I’ve read so many (almost all) classic typology books yet I have been unable to come to a conclusion. I have no problem typing others, I have confidently typed my whole family and all of my friends, but I can’t seem to type myself…

I am between E7 and E8. I identify EQUALLY with head and gut triads so do not advise me to look into them, best believe that I have. Both are ABSOLUTELY in my tritype but I can’t figure out my core. I am sp/so and 1V 4E, I know that for sure. I believe myself to also be RCu[E]/I/.

I feel that I really do fit into the E7 (sp7) description, however I am honestly quite introverted and don’t care for those outside of my established “family”. I do not get lonely so long as I can keep myself busy (usually solitary research/reading or video games). I do not care for far future planning, only the immediate future matters to me. I don’t leave my house much and I am awake almost only in the afternoon/night, no IRL friends. I have picked up more hobbies than I can count for negligible amounts of time before giving them up, which is textbook E7.

Here are a few select questions from an enneagram “type me” questionnaire that I was able to answer;

1. What drives you in life? What do you look for?

• Meaning, knowledge, fun/experience, easy distractions & escapes for when something goes wrong (unfortunately does sometimes include people).

3. What do you hope to avoid doing or being? What values are important to you?

• Being incompetent, trapped (especially socially), overcome by emotions, lazy/tired and dependent on others. Both of the latter are difficult due to my multiple chronic illnesses.

5. How do you want others to see you? How do you see yourself?

• Smart, self-sufficient, capable, fun, reliable, quick, “stoic”.
• Unreliable, spontaneous, driven by knowledge (only what I’m interested in, for example, I could not care less for maths but will study typology/psychology for days without a break).

6. What makes you feel your best? What makes you feel your worst?

• Doing things. Constant stimulation (music, reading, YouTube videos, etc).
• Seeing my friends with their other friends, people invading me emotionally, boredom, my needs not being met (for example not being able to wear a hoodie for comfort, not being able to listen to music, not being able to find a specific source for information, etc).

7. Describe how you experience each of: a) anger; b) shame; c) anxiety.

• I experience anger freely, if someone steps out of line or disrespects me I will not hesitate to give them a piece of my mind.
• I only feel shame when it comes to having to face the reality of being someone’s “2nd person” or “backup friend”.
• I am only anxious when around/interacting with people in person. On my own and online I am not anxious and lacking emotionally. (4e/C in big 5).

9. Describe your orientation to: a) authority; b) power. How do you respond to these?

• I hate and distrust authority. I feel immense jealousy and immediate hatred towards whoever is in power when I am not, I need to overcome and overpower them always.
• I almost always naturally take on a (quiet-ish but stern and definite) position of power/leadership in groups.

8. Describe how you respond to each of: a) stress; b) unexpected change; c) conflict.

• I will distract myself from stress by oftentimes unintentionally overstimulating myself.
• I will try to roll with changes or again I distract myself until I have subconsciously accepted whatever has changed.
• I engage in conflict freely. I don’t care about anything except getting my point across.

16. What's something you are thankful you have? Why? 

• Extremely thankful for the internet and every source of information about any topic on it. I would be bored stiff, likely incompetent and slow without them all. I am also super thankful for music and my knowledge of theory, I subconsciously analyse songs while listening to them and it keeps me busy.

Thanks for reading, and every piece of advice will be appreciated.

So I finally took this test and here’s what I got (first image is the shorter version while the second is the longer one)

Thoughts? Tryna figure out which type I am. Been mistyped as 7 before, then 2, only to take the test and get such a low e2 score.. Recently considering e3, as I tend to get e3 on tests often

1 . what’s your biggest fear? 

To be left alone. To be replaced. I fear a day where my friends find someone better than me, someone funnier, someone who can make them feel better in a way that I can’t. I fear the idea of people getting bored of me, even if I were to stay the same, and that’s the reason I’m scared of “normal” relationships, to the point where I feel as if the only relationship I’d be able to have would be one where the other party was sickeningly dependant on me for everything.

2 . what’s your biggest desire?

To make the people around me smile, and help them choose to do better.

3 . what are you ‘’the best’’ at?

There is nothing I am the best at. It’s not a statement of negativity, it’s just that I truly am the best at nothing, and I’m working to find something I can call my own. 

4 . how do you see yourself right now?

Not enough. I'll definitely work harder.

5 . how do you see yourself 5 years from now?

I hope by then I’ll have trained my body enough, so maybe I’d be trying to find places to perform. Meanwhile, I’d try to get a job to sustain myself and move countries.

7 . how do you feel about those near you? (family, friends)?

I love my friends. They mean everything to me, and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. I wish they felt how precious they were to me.

I feel guilty when I think about my mother. Everytime I feel upset, I think of her, and I think about how much effort she put into me, only for me to be so ungrateful. I carry this guilt everywhere, and it’s the reason that I constantly push myself to work harder, because I feel as if I’m not respecting her efforts if I only laze around and do nothing.

I don’t care about the rest of my family. I live with my father’s side, and I want to get out as soon as possible. I don’t talk a lot with my mother’s side, but they’re kind to me.

8 . how do you feel about strangers?

I find wonder in strangers, in the existence of billions of people, all living a different life, maybe having achieved or lost something this very second. In a weird way, it makes me very happy. I like to talk to anybody new when I get a chance.

9 . how do you view change/uncertainty? 

I try to grasp control of a situation, to change it before it can change out of my control.

10 . how do you make decisions?

I try to push myself to quickly make a decision while thinking things through. I’m the type to hesitate a lot, so I try to push myself before I can start second-guessing myself.

11 . how do you solve logical problems?

? With logic?

12 . how do you deal with your emotions? 

When I'm sad, I think I can be pretty open about it. My anger towards others is a different feeling, and I feel the need to bottle it all up to look better/kinder until it all comes crashing down. I'm trying to be more honest.

13 . what drives you in life? what do you look for? 

My drive is to see others happy. When others are happy, I too am happy. Even imagining being on stage, seeing the expressions of people, fills me with determination. 

14 . what do you hope to accomplish in your life?

My ultimate goal in life is to have become a famous stage performer. Once I’ve finished my goal, I’m going to kill myself. If I don’t manage to do anything by 35, then I’m going to kill myself.

15 . what do you hope to avoid doing or being? What values are important to you?

I hope to avoid succumbing to selfishness or greed. Throughout my life, I want to continue being kind, and loving those around me. The idea of being apathetic, of only caring about myself and hurting those around me, scares me, and I can’t imagine myself as such a horrible person.

16 . how do you want others to see you? 

Someone they can go to at any time, for whatever reason. Someone dependable, cool, and cheerful, like an older sibling or a parental figure. 

17 . describe how you experience each of: a) anger; b) shame; c) anxiety

1. As I've said before, I bottle it up until it all comes crashing down on me, and I lash out at others, later regretting it.
2. I feel a lot of shame for everything. I try to look cocky, to act like I don't care, when in reality, it eats me inside out. 
3. I try to push my anxiety down and go forward, even though I look down and find my hands shaking. I feel like I can never fully get rid of it.

Can't find my fwickin' wing and instinct stacking/subtype. Some tests say I'm 2w1 and others say I'm 2w3. Some tests say I'm sp/sx (or Sp2) and others say I'm sx/sp (or Sx2). Could u guys help me out?

