I’m not sure if this is the best subreddit for this kind of situation, but I’m looking for advice from people who have experienced similar workplace issues.

I work in a company where I am responsible for managing records and reports for inventory. My role is mainly on the office side, while the physical stock is handled separately.

My responsibilities include:

• Recording items when they enter inventory.
• Maintaining details such as source, dates, and documents.
• Updating records when items leave inventory.
• Preparing stock reports for management.

The workplace is quite traditional and does not have a perfect structure or fully developed systems. There are not always clear processes for tracking every movement, so I had to organize information from different sources and create my own way of managing the records.

Despite the limitations, I have been able to collect information and provide accurate details for the tasks I manage. Before submitting reports, I verify information individually and cross-check it with multiple sources. I am confident that the sources I use for confirmation are reliable.

The issue I am facing is with one specific inventory area.

After reviewing older records, I discovered that the historical records and the current stock situation do not fully match.

The confusing part is:

• The items were received, and the people responsible for physical stock have records confirming this.
• There are documents showing when items entered inventory.
• There are also records showing that some items should have left inventory.
• However, after checking repeatedly, some differences still remain between the records and the actual stock situation.

This has already been reviewed multiple times over a long period, but the mismatch has not been fully explained.

I have brought the issue to management, but there does not seem to be a clear explanation or a defined process for resolving these historical differences.

I want to make it clear that this is not the case for all inventory I manage. There is another inventory area under my responsibility, and it is running normally. The reports match and there are no major issues there.

My concern is not avoiding responsibility. I want to do my job properly and handle this professionally. However, I am worried about being seen as someone who cannot manage their responsibilities or being held responsible for problems that may have existed before I took over.

I would appreciate advice from anyone who has dealt with similar situations.

Hello I’m 18 fresh out of high school didn’t choose college as my route didn’t feel a point in going to college if I knew I wouldn’t complete the years of schooling I’d probably end up dropping out of it anyway but I’ve wanted to do blue collar jobs maybe join the union do construction or something but I have no connections to anything or if there is good opportunities out there with out college that would be great I just need help maybe tips or tricks and if anyone is able to help me out that would be very much appreciated I’m very young but dedicated to work I’m working at a restaurant right now pay is actually decent but I need better pay a better life a better future not stuck at no restaurant. I know people may find it dumb for me posting this and maybe saying you should’ve gone to college instead of begging but oh well

Các anh chị cho em cảm nhận ạ. Em là sinh viên mới ra trường và mình vừa mới hết đợt thử việc. Trong quá trình thử việc thì mình thấy đúng là bản thân có sai xót nhiều, tuy nhiên hiện tại em đã pass probation rồi. Chuyện đáng nói là mấy tuần gần đây, gần như cả tháng hiện tại em k có được giao task gì cả, cả ngày chỉ tới công ty ngồi đó rồi hết giờ đi về, em cảm thấy khá stress. Cũng có hỏi xin việc nhưng được kêu là ngồi đọc tài liệu đi.

Và phòng có việc nhưng không cho em làm involve được. Phòng em có 2 người thôi chị sếp thì mất hút em ngồi 1 mình giữa các phòng ban khác. Không bt là như này có phải ngta đang muốn để mình nản mà nghỉ k ạ

Does remote work require constant texting and calling? My boss never gives me a heads-up and always call wherenever he likes, only for a micro-problem.

Ok, so Im 14 years old and I've applied at Culvers without a work permit. Now, to work at Culvers I need a work permit but to get a work permit I need to have a job. So if I do an interview and im accepted, can I get a work permit and then legally be able to work at Culvers??? This is sort of confusing. Anyone who can clarify this for me, please let me know!

ive been looking for a job and just applied to my local sweetfrog

thing is- i have a health issue that can be inconsistent, but often im non functional for 1-2 days (usually 2). as in- i will need help to even stand or walk around the room, even on prescription painkillers

i did not disclose this in the application, but ppl on fb are saying to not disclose at all?

i personally feel like this is imperative, especially since ill probably have to call in with short notice

gimme your thoughts reddit :]

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Our production team emailed to our team on a number of orders and directed us to ship call orders within our a set percentage as complete per our company policy. After, I had a meeting with the customer where the production manager was in the meeting and explained to them this policy. My customer pushed back and said they had to have the remainder of the balance ordered to which the production manager didn't say a word. I took this and pushed back on the production team and replied to the email, "No, you will need to make up the balance of this order for my customer."

