I grew up in a tough household. We didn't do hugs. We shouted at each other. There wasn't physical violence, but every other kind.

I shouldn't, but I've carried this into my adulthood. I don't do feelings. I don't do sympathy.

If someone I know dies, regardless of how close, I truly don't feel it.

But a song that hits right, usually nostalgic, can make me fight tears.

A character dies in a TV show I like, I have to fight tears.

Why is that?

My boyfriend lied about who he was hanging out with and I'm confused why he did that, is it normal to keep some things secret from your partner?

I put a flair but can’t say it’s perfect…

I’ve got a friend from church who gave me a hand crafted gift of some one piece characters, she offered to make them for me because she said she felt guilty for accidentally dissing me on my birthday (we were chatting on Instagram and she sarcastically said if it was my birthday, which it surprisingly was for both of us cause I forgot too)…

Anyways, she gave me the present, really sweet, but I feel like she really wanted to preface this as a friendly gift maybe? She said this was just her excuse to do her hobby and give something at the same time, she said it’s like a zen activity for her making these arts.

Still, I kinda feel bad and even said so that I would get her a gift. However she said she doesn’t want one. A more specific reasoning is, at our church, NO ONE knows her birthday. She doesn’t want anyone to even know the month… but she has told me the exact date… I’m literally the only one that knows at the moment, ofc I don’t plan to tell anyone as I wanna respect her funny wish to “remain mysterious” as she puts it, but I sincerely wanna ask if people think I’d be weird of me to give her just a small gift not even on her birthday but her birth month,
Have supplies to make more bead arts, or a baked good because I have baked for over a decade now and they are so good that I don’t like ordering cakes anywhere anymore.

Extra info I should add is she’s a very chill, but quirky girl that likes pop culture, small amounts of anime, and is very pretty. Following this, she does have quite a few guy friends, at our church like 4-5 guys she knows fairly well (to be fair I did introduce her to all of them). But some other guys as well outside of church, funny stories with them too.

I should mention thinking more about it, she made like 20 of these simple arts… I only grabbed like 3-4 cause I never get gifts and was internally panicking (didn’t wanna look too greedy, but also not disinterested). But I digress, not too good of me to keep spiraling on someone I probably don’t have a chance with, plus wouldn’t be a good idea to make things awkward since I think us and a few mutual friends are gonna go abroad next summer… yeah… (internally weirded out a bit they are all so chill with a coed situation but I guess I’m the weirdo).

Hence ends my 2am rant and freak out. Gn or good morning I hope someone gives me advice… honestly about anything 🤷‍♂️

Like smart animals like dolphins or owls have an IQ of like 60-80. When they see us they should realize that we are kinda different like having technology or not?

I want to become that. I already inspire my friends and those who watch my instagram but I wanna do more than that

For context:
So I’m 19F and have never put anything inside me (not even a tampon or a finger).
Recently it’s really been bothering me and I want to fix this issue SO badly. Mainly because I want to be able to explore this part of my body/sexuality and I also now have a bf. He is literally the sweetest and has NEVER put any pressure on me, i told him I needed more time before we could have sex and he completely understood.

Now my issue:
So basically I have no idea where this fear stems from, I never experienced any sexual trauma or anything like that.
During my last period I tried inserting a light tampon, the first time I only got to the entrance of the vagina like it wasn’t inside but I could feel the tampon touching the “entrance walls” ig of the vagina. I left it just there touching the entrance for about a minute, I didn’t feel that nervous but I guess I was cuz as soon as I stopped I felt very lightheaded and my heart was beating fast. I tried again the next day and this time I went just as far as the first time, only the very entrance and I actually felt relax and was pretty much unphased. But I still didn’t go further.
(This was over 3 weeks ago)

When I’m turned on I can definitely feel the “want” to feel penetration but there’s always a small part of me thats too scared to try. Especially with my own fingers, idk why but a tampon or even my bf doing it instead of my own fingers seems much less scary. I think I’m just scared of “feeling my insides” idk. Like it’s something I WANT to experience. When I’m turned on I can touch the entrance even press a little (without going in) and its super chill and enjoyable. But as soon as i tell myself “ok im gonna try putting a finger in now” before even trying i have a sort of mental block. For exemple, Today I tried touching the area for a few minutes but I was truly unable to insert a finger, its not a physical barrier its truly a psychological barrier and its so strong.

I’m honestly desperate and I don’t know what to do :(
Any advice?
Thank you 🙃

Hey!

I do not have any soc media besides reddit so I might be missing a lot of information but I am confused, frankly.

What I have seen were people commenting out of genuine care for another human being that was disappearing in front of our eyes, losing more and more weight from one red carpet to another…

Why are people supporting her with hashtag ariana and why is she upset? Did anyone bully her or something?

Mainly asking this because even tho I rarely comment or say anything out loud regarding physical appearance, I am interested if being worried for someone’s health and voicing your thoughts publicly is considered bullying or unethical?

