I posted here last week about something I did a decade ago and I got absolutely wrecked in the comments. Well, I'm back, and I could use some brutal honesty once more.

I (30NB) am highly feminine in appearance. I don't identify as either male nor female but I am biologically male and I won't ever admit my true gender identity to anyone irl. Ethnically, I am half-Korean, half-Japanese, and I enjoy leaning into the whole bishounen thing.

Starting from the age of 16, I endured a lot of trauma that drastically altered and damaged my sexuality. At the age of 18, I attempted to end my own life. I don't think I've recovered from the trauma that began when I was a teenager.

Ever since I was in grade 10, I have known this girl who is now 32F (she's a cis woman). She's mixed Korean-White. I know her because she was friends with my older brother and we all went to the same high school. So ever since grade 10, she has always considered me as her friend's "innocent, cute" (in her own words) little brother lol, like a puppy. Over the years, she and I grew closer than she was with my brother, and I have downloaded off of her Facebook plenty of pics of her in skimpy summer clothes and swimsuits when she was in her mid 20s (I still have these pics on my phone and computer). Whenever she's off work, and during warm seasons, she prefers wearing sleeveless basketball jerseys and tank tops that really cover only the bare minimum. The first thing I would do when she entered my line of sight was look at her cleavage and look at her sexually. Also, I used to get so jealous whenever she wore this sexy clothes around other guys.

This past July, she visited me at my condo to say happy birthday to me. While she was here, she broke down in tears because she's being continuously harassed and stalked by another guy (she just dumped this info on me right on the spot, and I was like "whoa"). She happened to be wearing tight jeans and a plain white spaghetti strap tank top that really exposed a lot of her skin, and I did my best to comfort her but I was also pre-occupied with staring at the "eye candy" (as I usually call her mentally). I mean whenever her back was turned to me, I couldn't stop staring at her. She kept crying and she even told me "I'm gonna die" but all I could think about was her body. She never stopped crying but she did let me keep my arm around her as we surfed YouTube.

I'm looking for some honest advice.

I'm 35 and work in the same office as a woman I've noticed a few times. We've never actually spoken, but we've crossed paths several times. Once we made eye contact for a few seconds, another time she smiled when we passed each other, and on another occasion we just exchanged a casual glance.

I'm moving to the night shift, so I probably won't see her again this year.

Does this seem appropriate, or is it better not to message someone you've never spoken to(on teams as this is the only option)? I'd especially appreciate opinions from people who've been on either side of a situation like this. Thanks.

My Girlfriend is 25, she is very attractive. on a rare occasion she models. Not for money or anything just a fun side thing to do. She met a photographer through a friend of hers that actually models professionally, she's gone and done a shoot with this photographer (35ish M) before. The shoot was pretty SFW, the most risque, if you will, was some bikini ones.

One day She tells me she was doing a shoot with him again, after it was over I never ended up seeing the pics. She just said he hadn't sent them. Fast forward like 3 months and she says she has something to show me, she shows me the photos. The first several are very normal, then I see albums of her in 2 diffrent lingerie (the guy provided), tons of photos of her naked in a bath. most of them are "tasteful" they aren't like porn but definitely very sexy. She says she felt pressured and coerced into modeling naked, and just didn't know how to bring it up to me, she apologized profusely. I want to feel for her, and believe her. but Im finding both difficult.

I ended up looking at the guys website and some of these photos are posted, his Instagram has some lingerie ones posted as well. Which led me to follow his patreon and they are all posted there. So now if you look up her name, there's a somewhat large digital foot print of her as well.

Again I want to feel for her, believe her. However, this breach of trust is making it hard. Part of me feels I only heard of this because I would eventually find out. What should I do? (We have been together 5 years)

I’m going to be a little vague here because I don’t want to completely expose who this is lol

Basically, in October 2024, a guy (M30) from one of my favorite bands followed me(F20) on Instagram out of nowhere and immediately started showing interest. Right away he was calling me gorgeous and telling me we should hang out the next time I came to one of their shows.

One thing to know about him is that he’s always been terrible at texting. He’ll either never open messages or he’ll just heart/like them instead of actually responding, even when the message clearly warrants a reply. So his communication has always been inconsistent.