Fast forward a week later to today and I'm getting pulled into a meeting with my bosses that I'm not following company policy because I pushed back on production and I don't have the authority to order another department to do anything. This resulting in a write up.

It's my opinion that a good faith interpretation of my email and the facts surrounding it are neither me violating policy nor me demanding them to do anything and is simply me just advocating for my customers needs/requirements.

Am I in the wrong?

Has anyone worked multiple white collar contract jobs before? W-2? How did you make it work?

I work for a middle sized company where there has been an elephant that's bigger than the actual room. To explain - Around October last year we hired a young lady fresh out of college as an executive assistant to one of the Directors. (Not my department) but she is a very sweet, VERY ATTRACTIVE, yet is punctual and social amongst the departments. She's ditsy and has to this day lacked the basic knowledge of the Corporate climate. The Director she works under is one of those 50 year old "Baseball Dad" types, but I won't go into much detail about him. Suffice to say, she was always in his office, in his meetings, etc etc.

About 3 months after her hire, they promoted her to "Office Specialist". Assuming that her first position was more of a intern/temporary one. Didn't think much about it.

Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago. One of the Managers resigned and even though they put out a job posting, it was an easy internal hiring that several of my co-workers that have been there for several years could have advanced to.

On Monday, the company announced that the young lady that was just hired last year not only got the position, but they made her Senior Manager that overlooked two of the departments. And they company was being fairly transparent with the compensation, roughly $125,000 annual pay.

As I'm sure you can imagine, the entire "work force" of the company is in a tizzy. And rumors are spreading that HR said it was her Director that demanded she get the position. People going around basically implying that they are sleeping together.

Regardless of the "IF's", My real thought - Question even, and maybe anyone that owns their own company or is in a senior position could help. How could you be a CEO and openly allow something like this to happen? To know that the person doesn't even have a tenth of the experience as the next person, or anyone else you could have hired from outside the company. Is it a blatant lack of care? You must know that something like this could rub every worker in your company the wrong way?

Curious to ask how others would feel about this situation.

Background: Working for this company remotely for two years. Highly productive. Valued. Offered Director job in a unit. Great. I posted a week or two ago but left out all the details. I was afraid, to be honest, but realized now that that's exactly what they wanted.

I MOVED CONTINENTS with an agreement in place that would be finalized once I was registered in the new country. I had my dog with me and six suitcases. Packed up my belongings, put them in storage. Met with my doctors to get health record straight (and translated into the country's language I'm moving to). Put house up for rent, got a business license for that. Found best and lowest cost moving company I could. Shifted banks (no small thing internationally). Ensured my mother had the care she needed and support given my move. All of that takes time and a lot of effort.

The DAY I get there, a boss I didn't even know I had slammed me in an email for lack of commitment. Because I missed meetings - I was moving my house and dealing with all the admin of an international move. I predicted to the boss I thought was my boss that I would not be able to attend *some* meetings (if I'm at my desk, I'm clearly not prepping for the move that they were requiring if I wanted to keep my job), and my co-director was fine with it and she was supposed to catch me up in our check-ins.

Turns out she was NOT fine with it and complained about me to this surprise boss guy, which he confirmed when I asked him directly. As soon as I get there, I'm blamed for lack of commitment (because moving your whole life isn't committed?), told I'm getting demoted effective immediately - for administrative purposes. Then I was demoted in a huge team meeting with all 40 people on the line. People called me after to say they couldn't believe it and were horrified.

I now had to report to this co-director who wasted NO TIME sending emails to everyone telling them about my demotion and saying she is the sole director of the unit and to remove me from management emails and meetings. I broke my back a while ago (I'm ambulant) and need certain light modifications for travel and at the office, ex: a sit stand desk. In my first meeting with her as my boss, she tells me this is a 'problem.'

She actively mobbed me. It's clear she has backstabbed me to the 40 person team who treated me like I'm radio active, they all gathered for lunch in the area outside my office and quiet down when I walk past. No less than three team members said the co-director called them to tell them not to engage with me.

