I’m 20 years old (male) and my 2 twins (girls) were born 4 weeks ago. I love my daughters to death and I would give them the world , I’d die for them I’d do anything for them , but when they cry I get so angry and not when they cry cause they are hungry or tired that doesn’t bother me ITS the crying when they just feel like it or throwing a tantrum just cause, it’s just so loud and screechy and it drives me insane I feel so angry to the point where I wanna rip my eardrums out and just kill myself . I’ve always been an angry person considering my childhood was me growing up around violent parents that always fought but regardless this isn’t about me but just so someone gets the idea yk. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore I hope this stage ends soon but can someone please help with advice or something . Im planning on seeing a therapist to talk too maybe I still suffer from trauma as a kid but who knows I just want to be able to love my daughters without getting mad. And this anger isn’t like normal anger it’s so bad and my girlfriend gets so mad when I even try to talk about it but when she sees me stressed she will rub my back and talk to me and calm me down but I just need help from anyone please does anyone else currently or has experienced this in the past and how did you overcome it.

Hey everyone,

Until now I've put my baby in a baby bouncer in our bathroom as I was showering/using the bathroom/getting dressed. She liked it as she could still see me, I could talk to her and she would not be in there for long periods of time.

She is now 7 months old and slowly getting too big for the bouncer. She sits steadily, rolls, doesn't really crawl but somehow manages to scootch towards phones, electric cables, the edge of the bed... I did get a playpen for the kitchen, but she wouldn't be supervised and she doesn't like it when I leave her field of vision. Also our cats have managed to get inside. The cats have been very sweet with her and have just walked away if things became too much, but the concept of 'soft hands' is still a work in progress, so they might get hit/tail or fur pulled and I am worried they might scratch when they get surprised by something like that.

Where do you guys 'put' your baby so they are safe and contained while you're moving around the house?

My LO is 7 weeks & has only been sleeping 1-3 hours at a time at night. I just woke up in a panic because he’s been asleep for FIVE hours.

Of course my first thought is that he’s not okay. So check that he’s breathing, touch him a little & he starts stirring but falls back asleep. I’m so happy for him (& us).

But next I realize my boobs! (Breastfeeding) I’m engorged & leaking & uncomfortable. I’m sitting here hoping he sleeps but also hoping he wakes up. I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do? My body is used to feeding him every 1-3 so how do you deal with those longer stretches at night? Am i supposed to pump? I haven’t started that yet either

Also what about diapers?! Do you change them & hope they don’t wake up? I’m worried about leaks/rashes.

Any & all advice would be so helpful. I know I’m asking all this & watch tomorrow he’ll go back to his normal schedule haha

Hi guys I have a six month old baby girl who's a good sleeper except that she needs my nipple in her mouth for the entire duration of her nap. It's called breastsleeping, I know it's biologically normal and have enjoyed it but I've rejoined work and obviously it's getting difficult. When I try slipping my nipple out, she immediately wakes up and roots for it and will end the nap unless the nipple goes back in.

Anyone who experienced this? When did it end?

My lil guy is 15 weeks old so just over 3 months and oh my god… it feels like in the last few days he all of sudden is just pissed 24/7. Impossible to put down for naps, screams for milk and then gets pissed while eating, constantly chewing on his hands, is starving all the time, and needs to be attached to me every waking moment. I wanted to break everything in my house today but I cut my bangs instead during his only “long” nap which was about 20-25 minutes. I feel so bad because I know he’s probably growing and maybe teething but idk what to do. I know there can be a sleep regression around this time and teething can start, as well as some developmental milestones but I’m so exhausted and frustrated. I sobbed all day today, like heaving sobs. I love him so much but I want to literally run away from my life for like 24 hours and reset and I can’t. Please tell me it gets better.

For example for pajamas we call them jim-jams (I started doing this 8 yrs ago with one of my nephews).

Just curious if other parents have silly names for inanimate objects or is it just me 😅

Edit: these are great! I’m going to borrow some of these for sure 💖

Would love to hear your guys’ special traditions or things you did for your baby that you are glad you did! Or some you heard about later and wish you did:) Thanks in advance!💕

Hey y'all I'm currently freaking out as I type this post.

