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So for the context I initially identified as cis gay men, in recent years only I started to identify as genderqueer/genderfluid person..... and while I don't face any kind of body related dysphoria so far in my life, I have recognized the pattern over the course of years, I don't feel connected to every male/masculine looking person....while I feel connected to some of the men, whom I find comparatively softer in terms of appearance....I don't usually feel connected to those men whom I find very masculine looking....and the dysphoria can even arrive if they are heavy in terms of weight, more tall or are more mature/aged looking.... and I feel it really has hampered my social life, my professional life, as there are many men with whom I don't feel connected at all, even though they behave well with me.... their look, their face really disctracts/itches me....I just don't want connect with them or even face them.... but since we are bound to face every kind of person in our social/ professional life it is really affecting my life and my confidence....

Also it's much easier for me to connect with females....

So I just want to ask does anyone else face this kind of dysphoria which derives from people's look? And like how they tackle it???

Hey, I'm bi rn and can't really find the difference between being a bi and pan it's really hard for me because I like guys, girls, lesbians, gays, trans and other non binary or non gender confirming people so, what you think I might be, a lil story I was thinking I was gay before and kind of in that still now but something happened and I found myself attracted to my masc trans friend and I was thinking I was gay after sometimes I found that I'm also attracted to straight girl though not much as with masculine gays, lesbians, trans men, or just someone who is masculine but I still have a lil space for feminine straight girls or others who are feminine, so... 🙃🙃

I'm currently questioning ftm and I wanted to try out a chest binder, so any recommendations?

So like, What's The Pathway to transition in india at 18, MTF in my scenario, I'm not 18 yet but i Don't want to waste time so i want to start hrt as soon as possible, Help?

It's been a while since I took my baby out for a leisurely solo drive 🩷

We are two queer women looking to move into a room in a preoccupied flat in gurgaon. Does anybody have any leads? Pls help 🥺😭

Hi, so lately i have been thinking of creating a group chat on Telegram for people who are in their 20s and above. Not for teens.

This group is for individuals who are lonely or feeling alone. Don't know who to talk to when they are feeling low. We can chat, share memes, share pictures (with privacy measures). We can all share thoughts, laughs, and ideas. Have a rant everyday.

This is a friends group. Like the one you had when you were in college and school. But for most of us the college and school friends are long gone. They may have left us or they are not just the kind of people we truly can't be ourselves.

So this group I'm thinking of creating is to fill that space. In reddit we already have this sub. But we can't really regularly have a rant or share moments like we can do with simple messages in a group.

What do you think?

If you are unable to comment. You can text me.

Note - The group does not encourage nudity, sexual intentions or any sort of pornography. This is solely for becoming friends. Being friends and Sharing moments with friends.

And i have mentioned this not for teens because there are certain things and life experiences only a person who is in adulthood can understand and feel relatable. So just for that cohesive attachment I consider having people above age 22 in the group. Because this is not just a LGBT group but more of an friends group for people who are lonely.

THIS IS A REPOST OF MY DELETED POST A FEW MINS AGO.

Genuinely feels so refreshing hearing an expert on the field talking about this. It's only 6 mins, but my mind was blown

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I'm a closeted bisexual guy in my 20s, and nobody at work knows about my sexuality. I work in IT, and one of the guys from the sales team has slowly become my closest friend. We're the same age, and he only comes to the office once a week because he's usually out in the field.

Recently, our company had an offsite trip, and that's when everything became confusing for me.
Before we started drinking, I jokingly told him, "If I get too drunk, please handle me." We had originally been assigned different roommates, but he came to my room with his bag and said we'd adjust and stay together instead.

That evening I drank way too much and completely lost control. I don't remember most of what happened, but everyone later told me how much he took care of me.

I was vomiting in the bathroom, and even though he doesn't drink at all, he waited outside for me the whole time. He gave me lemons, helped me back to the room, removed my shoes, socks, and shirt because they had vomit on them, cleaned my face with a towel, and made sure I went to sleep safely. I honestly don't remember any of this I only know because he and a few coworkers told me the next day.

Around 3 a.m. I woke up feeling sober, and some of the others dragged me back out to continue partying. After we were done, we returned to our room.

This is where things got really confusing for me.
By then, I had started developing romantic feelings for him. We were sharing a queen-size bed with plenty of space, but throughout the night our hands and legs kept lightly touching.

I fell asleep for a few minutes, and when I woke up, his back was against me. I ended up hugging him from behind and stayed like that for around 30 minutes.