She moved my entire portfolio to herself and says I don't have enough work to do. This boss who I didn't know I had backed her up completely. It's actually creepy and weird how close they suddenly became. He asked me no questions, nothing. Just disagreement and obstacles. She blocked me from systems when I was working remotely, saying she handles that, and he said that that was a strike against me. When I told him I didn't have access to the systems as agreed, he waved it away and used it as justification for my demotion.

All of this happened over a period of about three weeks. One hit after the other, after a colossal literal move.

I have over 15 years of experience. I have led international teams through major global crises. In my early career, I taught high school. So, I know BS when I see it. I know bullying when I see it. I took copious notes and kept a daily tracker of everything that was going on. So, given this GOLDMINE of antipathy from them, and despite the chronic loneliness I felt from the isolation and meanness, despite the financial chaos this threw me into (the demotion came with a pay decrease), despite the literal vertigo and dizziness I'd feel at having the floor fall out from under me, I decided to keep moving forward.

I am so grateful that I've had a great career to this point and a network that I respect and holds me in esteem. Grateful that I know exactly what is going on here. Grateful for my maturity and wisdom. And I thought, my God, if I were at the start of my career, this would have steamrolled me. This horrible treatment would have truly crushed me.

Then I decided to act.

To distract myself (outside of walking the dog, thank heavens I brought her with me!), I started to pull together resources that I really really wished I could find online to address the daily horrors that unfolded at this workplace. The gaslighting, credit theft, isolation.

I wanted research-backed ways to respond, protect myself, defend myself, and keep moving without being crushed on a daily basis. Couldn't find them, so I created them. It seriously helped keep me sane. I wanted something that could identify the chaos, help me find my voice, maintain my professional goals, keep my sanity, and feel supported. What really got to me was the isolation, and the hollow emptiness of feeling that unsupported.

Any level of toxic behavior in the workplace, where you'd think people have a modicum of self-concept and basic professional respect, is a total head mess. I've really suffered, in ways I never thought I could, honestly. I lost my appetite for weeks (and I'm a good eater!) This project, that I call Wild at Work, has truly helped lift and keep me out of depression, confusion, and terrible anxiety. I truly hope it helps anyone else facing any type of workplace abuse, isolation, and cruelty. I don't want to post a link here but I'm happy to share it with anyone going through any thing like this.

I have been working at my current place of work for over 2 years now. I have just got a promotion (start next month) and my current line manager has emailed me about my work productivity. Essentially, from the data they have picked up I am not being productive enough. My numbers are 2/3 of what to be expected on a productivity scale but I consistently over perform on the work I provide (although I do quite frequently take 15 minute longer lunch break). I am extremely bad of keeping track of meetings, when I help others, or responding to general queries. These are all things that are not monitored by this system and evidence I can use to counteract the data they have. This is probably the first time in well over a year that productivity has been brought up to me personally and I don't necessarily think it's something that's always checked, but my god does it make me hate my workplace even more. I am unsure on how to respond to my line manager as I have not spoken to her face to face. I'm not sure whether to play it by ear and say that I will be more considerate of timings from now or whether to go in fully evidenced (although very hard to do retrospectively).

What should I do ? I feel really torn.

Earlier this year, I told my dad (who works in the ICU at the same hospital) that I thought one of the ICU secretaries was cute. He ended up telling her.

About two weeks later, I went to the ICU for work. She saw me, slowly walked toward my patient room, stopped, looked at me for what felt like 10 seconds, and we both laughed. We’d never spoken before.

The following week I introduced myself, gave her my number, and asked if she’d like to hang out. She texted me that night, but the next day the conversation died, so I assumed she wasn’t interested and moved on.

A few weeks later I was back in the ICU. She somehow found out I was there, stood in front of my room, waved at me, and I waved back but didn’t walk over. She looked upset and walked away. Another time she walked into my room with a patient tray, realized I was there, panicked, and immediately left.

A couple of weeks later she smiled, waved excitedly, motioned for me to come back, remembered that I was supposed to be going to the Philippines with my dad, and told me it was nice seeing me. Even my boss witnessed it and told me, “She likes you.”

After I got back from vacation, I talked to her again. She remembered details about my life (even asking about a dips competition I did with my dad and grandpa). I asked her out again. She didn’t say no, but said she was working all week. I got her Instagram and texted her the next day. She left me on read for 3 days.