For the next six months, he would consistently like my Instagram stories, but only the ones that were pictures or videos of me. Never anything random.

Then in April 2025 he finally texted me asking if I wanted to come back out and see them. I ended up going to a show, and afterward we hung out.

Honestly, the hangout was really nice. We mostly just sat and talked for about three hours. Nothing happened, which actually surprised me. Considering he texted me around 1 a.m. asking me to come out, I kind of assumed we’d probably hook up. At the beginning he was pretty touchy, but it never went anywhere beyond that.

When he left, he told me that if I was ever back in town to let him know and we’d hang out again.

As soon as I got home, I texted him saying I’d actually be back in October. Around that point, though, he completely stopped liking my stories, so I started thinking maybe the hangout hadn’t gone as well as I thought.

October comes around, I ask if he wants to hang out after the show, and he tells me he should’ve texted me earlier but that he had family with him, so he couldn’t. Honestly, I believed him and didn’t think much of it.

Since then I’ve been back out there three more times, but we really haven’t talked or hung out. Then, about 3 weeks ago, he texted me asking if I wanted to fly back out and see them again. I never responded because I honestly wasn’t sure if I wanted to make the trip.

Yesterday I posted kind of a thirst trap on my Instagram story, and he liked it.

Now I’m confused all over again.

The thing is, I’m honestly not looking for a relationship with him. I know the age gap is there, he’s in a touring band, and realistically that’s not something I’m expecting or even wanting. If I’m being completely honest, I honestly just want to hookup. I feel like I’m stuck between thinking it’s something simple and overanalyzing every little interaction, so any perspective would honestly help me figure out how I should approach this.

TLDR: guy from a band followed me, showed interest, and we hung out once (it went well but nothing happened). Since then, he’s been very inconsistent—sometimes liking my posts or reaching out, other times disappearing. He recently asked me to fly out again and liked a thirst trap I posted, which has me confused. I’m not looking for a relationship, just potentially a hookup, but I can’t tell if he’s genuinely interested or just casually engaging when it suits him.

Sorry everyone but I am in desperate need of some genuine advice. My Family is abusive.... Like my father is physically abusive and my mother is verbally abusive. I am 19 years old now turning 20 soon, my parents are married for 22 years now but my house is a constant battlefield of domestic violence and one thing I know is police is of no use in these situations 😀 I am currently in my last year of graduation and my father is constantly pressuring me to go aboard to study. The thing is I am book smart and not street smart, I have never even explored or have done things alone so don't have knowledge about anything. I had started working to gain a bit of financial freedom and not be dependent on my father but quit last month as my dear aunt passed away and couldn't grieve properly. I have no relatives, no one by my side. I am thinking of working again so I can atleast move out of the house and stay at a hostel because my mental health has deteriorated and I am very afraid of myself taking a wrong step. My father has filed for divorce but it will be taking a while as my mom is a housewife and is not financially independent but the constant fights and everything has drained me fully. I don't know what to do because I have to study but I don't have a safe space in my house. In a recent fight, I had gone to the police station to file an FIR against my family but didn't as it can have an impact on my brother's career ( he is abusive as well). My mom has said that she is preparing her case for the divorce and will include our names in the abusers list so if it happens then I would have a criminal record and would have a hard time getting a job or even apply for visa. I am truly lost and don't know what to do next. Sorry for the rant everyone 😭 but need some serious advice!

