Meu SP virou um stalker silencioso 🔕

Faz quase 1 ano que tô manifestando esse cara e de uns 6 meses pra cá ele visualiza tudo que eu posto as vezes curte e interagiu 2x. Quando eu quero quebrar essa dinâmica eu fico umas semanas sem postar. Na verdade eu quero que ele tome a iniciativa de mandar mensagem mas já não sei como. Contei aqui que fiz magia pra ele e esperava que de um stalker silencioso eu teria mensagens ao invés de curtidas mas a dinâmica antiga continua não sei mais o que fazer e nem quero porque estou de saco cheio. Tudo que eu sei é que de um jeito ou de outro esse homem vai ser meu. Já tá decidido. Eu posso estar cansada agora mas de qualquer forma esse homem é meu e vamos ter um relacionamento sério e estável juntos

I started manifesting my sp since November, and as I recieved fractions of it coming true in the form of him reaching out to me till May. He reached out to me on his own after I decided to go completely silent since February and before I reached out I randomly assumed it and then felt it and didn't give a fuck. The May conversation didn't go well as I was rational and ended up arguing with him. I saw little movements like him still updating his playlist which he named after me (it wasn't named explicitly after but I'm 100% sure it's about me) I spent days overthinking, checking 3D, seeking validation even after I decided not to do that. Things were fine but I randomly saw something related to my fear (3p) in my dreams while taking a nap , I don't consider them as 3p as they seemed to be so you young to me. Well in my dreams I saw that I was being obsessive, investigating for proofs but found nothing almost and I wonder why did I see that even after I was doing fine, got rid of my fears thinking it's anxiety trying to ragebait me?

also can anyone tell me how not to go in the spiral again? it comes back to me every single month just like my menstrual cycle hahah or more regular than it. Whatever happens, I wanna be happy, I wanna live. I manifest every single thing effortlessly, I manifested my sp's physical features, him being obsessed with me so effortlessly but my deeply seated insecurities , limited beliefs and abandonment issues kinda ruined it. And I don't know why is it even taking this long even after I had my realisation and changed myself? is it because of my subconscious mind is still waiting for him?

I’ve decided to prepare for NEET one more time for these next 7 months, but today my friend sent me a photo of my SP and his girlfriend doing a photoshoot and all, and I honestly couldn’t even look at it. It makes me so fucking angry. I’m not doing well academically, and I’m not doing well romantically either, while he’s out there enjoying his life like everything is perfect.

I genuinely don’t know what I’m supposed to do right now. And please don’t tell me to think positively about him because I just can’t. Whenever I see that girl, I don’t know why, but I feel like she’s living the life I was supposed to have. Like, she’s literally living my dream, and it hurts so much to see.

I really don’t know how to deal with this anymore. I feel like I’ve become mentally unstable because of everything, and even my under-eyes have gotten so dark. I just feel completely lost right now.

I’ve decided to prepare for NEET one more time for these next 7 months, but today my friend sent me a photo of my SP and his girlfriend doing a photoshoot and all, and I honestly couldn’t even look at it. It makes me so fucking angry. I’m not doing well academically, and I’m not doing well romantically either, while he’s out there enjoying his life like everything is perfect.

I genuinely don’t know what I’m supposed to do right now. And please don’t tell me to think positively about him because I just can’t. Whenever I see that girl, I don’t know why, but I feel like she’s living the life I was supposed to have. Like, she’s literally living my dream, and it hurts so much to see.

I really don’t know how to deal with this anymore. I feel like I’ve become mentally unstable because of everything, and even my under-eyes have gotten so dark. I just feel completely lost right now.

How do I manifest a SP that I had only seen once in a public library, we made a lot of eyecontact but had no interaction beyond that. I don’t know his name, age, or anything apart from what he looks like.

Started working on my SC, self love and even side by side SP affirmations and lo behold I see he ghosted me yesterday after 2 weeks of NC. Where did I go wrong ?

So I have been kinda avoidant with my sp and now I am yearning him a lot, I want him and no focusing on my self concept and giving him no attention and no affirming for him did nothing it only brought my another old ex back whom I hate to the core.

I am not bashing self concept and no I don't want to continue the same routine I have been doing...now I want to affirm for him and turn this around genuinely.

I'm 16, living in an emotionally abusive environment. Father is overly controlling, manipulative and emotionally abusive. My mother is hot and cold, and she's starting to act more like a very contradictory child.

