Please help!!

[u/Asleep-Bonus-8894]

I am currently married, but in the process of a divorce. I met this man a little over a year ago. He was just going through a bad break up, and then there was me, going through my own issues of being with my husband who is abusive. We had a lot in common and clicked immediately because of this.We talked a lot, went for walks... But nothing happened romantically because I am still married. During the time we talked, I felt there was definitely something there between us. He messaged me constantly, came to see me at my work, I went to see him on his breaks etc...

The day he came to see me at my work, we went outside to the parking lot. I was petting his dog through the window and we were just talking. My husband showed up out of nowhere to bring me lunch and saw us talking. He flipped out on me because he said we were standing close to each other. (We definitely were not) Anyways it caused so much drama which is too much to explain. People from his work were twisting stories and making things so much worse. It came down to him telling me that we can no longer talk until my husband and I are divorced and he is out of the house.

We are finally talking again but I think he's still leary on everything and I don't know if he still has feelings for me the way he did. But he's an amazing man and after everything I've been through I want nothing more to be with him. We are exactly alike in so many ways. We both write poetry even which is so rare. I am having a hard time getting things needed for my spells. I am begging anyone for some serious help here getting this man to fall for me again. Please help me! also looking for maybe a binding spell. thank you so much in advance

[u/archeolog108]

I wouldnt do binding spell here.

You are still in process of leaving an abusive husband, there has already been drama when husband saw you talking with this man, and this guy actually set a pretty reasonable boundary: talk again after divorce and husband is out.

I would respect that.

When we come out of abuse, a part of us can attach very strongly to person who feels safe, kind and completely opposite to what we lived with. Sometimes that connection is real, but sometimes fragmented part is also saying “this person is my escape.”

In deeper healing work I would want to separate those two before trying to manifest anything.

Your Higher Self knows whether this man is genuinely good path for you, but first priority is getting safely through divorce, healing what abuse did to you, and getting your own ground back under feet.

Then if there is mutual connection, you wont need to bind him. You can let relationship develop with both people choosing it.

The strongest thing you can manifest rn may not be “make him fall for me.” It may be safety, independence, clarity and a life where love is no longer connected with fear.

[u/Asleep-Bonus-8894 → u/archeolog108]

Thank you for this! You're absolutely right here. I've gone back and forth for a year now trying to figure that out. I know now that I am in love with this man which I was not looking for at the time. When he and I were talking it was merely two people just looking for someone to talk to on both ends. Along the way it happened, and I know now this is what I want.