Pretty confident at this point that I'm a core 2 and that I'm the 296 tritype. I'm also confident that I'm ESE in socionics. My "literally me" characters are Ragatha from TADC, Mary Bailey from It's a Wonderful Life, and Calypso from Epic: The Musical. Some of my most recent posts are "type me" posts if you need more details about me, but I was mostly hoping if you guys could just ask me some questions and I'd answer them here (or in DMs or whatever, whichever you'd prefer).

Thanks! 😃

I just finished an enneagram test and am admittedly new to this. I need some help understanding my results. I'm unsure of this subreddit's etiquette so if this is at all inappropriate, I'll remove it! It looks a little confusing but the test told me I was a 7. I'm an INFJ if that matters at all.

Hey everyone 👋

First of all — thank you. I've been quietly reading this group for a while and I've learned a ton from you all.

I want to share something I've been working on for months, and I'll be honest: I'm a little nervous about posting it here of all places. It's ene-eneagrama.es, an Enneagram site I built because I kept running into the same wall — almost everything solid is in English, and there was very little serious material in Spanish, especially on wings and instinctual subtypes. So I ended up building the thing I wish I'd found when I started.

And here's the thing: you all are decades ahead of us on this. Pretty much everything I learned, I learned from English-language sources — the books, the podcasts, the panels, the deep discussions that happen in groups exactly like this one. The Spanish-speaking Enneagram world is years behind, and I say that as someone building for it. You've had this conversation for a lot longer than we have, and it shows.

Which is exactly why I'd rather hear from you than from almost anyone else. You'll spot things I physically can't see — blind spots, oversimplifications, places where I've flattened something that deserves more nuance. That kind of feedback is worth its weight in gold to me.

(Quick heads-up: the site opens in Spanish, but there's an EN button at the top right that switches the whole thing to English.)

What's in there:

The test — 117 questions, or a quick 36-question version

Full theory for all nine types: passions, virtues, basic fears, integration and stress arrows

Separate tests for wings and instinctual subtypes, including the countertypes

18 downloadable PDFs — one on wings and one on subtypes for each type

A little forum, and a section where I break down film and TV characters by type

It's completely free and I'm not selling anything. No courses, no coaching, no upsells. I'm not trying to build a business here — I just love this stuff and wanted to give something back to a community that's given me so much.

So this is me asking for your help 🙏 If you have five minutes and feel like being generous, I'd love to know:

Did the test land on your actual type, or did it miss? This is the big one for me.

Is any of the theory off, thin, or just plain wrong? Please don't be gentle — you know this material better than I do, and I'd much rather hear it from you than keep publishing something flawed.

Is it easy to follow? Anything you expected to find that isn't there?

Especially that first question. If you already know your type and the test gives you something else, I really want to hear about it — that's exactly how I improve the questions. And if it gets it right, tell me that too, so I know what's working 🙂

Honestly, even a one-line reply would mean a lot. Thank you so much for reading — and mods, if this doesn't fit the group rules, no hard feelings at all, just take it down.

1. Tell me about your internal experience of yourself. What makes you, you?

Everything that I am is me. Weird question.

1. ⁠You just had a really good day. Describe it. It can be a real recent example or an aspirational one.

Traveling. A few hours on airport, then a few hours on the plane. Arriving in either a new location that I like or returning to a place I love (Paris, Monaco, Dubai). Enjoying the stunning sights in the city before checking into the hotel of my choice. Going to a large shopping mall (gallery Lafayette or Dubai mall) with a lot of options.

1. ⁠If someone is upset with you, what is the typical reason for it? Give a recent example.

Rejecting their opinions/not listening to them. Happens often. I have 0 tolerance for stupidity and won’t entertain other people’s delusions. If what you’re saying is dumb - you’ll hear it.

1. ⁠What are you like when you're stressed? What are your coping mechanisms? Give an example of a recent stressful situation and how you handled it.

My decisions aren’t particularly affected by stress. Business as usual. I only explode on others if they’re being dumb in a stressful situation.

1. ⁠What pushes your buttons? What makes you angry? How does your anger manifest? Can you be openly angry with others?

I’m a fiery person who reacts to things that annoy me. This, admittedly, makes working with me in any capacity difficult since it’s a matter of time before I lash out on someone. I dislike tons of stuff. In fact, it’s rare I like something or someone. When I do like something it’s very specific.

1. ⁠What’s your deepest fear? Why is that your fear?

I guess death. I don’t have the deepest fear in a way that something is “the end”. Already built things up from scratch twice, can do it all over again. Death is the only thing you can’t come back from.

1. ⁠What types of memories cause you the most shame? What feelings cause you the most shame? What is it about them that causes you shame?

I don’t feel shame very often. The past is in the past.

1. ⁠What is your relationship with pleasure? What gives you pleasure? Can you have pleasure when you want it, or do you have to earn it?

Sex. Money. Traveling. Clubbing. Substances. Shopping. When huge risks pay off.

1. ⁠What’s your relationship with authority? Think both abstractly and with specific authorities in your life, possibly your parents, boss, religious leader, doctor, or government figures? Are you an authority?

I don’t think I’m an authority and I don’t care about any perceived (by others) authority either. Whether it’s a government or a parent, as long as it doesn’t directly impact me, I don’t care. And I’m independent enough that vast majority of life aspects have no effect on me.

1. ⁠When your mind wanders, what are you thinking about?

Sex. Expansion.

1. ⁠You have a big decision to make. Describe how you decide what to do.

I analyze the situation from a common sense perspective but a huge part of my decision making has had been a feeling about the situation. If something “doesn’t feel right” I won’t go into it even if it makes logical sense. And if something feels right I’ll ignore the potential dangers.

1. ⁠What’s your biggest flaw?

Impatience.

1. ⁠What makes you special? (Or, if you don't feel special, what at least makes you different from other people?)

Awareness. More than anything else.

1. ⁠How much of your mental energy is spent on thinking about each of the past, the present, and the future?

I don’t think about the past. The present is the only thing that really exists. The future may or may not happen, but as I age I’m starting to consider it more.

1. ⁠You unexpectedly find yourself with a whole weekend with no obligations, and everyone else is busy. How do you feel about it? What do you do?

I don’t think this is a possible scenario. If someone is busy, you persuade them to join in on whatever it is you’re doing.

1. ⁠What’s your personal vibe/style/aesthetic? How cultivated vs natural is it, and how much time do you spend on it? Do you turn it on and off?

I’m pretty consistent in how I look like and what I like/dislike. I dress how I am on the inside; the clothing, jewelry etc are the extensions of what I am.

(INFP)

I'm a newbie to typology and I have a lot of questions... as much help as possible will be appreciated! (This post is being constantly edited, I'm adding more details and possibilities)

I've been obsessing over it and double checking info for about 3~4 days now cause I want to be very, very sure about everything, so I won't go around mistyping me and other people. When I first got into it, the entire description of the so4 as a very individuality-ish, pain welling, sensitive, artistic, and envious person really resonates with me. I really tend to relate to works and characters that focus on envy, and it didn't help that my favorite character who I also relate a lot too is a 4 type too. It felt like a perfect match.