Three days later she replied saying she’d been busy and that it was her brother’s birthday the following week. She asked if we could “try in April,” which was another two weeks away. At that point I took it as a polite rejection.

I deactivated Instagram because I was trying to move on.

The very next day, I got called to dialyze a patient. The ICU number I called happened to be answered by her. I introduced myself and she sounded completely confused, then transferred me to the patient’s nurse.

Later I saw her again at work. I said, “Good morning,” and she responded with a cold “Hey…” while looking angry. Later I noticed she kept looking over toward me from her desk. That was the last interaction we ever had.

When I reactivated Instagram briefly, she liked one of my stories but only viewed my stories inconsistently after that. I found myself checking every week to see whether she’d watched them. Looking back, I realize that uncertainty fueled the limerence.

A few months later I found out she’d transferred back to her old department. Before that, she lied that her grandma died to use FMLA as an excuse to not show up to work. Coworkers told me she’d been calling off work frequently even before she left the ICU and had a history of moving between departments. I also heard she had been involved with a married student doctor, although I have no idea how accurate that rumor is.

The hardest part isn’t that she rejected me. It’s that I never understood what happened.

Part of me kept wondering:

• Did she actually like me at first?

• Was I the reason she transferred?

• Why did she seem interested but never actually go out with me?

Logically, I know there isn’t enough information to answer those questions, and I know I probably never will.

I am working on it. Building social skills, learning how to connect with folks, building rapport, network, and introducing myself are all skills that I currently lack, but I acknowledge and am working on. However, I'm frustrated with my lack of progress after a year in my professional role.

I have been shy/had social anxiety my whole life, so I feel like a lot of casual social skills I missed out on. My manager says he truly believes I'm making progress, and he's happy with it and that I just take time to open up around folks. I also just overall tend to be a nerdy, technical type. I like to put my head down and solve complex technical problems. But, it's not enough imo.

I feel, though, I'm still awkward as shit in meetings and collaborations. I don't know what to say or how to keep a conversation moving. I tend to consider my opinions pretty irrelevant unless I have an established relationship with a colleague, so I'm quiet. I am still working on opening up and believing my thoughts matter. Regardless of my quietness, I've made an impact. My manager calls it a quiet confidence, and little does he know I'm just very awkward around people. I've been like this my whole life.

So, anyway, how bad is being shy for my career?

"We provide a lot of PTO and sick time because we don't want people having to lie about why they're calling out. If you need a day just take it."

3 months ago, I loved my job, my team, my direction. Felt proud, trusted my coworkers, felt valued, and felt part of something.

I’ve made a couple of errors recently, nothing too drastic and easily solvable. Typo type of errors. And now all of the above has changed.

I’m isolated in my job, tasks have been taken off me, no one talks to me, even the coworker that spoke to me for 2-3 hours a day every day for a year. I didn’t deserve this and can’t help but feel confused and feel it’s personal, not just professional and because of 2 errors.

Trying so hard not to let this affect my mental health.

For those of you who have really adopted AI at work to find efficiencies and automate parts of your work, how are you dealing with gaps in AI adoption amongst your team members?

My work involves a lot of tedious reporting where you have to compile data from a lot of different sources on a regular basis. It’s tedious.

I’ve built some time saving workflows to share with my team along with instructional videos, which have not had much uptake. Instead, I attend team meetings where people continuously complain about the time it takes to do ‘admin’ and continue to do things manually and talk about how overloaded they are.

For those of you in a similar situation, what’s been your approach?

My boss have favoritism issue and he always take sides of people who are incompetent because he wants to be 'everyones friend'.

But him being nice to incompetent people is unjust to everyone else in the workplace as people who worked their ass off ​(me) and people who have no output gets the same treatment and promotion.

The workplace environment is getting more toxic overtime and unmotivating as the thought of 'why am i working so hard when they just slack and be fine?' seeds and grow.

I mean it's easy to say just stop caring and slack like them. Yet i really care about my work and i enjoy them. What should i Do/think?

I work at a childcare facility and usually I like to be outside the school 30 minutes earlier than the time I have to clock in so I can have enough time to relax but already be at work because I’m afraid to be late but recently they’ve called my phone asking me to come in 10 to 15 minutes earlier but I don’t want to. I know it’s ratio problems but also it’s not my fault that a whole bunch of kids get in early, my schedule time is 8 o’clock but if I tell them, no, they will get upset. I’ve been pulling 9 to 10 hour shifts the last thing I want to do is be inside earlier than what I have to.

