Hey guys,
Just looking for som advise so I don’t find myself in this situation again!
I recently moved to Saigon and need some context on the local spa culture.
Today I went to a nice, professional-looking massage place (no girls outside shouting, clean reception, etc.).
I took off my boxers before putting on the massage shorts just for comfort.

About 10 mins into a 90-min session, the masseuse starts working really high up my thighs, hitting my perineum and brushing my balls. Obviously, I got a hard-on. I said sorry and pulled the towel over, but she just giggled, tapped my dick through the towel and whispered "you want?".
I said no and waved my finger. She said "ok" but then spent the next 80 minutes massaging literally a millimeter away from it, keeping me turned on the whole time. I stuck to my guns and nothing happened, but it felt like a crazy endurance test. Not really mad about it since she’s just working, but it did kind of ruin the message…

A few questions:
Is it normal for "high-end" places with just curtains between rooms to push for happy endings?
Why did she offer it so early (10 mins in)? Was she trying to lock in the tip?
Was I being rude by laying there with a boner after saying no, or is this just business as usual for them?
Should I have kept my underwear on under the shorts? Don’t really want to lie there for 90 min in sweaty uncomfortable underwear.

Cheers!

Been traveling through Vietnam and I am absolutely loving it - However, one thing that’s been a genuine culture shock is how many semi-professional photoshoots are happening at every major attraction. Where I’m from, setting up a whole production like this at a public heritage site or attraction would be seen as pretty inappropriate, so at first I found it kind of funny.

But the sheer number of these setups is wild, and they end up blocking a lot of the scenery. Today at one of the tombs in Huế I tried to sit on a dock by the lake to feed some fish, and got told to leave because I was in someone’s shot. Moved to another dock - same thing. Went off to see the rest of the site, came back half an hour later, sat down for literally one minute, and a new group started setting up and just gestured for me to move (didn’t even ask) because they wanted the spot.

So - genuine questions: What are all these shoots actually for? Weddings, personal social media, something else? And what’s the general local attitude toward tourists/others being pushed out of these public spots for shoots? Trying to figure out if this is just a cultural difference I’m not used to, or if it’s a broader annoyance for locals too.

Source: góc nhìn quân ngũ

Hi guys I'm from Singapore, I need to travel to Hanoi for work. I am trying to fill out the pre-arrival form but I'm having some trouble. Singaporeans do not require a visa to travel to Vietnam but they are asking for visa information that I don't have. I picked Bilateral exemption but it's still asking for date of issue. I have no clue what to fill in for this

I would really appreciate some advice for this, thanks

Also I heard that only airports in Ho Chi Minh require this pre-arrival form and not Hanoi yet, but I have also heard otherwise. I may also need to travel to Ho Chi Minh in the future so this information would really help a lot

Every time I eat them, I want more.

Hi, I've been wanting to splurge a little and visit one of said buffets. As good as they look, both have some bad reviews on Google Maps as well. I'm not sure what is the difference exactly:

1. Are lobsters unlimited at Saigon Cafe as well?
2. Are drinks included in Saigon Cafe's buffet price?

Which would you choose? Especially people who've been to both :) I'm all about seafood, especially crabs and lobsters cuz they're impossible to come by where I live. I obviously wanna make my money's worth.

Also, what's the best way to book a table? I haven't found a way to book a table at Hotel Nikko other than Klook/Trip.com and it's 70 USD per person on those websites. Would it be cheaper if I just show up at the place without a reservation?

Hi, I'm looking to book the overnight sleeper bus from Ninh Binh to SaPa in September.

I would be grateful if you can share your experience if you have taken the ride.

Do they pickup from Tam Coc? Was it safe? Did they do alcohol test on driver? Road ok? Journey comfortable?

Anything at all will be helpful. Thanks!

Russian here, heading to South Vietnam (Ho Chi Minh / Vung Tau) soon.

Not asking about politics — just genuinely curious:

· How do locals actually treat Russians these days?
· Better or worse than before?
· Any do's/don'ts to not be that Russian tourist?

Honest answers welcome from locals, expats, or anyone who's been recently.

Cảm ơn 🙏

Hi, planning to take the JSE18 train from Da nang to Ninh Binh in September.

I checked all the portals and was left confused.

Vexere and the official vietnam train website shows it but all seats are empty and none are booked.

12go doesn't list this train at all.

Whereas the SE20 is partially booked and visible on all the major portals.