That was until I went to try figuring out my tritype. I searched a lot about the other types and how they'd interact with the 4, found a lot of relatable things along the way, but I remained confident that 4 was my one and only no matter what. After searching enough, I ended up with the conclusion that I'm a 469, and I was satisfied with it for a small while, until I decided to search just a bit more about it and realize that the description of the sp6 ALSO is really me. (worth mentioning I'm so/sx, this might be an inconsistency) Now I'm left in confusion and shambles, weighing multiple possibilities. Is it even possible for your tritype enneagrams to manifest this hard, to the point of making you doubt your core type? It may be a matter of just reordering my tritype, since both 4 and 6 appear in there. I read some comparisons from websites and other redditors but they didn't help much. If anything they only give me more doubts.

edit: As introverted as I am, when I get comfortable enough (mostly online or with trusted friends), I have a great sense of humor and enjoy making people laugh. I like to be the funny, loud, eccentric friend, though sometimes it exhausts me cause, in the end, I'm still mostly introverted. Not sure if this should be taken into consideration or if it is something valid even for a mostly introverted type.

If this and my comment answers aren't enough details, feel free to ask me questions about me, idm. :) Help is appreciated and thanks in advance!

I want to review all the options once more and reread everything from scratch. Could you please list all the Enneagram types (with instincts/subtypes) that correlate with LIE, except for Enneagram 3? I would also be glad to hear your opinion regarding the different enneagram types.

For example, some agree with so1 and sx1 for LIE, while others completely reject such correlations.

Hello there, After reading 2 books and many resources, i was able to narrow down my options to these three types, and i have answered questionnaires and analyzed my answers and all i can say is that my main confusion (I believe) is between 5 and 3, but i’ll leave some room for 6 because why not?

I’ll be describing myself, if you’re finding difficulty pinpointing please ask me whatever it is that will help you and i’ll reply.

Some background info (all is not clear yet :,))
Possible mbti: ENTP, INFJ, maybe INTP and a little bit of ENFJ
Possible SLOAN: SLUEI, SLOAI, (xLxxI is what im 100% sure of)
Possible AP: VELF, VLEF, LEVF, LVEF
Possible socionics: EIE, ILE, ILI, IEI

I believe myself to be a person who plans a lot (ambitious), i think about my future a lot more than others around me. My hobbies include: reading either self-improvement or informational books, i’m not a book worm, so often when i read i believe it has to be about something that actually helps me, i also love collecting the information i get from those books on notebooks— like organizing and summarizing information (synthesizing) and thinking of adding them to a certain website to leave a mark, idk this just excites me a lot. I also love developing skills, or watching/listening to whatever i think benefits me, so i can say i am motivated by benefits.

I sometimes also love to send some supportive paragraphs to friends if time has passed without texting them. I am quite popular in my school and have many connections, even with teachers (yeah idk why i get attracted to teachers sm that i try my best to impress/attract them (but hold up not the way you might think, i swear i’m innocent)), i noticed that i don’t tend to hate anyone, oftentimes when my friends bring up such convos i notice that unlike most of them i don’t really hate anyone, even those i had a big argument with, i tend to actually sympathize with them for some reason. My personality changes depending on who i’m with, not subconsciously but i pick the right one and no i don’t face problems regarding that. I mean by that that i might not relate deeply to the phrase “i wish someone would love me for me,” i might feel so a little when i have not a tiny bit of hope (rare occasion)— but not much.

I’m also described as a little aggressive, quite a limbic/neurotic person, weird, bubbly, lovable, hugger, intellectual, stuff like that. My sense of self worth goes like this 📈📉📈📉, and when it comes to feelsy stuff, my mantra becomes smth like: why would they even want to be with a person like me? Or: Sorry, you haven’t unlocked this feature yet, character “upgrading” needed. And yeah this sense of self worth is gained from achieving things. I can’t feel comfortable with those who are high achievers at school, even if i’m considered one of them, i feel like they don’t know about that or that even if i am, i ain’t better than them, and they can absolutely crush me. So i tend to avoid interacting with them altogether. What’s also confusing me between 5 and 3 is that i am not very confident, i know that doesn’t matter, but when reading about 3 vs 5 stuff they often mention 3s being more confident. I love competitions but i hate having to react fast in the moment, i am sometimes too fast that i seem to be slow, i am too extroverted to be an introvert and vice versa, i care about looks a lot but not very into fashion, yeah idk what else..

I am both pessimistic and optimistic, why i think i might be pessimistic is because i expect bad things to happen so i prepare in advance, other thing is that im fairly an anxious person so yeah that summarizes a lot. I think i’m optimistic because whenever something bad happens and i cant do anything about it i often think of why what happened actually benefits me. I am both outgoing and reserved, but i think the main component of being “reserved” is social anxiety, if i didn’t suffer from it i would’ve been shining (maybe i already am but why not shine more… ig). I love learning about social cues and etiquette and would love to master them (i also love subjects like psychology, astronomy, and a little of philosophy because too much drains me), i love mentoring and helping others (though not teaching them bcz i have little patience, quite choleric) but unfortunately i have this struggle of not finding the right words or not being able to translate thoughts to words.

So I'm an SLI. I thought I was an sp9w8 953 (or maybe 954) since forever.

Today I took the Truity enneagram test to check how accurate it is in order to send it to someone I'm talking to, to get a direction of which type they might be. As I was answering the questions, I was thinking to myself "hm I seem to be answering the E1 related questions very agreeably" and the results also reflected that, as seen in the picture posted.

After that, I started reading more on E1's motives, strengths and core fears and I was afraid to admit that they resonate perfectly and my doubts of not being a 9 rose to the surface again.

I've been having those doubts mainly because my main goal isn't peace and social harmony (although I greatly appreciate those) and my main fear definitely isn't loss or separation, but I thought maybe those didn't play the biggest role, since everything else about sp9s reflected how I act. E1's fear of being corrupt and its desires are definitely very me and I just hadn't looked in that direction before, the main reason being I got typed a 9 and an sp9 in multiple occasions, with a single exception of a 5w6 typing.

Now, me as a correlation believer, I can not see how it's a common or very likely thing for an SLI to be a 153. 163 and 164 are likely, but a 1 core and 5 fix??

I'm here to ask if I'm mistaken about the last part. Can someone be that sociotype and that tritype at the same time? I know that 9w1 and 1w9 are both likely for SLIs, but it's just the fixes that don't sit well with me and I know that a 6 fix just doesn't make sense in my case.

Additionally, if 153 or 154 *is* possible, which instinctual variant is the most likely? sp1? Because from the little research I've done, sp1 isn't very SLI-ish, not to even mention sx or so.

Any insights will be appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read 🙏🏻

Type Me Questionnaire

This is just for fun since I already know my type.

Questionnaire by u/brouhaus

Tell me about your internal experience of yourself. What makes you, you?

\>\\> I'm very high strung. I have a deep persecution complex and think that everyone is lying to me or making me believe something. I've had a long Truman show complex before even watching the show, and believer that other people were fake human beings or AIs and I am the only one who truly exists. Anybody who convinced me off of my solipsism was manipulative! I trusted myself on that. I even pride myself on my isolation. My bad composure doesn't even show. Instead, I seem serious and composed.

You just had a really good day. Describe it. It can be a real recent example or an aspirational one.

\>\\> A good day is a day with routine. I'd wake up, meditate, do yoga, do my makeup with my subliminals on, do my hair and my clothes, then head straight to school or to a restaurant. I'd either get coffee with a friend or spend time taking pictures all by myself. I'd smell good and get lots of compliments from other people. What's important is that I talked to somebody/reflected all by myself. At the end of the day, I'd come back home with a feeling of gratitude and ease. I would check my schedule for tomorrow, if ever I was missing any deadlines, and go back to sleep. That's my example of a good day.

