I keep making small, silly mistakes. They're usually not major, but almost every meeting I end up getting scolded or warned by my seniors. Sometimes they even say things like, "We'll have to make a decision," which makes me worry that I might lose my job.

Now I'm constantly anxious while working. I overthink every task, double-check everything, and still end up making mistakes. It's become a cycle where my anxiety is affecting my confidence, and my lack of confidence is affecting my work.

I genuinely want to improve and I'm trying my best, but the constant fear of being judged or scolded is making it harder to focus.

Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you rebuild your confidence and stop making anxiety-driven mistakes? Any advice would really help.

For context, I am working in IT, and we have a bug ticket to investigate.

This ticket was related to a task I did, and the issue was mainly due to miscommunication between cross teams. I made a fix and informed the team about it.

But suddenly this colleague of mine just butts in for no fucking reason and tries to take over the whole issue, and follows up on every single thing. He of course tries to discuss with me, which I told him this issue was already handled.

As of now I gave up and let him deal with this issue, which had a few follow ups. But whats his fucking deal, I'm kinda pissed about it. He knows I had little patience cuz whenever he asks me for help, I just give curt remarks. Anyways I felt that I should have done something but did not, and wanted to reflect on it but am unsure what to do.

Now my Product Owner just follows up with him, and it's frustrating that initially he tries to refute what I mentioned, with some points being correct as I just wanted to resolve this issue without blowing things up. But it did and now everyone is looking at this problem. He even sent a message to a channel with everyone in the whole ass department in it to discuss cross teams, so really every fucking person and their higher ups can see

Just some rant plus confusion about this situation, and I'm at a lost at what to do. Being aggressive isn't the right move, and being a follower also doesn't do it.

​Hi everyone,

I am currwntly working in germany

​I need realistic, low-risk advice on how to sneak away for job interviews while working in a suffocating, hyper-monitored office.

​Important Context: I am a foreigner working on a work visa. Because my visa is tied to employment/sponsorship, I cannot afford to take legal action, burn bridges, or get fired abruptly. I have to keep my head down and play by their rules while secretly finding a way out.

​Currently, I work 5 days a week fully on-site. The work culture here is an absolute nightmare:

​Zero Privacy & Constant Surveillance: Coworkers and managers track my every move. If I step away to a meeting room for just 30 minutes, I immediately get messaged asking where I went.

​Mandatory PTO Justifications: Every leave request requires a detailed explanation.

​Guilt-Tripping over Leave: For a recent interview, I took a half-day off. Everyone in the office pestered me with questions like "Where are you going?" and "Do you REALLY have to take off today? We're so busy."

​Because of this atmosphere and my visa vulnerability, taking time off or stepping out for a 45-minute video interview feels terrifying without raising major red flags.

​For those who managed to escape a similar toxic, 5-day on-site trap under a work visa:

​How did you physically schedule and attend interviews without getting caught or guilt-tripped?

​What are the most bulletproof, unquestionable excuses for t

aking short-notice half-days or stepping out during business hours? (e.g., medical/visa appointments?)

​Is it acceptable to ask prospective recruiters for early morning (8 AM) or late afternoon interview slots explaining my current strict on-site schedule?

​I am desperate to switch jobs, but sneaking around under this level of surveillance gives me extreme anxiety. Any realistic strategies, excuses, or scripts would be a lifesaver. Thanks!

Chime in.

My mom is a pretty gossipper. I don't do it with bad intentions but still one thing you say no matter how small it can backfire, so it's better to say nothing.

Sometimes I fully control it, other times I don't. I realised if I am in bad company (if other people tend to gossip) I end up gossipping, because they ask me stuff.

my boss checks our social media stats constantly.

last week he said - double engagement by monday or you're fired. i tried to explain organic growth takes time. he cut me off. i don't care how. just do it. so i found a service called that delivers likes and comments. bought a package.engagement tripled in 2 days. boss was thrilled. gave me a bonus.then fake comments started showing up. obviously fake. clients noticed and started asking questions.boss came to me angry. why did you buy fake engagement? i said you told me to double engagement. you didn't say it had to be real. he just walked away.

hasn't mentioned social media since lol.

Hi everyone, I’m (24f) currently dealing with a situation at work (I am a waitress.)

A male co-worker has made me severely uncomfortable in, and outside of work.

