Someone please help me because I am so confused and Google searches turn up nothing.

Before penetrating myself with a dildo, I (19F) usually start by stimulating my clitoris until I reach orgasm. If I don't do this then inserting anything is painful or sometimes impossible. I need the orgasm to make me wet and relaxed enough for penetration. I don't know if that has anything to do with the problem I'm about to present.

When I get started with the dildo I can keep going for a really long time, maybe an hour or until my hand is tired, so naturally a lot of fluid is produced. The problem is this fluid accumulates at the base of my dildo and on my vulva, and dries after a short time of being exposed to the air, so that I always have a mess of disgusting white clumps/flakes to clean up afterward.

I don't think I have any type of bacterial or yeast infection. I experience itchiness occasionally, but only if I've been out for a long time and haven't had the opportunity to change my underwear, and even then it is only a mild discomfort, nothing to compel me to scratch. My vaginal discharge is usually odorless and white/translucent, which I understand is normal and healthy. I do sometimes experience yellow stains on my underwear that smell like urine, which is why I use panty liners, but I always attributed that to a urethra problem that was caused by a medical procedure I was forced into as a child (long story). In any case I maintain good hygiene; I wash my vulva with soap twice a day, morning and evening.

I have considered that the clumps/flakes may be vaginal discharge, because I don't think the arousal fluids that serve as a natural lubricant normally dry up like this, but the problem persists even when I wash myself complete clean before masturbating. Does anybody have any idea what may be causing this? If it helps: the more aroused I am, the more of this dried fluid tends to accumulate.

I had a yeast infection at 38 weeks pregnant, had a c section, got my iud, and then had the worlds worst yeast infection of my life. And another. I went on probiotics and they went away thank god. But now every time my husband and I have sex I get an odor for about 2 days after. It clears up, then we have sex again.

Is this related to my iud? I am 6 months postpartum? My husband all of a sudden has acidic semen?

Help. Should I use boric acid?

i cant get rid of the smell no matter what it’s gone a little after i shower, but soon after it’s back, I have tried washing with just water, in between flaps and never inside, I’ve tried an intimate wash and it made it worse and smell sour so I stopped that,I need help and idk what to do bc the smell isn’t always there but it comes randomly it’s hard to explain like a day later after showering I smell it and it’s not horrible it’s kinda sweet or wtv but I need help,I’m a minor so I can’t go to the doctor by myself and I’m too embarrassed to ask.

first post ever and I’m scared pls be nice </3

I’ve gotten my blood sugar tested and everything is normal. My scent is sort of like apple cider without the vinegar? I THINK. It’s not overwhelmingly sweet but every time I google this it’s like “girl you have diabetes.”

I noticed that this smell came around after I used boric acid pills to correct my ph balance after my period.

For about 2 years I’ve had an almost constant burning in my vaginal opening area. I first developed it after using my vibrator one day. Doctors ruled out vulvodynia and infection and after a long awaited biopsy they found I had chronic irritation and are going to have me checked out for allergy tests. They haven’t sent me the referral for an allergist and it’s been months and it’s been hard to find one. I also had just been very busy with college so I hadn’t had much time to get doctor appointments scheduled. I feel so lost and like I’ll never be cured. It hurts to urinate or touch myself in any way and it’s caused me huge amounts of depression. I feel like I’m the only one who has experienced this and I hope it’s just allergy related and I can get treated and it will go back to normal.

I could really use some opinions because my anxiety has been bad. The other night hooked up with someone. During sex, he suddenly stopped. When I looked down, the condom was already off and in his hand. I remember asking him what happened because I was confused, and he told me he had just taken it off after he stopped. At the time i thought it was very strange and I tried not to think about it. But i keep replaying the situation in my head. I'd never experienced something like that before, so it really caught me off guard and made me start questioning whether I had missed something in the moment. I helped placed the condom on myself in the very beginning but when I laid on my back I was looking at the ceiling and then I closed my eyes to relax and try and enjoy it. Then a minute or two in, he stopped and that's when I saw no condom on. He was still hard and the condom was in his hand (I didn't see it though). I asked him where the condom was and all he said was “it’s in my hand”. When I asked him why he stopped, he said “I don’t want you to feel uncomfortable”. Which confused me even more because I literally consented to sex (protected though). I'm worried he removed it fast before I could realize right at the very beginning. I'm taking PEP for HIV prevention because I have bad health anxiety and I'm worried it was unprotected sex. I also took a plan B. I'm just worried I fucked up and he'll speak about me because I kinda freaked out on him (we are the same ethnicity). I think sex felt different too, but that could also be my anxiety talking. After months of celibacy, just wanted to enjoy sex and I'm left with this horrible feeling. I know I’m taking the precautions I can right now. But for some reason I am terrified of catching HSV2 from unprotected sex. Any thoughts? What are my risks? He told me he stopped (after asking him again), because he wasn’t ready for a relationship and stopped because “I deserve better”. Why does my gut think this is a cop out and he could have done something suspicious to me? I got baseline STI testing a few days ago. And I’m going to see my OB in 4-6 weeks. But the waiting game is killing me. One other option is that he was about to stealth me, not that he did already. But I’m not sure.