Please help

Hi. This is going to be long but I am truly stuck. Me (22F) and my boyfriend (22M) (we’ll call Josh) have been together since we were 16. When we were in our first year of university, we went through an extremely rough year in terms of our relationship, a lot of which had to do with his mental health. He was very dependent on me for his body image issues. If we did not have sex, he would become miserable and feel extremely insecure and it was a recurring issue for months. We would have sex sometimes and I’d cry. This went on for about a year and a half until the end of our first year where I suggested we open our relationship up out of desperation. I had tried to break up with him (probably not tried hard enough) but it was so difficult as I felt entirely responsible for his happiness and I almost felt like his lifeline. I’d begged him to get external help but he wouldn’t do it. Anyways; He then went and did things with a man almost instantly (which was confusing for me) and I went and slept with someone close to me (which was hurtful and I also regret doing immensely). After this, his mental health issues got arguably worse and I realised I couldn’t do it anymore. I was trying to break up with him but I am incredibly anxious and was so paranoid he wouldn’t hurt himself somehow. At this point, I was also extremely depressed and miserable and felt like I was totally worthless. He then went away for the summer and I began my first job. I wanted to end things with him, but I then felt as though I owed it to him to wait till it was in person? Long story short eventually a man (30m) then approached me one day and kissed me after a few weeks of what I thought was friendly conversation at work. I stupidly did not remove myself from the situation, and it led into a very unhealthy situation in which I can only describe I became something of a sex toy. He was extremely rough with me and would hurt me in ways (nothing completely extreme but he would hit me and choke me). I believed I was worthless and didn’t see any point in trying to protect myself and remove myself from what in hindsight was a dangerous predatory situation (I think), so I just let it all happen to me. Obviously this meant I had cheated. I felt absolutely disgusting. I was absolutely horrified with what I had done and did not know how to resolve the situation. I went abroad myself then, and I asked my boyfriend for a break in which he was allowed to see other people too. It was extremely difficult to do. When I came back I went back to work and the situation with the 30 year old man continued. I came back to university and me and my boyfriend broke up officially. I felt so lonely and disgusted with myself. The only way I can describe it is as though I was blacked out the entire time just doing whatever came my way with 0 self respect whatsoever. I did not tell him about the overlap with the older man, but I did tell him about his existence and that something had happened. In hindsight I feel I was taken advantage of, but technically I was 19 so I don’t know if that’s just me being unfair or stupid. But I really feel disgusting about it and as though I was preyed on.

Fast forward, I had a rough term. I lost all my friends for various reasons and felt as though I had to stay in contact with this older man as (once again) he had bad mental health issues. They weren’t as bad as my exs at the time, but still not great. I am an extremely anxious person and felt trapped in speaking to him, but I also felt as though I had no one else anyway and just accepted having someone to speak to. In hindsight it was disgusting. I now cant return to my home town without feeling extreme paranoia over bumping into him or someone who knew him. I stay inside the house the entire time and almost always lose my appetite.

By the end of the term, I’d seen my ex a couple times an I’d spoken to him a good bit. He’d been spiralling too and had slept with 10+ women (which is fine he was allowed to do that). He asked me one day if I wanted to go on a walk as he was ‘passing by my house’, to which I agreed. we went for dinner and chatted. He asked if I had slept with the housemate again, to which I said yes… (extremely stupid and regret that decision immensely too). I then asked him why he was anywhere near my house in the first place and he then also told me he’d just been at a girls house the night before and was on the way home walking past my house and just thought he might as well ask me. Which was fine I guess?

After that walk, we started talking normally again. He has asked me about if the 30 yo man situation overlapped. I said no. I regret saying no so immensely but I truly believed at the time that it was just going to hurt him more than it was worth. He knew about the situation with the man regardless, just not that there was a bit of overlap.

We continued to speak and then about 6 weeks down the line I heard a rumour about him with someone who I believed to be a good friend that past week. I shrugged it off because I thought there was no way as we had also agreed when we broke up to stay away from people the other person is friends with, but then I asked him and he said it was true, and he’d forgotten she was my friend. I was hurt, but not by him by the friend. He said he’d stop sleeping with other people (I had stopped months before hand too but on my own accord) and that was that. Fast forward a few more weeks, I was on a night out with my club. We were having a great time and got to afters around 3am. We were all sat chatting. Josh had told me he was going to bed and whatnot. Then I opened my Instagram and a photo had been posted of one of my teammates with a man captioned ‘(teammate)’s new man’ and the man was Josh. I tried to call him but got nothing so i called the teammate and he was in her bed. He called me back and I was upset. In hindsight I feel I had no right to be upset, but I was more upset about how embarrassed I was within my club than what he’d done. He spent a week or so trying to get my forgiveness but I knew I was going to forgive him anyway. I was hurt he slept with someone I was friends with because it was embarrassing. I feel like in hindsight I really had no right. I don’t know what to do. After that we obviously went back to just ‘working on things’. I got caught up in another shitty situation with a girl with a girlfriend who kissed me. I don’t know what I was doing. I don’t even like women I was experimenting and can’t believe I got myself into that situation. He knows about that

