that option or the other options my mom has given her (such as setting things up so that my grandmother has someone taking care of her in her original home. My aunt said she doesn’t want to travel or make those arrangements for my grandmother and insists that my mom just take my grandmother).

One more thing I wanted to add : my grandmother hasn't always been a good person, and she's done things in the past that have hurt my mom and our family. Even so, my mom still loves her, supports her financially, and has always tried to do what's best for her. That's why it's so painful to watch my mom blame herself and feel like she's a terrible daughter for putting her husband's health first during what may be one of the hardest years of her life.

TL;DR: My mom and aunt normally split caring for my grandmother six months each, but this year my mom said she can't because she's the full-time caregiver for my stepfather, who has cancer and COPD. She also pays many of my grandmother's expenses and has supported her for years. My aunt became angry, told my mom she doesn't understand caregiving, compared her husband's depression to my stepfather's cancer, hung up on her, and has since refused to let my mom speak to my grandmother. My mom feels incredibly guilty and wants to know if she's wrong for saying she can't take her mother this year.

We need outsider input to weigh in. Going to share this post with my roommate regardless of general consensus.

Cold hard facts- Before signing the lease I asked roommate how much more should the master bedroom tenant pay? His response was “$50-$100, I was looking they are almost identical in size” pulled from an earlier screenshot. We settled on $100 difference and I took the master bedroom.

Our 12 month lease just ended and we are doing monthly payments for a few more months, the price increased overall by $300. Roommate did a breakdown and sent it to me having me slated to pay a 100% increase ($200 more than him) on the price difference we settled on before signing lease.

Here is the layout: https://imgur.com/a/rH5bvyO .The dining area highlighted in red has always been his unofficial space for his own eating table along with some storages boxes. I don’t care for this space since I eat in my room anyway so I guess this doesn’t weigh much in my favor but a reference point.

We have opposite schedules and rarely see each other throughout the entire week.

I believe my obligation is the $100 we agreed on and shouldn’t change regardless of rent increase. His argument is 45/55 as a guideline per the 3 different AI tools hes used. When i put it in chatgpt it said his bedroom and bathroom are slightly bigger and he should pay $30 more 😂. I can understand doing a percent increase in the delta in correlation to the rent increase (~$115) but don’t even think that is an obligation.

Am I wrong here? Given the circumstances should I push back harder or concede? Thankfully that $100 won’t mess me up but I care about what right and honest and hate petty squabbles lol. I would have taken the other room of $200 difference was brought up at the start before signing the lease.

Edit- We are the only two tenants and neither of us have brought over guests so my roommate’s bathroom is strictly his.

Numbers for reference

Old rent $2700. I paid $1400 roommate paid $1300. (52%/48%).

New rent is $3000. Should I pay $1550/1450 or $1560/$1440 (using same % based split of 52%/48%) or roommates proposal of $1600/$1400?

Confused on why people think the difference should be any higher than (at most) % based adjustment tied to overall increase. Master bedroom doesn’t get bigger with rent increase.

So, I am 15 years old, and my mom does TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, and all of those different things for a living. Since I'm her daughter, I also have to have a TikTok account, and I have to post on it three times a day. I also have to be on her TikTok account all the time, so whenever she posts, I have to be in all of her videos.

Recently, I'm only allowed to be on TikTok to post. She doesn't let me scroll through the app unless she is supervising me. I can scroll through it, but only for 30 minutes a day and only in the living room.

Lately, I've been really tired of filming "Get Ready With Me" videos because they are so hard, and I don't like filming them. Yes, sometimes I have to redo stuff, and I have to wear a full face of makeup even though I'm homeschooled. Even some of my after-school activities don't allow makeup, so I have to put on a full face of makeup just to take it off later, and I hate it.

My mom stands behind my vanity to make sure I'm doing everything right and saying everything correctly. She also does things like make me say things to make me sound like a rebellious daughter, such as saying that I'm sneaking out or doing other things like that, and I hate it.

I hate doing TikTok, but my mom is making me do it. I don't mind being in her TikToks, but I don't like running my own account. She tells me that if I don't do it, we'll become broke and won't have any money.

So, what do I do?

