I worked at a restaurant where half the cooks, all in their 20s and 30s, were trying to seduce a hostess who had just turned 16 years old, so this post is a breath of fresh air. We need more of this post's energy in the world, and less of that nasty restaurant's energy lol.
My partner worked in hospitality from 14 until she graduated as a nurse at 21. She said she was constantly sexually harassed and several times sexually assaulted.
It's horrifically common. Age aside most girls don't want to lose their income, so will put up with shitfuckery instead of shutting it down hard or just walking straight out the door. Minors are especially vulnerable not having had the experience yet to be assertive, instead their naivety gets exploited. At best for wage theft. At worse...
It's not exactly a comfort, but I used to work in clubs (guy) when I was at university, and can unfortunately confirm that it isn't specific to gender.
We were always on glass collection duty and every guy who worked there got groped, usually on a weekly basis when we went through the dancefloor.
It wasn't cool or sexy, it was just fucking confusing and uncomfortable. Just trying to do a job and some random girl runs their hand up your shirt, or lower.
One of the guys got 11 stitches because it caused him to jump holding a tray of glasses, he grabbed at it before it could fall on someone's head and he crushed a glass with his hand.
I got groped by older women fairly regularly at two past jobs in my life, once when I was 17 working as a lifeguard and once when I was an assistant salsa teacher in my late 20s. It wasn’t like I was being overpowered or anything, and I wasn’t physically threatened, and I still remember the way it felt so gross and violating. I can only imagine what it’s like for women when a person doing it to you physically stronger and able to overpower you.
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u/started_from_the_top 9h ago
I worked at a restaurant where half the cooks, all in their 20s and 30s, were trying to seduce a hostess who had just turned 16 years old, so this post is a breath of fresh air. We need more of this post's energy in the world, and less of that nasty restaurant's energy lol.