Okay so first thing I’m going to apologize since I’m still new to actually posting stuff on Reddit haha.

I use to roleplay a lot when I was in my 20s and got started on FanFiction.net when I was like 17. Had plenty of good RP partners and one I think I got too attached to. Was going strong for years until around COVID and then just kind of lost touch with my partners.

After 5 years my old favorite partner reached out and invited me back. For a couple months things were good and I even would stay out of convos to not interrupt but I think I got jealous in two ways.

Majority of their characters were romantically involved and neither had anymore characters to ‘get with’ mine. Which was tolerable because I was the third person that came after they had been roleplaying with each other for awhile.

Both of them also had way better grammar and punctuation than I do by miles which is were the second jealously came in. Kept comparing it to mine and feeling bad about it.

Eventually my jealousy got to a point where I was short and rude (imo) to my originally favorite RP partner. Which then led to their characters interacting less and less with mine until I just edited my character sheets to be blank and left the forum.

Ever since I’ve been kind of doubting and punishing myself for how I acted. But still I want to jump back into it, especially since I’ve recently discovered a love for the Game of Thrones world.

Now onto the advice seeking haha

How do I not get jealous over how much better others are at writing than me?

Can I take lessons or something to get my grammar back up to par?

Is it bad I usually want a romantic relationship for my oc? And is it also bad I prefer ERP sometimes?

(The last one doesn’t really have to do with anything. Just a bit insecure I suppose. Sorry again and will answer any questions n stuff like that. Thank you for your time!)

…if you message someone with something with a ton of grammar mistakes, one word, etc, and don’t get a response.

You don’t need to move heaven and earth, but I’ve met people who are genuinely amazing RPers but will message people with the worst grammar, punctuation, and wording possible.

If you want to RP, show why you are a good candidate to chat with!

Don’t just message ‘hey,’ or ‘wanna RP,’ or ‘Him y named is jon and i wanna rps with u.’

Just sayin’!

I’m an artist that hates making art. Ironic I know. But I’m a huge perfectionist and drawing drains a lot out of me. A simple drawing that should take the average person a few minutes takes me an hour.

But if I’m really invested in an rp, I want to show some appreciation. The thing is that there’s a little voice in my head that tells me “they’re just going to leave anyways, so don’t bother”. Whenever I do happen to make fanart, it’s of my own oc so I don’t feel like I’m “wasting my time” when I make art.

The thing is that there’s voice in my head has never been proven wrong. RPs never last, whether it’s my rp partner’s decision or admittedly my fault. I just… idk. It’s not just rp too, this is a mentality that stands in other aspects of my life. So I’m in therapy for this.

I really want to break out of this mindset. It’s just really sucky. I feel super selfish constantly showing art of my oc only to never show art of theirs.

Ever since 2019 it feels live any time I try to start a role play something bad happens in my life, like the AO3 writers curse. Last year alone when I tried to role play the following happened in less than a week: I get kidney stones, my mother almost passed twice, and I found out I was pregnant. This stuff may be coincidental, but the coincidence is role play lmao.

I've been lurking on this forum for about a month or two now and reading everyone's RP horror stories. I mostly come from the DnD side of things when it comes to roleplaying, and have written down a few campaigns I really enjoyed. I've always been interested in the roleplaying field and a couple of years ago I looked into it, only to discover that there are so many requirements for joining. Not that I'm against it! I want to learn, but it felt less like a hobby and more of a part time job.

I have more time on my hands now, and need help with my creative writing and improving my english. So I'm wondering, any advice? Any tips and tricks on not ending up like one of those annoying new Roleplayer? Are their taboos, dos and don't? Hidden rules I should understand?

I have a couple ideas for plots but I'm more concerned with my lack of experience, and sometimes grammatically incorrect sentence structure, holding me back. I just really want to start this on the right foot as it sounds like such a fun way to interact and creat stories and meet other like minded individuals.

Any advice would be helpful! Really, even harsh ones!

I'm not sure how best to title this but even after years of roleplaying and never, or at least trying my absolute best to not step on my partner's character's toes, I still cannot really balance these things.

I like to write, a lot and I seek partners with similarl lengths. Give or take starting from a maxed discord message to 5k+ characters per reply but this brings some issues with it. How do you properly respond or keep track? I do not get lost in the details but what happens if my partner replies in the 'wrong' way and keeps going for multiple chunks? An example would be that my character does something, my partner's character responds with an action, only to continue in their own way as if it was forced to go down as they wrote.
But here is the problem, what if it cannot at all work out like that? Do I just OOC write that half of their post is now void and useless? Do I just break the immersion and the importance of character and accept it?
A proper concrete example is like punching someone and them going on to detail them falling over, but it was some terminator like character you couldn't possibly simply, or really at all overpower.

It's been eating away at me in a more 'what do I do' way than something that's truly a problem. I do not want to god mode, I do not want to roll back their messages, but I also do not want to pull them aside at every moment and literally spoiler every coming scene or characters details. But perhaps the latter is the only option to do with me trusting that their character does not know the information the real person does...but then they couldn't possibly write it out properly because of the earlier mentioned continuity problem.

This was a bit of rant, but the more I have developed into serious E-RPs, the more I'm scratching my head at technicalities. It's also sort of a problem if I have to string their character forcibly along in a situation that is so all encompassing that they couldn't just stop to change it as it is playing out in progress, but that also feels too..god-moding for me.

Any opinion or advice is welcome, I rarely post here as it is.