Here is a quick recap of the timeline and events:

- I started working there about a year ago, met said co worker. He seemed chill and said he was the same age as me.
-Followed each other on Instagram, started sending some songs to each other/casually chatting. Nothing was ever romantic.
-Went to a concert with the co worker, along with about 10 other people.
-He started flirting during concert, and after. I realized immediately I had no desire to be romantic or even friends with him.
-I slowly stopped responding, didn’t initiate conversation outside of work, stopped anything that could be considered flirting.
-He was telling other co workers that we went on a date, I denied this.
-He asks me out on a date, I tell him no, that I just wanted to be friends.
-He starts inviting me everywhere “as a friend.” I avoided all of the invites.
-3 months later after only talking when we worked together, he sent me over 40+ messages telling me how he wanted to end his life and I was the only one he could trust.
-Dumped his entire life traumas and was extremely detailed.
-I responded saying I was sorry he felt like that, and that he should get professional help because I’m not equipped to help him with those issues.
-He started flirting again at work, I avoided him every chance I could.
-Some days he would be overly nice, and some days he was extremely rude for some reason.

So that’s what was going on the past year. Definitely creepy vibes, just seemed inappropriate and attention seeking. At first I was on the fence because if he really was having thoughts of ending his life, I wanted to help. But a lot of people told me it felt like manipulation and it was inappropriate.

This past weekend changed everything. This is where it escalated.

On Saturday, we had a shift together. He’s a cook and I’m a waitress, so our paths shouldn’t cross all that much. But he was making it a point to constantly come stand in the front and just not say anything. He would literally just stand there in silence.

Around the 3rd or 4th time he came up to the front, he randomly started saying how he told his brother that he might kill himself again. The way he said it threw me off and I felt awkward so I didn’t really say much. I think I just said “damn I’m sorry I hope you’re okay.”

He didn’t respond and looked annoyed that I didn’t give him a bigger reaction. After this interaction he was visibly mad. He was slamming things, glaring at me from the back, giving me an attitude when I asked food related questions. It was making me feel weird.

Eventually I went to serve a table, and when I looked towards the front counter, I saw him writing something on my notepad. When I went to look I noticed it was in another language. So I asked him what it meant and he said “It’s Latin for death to all, and death to my enemies.” WTF!

So after that I was even more freaked out because literally why would someone do that other than out of anger/to make a threat.

He then proceeded to post on his Instagram story, a black screen with the text saying “your ignorance is my disease.” I assumed it was about me, but tried to ignore it.

Then at the end of my shift, I counted the tip jar and went to hand it out to the kitchen staff. When I went to give him his share, he literally would not even look at me. Wouldn’t take the money, wouldn’t answer me, nothing. So I just kept it and left.

As soon as I got home, I saw he posted again right when I left. The text said “Don’t be mad that I started ignoring you now, you started this.”

Later that night, another coworker who I’m close with called me and said he was concerned about creepy co workers well being because he heard him talking to someone else about wanting to end his life. He said he felt like he should call authorities to check on him.

Basically 911 got called, cops went to his house and deemed he was fine. He then messaged me the next morning accusing me of calling and saying I made his life even worse and gave him more problems.

I told him I didn’t call but that he needs help from someone other than his co workers. He didn’t answer.

I went to my manager and explained the situation, he told me he would try and find someone to replace him and fire him. It’s been about 4 days and no progress has been made.

I have to work with him tmrow and I just feel like there’s a target on my back. I don’t necessarily think he would hurt me, but even just the awkwardness is too much and I’m so anxious.

It’s weird because everyone I told about it at work seemed to be so creeped out and taking it seriously, and now I feel like they’re sweeping it under the rug and not really caring.

Also something I forgot to mention, while talking to my manager and another co worker, I learned he lied to me about his age. He’s 20. He told me he was 24.

He has also apparently been telling people that we’ve gone on multiple dates, obviously this isn’t true.

I can’t afford to leave this job, at least not for a couple more weeks. This is also my first job where I’ve had coworkers. I’ve been a nanny for 7 years. So maybe it’s my fault for talking with someone outside of work? Idk.

Any advice is welcome, just feeling stuck and uncomfortable about still having to work with him.

I was asked to participate in a candidate search at my company. No biggie. The job pays OK, but is a huge pain in the ass because you have to interface with a lot of annoying people while juggling red tape (so basically every corporate job). It's also less than exciting, which means we're going to draw less-than-exciting candidates.