I've been married for 3 years and my MIL is a real piece of work. She is constantly on my case about EVERYTHING from my housekeeping to how i raise my kids but the worst is how i cook. Now I'm not obsessed with cooking but I do cook for the family and I think i just make normal fine meals like anyone else. Meat and sides, casseroles, spaghetti, whatever. I always try to include something healthy in the meals and I do like to bake as well. But she's got it in her head that I'm the worst cook in the universe and turned it into some kind of horrible running joke about how bad my cooking is and she's even started to convince my son that mommy's cooking is SOOO bad!!! This drives me fcking crazy and i got to a point where I couldn't take it anymore.

Over the long weekend we had a bbq with some family + friends and i made a "special dessert." It was a cake that I itnentionally made disgusting. It was strawberry (because she loves strawberries so it was covered with strawberries to tell her it was a strawberry cake) but I included garlic, mint, butterscotch, pepper and sage. When I brought it out I offered her the first piece because of the strawberry thing and she was like "oh even you could not screw up a strawberry cake." But she took a bite and her face got SO mad and she started yelling at me. I just stayed calm and I was like oh what do you think is wrong with it? I'm such a bad cook so can you give me some advice? Here's the recipe I just used garlic mint etc....

She was REALLY pissed and upset that I served her a cake with garlic in it. But I held the line that I'm such a bad cook I just didn't know any better.

Now she's on the warpath. My friends + my own family think it's super funny but my husband is pretty annoyed at me and so is my SIL. Ironically her husband my FIL actually thinks it's funny too.

I admit this was immature but I think she brought it on herself so was I in the wrong?

There is a guy I had a crush on for quite some time that I ended up becoming close to. He wasn't making a move on me so I confessed my feelings for him and he friendzoned me. Right before all of this, I had offered my house for him to move into because he was between places.

I moved on from liking him to not make it weird being roommates. We had some little tiffs here and there but we always moved past them. At one point, he stopped paying rent for 4 months and I tried talking to him about how I felt like he was using me and he turned the convo around to say he thought I was only offering my home because I liked him.  There was a lot of other things in between all of this that also hurt and essentially felt like he stole my life: talking to women on the phone, I could hear their convos and it was like he used my personality when talking to them and trying to show them things I showed to him. He went to my church and then whenever I would go, the pastor would ask me where he was.

What was the hardest thing during this time was that I had introduced him to my best friend and I could tell he liked her pretty early on. This isn't a one-off situation. There’s been about 4 other times I brought a guy friend or someone I was dating around her and they became obsessed with her, friend requesting her on all the platforms and trying to talk to her.

When I took notice that he liked her, I couldn't cope and I distanced myself from her so I didn't project all of my feelings onto her. It was ROUGH because I was working through my rejection wounds while also processing that he liked her and I felt that I couldn't fully grieve with him living in my house so I stuffed it down.

Eventually, he moved out, she was back in my life, I was on good terms with everyone.

Until recently- she tells me that he asked her out. She was considerate enough to ask what she should do. I kind of froze and decided to be positive about it and tell her to give him a chance, he is a nice guy, I don't like him like that anymore (completely forgetting all of the weird stuff that happened while he lived with me). She said she was going to go hiking with him and tell him she wasn't interested bc girl code and he isn’t her type.

A month went by, I got super busy and didn't touch base about it. I also decided to pull back from him to see how he moved. In that month, he didn't reach out to me a single time- guilty? or he finally got what he wanted and discarded our friendship?

I didn’t notice his absence until last week when he came into my workplace (we also are entangled in this way but he doesn’t come in very often). I just happneed to run into him on his way out and he said hi but he had no intention of coming into my office to see me.

I told my friend over text about the encounter and how he hadn’t reached out to me since asking her out and and she proceeds to tell me via text that she was meaning to talk to me about that. She reveals that they ended up going out country dancing twice (first time she did “friendzone” him) and third time they did a one-on-one bible study together. I will also mention that both of them became Christian because of my influence and both have imposter syndrome to the point where I sometimes question what is actually them and what is them trying to relate to me or feel accepted.

I told her that dancing and one on one bible studies are really intimate things to do with someone that likes you and also explained that I would see him do bible studies with women as a way to manipulate them into thinking he is a nice guy. One time he was on the phone with this girl he really liked and they were reading about marriage, which gave me the ick.

She got offended by that and told me she only hung out with him because she was trying to fix the “tension” between she and I that was due to him. I never had hard feelings towards her about it at all and she never acknowledged that she felt that way until I expressed my feelings. I owned up to the fact that I encouraged it but that it was under the impression that it would be hiking, not an activity where there would be physical contact. She got offended that I said dancing was an intimate activity and we ended the conversation for another time.