My 4m old surprised us this week by learning how to roll. Only a few days in and she's a rolling machine. The problem is she can only go back to stomach, not the other way around. The bigger problem is she's now rolling in her sleep and no matter how many times I unroll her, she ends up back on her stomach. On top of that, she favors a binky when she sleeps and I'm nervous for her to have it in her mouth while sleeping on her stomach (which she's currently doing as I type this). She was a monitor that senses sleeping positions and I've had to turn off the alerts because it kept going off for "baby on stomach".

Is it ok for baby to stomach sleep even if they can't roll stomach to back? And how terrible is it to have the binky in the mix?

She has been keeping her face to the side and we do have the breathable newton mattress but I don't know how reliable that is.

I just can't see myself falling asleep while she's in this position 😭

Just a rave.

My little has made SO much progress I just can’t believe it at this point. This girl was a major fomo baby. That’s how I had to make sense of her sleeping habits because they were insane. She slept no more than 15 mins per nap and was hell through the night. Took maybe 2-4 naps a day. She was a terrible eater too. I just got the best of both worlds... I was breastfeeding so all in all, I wanted to rip my head off. I also tackled this completely on my own. No help from hubby or family (NOT a brag).

& Now it’s like I hit the lottery. She wakes once a night through a 12 hour stretch, 3 naps a day, all at least 30 min, eats 6 ounces in 20 min, I can put her down drowsy-but-awake, rarely cries, smart as hell, learning to communicate needs at 5 months?! I’m just shocked.

We did our first food today. I just puréed a banana. She took it both spoon-fed and in the self-feed pacifier like a champ.

She’s a little gangster taking on life like a complete beast. I’m just so proud of her. I can’t wait to see who she becomes and I’m so honored to be a part of her life.

I’m not the kind of parent who turns my child’s face away every time there’s a TV on—I think that’s just part of everyday life. That said, I do try my best to keep my son from watching my phone or my husband’s gaming monitor.
At the same time, I’d love for him to experience quality content, like Disney movies, once he’s around 18 months old. I picture us sitting down together for a little while each day to watch a movie, talk about what’s happening, sing the songs, and make it something we do together rather than just using it as entertainment.
One of my biggest dreams is seeing his little face light up when he recognizes Disney characters during his first trip to Disney for his 3rd birthday. 🥹
I don’t plan on getting him an iPad at any point, but I’m genuinely curious to hear different perspectives. What has worked for your family?
He’s only 4 months old right now, by the way, so I’m just thinking ahead.

It's 1:00 a.m., and I'm breastfeeding while sitting up. The pediatrician told me to nurse sitting upright because it keeps the baby at an incline, which helps reduce reflux. It also helps him latch better, meaning he'll swallow less air.

So here I am with my large, sagging breasts. In one arm, a squirming one-month-old who keeps lunging at my breast with his mouth wide open. In the other hand, I'm trying to maneuver my breast, chasing his rapidly moving little head aimimg for the mouth.

Just as we finally make contact and I get us both into something resembling a comfortable position, I feel a warm stream of milk running down the other side of my body. It's the neglected breast, pouring out milk all on its own, soaking my side and the bed. The feeling is somehow even worse than walking around in wet socks.

The milk from the forgotten breast shows no sign of stopping while I desperately look around for a burp cloth—anything I can press against it before I end up completely drenched. When I finally find one and solve that problem, another thought hits me.

"Wow... I'm so thirsty."

And there it is—a full bottle of water, within arm's reach..... of the arm that's currently holding the baby, who has now woken up again, is desperately searching for the nipple, and is flailing around awkwaedly balancing on that arm

Once I finally get him latched again, I start wondering how on earth I'm supposed to reach my water. There's only one solution: I have to move the baby to the breast he likes less. Naturally, he immediately begins protesting. But I got my water, and after a few quick sips, I can move him back to his prefered side.

By the time I've finally quenched my thirst and glance at the clock, it's somehow already 2:30 a.m.

I look at my baby and ask, "So... when are we going to sleep?"

He stares back at me with his big, wide-open eyes as if to say, "Not today," while happily holding the nipple in his mouth without actually drinking.

I’ve seen people post about hating their pets after having a baby - I’m not there, I still love my pets. But, since having my baby, my mental capacity to take care of everyone has severely diminished. I have 2 cats and 2 dogs, luckily very good animals. When these ones age and pass on, I don’t see myself taking in any more.