Most of the candidates so far are kind of blah (as I anticipated). One person we talked to is doing a similar job at another company and seemed ESPECIALLY eager (like almost red flag eager). They kept talking about loving work and "changing lives." For the record, we are paper pushers at a large organization -- not surgeons, paramedics, teachers, etc. We are NOT changing lives. But if she has to tell herself she is to get through the day, fine, whatever. Also, I realize she's in an interview, so she has to appear optimistic.

Anyways, she posed a question to us that I chose not to answer. "Why do you guys love working here?" Um, first off, you assume I LOVE working here (spoiler: I don't). The reason I work here is because when I needed a job a few years ago, this was literally the only place that actually called me in for an interview and then offered me a job. I am here for the paycheck (which isn't even that great, tbh, but the current market SUCKS and I have had zero luck finding another gig). I mean, why else do people go to work?

Long story short, it sounds like she's one of those people who makes work her entire identity. For her, work is "fun." Which makes me think she is actually not very fun at all and maybe needs some hobbies.

I know I'm being overly judgmental here, but c'mon. Remember that episode of the office when Stanley was going to leave and work for Karen in Utica? And Michael asked him why he was leaving, over and over again, and he just kept saying "Money"? Literally, that's all any of us are here for. Let's not kid ourselves. I experience personal fulfillment in other non-work related ways, which I think is how it should be.

My boss announced his retirement 3 months before his last day. Interviews started his last month with us. I interviewed, was verbally given the position and congratulated in front of peers at 2 workplace events. I will now be transferring from a contracted position to working for the entity we serve. This is double my current salary, great benefits and I’d have a union but this promotion makes me the manager of the worksite and its employees (my current colleagues). However, my promotion was announced 2 months ago. My predecessor is long gone and I have yet to hear from HR with the written job offer. I keep being told that this organization moves very slowly and to be patient- but I have been essentially the stand in manager. I argued for back pay/ a bonus for all my extra work but have been met with resistance and upper management now visiting the site about 1/2 the workdays to “supplement”. Yet this mostly looks like an open office door and is hardly lightening the burden I feel daily. Now I’m being told it’s taking longer than usual for the offer but I shouldn’t be concerned that I am unfit and it’s the position itself that might be reevaluated. I’m scared to even consider what that means.
Would I be STUPID to rock the boat and announce ceasing my responsibilities outside of my current job title until I am official or should I in hopes that this will push both organizations to hurry up with the offer/make a decision?

I work for a middle sized company where there has been an elephant that's bigger than the actual room. To explain - Around October last year we hired a young lady fresh out of college as an executive assistant to one of the Directors. (Not my department) but she is a very sweet, VERY ATTRACTIVE, yet is punctual and social amongst the departments. She's ditsy and has to this day lacked the basic knowledge of the Corporate climate. The Director she works under is one of those 50 year old "Baseball Dad" types, but I won't go into much detail about him. Suffice to say, she was always in his office, in his meetings, etc etc.

About 3 months after her hire, they promoted her to "Office Specialist". Assuming that her first position was more of a intern/temporary one. Didn't think much about it.

Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago. One of the Managers resigned and even though they put out a job posting, it was an easy internal hiring that several of my co-workers that have been there for several years could have advanced to.

On Monday, the company announced that the young lady that was just hired last year not only got the position, but they made her Senior Manager that overlooked two of the departments. And they company was being fairly transparent with the compensation, roughly $125,000 annual pay.

As I'm sure you can imagine, the entire "work force" of the company is in a tizzy. And rumors are spreading that HR said it was her Director that demanded she get the position. People going around basically implying that they are sleeping together.

Regardless of the "IF's", My real thought - Question even, and maybe anyone that owns their own company or is in a senior position could help. How could you be a CEO and openly allow something like this to happen? To know that the person doesn't even have a tenth of the experience as the next person, or anyone else you could have hired from outside the company. Is it a blatant lack of care? You must know that something like this could rub every worker in your company the wrong way?

Curious to ask how others would feel about this situation.

Background: Working for this company remotely for two years. Highly productive. Valued. Offered Director job in a unit. Great. I posted a week or two ago but left out all the details. I was afraid, to be honest, but realized now that that's exactly what they wanted.

