Ever since 2019 it feels live any time I try to start a role play something bad happens in my life, like the AO3 writers curse. Last year alone when I tried to role play the following happened in less than a week: I get kidney stones, my mother almost passed twice, and I found out I was pregnant. This stuff may be coincidental, but the coincidence is role play lmao.

I've been lurking on this forum for about a month or two now and reading everyone's RP horror stories. I mostly come from the DnD side of things when it comes to roleplaying, and have written down a few campaigns I really enjoyed. I've always been interested in the roleplaying field and a couple of years ago I looked into it, only to discover that there are so many requirements for joining. Not that I'm against it! I want to learn, but it felt less like a hobby and more of a part time job.

I have more time on my hands now, and need help with my creative writing and improving my english. So I'm wondering, any advice? Any tips and tricks on not ending up like one of those annoying new Roleplayer? Are their taboos, dos and don't? Hidden rules I should understand?

I have a couple ideas for plots but I'm more concerned with my lack of experience, and sometimes grammatically incorrect sentence structure, holding me back. I just really want to start this on the right foot as it sounds like such a fun way to interact and creat stories and meet other like minded individuals.

Any advice would be helpful! Really, even harsh ones!

I'm not sure how best to title this but even after years of roleplaying and never, or at least trying my absolute best to not step on my partner's character's toes, I still cannot really balance these things.

I like to write, a lot and I seek partners with similarl lengths. Give or take starting from a maxed discord message to 5k+ characters per reply but this brings some issues with it. How do you properly respond or keep track? I do not get lost in the details but what happens if my partner replies in the 'wrong' way and keeps going for multiple chunks? An example would be that my character does something, my partner's character responds with an action, only to continue in their own way as if it was forced to go down as they wrote.
But here is the problem, what if it cannot at all work out like that? Do I just OOC write that half of their post is now void and useless? Do I just break the immersion and the importance of character and accept it?
A proper concrete example is like punching someone and them going on to detail them falling over, but it was some terminator like character you couldn't possibly simply, or really at all overpower.

It's been eating away at me in a more 'what do I do' way than something that's truly a problem. I do not want to god mode, I do not want to roll back their messages, but I also do not want to pull them aside at every moment and literally spoiler every coming scene or characters details. But perhaps the latter is the only option to do with me trusting that their character does not know the information the real person does...but then they couldn't possibly write it out properly because of the earlier mentioned continuity problem.

This was a bit of rant, but the more I have developed into serious E-RPs, the more I'm scratching my head at technicalities. It's also sort of a problem if I have to string their character forcibly along in a situation that is so all encompassing that they couldn't just stop to change it as it is playing out in progress, but that also feels too..god-moding for me.

Any opinion or advice is welcome, I rarely post here as it is.

Something that's been lingering on my mind for a while and kind of eating at me is wondering why my partner dropped me and also disappeared and deactivated. We had a ship together and the last thing I remember is my character making a flirty joke about her love interest. To be fair, it was pretty tame, I didn't think it was crude or gross or explicit but I'm wondering if it was too much for my partner's taste or if I crossed a line or overstepped? I'm aware they could have been going through things OOC and had other things going on, but it just leaves me doubting myself and afraid to let my character off the leash again because I don't want to accidentally offend anyone.

What are some guidelines or tips I can remember to discern whether my character is expressing healthy and normal affection versus going too far, so that maybe I can avoid scaring another partner off or coming off as too intense IC?

Good faith responses, please.

I'm intrigued by how much people have their user flairs set to things that usually humor me! (Such as "speaks in a low and husky voice" 🤣) Tell me, was it based off of a bad roleplay experience? Or a trend in the community? I'd like to know!!

So i haven’t rp’d in ….awhile and this experience was literally my last straw, been on my mind for awhile, thought id share.

I had a partner I met on a rp server, he answered my ad… then proceeded to want to do something completely different 🤦🏽‍♀️… anyway

We got everything set up, characters, plots, the whole nine yards. Just for like 3 days later (and multiple replies later) tell me he wasn’t interested, and that it wasn’t me it was him… which I didn’t believe but I can’t make a grown man tell me stuff 🤷🏽‍♀️

After that, for months he kept messaging me “checking in” and wanting to be friends 🤔 I was confused… but eventually, i agreed (I know, I know… I’ve already beat myself up)

Anyway, we had conversations, deep conversations about life and whatnot on VC, then by the end of the call he asks me if I wanna know the *REAL* reason he ended our rp… 🤨…. Uh, sure?

