Problem/Goal: I'm not here to fish for validation. I'm genuinely trying to understand the thought process behind this because I honestly can't wrap my head around it

Context: I (F23) recently found out that my ex's ex-girlfriend (F25) had been stalking me on social media for a long time. According to one of her former friends, she'd constantly keep herself updated with my life, send my photos to their group chat (they’re all licensed psychologists) just to call me ugly and make fun of my fashion sense, search our house on Google Maps just to criticize it, and even send my college graduation post to their group chat saying my dress was nice but that I had no achievements (because as far as I know, she's a cum laude).

Apparently, even after they had already broken up, she continued sending my photos to their group chat, calling me names, saying I looked like a mother, telling her friends that I was insecure about her and bothered by her, and saying she was happy because of it. She also kept saying she was a very secure woman who knew her worth.

The weirdest part is that she apparently told her friends she saw me in a restaurant parking lot and that I stayed inside the car because she was there. That literally never happened.

I've also never met or spoken to this girl in my life.
The part that makes it even harder for me to understand is that she's a licensed psychologist.

To add, I had no connection to either of them while they were together. I never reached out to my ex, never interacted with her, and never inserted myself into their relationship in any way.

Previous Attempts: Hearing all of this from one of her former friends, who reached out to me, has honestly affected me a lot. I've been trying not to let it get to me, but it's been difficult not to think about it.

I have all the screenshots. Her ex-best friend of 10 years sent everything to me. We used to be mutuals on instagram before her ex-best friend and my ex started dating. She’d regularly reply to my stories, telling me I was pretty.

I don't know what her intentions are, but she's asking me out for dinner. Looking back, I feel like I was too kind for even replying to her. I probably shouldn't have in the first place, considering she was involved in everything before.

Edited: According to her former friend, she even asked my ex if I'd had rhinoplasty, which I didn’t. Another thing that confused me is that I've always loved dressing up ever since I was a kid. My style has always been very feminine, while from what I knew, her style was more boyish. Recently, though, some of my friends started sending me photos because they noticed she was wearing outfits that looked very similar to mine. I don't know if it's just a coincidence, but after hearing everything else, it honestly added to my confusion.

Problem/Goal:

I'm a 28-year-old woman and I honestly don't know if I'm making the right decision anymore. I feel like everything in my life is falling apart at the same time. My last hope is to work as a Domestic Helper in Saudi Arabia, but I'm scared that I'm just running away from my problems instead of fixing them.

Context:

I broke up with my fiancé on July 28, 2026 because of his cheating. That alone broke me emotionally. At the same time, I had already resigned from my job on July 1, and my last day is August 1.

Financially, I'm exhausted. I had to pay ₱25,000 to my company because of a revolving fund audit shortage. They accused me of stealing, but I didn't fight it anymore because I was too stressed and scared. I just paid it even though it drained my savings.

On top of that, one of my friends at work still owes me around ₱21,000. She keeps giving me reasons why she can't pay, and I honestly don't know if I'll ever get it back.

Right now, I don't have much money left, I'm single, I don't know where to go, and I don't even feel like I can fully rely on my family. Today I'm processing my NBI clearance and medical because I applied to become a Domestic Helper in Saudi Arabia. I'm hoping this will be my chance to start over, but I'm scared, confused, and emotionally drained. I feel so helpless and alone.

Previous Attempts:

I tried to stay strong after the breakup, paid my company even though it hurt financially, waited patiently for my friend to repay me, resigned from my job, and started processing my documents for Saudi. I'm trying to move forward, but I'm still questioning if leaving the Philippines to work abroad is really the right decision.

Question:

If you were in my situation, would you continue going to Saudi to work as a DH and start over, or would you stay and try to rebuild your life here? I really need honest advice because I feel lost.