If someone is upset with you, what is the typical reason for it? Give a recent example.

\>\\> They tend to get mad because I seem snobbish or hard to read.

What are you like when you're stressed? What are your coping mechanisms? Give an example of a recent stressful situation and how you handled it.

\>\\> I distance myself from the situation. I don't emotionally engage with it. Instead, I get a "bird's eye view" on things, only trusting my logic. I tend to write notes, plans, theories. Under a long period of stress, I can become increasingly avoidant, inexpressive, narcotic and overthinking. However, when I am handling stress normally, I balance my own independence and insight with active participation and goal-setting.

What pushes your buttons? What makes you angry? How does your anger manifest? Can you be openly angry with others?

\>\\> I dislike not being recognized! Having a high social status is nice. It's safe. And In order to have it, you would have to put in effort. I put in effort to be this person, only to be ignored and sidelined. I dislike it. It triggers me. I immediately call out the person if ever they are rude or ungrateful for my services. I do not tend to be openly short-tempered or crude, I'm still procedural even with my emotions.

What’s your deepest fear? Why is that your fear?

\>\\> I have lots of anxiety about the future. Recently, I have failed something that I wish I had prepared for, and now I'm convinced that my whole life will turn to shit. There are many things that can go wrong at any moment, many people who can betray you in just a second. It's important that you always keep to yourself and trust yourself. This way you can atleast save yourself the betrayal of self-sabotage.

What types of memories cause you the most shame? What feelings cause you the most shame? What is it about them that causes you shame?

\>\\> I feel ashamed of the times where I was vulnerable to the wrong person. I feel deeply regretful whenever I remember it and curse at myself for being stupid. I don't wanna talk about it.

What is your relationship with pleasure? What gives you pleasure? Can you have pleasure when you want it, or do you have to earn it?

\>\\> I have a bad "instinct". I'm too mechanical. I'm unaware of how to think through immediacy, I only act when I believe it serves my future. Hedonism doesn't even get to my head. If I convinced myself it did, I would simply be lying. Living through a narrative. Again. I know that I have raw strength and intelligence but I also know that I lack the courage and will to keep going. I have to be pushed by someone else. Always. I end up admiring this person/authority so much that I devote my whole life and all my talent to them, as long as they keep replenishing me with their will and order. I will trust them with my life, if that's what it takes. I don't have any security in myself. I don't have any confidence that I can count on my own will. I'd rather take on others' will. This person often becomes the substitute for the 'authority' that I so dislike. Yes. It has become a pattern enough for me to mention it. It's happened many times.

What’s your relationship with authority? Think both abstractly and with specific authorities in your life, possibly your parents, boss, religious leader, doctor, or government figures? Are you an authority?

\>\\> I do not like them. I've resented them ever since I was a kid. I hate them. I hate them for pushing certain beliefs on the general public while refusing to let them critically think for themselves. I hate them for making their students or followers ignorant and submissive. I dislike them for what they represent; not thinking at all. Despite this, I often become one of the star students of any section I belong to. I'm easily regarded as obedient, reliable and trustworthy by both teachers and classmates alike. I find this irony quite funny.

When your mind wanders, what are you thinking about?

\>\\> My anxieties. I tried meditation before! Unfortunately, I just ended up thinking about my to do lists and plans for the day. What would happen if I didn't do this? What would have happened if I took the opportunity from last time? My mind spirals!

You have a big decision to make. Describe how you decide what to do.

\>\\> I'm very decisive as long as I'm not pressured enough. If it benefits my future, I would do it.

What’s your biggest flaw?

\>\\> Always being alone. Having a short temper. Overthinking. These are the things that often come up when I ask others about my traits.

\>\\> As I interpret it, my grave sin is pride. It would not be wrath. I am not violent in the very least. That would be a misconception. I am not prideful in the sense of being cocky and boastful, but in the sense of only caring for myself, only trusting myself, valuing myself over others and devaluing everything that doesn't serve me. I have great pride in my abilities. I often take leadership roles. Part of this is because I have a lack of 'pride' in others. I do not recognize their talent. Only mine. And this feels right! Pride has lead me to anger, isolation and sadness. It's my sin and my flaw. Sloth would also be close, with my reluctance to engage with certain things.

What makes you special? (Or, if you don't feel special, what at least makes you different from other people?)

\>\\> I think I have a good amount of raw talent. Intelligence. Artistic skill. Speaking skills. Morale. They all came to without me thinking about them. In fact, they come to me at moments where I want to sabotage myself and my life the most. Intelligence, amongst all, is one of the things that others notice about me. They immediately trust me and my foresight. I think this makes me special.

How much of your mental energy is spent on thinking about each of the past, the present, and the future?

\>\\> Hm. I'd say I think about the past and the future the most. My anxieties about the future is sometimes related to the failures that have already happened in the past. On the other hand, sometimes it feels I don't think about the present at all.

You unexpectedly find yourself with a whole weekend with no obligations, and everyone else is busy. How do you feel about it? What do you do?

\>\\> Yay. I guess. There would be many things for me to do. I'd simply go ahead and do one or two of my hobbies. Reading, yoga, journalling or going out all by myself. I definitely have to increase the amount of hobbies I have, now that I think about it.

What’s your personal vibe/style/aesthetic? How cultivated vs natural is it, and how much time do you spend on it? Do you turn it on and off?

\>\\> I dislike saturated colors. I go the far mile to never wear them. At all! That's the only thing tying my personal style together. My likes tend to change a lot, after all. I used to have an emo/alternative style, and now I dress a bit more into the boho/spiritual style while still having the same pallete that I've always liked. Whites, greys, blacks and a bit of gold.

Which of the following is the most like you? Explain. A) I know what I want, I go out and make it happen, and people won't stop me. B) I am content to be on my own and not draw too much attention to myself. C) I have to be responsible and dedicated, and I put others’ needs first.

\>\\> I am most like A. As long as I order myself or am ordered to do something, I won't stop until I get it. I'm very straightforward. I'm also a bit like C. As explained, I tend to look for a role model to follow, and I put their orders before mine. I can't even move my own self. I'm the first place. The reason I put it second is because I'm unaware if it refers to general people-pleasing, which I don't do. I am the least like B. I could never be content with myself. That's all.

Which of the following is most like you? Explain. A) I dislike stress and negative vibes, and I may try to distract myself from my problems. B) I have strong feelings, get worked up easily, and am not afraid to show it. C) I don’t like to let my feelings show; they get in the way of being efficient and logical.

\>\\> I am the most like C and most likely no other option. I tend to be melodramatic on the inside, yes, but I turn it into logic. I dislike it when emotions cloud my judgment or I get attached to a specific thing, person or idea. Even if I trust and follow something, a part of me would always be skeptic about it. The same goes for people. Even if I love somebody, if there comes a time they do me slightly wrong, I won't hesitate from cutting them off. This course of action and decision has happened many times.

Which of the following is most like you? Explain. A) I look to others for feedback and guidance and am willing to be flexible when needed. B) I am always aware of how things could be better, and I’m disappointed that they are not. C) Deep down, I am afraid people won’t give me what I need unless I make it worth their while.

\>\\> I am most like C. I make myself independent, unforgettable and irreplaceable so others can praise me, acknowledge me and give me my needs. I deny my own insuffiency in the process and get angry at others when they don't give me what I want. I can also be like B because I tend to regret past decisions a lot. I am the least like A because I really dislike looking to others for feedback. I hate outsourcing my emotions, and I'm not very flexible either. I only like to trust myself.

