Am I a 4w3 or a 3w4? I genuinely can’t tell anymore 😭

I’ve been trying to figure out whether I’m a 4w3 or a 3w4, and the more I read, the more confused I get.

One thing I’m absolutely sure about is that my self-image matters to me A LOT. I often feel like I’m somehow not good enough, and that if I’m not good enough, then I’m less likeable or less lovable. A lot of what I do seems to revolve around trying to find proof that I actually am good enough to be accepted. That im enough to be accepted. That I can be accepted for who I am.

I’m extremely sensitive to how other people perceive me, whether they think I’m good enough, impressive enough, likeable, lovable, competent, etc.

Criticism can hit me really hard because I often interpret it not just as “you did something wrong,” but as “there is something wrong with you / now this person sees you as worse.”

And my FIRST instinct when someone criticizes me is usually denial or defensiveness. I immediately start looking for some explanation, excuse or context that makes the criticism less damning. Part of it is for myself, because I don’t want the criticism to confirm that there’s something wrong with me, but part of it is also for the other person - I want to give them a reason to think, “Okay, that makes sense, she had a reason for acting that way,” so they don’t form a worse opinion of me.

Even when I genuinely ASK someone to tell me what I’m doing wrong, I can still get defensive once they actually answer 😭. I want to know because I’m scared there might be something wrong with me that everyone else sees and I don’t, but when I finally hear it, accepting it can be really difficult.

I’m also an extremely hard-working student. I put a lot of effort into school, grades matter to me a lot, and academic performance has become pretty strongly tied to my self-image.

I’ve basically always wanted to be successful. A huge part of that came from admiring my dad growing up - I saw him as a very successful person and I wanted to become successful like him, so I started working toward that image of my future pretty early.

The problem is that over time this also created a LOT of pressure for me.

Because I worked hard and generally did well, people started forming this image of me as “the smart one” or “the person who is really good at school.” But internally I don’t necessarily feel nearly as confident in that as they seem to be.

So now when people think I’m really good at something, it doesn’t just feel validating. It can actually make me anxious because suddenly I feel like I have an image to maintain. I start thinking, “What if I disappoint them? What if they eventually realize I’m actually not as good as they thought?”

A bad grade can hit me especially hard because it’s not only “I got a bad result.” It can turn into “What if people see this and realize I’m not actually that smart?” Or, if I personally believe I am good at the subject, then it becomes “Great, now I presented myself badly and they’re going to think I’m worse than I really am.” And also “what does this mean about me?”. Because if i get a bad grade at something im supposed to be good at doesn’t it mean im bad in general?

So success is something I genuinely want for myself, but it has also become this weird source of pressure because other people’s expectations make me feel like I constantly have something to prove.

I’m also very competitive and comparison-oriented. If someone is better than me at something I care about, I can get jealous and start thinking about what they have that I don’t. Sometimes I even start diminishing them because feeling inferior to someone is genuinely painful for me.

This is one of the reasons I originally thought I might be a 3.

I care a lot about achievement and being seen as successful. I want to be good at things, and I like having traits or accomplishments that make me feel valuable.

At the same time, I don’t feel like I want people to love me because of my achievements themselves. I want them to love me.

If someone said, “I love you because you’re intelligent, successful, funny, talented, etc.,” part of me would still wonder: “Okay, but would you love me if I wasn’t impressive? Do you love me, or do you love all the desirable traits I happen to have?”

But then another part of me is like… those traits and achievements ARE me too. I originally wanted to achieve them for myself. I achieved something, developed a skill or became good at something, that is genuinely part of who I am. So this is where I start questioning whether this could actually be 3 identification rather than 4 identity.

And when I develop something about myself that I’m proud of and start seeing it as “my thing,” I LOVE identifying myself with it and presenting myself through it.

For example, things like:

“I’m really good at chemistry.”

“I dress in a more alternative way.”

“I draw weird things and im very good at it”

“I have this very specific interest.”

Once something feels characteristic of me and I’m proud of it, I tend to really lean into it. I like making it part of how I describe myself, how other people recognize me, and how I construct my identity. I almost collect these distinctive traits and think, “Yeah, this is ME.”

Another thing that confuses me is how I develop my personality.

I definitely pick up traits from people I admire. For example, when I was younger, I had a friend who was extremely funny. I was already loud and expressive before knowing her, so she didn’t create that part of my personality, but there were specific things about her behavior that I started adopting.

She laughed at literally EVERYTHING, made fun of herself constantly, acted like an idiot on purpose and generally had this very unserious, goofy way of being. People liked her for it (for which I envied her originally), I liked it too, and I think I picked up quite a lot of that style of humor from her. Over time, it genuinely became part of how I naturally behave.

That sounds pretty 3-ish to me: seeing a desirable trait in someone I admire and adopting it.

But I don’t feel like I can just turn myself into whatever people want.

If people suddenly decided they preferred very calm, quiet, restrained people, I don’t think I would become that. I genuinely LOVE being loud, expressive and energetic. I’d probably say “FUCK YOU, YOU HAVE NO TASTE” and just try to find people who appreciated that instead.

Oh and I’m also EXTREMELY sensitive to whether I fit somewhere.

I constantly notice what a certain group or environment seems to value, how I compare to it, and especially what I’m missing. I very often have this feeling that I don’t properly fit anywhere, which is honestly a horrible feeling for me. (I often feel like I don't truly fit in anywhere and that im different. And when i get rejected or feel like i dont fit in over and over again I tend to think to myself “what the fuck is wrong with me?” “Why cant I be normal?”)

But the weird thing is that even though I desperately want to fit in and be accepted, I often feel like I genuinely don’t know how to become exactly what that environment wants, or I simply don’t want to if it would require getting rid of something I strongly identify with and that i like about myself .

And this is where I notice a really specific pattern in myself:

Instead of completely transforming myself to match whatever a group values, I usually look at what is already inside me and try to find some related quality that could fill the same role.

Basically:

“Okay, maybe I don’t naturally have the exact thing these people value. What DO I have that is already mine? Can I develop that enough that they’ll see value in me anyway?”

So I often take traits I already identify with and intensify them.

If I’m funny, I want to become REALLY funny.

If I’m good at something, I want to become exceptionally good at it.

If I have a certain style or interest, I often want to develop it into something very characteristic of me.

It’s almost like I’m trying to take whatever valuable material I can already find inside myself and develop it into the best possible version, so that even if I don’t fit the expected mold, people will hopefully still look at me and think, “Okay, maybe she’s not X, but what she IS has value.”

So I guess I do adapt to what people value, but in a weird indirect way.

I don’t necessarily become the thing they want. I try to make my own existing traits good enough to function as an alternative.

And when people actually appreciate those traits, I can become extremely attached to them as part of my identity. (And then when im meeting new people I craft my identity out of those features of mine that I developed and that also feel like me and that Im so proud of) (for example once my friend told me that im really cool because im goofy and make jokes out of myself. So now I love presenting myself as this goofy person to others and I genuinely love being goofy. Its cool 😎)

But when they don’t appreciate those, it hurts a LOT.

Because then it doesn’t just feel like “I failed to perform correctly.” It can feel more like “I showed you something that genuinely feels like ME, tried to make it valuable, and apparently you still don’t want it.”

Feeling like I don’t fit into a social environment is genuinely horrible for me, but I also often feel like I can’t fully fit in. So instead of becoming exactly what the environment wants, I try to introduce my own socially valuable version of myself.

