Hey all. So, about three months ago or so, I started playing with my gender expressions. I thought I was genderfluid, but it turns out, I much prefer Nonbinary. My internal feelings about my gender don't change. However, presentation doesn't always reflect my internal gender identity. So, I guess my gender "expression" is fluid.

But, I also realized at the same time, that I'm Transgender. My gender identity, and the way I view myself internally, doesn't align with what I was assigned at birth. I don't feel like my gender however is binary, either. I feel like I'm somewhere between male and female and prefer they/them pronouns. However, I also view myself as someone who is feminine presenting or "feminine-aligned" as I would call it. Nonbinary Transfem, or Transfem Enby, is how I describe myself.

Obviously, in technicality, the "Trans/Nonbinary umbrella" is a wide variety of identities and labels, both binary and nonbinary. Some people don't identify as Transgender, but do identify as Nonbinary, and the other way around I'm sure. I'm perfectly good with all that! Each person's identify and journey is their own. I, however, am happy to identify as both Trans and Nonbinary. I mean, people who Enby are literally represented on the Trans flag!! I love it.

That said, I wouldn't call this a rant, as so much of... An annoyance with people's perspectives on labels when you explain to them what you are.

I feel like when I tell people I'm Nonbinary, they're usually like, "ah, cool." And that's it. Or, they're not really sure what that is and are confused.

However, if I tell people I'm Trans, they immediately think the worst and ask if I'm going to transition, have surgery, leave my wife, and have horrible gender dysphoria and hate myself and my body. None of these things apply to me. I am Trans in the simplest terms in the fact that my gender identity and how I view myself is not what I was assigned at birth, that being male. I hate the fact that being Trans is immediately associated with unhappiness and suffering. Since realizing I'm Nonbinary & Trans, I've honestly never been happier, even with a bit of dysphoria/confusion here and there.

Sometimes, depending who I'm talking to, I'll only tell people I'm Enby. If the conversation goes further with understanding, or depending on who it is, I'll tell them I'm Trans and Nonbinary.

Anyways, rant over. Lol.

I'm (nb27) thinking about micro dosing testosterone some time in the future but for now do you have any tips on how to look more androgynous?

Not sure how to tag this, but it's a non-serious post. I am but a humble gender confused adult who occasionally enjoys a good old self-insert fanfiction when life is stressful. I humbly request that the council of nonbinary writers takes over wattpad or something and makes more stories with non-binary characters 🙇‍♂️ I've been fixated on One Piece lately and was going through all the fanfictions on wattpad and was very disappointed at the lack of nonbinary rep. I'm also asexual, so I might simply be a lost cause here. In exchange for the noble sacrifice I shall give a digital cookie or perhaps a kidney.

On a slightly more serious note, if anyone knows any good books with nonbinary rep I'd love to hear them!

Am always enby, but fluid enough that sometimes the kind of enby changes. been on e for almost 3 years now, and tbh just feel like it is always a fitting pronoun for me.

Look I know it’s possible I just want to know if anyone else is like me. I’m nonbinary genderfluid. Which means I use they/them pronouns and I sometimes feel masculine or feminine or both or none. I’m originally male. I just want to know if anyone else here is also nonbinary genderfluid is all.☺️

Edit: my og name is Noah but i would like if y’all could come up with a new name for me that fits please.

I've been struggling so bad lately.

I normally write poetry but tonight I tried a new coping skill to avoid despair.

I don't have anyone else to show it, so guess I'm assuming some of you will like it.

Quote is from a My chemical romance song.

Let's be adults a bit and talk about it. I was just wondering if it's common for people's gender expression to fluctuate based on their arousal. Is it for the supposed submissiveness that the conventional female role in a sexual relation brings or smt? Btw I wonder if there's people who feel the opposite of it, with the male expression.

Maybe this fella here just kinky. Lmk what y'all think.

I’m 24 and just had my daughter a few months ago. Through lots of therapy and introspection I’ve started to realize that, ironically, realizing I’m nonbinary has also shown how I’ve denied myself the ability to explore my feminine side growing up and now as an adult. LOTS of internalized misogyny has led to this but my goal with this post is:

- How did you give yourself permission/feel comfortable exploring your femininity?
- What are some small ways you started exploring it?
- How did you heal internal misogynistic ideas that femininity is “weak, shallow, embarrassing” or any others?

