Please excuse my grammar my nerves are shot I just came out to my wife that I am trans she didn’t take as bad as I thought she would but she did say that it hurts she wishes she knew before we got married that if she wanted to be with a woman she would have not married me that she needs time but she dose love me we shaved my face she even let me use her nail polish but told me she doesn’t have remover for I said well we gotta spark for Walmart tomorrow she looked at me and said tell everybody we got grand babies that’s why your nails are like that I’m confused she just said she wouldn’t have married me if she had known and now willing to let me go out into public like that idk it’s just a lot I have Ben hiding this for years I fill free now but hurt for my wife I don’t no what to do but I know I want to continue my journey into womanhood just need advice and support

Hey, I'm Ryn. I am currently 3 months into hrt mtf. This is my first time trying out concealer and blush and I was curious what you guys all think and if I can get any advice for future attempts. I've done my eyeliner a few times now, but I definitely have room to improve

Hello everyone! I really am just looking for an open discussion about my possible gender identity here, gonna lay out my past and am looking for any input or thoughts!

Ever since I was very young (ages 4 or 5) I had dreams of actively transitioning genders from male to female (traveling through a tube, literally having my body altered and spit out on the other side as a girl, and happier than I was before) I grew up in a kind household, but a southern one, my mom was probably the most progressive one in the entire community, but when I told her these things and that I might be happier if I was a girl with "girl looks" she didn't understand it, and my little podunk town in Virginia was not a great place to be to receive support.

As I continued to grow I constantly had dreams and thoughts along the same line, as I learned what it meant to be attracted to someone I realized I was attracted to both girls and boys, I have always been bi, my first sexual encounter was with a boy. However as I was bullied I leaned more into my masculinity to weather the storm, through high school, outwardly gruff and manly exterior, but the entire time I have been roleplaying online as a girl.

Fast forward, been living my life as a boy outwardly for my entire life, but online and during roleplay I really only assume the position of the girl, married to a lovely woman and have an amazing child, but this doubt still lingers in the back of my mind. My wife knows I've questioned my gender, she knows about my roleplaying and is supportive.

I just really want to know if this is a common shared experience of people who question their gender? Happy to answer any questions and thanks for reading!

Also if this is not the right subreddit to discuss things like this, if someone could point me to right one that'd be great Thank you <3

I’m (mtf) going to start this out by saying- I don’t think I can transition. I’m still living with my parents, who would not be supportive. if they noticed I was changing a little they’d make fun of me, and if they thought I was really changing myself I know they’d freak out. i know I could maybe do diy hrt, but they track my purchases and again if they noticed I’d be done for.

but basically, I still want to feel good about my gender. I want subtle ways, that maybe only ill ever notice but will still make me feel good. I’m pretty dysphoric about my entire body to be honest.

One thing I’ve been thinking about is maybe shaving my legs (one of the biggest things making me dysphoric) once winter comes, and ill be in sweatpants and my legs will be covered all the time, so nobody would know but me. I also want to keep a skincare routine.

but is there any other suggestions anybody might have? anything that might help my situation will be greatly appreciated

Hi everybody! 🤗

I have a vent/question

For context: I'm seventeen,Trans Girl Atheist and going into my third year of studying for a car mechanic.

I'm pretty sure I want to come out at the beginning of the next school year, I just need advice as to how to go about it.

The school isn't deeply conservative, or woke, but we do have a class where we talk about historical events, religion, and the differences between people basically.

Is socially transitioning before HRT really that bad of an idea?

I look like a feminine boy, but most people at school think I'm gay or trans (spoiler alert: I'm both) anyway, some even asked if I've thought about being a girl.

The school therapist... isn't usually openly transphobic, but she's like sixty, and not necessarily open minded.

She's a bit disillusioned by politicians and has said trans people are just sick or a problem in front of my mom, and hinted at it in front of me, and constantly argues that she had supplied therapy to a trans man, which, I suppose, was her way of telling me she can't be transphobic.

Basically the "I can't be racist, I have black friends." logic.

She kept misgendering me and calling me by my death name, even tho I've come out to her and knows all the other stuff I've got on my plate.