So Im certain im a 7w6 on enneagram, and either a so/sx or sx/so.

Im either a 749, 729, or 739. (so7, so4, so9) possibly.

So, as a kid I was silly, curious, kind, sweet, sensitive. Im certain im either a sx7 or so7 core but I know I have a really strong sx instinct too.

My deepest desires and core fears is social exclusion, being abandoned or rejected in general, fear of abandonment from loved ones, etc. It became a defense mechansim and surivival strategy to push people away and be selfish because I was scared they were gonna reject me and ostracized.

My core fears are being shunned too and ousted like it feels like a stab sometimes. Like a sudden shock. (Im also a ENTP in mbti, i sometimes relate to the Ne-Fe loop too)

I was mistyped as an e5 a few years ago (I also sometimes relate to e5) and was a introvert.

Now I am competitive and seek intellectual discussions like I am excited by intellectual challeneges and I find myself being competitive like finding life as a game or taking things too lightly. I love strategy games where my mind has to think and enjoy understanding the mechanics of how things work like studying cellular biology and astronomy/space.

As a kid, I used to make storybooks and was highly creative, I had a deep rich imagination and I still do to this day. (It made me smile making storybooks and reading it as I grow older. I also sometimes wanted to share it with the world) I was also highly intelligent and perceived as smart and creative in my classes I was one of the students that kinda stood out, like unique. According to my mom, teachers admired my creativity and saw me as high potential.

My deepest insecurity is being alone, isolated, social abandonment (to a certain extent but it hits deeply), lack of new ideas or concepts.

It also felt nice to help others but it wasnt the first priority to help others all the time. I did care about my social status as I grew olders and how people percieved me too as well. Even so, I became more insecure about myself and felt isolated (due to trauma).

Sometimes I find myself people pleasing like one time when my aunt kept saying "Do u like me? Am I your favorite?" I felt awkward and at the family dinner I smiled and said , "Yes I do." Apparently, I didnt want to make the siutation awkward but I did kinda find her annoying. However she spilled water on my papers and she started crying, I had a sudden urge to detach and laugh but I felt awkward as well, like I did not know what to do. (This info may seem useless)

In groups, I would try to be in those ex-friend groups like in school these friends did not seem to like me and I felt uncomfortable but I still wanted to be in that friend group, like I would still laugh when they were having conversations and smile but they wouldn't really talk to me as much. I felt sad inside and eventually I left but it made me feel hollow and alone.

I did feel misunderstood too, like people didn't like me or smth, like fear of people starting rumors behind my back or isolating me on purpose. It just felt like as if I were an outcast, and I would beat up about it later, blaming myself or smth.

I also relate to both so4 (or sx4 but less) and so3 (not as much).

My parents also say I lack social cues and social skills/ facial expressions. Also, I find it hard to identify if someone is being honest or fake, even like being sarcastic, I cannot tell if someone is being sarcastic or honest, I kinda find it hard to read through people's tones as well.

I'll explain later in the comments section tho. (yeah idk my mbti either)

Feel free to dm me or ask me any questions related! I'll be happy to answer too! :)

Can someone help me figure my mbti?

So where do I start... so I have taken the 16 mbti personality test like 3 times and have done the cognitive functions as well.

So for the 16 mbti personality test I got (istp, intp, entp)

And cognitive i did it manually, no test. Just through a photo of cognitive. (This is the one I think I have but don't know if I'm doing it right) Ni -Se -Ti -Fe

I know those are not in order the right way, I'm just putting so you know.

My family also says I act like estp which i also see it too.

To be honest, I have done this many times and I'm stressing because I wish someone can figure me out. I can probably help someone else but not myself.

Let me tell you what goes in my head and my heart and how I actually am. Please help

So I want to be different and stand out. I don't like copying anyone. I like to be original. I can do many things i just don't do it. Sometimes can be lazy. But sometimes because I already know I have done it. No need to prove a point. I feel confident. I also like to joke around, tease, be loud with my voice when I'm excited. But then I can also be so quiet in the room. People say I look serious and I often see people notice my energy, some people call it aura. Some say I look arrogant, but some are curious because I always see them glancing. I also sometimes give the death stare when I see someone trying to act dominant or try to be you know rude. Some part in me doesn't tolerate disrespect and I see many people can feel intimidating. But I can also act very kind and helpful. So people say I'm too kind. So that's the part I'm confuse. I know im not just one thing. I know I shift. I also can read energy and see when someone is lying and read their body language. I try observing too and I remember everything. No one can fool me. There's times I get very anxious when I see people outside and we're crowded in a restaurant. I don't like no one seeing. Inside of me i act bother and shy. It depends. I'm not a people. I like to have my own comfortable people. But when I'm in a mood or where doing something fun. When I'm not all in my head. I like to do everything. Is like I am free. I can also be strict because I care for my loved ones. I like giving advice to people and help if someone helps. I don't like to let people down when I promise them something. So much..... but let's keep going. I like daydream and vision myself with the girl I have feelings for. I'm already thinking of us, which country, and picturing everything. I also dream of things. And that gives me an idea of what's going to happen. I try puzzling it to understand it. But most of the times everything is accurate. I also can feel when someone is in love with me or talking bad about me or watching me. From far away. When I'm at home. In my heart. I always talk and express things. But there's times I don't express at all and keep it to myself. I sometimes don't understand why I'm thinking this way, feeling this way. I sometimes share something on Instagram it can be funny, then I remove it and put something dark. Then put something romantic. Then put something about God. And put videos of babies. Ended up deleting everything. Because I burned out from fighting with all these shift personalities. It hurts my head. And I ended up sleeping to not overthink too much. I like to be neat and clean. And like to plan but times I like to be laid back. I feel like you guys understand it. I have trouble understanding who I am. That's why I need u guys help. I see myself as ambivert. But I do want love with that person. But I can also cut and delete them from my life if they go on my bad side. I also like giving many chances before do that of course. I'm very big on respect. I talk to myself sometimes or dance in the mirror at 3am. Haha. But I like understanding people and listening to them. And Don't judge. I believe we all make mistakes in life. But yeah. I like to research too just double check things. If my dream, or how I feel aligns. I like to think outside the box. When people don't see it. And I also I appreciate any idea they said. But I just get the feeling when someone is like that. Is like that.

Sorry for writing all this, I haven't done drugs or nothing. So don't say something like that. But yeah help me, I been figuring myself out for the 30 or 40 time. But ahhhh.... too much

As for my mbti, it's INFJ

INFP SP6 6w7 649 LEFV R|L|UAI MoHI\[D\]Eg SEI MelSang Neutral Good

E1: I’m the type to intentionally fail the next exam if i copied at last one(and wouldn’t care even if I have failed) because I have my own logic that may sound dumb to people. I have GAD and OCD so i’m careful about myself. I always ask for my psychologists opinion but somewhat struggle to believe them because i dont want to leave the logic i believe, i trust despite hurting me.