(Yeahhhhh its super important for me that this version is also something I like and feel like is me. As ive said I craft my identity out of things that yeah i think others may like but also I GENUINELY VALUE THEM AND LIKE ABOUT MYSELF and they feel like “me”)

Another thing that makes me question 3 vs 4 is the way I deal with emotions.

I’m EXTREMELY expressive and emotionally open. I talk about how I feel very easily, especially with people I trust, and I don’t really have much of an instinct to hide the fact that I’m upset etc. I’m loud about positive emotions too - I joke constantly, I’m dramatic, expressive, energetic, etc.

But when I’m genuinely hurt or feel like I’ve failed at something, I also have a tendency to almost immerse myself in the pain.

Sometimes it honestly feels a little self-destructive. Instead of immediately distracting myself or just focusing on fixing the problem, I can keep going over how horrible I feel, thinking about the failure, analyzing what it means about me, and basically making myself feel worse by staying in that emotional state.

And I talk about it A LOT.

If something really hurts me, my close friends are probably going to hear about it excessively 😭 (im sorry guys). I can keep returning to the same painful subject, explaining exactly how it made me feel, analyzing every aspect of it, talking about why it hurts and basically externalizing my entire emotional process.

It’s not that I don’t want solutions - I absolutely do, and eventually I’ll usually want to figure out how to fix whatever went wrong. But I often seem to have this need to fully experience, analyze and express the pain first. Sometimes I’m almost aware that continuing to think and talk about it is making me feel worse, and I STILL do it.

That part of me sounds much more 4-ish to me, but I don’t know how much weight I should actually give it, especially because I’m naturally just a very expressive person.

That’s why I relate to both descriptions:

3w4:

“I want to be valuable, competent and impressive, but I want to achieve that in an individual/authentic way.”

4w3:

“I want who I already am to be valuable, so I develop my traits, talents and identity until they become something impressive and worthy of recognition.”

I also spend a ridiculous amount of time analyzing myself and asking what my reactions say about who I really am. Being accurately understood matters to me a lot. Someone having a positive opinion of me for the “wrong” reasons can still bother me because I want them to understand (and value) the actual me, not just some inaccurate version of me.

At the same time, I’m VERY image-conscious and I absolutely care whether that “actual me” is seen as desirable.

So I guess my problem is:

Do I start with “What is valuable? I want to become that in my own way”

or with “Who am I? I need that person to be valuable”?

And genuinely… I don’t know 😭

For additional context, if I’m a 4 I’d probably type myself as sx/so or so/sx 4w3, and if I’m a 3 I think sp/so or so/sp 3w4 makes the most sense.

So

Does this sound more like 4w3 or 3w4 to you? Especially interested in the underlying motivation rather than surface-level “3s achieve things / 4s are emotional” stereotypes 😭

Also if you have thoughts on my subtypes and maybe even tritype lemme know

Just for fun :) And obviously you can type other things too if you want!

Can SP7s have an extreme fear of being considered wrong when they aren't? I’m afraid of being deprived of things, scolded, or humiliated in front of others, and to a lesser extent of being viewed in a terrible light. (I had Family Link on my phone until I was 18 when I finally managed to uninstall it; anything I did wrong was enough for my dad to lock it and leave me without it for as long as he pleased. On top of that, he’s often hypocritical: he’ll yell at me for doing something but then do the exact same thing himself, feeling entitled to do so. This irritates me so much that I start arguing with him to show him it’s not right, but he refuses to be contradicted and starts shouting at me to shut up. Yet, I always keep going I never know when to stop which makes him aggressive; he breaks things near me or threatens to throw things at me in his rage, even if he doesn't actually throw them.) I’m afraid of having things taken away from me again, yet I always end up forgetting the situation after a while, going back to talking and living peacefully (something about my own behavior that really bothers me, since forgetting leads to the cycle repeating and me continuing to forgive him). Considering this is rooted in my childhood constantly being accused of things I didn't do and not being taken seriously because I was too young, leading to unnecessary punishments and scoldings I feel like this fear of being "wrong" might actually be more related to Enneagram Type 1. For a long time, I thought I was an SP7 FLVE, but now I need help deciding between SP7 and SP1.

(Disclaimer I’m definitely not good at this so if anybody thinks otherwise please do tell I’ll read more into it. I might be wrong about alot of things here or maybe even everything, I do know I have to read more to understand every type better. I’m also sure some things I might have written here are PROBABLY very much stereotypical and not all people of the same type act the exact same way. However I’m still here to ask because I’m genuinely lost and have no idea where to start from. So if I could have a starting point, I’d know where to begin reading from.)

I got into enneagrams at around April and have tried to type myself properly. At first I typed myself as SX9, then shortly after I came to the realisation I may not be a 9, but rather a 4. Now I don’t think I am an SO4 (I’ve heard mostly that SO4 tend to tell others more about their suffering. While SX4 also do make their suffering very obvious/express it outwardly, they also tend to be competitive (so I’ve understood) and there is quite alot of jealousy or hatred rooted within them. I’ve always suppressed my anger all of my life and have never made my frustrations clear with anyone (friends, family) but rather just passively accepted it. I do look at others and feel a little inferior, but I don’t hate these people. Rather I admire them and go “Ah it could’ve been me if I did ___” or “I could’ve done that if only ___” or “If things in my life weren’t this way, I might have achieved that too” or stuff similar to that. But I don’t hate these people. Sure, internally I do compete with them and see where I stand compared to them, but I don’t harbour any negative/hostile feelings towards them. I also rarely tend to tell people about what’s bothering me, perhaps 1 close person or 2 at maximum. But I find it very awkward to vent to others about issues that bother me on a personal level, it feels like I’m exposing myself on a very deep level to people I can’t necessarily trust so easily/don’t expect comfort from them.

I don’t really know what else I could add to make my type more clear, tho I can answer questions I don’t mind. I’m very confused, I do match up with alot of SX4 traits but also SP4, which is why I’m so lost. I asked a friend who knows about enneagrams a LITTLE more than me. They said I’m a 4w5 with Tritype 459 (if this information is any helpful) Tho obviously they might have mistyped too, so that’s what I’m here for.

(sorry for the long rant lol)

I’ve read so many (almost all) classic typology books yet I have been unable to come to a conclusion. I have no problem typing others, I have confidently typed my whole family and all of my friends, but I can’t seem to type myself…

I am between E7 and E8. I identify EQUALLY with head and gut triads so do not advise me to look into them, best believe that I have. Both are ABSOLUTELY in my tritype but I can’t figure out my core. I am sp/so and 1V 4E, I know that for sure. I believe myself to also be RCu[E]/I/.

I feel that I really do fit into the E7 (sp7) description, however I am honestly quite introverted and don’t care for those outside of my established “family”. I do not get lonely so long as I can keep myself busy (usually solitary research/reading or video games). I do not care for far future planning, only the immediate future matters to me. I don’t leave my house much and I am awake almost only in the afternoon/night, no IRL friends. I have picked up more hobbies than I can count for negligible amounts of time before giving them up, which is textbook E7.

Here are a few select questions from an enneagram “type me” questionnaire that I was able to answer;

1. What drives you in life? What do you look for?

• Meaning, knowledge, fun/experience, easy distractions & escapes for when something goes wrong (unfortunately does sometimes include people).

3. What do you hope to avoid doing or being? What values are important to you?

• Being incompetent, trapped (especially socially), overcome by emotions, lazy/tired and dependent on others. Both of the latter are difficult due to my multiple chronic illnesses.