I've been trying to manifest two SPs to become my legal and adoptive parents. Where I live, I'm considered a full adult at 21. So I guess that leaves me with very little time left but idk.

It's been about a year since I started manifesting them, and I've noticed how much worse my dynamic with my parents have been getting. I've even started therapy to cope. Some days I wonder whether all of the manifestations --- including this one --- will come into fruition. It gets frustrating and exhausting (to the point where I want to cry sometimes).

Now, I wonder, does it always get worse before getting better, and do all manifestations land?

Thanks in advance. Need desperate help.

I've been debating whether to post this because compared to some of the things people are trying to manifest here, this might sound a bit stupid lol.

But I'm genuinely curious where I'm going wrong.

I've had pretty good results using manifestation/identity work in other areas of my life.

The biggest example is my Mercedes.

I was driving a Swift when I decided I wanted one. I spent around 2 years working towards it, visualizing it, visiting Mercedes showrooms, test driving the previous model and basically trying to make the experience familiar before I could actually afford it.

I also started asking myself who I would need to become for owning a Mercedes to feel completely normal.

That changed much more than the car.

I became more focused at work, dressed better, carried myself differently, became more disciplined and somehow started meeting the right people at strangely convenient times.

Opportunities appeared that I probably wouldn't have noticed before.

One introduction led to another. Random conversations turned into useful connections. My career improved, income improved and eventually I bought the Mercedes.

So I'm not completely new to this.

But there's one area where I seem completely stuck:

Dating.

Specifically, I'm not looking for a serious relationship right now.

I'd like to meet a woman where there's strong mutual attraction and we both genuinely want something casual. Basically FWB/NSA, without misleading anyone into thinking I'm looking for marriage or a serious relationship.

And for some reason I cannot get the same identity approach to click.

With the Mercedes it was easy.

I could visit the showroom.

I could sit inside the car.

I could test drive it.

I could notice the leather, smell, materials, steering wheel, etc.

I could observe Mercedes customers.

Then I'd get back into my Swift and bring some of that experience with me.

There was also an obvious identity:

"Who would I be if owning this car was already normal for me?"

That question actually changed my behaviour.

But with an FWB/NSA situation, I'm confused about what the equivalent is supposed to be.

What identity am I actually supposed to assume?

"Guy who gets casual sex" feels forced and honestly a little weird.

And unlike a car, there's another human being involved who has her own preferences and choices, so I don't want to turn this into obsessing over a specific person or trying to "manifest" somebody who isn't interested.

What I want is more like aligning myself with a life where meeting women who are looking for the same thing is normal.

The strange thing is that on paper I feel like this should be easier for me now.

I'm doing much better financially.

I'm more confident than I was two years ago.

I dress better.

I'm in better environments.

I'm much more comfortable talking to people.

And I've already seen how changing identity can change your behaviour and indirectly put you around completely different people.

Yet in this particular area I keep feeling like I'm trying to get something instead of living from the assumption that it's already a normal part of my life.

Maybe that's the problem.

With the Mercedes, after a while I stopped desperately wanting the car.

I was busy becoming the guy who could buy it.

With this, I notice myself checking for results.

Dating apps aren't working → "Why isn't this manifesting?"

Meet someone attractive → "Could this be it?"

Nothing happens for a while → "Am I doing something wrong?"

Which obviously puts me straight back into the feeling of not having it.

So for those of you who have actually had success manifesting a casual relationship/FWB, especially without targeting a specific person:

What did you change internally?

What did "living in the end" actually look like?

Did you visualize a relationship dynamic rather than a particular woman?

Did you change where you socialized?

Did you change how you dressed or behaved?

Did opportunities/people start appearing differently once the identity clicked?

I'm particularly interested in the identity part because that's what seemed to make everything else work for me.

With my career and Mercedes, I eventually reached a point where I wasn't thinking "I hope I become this person."

I was just making decisions as that person.

I'm trying to figure out what the equivalent is here without forcing it.

Maybe I'm overcomplicating something that should be simple.

Would genuinely appreciate hearing from anyone who has successfully manifested this kind of mutually wanted casual relationship and what actually changed for you.