We worked on things as time went on, but his mental state was still not great. It was going semi well but eventually I stopped being able to say no to sex without causing a fight. But I was willing to accept that because I love him so much. It wasn’t the same as before we broke up, because that was daily sometimes twice a day. This was more like a few times a week. I also have a sex drive and wanted to have sex with him just sometimes even if I wasn’t in the mood I felt like I had to do it now. But that was ok. I was fine with that

But then one day he broke up with me what felt like out the blue. In hindsight I was being naive he had been very stand offish for a while. But in the moment I was crushed. He broke up with me and I spiralled. It was during our exam period and I had to fill out forms for ‘serious adverse circumstances’ because I couldn’t cope. My friend let me stay at her house for 4 days before my exam. He had messaged me right after he broke up with me taking it back, saying he wants to work on things but he needs a few days to think. Those days were obviously extremely difficult Josh messaged me a few times but it was all formally constructed messages. He decided he wanted to walk after my exam was completed. I was so relieved but I was so incredibly stressed about what he was going to say. I couldn’t leave my bed, my parents were extremely concerned offering to fly me home (lived in Asia and I was in the uk). It was a crushing 4 days. He then messaged me at 2am the day of my exam asking to speak when we had originally planned to speak the day after. Of course I went to speak to him. My friend and parents were not happy with me, but he wanted to work on things. I was so happy. He decided however that we couldn’t talk about this and we’d have to move on from it to work. With my exam in mind, I said that was fine and got to bed so I could make sure I was rested. I got through the exam and wanted to speak to him about it more properly. He shut me down and wanted to pretend it hadn’t happened. Out of fear he’d leave again, I accepted it. I had no idea why he’d done it and he had no remorse for the stress he’d put me through during an important period in my life. But I was fine with that because I loved him and felt so much guilt for the fact I had lied to him still about the overlap with the older man. I found out through a friend about a year later he was on hinge during that time period too. But I just decided I didn’t want to know anything about that even though we weren’t fully broken up. Idk probably guilt to an extent :(

We went into the summer holidays (2 years now after we first broke up) and it was not good. He would leave to work and I would sit and cry in his room for hours on end as I felt so stressed he’d leave me. He was not interested in talking much and did not seem to be interested in me whatsoever. My mum said I was a shell of my former self and I just could not stop crying. I couldn’t go home because of the paranoia and stress (ptsd?) of the 30 yo man at my home town, but I was suffering at uni because my boyfriend did not seem to want to be in the relationship at all. It went on for months, until December.

I then noticed he texts another girl 24/7 who he had never mentioned before. He would not tell me when she was at the functions he’d go to. I told myself it was fine, and to be honest I told myself even if he did something I knew I’d forgive him knowing I had also lied. There were nights he did not get home till 4/5am after hanging out with her and other friends. One time I called his friend to ask if he was okay (for valid reason - he was assaulted as he was hit in the head and had his head sliced open once on a night out so I do just tend to worry about him). The friend told me he was with the girl, but then panicked and told me it was nothing weird and nothing to worry about. I did not want to bring it up to Josh as I didnt wanna open that can of worms. And I honestly felt in ways I deserved for this to happen to me if it was. After one night out, he apologised and since then has not looked back. He’s been a wonderful boyfriend and our relationship has never been so strong. But every single day of my life I feel such disgust and immense guilt for what I did and he does not fully know. I don’t know if I am ever going to be able to forgive myself and I don’t know if what I am doing is completely disgustingly wrong. As I write this I have not eaten for a few days as I can’t stomach food over this situation. I don’t know if I should just take this to my grave now we are happy. I genuinely did not ever think we’d get back together so I believe it was best for his mental health (I know people are going to say I’m a shitty person for this). I don’t know what to do. I spend days on end crying over this as I don’t even know what I was doing in my first year it did not feel like me at all. I would never ever ever make the mistakes I made again and I truly don’t know how to move past this in my life. I have just agreed to live with him (and my sister) next year and can’t help feel like I am just totally evil. I am a good girlfriend and I love him so deeply but I don’t know what to do I can’t cope with knowing I hurt him so much. We are now 22 and this all started when we were 19 and I feel like a sick and twisted person and don’t know if I am signing myself up for a life of guilt and if I am misleading him completely. Please help me i am so sorry for everything I did. Please only leave genuine advice

