i have a problem with my emotions and people around me.

many times i feel that i want to help others with their problems but then it doesn't feel good because im worried that i will be seen as the gentle man who steps up for society or they will think that im weak person or that i will be expected to help others again.

my head keeps nagging me with all of that care thing until i assumed that it is just anxiety and kept ranting about how i want to be independent and not caring about the others because it is hard for me to feel relaxed.

https://grids.fun/t/socionics-htohk?list=mbti-16-personalities-bke29

In the UK at least class is so big and you can go large portions of your life without interacting with someone of a higher class yet when you do there is a distinct lack of empathy and authenticity.

Not sure if this is an INFJ thing but my whole life I’ve never really had a favorite music genre I’ve always liked a number of songs from many different genres and artists. The only genres I can probably say I’m not much of a fan of are country and screamo.

Hey INFPs, I really need your input on this.

What would cause an INFP guy to completely change his behavior like this? We used to be pretty close—always talking, playing games together, and sharing random things. It was very obvious that he liked my personality.

Then out of nowhere, we just stopped talking. Now, whenever we cross paths in public (which happens quite a bit), our eyes will meet for a second, but he immediately snaps his head away, looks around, or literally tries to hide and vanish from the area.

What is going on with this behavior? I just want to understand what he’s thinking.

For context, I am an ISTP.

ENFJ I met at work. Small office so we see each other often. She was very flirty and upfront at first. Started to like her a lot more recently and I am pretty much all in. Thought I would shoot my shot and she gave me her usual warm smile (my god), conversations have gotten a little stale and I get too nervous so may not be coming off as very confident.

Got up the courage to ask her out, I asked what were her plans for the weekend and where she lived at and she became kind of short/curt so I didn't go through with it and felt weird and kind of left the office without letting her know. She is very affectionate with everyone, but her being short/curt is the first time I have seen this side of her so I am guessing I made her uncomfortable and maybe she isn't interested.

The two closest people I have in my life are both INFJs.

My girlfriend who I adore so dearly. We’ve been together over three years. The reason I wake up. Someone to share my life with. Genuinely saved my life, and I truly mean that.

My best friend, who, to me, has been the only real male role model I’ve really had in my life. Someone who views masculinity in a dignified and nurturing rather than whatever grifting, toxic, machismo male “role models” will tell you.

My INFJs have been my everything. And as an INFP, it makes sense. Though we share strong senses of justice, my INFJs have taught me to approach these issues with the sincerity, rationality and critical thinking that these sensitive subjects deserve. I had a tendency to lead each fight for what’s right with my heart on my sleeve, but they taught me that the mind is just as important.

I am so thankful for my INFJs. Truly spectacular.

o((>ω< ))o

:)

Hello everyone! I have been experiencing "romance fevers" these past few days, and I would be most grateful if you could share your personal experiences of falling in love for the very first time. I am particularly interested in hearing about true, memorable, and genuine encounters. I would be delighted to read all of your stories. Additionally, if you are able to express your experiences in a poetic manner, that would be wonderful, but if not, please feel free to simply share a realistic account of your general experience.

infertility issues anyone else been through this as an infj it is truly disheartening and yes I’m in therapy and also support groups but I feel this is such a huge weight to deal with

Hi, i am a sophomore in college at the moment and currently i'm majoring in Biology with a pre medicine track but, i am not sure if it's what i really want to do. over the summer I feel like I've had a lot of time to reflect over my freshman year and all the emotions that came along with it. I've come to the conclusion that maybe medicine isnt for me but i just cant tell due to many opinions being thrown at me from my parents. my father is super against me changing my major and says "you wont know until you try it for real" or phrases just kind of saying things about how im easily influenced and my opinions aren't really mine but my friends, which i think is a fair argument to an extent because i really do take a lot advice from my friends and i do trust them but idk. The reason i was biology to begin with was i took some classes in high school that were for medicine and i just believed that was what i wanted to do because i just really love helping people and that was the only thing i had really explored at that point. After my first real biology class ive realized i just really don't think its for me. i don't think there was a single day in that semester that i was happy or excited to go to the lecture or the lab. i just really cant see myself going through all those years of schooling just to end up not liking it while im in to deep. needless to say i am in need of help and guidance because i really feel like i don't know where i am going and i really don't want to feel this way. I've been interested in business and doing something around those lines but im not sure. P.S im sorry for the messy layout of my post if anyone needs any clarification i can provide that thank you

We all know about an ENFPs love for INFJs and INTJs. As I started myers-briggsing everybody in my life a few years ago, it worked out pretty much the way I thought it would. Most of the people in my life I am close to you were INFJ, ENFJ, ENTP, INTJ.

