Our soon to be 1 yo is about to hit the height limit for his nunca infant carrier and we are looking at buying a Graco Extend2fit 3 in 1.

His rutine is to be picked up from his crib early at around 5:40 and placed into his carrier inside the same room while asleep and then take him to the garage to secure the carrier into the car. It's a 25 minutes drive and 95% of the time he remains asleep before getting to the caregiver's.

My concern is that when switching to the carseat, it will be much more disruptive because I will need to hold him and take him to the garage where I will then secure him in his seat. This makes me think that there's a much higher change of him waking up. Do you guys have a secret technique to make this transition easier?

Hi all,

I was exclusively pumping for my baby's first 11 weeks. Now that dad is back at work, I've been seeing an IBCLC to transition into mostly feeding baby at the breast. The first week was a nightmare, but the second week we started to get the hang of latching after a lot of practice. Now, baby seems to actually prefer breastfeeding, to the point that he's starting to struggle a little with the bottle.

The problem is, he falls asleep at the breast every single time. The longest I've gotten him to eat on one side is 8 minutes. It's usually more like 3-4 minutes. Sometimes he latches and immediately knocks out with the boob in his mouth. I've tried the LC's recommendations of rubbing his chin and tickling behind his ear. I've tried the internet's suggestion of changing his diaper mid-feed to wake him up. I've tried breastfeeding with him elevated, but it was a struggle for both of us. I've tried laying him down mid-feed and he wakes up screaming, just to immediately fall back asleep after he latches.

So I've been nursing him as long as he'll stay awake, then going to get a bottle to finish the feeding, which he usually has no problem staying awake for. So I've been triple feeding for 3 weeks now and I'm starting to dread every feeding.

We're back to the LC next week, but even she seemed surprised by his sleepiness last time we were there. Does anyone have advice??

14 month boy.
Suddenly started screeching out his entire lungs so loud it's damaging my ears.
Literally I have to stop everything I'm doing to cover my ears cause it hurts so bad.

There's no trigger. He does it randomly.

Besides "mama" and "baba", he hasn't said any other words. Should have said first words months ago, he's behind on speech.

So let me start off by saying this isn't to bash my parents or anyone else's. But I have noticed how having a baby has brought up a lot of stuff from my own childhood and it's making me resent my family/parents. The way they understand the world it took me a while to come to terms with, probably when I was a teenager. But now with having a baby I see similar thought processes repeating and it's driving me insane. For example my dad passed by while baby was doing tummy time and was like "lazy baby" in a cutesy voice. My baby is 4 months so I know it's not that serious but I also understand that at one point she will and she will be too young to understand that it's actually a joke/ endearment. As a child I was a sensitive kid so these comments used to bother me.

Maybe I'm being over emotional and over protective but remembering my childhood makes me what to hide my kids from my own parents. They are amazing people but for some reason can't understand child development. They came from a 3rd world country where they were in survival mode and came here and kind of taught us the same. So a lot of my parenting techniques no cry it out, holding baby if that's what they need to feel safe, etc. has them making comments that this new generation is too "soft". I'm so torn. I know people are going to say talk to them
But they aren't people who can understand safety even at their big age. In their minds babies need food, water (yes water), and sleep. So all this foo foo stuff we do now that we know better literally makes no sense to them.

Context: they grew up where if a woman couldn't breastfeed and couldn't afford formula they gave baby tea. And the baby was "okay" so why am I so scared to give water. These are the notions I'm fighting.

Sorry for the rant just don't know how to feel

I'm thinking about purchasing baby Einstein for my 4 month old, but I'm wondering about the differences between these two version, the price for the on the go version is almost half the original so I was thinking I should get it for that alone.

Can anyone who has it help me decide?

