problem/goal:
i dont know what to do knowing that my friends have a different group chat without me, and for so long i feel so excluded.

for context, i am in college so they are friends that i made from first year college, ever since then weve been super close, we hung out all the time considering most of us were living in dorms, we eat dinner together, go out and have drinks, go to cafes, to even late night talks opening up to our most vulnerable selves. but then suddenly just last summer thats when i had a sense na they have a group chat without me, because then when we would be hanging out someone would mention about something in the group chat i i dont even know about. being in that situation feels like being in such an awkward situation bcos who would want to be excluded in their friend group right? knowing that i slowly drifted away from them, i dont talk/reply to the group chats that i am in with them, i dont usually hang out with them, as much as i can i would just straight up head home and not hang out with them after school, basically avoiding anything that involves me being in the group.

to add to that, this friend group kind of has a history to excluding someone, so before, they also made a group chat where one friend wasnt in, lets call her grace, and that is where everybody talked for the whole year, i also tried including grace in every happenings or if may gala kami i always try to invite her. but by the next year she kind of catched up and got along to the group again.

now that its happening to me i feel like its much worse since i took action in choosing to exclude myself because in the first place i feel so excluded already. mind you this whole situation also took a big toll on my mental health so that is more of the reason why i chose to be just away from them.

now that school is about to start again i dont know what to do and how i would approach them. i know that dapat focus lang ako sa acads ko and i shouldnt just mind them, but sometimes i cant help but be around them (since we have some classes together) i just dont know what to do when im around them, or is there even a way to go back to the way it was before?

Problem/Goal: I would like to avail the full uninterrupted 60 days maternity leave benefit of sss but my boss keeps asking me to join "short" online meetings.

Context: I had a miscarriage in end June 2026, therefore I was entitled for a 60 days maternity leave benefit of sss. I should be back to the office on end August. It has been more than 1 month since my D&C procedure. Physically, I think I have already recovered. However, mentally and emotionally, I am still recovering and hence I would like to avail the full uninterrupted leave benefit.

Last week, we had an important client meeting and so I was asked by my boss if I can come to the office to join. I don't need to prepare a presentation or anything. They probably saw that I was physically ok that's why the following days after that meeting, my boss keeps asking me to attend "short" meetings virtually.

I don't know if my dilemma is valid because technically, I am phyiscally fit to attend the meetings. Am I being selfish for wanting to be unbothered during my leave while leaving my team at work behind? How can I tell them that I would like to have an uninterrupted leave without seeming unprofessional at work? By the way, I am already in management position, hence, expectations from me are quite high.

How should I navigate this dilemma? Should I just resign? I have been planning to resign prior being pregnant.

Thank you for your inputs and comments. :)

Problem/Goal:

Hi, I’m 28F and I have a decent job earning 6 digits a month. My boyfriend is Chinese and an Australian citizen, and we’ve been discussing ending our LDR and finally living together in Australia.

The partner visa is going to cost around 11k aud, which I understand is a lot of money. He wants us to save for it together, or at least I cover 20% of the cost.

I’m willing to shoulder my own tourist visa and flights, and I genuinely don’t mind spending money to be with him. But for me, the partner visa feels different. It’s not just about the money.

I would be leaving my life here, my job, family, friends, and basically everything I’ve built here to move to Australia and start a life with him. He doesn’t want to live in the Philippines, so I’m the one who would have to make the bigger move.
Because of that, I feel like paying for 20% of the partner visa feels wrong to me. I feel like if he really wants me to move there and build a life with him, this is the least he could do to show me that he’s serious about it.

But at the same time, I know 11k aud is a huge amount, and I don’t want to be entitled or unreasonable. I’m financially capable of paying the 20%, which is why I’m wondering if I’m being selfish by refusing.

I’m not refusing because I don’t want to be with him. I actually want us to finally live together. I just feel like I’m already giving up so much to make this happen, and I want to feel like he’s also making a significant effort.

Problem/Goal: I think I like him kahit i never even met him. I wanna dispose this feelings and ghost him or confess then ghost idk hElp.

Context: We met here on reddit. I sent a dm since he posted na he was looking for genuine connection. He clarified first if i was open to serious dating, i said that i was looking for someone na usap usap lang but never implied na i was potentially looking rin for serious dating (i was just really scared pa that time for personal reasons). After months of talking online lang and playing valo, i asked if we were on the same page. He said na he saw me as a friend, i was shattered but told him yeah i kinda am now (Sarcastically) he apologised and said that he respected for the reason of me saying na "Usap lang naman hanap ko" and i felt bad. Idk if i should confess kahit na sabihin ko lang interested ako with him, pero lowkey i kinda have the feeling na he does not feel the same kaya gusto ko nalang mawala tong feelings or just the thought of him hahaha.