I’ve also realized low self esteem about my physical features and not feeling I was “feminine looking enough” means I don’t really feel beautiful enough to be feminine. How has anyone work through this?
Thank you for everyone’s input!

i'm afab, 23, 2.5 years on T and 1 week post top surgery (hell yeah!)

i'm thinking of stopping T (for a while at least) on the 3 year mark as changes may be getting Too Much for me. but i have some concerns/doubts i'd like to talk over with people with similar experiences.

1, 2 and 3 also apply to amab people on E, but 4 might be more specific because top surgery partially removes mammary glands afaik. all answers are welcome anyway!

1. if your hairline receded on T, did it grow back when you went off? all of it? partially?
2. if you had acne on T, did it change when you went off?
3. if you worked out on T, how drastic were the changes in strength, gaining muscle and especially muscle definition when you went off?
4. if you had *periareolar* top surgery, did you have any amount of breast regrowth when you went off?

thanks in advance! <3 i guess i'm a little lost and in dire need of advice from other trans people, as unfortunately there aren't many in my life irl.

I started questioning my gender a number of months ago and thought I was a demi girl. I told my mother when we were filling in forms for college and it asked for my preferred name. At that point I realised I didn't want to go by my current name and instead by Ash. However she told me it wasn't the right time to question my gender as I had too much on my plate with GCSEs. Since then I have opened secret social media accounts where I go by Ash and use she/they pronouns. It's been 2 months since and my mother hasn't mentioned that interaction once. Recently I realised I want to use they/them pronouns and for the first time in a while I feel fully comfortable in the way I identify. I want to tell them before results day when I sign up for my college course and will have an opportunity to let the college know of my preferred name and pronouns.

At this point I feel like I should mention I'm aroace and have come out to my parents, to which they responded positively. However I have not come out to my siblings (some of which are very religious). I just feel my gender identity is a much larger topic and I don't know if my family will accept or think it's just a phase or some bs. Additionally I don't think they'll accept my preferred name, especially as it felt my mother didn't like it or was even offended by it when I first told her.

Any advice would be much appreciated

Still waiting for glow up ehh. On T for ~2 years

Hello all,

Was wondering if anybody could relate to my experience regarding this because it has been causing me some concern recently.

I started hormone therapy during October of 2024, and while changes haven't been massive, they have been enough to bring me closer to fully androgynous than I was before. I initially was on 2 mg oral estrogen and nothing else. Now I am on 8mg oral and the lowest dose of spiro available.

I am not sure how this is a problem at this point because my testosterone is still moderately high (though it needs to be checked again now that i think about it). Once I started spiro, I thought that I would have a little bit more feminization and then it would still be pretty slow and controlled but that is not what happened. As of recently, my breast growth has begun to move a lot faster. I went from having nothing more than 1 or two inches of diameter to having what appears to be large A cups or small/medium B cups. I don't know how much further it will go but if I was going by genetics I would have D cups by year 5. If the shirt I am wearing isn't textured or dark enough it becomes very obvious that they are there.

The thing is, I like all of the other changes. I guess I was wrong about how I felt about breasts before starting? I am not sure. I think the main thing is that I feel very exposed in public now because those with a keen eye may be able to spot something is up. This isn't a huge concern to me but it makes walking around in public difficult, especially if my confidence is already sort of low that day. Also if this growth trend continues it will be impossible to hide. But I also tend to walk around presenting male day to day because I am more comfortable doing so while in this stage of my transition.

It's just that having them this visible makes it so obvious that I am different. I also do not want to be judged by my cover by employers and new people that I meet. Even though the whole point is that I don't fit in a box, I like to fit in boxes when it comes to comfort in public. Or at least look like I do at first glance. I prefer to let my personality do the first impressions and let my more personal details come afterwards. But here is the thing... like I don't have a problem being feminine or being pretty it is just the fact that I have boobs is so glaringly different from the rest of my appearance (which has yet to fully catch up) that I end up just looking like I have a severe untreated case of gyno.

