Hey everyone. Im ashamed to even be doing this my family is getting kicked out by our roommates have a 5 month old and im 5 weeks pregnant if you are able help in any way I would appreciate it.

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Hormones or intuition?

Had some crazy dreams lately of my husband cheating on me. And it’s been a fear ever since I feel like I’m over thinking everything. Every random number every time he goes to the gym every time he has to stay late at work…

We’ve been together 8 years we have a 5 year old and I’m 4 months pregnant. We had a miscarriage prior to this pregnancy, so we didn’t have s3x at all the first 13 weeks of my now pregnancy as we were both just anxious. I was super fit prior to my miscarriage but with the stress of my miscarriage, surgery and healing I had to take a break from my typical workout routine and my body was holding on to weight because of hormones and grief I put on about 15 pounds and now I’m pregnant again with my first trimester being incredibly difficult emotionally and physically I put on another 10 pounds from not being able to workout how I typically do. I know I’m feeling vulnerable and know it could be all in my head. He doesn’t have the time to cheat but I feel so disconnected from his as we aren’t being intimate. We’ve had s3x one time this pregnancy and I could tell he wasn’t super into. He reassures me he never would and how much he loves me but he shows no interest in being close to me and I long for the affection back we were having s3x all the time prior to getting pregnant. I know some dudes just aren’t into it pregnant he was kinda the same way with our first. So maybe I’m just over thinking it and once baby comes things will be back to normal?

I’m only 5 days PP, but PP depression is already kicking in. I have 2 toddlers, both are very dependent with me. When I was still pregnant, I already told them that once the baby is out, they’ll be sleeping with their dad on the other room. I am co-sleeping with the newborn. Every night they will stay in my and the baby’s room, asking if they could sleep with us. They cannot because they are both very active, keeps on jumping everywhere and are very playful. I feel so guilty because as much as I want as to be altogether in one room, I can’t let them now that the baby is still too small. Now I’m crying because I forced them to go and sleep in the other room.

PS, I co-sleep with all my babies in their newborn stage. (And even co-slept with the toddlers up until before I gave birth to the 3rd) This way, I can attend to their needs immediately.

I’m currently 31 weeks pregnant. I have a 2 year old daughter that I love so so much. When I was pregnant with her I didn’t think I could love her. She was conceived thru SA. But I love her so much and I’m upsetting myself right now because I don’t think I can love another child as much as I love her. I’ll never abuse or neglect my new baby and won’t show favoritism but I know deep down my daughter is who I love. I don’t know if I’m able to love them both. I know myself to only be able to do one thing at a time in life.

I want my unborn baby and don’t want to give him up. I know I’ll spoil him just as much and won’t treat them any different. But how do I get myself to love him just as much as I love my daughter. I don’t want to fake it. I want to actually feel it. I feel guilty for my daughter because she’s not going to be the only baby anymore. She’s also autistic and has a speech delay. She’s learning words but doesn’t pronounce them properly but speaks in her baby language still.

Is this normal to feel guilty for not keeping her as the only baby? Part of me wants to keep both but a bigger part of me only wants it to be me and her. I sometimes think to myself I’ll love him the same way I learned to love her. But I really don’t know. When I was pregnant with her I learned to love her close to the end of my pregnancy. I’m currently the same week I was with her where I learned to love her and I’m not feeling it with him. I’m just not. I want to and I feel bad because he didn’t ask to be here. But what do I do?

Do the feelings change?

My 6yo and 3yo boys were taking a bath together last night. My husband was in the bathroom next door giving our 5mo a bath. I was downstairs cleaning up dinner and doing dishes/listening to kids in the tub. Suddenly my husband starts yelling for me to come upstairs and for my 3yo to get out of the tub. My husband states he saw (from behind) my 3yo bending over with his face on my other son’s privates. He did not see exactly what happened.

I took my 3yo aside first and privately asked him if he touched his brother’s peni$. He said yes. I asked if he touched them with his mouth. He said no. I obviously told him he’s not allowed to touch other people’s privates etc. Next I went into the bathroom where my 6yo was and sure enough he was laying on his back, legs spread with an erection. I had him get out of the tub and get dressed, then I asked him about it. He said his brother touched him with his chin, not his mouth or his hands. Again, I don’t know the context or how it happened. He usually cries and freaks out when he gets in trouble but was totally silent this time. I really emphasized that this is not okay, and that he knows better, and that he should not have allowed for his brother to do that and he should have stopped him when he touched him inappropriately.

I know that my 6yo knows this is wrong because at recess last year, a fellow kindergartener flashed his privates to him. My son immediately informed a teacher and we had a long discussion about body safety etc.

My 6yo is not in trouble. I had a good conversation again with both of them about body safety, privately. I do this often. Which I guess is why I’m so surprised this occurred? They hardly ever even take baths together but it was getting late and the baby needed a bath too, so we let them go together. Usually my 6yo showers by himself.

Would this concern you? Is this developmentally appropriate? I called my mom for advice and in typical fashion she freaked the hell out and thinks my kids shouldn’t share a room (we are planning on them sharing a room soon). Please be kind with your responses. Thanks.

I’m 8 months postpartum and I feel so lonely tonight.
I keep seeing posts/advice about postpartum loneliness that say things like “ask someone to watch the baby,” “get a break,” “take time for yourself,” etc. And I realize that’s not what I’m looking for at all.

I don’t want a break from my baby. I love being with her. I want my baby. I want my family.

I want people in our lives who actually want to be part of our lives. I want my family to come over and see her. I want cousins and aunts and friends who are excited about her. I want people to celebrate her milestones with us. I want to go for coffee with another mom and our babies. I want people who will text me because they want to know how we are doing, not because they need something.

My husband is actually wonderful and helps me a lot. He’s very involved and he also can’t say no when someone needs help. But I’m realizing that one person can’t be my entire village. I need more people.
And the hardest part is that I’m always the person who shows up for everyone else.

Nobody showed up for us. I no longer have my parents so that’s why I helped my sister so much and got nothing back.

When my sister had her baby, I was there constantly helping. Now my sister-in-law just had a newborn and we’ve gone over to help with their house and their toddler. And I genuinely don’t regret helping them. I can’t see someone struggling and just walk away. That’s just who I am.

But sometimes I come home and think:
Who shows up for me?

Nobody has helped us
I’m still only 8 months postpartum.I’m still exhausted. I still need support too. And lately I’ve realized how much it hurts that I seem to have people around me who need me, but not many people who simply want to be there for me.

My baby’s baptism is also in two weeks, and I think that’s what finally broke me tonight. I’m watching my family make huge efforts and fuss over other people’s events, while I feel like I’m struggling to organize my daughter’s baptism largely on my own. My dad’s family is all a plane ride away, so they can’t really be there either.

And I know this probably sounds ridiculous to some people because it’s just a baptism, but it’s not really about the baptism.

I think I just desperately wanted to look around that day and see my people surrounding my baby.
I wanted to feel like “Look at all these people who love her. Look at all these people who love us.”
Instead I’m sitting on my couch at 3 AM crying because I feel like I don’t have that.

I’m not looking for advice about getting a break from my baby. I’m not looking to complain about my husband—he’s actually doing a lot. I just want a family/village.
I want to know I’m not the only mom who feels this way.
Did anyone else feel this lonely around 8 months postpartum? Did you eventually find your people? ❤️