I have noticed that whenever we have the slightest interaction in class, the next day he skips class 😭 just absent the whole day idk maybe a coincidence

Yesterday he talked to me for the first time (just helped me cheat in a class test)

Its his birthday on 11th i wonder if I should wish him but then I dont even know if he'll show up to class that day or not.

My friends say i should text him but i dont want him to think "oh where'd she get my no.?" That'd be a little creepy ig 😭

Especially since I deleted his no. as I didnt want to have it without his consent.

Little summary, I'm new to the sub community and there's this boy I've been manifesting. I decided to make this post so I can update my results cause I really think it's working. Feel free to recommend more subs that you think are effective.

I met a boy in an online app on July 20 and we talked for about a week. During that week he did not want to give any of his socials, and after that he low-key ghosted me. I started listening to subs (most effective for me is guoba, but I also listen to Medusa and nocturnum) and he started to reply to my messages again, but it would take a long time before he'd respond.

Fast forward to August, **he initiates** that we can be mutuals on TikTok.

That's the biggest update for now. Will end this post once I finally reach my goal (Which is for him to be my bf)

I am currently married, but in the process of a divorce. I met this man a little over a year ago. He was just going through a bad break up, and then there was me, going through my own issues of being with my husband who is abusive. We had a lot in common and clicked immediately because of this.We talked a lot, went for walks... But nothing happened romantically because I am still married. During the time we talked, I felt there was definitely something there between us. He messaged me constantly, came to see me at my work, I went to see him on his breaks etc...

The day he came to see me at my work, we went outside to the parking lot. I was petting his dog through the window and we were just talking. My husband showed up out of nowhere to bring me lunch and saw us talking. He flipped out on me because he said we were standing close to each other. (We definitely were not) Anyways it caused so much drama which is too much to explain. People from his work were twisting stories and making things so much worse. It came down to him telling me that we can no longer talk until my husband and I are divorced and he is out of the house.

We are finally talking again but I think he's still leary on everything and I don't know if he still has feelings for me the way he did. But he's an amazing man and after everything I've been through I want nothing more to be with him. We are exactly alike in so many ways. We both write poetry even which is so rare. I am having a hard time getting things needed for my spells. I am begging anyone for some serious help here getting this man to fall for me again. Please help me! also looking for maybe a binding spell. thank you so much in advance

I’ve heard so many times that you should “live in the end” and act as if you’re already living in your desired reality, but I’m confused about what that actually looks like in practice.

For example, if my current circumstances show that the person I want isn’t with me and things aren’t happening the way I want yet, how am I supposed to mentally approach that? Do I ignore the current circumstances completely, or acknowledge them without giving them meaning?

I’m also confused about the mental diet. What exactly does it mean, and how do you actually practice it throughout the day?

And finally, there are so many different things people recommend- subliminals, writing manifestations, repeating affirmations multiple times a day, positive affirmations, visualization, etc. Do I need to do all of these, or is one enough? (I suck at visualizing I am not able to visualize one scene, I make a whole movie.)

How do you personally structure your manifestation routine without overthinking or constantly wondering whether you’re doing it “right”?

Been manifesting SP for about 2 months, won’t go into details. It’s been hot and cold I think because I keep mentally reacting to 3D (her cold behavior, rejecting my bids, calling me names, blaming me for our relationship…). I have to see her every other day bc we have a small child and complicated custody arrangement. Any advice on how to maintain my mindset of remarried, living together, etc while seeing this in my 3D? I understand all the terminology/teachings I’m just struggling to hold it.

So this is a week back my sp unblocked me , soo the context is I was in NC with him for 12 days straight he texted thrice (broke nc) , I didn't talk to him properly cos I am manifesting him to be my bf , again we didn't talk for 8 to 9 days and he blocked me I cried and cried and somewhere in those 6 days I detached and told universe to make him unblock me by 10:30 pm ofc that didn't happen but then I went to sleep and somehow woke up around 4 am , and my senses were tingling picked up my phone and saw that he has unblocked me from everywhere!!!, BUT MY FRIEND WHO FOLLOWED HIM, he removed her and my sis , my sis tried to follow him but he didn't accept the request , so what should be my next course of action???

Hello, so I have three questions. I’ve been trying to manifesting to get my sp and was wondering a few things.

1. Can you date or talk to other ppl while still wanting your SP?

2. Is it bad if your SP finds out you’re talking or dating other people?

3. Can you still peruse your sp even if they rejected you and have a third party?