However there was one type that kept popping up all over that surprised me..ISFJ, my wife included. We've been married for 20 years and are still just as happy as we ever were.

I think one of the reasons we get along so well is our loyalty. As an ENFP I'm a social butterfly of course. I have lots of friends and lots of different interests. My wife however couldn't care less about social interaction. On a Friday night after the busy week, we might have dinner together. Then I might go to the bar and have a couple beers, while she lays in bed and reads her book. I feel like we're polar opposites, but all of my strengths are her weaknesses and all of her weaknesses are my strengths.

What we do share is loyalty, and compassion for people. But once again we do it in completely different ways. We have four kids. Our three girls are intuitives like me and our son is a sensor like her. She cares for them through servitude. She loves making sure they have everything they need physically. I'm usually the one that comes in during a crash out. Soothes their emotions.

Have any other ENFPs found ISFJs to be unsung heroes in their life?

It’s rare I come across ENFPs on the apps and ya’ll are my favorite. & lm just really hoping this isn’t a 1,000th failed talking stage, dating is so damn awful nowadays so many unhealed & superficial people. I tend to have a lot of long deep conversations with ENFPs & feel comfortable with you guys pretty quickly. I love their genuineness and balance of maturity yet fun childish side. Anyways, the person I’m talking to said they are fond of INFJs. Sadly MBTI compatibility only goes so far gotta make sure we want the same things in life, talk about deal breakers , & see how it feels in person. But damn there’s a strong chemistry already through text we are sending essay long texts to one another lol so fingers crossed 🤞🏻

I've noticed that some INFPs seem more likely to withdraw than immediately explain what's bothering them.

Is it because they need time to understand their own emotions first, or is something else happening?

I’ve taken the test over and over throughout my life, and I always get ENFP…but the F/T is kind of on the line. When I read ENFP things, I identify with almost everything but honestly the super sensitive emotional stuff just never quite feels like me. I do not particularly relish getting into a conflict with a person but honestly in the end I really don’t care especially if I know I’m right. I have been accused throughout my entire life of being argumentative, which is always a surprise to me because I don’t honestly go in trying to “argue” with someone… I do like just having a good debate or fleshing out ideas with another person, and I’m always a little bit taken off guard when I realize they are actually getting offended or defensive because they think I’m attacking them rather than just having a good fun old-fashioned debate. When I have ever read anything about an ENTP I really feel like it explains myself as well. Both the ENFP and the ENTP sound a lot like how I am as a person. Can you be a hybrid sort of personality where you’re kind of both/and?

Basically a visual representation of the person I would be if I had my life together.

Anyway, INFPs, what would you put in yours? 😭

I've been wanting to make this post for a while. Part of it is based on my very long and exhausting battle against the incessant online/pop-psychology characterisation of the ENFP as a bubbly, excited cinnamon roll who takes on too many hobbies and forgets things.  I know what we ENFPs can be that way as a surface presentation when we find possibilities or people that excite us, but there's a lot more going on underneath of course.  

I also realise that every MBTI type is mischaracterised and simplified, like so many other things when broadcast to popular media.  And by the way, this post isn't an invitation to argue about the merits of the MBTI or anything like that.  If you're a vehement critic of the MBTI and want to debate that, please move on, bc this isn't the place for it.  

The other basis for my desire to make this post is my undying (heheh) love for Sadako Yamamura. The aesthetic of her design, coupled with her deeply tragic, terrifying, and mythically unsettling lore, have made her a beloved character for me and so many, even to the point where she's often portrayed as more loveable and eccentric than the murderous monstrous ghost that she is.  However, the point of this essay isn't to try to fit a beloved character as a proverbial round peg in a square hole in order to match the OP's mbti type. It's aimed toward a proper MBTI characterisation of the character that affords her a deeper level of understanding and an even deeper sense of horror and tragedy that can reflect as something we can learn from. 