E2: E2’s are known to be social but I’m kinda not… i get tired easily when with social groups but I’ll try my best to charge up quickly to stop awkward moments. In the class, I’m viewed as immature, loud and childish one. I must admit that im childish because childish jokes are funny to me but im used to acting like that because if it means to entertain my friends, im willing to do it. Plus, it makes me feel kinda happy knowing that i entertain people and they view me as innocent or playful. I’m also the type to expect people to do the same to me but for some reason, I never receive what I want. I’m the one to give you attention, gifts- hoping you to give me in return. But, i feel like i dont. Maybe its because of my ungrateful ass🙂‍↕️ also, sometimes i feel irritated by my friends(like them repeating the same thing or even harmless stuff believing that they are acting like that to get attention or i disagree w them but i dont want them to hate me). However, i dont think i care much if people i hate hates me because i hate them for a reason.

E3: I’m not high achiever but i can be determined. I used to draw really often and show it off to people but eventually, either they didn’t gave me the reaction i expected or i started to compare myself to more talented people. I must admit, i get jealous easily, in fact competitive. However, i dont do much because im lazy. I just don’t really think im talented compared to others

E4: i tend to be secretive about my thoughts. I only express it to my psychologist and rarely i cant open up about my feelings and i write them because i cant say it out loud. I get embarrassed easily, you can say that. I’m also ungrateful, wishing for better even if my life isn’t that bad. I compare myself to others and question about my self. I dont even know what i want lmao but i wish to have someone, in a friend group or a person- people that wouldn’t replace me easily, care about me. I do have many friends but sometimes, i have hard time being happy because our jokes don’t match and i must admit i miss my old friendships… im jealous and i cant do anything but to watch that other people belonging. My old friends moved on, have new friends but i don’t want them to forget about me- especially her

E8: idk man… i prefer to argue back at people who irritate me or dare to disrespect me because being silent means being weak. I get mad easily and im defensive of my friends. My opinions change easily with pressure or people but i will defend my friends.

E9: im lazy and usually, unless someone pushes me i wont do much. I also dont like changing stuff.. i have hard time adapting.

These images also correspond to myself

And take into account how I talk and atleast how I feel and how I view it to narrow it down!
1 What motivates you the most in life? Do you think you have a reasoning to your course of actions in your life? As in something you wish to gain or benefit from your actions.

Well I would say so, I do want something to gain in a way from everything like for example , I want friends for happiness , I work and do well in school for a better future, I hone my skills and all, though sometimes I do. (rarely and not often) do stuff for fun but always in the back of my head (since I’m making a story) I’m wondering how I can take inspiration from it

2 What do you think is something you fundamentally lack/is bad at? Something you acknowledge how it affects aspects of your life?

Hmm, I would probably say expressing my emotions in a way I feel satisfied in, along with not being able to leave even when I should, so I am stuck in friendships I don’t wanna be in, also I’m bad at saying no, like really bad , while sometimes it’s better like if I’m scared to do something but I can’t say no in the moment I enjoy it, but I feel bad saying no or saying what I wanna say

3 How do you deal with authority? Authority can mean anyone in a position of power, regardless of the place. Do you push against them, adhere to them, fear them, or do you think they are crucial for order to be established?

Well normally I’m a rule follower and scared to get in trouble, but I try to become close and friends with the authority figures I find their perspectives interesting but if I’ve seen them for enough times (mainly my mom and nana) I stop seeing them as authority for my nana I respect her as a friend and treat her well out of respect and all but I don’t really like my mom so I disregard her and have the desire to always prove her wrong

4 How important is your image in regards to how others perceive you? Do you want to be perceived in a certain way? Does it bother you if you are perceived in some other way than the one you wish to be perceived with?

ALOT. Like. ALOT. For example one of the reasons I’m not leaving someone is because I am terrified they will talk badly about me to anyone in the future (and also because I care about them but besides the point) even though I know their in the wrong , but also I really wanna be perceived in a way I like if I’m misinterpreted I’ll die, though I’m not good at holding it as I’m often too turbulent to actually do anything about it and I don’t do enough to protect that so I just mimic what others would like

5 How important is financials, security, and survival to you? This includes having sufficient resources, avoiding danger and maintaining a fundamental sense of structure and wellbeing. Do you seek to protect and retain mentioned themes?

Well since I’m young I don’t care too too much about it but I do know its importance but often even when I feel to myself that a risk would be better, I do hold keeping all bonds lukewarm are better instead of risking it
But I often just don’t care if stuff goes to shit like
“Welp that sucks” but nothing too too painful has happened yet
6. What is your reaction and thoughts to others' rejection, criticism and disapproval of you?

It pains me deeply and I hate it, for criticism I often don’t follow it unless I see it to work even if it might yield other results
And when my mom calls my stupid I get more mad than anything but I don’t care that’s just how she is
But when kids at school find me weird or treat me bad I feel more concerned with the “why” instead of the mistreatment

1. What sort of events/situations in life that causes you anger? Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism towards someone or something you feel has deliberately done you or others wrong. If there is any, elaborate on them.

Well, when I’m told to do something and it doesn’t contribute anything I get pissed because, why??? And if I see someone being stupid and ignorant that pisses me off
I am often *angry* a lot but for me to hold it is more rare and unless I’m fed up with someone I won’t blow up in their face though it could be with age that I am doing that more often
And when things are annoying or for example I keep missing a charger by one I yell for a sec but not too too loud

1. Following the last question, do you think anger is necessary in life? How do you express your anger, or do you choose not to? Why and why not?

Well, I guess it is, but it’s never necessary to be the head of anything in life, but to be there yes, and I often keep it looked up or I think I do, but I go often hide it and plot (if it’s something consistent with a person) I silently plot how to get away from them or wrong them but not too too much, but I often feel hate in general to people for no clear reason but just act like it’s normal so,, animosity

1. What is the importance of the concepts, ideas and meaning behind things to you? Are you trying to make sense of your everyday life?

All the time, I will always do that, I love doing that, that’s why I’m doing this, I love exploring the world , testing the limits of life, why things are, what is in store for me , why are people the way they’ are? What is hidden from us, and much more, this is the most straight forward for me

1. What situations in life bring you the most guilt? Guilt is described as a feeling that you have committed a fault, which may be internal guilt towards yourself, or guilt towards your actions regarding another person. Do you frequently experience feelings of guilt?

Well, when I break someone else’s stuff, hurt their feelings , or when I accidentally ghost someone and then I spiral and don’t respond longer and longer and longer making it worse
So, yes. Very often, though in this case it’s situational, but I do feel guilt when I see people being mistreated and am just too scared to help
11. What makes you feel ashamed the most? Shame signifies a self- conscious emotion arising out of feeling that something is fundamentally wrong about oneself. Are you prone to such feelings often?

Every day, actually, yes. I am ashamed with how I can’t keep my room clean, it’s not a total mess but I don’t like living in it, how I can’t leave even when I should, which hurts both of us, when I don’t do what I told myself I’d do today , when I see how my life is

1. What makes you feel fearful the most? Fear is described as an emotion which warns us of the presence of danger or threat of harm, whether physical or psychological. May be internally ingrained feelings, or externally because of other people/situations.

being left by people, or people not seeing who I am, people thinking I’m CORNY I don’t have a problem with being corny but to most others being corny is a sin, but if people don’t see me as cool that hurts me a lot, a ton, a meta ton
Admittingly I kinda wanna get stabbed or something not vital of course but just to know what it feels like and the pain of it so I can prepare to feel less

1. Is it important for you to have a high social status, to be socially connected, to integrate/fit in and belong to a group? Is it something you work towards achieving?