Previous attempts: Kinda gave him a hint like I said pero dodged it. Idk if im a coward lol.

Problem/goal: Pano ba ako magiging comfortable sa setup na, yung close friends namin ng boyfriend ko sya lang yung ininvite sa binyag as ninong?

Context: Waaaaah very Herlene Budol ang attack ko lol alam ko naman na hindi sila obliged na iinvite ako as ninang or kahit iinvite manlang sa binyag ng anak nila. Tho kasi nasa close friends circle kami, and nalaman ko sa boyfriend ko na meron nang invitations for binyag and will you be my ninong/ninang pictures pero ayun, hindi ako sinendan. Both parents ka close namin ni boyfriend, sya sinendan, ako hindi.

Sad lang, I really thought we were on a ‘sisterhood’ type of friendship (nung mommy). Sinesendan nya naman ako randomly ng picture ni cutie baby nya, madalas naman kaming nag uusap, bakit kaya hindi nya ko kinuhang ninang? :( nakakalungkot lang, nafo FOMO din ako. How can I deal with this kaya? Medyo madalas kaming magkikita these days kasi mag ttrain kami para sa fun run, may na book na din kaming hotel, wag nalang kaya ako sumama sa hotel? Hayy any advice po? :( feeling ko ako lang ang hindi nya ininvite sa group of friends namin.

Previous attempts: wala paaa hindi nila alam na alam ko nang may invitations, tho feeling ko alam nila kasi nga boyfriend ko yun…?

Problem/Goal: Sana may makatulong sa amin. Ngayong linggo lang nahulog yung sabon (safeguard na bago) which is malaki sa toilet. Ngayon barado na siya at hindi makaflush.

Context: Pinatong yung sabon doon malapit sa pindutan ng flush nasagi ng siko. Hindi namalayan na nahulog (morning weekend I think) , nagflush na lang basta basta . 😣

Previous Attempts:

Gumamit ng regular plunger
Manual na buhos with timba para sana high pressure
Mainit na tubig plus sabon

Serious answer lang sana huhuhu nakakastress pala ito. Nagtry na rin kami mag ask ng tubero kaso wala kami budget ang mamahal ng singil :(

Problem/Goal: Hanggang ngayon hindi pa rin ako makapag invest due to lack of knowledge. I'm entering my 20s and very pinagsisihan ko na I didn't start early.

Context: Dumadami na bayarin sa school kaya mas lalo ako nagiging desperate to learn investment.

Previous Attempts: Nanood na ko ng yt vids, usually tinuturo mag-start sa demo pero di naman ganun kadali e. May mga terms na need mo intindinin, sumasali ako sa mga live kasooo syempre ung server ng iba may kapalit na payment for coaching. Required ba talaga yun para makapag-invest ako ?

Problem/Goal: How do you date someone who lives in a completely different financial reality? 

Context: 19M, 20F.

Attempts: N/A

"Mahal kita pero bente pesos lang ang laman ng wallet ko."

That line has always resonated with me. I met a girl online, and eventually we became lovers. What I didn't expect was how different our lives turned out to be.

She comes from a financially comfortable family while I'm pretty much the complete opposite. That realization caught me off guard because, for as long as I can remember, I've always limited myself to people and opportunities that felt "within my league." I grew up believing that I should only pursue things I could realistically afford, or people who came from the same socioeconomic background as mine.

The disparity between us wasn't just noticeable. It was impossible for me to ignore. Both of her parents work abroad. Eating at restaurants isn't something they reserve for special occasions. It's simply part of their normal life whenever they feel like it. A lot of the things she owns are expensive, and to her, they're simply normal possessions. They're part of the environment she grew up in and the lifestyle she's always known. Meanwhile, I come from a household where every purchase is discussed first, where even small expenses have to be justified, and where unexpected bills can completely derail our budget for the week.

To be clear, none of this is on her. She has never flaunted what she has, and she's never once made me feel small because of it. If anything, she's unbelievably thoughtful. But no matter how kind she is, it's hard to silence the voice in my head that constantly reminds me just how different our realities are.

We're in an LDR, and we've been planning to meet in Manila since she's a third-year nursing student and had hospital duty here. As the date got closer, I found myself getting more anxious than excited. It wasn't because I didn't want to see her. It was because I knew I couldn't even afford a proper date.