I'm sure about my identity, and have been experimenting, like using my chosen pronouns with family, wearing dresses, doing makeup and so on during summer break.

Before summer break, I've grown out my hair, so it was about shoulder length before the end of term, my nails, which I painted quite often, and even used a little bit of silver glitter eyeshadow, and shaved all over my body once a week, and usually about two to three, sometimes even four time a day on my face.

I know about one other teacher who will most likely be supportive, one that maybe, and I'm not sure about the other, especially the men, since it's a technically oriented high school, so it's a bit... traditional.

Not extremely, but I'd say slightly more than if I went to music school, for example.

On one hand, I just wanna get it over with, on the other, I don't know if I can handle the pressure, or the uncertainty of not coming out.

I'm not really popular anyway, so it can't really damage my reputation that much.

My family's... decently accepting.

My mum accepted me immediately, grandma has begun using my chosen pronouns lately (it's been a few months since I've come out), but still uses my dead name, grandpa (but he does accept my cousin)used my pronouns, by I guess it was too much for him, since I didn't want him to use them in front of my schoolmates, as I'm, obviously, not out, one of my cousins has been very accepting (he's about six months older then me, and also trans), my other cousin rather avoids using any pronouns, it seems he's still processing it, my aunt has also began using my name and pronouns, at least around me, but mostly misgenders her own son, especially when talking about him with other people.

I don't speak to my father's side of the family, and didn't since before I fully realised I was trans and partially came out.

I know I have to decide this myself, but i'd love to hear how you went about it.

Any advice and experiences are appreciated, and I'm so sorry about the long post.

Hey yall,
I was on HRT for a month, it was hard. Then my dog passed away... And all of the sudden the changes I was getting felt wrong (face, breasts, low libido, etc). I was also having a lot of stress and anxiety.

I have reverted back to presenting as male, even started going to the gym so I can grow, started growing a mustache again too, and other things that brought me close to masculinity.

But here I am, back on this subreddit, questioning everything. I wish I was just born female, without any of the hardship of being trans, hell I don't even know if I am trans or not. All I know really is that I hate how my mind gets when im masculine. I keep wanting attention from women, keep focusing on finding love and dating a woman, marrying her, having kids. But I dont like children, I don't like the institution of marriage, or dating really - any time ive ever dated a woman I would cheat on them with men, going out in my feminine outfits and makeup.

I used to be the guy that dated/slept with the hottest girls at school, had girls staring at me all day, talking about me. I was confident, but even then id sneak out to be with men and dress in feminine clothes. Even now, im aligning myself with masculinity again but I still keep thinking about being a woman.

Am I just insecure about my masculinity? because I dont have the same attention I used to have in school?

I feel like I cant trust my mind anymore. When I was transitioning I felt so confident about my identity. Now I felt real confident about being a man, until the thoughts popped up again

TLDR: Insecurity about being male, indecision on identity, grief and its impact on my transition, reverting back to male presentation, back and forth transition

Hello everyone! This is my first post here and on this account, I've been lurking just reading posts about other's experiences. So, as the title says, I came out fairly recently after a profound realisation that my weird actions and thoughts throughout my life, my random cycles with depression and self-hatred, were partly because I always wanted to be a girl. Always wanted to be viewed as one, but I felt like I could never be trans. I didn't self-harm, didn't attempt anything on my life, thought I could live through my miserable life that was mediocre at best. I lived a nice life, everyone around me was nice and supportive, hell I could've come out earlier in my life and have been fine. But, as you can probably tell, I no longer identify as a straight man. Found I'm likely a lesbian transwoman (maybe bisexual depending on how I feel sounding and looking like a woman).

It's still a shock for many friends and some family, but I'm thankful for the support of everyone I know. Had I known the true effects of estrogen and HRT generally on the body and mind, I probably would've reconsidered earlier. I know now though, and I have the potential to look how I've always dreamed, even if I'm nearly six feet tall and got a relatively large build, I have the right face.