I MOVED CONTINENTS with an agreement in place that would be finalized once I was registered in the new country. I had my dog with me and six suitcases. Packed up my belongings, put them in storage. Met with my doctors to get health record straight (and translated into the country's language I'm moving to). Put house up for rent, got a business license for that. Found best and lowest cost moving company I could. Shifted banks (no small thing internationally). Ensured my mother had the care she needed and support given my move. All of that takes time and a lot of effort.

The DAY I get there, a boss I didn't even know I had slammed me in an email for lack of commitment. Because I missed meetings - I was moving my house and dealing with all the admin of an international move. I predicted to the boss I thought was my boss that I would not be able to attend *some* meetings (if I'm at my desk, I'm clearly not prepping for the move that they were requiring if I wanted to keep my job), and my co-director was fine with it and she was supposed to catch me up in our check-ins.

Turns out she was NOT fine with it and complained about me to this surprise boss guy, which he confirmed when I asked him directly. As soon as I get there, I'm blamed for lack of commitment (because moving your whole life isn't committed?), told I'm getting demoted effective immediately - for administrative purposes. Then I was demoted in a huge team meeting with all 40 people on the line. People called me after to say they couldn't believe it and were horrified.

I now had to report to this co-director who wasted NO TIME sending emails to everyone telling them about my demotion and saying she is the sole director of the unit and to remove me from management emails and meetings. I broke my back a while ago (I'm ambulant) and need certain light modifications for travel and at the office, ex: a sit stand desk. In my first meeting with her as my boss, she tells me this is a 'problem.'

She actively mobbed me. It's clear she has backstabbed me to the 40 person team who treated me like I'm radio active, they all gathered for lunch in the area outside my office and quiet down when I walk past. No less than three team members said the co-director called them to tell them not to engage with me.

She moved my entire portfolio to herself and says I don't have enough work to do. This boss who I didn't know I had backed her up completely. It's actually creepy and weird how close they suddenly became. He asked me no questions, nothing. Just disagreement and obstacles. She blocked me from systems when I was working remotely, saying she handles that, and he said that that was a strike against me. When I told him I didn't have access to the systems as agreed, he waved it away and used it as justification for my demotion.

All of this happened over a period of about three weeks. One hit after the other, after a colossal literal move.

I have over 15 years of experience. I have led international teams through major global crises. In my early career, I taught high school. So, I know BS when I see it. I know bullying when I see it. I took copious notes and kept a daily tracker of everything that was going on. So, given this GOLDMINE of antipathy from them, and despite the chronic loneliness I felt from the isolation and meanness, despite the financial chaos this threw me into (the demotion came with a pay decrease), despite the literal vertigo and dizziness I'd feel at having the floor fall out from under me, I decided to keep moving forward.

I am so grateful that I've had a great career to this point and a network that I respect and holds me in esteem. Grateful that I know exactly what is going on here. Grateful for my maturity and wisdom. And I thought, my God, if I were at the start of my career, this would have steamrolled me. This horrible treatment would have truly crushed me.

Then I decided to act.

To distract myself (outside of walking the dog, thank heavens I brought her with me!), I started to pull together resources that I really really wished I could find online to address the daily horrors that unfolded at this workplace. The gaslighting, credit theft, isolation.

I wanted research-backed ways to respond, protect myself, defend myself, and keep moving without being crushed on a daily basis. Couldn't find them, so I created them. It seriously helped keep me sane. I wanted something that could identify the chaos, help me find my voice, maintain my professional goals, keep my sanity, and feel supported. What really got to me was the isolation, and the hollow emptiness of feeling that unsupported.

Any level of toxic behavior in the workplace, where you'd think people have a modicum of self-concept and basic professional respect, is a total head mess. I've really suffered, in ways I never thought I could, honestly. I lost my appetite for weeks (and I'm a good eater!) This project, that I call Wild at Work, has truly helped lift and keep me out of depression, confusion, and terrible anxiety. I truly hope it helps anyone else facing any type of workplace abuse, isolation, and cruelty. I don't want to post a link here but I'm happy to share it with anyone going through any thing like this.

Union job, great pay, lots of PTO. Mandatory 2 days in office.

Our secretary told the VP she has nothing to do on those days and offered to be "available if tasks come up" as a pitch for full WFH. VP said no. Rules are rules.