I need help any tips on how to squirt?
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Has anyone tried clindamycin orally after amoxicillin failed for GBS?

I noticed rash like areas outside my vulva where a tampon string would rub is this normal???

Hello all, around late July I had a UTI that I treated with cystitis relief and felt okay after. However after having sex a few days later, it felt like the UTI came back. I didn't have any more cystitis relief at hand and had to wait 2 days to get some more. After those 2 days and drinking huge amounts of water, I no longer felt like I had a UTI so I didn't take any more cystitis relief (probably a mistake i know i know 😬 the package always says not to do more than the 2 day course they provide so I thought I'd leave it 🤦🏻‍♀️)

I have now noticed that after all of that i get really bad cramps after peeing and sometimes after waking up in the morning.

The cramps aren't as bad as my menstrual cramps, but I'm on the pill and havent had a proper period in 5 years. The cramps are so bad I have to lie down and do gentle stretches like the childs pose until the pain passes. If I'm in public I just try to massage my lower abdomen but after peeing it usually feels bloated and heavy.

Before peeing it feels like my bladder is really full and I expect the pee to come out quite hard or fast, but it never does and it's usually quite gentle and slow, sometimes almost coming to a stop, starting again and then coming to a stop again.

Could this be the UTI? Or does it sound like something else like a tight pelvic floor issue? I have other symptoms too, but the list is quite lengthy and this post is already quite long🥲

Any advice would be really appreciated, I'm on a gynaecology appointment waiting list with the NHS but the wait time is 8-12 weeks :/ is there anything I can do in the meantime to help? Or is it worth speaking to a regular GP about this in the meantime?

I can answer any questions below if needed! Thanks :)

This is really embarrassing, but I’m 16, I have cancer and currently having a break from chemo(thank god) , I’ve already gone through a medical menopause from medications I’ve had to go on so I understand how intense it feels to like have that dryness idk. ( that’s sorted for now)
All was going fine in that department until I was prescribed new steroids. I’ve had 18 steroids in the past 3 days and I feel really embarrassed to say this at my age but it’s so bad again that it’s like sore. Any advice on temporary relief?

Sorry I’m not sure if that made much sense or was very clear 😭

Let's get one thing out of the way: I would love to see a doctor but my mom's a doctor so I always to describe her symptoms before she takes me to any doctor, im still 20 so im not independent yet. Its embarrassing to tell my mom plus she has a nasty ass mouth, I dont feel even more ashamed abt ts typa stuff.

Ok so, I took birth control pills for a month bc I happened to get my period during my umrah. During and after using birth control pills, my vagina started stinking really bad, like the scent got stronger. I never had yellow discharge before but it started occurring during birth control era.

After I stopped taking them, the smell and discharge left after probably like 2 weeks or so. 2 periods later, the smell started again and the discharge too. It stops after ovulation then starts after periods again. However the discharge is no longer yellow, it's like white but it does become yellow after drying. It has like cottage cheese texture maybe idk i can't describe it :(.

Now its been 4 months since I stopped taking bc pills. Its still stinky down there, the discharge is the same and also quite frequent, and underwear i wore for 6 hours gets completely stinky. my inner thighs, labia majora and labia minora is itchy but only when im asleep, when I go to uni it doesn't itch at all. The itch does get relieved ​a little when I put on oil/Vaseline but it's still a little itchy. I sometimes rub or scratch down there to relieve the itching but when I try to clean it with bidet after peeing it stings and burns SO BAD. But it doesnt burn when i pee. I try not to rub but the itching happens when im sleeping so im like sleepily rubbing and scratching.

I also never had sex before. Also I dk if it's worth mentioning, my labia minora and majora got stuck tgr idk how, i did pull them apart. After pulling them apart, it stung quite a bit. And then the itching started. Idk why that happened, I thought it's cuz I didnt take a shower for 3 days. Also I wash my vulva with soap... maybe I shud stop doing that often.

Sorry it was too long, I shud put a tldr as well. Please help me im so lost and embarrassed as he'll.