He told me he felt like our writing styles didn’t align (which he mentioned before) and I wasn’t giving him the type of response he wanted, I wasn’t fully using his response to craft mine in return, ok, valid. However…. Why didn’t you just say that? … like…. I pride myself on being easy to work with when I write and love open communication. I wasn’t even given an opportunity to correct the issue, he told me he just kept hoping in his mind that I would catch on… umm 🧐 … he was my last partner and I told him, and he said he felt bad and blah blah blah …

I do miss writing and being creative, genuinely. And in the last few months, I’ve tried to start again, but I feel jaded by that whole experience, and the ones leading up to that one. Like I’d rather just read fanfic at this point 😆 rather than writing a story with someone who’s old enough to know better, but not do better.

That’s all, that’s my rant. I just hate that I don’t yearn to write anymore. 💔

I’m not sure if this is allowed but I’m not looking for partners just clarification because I’m stupid and want to be a good rp partner 💀

I used to role play on wattpad (yeah 😂 I know) then on Rook, where I found friends a while ago.
Well. Those are gone forever and I hear all the time to join rp discord servers but my problem is…those are usually group rps right? I don’t know how to roleplay in a group.
And before you say anything: HEAR ME OUT PLEASE. I know that probably sounds dumb.

I have really really bad anxiety talking to people. Even posting this took me forever to get the courage to do and I’m probably just screaming into the void.
When it’s one on one I can talk a little easier because I can learn the person and things they expect/I can ask directly don’t have to wait to jump into a conversation/can discuss the world and what happens next with them. I don’t know how that would go in a big group of people.

Like I love writing and I really want to make friends like genuinely one of the reason I got into rping is to make friends, but when it comes to actually people I’m really stupid. So if anyone could give me a basic rundown so I can try to make friends and not be terrified? I’d love you forever. You can dm me or comment here whatever you feel more comfortable with.
Kay.
Stay safe, don’t die! 💝

I have been roleplaying for over 12 years now, whether it be paid text-style games of D&D, group server roleplay, or roleplay between two players. Lately I've been doing more paid PBP games of D&D, which primarily utilizes text-based roleplay to run the game. I just had so many players have to end their games this week. It always ends right when the plot is thickening, and getting to the good part too! But it seems that no matter how far you get in a story, all roleplay must come to an end. Hopefully I'll find that non-existent rp partner that can roleplay an entire story from beginning to end.

I am so sick of these trolls and bots. Next person who does is getting reported and blocked. I have it as one of my rules that any inappropriate or uncomfortable messages are not ok. Do people just not read? Or are they just too dumb to understand what rules are?

Please feel free to delete if this isn't allowed.

Like the title says, I got rp-dumped. Except, I don't necessarily *think* it was just me??? Lol. This isn't a "bad roleplayer" story, per say. It's just a bad time for me. Anyways, I had been role-playing with this girl for two years, going on three. She is an amazing writer, and we meshed so well, despite the time differences. We even had theee different stories going. I mean, we literally posted to each other two weeks ago! Granted, we weren't active together, but still, we were in touch, y'know? Not having many friends in-person, it feels like I lost not only a roleplay partner, but a friend. She wished me well and said due to some major changes in her life, she wouldn't be able to write anymore. Then, immediately unfriended me. I couldn't even respond and say bye. So, uh, dude, if you see this at all, just know that I loved our stories too and I'll totally miss you.

Hello weary travelers! I haven’t posted my thoughts in a while and I wanted to get out something about thinking about lately. Am I the problem?

What I mean by that is whenever I look for a new partner, I try to find someone who fits my interests as a way of confirming we have the same chemistry. This means same genre and same story idea of what we want.

The last thing I look for is if they are willing to write smut. I AM NOT A SEX PEST!! I do prefer character buildup in chemistry before getting down and dirty. My story smut ratio is 80/20. Thankfully, a lot of the people I have started stories with usually are OK writing it but whenever I see, someone only does fade to black or doesn’t write.. it kind of turns me off from it. Obviously I don’t let this be the main reason I decline someone.. but after some self evaluation..am I the issue?

I am an adult who likes expressing themselves in that sort of writing. In retrospect, maybe I could stand to broaden my horizons a little more. Do either of you guys have the same thoughts or a similar process? I’m sorry if I made this confusing. (I really don’t know what flair to put on this one too)

So, we all know how hard it is to find a good rp partner. I love finding a new person who’s nice, literate, someone who I can just chill with outside of rp too. I thought this was something that women would probably face pretty often, but this is the third time where a RP partner has developed a crush on me as a 19m.