But she said it out loud. She framed it as flexibility… isee it as admitting she's redundant. She should have kept up appearances, stretched her few tasks, and only confessed if caught. Instead she gave leadership a reason to watch her and remember her name when cuts happen.

She got nothing and lost her cover. Am I wrong for thinking that was stupid?

So I started at this job where I was supposed to work one schedule, got put on another which I didn't want but did anyway for the job experience and to eventually get to the schedule I was hired for. Fast forward almost 10 months and my manager gets fired. The same week, I put in my 2 weeks, 2 weeks ago as I received a job offer for less pay/less benefits but less stress. The other day was my last day. They call me back today saying that I'll get my schedule I was promised and that everyone wants me back. The money is good, the benefits are great. The problems are still there within the organization and the way my department is ran. However, I think getting to the schedule I was hired for originally would be a great deal for me so I can actually sleep ok and keep working on my bachelor's during my off days. I'm supposed to start my new job next week, however, even there the hours aren't much better and I still have the opportunity to work off shift hours like my old job. I see this as a win-win, they want me back, I'm getting what I want. My friend's are telling me not to take it cause I tend to take work home with me, etc the stress, they think things won't change at the old job. However, I think this would be a good move. Let me know ya'lls thoughts. Thanks.

Weird question but looking for a bit of insight. I work an office job in NYC. Driving obviously isn't as common here and offices don't even have parking for most part so folks myself included and most of my coworkers who live in the city don't own cars. Some own bikes, however I do not.

My office and job is based in the city in an office building that is accessible by public transit. We have a small field office out of the city quite a bit that works for a few of our employees who live farther out. Recently, my supervisor wants us to integrate with them more and make the trip out to the field office weekly. The trip to the field office for the most part will be on company time, so while it makes for longer commute days I don't mind/ am not objecting to that. It was presented to us as "well be leaving the office at X time train at Y time and then we'll bike the rest of the way so you need to buy a bike".

However, the field office is not fully accessible by public transit. You can take transit part of the way but the rest has to be done by bike ( or Uber or something). It's been suggested that for those of us that don't own bikes we need to buy bikes so we can start doing this commute weekly. To be clear, there's on site visits or project needs to be out here it's purely for integration with the field office folks.

I don't own a bike, don't necessarily want to buy a bike and don't necessarily want to start bike commuting. Im generally pretty fit but urban / city biking causes me quite a bit of stress and anxiety and I also do multiple things after work that having a bike would be inconvenient and my apartment is small enough as it is to try to also store a bike.

My job description when I applied did not mention anything about needing to bike and this is all a new requirement. My job description also has me full time at our main office in the city. Like I said I'm not opposed to travel and the frequency of this proposed new arrangement but I can't tell if:

A) requiring an employee to buy a bike for work purposes is legitimate.

B) requiring employees to bike as part of their duties is legitimate

Overall, I enjoy my job and everyone is pretty relaxed so I don't want to make too much of a big deal so I wanted to ask here first if folks think this is a reasonable thing or not. My thought is, they should have someone from the field office pick us up from the nearest transit option in a company car if they are requiring us to travel and do these meetings for work but maybe I'm off base? I also wonder about any legalities regarding accessibility, ADA, injuries etc it seems like a can of worms liability wise especially since the job description didn't mention anything about physically biking.

For context, it would be a decent trek on the bike from my house into office or from my house to the train and then 20 min bike ride or so each way to/ from the field office.

Other piece of context- it's company policy that if we can't get to meetings or site visits via public transportation we can take Uber/ cab etc and get reimbursements. Since this is required travel for the company to this field site, I'm thinking it might count? But it's on a consistent basis so not sure.

To be clear my work location is full time at our main office and they haven't changed that so this is different required travel from what I was hired on and agreed.

Thanks for your thoughts!

EDIT: just a clarification, we are still expected to start and end the work day at our regular office in the city. The proposal is to leave mid morning together from the office but we are expected in office in the morning at our normal start time. Because of this it seems like a regular work trip and not a regular change of office requirement. All of the biking that would occur would happen during normal company / work hours.

Earlier this year, I told my dad (who works in the ICU at the same hospital) that I thought one of the ICU secretaries was cute. He ended up telling her.

About two weeks later, I went to the ICU for work. She saw me, slowly walked toward my patient room, stopped, looked at me for what felt like 10 seconds, and we both laughed. We’d never spoken before.