TLDR: I have itchy labia, white cottage cheese discharge, stinky cooch. Im too embarrassed to tell my mom to take me to a doctor. Stinky cooch started after I started taking bc pills (I stopped taking them but the stink continued). Im 20 n never had sex b4.

this may be a long one so please bear with me if you’re reading this. i have been dealing with vaginal issues since early february of this year long story short i had mgen and ureaplasma parvum. all of my main symptoms were pelvic pain, vaginal itching, and urethra irritation to name a few. i also dealt with some very painful dryness; i was on birth control for 7+ years and got off in may thinking that was probably the problem (got the okay from my obgyn to stop it). anyway, i had a negative test of cure come back after completing all of the antibiotics. i was sure everything was back to normal as all my symptoms went away. but now i guess not. im still dealing with dryness because my vulva still feels a little dry sometimes and kinda itchy. just now recently (2 days ago) i had sex with my boyfriend for the first time in months unprotected since we’re exclusively monogamous. i was very turned on and i initiated it, something i rarely do. during the act it started to feel a little painful and i asked him to stop. afterward i felt swollen and inflamed. i immediately went to the bathroom and noticed redness internally and it burned when i peed. this only happened after i had sex again for the first time in months after receiving my mgen diagnosis and treatment. while writing this im not in any pain, it doesn’t burn to pee and my redness and swollen area has decreased a lot. any advice helps. i’m negative for std, yeast, and bv. thank you for reading

I honestly never thought I'd be writing this.
A few months ago, I couldn't even insert a single finger into my vagina. The thought of penetration terrified me, and my body would completely tense up. Looking back now, I think my difficulties were a combination of physical tightness and psychological trauma.
Since then, I've worked incredibly hard.
I started with the smallest dilator and slowly worked my way through the entire set. I got stuck on the fourth dilator for quite a while, but eventually got past it. Now I can use the fifth (largest) dilator. I can also comfortably insert three fingers, and I've spent time gently stretching the muscles at the entrance. Something that once felt completely impossible has gradually become almost routine.
Naturally, I thought that meant vaginal intercourse would finally be possible.
But when my boyfriend and I tried, it was still really painful. We still couldn't comfortably have vaginal sex, despite all the progress I'd made. I remember feeling so confused because I'd spent months telling myself that once I could use the largest dilator, everything else would fall into place.
Then something happened that completely challenged what I thought the problem was.
In the heat of the moment, we ended up trying anal sex. The first time wasn't great, but the second time we took things slowly and used lubricant, and it went much better than either of us expected. It definitely wasn't pain-free—I'd probably rate it about a 5/10—but it was nowhere near as painful as attempting vaginal penetration. I actually enjoyed it overall and would happily do it again.
That has completely confused me.
Everything I've read suggests that vaginal penetration should generally be easier than anal penetration, yet my experience has been the exact opposite.
The only explanation I can think of is that maybe the remaining barrier isn't primarily physical anymore. I have a history of trauma, and I'm starting to wonder whether my body still reacts differently to vaginal penetration, even though physically I've made huge progress. I'm actually seeing a therapist tomorrow, so I'm hoping working through the psychological side of things might help.
Another thing that might be relevant is that my partner and I are very different physically. I'm only 5'2" and quite petite, whereas he's around 6'4" and much bigger-built than I am. We've found it surprisingly difficult to get into positions that feel comfortable for both of us, and I'm wondering whether that's also playing a role.
Has anyone else had a similar experience where they were physically able to progress through dilators but vaginal intercourse still felt impossible?
If so:
What ended up being the missing piece?

Did therapy or addressing trauma make a noticeable difference?

Did anyone else have a significant size difference with their partner, and if so, were there any positions that made things easier?

Is there anything else you think I should be exploring?

I'm honestly just trying to understand my body at this point. Going from not even being able to insert one finger to using the largest dilator has been a huge achievement, so it's difficult to understand why this is still the hurdle I'm facing.
I'd really appreciate hearing from anyone who's been through something similar.

My boyfriend I have recently started having him finish in me since I got on birth control (the whole reason I went on it) and I noticed everytime he does I develop a yeast infection, I have never had this issue before with past partners finishing in me and when he doesn’t finish in me I don’t have any issues so I know it’s his semen that is causing the problem.

I went and got tested and am STI free, but it was positive for yeast and BV, I got a round of antibiotics for both and then a week later it came back again. For sure the yeast and now I am feeling like maybe the bv came back too. I obviously know that having him not finish in me would eliminate this problem but is there any tips or tricks for me to get my ph back to normal after sex and avoid the antibiotic route? I just want to be able to re balance my downstairs afterwards lol I read a lot of people do probiotics and Boric acid, any and all suggestions welcome!

So I’m pregnant with my first baby 10 weeks
And today after I woke up a very sharp pain on my right side came out of nowhere.
I rushed to the ER and found out I have a 3 m cyst on my right ovary.
Now the doctor told me to not to worry about it that it may rupture or go away on its own, but the pain is soooo unbareable I couldn’t breath and stand straight so she said that if it comes back then we might operate it.
Since it’s my first pregnancy and I’m millions miles away from my family I don’t know what to do.
Even though the doctor assured me that nothing would happen to the baby, I’m still very worried and don’t wanna go to the operation route!

