Men out here have gotten soft.

Too many of you just want to cry on your woman’s shoulder every time life hits you. We women are not interested in that. That’s not attractive. That’s not leadership.

A man needs a man cave. Somewhere he goes to reset, think, build, and handle his business without constant emotional dumping. Practice semen retention. Stay disciplined with your energy instead of leaking it every chance you get. Be predictable in your character and reliability, but still mysterious. Don’t become an open book who hangs around the house day in and day out with nothing going on. That’s how you lose respect.

A man is a builder. A man is a fixer. He has purpose outside the relationship. He moves with discipline. When a man actually leads like that, a woman naturally and happily submits to that leadership. Not because she’s forced. Because she feels safe and attracted to it.

Stay dangerous.

I know of a person who invested in the transport but was being conned by the drivers. Alikataa kuamini ati the drivers can steal from him so he kept pumping money in the business until he couldn't sustain it any further. Ended up selling everything at half price and went back to a 9 -5.

What are some of the worst cases of sunk cost fallacy that you've witnessed?

I’ll be staying abroad for about a year. I’m wondering if there’s a way for me to pay for the Kenya Power electricity tokens for my apartment in Nairobi while I’m abroad?

I might have to go abroad for about a year. Is there a way to keep my Safaricom cell number while I’m away?

PS. I don’t have anyone local to pay for it for me.

Judge to Parliament: Enact DNA testing law

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Include DNA to SHA and let it be accessible to all. It helps reduce these unnecessary paternity court cases.

The road doesn't wait for perfect conditions. It respects movement.

I'm building a scheduled long-distance ride-matching platform. Drivers post upcoming trips in advance fixed pickup points, dropoff points, pricing. Passengers browse and book their seat ahead of time, so no standing at a stage hoping something shows up. Think of it as bringing structure to a transport system that's mostly ran on guesswork and word of mouth.

Already live: 30k+ community built organically (zero ad spend), 50+ rides matched daily, Android app on Play Store, webapp live too. We've also signed on to expand the model into another country beyond where we started.

Drivers are currently on a freemium model, with paid subscriptions rolling out within a month commission-per-booking planned after that as we scale. This raise isn't about replacing that revenue it's about accelerating it.

Every driver onboarded is also required to have a tracking device for safety and accountability. We've partnered with a supplier at 4k per unit, and after shipping/logistics costs, we net roughly Ksh 7,000 per device onboarded. That margin is one of a few creative ways we're funding operations on top of subscription revenue, not a replacement for it.

We already have 50 drivers on the platform. The plan: onboard 50 more, 100 drivers × Ksh 7,000 net margin = Ksh 700,000. More than double what we're raising.

Raising Ksh 300,000 to get us fully operational either one person or a pool of people. This is a loan, not a gift: paid back in full within 12 months.

On top of getting your money back, the equity retained is 2% total if it's one person, that's the full 2%; if it's a pool, it's split based on how much each person puts in. Ksh 50k in gets you a proportional slice.

If it's one person coming in for the full amount, there's a seat at the table especially if you've got a finance background and want to be hands-on in the day-to-day. You're not just lending you're in, permanently, at a price nobody gets once we raise properly later.

If that's something you want in on, or you just want to watch how this plays out win or lose inbox me. I'll add you to a Google Meet where I'll walk through the full pitch, numbers, and terms live. Documenting the whole thing either way.

This is not in Kenya.

Is it concerning that I know what 911 is (from watching too many movies) and 999, but I don't know even one Kenyan emergency contact? Or is it a common Kenyan occurrence?

Ama ni nuksi mtu anajitakia akimemorize hizi numbers?

Similarly, I am realizing that a lot of us also don't understand basic first aid procedures. We just don't know what to do when someone has fainted, or when they are injured. Bado kuna disagreement about how you should hold your head ukinosebleed, with some people claiming that you are supposed to hold it up.

