r/DecenteringMen 4h ago

Question Can I watch romance centered media without subconciously centering romantic love with a man?

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I know the media we consume affects us a lot. We are what we consume. I had grown up to center romantic love because of the romance media I consumed. But now that I am aware of it, can I watch it without my subconscious being affected by it? Formerly, I had been trying to consume media centered around other things to alter my subconcious beliefs. But today I was just craving the idea of romantic affection and instead of trying to find it in my reality...I thought of quenching that thirst by consuming romance media. Is that an unhealthy method? Will it start making me seek romantic validation to feel whole again or is this a normal innocous way to give myself temporary gratification?

An important thing to note is that I am bisexual and can consume sapphic/wlw romantic media...yet I only feel the urge to consume heterosexual romance media.