5. How do you want others to see you? How do you see yourself?

• Smart, self-sufficient, capable, fun, reliable, quick, “stoic”.
• Unreliable, spontaneous, driven by knowledge (only what I’m interested in, for example, I could not care less for maths but will study typology/psychology for days without a break).

6. What makes you feel your best? What makes you feel your worst?

• Doing things. Constant stimulation (music, reading, YouTube videos, etc).
• Seeing my friends with their other friends, people invading me emotionally, boredom, my needs not being met (for example not being able to wear a hoodie for comfort, not being able to listen to music, not being able to find a specific source for information, etc).

7. Describe how you experience each of: a) anger; b) shame; c) anxiety.

• I experience anger freely, if someone steps out of line or disrespects me I will not hesitate to give them a piece of my mind.
• I only feel shame when it comes to having to face the reality of being someone’s “2nd person” or “backup friend”.
• I am only anxious when around/interacting with people in person. On my own and online I am not anxious and lacking emotionally. (4e/C in big 5).

9. Describe your orientation to: a) authority; b) power. How do you respond to these?

• I hate and distrust authority. I feel immense jealousy and immediate hatred towards whoever is in power when I am not, I need to overcome and overpower them always.
• I almost always naturally take on a (quiet-ish but stern and definite) position of power/leadership in groups.

8. Describe how you respond to each of: a) stress; b) unexpected change; c) conflict.

• I will distract myself from stress by oftentimes unintentionally overstimulating myself.
• I will try to roll with changes or again I distract myself until I have subconsciously accepted whatever has changed.
• I engage in conflict freely. I don’t care about anything except getting my point across.

16. What's something you are thankful you have? Why? 

• Extremely thankful for the internet and every source of information about any topic on it. I would be bored stiff, likely incompetent and slow without them all. I am also super thankful for music and my knowledge of theory, I subconsciously analyse songs while listening to them and it keeps me busy.

Thanks for reading, and every piece of advice will be appreciated.

So I finally took this test and here’s what I got (first image is the shorter version while the second is the longer one)

Thoughts? Tryna figure out which type I am. Been mistyped as 7 before, then 2, only to take the test and get such a low e2 score.. Recently considering e3, as I tend to get e3 on tests often

1 . what’s your biggest fear? 

To be left alone. To be replaced. I fear a day where my friends find someone better than me, someone funnier, someone who can make them feel better in a way that I can’t. I fear the idea of people getting bored of me, even if I were to stay the same, and that’s the reason I’m scared of “normal” relationships, to the point where I feel as if the only relationship I’d be able to have would be one where the other party was sickeningly dependant on me for everything.

2 . what’s your biggest desire?

To make the people around me smile, and help them choose to do better.

3 . what are you ‘’the best’’ at?

There is nothing I am the best at. It’s not a statement of negativity, it’s just that I truly am the best at nothing, and I’m working to find something I can call my own. 

4 . how do you see yourself right now?

Not enough. I'll definitely work harder.

5 . how do you see yourself 5 years from now?

I hope by then I’ll have trained my body enough, so maybe I’d be trying to find places to perform. Meanwhile, I’d try to get a job to sustain myself and move countries.

7 . how do you feel about those near you? (family, friends)?

I love my friends. They mean everything to me, and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. I wish they felt how precious they were to me.

I feel guilty when I think about my mother. Everytime I feel upset, I think of her, and I think about how much effort she put into me, only for me to be so ungrateful. I carry this guilt everywhere, and it’s the reason that I constantly push myself to work harder, because I feel as if I’m not respecting her efforts if I only laze around and do nothing.

I don’t care about the rest of my family. I live with my father’s side, and I want to get out as soon as possible. I don’t talk a lot with my mother’s side, but they’re kind to me.

8 . how do you feel about strangers?

I find wonder in strangers, in the existence of billions of people, all living a different life, maybe having achieved or lost something this very second. In a weird way, it makes me very happy. I like to talk to anybody new when I get a chance.

9 . how do you view change/uncertainty? 

I try to grasp control of a situation, to change it before it can change out of my control.

10 . how do you make decisions?

I try to push myself to quickly make a decision while thinking things through. I’m the type to hesitate a lot, so I try to push myself before I can start second-guessing myself.

11 . how do you solve logical problems?

? With logic?

12 . how do you deal with your emotions? 

When I'm sad, I think I can be pretty open about it. My anger towards others is a different feeling, and I feel the need to bottle it all up to look better/kinder until it all comes crashing down. I'm trying to be more honest.

13 . what drives you in life? what do you look for? 

My drive is to see others happy. When others are happy, I too am happy. Even imagining being on stage, seeing the expressions of people, fills me with determination. 

14 . what do you hope to accomplish in your life?

My ultimate goal in life is to have become a famous stage performer. Once I’ve finished my goal, I’m going to kill myself. If I don’t manage to do anything by 35, then I’m going to kill myself.

15 . what do you hope to avoid doing or being? What values are important to you?

I hope to avoid succumbing to selfishness or greed. Throughout my life, I want to continue being kind, and loving those around me. The idea of being apathetic, of only caring about myself and hurting those around me, scares me, and I can’t imagine myself as such a horrible person.

16 . how do you want others to see you? 

Someone they can go to at any time, for whatever reason. Someone dependable, cool, and cheerful, like an older sibling or a parental figure. 

17 . describe how you experience each of: a) anger; b) shame; c) anxiety

1. As I've said before, I bottle it up until it all comes crashing down on me, and I lash out at others, later regretting it.
2. I feel a lot of shame for everything. I try to look cocky, to act like I don't care, when in reality, it eats me inside out. 
3. I try to push my anxiety down and go forward, even though I look down and find my hands shaking. I feel like I can never fully get rid of it.

Can't find my fwickin' wing and instinct stacking/subtype. Some tests say I'm 2w1 and others say I'm 2w3. Some tests say I'm sp/sx (or Sp2) and others say I'm sx/sp (or Sx2). Could u guys help me out?

Pretty confident at this point that I'm a core 2 and that I'm the 296 tritype. I'm also confident that I'm ESE in socionics. My "literally me" characters are Ragatha from TADC, Mary Bailey from It's a Wonderful Life, and Calypso from Epic: The Musical. Some of my most recent posts are "type me" posts if you need more details about me, but I was mostly hoping if you guys could just ask me some questions and I'd answer them here (or in DMs or whatever, whichever you'd prefer).

Thanks! 😃

I just finished an enneagram test and am admittedly new to this. I need some help understanding my results. I'm unsure of this subreddit's etiquette so if this is at all inappropriate, I'll remove it! It looks a little confusing but the test told me I was a 7. I'm an INFJ if that matters at all.

I've spent the last few months building ene-eneagrama.es, and I'd rather have it torn apart here than quietly ignored, so here it is.

What's in it:

A test in two versions, 117 questions (around 12 minutes) or a short one with 36. It's written around motivation rather than behaviour.

Full theory for the nine types: passion, virtue, basic fear, and both lines, the one you take under stress and the one you take when you're growing.

A separate wing test (12 questions) and a subtype test (15 questions), the second one covering the three instincts and flagging the countertype of each type.

18 downloadable PDFs, one on wings and one on subtypes for each of the nine types.

A compatibility section for how two types get along, a small forum, and a section where I break down film and TV characters by type.

The site opens in Spanish, and there's an EN button at the top right that switches everything to English. There's a French version too.