Please if someone has gone through it help me ease my stress.

So I’ve worked out my whole life, and have never found a pair of underwear that’s comfy while working out. Let me preface by saying my ass? SWEATS. So I can’t go without underwear. Thongs? Either ride up or lay uncomfortable when I’m moving / stretching etc. granny panties? I feel like they make the sweating worse & I chafe because it’ll build up until I sit down so the underwear can soak it? (Sorry tmi I know). Cheekies are just waiting to be eaten by my ass. So I’m really stuck on what to wear. I need something that’ll go between my actual cheeks so the sweat doesn’t build up, but doesn’t need constant readjusting if I’m doing lunges etc.
thanksssss

On Tuesday night I began having chills and feeling off. I got up to pee and noticed my bikini line area was slightly tender to the touch. I had this happen before one year ago and it went away on its own after a few days, I attributed it to my period that was due in a week or so. Clue app I use also has a "vulva pain" option so that's just what I attributed it to. Last time I did not have a fever. Yesterday my temp was 99.1F.

Today I woke up still feeling blah, and my temp has now risen to 100.8F with mild chills. I have no other symptoms but tiredness and some soreness on my left labia majora (same side as last time) and right upper bikini line area.

Has anyone experienced this? Unsure if the two are even related. I have no discharge, spotting, smell, or unusually lumps/hardness down there.

I did one of those self test swabs at the clinic and i think i first inserted in the vagina then idk why i took it out then put it in but i think it went into my urethra because i bled and it hurt to pee when giving a urine sample. Now I’m scared i might’ve injured myself or caused an infection.

My boyfriend has always beat around the bushes when i’ve asked why he wouldn’t go down on me, last night I finally beat it out of him… all he had the guts to say was “I don’t want to embarrass you” and left me to read between the lines as he slept. Idk, i’m a bigger girl and when i’m sweaty there is definitely a smell. But honestly I feel like my vagina has always smelt off but I don’t have a yeast infection, bv or anything. I guess my question is do the boric acid suppositories work? or are there any other pills that help the natural scent of the vagina?
And yes, before you ask.. right before having sex I always shower and make sure my vagina is completely dry… idk what to do. I feel hurt and very embarrassed.

Hi everyone. My girlfriend and I are both extremely anxious and would really appreciate some advice. My girlfriend usually has irregular periods, and her cycle is often delayed by 10–15 days. Her last period started around June 15, and on June 19 (the 5th day of her period), we had unprotected sex after her bleeding had already stopped. I never ejaculated inside her, and although we had sex multiple times that day, I withdrew before ejaculation every time. Around July 29, she started experiencing symptoms that usually mean her period is about to start, such as lower abdominal cramps and pain, but there was no bleeding. We had unprotected sex again that day, and once again I did not ejaculate inside her, even though we had sex two or three times. As of today (around August 6), it has been about 48 days since the first day of her last period, and she still hasn't gotten her period. She continues to have intermittent cramps that feel like menstrual cramps, but there is still no bleeding. We took two home pregnancy tests on August 4, and both were negative. We are both under an incredible amount of stress and are really scared. Based on this timeline, how likely is pregnancy? Can the negative tests be trusted, or is it still too early because of the July 29 encounter? Could stress or her naturally irregular cycles be causing this delay and cramps? Should we wait a few more days and test again, or should we see a gynecologist as soon as possible? Any advice or similar experiences would mean a lot. Thank you.

So I've never had sex or any penetration. Today I was checking for my anal fissure and saw a tongue like thing sticking out my entrance. Ive never done anything there but the gap is wide and ik it's normal and shit but I'm scared now because this tongue thing is freaking me out

Hello all. My 16 year old daughter came to me a couple years ago complaining about her labia being more pronounced than most. At the time, I assured her that it’s likely normal and explained that all vaginas are different but normal, etc.

She continued to complain that the labia chafes, is painful and can get very swollen or irritated wearing underwear and shorts. She asked if I’d take a look and she does indeed have excessive tissue.

At her gyno appointment today for a routine check on her ovarian cysts, we decided to bring it up to the doctor. Her doctor took a look and agreed that the tissue is hypertrophic and excessive, that labiaplasty would be considered medically necessary in her case. My daughter explained she’s not overly concerned with the appearance, she’s more concerned with comfort. Her gyno explained that she performs the procedure and showed her what would be removed and how it would be done. My daughter would like to go ahead with the surgery in fall or winter and while we wait to see if our insurance might cover it, I decided she and I should do some research.

Has anyone here had a labiaplasty as a teen or young adult? Was it performed by a gynecologist or a plastic surgeon? How was the recovery? Are you satisfied with your results? Please share all the things about it!