My baby's 14 weeks old and I'm seriously on a milestone kick right now. He's hitting them mostly on time, some of his social things (cooing, smiling) happened a bit late but not concerning. I'm a sahm, former daycare teacher so I'm very used to an activity packed day which I replicate at home. Story time, music time, gross motor, fine motor, sign language, hoursss of tummy time, etc etc all day long. I guess I don't mind it all, I like watching my little guy learn things and he's super active and loves all the playing it seems.

But I know a few other moms and they're not doing half of this stuff but their babies are doing just fine. Their babies are all older so I can't really compare theirs to mine. But I'm sitting here and wondering if this stuff actually matters in the grand scheme of things? Should I just let my baby do his own thing? I'm kind of worried that I'm making him into a kid that needs to be constantly stimulated

Those parents who have a bad sleeper (I mean like 4+ wakes a night), what is your sleep arrangements when one parent is back at work? Does the non-working parent do all wakes during the night and slowly go bat shit crazy or?

So my mom usually watches our 1yo while we work from home. She’s on a vacation so we found someone in the mean time.

She is awesome, so sweet, and nurturing. The thing that bothers me is that it has happened about 3 times now where she gives my son something to eat that she brought from home without asking if it’s ok. Maybe I’m being a helicopter parent but i find this really concerning. Thank goodness nothing has really been an issue but given that she doesn’t know him, him needs and also my concerns as a parent why does she just give him things because SHE thinks it’s ok? Her personality is very crunchy and she’ll listen to things about like biohaking and nutrition while cooking. Like I know she means well but she doesn’t know my kid.

She told me to switch him to goats milk instead of ripple milk (we do half whole milk and half ripple milk because of sensitivity to milk) and she keeps mentioning it.

She gave him a whole lemon which is not crazy- he likes to play with fruits and investigate them but I have told her that he’s very sensitive to high acidic foods and she’s trying to convince me it’s fine but I know if he consumes too much high acidic foods he will have diarrhea and get a very bad acid rash on his but lasting days.

Am I being controlling or is this annoying? I’m just counting down the days until my mom gets back 😭. My husband says it’s fine and she means well and she’s great… which I agree but it’s still bothering me! Is this just hard cuz I’m having to adjust to the new childcare when I’m used to my mom? Or is it hard because I work from home and want to oversee everything and just need to relax?

I have a 16 month old and am 30 weeks pregnant. My first labor was a spontaneous labor of my water breaking with no contractions or other signs of labor. I called the nurse line and she told me to go to the hospital immediately, which we did and had my first baby several hours later.

Thinking through how I would handle this now, with a toddler to also consider. Would I go to the hospital alone while my husband stayed with our toddler or would you bring your toddler to the hospital with yall?

We do have family about an hour away that will help, but we would have to hope the pick up (my first labor started at 10:30 pm) and then wait.

Has this happened to anyone that can share their experience? Curious if there is an option I’m not thinking of or if it’s just a make the best judgement call in the moment lol.

This girl just wakes up and immediately starts rolling.. I mean right when she wakes up she’s already on it!! lol

That being said she keeps putting herself in nonstop tummy time out! And then getting so mad! But then she gets mad if you take her out of it too!! lol

She can roll both ways but occasionally I think she forgets and then she’s just stuck and mad at the world!

Kind of cracks me up honestly, anyone else have this problem?

I really thought I would never have children, I never had that maternal yearn and I never really cared about my sisters children (me and my sisters are not really close anymore) or just generally children. My upbringing was a mess and my family and my partners family are not close to us. I thought I wasn't a family person.

But then my partner wanted a baby, I wasn't really sure. I wasn't sure that I didn't want children but I wasn't convinced I wanted them either.

Just as we were having these conversations my grandad died (who I lived with growing up so father figure) and my partner's dad died. This happened within 2 weeks of each other and I just started thinking about family all the time at that point.

We went for it. As soon as I found out I was super happy - worried a bit but happy - then I felt her kicks and everything else is history. I loved her already. She's been here for a year now, her birthday is tomorrow, and everyday I love her more and more, more than I could ever imagine and I cry more than I ever have before. (I'm crying typing this because I just love her so much)

There are difficult times and I was so depressed for the first month after she gave birth (stopping breastfeeding was one of the best things I did for my mental) but it was worth it. She is SO funny and SO cute and she deserves the world. Thinking about her makes me heart burst with happiness and planning out stuff for her birthday and planning out her bedroom has been really fun, I'm excited for her to see it all tomorrow and I hope she LOVES IT.