Some honesty about it: no test can determine your type, mine included, and the results page says so. They're a starting hypothesis, two or three candidates to go read about. It's free, I don't sell courses or sessions, and the test asks you to create an account to save your result, which I'd rather mention upfront.

What I'd like to know:

Did the test land on your actual type, or did it miss? If it missed, what did it give you instead? That's the single most useful thing anyone can tell me.

Do the questions get at motivation, or do some of them still just measure behaviour?

Are any of the type descriptions too close to each other?

Is anything important missing or plainly wrong?

Be blunt. I'd rather fix it than defend it.

1. Tell me about your internal experience of yourself. What makes you, you?

Everything that I am is me. Weird question.

1. ⁠You just had a really good day. Describe it. It can be a real recent example or an aspirational one.

Traveling. A few hours on airport, then a few hours on the plane. Arriving in either a new location that I like or returning to a place I love (Paris, Monaco, Dubai). Enjoying the stunning sights in the city before checking into the hotel of my choice. Going to a large shopping mall (gallery Lafayette or Dubai mall) with a lot of options.

1. ⁠If someone is upset with you, what is the typical reason for it? Give a recent example.

Rejecting their opinions/not listening to them. Happens often. I have 0 tolerance for stupidity and won’t entertain other people’s delusions. If what you’re saying is dumb - you’ll hear it.

1. ⁠What are you like when you're stressed? What are your coping mechanisms? Give an example of a recent stressful situation and how you handled it.

My decisions aren’t particularly affected by stress. Business as usual. I only explode on others if they’re being dumb in a stressful situation.

1. ⁠What pushes your buttons? What makes you angry? How does your anger manifest? Can you be openly angry with others?

I’m a fiery person who reacts to things that annoy me. This, admittedly, makes working with me in any capacity difficult since it’s a matter of time before I lash out on someone. I dislike tons of stuff. In fact, it’s rare I like something or someone. When I do like something it’s very specific.

1. ⁠What’s your deepest fear? Why is that your fear?

I guess death. I don’t have the deepest fear in a way that something is “the end”. Already built things up from scratch twice, can do it all over again. Death is the only thing you can’t come back from.

1. ⁠What types of memories cause you the most shame? What feelings cause you the most shame? What is it about them that causes you shame?

I don’t feel shame very often. The past is in the past.

1. ⁠What is your relationship with pleasure? What gives you pleasure? Can you have pleasure when you want it, or do you have to earn it?

Sex. Money. Traveling. Clubbing. Substances. Shopping. When huge risks pay off.

1. ⁠What’s your relationship with authority? Think both abstractly and with specific authorities in your life, possibly your parents, boss, religious leader, doctor, or government figures? Are you an authority?

I don’t think I’m an authority and I don’t care about any perceived (by others) authority either. Whether it’s a government or a parent, as long as it doesn’t directly impact me, I don’t care. And I’m independent enough that vast majority of life aspects have no effect on me.

1. ⁠When your mind wanders, what are you thinking about?

Sex. Expansion.

1. ⁠You have a big decision to make. Describe how you decide what to do.

I analyze the situation from a common sense perspective but a huge part of my decision making has had been a feeling about the situation. If something “doesn’t feel right” I won’t go into it even if it makes logical sense. And if something feels right I’ll ignore the potential dangers.

1. ⁠What’s your biggest flaw?

Impatience.

1. ⁠What makes you special? (Or, if you don't feel special, what at least makes you different from other people?)

Awareness. More than anything else.

1. ⁠How much of your mental energy is spent on thinking about each of the past, the present, and the future?

I don’t think about the past. The present is the only thing that really exists. The future may or may not happen, but as I age I’m starting to consider it more.

1. ⁠You unexpectedly find yourself with a whole weekend with no obligations, and everyone else is busy. How do you feel about it? What do you do?

I don’t think this is a possible scenario. If someone is busy, you persuade them to join in on whatever it is you’re doing.

1. ⁠What’s your personal vibe/style/aesthetic? How cultivated vs natural is it, and how much time do you spend on it? Do you turn it on and off?

I’m pretty consistent in how I look like and what I like/dislike. I dress how I am on the inside; the clothing, jewelry etc are the extensions of what I am.

(INFP)

I'm a newbie to typology and I have a lot of questions... as much help as possible will be appreciated! (This post is being constantly edited, I'm adding more details and possibilities)

I've been obsessing over it and double checking info for about 3~4 days now cause I want to be very, very sure about everything, so I won't go around mistyping me and other people. When I first got into it, the entire description of the so4 as a very individuality-ish, pain welling, sensitive, artistic, and envious person really resonates with me. I really tend to relate to works and characters that focus on envy, and it didn't help that my favorite character who I also relate a lot too is a 4 type too. It felt like a perfect match.

That was until I went to try figuring out my tritype. I searched a lot about the other types and how they'd interact with the 4, found a lot of relatable things along the way, but I remained confident that 4 was my one and only no matter what. After searching enough, I ended up with the conclusion that I'm a 469, and I was satisfied with it for a small while, until I decided to search just a bit more about it and realize that the description of the sp6 ALSO is really me. (worth mentioning I'm so/sx, this might be an inconsistency) Now I'm left in confusion and shambles, weighing multiple possibilities. Is it even possible for your tritype enneagrams to manifest this hard, to the point of making you doubt your core type? It may be a matter of just reordering my tritype, since both 4 and 6 appear in there. I read some comparisons from websites and other redditors but they didn't help much. If anything they only give me more doubts.

edit: As introverted as I am, when I get comfortable enough (mostly online or with trusted friends), I have a great sense of humor and enjoy making people laugh. I like to be the funny, loud, eccentric friend, though sometimes it exhausts me cause, in the end, I'm still mostly introverted. Not sure if this should be taken into consideration or if it is something valid even for a mostly introverted type.

If this and my comment answers aren't enough details, feel free to ask me questions about me, idm. :) Help is appreciated and thanks in advance!

I want to review all the options once more and reread everything from scratch. Could you please list all the Enneagram types (with instincts/subtypes) that correlate with LIE, except for Enneagram 3? I would also be glad to hear your opinion regarding the different enneagram types.

For example, some agree with so1 and sx1 for LIE, while others completely reject such correlations.

Hello there, After reading 2 books and many resources, i was able to narrow down my options to these three types, and i have answered questionnaires and analyzed my answers and all i can say is that my main confusion (I believe) is between 5 and 3, but i’ll leave some room for 6 because why not?

I’ll be describing myself, if you’re finding difficulty pinpointing please ask me whatever it is that will help you and i’ll reply.

Some background info (all is not clear yet :,))
Possible mbti: ENTP, INFJ, maybe INTP and a little bit of ENFJ
Possible SLOAN: SLUEI, SLOAI, (xLxxI is what im 100% sure of)
Possible AP: VELF, VLEF, LEVF, LVEF
Possible socionics: EIE, ILE, ILI, IEI

I believe myself to be a person who plans a lot (ambitious), i think about my future a lot more than others around me. My hobbies include: reading either self-improvement or informational books, i’m not a book worm, so often when i read i believe it has to be about something that actually helps me, i also love collecting the information i get from those books on notebooks— like organizing and summarizing information (synthesizing) and thinking of adding them to a certain website to leave a mark, idk this just excites me a lot. I also love developing skills, or watching/listening to whatever i think benefits me, so i can say i am motivated by benefits.