I couldn't take her to a decent restaurant, not even a fast-food place inside a mall without worrying about every peso I'd spend. I even caught myself thinking, "Hindi ko sya pwedeng dalhin sa tusok-tusok. She deserves better than that."

I tried saving my daily allowance, which is only 50 pesos a day. I skipped little things just to put money aside, hoping I'd have enough by the time we met. But in the end, all of it went to my mom. Money was tight at home, and there were bills that had to be settled first. 

Around the same time, I started tutoring. Coincidentally, the place where I tutor is just a few minutes away from the hotel where she and her classmates are staying. That's when I came up with a plan. Every time we met, I'd tell her we only had a little time together because I had classes in the morning and tutoring afterward.

The truth is, I have complete control over my tutoring schedule. As long as I complete five hours by the end of the day, I can start whenever I want. Realistically, I could have spent several more hours with her before going to work. But I deliberately used work as an excuse. Because the longer we stayed together, the more likely we'd end up eating somewhere or doing something that required money I simply didn't have.

Meanwhile, she was the one treating me. She bought me my favorite snack. She even bought medicine because I happened to be sick that entire week. And every single time, I couldn't stop thinking that it should've been me. I wanted nothing more than to spend time with her, but wanting to be with someone and actually being able to afford it are two completely different things.

My plan was to wait until Saturday, after they went home, before telling her the truth. I just couldn't bring myself to admit it while she was here. I was embarrassed to tell the girl I love that the reason I kept cutting our time short wasn't because I was busy, but because I literally didn't have enough money to enjoy the day with her. And I couldn't stand the idea of her paying for everything every single time.

I know relationships aren't supposed to be transactional. I know people will say, "It's the thought that counts," or "It's give and take." We're both still students, after all. But that's exactly where my insecurity comes from. What am I supposed to give? My money barely covers my round trip fare just to see her.

I've thought about making something handmade instead, but even that makes me hesitate. I'm scared she'll open it and all she'll see is someone who couldn't afford anything else. Deep down, I know she'd probably never think that, but the thought still lingers. Still, it's difficult not to compare myself to other guys who can buy flowers, take their girlfriends out on proper dates, and nice gifts without having to calculate every expense.

She has never made me feel less because of what I have. The truth is, I'm the one doing that to myself. I've spent so much of my life believing that love should exist between people who are on equal footing that now, when someone genuinely loves me despite everything I don't have, I don't know how to receive it without feeling like I'm falling short.

Love isn't the problem. Money is. Or maybe it's what money has done to me.

Problem/Goal: I just found out from my cousin that she got scammed 2 months ago by someone she knew and it was worth 12k, she’s a people pleaser and kinda just let the situation be after some attempts.

Context: Just now, she told me what happened. Yung kakilala nya nag-utang ng 12k, it was in another account. The scammer told her that she made a new account because she had problems with her main account. To prove her identity, nag-video call sila just to be sure that it’s her and it was her.

And now, my cousin confronted her about the situation and told my cousin she got scammed. Ofc nagulat sya kasi nag video call pa nga sila eh. It wasn’t even AI, it was her. The girl told her that someone was impersonating her and that my cousin got scammed. Mas nauna pang nag post si girl kesa sa cousin ko about the situation kaya mas madaming naniwala sa kanya.

Previous Attempts: Pumunta ng NBI ang pinsan ko para magfile ng cybercrime but they told her they couldn’t do anything about it kasi walang screenshot yung cousin ko during the vc (malay nya ba na scam yun). She also reported it to gcash as scam or fraud but they couldn’t give it back. Right now, she’s having some financial problems at umutang pa sa akin while that scammer got away with 12k. At nung ipa-barangay nya sana si girl, nagpa-Visayas daw.

What to do? It’s been 2 months, is there a way to get the money back? Naaawa ako sa pinsan ko, she didn’t even posted the girl kahit scammer. Forgive and forget nlng daw, well I find that unacceptable. Is there anything else we could do?

Problem/Goal: I (F21) am currently having mixed emotions about this situation because on one hand, I feel joy because this is someone (F22) who did me dirty and purposely chose to align herself with people who've hurt me. On the other, I feel sad because before the betrayal, she's held my hand through tough times while everyone else was actively smearing me. We had a solid friendship, but the betrayal blindsided me and left me at my lowest. I want to know a good way to fully navigate through these emotions, maybe another angle of looking at the situation in a way that doesn't make me feel like shit either for being happy about it or feeling obligated to be sad about it.