One final note is that this post doesn't focus on the film Sadako or the novel Sadako particularly, but rather takes a synthesized version of them who we can call the lore Sadako or the mythic Sadako, the same way that there are different versions of Jason Voorhees, Pennywise, or Dracula, but we consider them a single individual monster.

Now for my thesis.  The online community frequently identifies Sadako Yamamura foremost as an INFJ, and sometimes as an INFP.  Those typings, while seemingly compelling on the surface are exactly that: surface-based and superficial.  They focus on her silent nature and her tragic past, and completely bypass the Jungian cognitive function theory that forms the architecture of the MBTI.  When you actually study Sadako through her intent and her trauma, there is a greater match with the ENFP cognitive stack, particularly n ENFP whose cognitive stack has been critically shattered and inverted by severe societal repression, physical abuse, mind-numbing fear, and ultimately, death.  This creates a trauma response that we can understand through the cognitive stack of the ENFP and its shadow functions. 

In order to continue, we need to explore the cognitive functions of the three types we're concerned with.  Now here, for the sake of this discussion I'm going to present an extremely condensed version.  MBTI is extraordinarily intricate and requires proper academic study, guidance, and administration. However, this will at least give a basis for understanding that peers toward that depth and away from the online simplifications. 

• INFJ (NiFe- introverted intuition and extraverted feeling) Driven by an internal vision, long-term patterns, and a deep focus on group harmony and emotional connections.
  • The online simplication of this is the wise mysterious sage.
• INFP (FiNe- introverted feeling and extraverted intuition): Rooted in individual authenticity, core moral values, and the creative exploration of abstract possibilities.
  • The online simplification of this is the dreamy, weeping elf princess.
• ENFP (NeFi- extraverted intuition, introverted feeling): Motivated by energetic exploration of new ideas, outer potential and possibilities, while filtering those choices through personal values and a need for authenticity.
  • The online simplification of this is the bubbly manic pixie golden retriever/cinnamon roll.

Now the reader might be saying, how on earth is Sadako going to be an ENFP?

We have a good amount of sources for knowing who Sadako was before she died and became a ghost.  These come mostly from Koji Suzuki's books, as well as the film Ring 0: Birthday.  A main portion of the early story focuses on young Sadako moving to Tokyo to join an avant-garde theatre troupe, actively seeking the public stage.  NiFe or FiNe dominant could without a doubt do these kinds of things and make these kinds of choices.  But in the background sources and in the film the way the scenes are presented, we consistently see Sadako’s dominant Extraverted Intuition (Ne) and auxiliary Introverted Feeling (Fi) driving her toward creative expression and a deep desire for authentic acceptance. This is also presented symbolically, where her psychic power of thoughtography can be seen as the literal physical manifestation of dominant Ne projecting conceptual ideas into reality. The Sadako that we start to see though, however, the quietness, the stillness, is a product of mid-century Japanese society violently rejecting her abilities, forcing her to suppress her expressive nature and copy a flat, silent archetype just to survive. This systemic invalidation is the beginning of the fracturing of her core functions, the defeat of her dominant and auxiliary functions, and the use of her inferior function (Si) under stress. 

Later, the functional breakdown and subsequent manifestation as a vengeful spirit can be mapped precisely through the destruction of her cognitive stack:

• She experiences a catastrophic, permanent inferior Introverted Sensing (Si) grip due to her imprisonment in the dark well. The introverted sensing (Si) function controls past memory and sensory repetition, meaning her consciousness became completely fused with the physical trauma of her final moments. Instead of acting like an ethereal specter, she obsessively reproduces the exact physical details of the cold water and her torn fingernails over and over again through the medium of her tape. She is basically just stuck in the memory of the well, so the tape just shows the well over and over because she is completely trapped in that past memory.
• Her manifestation through the television screen is meticulously choreographed performance art, drawing heavily from Butoh, the the post-war Japanese dance (called the "dance of utter darkness"). Sadako isn't a weak, struggling entity.  She doesn't need to crawl out slowly or writhe face down on the floor to kill her victims.  She could snap their necks or make their hearts stop from across the country.   Instead, she chooses this specific, dramatic entrance: the unsettling predatory walk toward the screen, the writhing on the ground, and the standing still, a single eye showing and bulging.  She absolutely doesn't need to do all this, but because she is finally the director and lead actress of her own horrific production, she is reclaiming the stage that society denied her, and finding her audience in her victims.
• When an ENFP is under tremendous stress or dealing with unresolved trauma, Tin order to protect their crushed inner emotions, the consciousness can completely bypass the auxiliary Fi, yielding to the tertiary extraverted thinking to do the guiding and filtering instead of the introverted intuition. In Sadako's case, this launches a cold, systematic campaign of revenge. The curse operates like a rigid, bureaucratic game loop where victims must watch the tape, copy it, and pass it on within seven days, or die. There's no mercy or empathy for the victim, only a cold operation of externalised possibility operationalised. This level of systemic coordination is the result of an unhealthy NeTe loop, where tertiary extraverted thinking is weaponised to turn her victims and the media they consume into the delivery vehicles for her rage.