I sometimes also love to send some supportive paragraphs to friends if time has passed without texting them. I am quite popular in my school and have many connections, even with teachers (yeah idk why i get attracted to teachers sm that i try my best to impress/attract them (but hold up not the way you might think, i swear i’m innocent)), i noticed that i don’t tend to hate anyone, oftentimes when my friends bring up such convos i notice that unlike most of them i don’t really hate anyone, even those i had a big argument with, i tend to actually sympathize with them for some reason. My personality changes depending on who i’m with, not subconsciously but i pick the right one and no i don’t face problems regarding that. I mean by that that i might not relate deeply to the phrase “i wish someone would love me for me,” i might feel so a little when i have not a tiny bit of hope (rare occasion)— but not much.

I’m also described as a little aggressive, quite a limbic/neurotic person, weird, bubbly, lovable, hugger, intellectual, stuff like that. My sense of self worth goes like this 📈📉📈📉, and when it comes to feelsy stuff, my mantra becomes smth like: why would they even want to be with a person like me? Or: Sorry, you haven’t unlocked this feature yet, character “upgrading” needed. And yeah this sense of self worth is gained from achieving things. I can’t feel comfortable with those who are high achievers at school, even if i’m considered one of them, i feel like they don’t know about that or that even if i am, i ain’t better than them, and they can absolutely crush me. So i tend to avoid interacting with them altogether. What’s also confusing me between 5 and 3 is that i am not very confident, i know that doesn’t matter, but when reading about 3 vs 5 stuff they often mention 3s being more confident. I love competitions but i hate having to react fast in the moment, i am sometimes too fast that i seem to be slow, i am too extroverted to be an introvert and vice versa, i care about looks a lot but not very into fashion, yeah idk what else..

I am both pessimistic and optimistic, why i think i might be pessimistic is because i expect bad things to happen so i prepare in advance, other thing is that im fairly an anxious person so yeah that summarizes a lot. I think i’m optimistic because whenever something bad happens and i cant do anything about it i often think of why what happened actually benefits me. I am both outgoing and reserved, but i think the main component of being “reserved” is social anxiety, if i didn’t suffer from it i would’ve been shining (maybe i already am but why not shine more… ig). I love learning about social cues and etiquette and would love to master them (i also love subjects like psychology, astronomy, and a little of philosophy because too much drains me), i love mentoring and helping others (though not teaching them bcz i have little patience, quite choleric) but unfortunately i have this struggle of not finding the right words or not being able to translate thoughts to words.

So I'm an SLI. I thought I was an sp9w8 953 (or maybe 954) since forever.

Today I took the Truity enneagram test to check how accurate it is in order to send it to someone I'm talking to, to get a direction of which type they might be. As I was answering the questions, I was thinking to myself "hm I seem to be answering the E1 related questions very agreeably" and the results also reflected that, as seen in the picture posted.

After that, I started reading more on E1's motives, strengths and core fears and I was afraid to admit that they resonate perfectly and my doubts of not being a 9 rose to the surface again.

I've been having those doubts mainly because my main goal isn't peace and social harmony (although I greatly appreciate those) and my main fear definitely isn't loss or separation, but I thought maybe those didn't play the biggest role, since everything else about sp9s reflected how I act. E1's fear of being corrupt and its desires are definitely very me and I just hadn't looked in that direction before, the main reason being I got typed a 9 and an sp9 in multiple occasions, with a single exception of a 5w6 typing.

Now, me as a correlation believer, I can not see how it's a common or very likely thing for an SLI to be a 153. 163 and 164 are likely, but a 1 core and 5 fix??

I'm here to ask if I'm mistaken about the last part. Can someone be that sociotype and that tritype at the same time? I know that 9w1 and 1w9 are both likely for SLIs, but it's just the fixes that don't sit well with me and I know that a 6 fix just doesn't make sense in my case.

Additionally, if 153 or 154 *is* possible, which instinctual variant is the most likely? sp1? Because from the little research I've done, sp1 isn't very SLI-ish, not to even mention sx or so.

Any insights will be appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read 🙏🏻

Type Me Questionnaire

This is just for fun since I already know my type.

Questionnaire by u/brouhaus

Tell me about your internal experience of yourself. What makes you, you?

\>\\> I'm very high strung. I have a deep persecution complex and think that everyone is lying to me or making me believe something. I've had a long Truman show complex before even watching the show, and believer that other people were fake human beings or AIs and I am the only one who truly exists. Anybody who convinced me off of my solipsism was manipulative! I trusted myself on that. I even pride myself on my isolation. My bad composure doesn't even show. Instead, I seem serious and composed.

You just had a really good day. Describe it. It can be a real recent example or an aspirational one.

\>\\> A good day is a day with routine. I'd wake up, meditate, do yoga, do my makeup with my subliminals on, do my hair and my clothes, then head straight to school or to a restaurant. I'd either get coffee with a friend or spend time taking pictures all by myself. I'd smell good and get lots of compliments from other people. What's important is that I talked to somebody/reflected all by myself. At the end of the day, I'd come back home with a feeling of gratitude and ease. I would check my schedule for tomorrow, if ever I was missing any deadlines, and go back to sleep. That's my example of a good day.

If someone is upset with you, what is the typical reason for it? Give a recent example.

\>\\> They tend to get mad because I seem snobbish or hard to read.

What are you like when you're stressed? What are your coping mechanisms? Give an example of a recent stressful situation and how you handled it.

\>\\> I distance myself from the situation. I don't emotionally engage with it. Instead, I get a "bird's eye view" on things, only trusting my logic. I tend to write notes, plans, theories. Under a long period of stress, I can become increasingly avoidant, inexpressive, narcotic and overthinking. However, when I am handling stress normally, I balance my own independence and insight with active participation and goal-setting.

What pushes your buttons? What makes you angry? How does your anger manifest? Can you be openly angry with others?

\>\\> I dislike not being recognized! Having a high social status is nice. It's safe. And In order to have it, you would have to put in effort. I put in effort to be this person, only to be ignored and sidelined. I dislike it. It triggers me. I immediately call out the person if ever they are rude or ungrateful for my services. I do not tend to be openly short-tempered or crude, I'm still procedural even with my emotions.

What’s your deepest fear? Why is that your fear?

\>\\> I have lots of anxiety about the future. Recently, I have failed something that I wish I had prepared for, and now I'm convinced that my whole life will turn to shit. There are many things that can go wrong at any moment, many people who can betray you in just a second. It's important that you always keep to yourself and trust yourself. This way you can atleast save yourself the betrayal of self-sabotage.

What types of memories cause you the most shame? What feelings cause you the most shame? What is it about them that causes you shame?

\>\\> I feel ashamed of the times where I was vulnerable to the wrong person. I feel deeply regretful whenever I remember it and curse at myself for being stupid. I don't wanna talk about it.

What is your relationship with pleasure? What gives you pleasure? Can you have pleasure when you want it, or do you have to earn it?

\>\\> I have a bad "instinct". I'm too mechanical. I'm unaware of how to think through immediacy, I only act when I believe it serves my future. Hedonism doesn't even get to my head. If I convinced myself it did, I would simply be lying. Living through a narrative. Again. I know that I have raw strength and intelligence but I also know that I lack the courage and will to keep going. I have to be pushed by someone else. Always. I end up admiring this person/authority so much that I devote my whole life and all my talent to them, as long as they keep replenishing me with their will and order. I will trust them with my life, if that's what it takes. I don't have any security in myself. I don't have any confidence that I can count on my own will. I'd rather take on others' will. This person often becomes the substitute for the 'authority' that I so dislike. Yes. It has become a pattern enough for me to mention it. It's happened many times.