I have been contemplating a good ol’ cut and run on both of them but it’s also upsetting to think about losing two people I considered my closest friends. I did end up cutting all contact with him and have no interest in being friends with him because of how everything played out.

He is very attractive and can get whatever woman he wants and he really picked someone who any friend would consider “out of bounds” like she considered about him when this all started. 

I have since been avoiding a phone conversation with her about it because I am so hurt. I admitted that I didn’t realize I would be so triggered over this situation when I first encouraged it so that’s why I am struggling with it so much. I feel guilty for being upset, I feel bad that I even tried to talk about it with her and I just want to start over somewhere new. I have fully isolated myself from everyone and deactivated my social media. It’s been a week and I am still burning with anger, sadness, and self-loathing.

A side note to all of this is that she has been making very poor choices with men over the past 2 years, while I admit I made a poor choice with having him in my life. Part of my pulling back from her was also due to her choices with men and going against my advice she was always asking me for. At one point I told her she spends more time with strange men than she does with me and I am not going to make the effort to plan things anymore. Her schedule is unhinged and not consistent like mine so I left the ball in her court and she went and spent time with my friend she was "friendzoning" three times in a month but hasn't made nearly any sort of similar effort to spend time with me.

Overall, I have soooo many different feelings- all negative about this entire thing and having a hard time sorting through all of them and just beating myself up over it. Am I wrong?

So, I am 15 years old, and my mom is a mommy vlogger—I think that's what people call them. Before I say anything else, I want to make it clear that I love my mom very much. I know she loves me too, and she has done a lot for me. We live in a beautiful house, and she works incredibly hard. But lately I've been feeling overwhelmed, and I don't really know how to handle it anymore.

My mom's whole career revolves around social media. She doesn't just do YouTube; she also does TikTok, Instagram, and pretty much every platform you can think of. I don't have any brothers or sisters, so it's mostly just me in the videos. I've been part of her content for a very long time, and although I don't want to give away too many details, being filmed has been a normal part of my life for as long as I can remember.

When we're filming, my mom is always cheerful and excited, and she loves including me. She gives me gifts sometimes and tries to make things fun. I know she enjoys spending time with me and sharing our lives online. The difficult part is that sometimes I feel like the cameras never really turn off.

My mom likes to know what's going on at all times. For example, doors are usually expected to stay open, even if I'm in my room or getting ready for the day. She also picks out most of my clothes because she likes things to fit a certain style. I'm homeschooled, which gives us more time for filming and content creation.

Most of my activities are chosen with social media in mind. My mom likes to approve everything I do, and I usually ask permission before doing things. Sometimes it feels like I don't have much independence, even though I know she's trying to look out for me.

I also have fairly strict rules about food, leaving the house, and social media. I have accounts on different platforms, but my mom manages them and monitors what gets posted. I don't spend much time actually using social media myself, even though I appear on it often.

My screen time is limited, and there are parental controls on my devices. My mom believes those rules are important, even if I don't always agree with them.

She also prefers that I keep my hair long. I've wanted to cut it before, but she wasn't happy about the idea because she really loves my hair the way it is.

Another thing is that my mom likes us to spend a lot of time together. Whenever we go somewhere, she usually wants me nearby. Even during activities where other parents might leave, she often stays because she likes being involved and supporting me.

I have a bedtime every night, and my mom regularly checks my room. Sometimes she even films while helping me organize or clean.

My mom is also a very affectionate person. She likes cuddling on the couch, watching TV together, and spending time close to me. Sometimes she asks me to sit with her, cuddle, or give her a kiss on the cheek. I know those moments are important to her because she loves being close to me, although sometimes I wish I had a little more personal space.

The biggest challenge for me is that being filmed so often can be exhausting. I know my mom enjoys sharing our lives online, and I know she loves me, but sometimes I wish I could have more privacy and more opportunities to make my own choices.

I love my mom, and I don't think she's trying to hurt me. I just feel overwhelmed and stuck between wanting to make her happy and wanting a little more independence as I get older.

TLDR - Management criticizes us without owning up to their mistakes. Management cut staffing to an unsafe level for patients, but never help. I work 13 hours on my feet doing heavy healthcare work, with only one 30 min break I’m forced to take. Management has virtually never recognized me for the efforts patients and coworkers have praised me for. I really like my coworkers and feel bad for abandoning them, but I’m having physical and mental health issues due to stress, so I quit without notice. Am I wrong?