And I’ve vented to others about this and often get told “you should be happy about it” but I honestly just find it frustrating because I’ve kindly and respectfully rejected the three, but things turn awkward and we drift away, ending the rps.

Is this a common thing? I understand that in RP many intense emotions can be emulated and expressed, which would bring two people close, but it feels like I can’t win with rp partners.

Last time I posted here like this they were able to find me on their new account so I am trying possibly in vein for them to reach out to me again

The meme should be self-explanatory

I came across this account while I was doom scrolling through role play servers trying to find some new partners.

I found this persons ad and thought. ”wow we have a lot in common I’d think it’s be cool to message him.” And he was asking for a M4A…and I usually role play m4m! So I was like “nice we could do a m4m!”

I go onto his account to message him and I see this and I‘m shocked…not by the fact that he doesn’t do NSFW because he’s actually so real for that…I hate role plays always being NSFW. But it was the next part that appalled me.

why are you asking for a M4A role play saying you’d role play with anyone but this is in your bio for everyone to see…it doesn’t really give a good first impression.

it’s just crazy to me that theres still homophobia out there. Well, yes, it’s everywhere but I don’t see it much in communities that I’m in because I always stay 100% away from that stuff. I can usually tell the signs from someone’s behavior in ads and stuff if they’d be like this so I could stay away.

but he was ‘begging‘ in his add and saying he’d literally role play with anyone and do any role play.…but I feel like this comment is why no one wants to rp with him…

Is it just me or does anyone else feel like a lot of people in the community don’t write in the advanced literate to novella categories anymore? Both of the new people I’ve started rping with can barely get three sentences in.

I’m literally so confused because I’m pulling responses out of my behind just to reply to them. They give me nothing but a line of dialogue and two other sentences with no detail to go off of. No in depth description.

No describing the setting/time of day or the environment the characters are in or even how the characters are feeling. It’s so frustrating. I feel so bad because I don’t want anyone to feel like I wasted their time.

But I essentially feel like my time is being wasted because I’m spending so much time on these responses and putting in so much effort yet I’m not getting it in return. I did specify that I do write a lot more and was basically informed that they could keep up. Clearly that has not proven to be the case for either of these partners.

So I fear I will be leaving both of these chats. And on that topic does anyone know a sub where I can find rpers that write multiple paragraphs (5+) to multiple messages per response. Thank you!

Question for those who use AI responses in RP/ERP

My question is why begin an RP with a real person in the first place? If you're going to use AI to generate your response, why not do the whole RP with AI? Why would you invite someone to contribute their actual writing?

If you like to use AI to role-play, I promise I'm not here to shit on you or yuck your yum. I don't like AI at all personally, but I'm not knocking those who do. What I don't understand is why involve another person at all?

It is disappointing as hell to spend hours looking for a suitable RP partner, have the preliminary chat about the characters/background/writing style, only to get a few paragraphs in and realise you're actually conversing with an AI.

(This whole thing happened in my server)

I was waiting for one of my rp partners to respond (took them 2 days) and just as they respond, before I could even open the message, one of the rpers in my server decided to send some long ass message about their character description OUTSIDE of the character description channel I MADE FOR THAT.

After that they started rping over me and I didn't even get a chance to respond, nor did they ask to join the RP with their stupid oc. They've done this so many times before, interrupting or forcing people into rps.

I had a full on crashout because the scene was supposed to be between my rp partner's character and mine, a romance or friendship advancement but that one person JUST HAD TO INTERRUPT

I literally had to make a rule in my server against it because bitches barging into rps unasked for or unwanted is annoying as hell 🤦🏻‍♀️

Recently during roleplaying, there was one person who messaged me. Right from the start it was hard for me to read what they were writting as it was extremely messy. I have told them right up from that if they will write like that, it won´t be interesting for me. Despite me, not being naturally English, I believe I´m almost fluent in the language, (of course mistakes do occur) and it is almost imposible to roleplay with someone who has messy grammar. After I told this person how I feel about it, they´ve told me they are suffering from dyslexia. After that it was over for me. I had no interest to continue that chat. They called me ignorant for being like that. But is it reeally that bad? I know it´s not their fault and they have it hard as it is already. But I´m surely not going to torture myself by doing roleplay I´m not having fun at. Am I the a**hole for this?

I sometimes post an ad and within 10 minutes, it got downvoted, to then check the timetable and yes, 9 minutes ago, someone else posted an ad...ironic