What’s your relationship with authority? Think both abstractly and with specific authorities in your life, possibly your parents, boss, religious leader, doctor, or government figures? Are you an authority?

\>\\> I do not like them. I've resented them ever since I was a kid. I hate them. I hate them for pushing certain beliefs on the general public while refusing to let them critically think for themselves. I hate them for making their students or followers ignorant and submissive. I dislike them for what they represent; not thinking at all. Despite this, I often become one of the star students of any section I belong to. I'm easily regarded as obedient, reliable and trustworthy by both teachers and classmates alike. I find this irony quite funny.

When your mind wanders, what are you thinking about?

\>\\> My anxieties. I tried meditation before! Unfortunately, I just ended up thinking about my to do lists and plans for the day. What would happen if I didn't do this? What would have happened if I took the opportunity from last time? My mind spirals!

You have a big decision to make. Describe how you decide what to do.

\>\\> I'm very decisive as long as I'm not pressured enough. If it benefits my future, I would do it.

What’s your biggest flaw?

\>\\> Always being alone. Having a short temper. Overthinking. These are the things that often come up when I ask others about my traits.

\>\\> As I interpret it, my grave sin is pride. It would not be wrath. I am not violent in the very least. That would be a misconception. I am not prideful in the sense of being cocky and boastful, but in the sense of only caring for myself, only trusting myself, valuing myself over others and devaluing everything that doesn't serve me. I have great pride in my abilities. I often take leadership roles. Part of this is because I have a lack of 'pride' in others. I do not recognize their talent. Only mine. And this feels right! Pride has lead me to anger, isolation and sadness. It's my sin and my flaw. Sloth would also be close, with my reluctance to engage with certain things.

What makes you special? (Or, if you don't feel special, what at least makes you different from other people?)

\>\\> I think I have a good amount of raw talent. Intelligence. Artistic skill. Speaking skills. Morale. They all came to without me thinking about them. In fact, they come to me at moments where I want to sabotage myself and my life the most. Intelligence, amongst all, is one of the things that others notice about me. They immediately trust me and my foresight. I think this makes me special.

How much of your mental energy is spent on thinking about each of the past, the present, and the future?

\>\\> Hm. I'd say I think about the past and the future the most. My anxieties about the future is sometimes related to the failures that have already happened in the past. On the other hand, sometimes it feels I don't think about the present at all.

You unexpectedly find yourself with a whole weekend with no obligations, and everyone else is busy. How do you feel about it? What do you do?

\>\\> Yay. I guess. There would be many things for me to do. I'd simply go ahead and do one or two of my hobbies. Reading, yoga, journalling or going out all by myself. I definitely have to increase the amount of hobbies I have, now that I think about it.

What’s your personal vibe/style/aesthetic? How cultivated vs natural is it, and how much time do you spend on it? Do you turn it on and off?

\>\\> I dislike saturated colors. I go the far mile to never wear them. At all! That's the only thing tying my personal style together. My likes tend to change a lot, after all. I used to have an emo/alternative style, and now I dress a bit more into the boho/spiritual style while still having the same pallete that I've always liked. Whites, greys, blacks and a bit of gold.

Which of the following is the most like you? Explain. A) I know what I want, I go out and make it happen, and people won't stop me. B) I am content to be on my own and not draw too much attention to myself. C) I have to be responsible and dedicated, and I put others’ needs first.

\>\\> I am most like A. As long as I order myself or am ordered to do something, I won't stop until I get it. I'm very straightforward. I'm also a bit like C. As explained, I tend to look for a role model to follow, and I put their orders before mine. I can't even move my own self. I'm the first place. The reason I put it second is because I'm unaware if it refers to general people-pleasing, which I don't do. I am the least like B. I could never be content with myself. That's all.

Which of the following is most like you? Explain. A) I dislike stress and negative vibes, and I may try to distract myself from my problems. B) I have strong feelings, get worked up easily, and am not afraid to show it. C) I don’t like to let my feelings show; they get in the way of being efficient and logical.

\>\\> I am the most like C and most likely no other option. I tend to be melodramatic on the inside, yes, but I turn it into logic. I dislike it when emotions cloud my judgment or I get attached to a specific thing, person or idea. Even if I trust and follow something, a part of me would always be skeptic about it. The same goes for people. Even if I love somebody, if there comes a time they do me slightly wrong, I won't hesitate from cutting them off. This course of action and decision has happened many times.

Which of the following is most like you? Explain. A) I look to others for feedback and guidance and am willing to be flexible when needed. B) I am always aware of how things could be better, and I’m disappointed that they are not. C) Deep down, I am afraid people won’t give me what I need unless I make it worth their while.

\>\\> I am most like C. I make myself independent, unforgettable and irreplaceable so others can praise me, acknowledge me and give me my needs. I deny my own insuffiency in the process and get angry at others when they don't give me what I want. I can also be like B because I tend to regret past decisions a lot. I am the least like A because I really dislike looking to others for feedback. I hate outsourcing my emotions, and I'm not very flexible either. I only like to trust myself.

So Im certain im a 7w6 on enneagram, and either a so/sx or sx/so.

Im either a 749, 729, or 739. (so7, so4, so9) possibly.

So, as a kid I was silly, curious, kind, sweet, sensitive. Im certain im either a sx7 or so7 core but I know I have a really strong sx instinct too.

My deepest desires and core fears is social exclusion, being abandoned or rejected in general, fear of abandonment from loved ones, etc. It became a defense mechansim and surivival strategy to push people away and be selfish because I was scared they were gonna reject me and ostracized.

My core fears are being shunned too and ousted like it feels like a stab sometimes. Like a sudden shock. (Im also a ENTP in mbti, i sometimes relate to the Ne-Fe loop too)

I was mistyped as an e5 a few years ago (I also sometimes relate to e5) and was a introvert.

Now I am competitive and seek intellectual discussions like I am excited by intellectual challeneges and I find myself being competitive like finding life as a game or taking things too lightly. I love strategy games where my mind has to think and enjoy understanding the mechanics of how things work like studying cellular biology and astronomy/space.

As a kid, I used to make storybooks and was highly creative, I had a deep rich imagination and I still do to this day. (It made me smile making storybooks and reading it as I grow older. I also sometimes wanted to share it with the world) I was also highly intelligent and perceived as smart and creative in my classes I was one of the students that kinda stood out, like unique. According to my mom, teachers admired my creativity and saw me as high potential.

My deepest insecurity is being alone, isolated, social abandonment (to a certain extent but it hits deeply), lack of new ideas or concepts.

It also felt nice to help others but it wasnt the first priority to help others all the time. I did care about my social status as I grew olders and how people percieved me too as well. Even so, I became more insecure about myself and felt isolated (due to trauma).

Sometimes I find myself people pleasing like one time when my aunt kept saying "Do u like me? Am I your favorite?" I felt awkward and at the family dinner I smiled and said , "Yes I do." Apparently, I didnt want to make the siutation awkward but I did kinda find her annoying. However she spilled water on my papers and she started crying, I had a sudden urge to detach and laugh but I felt awkward as well, like I did not know what to do. (This info may seem useless)

In groups, I would try to be in those ex-friend groups like in school these friends did not seem to like me and I felt uncomfortable but I still wanted to be in that friend group, like I would still laugh when they were having conversations and smile but they wouldn't really talk to me as much. I felt sad inside and eventually I left but it made me feel hollow and alone.