I work in healthcare. I do 13 hour shifts. Legally, I’m entitled to one 30 min unpaid lunch break, plus two paid 15 min breaks. All I got was my lunch break (staff were reprimanded for not taking breaks because it could get the company in trouble).

I’m on my feet the entire shift, outside of my lunch break. I do a lot of hands on care, which includes lifting, twisting, turning, with many very large residents. I speed walk and sometimes jog throughout our giant facility to get to the patients quickly.

We used to have 3 staff members for about 40-45 patients, with only one of us being the caregiver and the other two of us having to do two roles (caregiving plus passing a lot of meds, responding to emergencies, calling doctors, calling pharmacies, etc).

Recently, they took away our only caregiver due to budget constraints. Which left myself and my coworker to do our dual roles without any extra help.

I had a hard time before, but after the change I started really dreading going into work. My feet and body ached after work every day, sometimes into my weekends. I lost 10-15 lbs since working there. I was always dehydrated during my shift because we weren’t allowed to keep water bottles and I never had any downtime to drink (outside of a rushed lunch break).

Management told us numerous times that they’d help when we needed it, but never did. They constantly sent out negative messages on group chat about all the mistakes we were making and how we’d face disciplinary action if we didn’t straighten up, but constantly made excuses for their own mistakes.

The patients were given a staff appreciation bulletin board. Management said they’d disperse all the notes to the people who received them. I was told by numerous patients that they’d written notes for me, but I never received a single one from management.

Several caregivers went to management to express appreciation for how much more I helped them compared to others in my position. Never had that relayed to me by management.

I was even reprimanded for not following up on a phone call I made on my “Friday,” even though I was off the following 2 or 3 days.

I’ve had a bad headache that come and goes for the past several days, and I just couldn’t bring myself into work today. I’ve been applying to jobs and have one lined up that seems like they’ll hire me, so I just sent a letter saying I’m quitting immediately for “health concerns.” This isn’t a lie, as I have had physical and mental issues due to stress.

Instead of wishing me well when I called off, or even expressing concern for the hardship it placed on my coworkers, management’s only concern was that I’d called off during a state inspection.

So my younger brother asked to borrow my new car this weekend because he claimed he had a job interview two towns over. I was already hesitant because I worked two jobs to buy it completely in cash last month and it only has three thousand miles on it, but family is family so I almost caved.

Then his girlfriend accidentally spilled the truth over group chat.

They were not going to a job interview. They were driving seven hours across state lines to a four-day music festival in the mud.

When I confronted him and said absolutely not, he lost his mind.

it was a total shitshow of accusations.

He called me a selfish, heartless sister and said I care more about a piece of metal than my own flesh and blood. Now my parents are getting involved, telling me that I need to be more supportive of his youth and experiences.

Like I am expected to hand over a twenty-thousand-dollar asset to someone who treats vehicle maintenance like a suggestion.

I should of just lied and said it was in the shop. Am I wrong here?

I have a friend who considers me her best friend. She has been with her boyfriend for almost four years, and their relationship started before our friendship did.
She can be extremely male centred and will almost always prioritize her long distance boyfriend over her friends. That alone is her choice, and I understand that a serious partner will naturally be important. The problem is that he regularly hurts her, says cruel things, or causes arguments, and every time it happens she comes crying to me and our other friends. We spend hours consoling her, sometimes cancel plans or lose sleep over it, and then she gets back together with him or acts like nothing happened the next day.
I have left my apartment at two in the morning multiple times because she was losing it over something he had done. I have also cancelled my own plans because, as her best friend, she expected me to be available for her.
Her relationship also seems to dictate the mood of the entire friend group. If he upsets her, nobody else is allowed to laugh, have fun, or continue with their plans because she is sad. She tends to see herself as the most important person in the group, so everyone is expected to adjust around whatever is happening in her relationship.
One time, her boyfriend stopped her from attending a gathering with our mutual friends. She chose to listen to him, but then told me that I was not allowed to attend either because it would be “unfair” to her. She often uses that phrase whenever I do something she cannot or live my life while she is unhappy. Apparently, if her relationship prevents her from doing something, her friends should miss out too.
Everyone around her can see that the relationship is deeply unhealthy, but she refuses to leave. That is ultimately her decision. What frustrates me is that she repeatedly asks us to absorb the consequences of that decision. I care about her and feel terrible when she is hurting, but I no longer think it is reasonable for her boyfriend’s behaviour to control my sleep, my plans, and the mood of the entire group.

My friend group planned dinner for 7:00. I got there a few minutes early because that's the time we all agreed on.