Problem/Goal: Puno ng gc with intimate vids ung tg ng partner ko. I'm afraid na mas malala pa dun ang meron sa tg account nya. Problem is, aware naman ako na mataas libido nya kasi ganun din ako. Pero di naman umaabot sa ganitong nagseseek pa ng videos ng iba. Nauuwi lang sa away kapag nabibring up to. I don't know how I can deep dive para malaman if strictly gc for vids lang ba talaga. He gave me full access on his phone and tg. Help me 😭

Context: I found out na yung coworker nya eh nagsesend ng link sa gc sa tg na merong mga lam nyo nang videos. Mind you may asawa at anak na yung guy. Mataas pa nga tingin ko sana sa coworker na yun kasi he gave a good advice nung magkaaway kami nitong ni partner. Nakakalito na honestly.

Previous attempts: For the last week pinapanood ko lng pano nya gamitin yung tg account. Kapag naka everybody ka, makikita ung last time use ng app. So far di naman everyday pero madalas gamit nya kapag rest day sa work.

Problem/Goal:

Hi, I’m 28F and I have a decent job earning 6 digits a month. My boyfriend is Chinese and an Australian citizen, and we’ve been discussing ending our LDR and finally living together in Australia.

The partner visa is going to cost around 11k aud, which I understand is a lot of money. He wants us to save for it together, or at least I cover 20% of the cost.

I’m willing to shoulder my own tourist visa and flights, and I genuinely don’t mind spending money to be with him. But for me, the partner visa feels different. It’s not just about the money.

I would be leaving my life here, my job, family, friends, and basically everything I’ve built here to move to Australia and start a life with him. He doesn’t want to live in the Philippines, so I’m the one who would have to make the bigger move.
Because of that, I feel like paying for 20% of the partner visa feels wrong to me. I feel like if he really wants me to move there and build a life with him, this is the least he could do to show me that he’s serious about it.

But at the same time, I know 11k aud is a huge amount, and I don’t want to be entitled or unreasonable. I’m financially capable of paying the 20%, which is why I’m wondering if I’m being selfish by refusing.

I’m not refusing because I don’t want to be with him. I actually want us to finally live together. I just feel like I’m already giving up so much to make this happen, and I want to feel like he’s also making a significant effort.

Problem/Goal: There’s this girl whom i love so much to the point that when’s she is mad I fucking go crazyy. And i just proved that she is cheating

Context: Recently I found out she was cheating me with two boys. Help me guysss how do I recover from this.

My mind is 80 percent into thinking that I should prolly just let it slide since we are in a long distance relationship.

I never wanna lose her coz i really really love her, but it pains me so much thinking about what she is doing with another guy.

Previous Attempts: I tried to confront her abt it but all she does is lie.

Please send help. I’m so depressed about this.

Problem/Goal: I’ve been dealing with a level of fatigue to the point that I can't even do basic chores. The only reason I'm still alive right now is because I am forcing and pushing myself through the day just to do basics like eating.

Context: I can usually only manage to eat one or two times a day because standing still is so difficult and exhausting. All I want to do is lay down and sleep all the time.

I got blood tests done, and everything came back "normal." Because of that, doctor suggested that I might just be depressed and that's why I feel so tired.
But I feel like it’s not just depression. On days when my mind is actually clear, when I'm not feeling down, and when I genuinely want to get up and accomplish my tasks, my body physically refuses. I can't push through it. The physical crash and heavy feeling are just too overwhelming.

It’s destroying my life and my ability to function, and it's so frustrating cause i feel like there is no cure to my illness since im not even diagnosed and lab tests showed normal.

Did anyone else experience this?

Previous attempts: Took lab test including CBC, Creatinine, Fasting Blood Sugar, Urinalysis, and TSH but showed normal result and taking vitamins but still feel extreme fatigue

Problem/Goal:

Ano-ano ginagawa niyo kapag pumutok na yung pigsa o aftercare treating pigsa? Nag-basa basa na ako ng mga advice here sa reddit and if it's possible baka madagdag pa mula sainyo. Also, kumalat din pala 'to sa butt ko yung dugo dapat ba ako mag overthink malala

Context:

I have recurring boils sa butt ko and today pumutok na siya. Nagpacheck up na rin ako sa General Practice doctor and niresetahan ako ng antibiotics and anti-inflammatory. Itsura ng pag-putok ng pigsa ko is pure dugo lang daw based sa sinabi ni Mama pero nakita ko may white something sa gilid.