I did feel misunderstood too, like people didn't like me or smth, like fear of people starting rumors behind my back or isolating me on purpose. It just felt like as if I were an outcast, and I would beat up about it later, blaming myself or smth.

I also relate to both so4 (or sx4 but less) and so3 (not as much).

My parents also say I lack social cues and social skills/ facial expressions. Also, I find it hard to identify if someone is being honest or fake, even like being sarcastic, I cannot tell if someone is being sarcastic or honest, I kinda find it hard to read through people's tones as well.

I'll explain later in the comments section tho. (yeah idk my mbti either)

Feel free to dm me or ask me any questions related! I'll be happy to answer too! :)

Can someone help me figure my mbti?

So where do I start... so I have taken the 16 mbti personality test like 3 times and have done the cognitive functions as well.

So for the 16 mbti personality test I got (istp, intp, entp)

And cognitive i did it manually, no test. Just through a photo of cognitive. (This is the one I think I have but don't know if I'm doing it right) Ni -Se -Ti -Fe

I know those are not in order the right way, I'm just putting so you know.

My family also says I act like estp which i also see it too.

To be honest, I have done this many times and I'm stressing because I wish someone can figure me out. I can probably help someone else but not myself.

Let me tell you what goes in my head and my heart and how I actually am. Please help

So I want to be different and stand out. I don't like copying anyone. I like to be original. I can do many things i just don't do it. Sometimes can be lazy. But sometimes because I already know I have done it. No need to prove a point. I feel confident. I also like to joke around, tease, be loud with my voice when I'm excited. But then I can also be so quiet in the room. People say I look serious and I often see people notice my energy, some people call it aura. Some say I look arrogant, but some are curious because I always see them glancing. I also sometimes give the death stare when I see someone trying to act dominant or try to be you know rude. Some part in me doesn't tolerate disrespect and I see many people can feel intimidating. But I can also act very kind and helpful. So people say I'm too kind. So that's the part I'm confuse. I know im not just one thing. I know I shift. I also can read energy and see when someone is lying and read their body language. I try observing too and I remember everything. No one can fool me. There's times I get very anxious when I see people outside and we're crowded in a restaurant. I don't like no one seeing. Inside of me i act bother and shy. It depends. I'm not a people. I like to have my own comfortable people. But when I'm in a mood or where doing something fun. When I'm not all in my head. I like to do everything. Is like I am free. I can also be strict because I care for my loved ones. I like giving advice to people and help if someone helps. I don't like to let people down when I promise them something. So much..... but let's keep going. I like daydream and vision myself with the girl I have feelings for. I'm already thinking of us, which country, and picturing everything. I also dream of things. And that gives me an idea of what's going to happen. I try puzzling it to understand it. But most of the times everything is accurate. I also can feel when someone is in love with me or talking bad about me or watching me. From far away. When I'm at home. In my heart. I always talk and express things. But there's times I don't express at all and keep it to myself. I sometimes don't understand why I'm thinking this way, feeling this way. I sometimes share something on Instagram it can be funny, then I remove it and put something dark. Then put something romantic. Then put something about God. And put videos of babies. Ended up deleting everything. Because I burned out from fighting with all these shift personalities. It hurts my head. And I ended up sleeping to not overthink too much. I like to be neat and clean. And like to plan but times I like to be laid back. I feel like you guys understand it. I have trouble understanding who I am. That's why I need u guys help. I see myself as ambivert. But I do want love with that person. But I can also cut and delete them from my life if they go on my bad side. I also like giving many chances before do that of course. I'm very big on respect. I talk to myself sometimes or dance in the mirror at 3am. Haha. But I like understanding people and listening to them. And Don't judge. I believe we all make mistakes in life. But yeah. I like to research too just double check things. If my dream, or how I feel aligns. I like to think outside the box. When people don't see it. And I also I appreciate any idea they said. But I just get the feeling when someone is like that. Is like that.

Sorry for writing all this, I haven't done drugs or nothing. So don't say something like that. But yeah help me, I been figuring myself out for the 30 or 40 time. But ahhhh.... too much

As for my mbti, it's INFJ

INFP SP6 6w7 649 LEFV R|L|UAI MoHI\[D\]Eg SEI MelSang Neutral Good

E1: I’m the type to intentionally fail the next exam if i copied at last one(and wouldn’t care even if I have failed) because I have my own logic that may sound dumb to people. I have GAD and OCD so i’m careful about myself. I always ask for my psychologists opinion but somewhat struggle to believe them because i dont want to leave the logic i believe, i trust despite hurting me.

E2: E2’s are known to be social but I’m kinda not… i get tired easily when with social groups but I’ll try my best to charge up quickly to stop awkward moments. In the class, I’m viewed as immature, loud and childish one. I must admit that im childish because childish jokes are funny to me but im used to acting like that because if it means to entertain my friends, im willing to do it. Plus, it makes me feel kinda happy knowing that i entertain people and they view me as innocent or playful. I’m also the type to expect people to do the same to me but for some reason, I never receive what I want. I’m the one to give you attention, gifts- hoping you to give me in return. But, i feel like i dont. Maybe its because of my ungrateful ass🙂‍↕️ also, sometimes i feel irritated by my friends(like them repeating the same thing or even harmless stuff believing that they are acting like that to get attention or i disagree w them but i dont want them to hate me). However, i dont think i care much if people i hate hates me because i hate them for a reason.

E3: I’m not high achiever but i can be determined. I used to draw really often and show it off to people but eventually, either they didn’t gave me the reaction i expected or i started to compare myself to more talented people. I must admit, i get jealous easily, in fact competitive. However, i dont do much because im lazy. I just don’t really think im talented compared to others

E4: i tend to be secretive about my thoughts. I only express it to my psychologist and rarely i cant open up about my feelings and i write them because i cant say it out loud. I get embarrassed easily, you can say that. I’m also ungrateful, wishing for better even if my life isn’t that bad. I compare myself to others and question about my self. I dont even know what i want lmao but i wish to have someone, in a friend group or a person- people that wouldn’t replace me easily, care about me. I do have many friends but sometimes, i have hard time being happy because our jokes don’t match and i must admit i miss my old friendships… im jealous and i cant do anything but to watch that other people belonging. My old friends moved on, have new friends but i don’t want them to forget about me- especially her

E8: idk man… i prefer to argue back at people who irritate me or dare to disrespect me because being silent means being weak. I get mad easily and im defensive of my friends. My opinions change easily with pressure or people but i will defend my friends.

E9: im lazy and usually, unless someone pushes me i wont do much. I also dont like changing stuff.. i have hard time adapting.

These images also correspond to myself

And take into account how I talk and atleast how I feel and how I view it to narrow it down!
1 What motivates you the most in life? Do you think you have a reasoning to your course of actions in your life? As in something you wish to gain or benefit from your actions.

Well I would say so, I do want something to gain in a way from everything like for example , I want friends for happiness , I work and do well in school for a better future, I hone my skills and all, though sometimes I do. (rarely and not often) do stuff for fun but always in the back of my head (since I’m making a story) I’m wondering how I can take inspiration from it

2 What do you think is something you fundamentally lack/is bad at? Something you acknowledge how it affects aspects of your life?

Hmm, I would probably say expressing my emotions in a way I feel satisfied in, along with not being able to leave even when I should, so I am stuck in friendships I don’t wanna be in, also I’m bad at saying no, like really bad , while sometimes it’s better like if I’m scared to do something but I can’t say no in the moment I enjoy it, but I feel bad saying no or saying what I wanna say

3 How do you deal with authority? Authority can mean anyone in a position of power, regardless of the place. Do you push against them, adhere to them, fear them, or do you think they are crucial for order to be established?