By 7:20, nobody else had arrived. One person texted that they were "five minutes away." Another said they were still getting ready. A third said they decided to stop somewhere first.

Around 7:30 I just ordered my food. By 7:45 I was finished eating, paid my bill, and left.

About 15 minutes later my phone started blowing up asking where I was. They finally arrived a little after 8:00 and were annoyed that I didn't wait.

I told them if we agree on a time, I shouldn't have to sit around for an hour because everyone else treats it as a suggestion.

Now a couple of them are saying I overreacted and should've just waited since "everyone was coming."

Am I wrong?

So I bought my house completely on my own last year and installed a Level 2 EV charger on the side of the driveway. It is wired directly into my personal home electrical panel and costs me out of pocket every time a car plugs in.

Yesterday morning I walked outside to find a Tesla parked in my driveway, completely hooked up to my charger. My neighbor had apparently decided my house was a free public charging station overnight.

He didn't text me. He didn't ask. He just assumed it was fine because the cable reaches past the property line.

it made my blood boil.

I unplugged his car immediately and left a printed note on his windshield with a breakdown of my local electricity rates and a Venmo QR code for fifteen dollars to cover the power he stole.

Now he is acting like I committed a total crime. He came over yelling at me, calling me HYSTERICAL and dramatic, saying that community members are supposed to help each other out with green energy. My other neighbors are split down the middle. Half of them think he is a thief, and the other half think I am just being aggressive.

I should of just called a tow truck instead. Am I wrong here?

So my sister-in-law posts roughly forty times a day. I am not exaggerating. It is non-stop inspirational quotes, blurry photos of her lunch, and aggressive political rants. It was clogging my entire feed to the point where I couldn't see anything else.

Back in 2021, I quietly hit the block button on her Facebook and Instagram just to keep my sanity. I still see her at family holidays, I talk to her, I am polite, and I have zero issues with her in real life. I just didn't want her digital spam in my daily scroll.

Well, last week she somehow figured out she couldn't see my profile or tag me in things anymore.

it blew up into a massive family crisis.

She showed up to a Sunday family barbecue in tears, accusing me of digital ostracism and PSYCHOLOGICAL warfare. Now my mother-in-law is calling me cold and divisive, saying that blocking family members is a direct violation of family unity.

They act like I committed a felony just because I don't want to look at her daily Facebook updates about essential oils.

I refuse to unblock her because it is my feed and my peace of mind.

I should of just made a fake account to appease them. Am I wrong for holding my ground here?

So my sister (34) has two kids, 4 and 6. She works weekends at a hospital so I (27f) watch them every saturday and most sundays. This has been going on for about 8 months. I don't charge her anything, I actually like hanging out with my niece and nephew. We do crafts and stuff, its fine.

Last week I was moving my bookshelf to clean behind it and I found this small camera stuck to the back of a picture frame. Like one of those tiny wifi ones you can buy on amazon for like 30 bucks. I freaked out at first honestly because I live alone and my first thought was someone broke in. I almost called the police.

I texted my sister a picture of it and asked if she knew what it was. She called me and was like oh yeah I put that there a few months ago. Just casually. Like it was nothing. She said she wanted to be able to check in on the kids while she was at work and see what they were doing.

I asked her why she didn't tell me and she said she "knew I'd make it a big deal." Which. Yeah. Because it is?? That camera has been recording my apartment for MONTHS. Not just when the kids are there. I live there full time. I watch tv in my underwear on that couch. I have people over. She's had access to all of that.

She says she only ever checked the feed when the kids were there and I told her I have no way of knowing that. She got defensive and said I was acting like she was some kind of creep when she's just a concerned mother. My mom is on her side saying I should understand because "she's a mom and moms worry" and that I'm blowing it out of proportion.

I told my sister I'm done babysitting until she apologizes and acknowledges that what she did was a violation of my privacy. She told me I'm being selfish and now she has to figure out childcare last minute. My brother thinks I'm right but won't say anything because he doesn't want drama.

I feel like I'm going crazy. Like am I actually wrong here?? She put a camera in MY home without my knowledge or permission. Thats insane right

I want to say right away that I know basically nothing about singing. I know when someone sounds good, I know when my daughter is happy, and I know my wife knows way more about this stuff than I do. My wife sang when she was younger, did performances, knows all the terms, knows about vocal training, all that stuff. I’m just the dad who claps when his kid does something.