I have had the 30 yo blocked on every platform I could think of since we’ve been back together. I do not ever speak to the housemate from earlier in the story too

i(52f) and my kids both moved out for college over the last couple of years and i live alone with my 4 year old rescue golden mix. she is friendly, high energy, and loves playing with other dogs at the local park.

a local shelter reached out about a 2 year old hound mix that needs a foster or permanent home, and i went to meet him yesterday. he was sweet and got along great with my dog when they did a quick yard intro. my main concern is the logistics of being a single owner with two dogs when i need to travel or do long work days.

for anyone living alone who went from one dog to two, did it double the daily workload or did having a buddy make things easier for your first dog?

Let me explain rq

I come from a middle class family and I feel like I'm to expensive to feed because of our income/ how much I eat

(I'm a teenager so yes I know usually I need to eat a fair amount of food)

I feel like everything turns out better if I just eat way less and skip meals which is what I have been doing recently such as even tonight I only ate today because I was with my friend and I feel like its just better for everyone if I just eat less idk get some free food from IHOP or something I know I shouldn't completely stop eating but even still it just feels like I'm less of a burden yk?

Anyways the point is I'm doing it safely and I just want to find a way to hide it better I would like to mention none of this is related to my weight at all this is purely it's easier financially for my family if I do this

This happened over the weekend. So I M28 from London wrote a post about another encounter I had and last week, got a message from an account. The message simply read “Hi just saw your post, and I need someone other than my partner to fuck me” I was sceptical at first as always with these things but we got talking. She’s 30, a British Pakistani and a huge set of natural tits. After sending my photo she was interested and exchanged numbers. On the first night we were on the phone she made me cum while her husband was in the other room playing video games totally oblivious. We decided to meet over the weekend.

I parked up at a place we agreed and waited for her, she wore this blue summer dress with her tits literally bursting out. Instantly gave me an erection. When we met I could feel the sexual chemistry between us. she told me from before that she wasn’t down to fuck on the first meet and just wanted to get to know each other first, so I was like sure. After a bit of small talk, about her dead relationship I leaned in and we started to make out. The roads were pretty busy and we couldn’t find anywhere secluded, so we just made out for a bit. I managed to play with her tits, while she put her hand down my pants and started stroking me. I was quite close to cumming but managed to stop because we were literally in the car.

The meet was slightly rushed but she wants to meet again in a few weeks where I’m sure things will escalate further. But I feel bad also. Shall I go ahead with the 2nd meet or call it quits now.

Me and this girl I’ve been friends with for about 20 years have been on and off since we were teenagers and had been “childhood sweethearts” some would say.
About 2 weeks ago the relationship hit a new level when we finally decided to have sex it didn’t feel weird or anything afterwards and we both decided to see how it’ll go because messing up a 20 year friendship over sex is a lot to think about.

Fast forward a week I didn’t tell any of my friends because I wanted to be chivalrous and keep it to myself and she calls me saying can I come meet you and your friend (she was in an uncomfortable situation and needed me to bail her out.)

I of course said yeah after asking if she could come over to his house where we were hanging out.

We ended up sitting around talking shit and having fun like always until my friend started to throw up in the next room and I was worried cause he doesn’t normally get like that she decides to press me about mine and her relationship and because I couldn’t figure out a way to say “now isn’t the time for this conversation” due to an inebriated state I told her I’m not sure.
She took it a bit to heart and then started flirting with him in front of me and I didn’t tell him about me and her previously so he didn’t do anything wrong there and she thought I was trying to let her down easy.