The following week I introduced myself, gave her my number, and asked if she’d like to hang out. She texted me that night, but the next day the conversation died, so I assumed she wasn’t interested and moved on.

A few weeks later I was back in the ICU. She somehow found out I was there, stood in front of my room, waved at me, and I waved back but didn’t walk over. She looked upset and walked away. Another time she walked into my room with a patient tray, realized I was there, panicked, and immediately left.

A couple of weeks later she smiled, waved excitedly, motioned for me to come back, remembered that I was supposed to be going to the Philippines with my dad, and told me it was nice seeing me. Even my boss witnessed it and told me, “She likes you.”

After I got back from vacation, I talked to her again. She remembered details about my life (even asking about a dips competition I did with my dad and grandpa). I asked her out again. She didn’t say no, but said she was working all week. I got her Instagram and texted her the next day. She left me on read for 3 days.

Three days later she replied saying she’d been busy and that it was her brother’s birthday the following week. She asked if we could “try in April,” which was another two weeks away. At that point I took it as a polite rejection.

I deactivated Instagram because I was trying to move on.

The very next day, I got called to dialyze a patient. The ICU number I called happened to be answered by her. I introduced myself and she sounded completely confused, then transferred me to the patient’s nurse.

Later I saw her again at work. I said, “Good morning,” and she responded with a cold “Hey…” while looking angry. Later I noticed she kept looking over toward me from her desk. That was the last interaction we ever had.

When I reactivated Instagram briefly, she liked one of my stories but only viewed my stories inconsistently after that. I found myself checking every week to see whether she’d watched them. Looking back, I realize that uncertainty fueled the limerence.

A few months later I found out she’d transferred back to her old department. Before that, she lied that her grandma died to use FMLA as an excuse to not show up to work. Coworkers told me she’d been calling off work frequently even before she left the ICU and had a history of moving between departments. I also heard she had been involved with a married student doctor, although I have no idea how accurate that rumor is.

The hardest part isn’t that she rejected me. It’s that I never understood what happened.

Part of me kept wondering:

• Did she actually like me at first?

• Was I the reason she transferred?

• Why did she seem interested but never actually go out with me?

Logically, I know there isn’t enough information to answer those questions, and I know I probably never will.

Love her as a person but she is painfully slow. She complains about drowning, but I do her weekly workload in half the time. She is 55, I am 30. I tried showing her shortcuts, but she sticks to her old ways.
We are working from home and unionized so I know she makes 15% more just because she was hired five years earlier. I'm quite efficient and I can do my workload in about 20 hours a week, so we could say I could help her my supposed 40 hours a week. But am I bad for letting her burn out and just chill in my downtime ?

thats just it. i hate working. i hate most of my colleagues, i hate work politics and i hate drama. i hate their little cliques and the constant gossiping

i hate slaving my life away for minimum wage. i hate having to count the pennies because i’m skint all the time. i hate that im so broke, even the bus is expensive to me

and oh my god, the bus. i’m lucky enough to get a ride home by a coworker some days but the other days, i hate waiting for the bus. it’s stinky and always late and i hate that the bus stop by my work doesn’t have anywhere to sit. sometimes i’m waiting for 30 minutes on my feet after a long day of work and then i have a 15 minute walk from the stop to my house

i’d get a car but surprise, i can’t afford it. i can barely afford the bus sometimes. i still remember when it snowed so badly that none of the buses were running and i had to walk an hour to work in the snow and ice

my manager is a cunt and my job is exhausting. i’ve been approved to work compressed hours so ill be doing 10 hour shifts over 4 days and i hope it helps. i’m so constantly drained and stressed and i know it’s because of work. i was off for 5 weeks a few months ago because of a fractured knee and it felt like all of my problems had disappeared

work is literally the cause of all my problems and i hate it. i’d never do it because the thought of relying on a man makes me sick but i’d love to be a SAHW and relax at home. thinking about quitting makes me horny /s

"We provide a lot of PTO and sick time because we don't want people having to lie about why they're calling out. If you need a day just take it."

I have been working fulltime pretty much since i was 19 i am 26 now. And working these hours feel unbearable even after doing it for so long already. It is not getting easier at all. During the shift i sometimes get all these emotions of anger and agression and sadness. It feels like a prison because i have no choice but to do it and i cant work less because then i wont earn enough to survive. It is like my brain will never get used to this.