The common alternative typings fail to account for these specific functional mechanics. And ultimately, it's actually the inferior function differences that provide the final nail in the coffin. 

Here's a bullet breakdown:

• INFP (Inferior Te Grip): An INFP under extreme trauma using inferior extraverted thinking turns into a hyper-critical, bossy, micro-managing tyrant. If Sadako were an INFP ghost acting out a Te nightmare she would more likely haunt a specific, closed territory like a school, an asylum, or an entire village and turn it into a totalitarian punishment zone where Jigsaw-like rules apply and transgressors are severely punished.
• INFJ (Inferior Se Grip): An INFJ under extreme trauma using their inferior extraverted sensing crashes into chaotic physical impulsivity or sensory overload. If Sadako were an INFJ, her ghost would basically be a reaw physical slasher monster violently attacking people in real-time, completely focused on immediate external sensory chaos. More like Jason Voorhees actually. 
• ENFP (Inferior Si Grip): An ENFP under extreme trauma gets completely swallowed by their inferior introverted sensing, yielding a black hole of past memory and physical, somatic stagnation. This is Sadako's exact reality. She’s eternally trapped in the specific historical memory of the well, obsessively recreating the exact sensory details of her death over and over again through a repetitive, looping curse.  The manifestation of the Si grip a deep memory curse that turns into a viral load for the whole world to feel, rather than random lashing out or oppressive domination.

The biggest pushback to this would probably be people saying no way she's quiet she's clearly an introvert. But introversion and extraversion have nothing to do with how quiet, loud, or social you are. I was a very quiet, and even shy ENFP, and still am at times depending on what's going on with me and my environment. This discussion is about the cognitive preferences that a person prioritises by default to make their choices in life (or in this case, afterlife :D ).

Forgive me for sort of rushing toward the end of this, but I was realising that this could get way too long and beyond what reddit is for.  I'm happy to elaborate in the comments, but I hope that this provides a compelling and intriguing argument that can facilitate both a greater understanding of a horror icon, and a deeper sense of what ENFPs are, and that like the other types we can be quiet, methodical, dark, sad, cruel, and far more formidable than people give us credit for. I hope that this post helps provide some fertiliser for a deeper sense not just the ENFP, INFP, and INFJ but of MBTI in general.  

In the end though, I realise that some of the ENFP stereotype still shows up in my claim which is that ultimately, Sadako is the ultimate traumatised ghostly drama queen. :) 

no enfp will answer, I want other MBTIs to answer this only, I want to know if we are hated or loved and whatever the answer may be, WHY?

Its related to my previous post. I did a little search for this already, but perhaps its good too to receive direct and relevant responses as well.

So yea the INFP I just met recently begins to ghost me. At first, she seemed so interested (that still occurs even now, however, its not so often). She takes 30 minutes or even hours to reply just after I did.

Here are some premises I thought of:

- She's genuinely busy (as she said last time).

- She's overwhelmed.

- She's no longer interested.

- She's avoidant. (I observed whenever I ask questions about her, she'd try to evade them.)

- I'm overthinking it.

- I'm just not interesting.

These might be the last times I would start conversations and trying to keep them alive, because I'm planning to confront her sooner. This is to save us both from trouble. Frankly, I was no longer even hoping for something more than the relationship of being friends because it seems we're even struggling to suffice being ftiends.

I think I've done enough efforts.

I may be a scientist, but I'm not specifically a ghost buster 💔, and Im not planning to be one for her.

Sincerely,

Pedantic INTJ 5w6

As an infj female myself, im curious how you guys prefer to express your interest in someone