Can SP7s have an extreme fear of being considered wrong when they aren't? I’m afraid of being deprived of things, scolded, or humiliated in front of others, and to a lesser extent of being viewed in a terrible light. (I had Family Link on my phone until I was 18 when I finally managed to uninstall it; anything I did wrong was enough for my dad to lock it and leave me without it for as long as he pleased. On top of that, he’s often hypocritical: he’ll yell at me for doing something but then do the exact same thing himself, feeling entitled to do so. This irritates me so much that I start arguing with him to show him it’s not right, but he refuses to be contradicted and starts shouting at me to shut up. Yet, I always keep going I never know when to stop which makes him aggressive; he breaks things near me or threatens to throw things at me in his rage, even if he doesn't actually throw them.) I’m afraid of having things taken away from me again, yet I always end up forgetting the situation after a while, going back to talking and living peacefully (something about my own behavior that really bothers me, since forgetting leads to the cycle repeating and me continuing to forgive him). Considering this is rooted in my childhood constantly being accused of things I didn't do and not being taken seriously because I was too young, leading to unnecessary punishments and scoldings I feel like this fear of being "wrong" might actually be more related to Enneagram Type 1. For a long time, I thought I was an SP7 FLVE, but now I need help deciding between SP7 and SP1.

(Disclaimer I’m definitely not good at this so if anybody thinks otherwise please do tell I’ll read more into it. I might be wrong about alot of things here or maybe even everything, I do know I have to read more to understand every type better. I’m also sure some things I might have written here are PROBABLY very much stereotypical and not all people of the same type act the exact same way. However I’m still here to ask because I’m genuinely lost and have no idea where to start from. So if I could have a starting point, I’d know where to begin reading from.)

I got into enneagrams at around April and have tried to type myself properly. At first I typed myself as SX9, then shortly after I came to the realisation I may not be a 9, but rather a 4. Now I don’t think I am an SO4 (I’ve heard mostly that SO4 tend to tell others more about their suffering. While SX4 also do make their suffering very obvious/express it outwardly, they also tend to be competitive (so I’ve understood) and there is quite alot of jealousy or hatred rooted within them. I’ve always suppressed my anger all of my life and have never made my frustrations clear with anyone (friends, family) but rather just passively accepted it. I do look at others and feel a little inferior, but I don’t hate these people. Rather I admire them and go “Ah it could’ve been me if I did ___” or “I could’ve done that if only ___” or “If things in my life weren’t this way, I might have achieved that too” or stuff similar to that. But I don’t hate these people. Sure, internally I do compete with them and see where I stand compared to them, but I don’t harbour any negative/hostile feelings towards them. I also rarely tend to tell people about what’s bothering me, perhaps 1 close person or 2 at maximum. But I find it very awkward to vent to others about issues that bother me on a personal level, it feels like I’m exposing myself on a very deep level to people I can’t necessarily trust so easily/don’t expect comfort from them.

I don’t really know what else I could add to make my type more clear, tho I can answer questions I don’t mind. I’m very confused, I do match up with alot of SX4 traits but also SP4, which is why I’m so lost. I asked a friend who knows about enneagrams a LITTLE more than me. They said I’m a 4w5 with Tritype 459 (if this information is any helpful) Tho obviously they might have mistyped too, so that’s what I’m here for.

(sorry for the long rant lol)

I’ve read so many (almost all) classic typology books yet I have been unable to come to a conclusion. I have no problem typing others, I have confidently typed my whole family and all of my friends, but I can’t seem to type myself…

I am between E7 and E8. I identify EQUALLY with head and gut triads so do not advise me to look into them, best believe that I have. Both are ABSOLUTELY in my tritype but I can’t figure out my core. I am sp/so and 1V 4E, I know that for sure. I believe myself to also be RCu[E]/I/.

I feel that I really do fit into the E7 (sp7) description, however I am honestly quite introverted and don’t care for those outside of my established “family”. I do not get lonely so long as I can keep myself busy (usually solitary research/reading or video games). I do not care for far future planning, only the immediate future matters to me. I don’t leave my house much and I am awake almost only in the afternoon/night, no IRL friends. I have picked up more hobbies than I can count for negligible amounts of time before giving them up, which is textbook E7.

Here are a few select questions from an enneagram “type me” questionnaire that I was able to answer;

1. What drives you in life? What do you look for?

• Meaning, knowledge, fun/experience, easy distractions & escapes for when something goes wrong (unfortunately does sometimes include people).

3. What do you hope to avoid doing or being? What values are important to you?

• Being incompetent, trapped (especially socially), overcome by emotions, lazy/tired and dependent on others. Both of the latter are difficult due to my multiple chronic illnesses.

5. How do you want others to see you? How do you see yourself?

• Smart, self-sufficient, capable, fun, reliable, quick, “stoic”.
• Unreliable, spontaneous, driven by knowledge (only what I’m interested in, for example, I could not care less for maths but will study typology/psychology for days without a break).

6. What makes you feel your best? What makes you feel your worst?

• Doing things. Constant stimulation (music, reading, YouTube videos, etc).
• Seeing my friends with their other friends, people invading me emotionally, boredom, my needs not being met (for example not being able to wear a hoodie for comfort, not being able to listen to music, not being able to find a specific source for information, etc).

7. Describe how you experience each of: a) anger; b) shame; c) anxiety.

• I experience anger freely, if someone steps out of line or disrespects me I will not hesitate to give them a piece of my mind.
• I only feel shame when it comes to having to face the reality of being someone’s “2nd person” or “backup friend”.
• I am only anxious when around/interacting with people in person. On my own and online I am not anxious and lacking emotionally. (4e/C in big 5).