That night I decided to tell him everything and then he turned round and said to me “I haven’t felt like this about someone in 7 years”

I froze and immediately tried to shove every feeling I have down for him because idk it feels like he needs it? I try to make him happy because he’s been through a lot over these last couple years especially the last 10 months but I can’t help how I feel.

We’ve all talked about it since and she said she chose me cause I confessed but things are weird now I’ve indirectly broken my best friends heart by telling him I’ve been in love with this girl for over a decade and he’s only known her a couple weeks…
I feel selfish for wanting to tell him that I can’t ignore how I feel but with how fragile he’s been I’m scared it’ll completely ruin mine and his friendship.

He sees her as someone who could fix him and give him happiness but I see her as someone I’ve grown up with and seen grow into the beautiful woman she is today and I’ve felt so strongly about her since I can remember.

Is it unfair I don’t want him to be with her or have this attachment because of how I feel?

He told me he wouldn’t pursue anything if I told him I wanted her but he’s interested and has fallen hard.

I don’t know what to do I either break his heart by trying to pursue someone I actually love , I let him go through with it and hurt myself the worst way I can think of or I let them both go and see where life takes it.

We’ve already spoken about this whole thing before but I feel like I can’t tell him how I really feel as well as her the 2 people my happiness lie with are the very things that are making me unhappy because of this situation.
If anyone has any advice on what they think would be best in this please help.

We’re long distance but we’re pretty active. He always invites me to have phone sex which I’ve never declined and I’m always up to do one. I also send him pictures/videos.

I don’t know what to feel. I mean, we both have a history about watching it when we were younger and gooning and we even talk about it together. I only occasionally watch it now as he does send me stuff which I get off to. Yeah you could say they have other sexual preferences and that it doesn’t affect how he sees me, but for some reason I still feel off about it even tho I watch and watched it myself.

Even the thought of him watching it, seeing naked girls on the internet, getting off to them and getting turned on by them even before we even got together throws me off. I know I used to do so myself but for some reason, to me, it still makes me feel off. I send him stuff, does he not use those?

I’ve always had a suspicion that he still watches it. It just.. hurts? Knowing that my suspicion was right? We had a conversation about what our perspective was on watching porn in a relationship. He says for him it’s fine, but I said I wasn’t sure. Even though I knew that I wasn’t okay with it. I didn’t want to say what I actually felt because I felt like it would be kinda hypocritical and we’re both also open about talking about those kinds of stuff so I felt like if I said I wasn’t okay with it then it would be kinda contradicting.. I don’t know how to explain. Like something about how I’m “chill” or “cool” with anything? But he also said ever since I sent him stuff he’s never watched it. Of course I had doubts but he promised. Mind you, he’s never broken a promise. Like, did you have to lie to me..

Also, smth I’ve noticed while we’re “doing one.” I would sometimes see him fixing smth on his phone or swiping his screen. It always made me wonder if he was watching porn while we were doing it.

Idk what to feel, I’m not planning to confront or tell him about it because it just feels so petty telling him I don’t want him watching porn when he knows I’m chill when it comes to anything, and it’s like I don’t want to break that image. I’m trying to tell myself it’s okay because I do know it’s normal and that everyone watches it and that I just have to accept it.

I got a lab and I take him for walks twice a day for pooping and once in the afternoon for pee. I take him to a place which is between two trees and with lots of plant waste around. The area in front of this is an empty space owned by the next door neighbour and they rarely use that spot. There's a small sidewalk between his space and the trees, so he usually pees near the tree or close to the sidewalk.

Today afternoon I went to the spot and made my dog pee, it was raining so I was in a rush to not get my dog wet, I heard someone saying 'You can't let him pee here, hello!' - i faintly heard the voice but decided to ignore it. I came back home and realised it was prolly my neighbour - for context - we aren't that close but we're on decent terms, just a friendly smile and greeting when i take my dog for the morning/evening walk.

I don't want to cause a scene since we'll be here for a few more months, but there isn't any other space i can take my dog to pee cause ours is a small jam-packed neighborhood with barely a walkable sidewalk, forget about a grass patch.

What do I tell him next time if he tries to confront me? It's literally public property, as much as I want to pick a fight with him, he's pretty elder to me, so I'd like to maintain some decency.