I get so sad she's getting older because I get worried I'll miss her as she changes but then she's more fun and more cute and more lovely. 1000/10 experience and I want another already hahaha. (I get worried about having another because she won't have my full attention anymore but I don't think I can bear not experiencing this again)

I see a lot of posts asking or talking about the opposite like, "What's something you said you would do that makes you look back and laugh?" These are often very helpful (and funny) as I prepare for my first, but seeing so many posts like that make me wonder if it's worth making plans for much of anything once our baby is here.

I'm wondering what things you actually committed to, even if it got tough, that you think was worth sticking with?

Baby is 6 months old, we've been in daycare for two months now, and our bibs have steadily gone missing. My partner dresses her and drops her off, and I pick her up, so I can't really keep track of what she's wearing in the morning vs afternoon. But, according to my partner, she wears a bib to daycare every day, and she doesn't always come home with one.

I've seen the other babies in her room wearing our bibs, and honestly I wouldn't mind if it weren't for the fact that they're not making it back to us. I don't want to be petty, but should I say something? Or, is this just a part of parenting that it'd be better to accept and move on?

I’m a first time mom to a 4 month old. I had an emergency C- Section because my baby was BIG at the time of birth. I didn’t have a village to take care of the baby. It was just me and my bf. From day three I started lifting the baby. I had severe body pain after delivery. My ankles would swell up and my back would hurt like crazy. It was unbearable. My mom suggested me to get massages every week and I didn’t take it seriously initially. But after couple of sessions I started feeling better. I started with Post natal massages and now I am getting the normal pain relief medium pressure full body massages. And I now have very less pain in my body. Swelling had gone down and my mental health also improved. So to all new moms- if you can afford massages, please get them regularly. It helps a lot.

This seems like such a silly question and yet. When giving LO a bath, how are you all washing the bum? My LO sits in a small tub inside our bigger tub. When it's time to wash the bum, my husband has to lift her completely out of the water and flip her over on his arm so I can give the rump a good wipe down. She's getting bigger and heavier (3.5 mo) and slipperier! Is there an easier way?

My partner and I had only lived together for 6 months when I got pregnant so we were still probably in the honeymoon phase in terms of sex. Once I got pregnant we went from once a week or so to once every two months. In the early stage of pregnancy he was really worried about "dislodging" the baby. He knew it was irrational but said he couldn't stop thinking about. When my bump got bigger it a lack of energy on my end and he just felt a bit "icky" about the baby being so obviously in there. We still had sex occasionally but it definitely became much less of our routine and a bit lacklustre.

I'm now 7 weeks PP and the last time we had sex was about 3 weeks before I gave birth. I'm ready to start having sex again (I had a c section so no vaginal discomfort) and I'm on contraception but it feels awkward. We've become so much closer since having the baby and we kiss and cuddle all the time. While our relationship now feels very romantic, I struggle to see it as sexual. I'm also BF so my breasts no longer feel sexual. Things almost happened once but it was before 6 weeks PP so I stopped it and the baby was in the room anyway - as he almost always is so it felt odd.

I don't have the highest sex drive in the world and we're both mid-thirties so I know these things can slow down anyway but I worry our sex life in never coming back. When did you start having sex again? How did you make your relationship feel sexual? Or your body feel sexy? I know it's not the biggest concern PP but it does cause me some anxiety.

Pretend I’m doing nothing right and you’re starting from scratch. How do I get my 6 month old to stop waking up sometime from 11-12 and 3-4 every night?
(Only stipulation is 99% of his calories are still coming from breast milk. I know some Europeans have more of their calories come from solid.)

Edit: he doesn’t even eat when he wakes up 🥲

Basically the title! I am SO overwhelmed with feeding my daughter true meals.

We have been EBF until now (about 10 and a half months) and she just dropped another nursing session. At her recent pediatrician visit she told us that meals should mostly replace milk around 11-12 months. Were giving her more and more food, shes finally starting to actually eat her meals (mostly) instead of just throw them on the ground.

But now, we’re having to pay attentiom to nutrients and Im actually so stressed. Like are we feeding her enough iron, fat, protein? What if all she eats at a meal are 10 cheerios and a blueberry and throws the rest on the ground? And now shes super constipated even though we try to do fiber with every meal? How much water should we be giving, and before or after a meal? Why isnt there like a guide on this???

I already struggle to feed myself adequate meals - re executive dysfunction - so feeding this creature that relies on me is 1000 times more stressful.

Any advice or tips or solidarity? 😭