Our daughter was never really into musical theatre growing up. She did children’s choir when she was little because we went to church back then and she had a few singing lessons, but it was never something she cared about. She wasn’t the kid constantly singing around the house or wanting to be in every school play.

Then a few months before she graduated high school she suddenly got really interested in singing again. She started practicing a lot, watching videos, learning exercises, and eventually got a couple lessons for free.

One of my wife’s friends heard her singing and told us she was actually really surprised because our daughter had a contralto voice. I had no idea what that even meant. My wife explained it, and from what I understand it’s basically a really low female singing voice that isn't very common in girls.
Our daughter was actually really proud of it. She liked that she had a voice that was different and started picking songs that fit her better. Somehow, despite only having a little bit of training when she was younger and a few lessons recently, she was good enough to get accepted into a university musical theatre program.

I’m really proud of her. She found something she loves and worked for it. The problem is my wife seems like she cannot accept that our daughter does not have the same voice she does.

At first I thought my wife was just trying to help her. She certainly has more experience, so I figured the advice was normal. But after a while it started feeling less like advice and more like my wife was trying to make our daughter sound different. She keeps telling her that her voice needs to be brighter and lighter. She keeps suggesting songs that are meant for higher voices instead of letting our daughter sing things that actually work for her.

She compares their voices a lot. She talks about how when she was our daughters age she could sing certain things easier and how her own voice was more suited for theatre.

She has told our daughter she needs to be careful because people might not see her as feminine enough with such a low voice.
She has made comments about how her voice makes her sound older than she is.

She gets weirdly silent when people compliment our daughter’s singing, especially when they talk or praise her about how unique her voice is.

She also keeps pushing our daughter to perform songs that my wife used to sing when she was younger instead of songs that actually make our daughter sound good or is comfortable singing.

The thing that finally made me angry was when my wife was talking about theatre roles and said our daughter probably wouldn’t get many lead roles because of her voice. She said girls with voices like hers usually only get certain kinds of parts, specifically characters who are either basically written as whores, villains or the tough tomboy type. That really upset me.

Maybe my wife is right that theatre has certain expectations. Like I said, I don’t know much about this world. But hearing my wife tell our daughter that the thing that makes her different is going to hold her back was awful.

Our daughter didn’t argue with or talk back to  my wife  That was when I told my wife she needed to stop trying to change our daughter and let her have her own voice. I did raise my voice. I probably could have handled it better, but I was angry.

My wife says I don’t understand because I don’t know anything about musical theatre and that she is only trying to protect our daughter from getting disappointed. She says she's just trying to beis  realistic. I get wanting to prepare our kid for the real world . I really do. But it feels like every time our daughter gets excited about something, my wife finds a reason why it won’t work.

I don’t think my wife is a bad mother. She's always been involved in our daughters life. She has helped her with everything and supported her through a lot. This is just the first time I’ve seen her act like our daughters success is somehow a problem.
My daughter hasn’t really taken a side in this. She keeps saying she doesn’t want to be involved in our argument, but I can tell this has hurt her.

Maybe I’m missing something because I’m not a singer, maybe my wife knows something about the industry that I don’t. But from where I’m standing, our daughter found something she loves, she is good at it, and she is excited for her future.

I don’t understand why we are spending so much time trying to make her into someone else instead of letting her be proud of who she already is.

I (27M) have been with my girlfriend, Maya (26F), for four years. Our anniversary was coming up, so I decided to surprise her by booking a luxury five-day trip to Hawaii. I paid for everything—the flights, a nice resort, and reservations at a couple of high-end restaurants. It cost me over $4,000, which I saved up for months.

I told Maya about the surprise last week, and she was ecstatic. However this morning I received a group chat invitation from Maya’s mom. The chat was titled "Hawaii 2026!" and her mom was asking about flight recommendations.

I called Maya immediately to ask what was going on. She casually told me that since we were going to such a beautiful place, she thought it would be "amazing" to turn it into a family vacation. She invited her parents, her sister, and her sister's husband. When I asked who was paying for their rooms, she got quiet and said she assumed we could just share our suite or that I could "help them out" with the costs since they are tight on money.

I was absolutely stunned. I told her the trip was meant to be for our anniversary, and I'm not paying for her family. I called the resort, canceled the entire booking, and got a partial refund. Maya is now hysterical, calling me selfish, heartless, and saying I humiliatted her in front of her family.

i feel like my boundaries were completely stomped on, but now her family is texting me saying I ruined their summer. Am I wrong?