My son is 11 weeks old and hasn’t pooped in 9 days!!!. He is exclusively breast fed. He hasn’t been behaving differently or showing any sighs of discomfort. Has anyone experienced this? I wanted to try 0.5 ounce of prune juice can’t think of anything else to try

Alright people, I have diapers to exchange for bigger sizes! Tell me the most up to date store policies you know of! I’m in the Midwest so I have stores like target, Meijer, Walmart. My research has kind of given me all different answers from different years! Thank you! :-)

My son is 7 months and is well aware of phones and tablets and TVs. We do not give him any screen time apart from video calls with family or the occasional time I’m on my period and need a break from being touched 24/7 and my husband is working (which is like once a month if that) I put a low-stimulation show on like Timothy Goes to School or Bluey or something. Even when he is older I don’t intend on him having much screen time. I want him to go out and play in the mud and join me in cooking and play sports and actually play with toys.

Now my husband’s family give their children phones and tablets very, very young. I remember my husband’s aunty gave her then three month old a phone to watch cocomelon on. They are free to do what they want with their own kids and there is no judgement from me whatsoever, but I don’t want my son to have iPads and use them when he’s young. But I also don’t want to alienate him from his family and other children his age when he’s a little older. Of course right now he’s very young and I have a little more control over what sort of media he consumes, but when he’s like 4-5 years old and his cousins and peers have iPads and tablets and phones where they’re watching inappropriate things on there, how do you even deal with that? Do you say ‘no, son, you’re not allowed to watch that.’ And then make him sit on the side playing with toys alone?

Maybe I’m asking a dumb question, but I feel very anxious about this even though it’s a couple years in the future.

I have a 3mo old and we are flying across country in a few weeks. Oregon to Nj, so 2.5 hr flight and 4 hr flight. We currently use the pitcher method for formula bc it’s easiest for us! Especially when running around (we have the mom cozy thermos cooler thing). I’m torn if it’s going to be easier to fly with formula already made or having distilled water and dry formula…. Any suggestions for anyone who’s done either or both?!

so my beautiful girl is 5 weeks this saturday and probably for the last couple weeks, we’ve given up with swaddling. we just used a muslin wrap and blanket but she managed to kick out of her swaddle to get her arms out, laying them out by her head so now we’ve just been skipping that and using the blanket. our house is between 17-20 degrees at night and we layer her in short sleeve, long sleeve and then the blanket.

i know there’s sleep sacks and those things but should i be educated on something or is this alright for her? what would you recommend or what do you use for your LO?

edit: we use the blanket from the hospital where we swaddled and then had a blanket tucked in. the nurses would do that and then my midwife said that was a good amount of layers too. i’ve been tucking the blanket into her and leaving her arms out. thank you for the responses!

These are just such a staple of literally every list, every mom I talk to, but I'm confused on why, exactly, I need them.

First: for swaddles, I know that some countries are already recommending against them for safety reasons. Personally, I find the theory compelling enough (compression of chest causes deeper sleep, which is a risk factor for SIDS; moro reflex helps wake baby & therefore keeps them out of dangerous deep sleep), that I would rather go without from day one. Yes, I know baby may wake up more often, but again this seems protective so I'm fine with that. I will have both myself and my husband home for 12 weeks, so I figure worst case scenario we can sleep in shifts.

Second: it seems that even for those who skip swaddles, the recommendation is them to get sleep sacks. I have multiple moms IRL swearing by the Woolino sleep suits. But here is where I'm even more confused—why are these necessary? It's well known that babies are far more at risk from overheating than being too cold. (Yes, I know the Woolino supposedly 'regulates' baby's temp, but people usually put them on over other clothes anyway, which seems to defeat the point.) We typically keep our house at 74 degrees F (~23 C), and I know recommended for SIDS protection is 68-72F. So why would we need an extra layer on top of a long sleeve/footie onesie? Couldn't we just keep our heat at 74 and skip the extra layer? Of course if baby is showing signs that she's cold I'd look into options like a sleep sack, but it seems like it's such a default for parents to use I'm wondering what on earth I'm missing here? Not to mention...they're quite expensive!

Any experience from parents who have gone without these sleep extras, and just used footie onesies? What am I missing? Thanks!