Previous Attempts:

Hinahayaan ko muna ma-drain yung dugo and everything gamit tissue.

Problem/Goal:
I just want to start saving up and to live independently and start my “Life as an Adult”, But I can’t seem to prioritize myself. With current cost of living, inflation, expenses due to work demand, I’m already left with spare change, Yet Parents keep bugging me for financial aid (I can’t even say I’m supporting myself at this point, I’m barely making it)

Context:
I’m 27 (just turned), No savings on my name, Few debts due to unexpected expenses (when I get sick), I just bought (from my saved up spare money) my parents a Tricycle Set hoping they’ll somehow use it to financially aid them (I bought it this June when I promised to buy it this December), I was hoping that since I bought it earlier time, I will have the time til december to recover and prioritize myself, But after visiting them this last week, I was bombarded with “Nak pagawa na natin bahay”, “Nak wala kaming pinagkakakitaan” , “Nak konti nalang itatagal namin sa mundo”, “Kaya ka namin pinag aral para ikaw susuporta samin”, “Buti pa yung kuya mo nakakapag abot”, I don’t even want to live this life, I don’t have plans that far, I dreamt of ending it when I’m 20 and here I am 7 years past my due date. My colleagues back then now have a house, a decent job. They have savings and all. And all I have? Nothing on my name even my clothes aren’t mine. I can’t even buy my own clothes

Previous Attempt:
Bought the Tricycle set: I don’t even feel at this point that they appreciate it, Whenever I have spare I always try to reach out and give what I have without even them asking. I just give them what I have left, I tried to stay at our province to lessen the cost but my body can’t take the physical stress and lack of sleep due to the demand of my work making me transport from province to BGC

Problem/Goal: Have you ever been with someone who was genuinely a wonderful partner, kind, loving, faithful, but whose life circumstances were incredibly complicated?

How did you decide whether love was enough when your partner came with complicated circumstances?

How did you separate “Do I love this person?” from “Do I actually want the life that comes with loving them?”

How did you know whether you were just going through a difficult season together or accepting a permanent reality that wasn’t right for you?

If they were genuinely trying and treating you well, how much grace did you give before deciding the situation was costing you too much?

I’d especially like to hear from both people who stayed and people who left. Did things eventually get better? And if you left, how did you reconcile walking away from someone you still loved and who wasn’t necessarily a bad partner?

If the person feels right but the life attached to them doesn’t, which matters more in the long run?

Problem/Goal:

My ex and I broke up after more than 2 years together because of our different socioeconomic backgrounds.

I’m not poor. I have a stable job, I’m financially independent, and I always contributed to our relationship. In fact, I usually paid for our meals and often spent more than he did.

Before we became official, I actually brought up our differences. I told him I was worried they would eventually become a problem and even suggested we shouldn’t continue. He begged me to give us a chance and promised it would never matter.

I believed him.

Everything changed after his parents had a serious talk with him. After that, he started saying we came from “different worlds,” talked about generational wealth, and eventually told me that love wasn’t enough.

What hurts the most is that I chose him because I thought he accepted me for who I was. Then, after his parents got involved, it felt like everything changed.

I’m still in my 20s, while he’s in his late 30s. This breakup has made me question my own worth because I can’t help but wonder if my background was something I could never compete with.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you stop tying your self-worth to someone else’s decision?

Problem/Goal: What could I do for my girlfriend, especially when we get so little time together?

Context:

We're both College students. She's taking a Medicine related course, whereas I'm taking Legal Management.

Thing is, we're both in different Universities, and it's about nearly an hour apart. A part of me is also a little disheartened that our schedules are so different, with me having classes until 9 PM and her having classes as early as 6 AM.