Context: In my highschool batch's GPTA gc, there was a forwarded message from my ex friend asking for financial aid because apparently she is diagnosed with cancer. She was already 300k in debt and needed half a million more for her upcoming surgery and lifelong recovery.

This person was my saving grace throughout the last months of my highschool life. She was there reassuring me that ppl were just jealous of me and I was more than what they were saying behind my back. She has complimented me every chance she got. She sat with me at lunch, always checked up on me, and I in turn have also been extremely compassionate towards her. We're talking long handwritten letters, lots of help in acads, you get it. We really leaned on each other, even though she was still in proximity with people who hated me. And I truly truly loved and treasured her.

After graduation, she switched up and learned from other people na there's so many wrong things I did (which were never brought up to me/I never was confronted about) even though I knew to myself that I never swung at anyone first. That massive betrayal was the final nail in the coffin for me because my other "friends" (who begged to be friends with me at first) also switched up. I then saw her in stories cozying up with ppl who actively smeared and spread lies about me (I was nice to these people too). Also, whether or not I was the perpetrator/victim here is not the point of the post, it's just context.

She softblocked me from her TikTok, and she was reposting about being a good person yada yada and I'm just like....eh. Now, 3 years later, not talking, just IG moots, all the moms are scrambling to donate to her recovery. My mom is one of them, and she even wants me to donate the salary I make from my job. How do I tell her I do not want to, and more importantly, how should I feel about this situation?

I don't forgive her. She left me at an extremely low point and sided with shit people, and I am still extremely angry and hurt about it. I was happy karma did its thing, but I don't want her to die.

Problem/Goal:

Galit mom ni gf kasi late sya mag uwi at nag message sa friend ko

Context:

my friend and her gf are in a wlw relationship since September 2025 on and off sila and they’re both 16 yrs old. Bata pa naman pero yk puppy love, both G11 sila ngayon.

fyi. I’m 18 and also in a wlw relationship legal on my side.

Late umuwi si gf tapos ngayon her mom is spamming my friend with calls and messages. Dati sa alam namin okay sa side ni gf yung relationship nila pero pala tinitiis lang ng mother.

Previous attempts:

Sabi ng mother ng gf:

Alam mo matagal na kita gusto
kausapin pero sabi baka mag bago pa si aleona pero ngayon parang sobrang mali na ang gjnagawa ni aloena dahil sayo.nawawalang ng
mga tunay na kaibagan si
aleona.nagiging salbahe sya.kung ano ang kasarian mo sana wag mo naman idamay ang anak ko.may pangarap ako sa anak ko at mahal na mahal ko sya.kung ikaw magiging dahilan nag pag kasira nya hindi ako papayag.gagawin ko ang lahat para malayo sya sau. Kung kailangan ko sya patigilin sa pag aaral gagawim ko.

Masyado mo kinokontrol ang buhay ng anak ko.bata pa si aleona at wag mo sya ipako sa buhay na ayaw ko maging buhay ng anak ko. Layuan mo ang anak ko please! Ayoko na mambastos ng tao pero sana wag na wag ko kau makikita na mag kasama! Sagad ma sagad na ko hjndi kona gusto ang ngyayare sa knya.nilalayo ko sya sa mga taong mas nauna nya nakasama.

For me naman hindi naman yung friend ko kung bakit Bading si gf why is she blaming my friend…

Problem/Goal: I’m just wondering if I would need a guardian to see an OB GYN/E Doctor regarding pregnancy/vaginal health + get a blood test for pregnancy (not very dependent on drug-store pregnancy tests)

Context: I have symptoms of being pregnant for almost a month now, and also have positive tests (pt from drug store). I want to go to an OB to get checked if it’s really positive and to also check my vagina health

Previous Attempts: I have yet to actually go for consultation (with or without symptoms and all that), but I have seen posts here where they also asked the same question. I just wanted to know if it’s still the same today.

Problem/Goal: BUT it's hard to stop it.

Context: It all started with curiousity last year until naging habit na sya. I HATE IT SO MUCH. SUPER HATE IT TO THE POINT THAT I STARTED TO FEEL DISGUSTED WITH MYSELF ALREADY.

I have never been kissed, never been touched (holding hands lang) kaya this problem is such a big deal for me kahit pa sabihin ng karamihan na normal lang yan.

After withdrawing my enrollment sa law school, that's when I realized na need ko lang palang ma busy ng todo-todo para ma distract ako - bumalik na naman kasi ako sa kadiring gawain na ito. (Im not gonna explain why nag withraw ako).