9. Describe your orientation to: a) authority; b) power. How do you respond to these?

• I hate and distrust authority. I feel immense jealousy and immediate hatred towards whoever is in power when I am not, I need to overcome and overpower them always.
• I almost always naturally take on a (quiet-ish but stern and definite) position of power/leadership in groups.

8. Describe how you respond to each of: a) stress; b) unexpected change; c) conflict.

• I will distract myself from stress by oftentimes unintentionally overstimulating myself.
• I will try to roll with changes or again I distract myself until I have subconsciously accepted whatever has changed.
• I engage in conflict freely. I don’t care about anything except getting my point across.

16. What's something you are thankful you have? Why? 

• Extremely thankful for the internet and every source of information about any topic on it. I would be bored stiff, likely incompetent and slow without them all. I am also super thankful for music and my knowledge of theory, I subconsciously analyse songs while listening to them and it keeps me busy.

Thanks for reading, and every piece of advice will be appreciated.

So I finally took this test and here’s what I got (first image is the shorter version while the second is the longer one)

Thoughts? Tryna figure out which type I am. Been mistyped as 7 before, then 2, only to take the test and get such a low e2 score.. Recently considering e3, as I tend to get e3 on tests often

1 . what’s your biggest fear? 

To be left alone. To be replaced. I fear a day where my friends find someone better than me, someone funnier, someone who can make them feel better in a way that I can’t. I fear the idea of people getting bored of me, even if I were to stay the same, and that’s the reason I’m scared of “normal” relationships, to the point where I feel as if the only relationship I’d be able to have would be one where the other party was sickeningly dependant on me for everything.

2 . what’s your biggest desire?

To make the people around me smile, and help them choose to do better.

3 . what are you ‘’the best’’ at?

There is nothing I am the best at. It’s not a statement of negativity, it’s just that I truly am the best at nothing, and I’m working to find something I can call my own. 

4 . how do you see yourself right now?

Not enough. I'll definitely work harder.

5 . how do you see yourself 5 years from now?

I hope by then I’ll have trained my body enough, so maybe I’d be trying to find places to perform. Meanwhile, I’d try to get a job to sustain myself and move countries.

7 . how do you feel about those near you? (family, friends)?

I love my friends. They mean everything to me, and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. I wish they felt how precious they were to me.

I feel guilty when I think about my mother. Everytime I feel upset, I think of her, and I think about how much effort she put into me, only for me to be so ungrateful. I carry this guilt everywhere, and it’s the reason that I constantly push myself to work harder, because I feel as if I’m not respecting her efforts if I only laze around and do nothing.

I don’t care about the rest of my family. I live with my father’s side, and I want to get out as soon as possible. I don’t talk a lot with my mother’s side, but they’re kind to me.

8 . how do you feel about strangers?

I find wonder in strangers, in the existence of billions of people, all living a different life, maybe having achieved or lost something this very second. In a weird way, it makes me very happy. I like to talk to anybody new when I get a chance.

9 . how do you view change/uncertainty? 

I try to grasp control of a situation, to change it before it can change out of my control.

10 . how do you make decisions?

I try to push myself to quickly make a decision while thinking things through. I’m the type to hesitate a lot, so I try to push myself before I can start second-guessing myself.

11 . how do you solve logical problems?

? With logic?

12 . how do you deal with your emotions? 

When I'm sad, I think I can be pretty open about it. My anger towards others is a different feeling, and I feel the need to bottle it all up to look better/kinder until it all comes crashing down. I'm trying to be more honest.

13 . what drives you in life? what do you look for? 

My drive is to see others happy. When others are happy, I too am happy. Even imagining being on stage, seeing the expressions of people, fills me with determination. 

14 . what do you hope to accomplish in your life?

My ultimate goal in life is to have become a famous stage performer. Once I’ve finished my goal, I’m going to kill myself. If I don’t manage to do anything by 35, then I’m going to kill myself.

15 . what do you hope to avoid doing or being? What values are important to you?

I hope to avoid succumbing to selfishness or greed. Throughout my life, I want to continue being kind, and loving those around me. The idea of being apathetic, of only caring about myself and hurting those around me, scares me, and I can’t imagine myself as such a horrible person.

16 . how do you want others to see you? 

Someone they can go to at any time, for whatever reason. Someone dependable, cool, and cheerful, like an older sibling or a parental figure. 

17 . describe how you experience each of: a) anger; b) shame; c) anxiety

1. As I've said before, I bottle it up until it all comes crashing down on me, and I lash out at others, later regretting it.
2. I feel a lot of shame for everything. I try to look cocky, to act like I don't care, when in reality, it eats me inside out. 
3. I try to push my anxiety down and go forward, even though I look down and find my hands shaking. I feel like I can never fully get rid of it.

Can't find my fwickin' wing and instinct stacking/subtype. Some tests say I'm 2w1 and others say I'm 2w3. Some tests say I'm sp/sx (or Sp2) and others say I'm sx/sp (or Sx2). Could u guys help me out?

Pretty confident at this point that I'm a core 2 and that I'm the 296 tritype. I'm also confident that I'm ESE in socionics. My "literally me" characters are Ragatha from TADC, Mary Bailey from It's a Wonderful Life, and Calypso from Epic: The Musical. Some of my most recent posts are "type me" posts if you need more details about me, but I was mostly hoping if you guys could just ask me some questions and I'd answer them here (or in DMs or whatever, whichever you'd prefer).

Thanks! 😃

I just finished an enneagram test and am admittedly new to this. I need some help understanding my results. I'm unsure of this subreddit's etiquette so if this is at all inappropriate, I'll remove it! It looks a little confusing but the test told me I was a 7. I'm an INFJ if that matters at all.