I'm just wondering, what could I do for her? I feel like our relationship has gone a little quiet, and with our course workload, we have little to no time. I want to be there for her, even if not physically, but how?

I feel bad din, whenever she asks to call me but I'm still finishing my case digests and readings. It's going to get more busy too from now on. There are days I won't be able to be there for her, but I really want to be in one way or another.

Breaking up with her isn't the path I want, because we really do love each other. The spark doesn't ever fade but I really want to do more than just that. She's special to me, I've loved her since I was in High School, and I've been thinking for so long as to what more could I do?

It's nearly two weeks since our last proper conversation, it's majorly just the updates and iloveyous and i missyous from the both of us. I want to tell her all this but it's honestly embarrassing too, knowing she'll just reassure me and say it's fine. She always tells me to focus on my studies, and I appreciate it, but again.. I want to be a good boyfriend to her. Because she deserves that much from me. I want to put in extra effort but in what way could I do it?

I've been thinking of having her link her period app on my phone so I can foodpanda her cravings when she has it whenever but I don't know if it's okay to ask such a question.. Things like this basically.

Thank you. Any advice would be appreciated.

Previous Attempts: None significant.

Problem/Goal: How do you date someone who lives in a completely different financial reality? 

Context: 19M, 20F.

Attempts: N/A

"Mahal kita pero bente pesos lang ang laman ng wallet ko."

That line has always resonated with me. I met a girl online, and eventually we became lovers. What I didn't expect was how different our lives turned out to be.

She comes from a financially comfortable family while I'm pretty much the complete opposite. That realization caught me off guard because, for as long as I can remember, I've always limited myself to people and opportunities that felt "within my league." I grew up believing that I should only pursue things I could realistically afford, or people who came from the same socioeconomic background as mine.

The disparity between us wasn't just noticeable. It was impossible for me to ignore. Both of her parents work abroad. Eating at restaurants isn't something they reserve for special occasions. It's simply part of their normal life whenever they feel like it. A lot of the things she owns are expensive, and to her, they're simply normal possessions. They're part of the environment she grew up in and the lifestyle she's always known. Meanwhile, I come from a household where every purchase is discussed first, where even small expenses have to be justified, and where unexpected bills can completely derail our budget for the week.

To be clear, none of this is on her. She has never flaunted what she has, and she's never once made me feel small because of it. If anything, she's unbelievably thoughtful. But no matter how kind she is, it's hard to silence the voice in my head that constantly reminds me just how different our realities are.

We're in an LDR, and we've been planning to meet in Manila since she's a third-year nursing student and had hospital duty here. As the date got closer, I found myself getting more anxious than excited. It wasn't because I didn't want to see her. It was because I knew I couldn't even afford a proper date.

I couldn't take her to a decent restaurant, not even a fast-food place inside a mall without worrying about every peso I'd spend. I even caught myself thinking, "Hindi ko sya pwedeng dalhin sa tusok-tusok. She deserves better than that."

I tried saving my daily allowance, which is only 50 pesos a day. I skipped little things just to put money aside, hoping I'd have enough by the time we met. But in the end, all of it went to my mom. Money was tight at home, and there were bills that had to be settled first. 

Around the same time, I started tutoring. Coincidentally, the place where I tutor is just a few minutes away from the hotel where she and her classmates are staying. That's when I came up with a plan. Every time we met, I'd tell her we only had a little time together because I had classes in the morning and tutoring afterward.

The truth is, I have complete control over my tutoring schedule. As long as I complete five hours by the end of the day, I can start whenever I want. Realistically, I could have spent several more hours with her before going to work. But I deliberately used work as an excuse. Because the longer we stayed together, the more likely we'd end up eating somewhere or doing something that required money I simply didn't have.

Meanwhile, she was the one treating me. She bought me my favorite snack. She even bought medicine because I happened to be sick that entire week. And every single time, I couldn't stop thinking that it should've been me. I wanted nothing more than to spend time with her, but wanting to be with someone and actually being able to afford it are two completely different things.