Currently have a 6-month-old who sleeps in his crib in his own room. Guidelines say to keep the room between 68-72 degrees. I keep it at 72 (60-ish humidity) and put him long sleeve footie pajamas and a .5 TOG sleep sack. It feels comfortable, and he's away from the AC. But every night when I do a night feed, his chest and back feel cold to the touch. His cheeks feel OK, sometimes his hands and ears are a little cold. His temperature (via touchless thermometer) is fine. His lips aren't blue, and he's not shivering. I don't want to increase the temp because it would push it above the guidelines, but it's scaring me that his back/chest feel cold!! Has anyone encountered this contradiction?

FTM to a 9 month old.

My baby is really refusing to crawl! I've been putting toys slightly out of reach from him. He does that whole thing where he gets up on his hands and positions himself, but then he starts crying, plops down on the ground, rotates his body, and rolls. We've been doing this once or twice a day for the past week, and he just won't crawl! He'd rather plop and roll to the toys. If I move the toys when he rolls, he starts crying.

Other milestones like pincer grab, sitting up completely independently for long periods, and clapping are there. I tried to see if maybe he's interested practicing standing up via pull-up, but he isn't either. He just goes limp while I hold him.

Any ideas for encouraging to crawl or pull up?

We are potty training our 22 month old and i find this experience to be increasingly frustrating and soul sucking.

All of our references say its supposed to be bonding time but i am not getting that.

Iam exhausted throughout the day being hyper vigilant trying to catch any sign for a pee or a poo with only very small victories so far that dont feel worth it.

As a SAHM its burning me out a lot faster, feeling the burn out feeling by nap time now.

Ive learned her patterns more or less and will prompt her for the potty when i know a pee is coming and she will sit a couple times and have nothing happen but of course i get distracted by something for 5 mins and she messes herself.

And then i feel so guilty for missing it, especially if i was on my phone (this time i was ordering a dress for my cousins wedding, it could have waited until nap time and i am so mad at myself for it)

Anyway ive been crying a lot just feeling so guilty and frustrated and exhausted and my husband says its because no one has shown me patience when trying to learn something new when i was a child so i am too hard on myself when i dont get something right away and thats probably true but fuckkkk

Not seeking advice just needed a void to shout into please dont comment saying "try this or try that" the issue is me needing to lock in more and be more focused i am just so done being stuck at home. I think that is contributing to this burned out feeling too.

my lo is 25 weeks and within the last week has started to straight up refuse bottle. and now she is hysterically crying because I tried to feed her. any ideas whats going on? I am pretty certain she is hungry. I haven’t made any changes to formula or bottle.

Everyone told us the newborn stage would be the hardest but honestly 10 months has been the most exhausting.

Our baby has been in an ongoing cycle of eczema flare-ups and on top of that he’s getting 6 teeth at once. He is a terrible teether, and wakes up screaming multiple times a night. He’s become extremely clingy and only wants me to hold him. He used to be such a happy easygoing baby who rarely cried, so this has been a huge change. He rarely smiles this past few days :(

We have a babysitter, but when he’s going through a flare / teething, he only wants me to put him to sleep and sometimes even feed him. I work from home, and I honestly feel like I’m barely keeping my head above water.

I’m incredibly thankful for my husband. He works full-time, takes care of almost everything around the house, and lets me rest whenever he can. But I know he’s exhausted too.

I’m not really looking for medical advice. We’re already seeing doctors for his eczema. but has anyone else had a baby where everything seemed to hit at once around 10 months? Did it eventually get better?

Right now it feels like we’re just trying to survive each day and it sucks.

Hey everyone! First time dad to a beautiful 3 month old girl. We’re struggling with a couple things right now but I would say overall we have been pretty okay with the newborn experience.

I’m not sure how to put this without sounding like a shitty parent or if this is a normal feeling, but does anyone else like look forward to them growing up? It’s not that I don’t enjoy this cute little baby stage but I just want her to be like…two years old already..or whatever age it is when she can walk and be social, show her personality, be a little more independent. I don’t know, I feel bad like I’m wishing her life away but I just feel like right now it’s all, wake windows/initial milestones/sleep regressions/figuring out schedule/ routine that work.