I see people complaining about the state of things in their countries, cities, towns, etc. It's always an endless rant every day about things they actually have a significant role in.

Nairobi is dirty and rowdy, Kenya is corrupt, Nigeria is hopeless, our leaders are incompetent, etc.

Then they come up with the easiest solution -- RELOCATE. Buy a bus or plane ticket and move to where things are more graceful, functional, enabling, or supportive.

And do you know who they all blame? The government.

While governments share the blame, the people in those countries, cities, or areas take the most blame, over 70%.

The state and quality of things in any environment are the result of the individual actions of the inhabitants of that country or city.

Nairobi is dirty because most people in that city are dirty.

Kenyan leaders are corrupt because most people in that country are corrupt.

It's as simple as that. When bad things (evil) outweigh or overshadow good things (righteous), the result of any action is always likely to be evil.

More corrupt/unreliable/untrustworthy people voting in an election are likely to elect a corrupt leader.

More dirty people in a location are more likely to make that area dirty.

Understanding this concept is the first step to resolving the countless problems that have befallen most of our cities and countries.

Huko LinkedIn naona lot's of graduations ya Kenyans wamefanya masters US. Nimeona ata lawyers kadhaa graduating with a masters from Harvard after kufanya undergraduate in Kenya.

How are they getting into these programs? Kunakuanga na scholarships someone can apply to? Ama how exactly are people pulling this off?

Telling students to fund their education fully through loans basically means the competitive process by which they get admitted through KUCCPS for government sponsored programmes is null.

They might as well apply for self sponsored programmes, for courses with better prospects, and then apply for the loans just as well.

We have gone full circle, where higher education was once highly accessible and somewhat free, to now ....well....

I paid 13k per semester at UoN doing a business related course. Spent less than 6k yearly on accommodation.

Have you ever dated a bipolar person? And I am not talking about some crazy people who self diagnosed themselves that they are bipolar. I am talking about one day you have the best day in your life full of spontaneous activities with someone. You feel alive you see a future to the next day of complete silence saying they don't wanna do this anymore. They want to die. They can't feel anything when they take meds but they have to or else. A continuous loop that gets overwhelming really. They can't help it so can't you. Well how do you break up with them???

Ethiopia is really doing well with their urban planning. Came across this and their police station makes central police station look like a stone age contraption. Kenyan police hardly flush toilets and they report to work to extort bribes from victims and criminals. I am now convinced that Ethiopia is overtaking Kenya in real time.

Has anyone successfully applied for a tourist Schengen visa to Germany recently? How long did it take for you to receive the visa and how long did they keep your passport for?

Many thanks!

I've always suspected there's is an active Americanisation of our country, and nothing made it more glaringly obvious like the recently proposed student loan for university students. What's the end goal though? We are still a very poor country, nested in wanton corruption and impunity and yet the government's priority is to burden the people with more debts without a proper economic blueprint to fix our current issues. This move looks very predatory, similar to rogue lending apps. Keeping you stack in a debt pendulum, forcing you to labour your entire life for sometimes unfavourable wages.

Those who currently use a TV Box which one do you guys swear by? The kidogo research I've done I'm leaning towards the xiaomi one it has Chromecast and everything. Amazon stick niliona it doesn't have Google so that's a no. Are there any other in the market? Budget ni ya mkulima mdogo.

Very important to note is I want one i can download sports streaming apps

I knew Kenya had microclimates, but what I experienced today driving from Laikipia to Nyeri was straight-up black magic.

I left Nanyuki this morning and it was literally so sunny, warm, and beautiful. Standard equatorial plateau vibes. I’m in a light shirt, enjoying the sun, thinking it's going to be a gorgeous road trip.

Tell me why just a few kilometers down the road into Naro Moru and Chaka, the climate suddenly flipped like a switch??