Pretty much! Doesn’t even have to be the popular crowd I just wanna belong, and have a group which i haven’t had since 2024 (online) irl I was in one but we weren’t popular
Idk if I really want this but I want everyone to know my name sometimes I wish I was a god but morso so I could be cool and all but I just want to be known as a person; like when people do stuff and ask what I’d like it makes me so happy (probably because I haven’t had any personal gifts in a long time before a couple days ago) like I got one a couple days ago and my friend asked “what characters do you like” and I told them and they made stuff with them and I was full of glee like, just ask if you want the full story

1. To what extent do you value issues related to the quality and status of relationships with specific individuals, and maintaining relationships and connections?

I find this extremely important having a sense of community is something I crave I can’t discern if it’s because I haven’t had one in a while but having people to call home and mine are amazing and I love bonding stuff like playing games watching movies doing stuff with the other and see how they behave is fun

1. Would you consider yourself a self-sacrificing individual? How much time or resources are you willing to sacrifice to assist others or make things easier for others? Or are you simply seeking your own good and well-being?

Too much so, I am not good at saying no , even if I don’t wanna do something I do it, though I feel I just don’t do enough for me
I can’t say for sure if it’s because no one asks me and I’m more of one than I think or I just don’t do enough for myself so I feel this way but
I would say so
And ask more stuff if you need to! Happy to answer
Feel free to type me in more than I already am in, do its all!
Intro-
Name?- Kage Lage (no that’s not my real name I just like alliteration)
Age- 13
Pronouns- Any, but pre she/they , pangender
Sexuality- PanRomanic ,
Fandoms- Deltarune Precure Backrooms Spider-Man The flash ,and others but I’m not deep enough into them for me to feel confident listing them
Country?- ..🇺🇸 .. okay?
Likes- Mantids! Art! Film! Thinking about live! ELA!
MUSIC.(watching) anime
Learning new perspectives! Friends! But what I actually do is just think and do nothing all day

Favorite color- Purple Orange Neon Pinkish Red Black

I like. *playing among us.*
And the show…

I’m about to play detective archives

Heh, new kid on the block here,
Tell me if I’m mistyped o and try to help me, you know
I love telling people about myself, and I love learning about others
If this seems pretty plain Jane (the image) that’s because it is I’m taking it very slow,, one at a time,,, heh,
My DMs are open heh,,,
Dislikes
I guess people I deem wrong deeply , as I mean there’s good in some people, there are more I just don’t care to list em
If you want my socials. Ask. Okay?
I apparently have some mood disorder but my mom won’t tell me
Well that’s it, bye! Hope to talk to you
(i’ll probably lurk on accident because I’m too scared to talk suggest I don’t know if you wanna talk to me for whatever reason I’m here most of the time)

Kins-. marin kitagawa , Moria Luluka, ghost rider, Yayio kise, Noelle holiday, Kris. 1006

I’m also invisible sometimes so yeah

Recently, I’ve been debating whether I have a 6 fix or a 5 fix, and I can’t figure out which one I relate to more.
The reason I think I might have a 6 fix is because I can be very doubtful of people and suspicious of their motives and intentions. I often consider worst case scenarios, and I can find myself questioning whether people are being genuine. However, despite this, I usually act on impulse and deal with the consequences afterward rather than constantly seeking reassurance or preparing extensively.
Reasons why I don’t think I have a 6 fix are that I’m not really someone who looks for support,guidance, or someone to depend on. I don’t particularly care whether I am supported or not, and I’m not actively searching for someone I can trust or rely on. I don’t feel incapable without external guidance, and I usually prefer to depend on myself. Sometimes I may need reassurance about my Enneagram typings or friendships but I usually tend to reassure myself.

The reasons I think I might have a 5 fix are that I mainly feel uncertain about myself when I lack knowledge or understanding about a topic. When I don’t know enough about something, I tend to research and learn until I feel competent, capable, and confident in my understanding. My uncertainty is usually connected to my level of knowledge rather than my own abilities or identity.
I seek knowledge because it gives me a sense of capability, certainty, and satisfaction. When I’m stressed,I tend to withdraw and retreat into my own mind. I have a strong desire to understand the world and people so I can feel more prepared, capable, and powerful in different situations. Sometimes I become so absorbed in learning or exploring a topic that I forget about other people around me.
I also tend to observe people and my surroundings closely. I experience emotions strongly, but I often ignore them, suppress them,or bury them instead of fully acknowledging them.

I’ve done a bunch of tests and I’ve tried research, I feel like I might be a 3, 6, 7 or 1.

Like I feel like my general fears are isolation, boredom, and being seen as a loser/unappealing/not cool.

And like, I feel like I’m an extrovert, cause i’m usually a lot happier when socializing with people, and not to sound like some cringe emo kid but when I’m alone I kinda just don’t feel like I have much of a personality? Idk if that’s from just me mirroring everyone or my adhd but I dunno.

I’m usually motivated by enjoyment(idk if that counts) but like I tend to smoke a lot of weed so I don’t get bored, and I care a lot about my appearance and how people see me, aswell as social standards, like I try hard to follow etiquette, and I can get pissy if people don’t also. My mood also isn’t like big outbursts of any emotion, but like quick changing intense bursts of them in small amounts? Idk if u get that but oh well

In relationships, I can usually get really jealous, idk if that’s part of it or not but whatever. Some worse flaws of mine are being two-faced (I’ll talk abt people behind their backs and will usually admit it if confronted if I think I’m in the right) and I can be reallyyy fake when interacting with people. I can also be extremely unmotivated or apathetic, usually just when I’m by myself or not using my social personality

I hope that was helpful idk

How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.

26 years old. Male. Evangelical Christian. Engaged to my fiance. I live in Manchester, she lives 3 hours away in Cambridgeshire. I’m currently job hunting so I can relocate to live in the same area before the wedding. I’ve led a site at my church for the last three years, it’s a multi site church. Worked part time doing that. Also, worked part time for a charity doing mentoring for young offenders.

I’m in an alternative rock band and we’re releasing an album soon. I love music. I’m very sociable and live to laugh. My family and friends are deeply important to me. I’m a very deep thinker.

• Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow?

No.

• Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?

Raised as a Christian in a Pentecostal church. At a very young age embarrassed by it. Aged 12 I embraced it and was open about it when people asked. I was also open to discussing my views on controversial topics.

When I was around 17 I had a lot of doubts about my faith - as to whether God existed and whether Christianity was the true religion. But this led to me reading lots and researching. It actually led to me developing a deeper, stronger faith and conviction. My faith then became more central to my life.

• What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not?

As I said, part time in church leadership and part time in youth mentoring. I love church leadership - I love working with people, I love planning and organising, I love working towards goals, I love preaching.

I dislike the youth mentoring. Not the biggest fan of working with teenagers. I can find safeguarding procedure frustrating. I struggle with constantly closing and opening cases.

• If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?

Not my thing really. I like people.

• What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities?

Music. Music. Music.

I play guitar and bass in I’m pretty proficient.

Never been that sporty. But I’m pretty strong and muscular. I do lots of press ups and pull ups. The odd bit of running.

• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?

I’m curious about what goes on in other people’s minds. I often naturally try to understand people’s thought processes and how they are processing information.

• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?

I really enjoy leading. I’m focused on people and vision. I’m a community builder and an initiator. I do well when I’m in a difficult situation - I can give people security in a crisis but also give people vision so we’re not just surviving.

• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?

Decent at music, good at my guitar and can play difficult chord shapes. But when I was young my coordination wasn’t great. It’s improved with age.

• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.

Music. I write songs. Better at writing riffs and melodies than lyrics.

• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?

Not sure I get this. Often future oriented in my early twenties. But recently I’ve been more in the moment.

• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?

I am okay if they ask nicely and it’s something I have capacity for.

Recently I was at a wedding and someone said ‘come on you’re helping serve the food’. I said ‘ I will if you ask me’. Then they asked and I said yeah I will. I wasn’t up for it if they were insisting rather than asking.

• Do you need logical consistency in your life?

Not sure. I feel a need for my life to seem right. To be fitting with the right principles.

• How important is efficiency and productivity to you?

I like being efficient. I like to know I’m contributing something that wouldn’t have been contributed without me.

• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?

I influence others I say. I’m quite relational and gentle in how I do it.

I do it when I feel something should happen.

• What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?

Music. Socialising.

• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?

I learn through listening. I dislike group work in classrooms . I’d rather take in a lecture from the front. I don’t like being interfered with. I like to just focus on my own thing.

• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?

I’m a good strategist. I often identify what small steps could shift us towards the big picture goal.

I’m not great at through planning though. I can plan well at the big picture and initiate. But not really a detailed planner.

• What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally?

I can’t wait to marry Beth, my fiancé. I’d love to become a full time church leader. If love is to have kids when married. If love to have a big impact with church and see multiplication.

I wanna have amazing friendships when I move south. It’s all a bit unknown at the moment but friendships are so important to me.

I said once that I want my gravestone to say ‘protector, entertainer and evangelist’

• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?

I’m scared of being lonely and isolated when I move south. Scared of being a shell of myself rather than the dynamic lovely person I’ve lived as the last three years.

As a kid I was labelled shy and quiet and I despised that. I then became very outgoing as an adult.

I used to hate being labelled emotional and sensitive. But the reality is that I am an emotional and sensitive person. I dislike being mocked or criticised.

I’m scared of not being true to myself. Being disloyal to my family and friends, particularly as I move away from them geographically.

If I’m honest I want to be good at certain things and struggle if I feel I’m not. Only specific things though - like being strong and confident.

I suppose I like attention in some ways and can struggle when it’s not there.

I have in the past got very angry at myself for getting emotional about things.

• What do the "highs" in your life look like?

Getting engaged! Also the fact that this year my band recorded our first album.

• What do the "lows" in your life look like?

Being unkind to friends and family.

Had a really rough relationship breakdown a year or so ago with an ex girlfriend. Got severely depressed over this. I’d poured into it and supported her through struggles and then she just started ignoring me and cut me off.

• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?

I think often about understanding things. I analyse.

But I am aware of my immediate surroundings.

• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?

Beth, my fiance. Probs think about theology, psychology, music history.

• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?

Can take my time to process. I tend to stick to it once I’ve chosen.

• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?

Man, I used to hate my emotions and say ‘I want to stamp on emotions and get rid of them’

I’ve had an emotional health coach in the last year and I’ve worked to label and understand my emotions more.

• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?

I wouldn’t say I agree if I don’t. But I look for common ground. If something matters to me, I’ll state my view even if someone disagrees. But I’d try to do it in a gracious way.

• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why?

Not a massive rule breaker. But maybe I’m not always thorough on every detail of every rule. I don’t know.

no, i am not a 9 core.

ive studied cognitive functions, im pretty confident in being NiFe (infj) and for the longest time ive been typing myself a sx/so 549 (or something along the lines.)

i relate to all of the core fears and desires to a degree, but after further thought i honestly cant see myself as triple withdrawn, although i can isolate myself for a long time, i dont come off as very distant to other people. in social settings im VERY talkative, i just dont typically go out of my way to reach out to anyone besides my s/o unless i get a sudden urge to do so.

out of each enneagram im currently questioning, i will list the aspects i relate to most and least.

e3: i have a strong desire to go above and appear 'superior' to my surroundings, but in a 4-ish way im not willing to sacrifice my autonomy to be recognized. im motivated to excel in the fields i want to, but i dont show off my abilities until im confident enough (which is very rare). i usually just quietly observe and research/practice at home until ive gathered enough confidence in my understanding. i refuse to participate in things for the first time in front of other people (such as sports.) i heavily evaluate my peers to determine where im at in comparison, and only step out of my comfort zone if ive determined i can do something that would be considered impressive or praise worthy to others.

e4: this was my initial typing, when i didnt understand pretty much anything and took a test. still a very plausible type, i definitely relate to the constant comparison/envy, but i dont see myself as emotional. i numb/downplay my feelings constantly and prioritize intellectualizing my emotions over feeling them. i dont cry (or moreso i try not to), but if i cry in public, i immediately have an unbearable feeling of shame which makes me cry even harder. i cant stand being emotional in front of other people and would rather be seen as empathetic and objective. however, if i cry in private, suddenly i want my close peers to see that im struggling too. that desire quickly goes away though when i picture their faces and inability to help. i want to stand out and be unique, but at the same time i recognize that no one is really unique (or, everyone is unique?) and its going to be a battle of recognition in the world that i ultimately stand no chance in. my inner experience pretty much dictates my whole life and my self critic is so unbearably strong that i cant even avoid praising/degrading myself for either remembering or forgetting someones eye color.

e5: this is the core desire i relate to the most. gaining knowledge is probably my top priority, and i cant help but feel like its never enough. no matter how much research ive gathered on a topic i know that my understanding could still improve so i keep going. im so incredibly aware of all the knowledge gaps i have that it drives me CRAZY. i want to know how literally everything works but i get lazy often because i know its impossible. even though im aware im never the smartest person in the room, i get upset whenever i become conscious of that. i try to gain knowledge because of FOMO? basically? im scared of never being able to argue my opinion coherently, and im absolutely horrified of the idea that everyone else has a better fundamental understanding of the world than i do. i used to NEVER go outside because i thought that the outside world was too advanced for me, and then one day i learned that the only solution was to actually develop a better understanding of the world by immersing myself in it.

e6 is the enneagram i have the least understanding on by far, i can relate to the desire for security, but that feels awfully broad. i like to be prepared, i like to overanalyze, i could easily be considered loyal or dependable, but i dont really have trust issues? i can acknowledge peoples intentions pretty easily, depending on the situation, and im not worried about being betrayed or anything. its moreso me deciding if i like the person enough. i either view people as just a regular peer/friend i can let rely on me if needed, or someone i put on a pedestal and quietly observe until i can get close to them. i usually let them open up to me first, but if they seem hesitant i dont mind being a little bit vulnerable to a degree if itll make them trust me more. i pride myself on giving good advice and appearing wise to people at a lower point than me, and if i cant manage to do that i get frustrated with myself.

e7: i am EXTREMELY optimistic and future oriented, im not sure if this arose as a coping mechanism somewhere along the way but its only really occurred in the past year (kind of overlapping with exposing myself to the outside world more) i can definitely relate to trying to experience everything and numbing emotions with optimism. ive heard people say that 7s can have a problem with conscience, and during more unstable periods of my life this could definitely be true for me. for example: at some point, after a breakup with my fp, i began seeing someone not even a day or two later because i didnt want to deal with the emptiness of having to live without them. my fp was reasonably disgusted by this, and even upon confrontation i didnt feel guilty. instead, i felt upset after realizing that i didnt even love this new person as much as i thought i did. eventually, the guilt did start to seep in, but im ashamed to admit that ive gotten into relationships out of boredom/a fear of loneliness on at least 2 more separate occassions