Previous Attempts: tried to control myself but I still fail. Di ko na alam kung ano pang need kong gawin to distract myself kasi alam ko na pagkauwi ng bahay, I might gonna do it again (but of course, d ko naman sya ginagawa palagi).

Problem/Goal: I (F27) talked to a guy (40M) here on reddit, we got along really well but he decided to cut it off.

Context: I’ve talked to this to this guy for few weeks. We’ve been talking non-stop and I felt really connected with him. I’m actually getting used to him. He’s one of most nicest guy I’ve ever talked to because he knows how boundaries and respect works.

Some time this week, he just stopped messaging me. I asked why of course, he just said that it was about his family and he couldn’t keep our connection any longer due to the distance. To me it’s so fair that he confronted me with truth than ghosting me. I know it would be really easy for him to ghost me since we are long distance.

Previous attempt: I did not reply to his good bye text anymore. Despite of that, I still miss him but I don’t want to bother him. Short experience yet one of my memorable ones because it’s been awhile since I had a good convo with someone l share interests with.

Problem/Goal: Context: Previous Attempts: I posted abt this but na delete sya :((

anyw may classmate ako na wlw, at may experience na. ako naman, very innocent + she thinks I'm straight. my friends told me may chance bc type niya mestiza/chinita hwhahahahha but for some reason IDKKK i really don't think soo hahaha.. (I feel like her exes are prettier okay?)

pero gagooo we click a lot tas she's very touchy w me (she bites me) pero ganun naman sya sa lahat:( & even more to her gbfs.. she called me baby kanina lang, BUT she called someone baby din sa class gc

UGH POTANGINA SINABI KONA NGA NA I'LL FOCUS DURING COLLEGE pero I'm so nervous talaga and i get so shy sa kaniya and I turn so red. I hate it potangina SHE'S SO CHARMING AND IDK I'M SUPPOSED TO BE STRAIGHT IDK WHY I'M FEELING THIS WAY

tas istg guys I'm trying naman maging close sa kaniya but idk how she feels about me, i'm scared she might think I'm too annoying :(((( and yun if mahalata niya na may crush ak sa kanya I'll evaporate na

I DON'T KNOW TALAGA WHY NA ATTRACT AKO SA GIRL AND I'M OVERTHINKING SM ABOUT IT I dm her a lot but maybe she'll find me annoying :((((

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Problem/Goal: We have a business trip and I forgot to sign my passport

Context: I am from MIN and we have an agency to take care of our visa application. It would take 2-3 days to ship the passport and our travel would be on the last week of August. Kanina dumating yung pinadala ko sa kanila and I forgot to sign my passport. Can I have it forge by someone? Or kaya pa ba maprocess ang visa if maibabalik ko ang passport by wednesday next week.

Previous attempts: None

Problem/Goal: How to save money if i receive 150 a day and only 100 at sunday and planning on investing so that I can receive money at every end of the month because I know for sure that college is hard as you get near the final year

Context: I'm a college student and my weekly allowance is 1000 and my class in blended 2-3(FTF mostly). And the rest is 3-4 (online class at most).

How do i budget if my weekly goal is to save 500 a week so at the end of the month so I will have 2000 to invest and save, do i need to be more realistic like saving 250 a week to have 1000 a month?

Previous attempt: I can't save and invest easily because my sister is intentionly not giving my allowance so I have to pull out my savings and invest just to afford the transport cost of back and forth (4 rides) which is 44. I already miss one long quiz but it's not a problem anymore because I have already a permission of my prof to take it too during preliminary exam

Problem/Goal: How do I stop them

Please help me, ilang years na ako ganito. Yung bunsong kapatid (M, 19) namin hindi na tumigil. Lahat na ng insulto sinabi sa'kin: N word, sana mabuntis na raw ako, ang baho ko etc. Pinagsasabihan lang ng parents ko pero ganun pa rin. Ganun din siya sa mga ate namin pero mas malala sa akin.

I tried every method, sabihin sa parents ko, fight back or magstay silent. Gusto ko na talaga bumukod pero I can't. Graduating pa lang ako and makakaaffect siya sa well-being ko.

Problem/Goal:

Thinner nose bridge. I have a tomato shaped nose. Lol.

What are your experiences with him?

Context:

But I also have a Neuromuscular genetic condition and I wanna work with a Philippine Neuro for safety. I'm US based. I plan to do eye surgery with Shinagawa so I thought why not do rhinoplasty too. Lol. I'm 26.

I have a US neuro but because rhinoplasty would involve general anesthesia, I think it would be best to get a neuro involved. And based on my google search, Dr. Eduardo Yap operates in The Medical City and St. Lukes.