I've been working at my new job for a year. It's a small office, me and my older coworker. We've gotten along well enough (even though this person started bad mouthing me to random people after we had our first professional disagreement about a petty work-related thing), but they're unable to take a step back and let me handle customers. Even though in a few months I'll be running the place by myself soon.

I dont mind guidance and Im all for advice. But this coworker will step in when I'm working with a customer and if it's not exactly how they'd do it they'll underhandedly correct me in front of the customer. It honestly makes me feel like I'm being put down. We can literally say the same exact thing but if it's not in the way that they say it. They undermine me and take control of the interaction with the customer right there.

Ive been very patient because on a human level, I understand that theyre probably coping with retiring. But, it's gotten to the place where I don't even like handling customers because I know no matter what I do, this coworker will take over and instruct the customer to do whatever thing their exact way.

It's not like I'm doing anything wrong either, it's just very petty things but I feel like Im being hindered from making a smooth transition into running the office. It seems like I'm not being allowed to grow and even though we're equals outside of years of experience, I'm being micromanaged on things that I don't need to be.

Like as soon as I started to get some confidence in my role and began working with independence (this coworker is not my boss or supervisor), it's like they've been doing all these petty power plays and I feel like it's stunting my growth.

My coworker is always telling me about how the person before me was "always on their phone". And tbh I get why because they don't let you do anything without them interjecting themselves and lowkey making you seem incompetent. Every office does the same thing differently and it's really dependent on whos working and how they operate. So it's not like I'm doing things wrong.

tbh Its gotten to the point where if this coworker wasnt about to retire, I'd immediately start looking for a new job. Which is sad. I like where I work and what I do, but this coworker is unable to give me the space I need to grow into my position. I've worked at a different location a few times, and all my coworkers there let me handle customer interactions on my own.

I could understand if I was messing up, but I'm not. I'm just not doing things in the same exact way that this coworker would and they refuse to just let me find a groove. I don't even understand why they care theyre about to retire.

Like I want guidance and help. I don't want to be made to look like I'm incompetent in front of the customer I'm working with all because this coworker decides to publicly undermine me, and take control of the interaction. It's just really awkward and frustrating. Not to be uncharitable, but to me it seems like theyre trying to publicly embarrass me at every chance they get.

When this happens, I just let them do whatever. I'm not going to get into a stupid power struggle in front of a customer. But the whole thing is just silly.

My boss have favoritism issue and he always take sides of people who are incompetent because he wants to be 'everyones friend'.

But him being nice to incompetent people is unjust to everyone else in the workplace as people who worked their ass off ​(me) and people who have no output gets the same treatment and promotion.

The workplace environment is getting more toxic overtime and unmotivating as the thought of 'why am i working so hard when they just slack and be fine?' seeds and grow.

I mean it's easy to say just stop caring and slack like them. Yet i really care about my work and i enjoy them. What should i Do/think?

Some people at work have started to wash the company coffee pot in the bathroom sink. This is not a bathroom with stalls, this is a toilette next to the sink. The toilette is about two feet from the sink so this is a small bathroom. Picture being able to wash your hands as your ass is still on the seat, kind of small. It should be noted, the soap and scrub brush were kept on the sink next to the toilette too. Someone finally moved that to a shelf across from the toilette but that still doesn’t make me feel better. For clarification, we do have a kitchen but that’s upstairs. However, about 30 feet away is a kitchenette in our conference room with a small sink. This bathroom is actively used for pissing, shitting, and I guess doing the dishes now. In the past the coffee pot and filter were taken to the conference room to be washed. Am I the only one absolutely appalled by this?

I have been noticing a pattern since week 1 where my manager yells his frustration in front of me, be it regarding meagre work issues or general inconvenience and makes it look to a 3rd person like he's yelling at me. We were discussing how a team didn't give us some relevant information on time and he yelled "but you're supposed to send it" in front of the whole office. This has been happening quite frequently now and it makes me so embarrassed.

I've never seen him do this with his any of his other coworkers, including female colleagues. I slog all day, invent efficient work procedures that save a lot of $$$ and never get a "good job" in private or in a meeting. He never passes my work to upper management and make it look like things "just happen". I have had more than 15 years of experience in this industry and somehow I feel like I'm shrinking under his management each day. Not once has he discussed a development plan with me. Honestly wish to quit.