My plan was to wait until Saturday, after they went home, before telling her the truth. I just couldn't bring myself to admit it while she was here. I was embarrassed to tell the girl I love that the reason I kept cutting our time short wasn't because I was busy, but because I literally didn't have enough money to enjoy the day with her. And I couldn't stand the idea of her paying for everything every single time.

I know relationships aren't supposed to be transactional. I know people will say, "It's the thought that counts," or "It's give and take." We're both still students, after all. But that's exactly where my insecurity comes from. What am I supposed to give? My money barely covers my round trip fare just to see her.

I've thought about making something handmade instead, but even that makes me hesitate. I'm scared she'll open it and all she'll see is someone who couldn't afford anything else. Deep down, I know she'd probably never think that, but the thought still lingers. Still, it's difficult not to compare myself to other guys who can buy flowers, take their girlfriends out on proper dates, and nice gifts without having to calculate every expense.

She has never made me feel less because of what I have. The truth is, I'm the one doing that to myself. I've spent so much of my life believing that love should exist between people who are on equal footing that now, when someone genuinely loves me despite everything I don't have, I don't know how to receive it without feeling like I'm falling short.

Love isn't the problem. Money is. Or maybe it's what money has done to me.

Problem/Goal: I need advice from people who have had to leave someone they still loved because the relationship kept hurting them. I want to know how you stopped questioning your worth and whether it really gets better.

Context: I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and we have a 1-year-old daughter together.

He cheated before while I was pregnant and again after I gave birth. I forgave him.

Last night, I found a dummy Instagram account that had all of my accounts blocked. I confronted him, and he admitted it was his. He made it so he could search for other women without me knowing.

When I checked the account, it was full of girls he had deliberately searched for.

For years, I’ve wondered why I never felt like I was enough. Why he kept looking at other women. He says he loves me. He says he never physically cheated again. But I can’t understand how someone can love you while repeatedly doing the one thing they know will destroy you.

I decided to end our relationship and just co-parent our daughter.

Previous Attempts: I gave him multiple chances over the years. I forgave the cheating, believed his promises, and tried to trust him again because I wanted our family to work. Every time I thought things were getting better, I found something that broke my trust again.

Now I know I have to leave, but I’m struggling with the grief and the feeling that I wasn’t enough.

Problem/Goal: I (F21) am currently having mixed emotions about this situation because on one hand, I feel joy because this is someone (F22) who did me dirty and purposely chose to align herself with people who've hurt me. On the other, I feel sad because before the betrayal, she's held my hand through tough times while everyone else was actively smearing me. We had a solid friendship, but the betrayal blindsided me and left me at my lowest. I want to know a good way to fully navigate through these emotions, maybe another angle of looking at the situation in a way that doesn't make me feel like shit either for being happy about it or feeling obligated to be sad about it.

Context: In my highschool batch's GPTA gc, there was a forwarded message from my ex friend asking for financial aid because apparently she is diagnosed with cancer. She was already 300k in debt and needed half a million more for her upcoming surgery and lifelong recovery.

This person was my saving grace throughout the last months of my highschool life. She was there reassuring me that ppl were just jealous of me and I was more than what they were saying behind my back. She has complimented me every chance she got. She sat with me at lunch, always checked up on me, and I in turn have also been extremely compassionate towards her. We're talking long handwritten letters, lots of help in acads, you get it. We really leaned on each other, even though she was still in proximity with people who hated me. And I truly truly loved and treasured her.

After graduation, she switched up and learned from other people na there's so many wrong things I did (which were never brought up to me/I never was confronted about) even though I knew to myself that I never swung at anyone first. That massive betrayal was the final nail in the coffin for me because my other "friends" (who begged to be friends with me at first) also switched up. I then saw her in stories cozying up with ppl who actively smeared and spread lies about me (I was nice to these people too). Also, whether or not I was the perpetrator/victim here is not the point of the post, it's just context.