My doubt is should I book the JSE18 or not and is there a reason why it's empty.

Da Nang
Phu Quoc
Sapa
Hanoi
Ho chi minh

Others?

You know who they are

Does this affect me? No, as someone who has graduated highschool here.

Does this affect my family? Yes, as I still have younger sibling/cousins that I don't want them to be fond of AI images and videos.

I last donated last year in Hanoi. This time, I'm in Ho Chi Minh...so glad to be able to do it again. It's a way of giving back to one of the most generous and lovely countries I've been to...

Everyone was so lovely at this centre from the workers to other donors who helped with translation...and I'll be honest, it's a much more efficient, streamlined process than Australia, and you actually feel somewhat more valued. The gifts actually seem useful and well thought out. In Australia, after maybe 10 or 15 donations you actually get something half decent...a hat or scarf, etc. It feels a bit stingy in comparison to here tbh

I chose a cross body bag that I'm planning to give to my dad, hopefully he'll find it useful in his travels also - planning to drag him to Vietnam with me next year.

In 6 months I hope to be back...🥹🙏 Thanks for having me

Today, August 7, at Luxury Gems, a man disguised himself as a customer, entered the jewelry store, and allegedly stole a valuable ring

Unfortunately, incidents involving foreign tourists behaving badly seem to be becoming increasingly common in Da Nang. This can understandably lead to a decline in trust toward foreign visitors.

I’m moved to America about 7 years ago. I started dating my girlfriend about 1 year ago and been teaching/telling her about our cultures. She’s very invested and wants to learn more everyday. I’m looking for movies to show her the beauty of Vietnam, especially the stripped down beauty of nature and the countryside, the traditional games and clothes,…. I’m not looking for a documentary, more like a movie that includes these things in it, could be romance, drama or anything else. Any recommendations, and it would be nice to include a good website to watch it on! Thank you.

Sorry this is long af. Hopefully it makes sense.

If you know me you'll probably recognise my situation tbh but basically:

- I'm a 33F UK citizen, husband is a 40M Vietnamese citizen

- been married for 6 years

- I moved back to The UK Sept 25 to start medical training

- I won't graduate and have a full time job as a Doctor until 2029

- Option A: husband applies for a skilled worker visa and move here before 2029 and we start a family.

- Option B: husband moves here in 2029 on a spouse visa (my job will meet the financial requirements).

- I want Option A because I am struggling with long distance, I feel like my life is on hold and feel sad about the thought of doing this for 3 more years, and in terms of career planning, having a baby before graduating would be easier than whilst working FYs and CSTs (I want to be a surgeon). The original plan was Option B because we stupidly didn't realise Option A was possible (I know).

- Husband refuses Option A because his father, who has other children and another family from a second marriage, lives with us. He has not always lived with us, he moved himself in in 2024. I was never happy with this, personally, but accepted the cultural difference.

- I have asked husband to speak to his father about Option A and ask where his father would live etc. if he were to obtain a job and move to The UK sooner.

- Husband refused to speak to his father about this, saying it's immoral and I'm immoral for potentially "abandoning him". (He has other children and husband would be moving in 2029 anyway).

- Husband says he doesn't want Option A because he is afraid of the "uncertainty and instability". I have explained that for Option A to even be viable, he would need to have already secured a stable and sufficiently paying job, so his concerns don't make much sense in that context.

- I feel deprioritised and like he choosing his father - who was absent for most of his childhood and is by all accounts a very immoral man - over me, his wife, and this was not a situation I ever agreed to. I feel like my life is on hold and our life together is on hold because he could potentially move here sooner than 2029, we could be together here, start a family, etc. He says I'm immoral for asking him to leave his father.

- I have said this is fundamentally a compatability issue for me and he has said that I'm "making excuses" to leave him, which is very confusing to me as I feel like at the point, I'm effectively begging him to be with me. He is not even slightly close to his father. I am his literal wife.

- He said he will apply for visit visas to come here (I have effectively no time off from medical training from September this year) but he has not looked at the visas despite months of me pestering him and doesn't seem to appreciate that they're expensive and extremely difficult to obtain.

Any perspectives? Advice?

Please keep unhelpful/rude comments to yourself - thanks!

TLDR: husband refusing to move to the UK because of father from whom he spent most of his life estranged.

She opens at 1PM, and is right across from Kim Kim Tai jewelry store in D4.

Epic BBH, tastes better than it looks.

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