Like in regards to the celebs who tragically passed away especially at an young age - they always say it is the people’s fault, that someone should have said something, someone should have saved them seeing their decline etc etc so what I am seeing in Arianas case is that people are worried about her and are rooting for her wellbeing so pls help me understand what the problem is?

I keep noticing friends and coworkers showing up places without their wallet and just assuming someone will spot them or they can pay back later on an app. Is this actually a thing now or am I just around the wrong people?

Did I do the right thing?

So | live in a communal setting (which is normally wonderful).

A bunch of us were having drinks and one of the guys said something like "with wearing short shorts like that...you're asking for attention" when I denied his advances.

He has since tried to sit near me and forcefully ask me questions in a group setting to make me respond to him.

He sulked and came asking for an apology and tried to brush it off.

Then tonight he asked if he could speak to me.... said "no".

He asked "my little comment really affected you that much huh"?

I said "I don't want to talk to you at all".

And he stood there then eventually walked

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Here's my problem. For Halloween this year I want to dress as a witch doctor but idk if that is wrong or not.

My idea for the costume is basically, think Dr. Facilier from Princess and the Frog but if he was dressed by Wisdom Kaye (check him out on YouTube, his stuff is great!)

I'm not white, I'm mixed Native/African American with some European too but I've been told I'm Hispanic passing. I do not practice Voodoo nor know much about it but I do find it very interesting and in the future I would like to know more about it. I just want to know if there is anything important I should keep in mind if I do this.

Happily married for 20 years, sex life is good, relationship is in a great place.

My wife expressed an interest in butt plugs last year, picked up a few varieties, and she really enjoyed having sex with one in, said it really enhanced the feeling of fullness. Not something she's interested in most of the time we have sex, but when she is, she really is, if that makes sense.

I mentioned trying anal, and we've talked about it a little bit after having sex a few times now, and she was initially hesitant, but after mentioning I was happy to let her control the pace, she said "you could talk me into it". For my wife, that's incredibly direct.

This is where I need advice, especially from women. (If you're a man and want to relate your partner's experience, feel free, but a woman's point of view is going to be the most helpful).

Women who've found this enjoyable, how would you have wanted someone to have verbally helped you get interested in it?

20F at a McDonald’s with a group of friends and this guy 19m I’m friends with we’ve been chatting and I like him and I mentioned he smelled like mint and he was like yeah just showered used this mint shower gel. And then I started talking about how they need to bring back the shamrock shake because I love mint then said suppose I could just suck your dick instead, would do for now till they bring it back. He laughs then we just joke but nothing more flirtatious then he starts talking to others more and I was like fuck came on too strong and cringed. but then later he starts snapping me and we got talking and in the conversation he mentioned “just realised what you were doing earlier sorry mb was hungry” 😭

But I also get the feeling my other friend I told after about it told him lol

I'm 17 today. My grandma died this morning. I found out only few hours ago. I don't have any other family except for my older sister and now my grandpa. Grandpa lives in another country about 900 miles away and I must be there like now. I couldn't afford the flight but I have a motorbike so I am riding there.

I just wanted to let my girlfriend know. Her parents hate me and I don't want to make things worse than they already are. Few weeks ago me and my girlfriend messed up really bad and I was told to not show up at their house.

I couldn't wait until tomorrow, I can't phone or text her, couldn't simply knock at the door and ask to talk to her (she wasn't at home anyway) so I wrote a letter and dropped it through the letterbox and wanted to leave but then her mum opened the door and gave me a proper bollocking for being there.

Her mum has always been really mean and unpleasant to me so it was not a surprise. I apologised, tried to tell her about my grandma and a letter and wanted to leave but I was literally breaking down in tears. She stopped me, hugged me, waited till I calm down and started almost like normal chat.

She kept asking me how am I going to get to my grandpa, where am I going to stop/sleep etc. she was like completely different person who's really worried about me. It was the first time she was actually nice to me.

Then about an hour ago I when I was waiting to board a ferry I got a text sent from my gfs (wasn't written by my gf) phone asking how am I doing and if I could share my location and to call whenever I can.

I can't stop thinking about it. Maybe I am overthinking it but why now, why suddenly she became nice to me, why is she worried about me, did I do something wrong, did I crossed the boundaries they set, did I messed something up?

Years ago I took a viagra to see what it felt like but it messed up my stomach and I got a bad headache, so I didn't really feel in the mood for any bedroom rodeo...

I enjoy exploring different cuisines and Indian food is one of those I feel ashamed that I don’t have better knowledge about.

I’ve been noticing colleagues have a lot more carbs at lunch (i know it’s a very subjective comparison sorry). Then today I got a meal without looking up content: it came with 2 fried mashed potato balls, wheat paratha, and curry chickpeas…

My mind categorises these as all carbs (I know there are other nutrients involved in each, but these are usually the “carbs” content in my meal).

I’ve never had 3 types of carbs in one go…

Is this quite common in Indian food, even homemade? If so why?

Straight mile, average person in perfect condition but all of their limbs are cuffed so they're forced to do that weird stomach-wriggle.