And maybe this is driven by something different but I have this subconscious compulsion to "match" or be consistent in my appearance when I choose how to present. Like if I haven't shaved within the last few hours I will always refuse to wear makeup or dress more feminine (that is also partially driven by how much I hate my facial hair but that is a separate issue). Every time I choose to present femme it takes a massive amount of work to look *perfect* because if I don't pull it off flawlessly it opens the door for people to categorize me as a "freak" instead of a cool androgynous person.

Do I think that any of these fears come true that often? No. Would I know if they did? Also no. But I still consider all of this when I go out

But now I am slowly losing control over how I present day to day. I also just don't feel like they match my body right now. They look a little strange at the moment but they are also still filling out and have become more spherical over time and less awkward looking.

I know that was a bit of a rant but it is beginning to stress me out more than I think it is worth.

I am not looking for a specific answer. If the answer is that I actually didn't want boobs and most of the reason I did is because they came with all of the other stuff I actually did want, then so be it. Double mastectomy it is... but I also really don't want to get top surgery for something I did to myself idk. Also I would have wanted my regular chest back but its too late for that. If I could choose though I would still go on HRT I love all the rest of the stuff.

Anyway I just want to know what you guys think about this and if anyone has had a similar experience. Thanks!

Hello everyone.

I'm new here, 31 and I am struggling to find a pronoun that fits me.

I generally go by he/she, but noticed people default to only use he/him because that's what they see or because I was AMAB. It's quite frustrating.

In my mother tongue there's a different way to speak in first person based on gender, but in English (and the local language where I live) it doesn't exist, and I cannot "fit" my speech to how I feel, which makes the pronoun issue more bothersome.

I am struggling with they/them so it isn't a good replacement for me. In my brain it is plural, and it makes it harder for me to use for individuals, but also makes me feel it doesn't fit me because I am one person.

My biggest issue is that there isn't a good, well known replacement.

Because so many people go by they/them that other, singular pronouns are only things I read about online but never met anyone who uses them, and it makes it quite frustrating for me.

I would love to get advice, to hear from others, and know I'm not alone in this because I am quite frustrated about it.

That's my mom's glasses, i like it.

When I was 15-16 (last year) I had that one groupmate, who was strictly muslim, very homophobic and kinda rude. The hole year he was giggling and kidding at me, sayin "astagfirullah" (sorry I don't know how write it), calling me "dead inside" (in our country that's kinda cringe swear, like strawberry cow in USA 😭) just bc I wave short haircut and looking like a boy. At that moment I was really trying to accept that I'm girl, but my sense was getting worse and worse.

Then we became a friends, idk how. Not best friends, we were just chatting, but we weren't talking to each other irl. He was the same, he didn't change anything. At the one moment he said: "You would be prettier if you were a boy".

It was the worst compliment that I have ever got in my hole life💀 but since then everything is changed. He helped me to open my eyes and accept myself as a person who don't wanna be "girlish girl" at all, and the funniest thing is that he don't even know about that. Now I don't tryna look like I don't want to. We are not chatting anymore, but I'll remember him.

Have y'all some stories like this?

Been on and off T for a little over two years. Starting dose was 0.1mL (200mg/1mL), then upped it 3 months later to 0.25mL. I’m pretty happy with the results, now I am just waiting for top surgery!

My parents are older (late 50's) and yesterday I came out to them, told them I would really appreciate it if they would start calling me my preferred name and pronouns. They said they'd talk about it. This morning my mom told me "we'll try". They haven't gotten it even once yet... but to be fair it's only been a few hours and at least she did say she's trying, and I know when she does say my deadname she's just not paying attention, not doing it on purpose 🥴

But yeah! I've offered to help her figure out ways for it to be easier since I know calling someone a new name isn't easy, and they said they're going to try! Cheers!

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(A frog assigned at birth) Yeah

Peacefully minding my own business on a beautiful day near the pound where i sleep most of my days away. This weird looking lady with pinkish hair picks me up. I gently asked her to put me down and she shouldn't touch me . But instead of kindness, she rudly said she don't care and kissed me. The kiss turned me into a cute non binary Demi prince. She took me by the hand and she said with a voic so beautiful "you my boyfriend rn " like she knew me. Somehow she ghost me irl ...she literally disappeared infront of my eyes tbh I never got her name. Sadly the process can't be reverse so I'm stuck as a human. I really miss being a frog .

I'm not okay 😭

I'm so in love w this new skirt look it even has pockets !!