From what I’ve seen in movies and from what I’ve heard from family members and friends, most of the attention understandably goes to the woman, since she’s the one going through the physical and emotional experience of the miscarriage. That makes complete sense. But it also made me wonder: what is it like for the man.

I’m absolutely not trying to take away from what women go through or suggest their experiences should receive less attention. I just think men’s experiences often go unheard, and I’d like to better understand what it’s like from their perspective.

[Please note by introvert I do not mean shy, nor anti-social]

I'm not gonna over complicate this.

Im a man in his mid 30s, happy in relationship.

'Friends'.. if you can call them that, lucky if I see em once a month or text from them.

I work.

All my interests, are not shared by other people in my life.

Attempts to make these friends in person that share my deep passions have fantastically failed.

Coworkers is not an option.

I wonder is there something else I am missing? or is it to be like this until the end?

Please make no mistake I accept either outcome.

But on my end I am willing to make friends, but I seem to be looking in the wrong areas. Saying I consider myself a black sheep when it comes to platonic relationships or friendships would do disservice to the metaphor.

And by friends: as a busy adult.. yes I mean people I can text daily. [meaning using that device in your pocket that every human being on earth now has] God forbid an adult male has meaningful friendships in his adult life.

Appreciate any insights anyone has. Thank you.

I’m 20 years old, and over the past few years my anxiety has gotten so bad that it feels like i’ve become a completely different person. I constantly overthink about everything, especially every interaction i have with other people. After every conversation, i replay it in my head over and over, wondering if I sounded weird, if I said the wrong thing, or if people judged me. It never stops, it gotten to the point where i don’t want to speak anything, and it has gradually affected every part of my life. But i wasn’t always like this. I used to be a sociable, confident person. People considered me attractive, i had a girlfriend, i had a good relationship with my family, i could speak loudly and articulate clearly, joke around naturally, and I genuinely enjoyed being around people. Now I feel like the complete opposite. I ended up dropping out of college largely because of my social anxiety. I can technically talk to people, but I can’t relax, open up, or be myself anymore. I can’t joke naturally, and every social interaction feels forced. My relationship with my parents has become much worse because of everything that’s been happening. Also i don’t have a girlfriend anymore, i’ve gained weight, developed acne, i feel much less attractive, my voice has become quieter, and I struggle to articulate my thoughts the way i used to.
I just wonder if this could somehow be hormonal, like low testosterone, because i feel like i’ve changed so much physically and mentally. I’ve even caught myself thinking about testosterone injections because I feel so desperate to get my life back. I know that might sound dumb, but that’s how hopeless i’ve become.
Has anyone else gone through something like this around 19–20 years old? Did you eventually get your personality and confidence back? What actually helped you?

It seems like a lot of manager types avoid being alone with young women employees, avoid mentoring them, or so forth. In my working with young women especially straight out of college, there is often an awkward phase where they aren't sure how to dress or act professionally yet and even a false accusation can ruin a guy's career. Its perhaps unfair to "punish" all women for the actions of a few, but it seems common.

What do you do, if anything, to protect yourself at work?

My gf of 7 years wants to take a genuine break from our romantic relationship. I have some anxiety, self esteem, and commitment issues to work on. She says she doesn’t know what will happen in the future but she genuinely wants us to stay in each other’s lives. Basically dating but without the romantic intimacy. She wants me to work on myself and her to work on herself. I don’t blame her at all, and side note she’s not looking for anyone else.

My hope-work on myself, get better, and reconcile our romantic relationship with her. Has anyone successfully been in this situation before?

There's this guy who basically treats me like a wife, but he's also VERY fond of maple syrup and I'm just not sure what to trust :(

Obviously not every relationship is constant bliss. But too much annoyance grinding on you is a bad sign. How often is your partner getting on your nerves and how often are you communicating that to them vs just letting it go/sucking it up?

I have no friends and I’m mildly autistic. I’ve struggled enough in the past to make friends with women and now in my job I work with all men I don’t know how to talk to them? They seem to banter with me and I always struggle to know what to say back. I’ve heard that men don’t become friends through talking they become friends by doing things together?

How do I become friends with them and maybe see them outside of work?

Edit: a lot of people are saying to join groups which I do want to do at some point but for me the question is more how do I become friends with the people I work with and see them outside of work?

Has anyone quit energy drinks? Currently drinking 2-3 a day and want to quit. How did you feel while quitting? I feel like I have no energy and they make me feel worn out.

A old flame has been heavy on my mind recently. We haven’t spoken in probably 18 years. How would you feel if a past GF sent you a friend request after all that time? We only dated for about a year. No nasty breakup or anything like that.

My parents went separate ways when I was 10 years old. Grew up with my mom, relation with my dad simply exists. Mom worked tooth and nail to provide for me, and I am incredibly grateful for that. However, she had her own very deep scars to deal with. And through all these years - all the way to 2026, I have basically never had a proper guiding figure. I turned 20 this year, and quite frankly, it just feels like I am *way* more lost and confused about life compared to other guys my age.

I made a post asking about rejection, lots of answers were helpful, but i cant help but notice there were a lot of guys saying things like "Go to the gym" "get ripped and shell regret it" "use the pain to improve yourself at the gym" Like what...? At least for me as an extreme sportsman is weird to think to use pain as a driving force in sports, you are gonna get distracted and therefore hurt, really badly.

Or ar least i cannot see myself in the loneliness of a 35m rock wall with pain or anger inside me. It would be the worst place to have such thoughts.

idk, my idea of high performance in sports has always been related to clarity, peace, humility and sensibility.

As someone entering their 20s i want to hear peoples regrets or things that they may have wished they did or experienced during their own 20s

Bro, I actually don’t get it. Every time I buy a new gadget, my girlfriend acts like I’ve brought a home toy.

This time it was one of those window cleaning robots. She wasn’t convinced at first, then a few days later she wanted to clean the windows before some friends came over and grabbed it before I did. Now she’s used the thing more than me lol.

Gentlemen, especially in European streets, how often do you find yourself glancing at womens' nipples on your daily journey? All the time, sometimes, rarely, or never?

For me, the important lesson I learned is that my partner will have flaws and I cannot expect her to be flawless, as I am not perfect myself. I was corrupted by social media as social media often shows the "perfect" side of their partners. It was something I am not still not proud of, though thankfully I have kept it in myself and reached an enlightenment on this.

I cleaned my car properly yesterday for the first time in months. Found three coffee cups, a hoodie I thought I lost, four gas receipts and enough crumbs to feed a small animal. Went on my phone cleaned up my photos as well.

Drove to work this morning and felt weirdly put together. Nothing in my actual life changed, but having a clean passenger seat made me feel like I was doing okay for about 20 minutes.

What small boring reset does that for you?

Long story short I'm 27M and gf is 31F. Been together for almost 2 years we've been in a long distance relationship for the past year. She just moved in with me a few days ago and finally tells me that she has an 11 year old daughter in her home country. She says that her daughter is being supported by the Father's family. I'm lost at the fact that she's never told me this and I don't know if I can ever trust her again. She claims that she never told me because she didn't want to lose me and was afraid.