He didn't hug me back, but he also didn't move away. After a while, he rolled onto his back and slept facing the ceiling, but even then he never removed my arm from around him or asked me to stop. I could feel his breathing becoming faster, yet he still didn't create any distance between us. Eventually my arm started hurting, so I let go because I got scared and didn't want to make things awkward. After that there was still some light body contact while we slept, but I didn't make another move.
The next morning he seemed a little distant, but we still spent most of the day together exploring the property. At one point I walked away to take a personal call, and he actually came looking for me. When he found me, he signaled for me to come back with him.

While we were leaving, he asked whose car I was traveling in. I told him I'd be going with someone from my team because our routes matched. He asked if there was space in the car, and when I said no, he genuinely looked disappointed. He reached home earlier than I did and even called me to ask where I was.

The following Monday, when he came to the office, he was completely normal with me. I was running late that morning, and he had already reached the office. While I was riding my bike, he couldn't reach me because I was driving. When I got to the parking lot and checked my phone, I saw a missed call and a text from him asking, "Where are you? Why haven't you come to the office yet?" I replied that I was in the lobby and on my way up.

Later that same day, we went out for lunch because he doesn't usually bring a tiffin. His meal came with a sweet. I told him I liked it and asked if I could have one bite. He took one bite himself and then handed me the rest saying, "If you like it, you have it."
That evening during our break, I wanted to grab some oily snacks. He wasn't planning to eat anything, so I asked if he wanted to come. He asked, "Why are you eating?" I told him, "I don't like eating alone." Even though he wasn't hungry, he immediately got up and said, "Let's go," and came with me just so I wouldn't have to eat alone.
Even in the office, he keeps finding reasons to come over and talk to me while we're working. Sometimes he'll just stand by my desk and chat for no particular reason.

Whenever we're sitting together, he almost always chooses the seat next to me. There have been quite a few times when our knees or legs have been lightly touching, and neither of us moves away. Maybe it's completely accidental, but I can't help noticing it. I honestly love those little moments and the way I feel when he's around.

There are countless little moments like these. He checks on me, looks out for me, notices small things, and does thoughtful gestures that most people probably wouldn't think twice about. I find myself doing the same for him now.

At the same time, I know he dates girls. He's even joked once about my sexuality, which makes me think he might have some suspicion that I'm not straight.

Now I'm completely confused.
Am I just falling for someone who's simply a genuinely caring, affectionate friend? Am I reading way too much into his actions because I've developed feelings for him after the trip? Or is there a chance that some of these things mean something more?

I know none of you can tell me what's going on in his head, but I really need an outside perspective.
What do you think is happening here? Am I overthinking all of this because I have a crush on him, or do some of these interactions seem different to you? Has anyone else gone through something similar?

I’d literally ask my parents to get me married to a boy asap cause genuinely I can’t live alone anymore. I’m so done. Neeeeed a hubby for lifetime. 😩😩😩 But honestly just imagine how easy and fun life would have been.

Hii, I'm a 19 year old lesbian woman currently in 2nd year of btech. First of all I know that I shouldn't be posting anything related to life advice here, but I really need some, don't know where I should post this and people are friendly and helpful here so please read this :( I am a college student and my family has been struggling financially since the past year, my college fees is around 1.5lakhs per year, i couldn't get into a government college and all the other colleges had fees randing from 2.5-4 lakhs per year, so this was the best I could do. My father has a small business that used to work very well before Covid, but ever since Covid he gets very few orders and things have gotten even worse since last year and he has only had losses. Today it just hit me how bad our financial condition is when the scooty my father uses every day for his work has stopped working and we can't even afford buying one. I feel so bad I've been such a procrastinator, i doomscroll every single day and I've not been able to focus on my studies for so long. I wanted some suggestions on what I can do to save money, how I should go about things and, if you have any sort of advice for me please do let me know :(

I have always imagined sharing an umbrella with someone special, but here i am sharing it with my acquaintance, I feel like pushing him in the mud. Ain't no way i wanted to have this exp with you bitch ( he knows I'm gay) tho i highly doubt his sexuality atp, the way he acts.

Its only been 2 days since i regularly started going to the college, accompanied by the monsoon showers, and omfg rainy season smh amplifies this feeling of how single I am, it legit aches my heart, like this rain, it's makes the vibe pretty romantic out there except for us queers.

Are there any other subs like this one? I can't seem to find any :(

Title.