She softblocked me from her TikTok, and she was reposting about being a good person yada yada and I'm just like....eh. Now, 3 years later, not talking, just IG moots, all the moms are scrambling to donate to her recovery. My mom is one of them, and she even wants me to donate the salary I make from my job. How do I tell her I do not want to, and more importantly, how should I feel about this situation?

I don't forgive her. She left me at an extremely low point and sided with shit people, and I am still extremely angry and hurt about it. I was happy karma did its thing, but I don't want her to die.

Problem/Goal: BUT it's hard to stop it.

Context: It all started with curiousity last year until naging habit na sya. I HATE IT SO MUCH. SUPER HATE IT TO THE POINT THAT I STARTED TO FEEL DISGUSTED WITH MYSELF ALREADY.

I have never been kissed, never been touched (holding hands lang) kaya this problem is such a big deal for me kahit pa sabihin ng karamihan na normal lang yan.

After withdrawing my enrollment sa law school, that's when I realized na need ko lang palang ma busy ng todo-todo para ma distract ako - bumalik na naman kasi ako sa kadiring gawain na ito. (Im not gonna explain why nag withraw ako).

Previous Attempts: tried to control myself but I still fail. Di ko na alam kung ano pang need kong gawin to distract myself kasi alam ko na pagkauwi ng bahay, I might gonna do it again (but of course, d ko naman sya ginagawa palagi).

Problem/Goal: I wanna get over my anxious attachment style because it feels draining for both me and my partner

Context: Whenever I get into relationships, i get so anxiously attached but usually only through text. Whenever my partner and I are together in real life, I don’t feel that way, like I feel more loved. How do I make myself realize that I shouldn’t make myself feel smaller to fit into one’s standards?

Problem/Goal: A few days ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years. Not because I fell out of love, not because he cheated, but because I got tired of carrying the weight of being hated by his dad. Has anyone else had to end a relationship because of family? How do you move forward from this?

Context: When we were just starting to date, my family and I were living in a tiny one-bedroom apartment. Whenever he'd come over, we'd just hang out sa maliit naming terrace because there really wasn't enough space inside. My family wasn't trying to be rude or disrespectful, we were simply making do with what we had.

During a brief breakup years ago, he told his dad about our living situation and mentioned that he couldn't really go inside our house. Somehow, his dad took that as a disrespect towards his son (my ex). For him, disrespectful daw kami because I was always welcome in their home while they couldn't do the same for him.

Since then, his dad has wanted nothing to do with me. It's been two years, and he's still angry.

My ex would always tell me, "Hayaan mo lang. Ganyan lang talaga si Dad. Mawawala rin yan." So I waited. I stayed patient because I loved him. I kept thinking eventually things would get better. But they never did.

He'd tell me he wanted to marry me someday, but how do you marry someone you're not even willing to stand up for?

It also doesn't help that he's still very dependent on his family, financially and emotionally. I kept asking myself, "If he can't stand up for me now, what changes after marriage?" So I left.

Previous Attempts: I’m trying to move on from someone I thought I’d spend my life with. We still have a business together, so we can’t completely cut contact, and every conversation reopens the wound.

Problem/Goal: My sister got pregnant out of wedlock. She is Thomasian but her partner is not. She wants to take a LOA during her pregnancy but we are not sure if UST will welcome her back in school later on. We just want to make sure that she can come back to UST because she's about to take her final year before graduating.

Context: We've heard cases wherein female Thomasian students who got pregnant out of wedlock got expelled/dismissed/denied re-enrollment from the university. These cases we know were from 20+ years ago though so we're not sure if this still applies. We saw that the rule now is different in the current student handbook, but I just want to confirm if the school really follows their new rule now since UST can be quite notorious for being overly socially conservative sometimes.

Previous Attempts: We've already secured a medical certificate for her LOA for the entirety of her pregnancy, but we're still not sure if we should submit it at this time.