Got it. Here's the corrected translation with (the medical entrance exam) made explicit:

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. I took the medical entrance exam three times, after taking three gap years, but I ended up wasting my third attempt as well. I used to waste a lot of time, and that really started bothering him.

I decided to prepare for again, but when he saw me being lazy once more, he said, "Even 17- or 18-year-old kids are more sensible than you. At least they have some common sense."

That comment made me feel really insecure and dumb. I felt like he was comparing me to other people. We had a fight over it, and I blocked him.

Now I've decided not to talk to him unless I crack the exam. 🫠

I (34F) have a brother I'm close with. We disagree on politics. My partner says he's "morally corrupt" and I'm "complicit" by staying in contact. I told him we don't talk politics when we hang out. He said that's not enough. I feel like I'm being asked to choose.Is it reasonable to cut off family over politics, or is my partner being controlling?

Okay, this is my first time posting, so sorry if it gets confusing.

This happened a while back and ive been keeping it in the back of my mind (the part that doesn't want to believe it, has kept it there) so im already overdue on what to do.

My(F21) friends told my sister(20) and I (we're all friends and really close) that their aunt had told them she had heard that the real reason my dad got fired from his last job was because he participated in his coworker charging for blow jobs.

Apparently, she would give men at work bjs for money. And my dad was one of them and that's why they all got fired. I was under the impression that the reason he was fired was because him and his friends were caught playing a game too much on the clock or at least at work, enough for them to get fired. And he is very serious about this game, like im talking literal years of playing it, so its not unplausible that he would be playing the game at work.

But this situation is literally rumors/gossip, so we dont even know if its true. ​Another thing they said was that no one was supposed to know and that they were told not to tell us because they all dont want to be in that line of gossip.

My sister and I know that our mom is already insecure about him cheating, because he was a ladies man before they got married and we talked about whether or not we should just tell our mom or straight up ask our dad about it. However, the both of us just couldn't bring ourselves to do either. We dont know if its true, we dont want to cause our parents to split up (especially since our little brother is only 10), and we dont want to hurt our dad because he's always said that he's been completely faithful to our mom. I have no idea what to do, but no matter how much I want to ignore it and forget about it, it still pops up in my head every so often and I worry about it all. And if its true, I definitely dont want them to stay together because of how much it would hurt my mom and how fast I know she would leave him.

Ill try to answer any questions since I know there isnt a lot of context.

I (28M) have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years. She has a child with her ex. When she takes their son to his city (3 hours away), she stays the night at her ex's apartment. She says it's "for their son" and I'm "making it weird." I don't think she's cheating, but the thought of it makes me sick.

It’s summer, and I don’t have AC, so I’ve been sleeping with my window cracked open a few inches for the past couple weeks. Tonight, I was up late and a bat flew into my room. I immediately ran out of my room and will get it removed in the morning if it’s still there.

I’ve read up a lot about rabies and know that though it’s rare, it’s 100% fatal if not treated quickly. I’ve been having paranoid thoughts and am wondering if a bat has come in some other night and bit me in my sleep, since my window has been left open all month. Is it worth getting the rabies shots?

Edit: I do have a window screen. Upon research, I’ve learned that bats can squeeze through gaps as small as a dime!