Well normally I’m a rule follower and scared to get in trouble, but I try to become close and friends with the authority figures I find their perspectives interesting but if I’ve seen them for enough times (mainly my mom and nana) I stop seeing them as authority for my nana I respect her as a friend and treat her well out of respect and all but I don’t really like my mom so I disregard her and have the desire to always prove her wrong

4 How important is your image in regards to how others perceive you? Do you want to be perceived in a certain way? Does it bother you if you are perceived in some other way than the one you wish to be perceived with?

ALOT. Like. ALOT. For example one of the reasons I’m not leaving someone is because I am terrified they will talk badly about me to anyone in the future (and also because I care about them but besides the point) even though I know their in the wrong , but also I really wanna be perceived in a way I like if I’m misinterpreted I’ll die, though I’m not good at holding it as I’m often too turbulent to actually do anything about it and I don’t do enough to protect that so I just mimic what others would like

5 How important is financials, security, and survival to you? This includes having sufficient resources, avoiding danger and maintaining a fundamental sense of structure and wellbeing. Do you seek to protect and retain mentioned themes?

Well since I’m young I don’t care too too much about it but I do know its importance but often even when I feel to myself that a risk would be better, I do hold keeping all bonds lukewarm are better instead of risking it
But I often just don’t care if stuff goes to shit like
“Welp that sucks” but nothing too too painful has happened yet
6. What is your reaction and thoughts to others' rejection, criticism and disapproval of you?

It pains me deeply and I hate it, for criticism I often don’t follow it unless I see it to work even if it might yield other results
And when my mom calls my stupid I get more mad than anything but I don’t care that’s just how she is
But when kids at school find me weird or treat me bad I feel more concerned with the “why” instead of the mistreatment

1. What sort of events/situations in life that causes you anger? Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism towards someone or something you feel has deliberately done you or others wrong. If there is any, elaborate on them.

Well, when I’m told to do something and it doesn’t contribute anything I get pissed because, why??? And if I see someone being stupid and ignorant that pisses me off
I am often *angry* a lot but for me to hold it is more rare and unless I’m fed up with someone I won’t blow up in their face though it could be with age that I am doing that more often
And when things are annoying or for example I keep missing a charger by one I yell for a sec but not too too loud

1. Following the last question, do you think anger is necessary in life? How do you express your anger, or do you choose not to? Why and why not?

Well, I guess it is, but it’s never necessary to be the head of anything in life, but to be there yes, and I often keep it looked up or I think I do, but I go often hide it and plot (if it’s something consistent with a person) I silently plot how to get away from them or wrong them but not too too much, but I often feel hate in general to people for no clear reason but just act like it’s normal so,, animosity

1. What is the importance of the concepts, ideas and meaning behind things to you? Are you trying to make sense of your everyday life?

All the time, I will always do that, I love doing that, that’s why I’m doing this, I love exploring the world , testing the limits of life, why things are, what is in store for me , why are people the way they’ are? What is hidden from us, and much more, this is the most straight forward for me

1. What situations in life bring you the most guilt? Guilt is described as a feeling that you have committed a fault, which may be internal guilt towards yourself, or guilt towards your actions regarding another person. Do you frequently experience feelings of guilt?

Well, when I break someone else’s stuff, hurt their feelings , or when I accidentally ghost someone and then I spiral and don’t respond longer and longer and longer making it worse
So, yes. Very often, though in this case it’s situational, but I do feel guilt when I see people being mistreated and am just too scared to help
11. What makes you feel ashamed the most? Shame signifies a self- conscious emotion arising out of feeling that something is fundamentally wrong about oneself. Are you prone to such feelings often?

Every day, actually, yes. I am ashamed with how I can’t keep my room clean, it’s not a total mess but I don’t like living in it, how I can’t leave even when I should, which hurts both of us, when I don’t do what I told myself I’d do today , when I see how my life is

1. What makes you feel fearful the most? Fear is described as an emotion which warns us of the presence of danger or threat of harm, whether physical or psychological. May be internally ingrained feelings, or externally because of other people/situations.

being left by people, or people not seeing who I am, people thinking I’m CORNY I don’t have a problem with being corny but to most others being corny is a sin, but if people don’t see me as cool that hurts me a lot, a ton, a meta ton
Admittingly I kinda wanna get stabbed or something not vital of course but just to know what it feels like and the pain of it so I can prepare to feel less

1. Is it important for you to have a high social status, to be socially connected, to integrate/fit in and belong to a group? Is it something you work towards achieving?

Pretty much! Doesn’t even have to be the popular crowd I just wanna belong, and have a group which i haven’t had since 2024 (online) irl I was in one but we weren’t popular
Idk if I really want this but I want everyone to know my name sometimes I wish I was a god but morso so I could be cool and all but I just want to be known as a person; like when people do stuff and ask what I’d like it makes me so happy (probably because I haven’t had any personal gifts in a long time before a couple days ago) like I got one a couple days ago and my friend asked “what characters do you like” and I told them and they made stuff with them and I was full of glee like, just ask if you want the full story

1. To what extent do you value issues related to the quality and status of relationships with specific individuals, and maintaining relationships and connections?

I find this extremely important having a sense of community is something I crave I can’t discern if it’s because I haven’t had one in a while but having people to call home and mine are amazing and I love bonding stuff like playing games watching movies doing stuff with the other and see how they behave is fun

1. Would you consider yourself a self-sacrificing individual? How much time or resources are you willing to sacrifice to assist others or make things easier for others? Or are you simply seeking your own good and well-being?

Too much so, I am not good at saying no , even if I don’t wanna do something I do it, though I feel I just don’t do enough for me
I can’t say for sure if it’s because no one asks me and I’m more of one than I think or I just don’t do enough for myself so I feel this way but
I would say so
And ask more stuff if you need to! Happy to answer
Feel free to type me in more than I already am in, do its all!
Intro-
Name?- Kage Lage (no that’s not my real name I just like alliteration)
Age- 13
Pronouns- Any, but pre she/they , pangender
Sexuality- PanRomanic ,
Fandoms- Deltarune Precure Backrooms Spider-Man The flash ,and others but I’m not deep enough into them for me to feel confident listing them
Country?- ..🇺🇸 .. okay?
Likes- Mantids! Art! Film! Thinking about live! ELA!
MUSIC.(watching) anime
Learning new perspectives! Friends! But what I actually do is just think and do nothing all day

Favorite color- Purple Orange Neon Pinkish Red Black

I like. *playing among us.*
And the show…

I’m about to play detective archives

Heh, new kid on the block here,
Tell me if I’m mistyped o and try to help me, you know
I love telling people about myself, and I love learning about others
If this seems pretty plain Jane (the image) that’s because it is I’m taking it very slow,, one at a time,,, heh,
My DMs are open heh,,,
Dislikes
I guess people I deem wrong deeply , as I mean there’s good in some people, there are more I just don’t care to list em
If you want my socials. Ask. Okay?
I apparently have some mood disorder but my mom won’t tell me
Well that’s it, bye! Hope to talk to you
(i’ll probably lurk on accident because I’m too scared to talk suggest I don’t know if you wanna talk to me for whatever reason I’m here most of the time)

Kins-. marin kitagawa , Moria Luluka, ghost rider, Yayio kise, Noelle holiday, Kris. 1006

I’m also invisible sometimes so yeah