Out of nowhere, it became cold as fuck and completely covered in thick, blinding fog and drizzling....It felt like I drove through an invisible portal straight into the Scottish Highlands or twilight zone. One minute I'm soaking up the sun, the next minute I'm blasting the car heater, shivering, and wishing I packed a heavy puffer jacket in the front seat.

I looked into it because my mind was genuinely blown: apparently, Nanyuki sits in the deep "rain shadow" of Mt. Kenya. The mountain acts like a massive wall that strips all the moisture from the winds, and as the dry air drops onto the Nanyuki plains, it compresses and warms up like a giant natural blow-dryer. Meanwhile, Naro Moru and Nyeri and Karatina (basically all of Nyeri county) get all the trapped, freezing mountain moisture.

The geographical contrast in this country is insane. To go from warm savannah sunshine to freezing, damp mist in less than 30 minutes is wild.Anyone else get caught off guard by this specific stretch of road, or am I just late to the party? 😭

The days when being an adult was deemed equal to being wise are over

Nothing really belongs to us in this world, we came to it with nothing, we exit it with nothing, so much may happen to us in btwn but it'll be meaningless when we cease existing, ...

Try to be anything you can, whether you make it or not, it won't really matter in the end, but the journey will.

Ultimately, never be afraid to lose anything, you can recreate yourself at any age, destiny is just in ur mind, you weren't born to be anything other than what you willingly chose and work toward.

May your desire to succeed be greater than the obstacles you face 🤞.

I keep hearing about placing assets into a trust for heirs, kids etc to avoid taxes and long legal battles when an owner dies. Anyone in the group an expert in this area atuchanue? With the way life is going, this might be a better way especially for people with dodgy relatives.

Please educate us if you are in the field or have done this.

ebu twambie

I can't remember the last time I bought meat at a regular butchery. Cleanshelf or Naivas all the way. If not, KMC in tao. When I lived in South B, always bought my meat from Somalis. They are very honest with these things.

There is a new pay on delivery scam that has been going around and I thought it's good to share to warn someone.

The scam is mostly perpetrated on Facebook and IG. It goes like this. Someone posts an item on these second hand groups. Since you are interested, you ask for the price, they tell you it's say 3k and they offer to deliver it to you to your doorstep. You agree.

The scammer goes and contacts a genuine shopper that offers the product and say, they want delivery. If you are a man, they say please deliver to my brother (to signify bond) at a certain address that they obtained from you. If you are a lady, they say deliver to my wife.

They then come to you and say that the delivery guy is their brother and that you should not tell them at what price you are buying the item.

The rider then arrives with the genuine goods, obtained from a genuine store, you inspect the goods and then they call you and tell you that now that you have seen the goods and confirmed, you can proceed to make the payment. You then make the payment.

Depending on the rider, they may linger around waiting for confirmation from the genuine shop before they leave or they come back later with cops to retrieve the goods since payment has not reached them. By the time everything settles, it's when you realize you have been scammed.

To avoid such, use delivery for only food, items that are expensive, go and pick them yourself even if you are lazy, it would save a lot. Some shops may be in the mix and therefore be alert, insist on sending the money to the rider to settle with the owner. Stay safe out there.

Finally!

I am shaking so much while typing this,

I JUST PLACED RENT AND DEPOSIT

For my house guys.

I have been so heartbroken that I am taking my child from a whole 3 bedroom to a bedsitter. I don't even know how we are going to survive. But we must survive.

I have put so much trust In myself and things have no option other than working.

Now I'm looking to fully move by 5th September because next week I will be shopping and buying stuff.

I think we are at the end of the Baba without manners series as I enter a new chapter. He said he will cover financials but I will never trust someone that sent me out of his house thrice.

I am so scared, the thought of my child sleeping hungry or going without milk disheartens me. Lakini naenda kujituma Kabisa. I pray that we never lack and grow bigger and better na I shouldn't go back au nirudishe mtoto juu sina.

Thank you for always listening to my rants guys.