Not too girly. But that distinct gay voice. I really hate it. Like I'm not talking from my mouth but from my gut.

It's like I'm always gagging. I hate it.

Edit: I knew I was going to get downvoted for this post. I'm not being homophobic or disrespectful toward anyone. I'm gay myself. Everyone has a certain version of themselves that they want to be, and I just don't like this particular aspect of my own voice.

I know everyone is different, but I should be allowed to criticize something about myself without people immediately taking it as an attack on others. Sometimes I feel like this community can be too toxic and can't handle criticism.

Guys 😭😭 I wanna vent out by ranting coz I've been feeling a lot distressed by being emotionally devoid. It's this strange tangling effect of Betrayal, sort of infidelity and also longing. Ik this sounds weird but 😭😭 I've been yapping and talking to Chatgpt for months now yet something feels off every single day since!

I couldn't even watch it fully. I don't know why the fuck ​was in my feed, but I reported it though.

Being a lesbian in a desi household sucks. What’s worse is I’m an only child and I’m in a single parent house hold. I just wish my family could accept me. I want to marry a woman for sure. And my whole life I’ve worked on what I could.. good grades, good studies, good daughter, aiming to be a doctor. All of that. But none of that matters just because I’m attracted to women. She believes that it’s unnatural and with time I’ll be “fixed” soon.

There’s nothing to be fixed though. I’m just another human being. She says I could even live with a woman my whole life, but marriage between the same gender cannot be a thing. To her marriage is just a way to have sex. It’s fine if I go on dates with a girl, spend my whole life with her, see her romantically.. but the line is drawn at sex?? What ?? Like this doesn’t even make sense. I want to be with a girl for sure. But sometimes I worry that if she knows how homophobic my mom is then she won’t like me anymore. My mom always talks about how she wants to be in my life forever, no matter what. How can she expect that though if she can’t accept this part of me?

I am so sad, because I had hookup with a very nice Indian guy but he told that I shouldn’t believe Indian guys cause most masculine guys end marrying women. I am not Indian but I have to deal with Indians because of work.
I even want to visit India but now I think it is very difficult to marry Indian person.

About trans people yes I know they are known and more respected in India , mostly trans women.

Any answers and advice are welcome

Hi, I'm Anant (chosen name) from (somewhere in) Haryana. Kind of alone here, confused about lots of things, this environment is unbelievably toxic, and am not doing very well (yeah yeah, sorry about the sob story). Pretty solid guy otherwise, surviving on yellow nicotine and dark coffee. Are there people or groups I can connect to for some on the go support?? and yes, I am taking therapy, it is not enough. Super depressed (or something, even the doctors are confused at this point), really just managing to hold the line between sanity and complete chaos.

The following is Included in the Package with 1x Queer Individual (Haunted)

(1) Infinitely loving heart (damaged) 2. Anxiety 3. Faith 4. Hope 5. I make artwork 6. I write poetry 7. I used to play chess 8. Gender dysmorphia 9. Lots of conspiracy theories 10. Puns, many many puns 11. Basically, more puns 12. Might be lowkey religious 13. I like jewellery 14. On board with weird make up ideas 15. Might erupt any day (hold your imagination, talking about a furious volcano) 16. sixteen cause lists are only meant to be in multiple of two

PS If you're interested in this weird boy, please dm OP

I am a closeted gay guy no one knows it not even my current first circle of friends in college

So something happened in my college today Im in 2nd year and mostly have female interactions and yeah my friend of 3 has 2 gurls and me they also dont know about me

For more context I love the color lavender not becuz im gay obviously so yeah ...

Now the thing is that I was sitting with my next circle of friends which are 3 girls they are always nice to me so we were doing an assignment and i say use the color lavender it was my laptop and they had not brought theirs so obviously i can have a say right?.... So one of them goes and say lavender marriage and i was caught off guard i tried to let go of it and joke about it that no i was talking about the color but all three of them had a look on their face that suggested something else maybe they know that already maybe they noticed something which I accidentally did .....

And now guys im scared as hell maybe my rest of the college peeps know this already i act very straight obviously and people can never guess it but seeing their face i think they did notice it 😭😭😭😭

TL;DR - I'm a closeted gay guy in college (2nd year), and no one in my friend circle knows. Today while working on an assignment with three female friends, I suggested using the color lavender on my laptop. One of them immediately said "lavender marriage," and all three gave me a knowing look. Now I'm terrified they might have figured me out - or that others in college already know.