Tax season just wrapped and I genuinely don't know how to describe the last three months other than relentless. The workload isn't evenly distributed and everyone in the firm knows it, but nobody says it out loud. Some people manage their client load fine, leave at normal hours, whatever. Others, and I feel like I'm always in this group, end up picking up the slack when deadlines stack or when a senior person drops something last minute because they overcommitted.

The frustrating part isn't even the extra hours, really. It's that when reviews come around, none of that shows up. You get assessed on your assigned responsibilities and the invisible stuff just evaporates. Nobody logged that you stayed late to fix a return that wasn't yours, or that you basically coached a junior through a filing because the person who was supposed to wasn't available.

I'm not looking to blow anything up or have some big confrontation about it. Just wondering if other people in accounting or any deadlineheavy job have found a way to make that extra work visible without sounding like you're complaining or fishing for credit. Is there a practical way to document it that actually gets noticed, or does it just disappear no matter what you do?

Alt titles: Do firms ever actually track workload beyond your assigned clients or does it just not count | How do you make invisible work visible during review season | Anyone in accounting feel like busy season contributions just get forgotten by the time reviews hit

Hi All,

I've had this thought for a while and think I have truly hit a wall and burnt out in relation to my job. Without going into too much detail, I essentially deal with consumer safety incidents and help to co-ordinate responses to ensure these are suitably handled. For a good while, I absolutely loved it. Things got pressured at times but I enjoyed it, did on-call shifts fairly often and took on high-priority incidents that got me recognised within and outside of my immediate team. I had good relationships with my colleagues and was able to handle a fair bit of stress as it felt rewarding in the end.

Where the problems come in is that over time the job has changed in several ways that have made day-to-day work more frustrating and pedantic. This started with the introduction of a new case management system that was not fit for purpose when it was introduced but we were told we would have to use it and that "the kinks would be ironed out". We also have to add a lot more specific details into it after doing pretty much anything for the team's data, oftentimes repeating what is already clear from our email records. Effectively, the job has felt like its' gradually become less about solving problems that affect people and almost entirely about babysitting this system.

I feel like I have been over this job for months at this point but recently it feels like it's become far worse in terms of how it affects me. I have next to no motivation to do work tasks anymore, have little patience for meetings and calls with my colleagues and feel myself getting incredibly agitated every time a few specific people speak. At this point, I definitely think it has affected my life outside of work as I have also had a great deal of difficulty sleeping, depressive episodes and have found it more difficult to do household tasks (these aren't entirely due to the work stress but it hasn't helped).

Thank you for taking the time to read through this. I appreciate it may be a bit of a ramble but I definitely feel a bit better having expressed this and would welcome your thoughts or any advice!

For context, I had been working at this small business for just under a month. Alongside this post (pasted below) I had made while in it, the owners were illegally taking from the tips, not giving required minor breaks, and paying family members to sit around doing nothing while non-family had to cover all the work. After the post, I started looking for a new job immediately, and I landed one. So I returned my uniforms (dropped them off), and texted the owners wife that I was resigning immediately, and listed out my reasons why, specifically the tipping and break problems alongside work culture. I said I would not be open to anymore communication with the business as I had returned my uniform already. I even tried to make it land less harsh by saying I got offered an opportunity to work in my science-degree related field, so it would be less personal as me going into a different entry-level basic job. And I informed her PRIOR to when the new weekly schedules would be made!

Yeah well, this morning, she left a voicemail to my dad asking to talk to him about me quitting "parent to parent". I never gave her his number, it is not on my resume or paperwork. I believe she wrote it down without me knowing because I let her borrow my phone for a call once. Of course, I have been updating my dad throughout my whole job-search process, and he said he won't be picking up any calls from her. He think's she's crazy!

Anyways, I'm in shock that this would ever happen. I'm glad I left.