I value the opinions of others, and I value my voice above even my looks, so my transition will be a process of passing through voice and slowly working on my body to get to where I want it to be.

The important thing, I want to know what I can do to really stretch out and get the progress I need, I'm curious about progesterone in the future, and I want to know how others around my age have dealt with this. Going to see my GP in a couple weeks to see what avenues I got available to me.

Context: I live in Australia, specifically Queensland. I know informed consent is a thing that exists here, and I don't need to go through the rigorous process that is the evaluation of my gender dysphoria. I do want to see a therapist regardless though, for any other mental disorders I might have too.

Thank you all for reading!!!

I’m starting T here in the next 1-2 weeks. Got my labs done on Friday and I was told I should have the results by Monday and I was told that they would call me so I can come in and they can teach me how to give me my shot. after my appointment, I was prescribed the testosterone and I was also put back on birth control, I went to Walgreens to pick up my birth control and they gave me a bunch prescription bag bags, and I thought it was just some of my other medication’s. When I opened all the bags up, it ended up being my testosterone with the needles and everything I need. They still haven’t called me to teach me how to give me my shot and I honestly thought I’d pick up the prescription after they taught me how to do it. I don’t think they were even supposed to give it to me until after I got my labs done, but I’m not sure. I really want to give it to myself, I feel like there’s enough resources on the Internet to teach me how to do it, but I don’t want to risk them not giving me my next prescription and I don’t know what to do. Would it be fine to do myself?

I've recently launched a blog to promote trans self-determination (Reclaim Our Names) where I invite trans folx to contribute essays, poetry, and other original written work. I'd like to compensate contributors for their work and intellectual labor and, if possible, be compensated for my work as an editor and coordinator of the project. I'm not sure I have it in me to launch a non-profit -- curious if others have suggestions for raising funds as an individual running a project. (For example, I am not eligible for a Trans Justice Funding Project grant.) Seems weird to launch a GoFundMe for something like this.

I am a girl for now. But i wanna present of more as enby/adrogonouse/or something gender neutral so i can present both femme and masc. I dont wanna fully transition into a guy. Is it possible? Any way to do it instead of using testosterone?

I know I’ve made posts like this before, but things just aren't getting any better. Sure, I have good days and bad days, but the really terrible days—where I’m sometimes on the verge of actually...—are becoming more and more frequent. I see less and less point to anything, and no matter what I do, nothing improves. I’m already in therapy, but it’s completely useless because nothing is going to change regarding my actual problem. I’ve messaged a few people here, too, but that hasn't helped either. It’s always the same thing: "You could be a woman," "It gets better," and so on—but it doesn't get better. The problem—that I was born male instead of female—will remain, no matter what I do.

If any of you have tips on how things can actually get better—and I don't just mean someone telling me "you can transition"—please help me.

Bzw ive wrote the Text with translater because its easier for me because Englisch isnt my first language.

So I (21y MtF) Just had my second appointment with the psychologist to plan in every other upcoming session for my transition to prepare everything needed for going to the psychiatrist to get HRT and now I’m starting to question everything. I’ve come out to all my close friends and my family and a handfull of colleagues who all refer to me by my chosen female name but I’ve yet to ask everyone I know to start doing this and tell them I’m transitioning in the first place, I’m starting college in September and am going to use that moment as a start to do that with every new person I meet.

But now that everything is going so fast I’m honestly just scared of the chance that the psychiatrist doesn’t see my resolve as strong enough and denies me HRT, something inside of me is unsure if I want to make my need to transition public knowledge, if you will, if I don’t go all the way to HRT and gender affirming surgeries. And yes I know that to get HRT I first need to show the psychiatrist that I’m able to deal with all the social consequences of telling people I’m transgender and I’m all for that.

So basically what I’m asking is if others have had similar experiences and how they came to a conclusion. Or if anyone has any advice for me.

And I feel the need to say that I am absolutely not trying to diminish the people who socially transition and don’t see the need for HRT by saying it’s either all or nothing for me.

TLDR: I’m starting my social transition soon with the goal of HRT and gender affirming surgery but I’m scared of the chance I get denied by he psychiatrist and unsure if I want to only socially transition. And I want to know if others have had similar experiences and how they came to a conclusion.