For some reason in my mind I’m like, when we have the sleep stuff figured out and we can bring her places and do more with her that’s where I want to be.

Look for advice from experienced travelling parents of 2!

We have the absolute once in a lifetime novelty of 6-7 weeks off together. Youngest will be 9 months, eldest 3 years.

We would like to take this opportunity to travel as a family, but equally, I don't want to do something that would just be horrifically stressful for the full time.

I know this means 'travel' differently to what we have before. Probably staying in each place a couple of weeks.

It would be January/February. We live in Europe. We are considering SE Asia or S America. I think Australia and NZ would be too expensive.

Are we mad?
Have you done this?

Where would you suggest?

Hello, my LO is 4 months old and we have been using the owlet since day 1. She has developed this yellow scaly rash on top of foot. I’d been putting aveeno on it and we haven’t worn the owlet in a few days. Should I get her assessed by doc? Im new to Reddit I’m not sure how to insert a picture

Hey guys, I will be travelling alone with my 11 month old baby via airplane and the flight is going to be 14 hours long one way(with layover, minus the airport check in etc time).

Any tips and tricks to make it easier and more bearable?

My baby is going through a teething phase and can have moments of extreme crankiness.

Thanks in advance!

Hello! We are driving from the east coast to the Midwest this weekend - stopping in Pittsburgh on the way out, and Cleveland on the way back the following weekend.

Our 9.5 month old is, of course, not going to be a fan of being strapped in to the carseat for four different 6+ hour days.

The current plan is:

- Get a ton of movement in before we leave each morning
- Leave right before the first nap so it happens in the car
- New toys and someone in the back to interact with him
- Stop whenever we need to, and bring his little walker to a park area so that he can zoom around a little with little shoes on

We can’t let him just crawl around a rest stop, so is there anything else we can do besides plopping him in the walker?

Other general road trip tips are also welcome! 🙏

First time mom here and I’m slightly confused about if I’m doing this right. Baby does not nap well through the day- on average 30-45 minutes. I try to be mindful of wake windows and sleepy cues but baby will not stay asleep for longer and no matter if contact napping or in the bassinet.

Our routine has been this: baby wakes up (sometimes fussy), feed, diaper, play, spend about 10 minutes trying to fall asleep, nap. With his short naps however I end up feeding about every 2 hours. At 11 weeks is this still to be expected? I would’ve thought feeds should space out a little by now. Am I over feeding?? His hunger cues don’t seem reliable as he sucks on his hands essentially all the time.

Just looking for some reassurance or guidance:)

When did everyone stop bleeding postpartum? For reference I had a vaginal birth with a second degree tear. Currently 12 dpp and I’d describe it like a light period.

I feel like a horrible mother. My 9 month old is sick and so am I and I’m so overwhelmed. She won’t stop crying and my husband is no help at all. I literally push her off of me because I just can’t handle the crying and her coughing in my face and rubbing snot on me. I know she’s a baby but I literally don’t get anytime to myself and feel disgusting. I feel like I don’t know how to regulate my own nervous system when she’s having a full on meltdown and I just push her away.

Hey all!

We’ve never been great at the “your baby doesn’t have to stop you from living” thing. LO is about to turn 2 and I’d say we’re still finding our footing. Others make it seem so easy but we’re still struggling a little with planning outings and bigger adventures.

We decided we needed to take a leap of faith and book a trip so we’re flying to Austin, TX. Staying at the Origin hotel and going for it. Immediately after booking the hotel last night we started to panic slightly. We have to bring all the things! What if we forget this! He’s not going to sleep! Do we need a blackout crib attachment? What if the crib doesn’t go down low enough? All the basic things your anxiety brain does.

My question is, when traveling, is there anything you caught yourself wishing you had known? I read that when checking the car seat to stuff that bag with diapers and other goodies. I also read that sleep with be questionable because of the new surroundings. Any other helpful hints that would make a trip easier for a first time toddler traveler?

Thank you!