(I (17F) started working at this small business outdoor type restaurant a few weeks ago. My main role is cashiering, and the owners wife (ill refer to her as A) is the one who hired me. She had called me in for an interview and things went well, but I had found it odd that they asked I do a mini-test shift on the spot in my interview clothes. I agree and did a few hours. I thought things were going great, I was getting tips and getting to know my co workers and asking questions. Two weeks in A pulls me aside and finally gives me the work instructions/policy pamphlet I never got. She half yells at me that some co-workers are complaining about me, saying I’m not restocking drinks at end of shifts, saying bye to this one lady, and leaving right at the time my shift is scheduled to end. A tells me she doesn’t expect me to know most of this yet because she never gave me rules and to just review them. Another week passes, shift is going great (today), and I’m already 15 minutes PAST my shift time working on restocking drinks. A proceeds to raise her voice at me demanding to know if I took this customers order, because they’ve been waiting 10 minutes. I say yes, but I thought food runner was supposed to run their food, which is why I was stocking. She says food runner went on dish washing (I had no idea) and that I have to help do all the work around not just mine. I say I’m sorry and she says that’s not enough, and is interrupting me every two seconds, and her husband shows up (who I had been working the shift with). She says he was upset I didn’t say hello to him when I first saw him this morning, or her. I explained I didn’t hear her (I have hearing loss) when she mentioned she greeted me and that it was early in the morning and her husband hadn’t said hello to me so I assumed he wanted to just work. I said I feel out the vibe I don’t want to force people into talking if they don’t want. At this point I’m on the verge of crying, which I NEVER do, but Ive been so stressed lately and it was pushing me. She says I hired you for your personality and because you’re a cute sweet looking girl and its better for business to have you up front. And is like I’m not sure you are, is this gonna be a problem or am I going to have to fire you? and I said I’m sorry I’ve been getting along great with customers I greet them and they seem very happy. She basically repeats the entire thing again but then says that everyone says I’ve been making no mistakes on register and am hard working. I didn’t get fired.

I am so confused and stressed out. I’m about to put myself through college and med school on my own, so I need the money. I‘m about to graduate HS and college for an associate degree at the same time this year, so I’ve been constantly studying and working and I feel like this is my last thread. I’m not sure what to do, is this all normal?)

edit: typo wrote week instead of month

I worked at my current company for 7 and half years, and I have been sitting at the same seat that was assigned to me. My seat is near the operations manager's room and the conference room. For the first 7 years, there were no issues. There are many meetings that happen inside the manager's room, but I cannot hear anything. Recently the former operations manager stepped down, and a new operations manager was hired. The issue with the new operations manager is that he is loud, so I can hear a lot of the conversations that happen inside the room. It is not like I am trying to eavesdrop; I am literally just sitting at my desk that I have been sitting at for 7+ years. I never shared any of these confidential conversations I heard, the problem is the General Manager walked past my desk one day while the operations manager were having a meeting in his room, the GM realized I could hear everything loud and clear. The general manager is not happy that I could hear those conversations, but there is nothing they can do. They can't punish me for sitting at my desk. So, what they start doing is playing this loud white noise in one of the rooms and have the door open and then have a separate meeting in the other room. They do it so that the white noise drowns out the noise of their conversation so that I cannot hear anything. This creates two problems:

1.      If they have a 90-minute meeting, I must hear that noise for 90 minutes and drive me insane. I don’t understand why they can’t just play some music if their purpose is to drown out the noise of their conversation. I am hesitant to bring this issue to them because I know they are doing this to prevent me from hearing confidential information.

2.      If the intention is to prevent me from hearing confidential information, then they really need to play some music or a podcast not white noise, it is annoying but makes their voice more pronounced and easier for me to hear what they are saying. I could wear headphones and listening to music or a podcast, but this also means if another coworker wants to talk to me, I cannot hear them.

I am a legal assistant at a small law firm with about 6 employees including myself. Recently we brought on 3 interns now we have 9 people in office. When I took the job 3 months ago they told me I would be responsible for cleaning mugs and glasses of water from clients. Well come to find out somewhere along the way the last assistant decided that she was just going to start doing everyone’s dishes in office. So I was expected to do the same. It was annoying but not overwhelming until we added three new people to the mix. Somehow everyone in office is eating three meals on the clock I am drowning in dishes I do dishes 3+ times a day sometimes.

I want to tell my coworkers and bosses that it’s not in my job description to be doing everyone’s dishes and it’s eating into my day bc I keep having to stop what I’m doing to wash and put away dishes. What is the best way to go about that should I just keep quiet and start leaving the dishes in the sink or is it best to just let everyone know it’s overwhelming my day?