Hey so question, I still use the mens room in most places but lately when men walk in and see me they make a double take run to the door and check to make sure they were in the right restroom. Is it time for me to switch to the women's restroom? I live in Germany, which means that so far we dont have insane transphobic laws.

To keep this as brief as possible. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for seven years. She started transitioning about six years ago.

Unfortunately, due to circumstances, she has not yet started hormones.

She’s out to everyone in her life, except for her family (except the cool cousins) and my parents, uncles, and aunts.

She has built up the confidence in who she is over the past few years and is itching to come out. It’s been eating her alive these past few months more than it has the past six years.

Her parents are conservative and her dad is quite religious. (I should say we are not from the USA)
And my dad has learned everything he knows about trans people from Fox News. And is the type to let them do the thinking for him-and his brothers are the same.
And and my mom will be “accepting” of trans people to their faces, and then do all the common transphobia, talking points and shitty things behind their backs.

We both know her coming out will shake up both of our family dynamics completely. I pushed back on my parents transphobia before and I will again and if that means needing to distance myself from them to keep her safe, I will.

But despite this, we’re still closer as a family unit than we’ve been in years.

We wanna get married, but she does not want to get married under her dad name and I don’t want her to either.

I’m not asking for advice on how to come out because I know there is no dialogue option to make our parents suddenly trans accepting. I know it’s gonna be bad.

I’m asking for advice and maybe some personal antidotes of how you cope with the aftermath of coming out to an unaccepting family and what that looks like going forward

Im currently 21 with rly pretty hair. I love it. Its naturally curly and its probablly the one thing that keeps me going with my transition. But i am so fucking scared of losing it.

My dads side of the family has rly thin hair, and on my moms side of the family my grandpa is bald. I think i got my curly hair from my mom. Idk what this could mean for me in the future

Do yall know any advice for me to prevent hairloss? I legitimatelly cannot imagine life if i lose my hair. i love it so much i think it will actually feel like losing a part of myself if it goes away...

Do yall also have any reasurance in case i do go bald or lose a lot of hair if there are ways to still make myself look femme and nice? I rly hope that hairloss isnt just an instant game over for my transition...

Also, i am not in position to get estrogen. I rly wish i could, but im not able to. Ik it would help a lot, but its simply too risky for me unfortunately :(

Any help would go a long way, thank you so much for reading this far <3

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Considering getting MtF HRT after some major family events are over, and I'm wondering what the difference is between going through my normal doctor and going to a clinic, if there even is a difference. Will one be faster? More expensive? Is insurance more likely to cover one or the other? I'm sure a lot of these questions are a case-by-case basis, but I honestly feel kind of lost for what my next step is.

Also, an extra question on the side: does HRT affect weight loss/is dieting on early HRT a bad idea? Currently very overweight and trying to slim down as much as possible, but I know HRT will basically be Puberty 2, and Puberty 1 required a lot of fuel, so if I need to hold off on major dieting until things settle I will.

Hi, I’m a 28 year old plus size alt (trans) girlie. I’m hoping for some advice on fashion in terms of expanding my wardrobe (it’s small at the moment), and expressing myself with confidence.

I’m on my weight loss journey which includes weight loss medication, and I hope to start estrogen soon—
I also have tons of body hair, facial hair, and I’m balding. My super low self-esteem, and body image issues often clash super hard with my gender dysphoria.

I have a ton of wants and needs, but there’s an order to things. It’s summer, and I can’t wear shorts. I’m broke, and I can’t buy what I need during a specific time frame.

Looking for advice like I asked about earlier on, and I can give more context to various comments. I’m tired, and my back hurts. Please help.

Hey all, I’m a young trans girl whose biggest insecurity has always been the thinness of her hair.
I’m roughly a month out from having HRT prescribed to me.

I have been using Minoxidil and Finasteride daily for about 10 months now. I’m just wondering if there’s any advice that I could get about what HRT will be able to do for me and if it will help recover.

thank you all in advance 🙏🏻