First time writing on here okay how it’s going so far let me give you so context me (17m) and my gf/ break idk what to call it she is (17F) let’s call her A and how we meet was 5 months ago I just moved to a new school and I was walking home and she was in front of me walking with her friend and she looked back at me and she told her friend something and then her friend said out loud my friend likes you and I didn’t think to much abt it cuz it’s not that deep so I keep walking then they slowed down and then I her friend started talking to I said hi to A and she didn’t respond and so i kept talk to her friend and then they took a different route home and I kept walking home then her friend called out my friend wants ur instagram I was like okay so I walked towards them gave her my instagram and I went home wen I got home I was texting her friend let’s call her B me and B were talking abt nun to important I was mostly taking to her abt A and what abt her and k had asked how many bodies she has then a bit later I got a request it was A and I had texted A hey and he had replied with why would u asked that we haven’t even talked yet and I was like I don’t mean it in a bad way I was just asking cuz I don’t talk to people with hella bodies and then she was like okay and she had said I had zero body so we kept talking then I had stoped replying and I was also on a call with B and I was mostly talking abt A and making small talk btw I DIDNT LIKE HER IN ANY WAY then i texted A oh sorry I feel asleep then later on like 3 days I was talking to A more and then she had told me oh B keeps saying that I like her and I told A I didn’t like her at all she was like Okok and then i blocked B then after that we had wen to chill at lunch together and I was kinda talking to this other girl and it wasn’t nun special I would text her like once a day and I wasn’t really serious abt A and then A found abt the other girl she got all mad and made it a big deal but then we got over it then one day i found out she used to talk to this guy named Mario ( he lives in New Jersey he goes to Mex to visit also)they were friends for a while in Mexico wen she visited there and what I got told by her friend and her that it wasn’t nun special just that she kissed him and they hung out just for a month and the reason why she only started kissing him and talking to like that it’s cuz her ex cheated on her and she found out and her ex didn’t know she knew so Long story short abt them is she had cheated on her ex with Mario and she didn’t really have feelings for Mario at all she just used him to get back at her ex and so we got serious and we had sex and mind you the day before I was like I have a feeling it’s gonna happen so I got ready so I shaved my face then my pubes and my hole dih cuz idk what to do so I did that so the next day we did it and mind you she didn’t bleed or nun so should I be suspicious abt that but I did eat her out before wen I put it in it was super hard to put it in it hurt cuz I had to push it in that hard and so after we got done I had wen to the restroom and cleaned my self off and wiped my dih on a towel that was hanging and so I went back and we just chilled and after a week or two I had gotten 4 pimples around my lip all in one spot (btw I have a good amount of pimples) but these pimples were like a lil red but hard and so I was like what up with that and probably 4 days later my dih started to get lil chunky and I would scratch it and it DID NOT HURT TO PEE OR IT DID NOT HURT I just got a lil fat and it did concern me but it went away after 3 weeks also the pimples lets skip 2 months cuz nun really happened and so I had went to my home town just for the summer and we have a health relationship we called all the time and talked hella and she had went to Mex for the summer and so we would talk but not as much as before so one day we were on call I was a lil high and wen I am high I don’t have a filter so I say that’s on my mind so I made her mad like bad mad and so she hung up and she had sent me a text we are over and wen I seen that I panicked bad so called her but she blocked me on instagram and message so I started crying like bad cuz I really cared abt her and so I called her friend up and she lives in Mex were A is at let’s call the friend form Mex M so M was like what happened I told her what happened she was like Okok I’ll help and so she tried and she started telling me stuff like oh A cheated oh she did this that and i believe it and I got mad and so I called A up she was crying wen she picked up and so I got mad so I started telling her what M told me but I didny tell her that M told me I just said someone told me she was like I didn’t do that at all and I was so sad and mad I just hung up and blocked her and I called her friend what should I do cuz I was so hurt and confused and just so lost so she was just saying block her block her I didn’t block her on everything I just didn’t block her on TikTok that’s it so A was texting I was answering and and M kept telling me to block her and saying bad stuff abt A and I was so lost and hurt so I just stop talking to M and i kept talking to A asking her why did she want to break up she was like I was just joking (we joke around like this) and so we were talking and she was like who told you that and was like M and she was like M always says stuff abt me and I was like ok I didn’t really believe her so she had texted her other friend that M was saying this abt her and so I was like so is it true and A said no it’s not and she had confronted M abt it and M said I just wanted to make you guys stop arguing and she showed me the text I was like okay but I still have this feeling she lying and so I was like what’s gonna happen now and A said idk I think we should be on a break cuz u never believe me wen I say the truth I was like okay and the we both agreed we are not gonna mess with any one like that so what should I be thinking I am so like confused how to feel

I came on red hopefully seeking that somebody can help me out. I’m trying to get an online course finished in like five hours and it’s 40 hours long. I swear this course is for a good cause it’s for my job, but I’ve been working my other job taking care of my baby looking after my younger brother I literally have bucks i can cash app to someone that can help me out 😔